Is Solitude the Secret to True Happiness?

[@GG5150]

One definite benefit of being an introvert is being suited to retirement. Whichever way you look at it, retirement is going to be more time alone. Terrifying thought for extroverts but a joy for introverts.

[@ArtwithVikkiC]

I'm 56 and have truly embraced this. I would rather be listening to music , making art , or reading . People started draining me as I have gotten older

[@rogerroper6769]

Yep...I find alot of people annoying...I love music...its my saviour.

[@andreatuengler1061]

There ist just one thing which is better than being alone : being with your dog.❤ Greetings from Germany

[@FighterPilot1945]

Completely agree being with my dog is all I need to be happy living alone ❤🇬🇧

[@philoza1000]

100%

[@hilarygibson3150]

Or being with your 4 dogs 😀

[@greenapple1069]

Whenever I see the topic about solitude and introvert, I will click and watch it

[@StephenCarlton-v4j]

Love your videos. Whitby guy here. I retired 10 years ago in the NW US. I have come to many of the same conclusions about life and how to live it as you and live my life much as you do. Your observations about people are spot on. I have had a good life, and these years in retirement are amongst the happiest.

[@Boomer_in_the_Trees]

I am the ultimate introvert, I've lived alone for my entire life. I'm pretty sure mines introversion unlike yours is due to some character defect of mine, as I've always been this way. Ever since I was a young boy, as far back as I can remember I always preferred spending time by myself as opposed to being around anyone at all. I was adopted when I was about 1 and a half years, and I remember my adopted Mother told me that when they brought me home the first thing she noticed about me was that if they picked me up I'd cry. But if she put me on the floor in a corner with a toy then I was fine. Now I'm 64. Would like to be married, but I've been alone far too long for that. I'm like you I draw energy from outdoor walks by myself. When I was a bit younger I'd go backpack camping by myself. I used to go to a gym when I was young but now I can't even do that, I train in my home gym. I live alone in a 3000 sq foot, 3 floor home with 4 bathrooms and bedrooms, most of which I never use (when I bought the house I told myself I'd get married one day). My adopted family is all deceased now, so I am completely alone in the world with no one other than a cousin who lives a few states away that I talk to on the phone and see once in a while. Why I wrote all that I don't know, but I like listening to your take on life, and in doing so it sort of helps me examine my own life, and maybe consider changes here in my later life that may result in my being a bit happier. I know if I had that wicked British accent of yours I'd be happier, ... Brits just sound smarter lol. Have a nice walk "mate"

[@jonathangmallender]

Love this post, thank you for sharing! I'm 53,, live in the UK and like your good self, have spent most of my life on my own. My partner died when I was 31, and I've been alone for 22 years. My best friend died when I was 29, and my family are all gone. Despite this, I prefer being on my own, and know that I'll walk this beautiful planet alone until my very last day. Wishing you the best all the way from England!

[@johnsweeney1712]

Hello, you’re very honest and true to yourself, and brave I might add. I’m coming up on 60 soon and got married 3 years ago… the woman I met had a similar experience in life to myself… couldn’t meet anyone suitable and preferred to be solo rather than settling just to appear normal. We get along well and are better off together, we both wish we’d met in time to have children… yet our siblings who married young have had tough times as parents and sometimes as spouses, it’s hard to win. Don’t give up on getting married if that’s what you want… there’s an opposite number out there somewhere… a few good years together going forward is all you need. Keep an open mind and be careful but get on it today. Good Luck.

[@dogpaw775]

How odd, your life story mirrors mine exactly, even to your age and size of home. I do have a dog however.

[@Boomer_in_the_Trees]

@@dogpaw775 I have a dog. She's crippled now, she has a degenerative spinal disease but I have a little Dachshund who just sort of adopted me 10 years ago. Before that I had a big hound dog with 3 legs, and before that I had a big belgian shep for 14 years. I've always had dogs.

[@garymitchell8394]

The eagle flies alone...❤

[@enigma7791]

Superman and his fortress of solitude was onto something. It’s what thinkers and deep people need, the constant noise of the world is for the air heads.

[@markbennett2170]

Your so right!

[@tomrobsmith4410]

@@markbennett2170 You're so right,Mr Bond

[@geoff2212]

I'm with you 100% I'm not anti-social but much prefer to be on my own.

[@dt8787]

We are so much alike. Haha. Yes, I am an introvert and love spending time on my own. Just saw Gladiator 2 with my son. Much better than the first one. I was quite happy with my popcorn and cherry coke (only drink it occasionally at the movies). I have just started to do solo travelling since I retired two years ago. With a group of solo travellers, they are more inclined to engage and interact than regular tour groups (with a bunch of couples where I would be the 3rd wheel). Would love to meet a woman but it is hard at my age (70). Can get lonely. But I am getting better being on my own and I am quite happy with my lot in life.

[@kevinbourke4038]

For me, it's solo cycling, early in the morn. It's our Summer time here in Melbourne. Australia. Cycling is my 'thing' - before sun up, just the 'song' of the tyres on bitumen, and birds chirping. Lovely ! Plenty of light around me, even before sun up. 😊 I'm 78 yo. and a widower. I guess I'm the same personality as your good self Sir.

[@nickys8442]

I am very much the same as you Nick. I’m an introvert for sure. I love my own company although I love spending time with my family. I can sit at my piano for hours in my converted garage, I can spend an hour or two fitness training listening to music in the same room. I can walk my dog for hours on end, all by myself. I can hold my own in a group conversation, but I’m not always comfortable. I just can’t stand small talk. I’m due to give up part time work in 2026 after having retired from full time work in 2013. My partner is a little worried I may become a hermit after then. I love the sunshine and travel, so there’s no chance I will become one. Perhaps a part time hermit!

[@anthonyhirst3940]

I am an introvert too. Can talk to anyone but need lots of me time ❤

[@IAm1InTheIAm]

Hi Nick, Tim here. Hope your surgery went well and that you arrived in Portugal as planned. I, too, am 63, and as a long time medevac nurse, i agree that the best thing we can do is to live life today with meaning and purpose, for tomorrow is not promised. Happy Holidays, be thankful, and cheers 🍻 ✌️

[@robertl.4675]

Solid presentation. I’m definitely an introvert and love spending hours doing photography, walking, hiking, detailing my car and fixing things around the house. My wife is an extrovert but we both allow each other time to do what we like. Then we get together and talk about our activities and how much we also enjoy each other’s company. We love to travel together and go shopping together. Again, we give each other equal time to do our own thing. Greetings from Canada.

[@joelagrossi4734]

I’m 63 years of age and this video has just made me realise I must be an introvert. I line manage lots of people in a busy office which is an act and very mentally exhausting. Thanks for the diagnosis Nick

[@johnoakley6362]

I'm 62,and have been a life-long introvert. I love the countryside, but these days my access to it is restricted because of disability, I'm wheelchair bound. Apart from my Wife, my greatest love is coarse fishing, I go a few times a week,weather allowing. Like you,I'm not anti-social, I don't mind having a short chat with people, but really dislike being in crowds. I love my solitude, it's where I can be myself,find strength,and peace of mind.

[@tomleykisfan7280]

Line Robin William's said in a movie, “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.”

[@princessdumbarton9877]

I took a personality test and got 100% introvert. Almost all of my stress has come from people. I prefer being with animals.

[@slsilver481]

I'm 75% extrovert and people stress me out too! I'm sensitive. I have a bachelor degree in Psychology and sadly a small but significant group of people are malign -- psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists and Machiavellian (manipulators). Animals and nature are relaxing by comparison. I do enjoy the company of some people but find I need time to decompress afterwards. I often envy introverts and wish I were satisfied being alone more. 🌹

[@mcsorens2680]

Thank you for putting into words how I feel. I will be turning 60 in a couple of months. I draw strength from spending time on my own doing my hobbies.

[@georgesutherland4903]

A Mini 850 wow! Memories

[@toughtimes-leekirkman8971]

An extreme introvert here. I love being on my own. Didn't find out until I was in my 40's. Now I just embrace it. I don't explain myself and have great delight in saying no to things.❤❤❤❤

[@RJC10101]

I’m 38 and I’m the same as you. I like spending some time with people but I just prefer my own company

[@markbennett2170]

I'm now 60 and have the same mindset as you.

[@carltaylor6452]

Yes, a definite introvert. Walking (mostly in London), reading eclectically, lone cinema-going (usually twice a week), and a quiet pint or three. I still work, but spend 95% of my working hours alone, and I live alone, too. Not anti-social, necessarily, but prefer one-to-one or small groups of friends. 🙂

[@nancyd2240]

I enjoyed this video. One company I worked for used Myers-Briggs personality test resulting in I'm an introvert. I learned 75% are extroverts and 25% were introverts.

[@thegreenpincushion510]

I wholly enjoy walking in our neighborhood forest - alone. Years ago, I would leave my cell phone in my car when I walked. I’m also an introvert, solitude brings such calmness and peaceful contemplation to me. It was years before I realized that the way socialization drained me was not because I was “weird,” but because most of my friends were extroverts and overloaded me with their energy and activities. Oddly, most of my friends are still extroverts. I love walking, dining out and reading alone. I plan to do some traveling alone in the next year or so, possibly to Europe. I’ve traveled alone here in the US and appreciated those times. I really enjoy your videos. Hope you and your wife have a lovely holiday season and that your surgery goes well.

[@ShadowTail-wispofsmoke1313]

I live in the desert mountains and am enjoying a rare rainy day in the valley as I sit and knit a new scarf for myself while watching birds come to my feeder and you talking about the glories of solitude. Bit early for a pint of Guinness for me so I’m sipping herbal tea but cheers to you 🫖🍺 enjoy your walk home 😊

[@mikebland4935]

Kansas City Missouri. You've certainly got me thinking. I love people and literally can go to anyone I've never met before and become acquainted instantly. But I do love time alone. Thanks for bringing this to us.

[@London-q4i]

Hi Nick. With you all the way. I am in my 70s. Bought a motorhome 3 years ago. Now on my second one. I only stay on adult only campsites. When you get to a certain age and can afford it, do it. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Great not having to book hotels, not knowing who is is in the room next door or what is going on. Cruises are great for some, however you can't get off if it's terrible. Great videos. Clive.

[@chrismoritz538]

That little journey looked like heaven to me. I'm a high school teacher and coach football and baseball so when I get home I generally spend most of my time in the other room from my wife going through my dumbbell workouts and watching videos on KZbin and drinking a Miller Lite. Of course when I stroll to the kitchen to get a new drink or my dinner I crack a few jokes or my wife the same on whatever she's watching. I'm content.

[@jackiek3407]

I’ve been learning to appreciate being on my own. The last decade has been filled with trauma one way or another. Finally got somewhere to live. A sort of village, the peace and quiet away from busy. Nature is helping healing and I now have the time to think clearly about what’s the next move. Thanks for your videos, they are helping too.

[@katblehm2119]

A two-three hour walk! …I used to do this often. You’re an inspiration. Time to work up to it again… Thank you! 😊 Goals. 🙏🏼

[@allanmorgan6420]

Watched your video and from a little research I realise I am an ambivert which makes sense for me. I did the Camino Frances in May/June this year and the best experience of my entire life. Loved it so much that I am doing it again next year.

[@leehenty3777]

I agree, I love being on my getting on with my own workshop projects, restoring old motorcycles. I have cycled the Camino well worth doing it.

[@adriancarabajal7115]

Remember Leeds had one of the best coach's in the world Marcelo Bielsa, love it when you won the final. I see your videos and I can't stop thinking about the war in 1982, two guys who could have been drinking a guiness or eating a barbecue laughing their hearts out toghether and on the other hand trying to kill each other. I love your channel and all that you do for others.

[@7SideWays]

An introvert dealing with people being interested in you 'all of a sudden' as an early retiree is weird but kinda welcome. We all adapt. Beautiful area and video💪

[@boochie3933]

Thanks, Nick, it's definitely a therapeutic experience being alone and with your thoughts. I cycle alone and notice so many more things than when I'm not. I once read, tibetan book i believe, although we are sociable animals we are supposed spend time alone in quiet reflection and meditation!

[@Barbarellacapsule]

Walks in the Countryside is so good for the Soul & very Energising😊

[@aceadman]

59 here. Totally agree. But I will add that people are not the same as they used to be. I remember a much calmer time in general. There is so much panic and fear now. Even when times were bad, it used to feel like people were calmer about it. And panic is contagious. I’m wearing a panic mask now. 😊 I retired early due to some luck, no children, and a LOT of intense thriftiness, and self-deprivation early on. People told me I’d be bored and go back to work. But I knew myself and how much I disliked the drain that “people at work” had become. It’s been years now. Never bored. Never for one minute wanted to go back to work. Enjoying alone time is a big part of enabling that. Many people fear being alone. I think my wife does. But I love it. So peaceful, calm, relaxing. AND makes me enjoy my time with the people I like EVEN MORE. 😊 I’m a model railroader and frustrated mad scientist 😊. Modeling is a great hobby for introverts, I love walking, as you do, and just THINKING, as I walk. My wife of 25 years loves the city (Brooklyn NY in US) and had an apartment there when I met her. We lived full time there for 20 years until I realized how short life was and that I needed space to do the things I wanted to do before life ends. A shop, garage, basement, SPACE. So I bought a small 1200 sq ft house about 80 miles north of the city. And now we split time apart and together. It works great. We have a phrase “do what you need to do” or DWYNTD. Which we use to encourage each other to live a life that makes us happy even if that means less togetherness. It works wonderfully for us, but I can see how it would NOT be good for everyone. She has gotten better at being alone, and enjoys it more now, knowing that I am happy, and will be there when she needs me. It’s worth a try if you can do it. That won’t last forever though. We are in our late 50s, and eventually we will combine forces more tightly to get thru the last period of life I suppose. I like your style and thinking. And will watch more of you doing it. 😊👍👍

[@andreasissons7766]

I take all my vacations on my own for the past 20 years and I love it. Most people can't keep up with me and I love hiking. You're so fortunate to have pubs in England, you can be social or not and they're mostly cozy places.

[@peterpetiet7900]

Introvert here…i love to see more of you walking in the British countryside and visiting a pub afterwards. I ive in the Netherlands which is so crowded…..

[@deadandburied7626]

Another introvert here. I am 67. I need a cat for company always, and my brother sometimes.

[@maxb9315]

I get the feelgood factor from seeing your solitary walk through the countryside. It's precisely what |I do, right down to topping off the walk with a visit to a pleasant pub. I've just had a three and a half hour walk in the Holmfirth area of West Yorkshire today. I see a lot of myself in you (with the notable exception of your football loyalties!).

[@ARCSP10]

Aliens! Ha! Exactly, Nick! The wife would not stand for it! But to your point, when she goes shopping for a few hours which I wholeheartedly encourage I settle down for a little time with my book or have a listen to some heavy electric blues on the stereo. I am generally much happier inside my own head though I have no problem sitting around having an intelligent conversation with a few like-minded folks. I enjoy your channel immensely, Nick! Thank you for your efforts!

[@christaylor751]

62, divorced life long introvert, living in a new part of the world, hardly any social life, walking and being out in nature are my go to....If you like a good book to read then i recommend 'Introvert Power' by Laurie Helgoe.

[@GapBahnDirk]

I am an introvert too. When I finished my career with a major multinational company, I missed working with data, but I certainly did not miss the people! I learned to trade options and now make a good living from that, working by myself 😁, so I can't even say that I am retired, but my time is finally my own. I also spend time on wild bird photography. Birds and photography combined is a truly magical experience. I also have two mid-size motorbikes which I ride on my own and sometimes with my wife on the back. Life is good! People in small doses.

[@ericramsay2275]

My two passions are walking and photography and if I can combine the two on a day out in the Northumberland countryside I am totally content.

[@Sherlock2022]

I haven’t done any tests as such, but I regard myself as an introvert; my mother always used to say I’d leave the room when people came to visit. I couldn’t help thinking, as I watched your video, of the opportunities for sketching and painting that the scenery gives you. Perhaps another introverted hobby? I enjoy your take on life.

[@davidparker5439]

I am a bloke in is 70s . I love walking in the country at 5:30 with my dog Andy torch I have always been a introvert always get fit love music Reading and more

[@gerry2345]

Good for you.. Really like that ending in the Pub.

[@tonyhodgkinson4586]

Agree with all you say, love being on my own, not forever but a good part of my day. Its a relief for my mind to be away from people. Your wife and mine must be related as she hates most films I like. I never thought of myself as introvert but I suppose I am, like you say not anti social.

[@newstream2000]

The similarities to my life (and diagnosis) are so striking; I feel you're like a brother from another mother.

[@Ptpop]

Subscribed. I’m 59 and all my life I’ve been an introvert. People have been attempting to get me to come out of my shell for decades. Sorry, it’s not going to happen. The only time i open up is on my KZbin channel. Thanks for your content.

[@RichardSimon-vw3uv]

Great video. I’m also an introvert. I love spending time on my own which is easier now that I’m single and retired. I feel like I’m a much better listener and observer because of my being an introvert. Thanks again for the video. Cheers!

[@markbeardmore4385]

I am very similar to you (my wife calls me the Lone Ranger). You might like to take the Myers Briggs personality test to get some new insight and find out you're not alone at all. I'm a dead on INTJ type. I wish I'd learned about this when I was much younger. Good show.

[@katrinkalol]

I agree with you. I'm an introvert also. I love the times of solitude and silence. And yet I love to connect with people from time to time. I've gone on holiday alone a few times. However you should have your partner's agreement for that.

[@Steve-n7q3t]

I can relate to you being who are. I'm a bit of an introvert. I've never been comfortable in a group of people. Also I don't like being around the general public as usually they are rude, selfish, bad mannered etc, so no thanks

[@Maureen.walkdontrun]

I walked the Camino Frances in 2023 with my husband. Planning to walk the Camino del Norte in 2025 on my own. He doesn’t love walking and that’s ok. Some look for the destination while others look for the journey. That’s what makes us all different.

[@LittleTalksWithMyles]

Agreed, I actually took up photography to actually find a way to share, what I experience... without having to be around people, ha ha!

[@lizardears4861]

Thank you - you’ve articulated it perfectly. I’ve often been criticised as being anti-social. But I’m like you just a bit introvert, and not afraid of my own company. I’m lucky I work in forestry in Australia and are often out working solo in the forests.

[@Treetopflyer777]

As I get older, people annoy me. I’m very happy with just my wife and my dog or even just me and my dog. I go on road trips alone with my dog and love it

[@SIERRATREES]

I belong to social groups that require collegiate interactions, and Im getting less able to navigate it all. That feeling of having to mind that you aren't treading on eggshells is stressful.

[@CIST3]

I'm a High School teacher and by the end of the day, I'm exhausted and completely drained. I get sick of my own voice and I can't wait to just turn to God and just rest.

[@kikitaube-hansen]

Greetings from an Introvert. And I Love love Love my Family and my people, so much.🍀😀

[@johnsweeney1712]

Great video. I laughed when you said I’d a great evening at home with Sushi & Guinness watching Leeds win… I couldn’t have planned it better, it’s good that you and your wife can maximise your time together and apart… neither of you gets offended by the other’s idea of a good night out or in. I cycled the Camino with a work colleague in 2000 to mark the millennium… you’d love it, there is a bit of slumming in hostels if you’re on a low budget and you choose to stay in those places. My friend wanted to do it again on foot which is a more pure/historic form of the experience I’d say… that allows for walking part of the way with another soul trying to find themselves in life and/or doing hours/stages solo when you feel like it… leaving from hostels in the morning facilitates that mixing and matching with others day to day. The bull run in Pamplona would be an interesting experience if you can time your travel to coincide with that. I’ve never thought of myself as an introvert but I’m definitely not an extrovert… I enjoy my own company in general but like you I’m not anti social and have little to zero tolerance now for a lot of people especially the ones on your recent list of 8 personality types. I’m glad that the pub you worked in hasn’t changed… great memories and good luck to be served by such a graceful and elegant young lady now following in your footsteps. Keep up the good work.

[@captainreza1]

Same here. I do complement my thoughts (and sometimes to get rid of them) with long walks, long swimming (doable throughout the year here in Scottsdale, Arizona), doing something intensive particularly manual! Crowd do tend to push me to either my best or, more often, to my lowest qualities, the ones I regret afterward, current affairs, mundane inconsequential chats … and eventually exhaust.

[@daviddowns8068]

Yes there are times when i like my own company, since retiring 4 tears ago at 62 me and my wife have met new people within our interests, like bowls, and i have gone back to playing in a band again after 38 years, used to play keyboards now play ukulele, raised quite a lot of money for charity, this passed year, i suppose its about meeting the right people who have the same interests

[@SamuelJess]

Hi Nick really enjoy your videos. Great advice on retirement. Good to know you are a Leeds United fan.

[@carolcantravel]

Walking is enjoyable alone I find, looking around towns, museum visit, shopping, I also travel alone and I've gone on holidays by myself, but I don't mind good company with same interests

[@hilarygibson3150]

Im pretty solitary. I have 4 close friends that i see regularly, but zero family, widowed 11 years. I decided to slowly walk the coast and borders of England, which has meant walking through varied places from Liverpoll to big empty stretches of beach.

[@paulsouthgate7373]

I enjoy walks on my own usually early morning when it’s a bit quieter. Good idea about a pub at the end though but I would need to walk later in the day. Good video thanks

[@thomasconnors7511]

Walking with my dog in the woods with no people around.. Perfect I take a Guiness too! Also perfect.

[@hallonsylt6729]

GUINNESS!. 🙂 Told you before, but I say it again .. Soulbrother! in my previous relation I traveled the world ALONE for 6 months. Loved it totally. Now adays I go bushwalking for a couple of hours or a day or just hang out with myself, doing absolutely nothing in my hammock.

[@AlanHewison]

As a lifelong extrovert, after listening to you I feel a change of ways imminent. The pint of Guinness was a nice ending in a pub I used to frequent too. Prefer Murphys though!😀

[@Barbarapape]

Snap. i am also an introvert, i hate mixing with others in noisy places such as pubs, i can't get away from them fast enough. I have never married and never will, who wants to be stuck with another person that may make your life a misery. Nothing beats your own space and freedom to do what makes you happy. The only time you can regret it is if you fall ill and are unable to care for yourself. At the moment i am back home recovering from a broken hip, but with only a little help i am coping well, yes my lack of mobility has for now stopped my long walks but i ma determined to fightmy way back even thhough i have beedn told that i will never be 100% again. WE only get once go at life, spend it how you wish and avoid others that wind you up.

[@nickjmaher]

Hi Barbara. You’ve nailed it. Best of luck with your recovery.

[@BarbaraPape-y4g]

@@nickjmaher Thanks Nick, it will take some time but i will get there.

[@allisonspeer649]

I'm both halves of the same coin. I love my own company and being alone in nature, or even doing things like shopping alone, etc. But on the other hand I really enjoy people at times and I do get energy from them as well, at times I enjoy the hustle and bustle of people. I love walking and swimming alone and also painting in the winter in my room alone listening to an audiobook. I have gone to the movies alone and I even can enjoy going out to eat on my own. Now I do enjoy my church and large group activities there, I enjoy dining out with my group of girlfriends. I'm from a small family and married a man with a large family. I had envisioned these great large family gatherings (unrealistic expectations) but it never turned out as I had imagined. I think I"m pretty balanced actually. Oh I just love the Pub

[@kjcornish3468]

I'm an extrovert, but like time on my home or just with my wife. Yesterday was my work Xmas do with my colleagues. I enjoy their company for a few hours but I left quite early (6pm). We're all different. That looks like a lovely pub.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Thanks for sharing today. Food for SOLITUDE is a good book m one of my favorites ... childfree here

[@zyphod]

The interesting thing about getting older in the UK is you become anonymous, especially women....And through that (like it or not)you become introverted. Personally, I love it!

[@andrewhicks8340]

Another introvert here. One of my joys is to take a long car trip alone, several days if possible. Also, working in the garden. I'd rather talk to the plants than with most people.

[@jannorell6049]

A couple of weeks ago, I sat next to a man on the plane going home from Gran Canaria. He was retired, but not his wife. He told me that he goes solo to Gran Canaria every November and he loves it.

[@independentpuppy7520]

Yes it certainly is.

[@fdgl6730]

I’m with you in this!

[@colinanderson7384]

It's quite interesting from my point of view that companies want extroverted sales people. When I'm faced with sales reps at work who talk a lot and are pushy when trying to sell, I run a mile. Their sales patter just puts me right off.

[@SC-fk9nc]

What a beautiful pub and how amazing you worked there as a young man, I assume you spent your life in the same area?

[@leeyoung9469]

I can’t do everyday small talk. In fact, I much prefer my own company. I put it down to being an only child. Strangely it has never held me back career wise ending up lecturing at university.

[@TheMississauga333]

my thing used to be on a saturday, buy 2-3 newspapers or a good book, go to a pub with the headphones on and veg, drink new beers, loved it

[@oldgoat5589]

I live in France. I prefer life on my own, now, being recently separated from my wife. I take the dog down to a local lake, where she likes to walk and paddle, and out of season it's perfect - the only other people about being occasional fishermen and other dog walkers. I avoid it in the summer, when it's heaving with shouting kids, and daft, noisy adults. I do my shopping in supermarkets during the 2 hour French lunch break, when it's quiet.

[@rogerroper6769]

Always liked my own company even as a kid....i know loads of people but wouldnt call them friends....cinema on my own love it😅😅

[@vivienlee610]

I'd love to have the health to be outside and walking, but it's just not that way sadly, but my husband is very active. We both have our own interests and are comfortable having our own time alone but also with time together as well.

[@adriancarabajal7115]

Answers to your questions in the intro: Yes and Yes, not antisocial here but we are our best friends, no need to be with people I don't get along with, love to help others, don't accept bullies as a matter of fact I confront them as a sport or hobby. Cheers from an Argentinian.

[@normhanson981]

You lived in a nice area , Linton is very posh . Thanks .

[@OpenDGuitar]

Introvert here. Too many people drain me. I need those contacts…after I’ve had solitude to recharge.

[@andersjefsenrasmussen3003]

I know the feeling. I love to read and to go for a walk or a bicycle ride.

[@richardwall2330]

I'm sure you will know this Nick but watch The Way one of the best films made ! We will be in Santiago de Compostela on Christmas eve Sadly on a day trip on a cruise not having walked. Totally get the "on your own thing "I ride my bike miles on my own Good work keep up the content 😊

[@SueIsRetiringToFrance]

I have TWO superpowers: 1) Introvert and 2) ADHD. The beauty of introversion is that we can be happy and somewhat energized in a group setting, when we are allowed to observe and absorb - for the most part - and also happy and energized when completely solo. Many extroverts I know (or have managed or worked for) are miserable being alone. They conflate alone-ness with lonely-ness. Not related, as you well know! There is so much to admire about being ADHD, as well. Neurodivergence isn't a disability. But it does take some navigating and so many people do not understand it. My ex-boss, for one. Which was a shame, because there were three of us - probably 4 - on her team who were so obviously ND that it was stunning she did not see it. A waste, as she never did (and probably still doesn't) use those special gifts to the advantage of the people themselves, her team, and the organization.

[@davidpowley8336]

i am the same. and love it.

[@SIERRATREES]

I cant do house parties anymore, for me , to gaily chat for 3 hours then say goodbye and all that, is like being asked to run an ultramarathon.

[@davidpowley8336]

@@SIERRATREES nightmare. yep totally feel the same. nice to hear it's not just me haha

[@Ausmoylo]

Hi Nick. I'm born in 1961 and have the same personality as yourself. Try travelling on your own. Recommended

[@mjl.3477]

No, it isn't! That's a sweeping statement, I know, but human beings need people as we are very much a social animal. It is true that introverts will seek out company in a different way to extroverts, but seek out company they will. It doesn't matter how much you hide away in your 'cave', you will be compelled to connect to others sooner or later. I agree that introverts are often most relaxed when they are alone (or with a partner, perhaps) but this only lasts for a finite period of time, before they once again seek connections with others. Kind of what you are doing, Nick, when vlogging to all of us while walking in the countryside. You are not truly in solitude and you even enjoyed the brief contact with the barmaid. And finally, holidaying alone would probably result in you speaking to more people than if you holidayed with your wife! It's very hard to seek and attain real solitude in these digitally crowded times. What do you think! Michael.

[@TheCowardStrikesBack]

That Guinness made my mouth water.😅

[@michaelbrammer2483]

Well. Would you believe it. I also am an introvert. When describing yourself you could have been describing me 🙂. My pleasure is to go camping on my own. Just overnighters. Nothing too adventurous. But I love the chance to be in nature by myself. Thanks for that. 🙏