Is self harm a choice ? | Selfharmerproblems

[@untrustfulsoldchannel9238]

It is a choice to start something addictive but it is not a choice to have that addiction

[@mawdafem4914]

The people who say self-harm is just a choice are the same people who say you didn't choose to be abused, but you choose to be silent about it. They are both desperate and complex choices.

[@Zxouf873]

I wish more people can understand this like you do, thank you for sharing 🌹

[@onixxfilth]

It both is and isn't a choice. I have dermatillomania and there are times when I can refrain from picking at my numerous scabs, but there are other times when I'm so stressed that it doesn't feel like a choice. It feels like something my hands do on their own at those times.

[@gabbyt2873]

Just the night before last I was hurting myself more than I have ever, but the next day I saw my friend and then I felt great. It's insane how much they helped without even realizing how much they helped!!

[@marciaglass2846]

I love you girl, you get it. but I would add there are times that, without thinking, there are impulsive behaviors that when selfharm happens.. for me, it's not "bad" harm usually head bonks, if you will.. but they do, indeed, happen.. not often.. but i have also done dangerous once or twice. ...and i have that thinking voice in my head that is loud.. but in the instances that i'm thinking of, that voice wasn't noticeable. but yes, even in those instances, there are consequences for every action taken, be they good or bad. 99.99% of my sh is a choice. i'm just curious about people in moments of stress with ptsd, disassociation and other issues when the mind isn't as clear.

[@edwardzealchimiste222]

Thanks for talking about it! Yeah sometimes we just lose control. Same here tbh, sometimes it's an actual choice but sometimes it isn't

[@aurieau859]

Je suis complètement d’accord avec toi, moi en ce moment je n’arrive pas à arrêter, et c’est tellement plus compliqué que ce que la majorité des gens pensent... mais après en trouvant les bonnes personnes qui comprennent et ne font pas des remarques du genre “mais juste arrête c’est simple !” ça aide beaucoup, et un jour, j’espère arriver à ne plus me faire de mal :)

[@TalkwithFizza]

That's so perfectly explained!

[@rinkaku]

great video, thank you lots for this

[@YouthPotential]

Another great video Malika 😉

[@lynxiepinx1e]

Thanks for making these videos I do feel like it opens conversations that should be talked about, even just a little bit. A little triggering, but that was to be expected. Sending love

[@uriabradiablo]

Thanks for making this content. im 2 years clean and last few days have been rough bescause i have intrusive thoughts of sh. Lots of my friends also sh but we dont usually speak about it and im not sure how to do it, i also dont want to trigger them. Any tips? I love your vids :)

[@awildroappears9830]

if it were a choice i'd be able to do it more efficiantly lol

[@vjnt1star]

Really you can go to jail for not paying taxes ?

[@BlahBlah-cm1os]

...yes...

[@vjnt1star]

@@BlahBlah-cm1os Those people in power they love their money more than the people. We live in an absurd world, no wonder people go crazy, self-harm and what not

[@yhine3ik]

It kinda is. If u choose to punish yourself for something physically. Like... Noone is forcing you. U aren't really forced to do it by anything. Only hate. U can think that u deserve it and u can think you should do it even if u don't want to. But it's still 100% a choice. It's all about hate. U don't really get anything good out of it. This is why i personally don't believe it's addictive. Bc how can you be addicted to hating yourself? U don't get anything good out of it. Unlike drugs that actually can make you feel "better" while self harm doesn't. It makes you feel worse no matter what. It's about punishment.

[@theredrobin9402]

Well, it does sound like it makes no sense, but it’s scientifically proven that SH is an addictive, maladaptive behaviour. It’s not a healthy one by any means, but it is still a coping mechanism. And it encourages the release of certain chemicals, since the brain orders their production as part of the response to pain. People get addicted to the feelings those chemicals evoke. That’s the “good” they get out from it. So, not too dissimilar from drugs in that sense.

[@yhine3ik]

@@theredrobin9402 idk i nevwr got any good feel from self harm, it's just all self hate and self punishment and "enjoying" making myself suffer but it isn't addictive in any way bc it doesn't actually give any good feeling. It never did.

[@theredrobin9402]

Water green hmm, perhaps it is a subjective reaction, then. But I’m glad for you, that it didn’t feel addictive and that you recognise nothing good can ever come out of it. I hope you’re doing well now and that you’re keeping yourself safe!!

[@jscreach]

@@yhine3ik I don't do it through self hate, I mean I don't like myself but that's not the reason I do it, mostly my mind is that full I need to release it! I can control it to a point but once I'm triggered badly my brain feels like it's going to explode! I try frantically to stop it so I don't harm myself but if I keep getting pushed I flip, my mind goes numb I grab what's near and if nothing my nails will do and release! Yes I feel bad after the release because I'm now marked and it's embarrassing but I can't stop it sometimes, I can try with all my might but too many triggers and bang! I don't chose to do it as I'm actually trying hard to stop myself! So how's it a choice when my brain takes over and its too late? It started at 16 and I'm nearly 39! I've always sh'ed and today on the phone was told it was my choice! Again! I flipped! And only just stopped crying because once again I'm. Not going to get the help I need! I also starve myself! But how can I eat when I feel sick with stress! But that will be put down as my choice even though I feel ugly and skinny! 😢

[@yhine3ik]

@@jscreach i am so sorry u have go through it, are you receiving professional help?