IS THIS A DEAL BREAKER? 40 SINGLE and NO KIDS

[@SugarCookie1957]

Deal breaker. Please, please, please don't settle. Said with love and respect, but coming from experience.

[@angelatarnowski5620]

That is absolutely a deal breaker!!! I know for me I have always wanted kids since I was very young and if someone told me they didn't want kids even if I was in love with them it would have to be a no future for us kind of thing!

[@loritahl1523]

Absolute deal breaker, don't give up your dream of having children, you will regret it. Love all your videos!💜

[@montanadanna]

Oh I won't 💞 I know I'm meant to have kids whether bio or adopted.

[@AdriennesChannel]

All I ever wanted was children. My own children. If they don't want any, they're not right for you.

[@sandiedrew4086]

Agreed 👍

[@montanadanna]

Totally agree. It's definitely a deal breaker for me 💖

[@Heather037]

A compromise is meeting in the middle on home decor. Children are not a compromise. You're heart will be forever broken if you do not follow it.

[@user-cs1xz]

exactly this. it's not compromise. kids or no kids is a non-negotiable, for both sides.

[@montanadanna]

Totally agree. Having kids is and always has been a dealbreaker for me. 💖

[@sandiedrew4086]

I like the natural hair decision. ❤🎉😊

[@susandusenbury6352]

I agree, it looks stunning. It makes you look younger!

[@user-cs1xz]

it looks sooo much better. she looks way younger and modern

[@nicolegolczynski]

I came to say the same thing!

[@user-cs1xz]

omg danna BURN your extensions!! you look incredible in this with your natural hair! totally elevates your look. you look so much younger, fresher, and like a gorgeous expensive betch. seriously. im obsessed with your look in this. fire

[@jacquieberry3397]

I’m a mom and stepmom. Let me tell you, being a stepmom has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced

[@jacquieberry3397]

With that bn said, I wouldn’t change a thing. Definitely, a deal breaker, if he doesn’t want children and you do

[@UKEducatedLady]

I suspected that was one of the issues with Skylar. As a father of 7, five of them under 5 years, he’d find it difficult to have several more children.

[@marieneu264]

I’ve wondered if that was a contributing factor in their breakup. They seemed so happy and in love and then it just quickly ended.

[@missymyers7043]

You talked it out on screen and answered your own question. Don’t compromise and stick to wanting to be a mom. Move on to the next Steve or Kevin. 😊 Your true love, baby daddy is out there!

[@jillr759]

Yep settling leads to resentful life.

[@neenee_marie77]

Kids are the one area that definitely shouldn't be compromised imo. I had a guy lie to me too when we first met. He said he always wanted a daughter (only had a son). Then months into dating he said he was too old for more kids.

[@Bigt69692]

Devil's advocate, some people change their mind. Kids are a fun thought until you see a baby and remember all the hell it was raising them

[@janet-leecomeau8035]

Your real hair is so nice.

[@montanadanna]

@@janet-leecomeau8035 oh, thank you so much, Janet. Hope you’re having a great week.

[@pamelarichmond9941]

I think the issue with most divorced men with children is that divorce is hard. They have been through custody issues, child support, and visitation. It's very emotional, expensive, and hard. They probably think I can't go through it again. Some just need time and healing.

[@LilyBecca]

Having children is the most wonderful, amazing experience for anyome that wants them. I would not compromise. ❤

[@glee105]

Regret and resentment will creep in. Don’t give up your dream .

[@MeganThomasInc]

Your future child/children WILL be the loves of your life. Envision them as you make life decisions. I believe you will meet them in the near future and will be the most amazing mother. 💕

[@wheatstonebridge]

Gross

[@karengear5254]

Don’t compromise on having kids you will regret it. Xxx

[@milenaivanova9269]

For me having kids is an absolute deal breaker. Don't give it up. It will hurt your soul if you do.

[@TAMMYRICHMOND-ll8xb]

If you want kids and he doesn't that would be deal breaker.

[@IShallNotBeSilent]

Don't settle for anything less than what your hearts desires are. You have always said you wanted to have children and to be a mom.

[@LiveLaughLeaveBB]

As someone who DOES NOT want children and never has, I would never have them to satisfy a partner. Deal breaker for me.

[@tammydialgray2835]

Your hair is beautiful!! It's so full and long. Your eyes might be strained from all that editing. The not wanting kids thing is a definite deal breaker. You know where your heart is on this. I enjoy your music!!!

[@penelopelanevirginiarosecase]

I’m 41, single, & divorced, & childless. I understand your journey. Thank you for being an inspiration to women in their 40’s that would still love a lil family. We aren’t grandmas yet. ❤😊

[@lauriecailteux9451]

I would not compromise!! I can tell you really want to have kids. Make sure you let the guy know right away before it gets too serious.

[@lorimoore5589]

Imagine if you compromise and the relationship ends and you're 50 and you gave up your hearts desire for him💔 I wouldn't compromise.

[@health4lifecooking]

That longing for kids runs deep. Don't give that up. My nephew got divorced because of this issue.

[@angelaclausing5565]

You not having kids isn't something you should ever give up on. I promise you that you will most definitely not be completely happy I'm that relationship because it's so important to you. Don't settle for less then you deserve, no matter how wonderful he may be

[@user-cs1xz]

yes that is a massive, non-negotiable deal breaker. wanting or not wanting kids. no one should comprise on this on either side.

[@jodischoolcraft9188]

One of my best friends didn’t want kids and the guy she was dating did want kids so they briefly broke up and he showed up one day and said he’d rather have a life with her and no kids than a life without her with kids… They are still blissfully happily married

[@tdonnell99]

sad for him though

[@jodischoolcraft9188]

Nope ! He’s never regretted for one second

[@tdonnell99]

@@jodischoolcraft9188 well he had to compromise on the best thing in life. i think that's sad, but i'm happy for your friend and him both. glad he does not regret it. seems like danna is steadfast that she was meant to be a mother so i believe she would regret it

[@jodischoolcraft9188]

Not the best thing in life for some He did realize with nieces and nephews and god kids - kids weren’t for him after all Life was and is full I have two kids - one hates me so there’s that

[@tdonnell99]

@@jodischoolcraft9188 i understand kids aren't for everyone, but Danna thinks they are for her, so I don't want her to compromise. good to hear another perspective, though.

[@cjlayne]

Your natural hair is beautiful!!!! You have always wanted children. Do not settle. You will regret it.

[@pianogirl3870]

Definitely a deal breaker if you want kids and he doesn't....grieve the loss of him now rather than later, in my humble opinion.....

[@russellfamilyfunnyfarm]

Yes, that was a deal breaker for me. I was friends with a great guy who was head over heels for me but I refused to date him because he was 100% positive that he didn't want kids. The ONLY thing I knew I wanted my whole life was to be a mom. We're still friends, & his wife begged him to have kids for years. Finally he caved in, but found out she couldn't conceive even after IVF. They ended up adopting a newborn baby boy who is now 6. He's a great Dad. Sometimes people change their minds, but I never wanted to force a guy to want kids. I married someone who told me on day one that he wanted to be a Dad. We now have 3 kids, but also battled infertility for 10 years.❤

[@aimeepeterson4301]

If you truly want kids and he doesn’t then don’t settle. You won’t be happy in the long run

[@terris.7689]

Never compromise.. especially if it's something that you've always wanted... Your life will never be fulfilled if you give up that dream for someone else

[@TaraAK907]

If you're being true to yourself, then the decision to NOT have kids because of who you are with, will ruin you and your relationship. It was a dealbreaker for me when I started dating after my divorce and the guy I was with told me he wanted kids etc etc. Later found out that he was "fixed" and never wanted to have more kids in the first place. I was devastated and confused and I foolishly decided that I wanted to be with him anyways because by that time I already started my life with him (building a house, paid for him to go thru school etc) and then it ended 5 months later. I was 80lbs heavier and so depressed. I'm gonna be 42 in August and still dont have any kids, but Im in a very healthy relationship with a man with 2 kids. Its def not the same as having my own kids, but it is the little family that I've always wanted. Im cheering you on from Alaska. Hope you find the true love you've been looking for and you keep posting videos!

[@angieengel714]

I would sell the trailer. It feels like you’re over full time van life and if you wanted an adventure, your suburban could work! Love your videos…all of them! Maybe to help with editing, keep them shorter? I just look forward to any video from you every day! 😊❤️

[@clairevagonis1873]

I was 38 when I’m going through fertility when I finally had my son and it took six years before that . And that was with the fertility doctor u got to get checked out first. I hate to tell you that, but that’s just the way it is. I never thought I would have a problem but I did and I lost 5 miscarriages and one at five months.

[@Bigt69692]

So sorry to hear that, congrats on persevering

[@sheilavanduynfote5539]

Absolutely a deal breaker, if you want children you don’t need a man that doesn’t want them. You will definitely be able to meet the right man for you.

[@susanczajka6327]

Love that song!!!!! You don't need a husband to have a baby! But first, get your finances in line. You still have time to have a baby... You can always adopt down the road. You are too talented to settle right now... Get all your talents making you some steady income....

[@Dropsofknowledge365]

Definitely have kids if you want them! No compromise!

[@OhDarling1982]

Deal breaker for sure. I honestly wish you lived in a big city, just for the sole reason that there are a lot more eligible bachelors in their 40s looking to settle down and start a family. I'm in this age demographic, in a big city, and know several guys in my own friends groups like this. They focused on their careers, travel, fun, and now looking to find a wife and start having kids in their 40s. I really feel like smaller conservative towns are filled with men who married young, had children young, as there is no need to focus on career and travel, and also for religious obligations. And then by the time they are 40, they are over it. Meanwhile in the big cities, most couples don't start having children til their 30s and 40s! (myself included!). St George looks soo beautiful, but I imagine the dating pool is so small and challenging 😭 You are such a catch, Danna. I hope you find your man soon. I just worry he's not in St George 😢 BTW, your natural hair in this vlog is FIRE! 🔥 Holy voluminousness! Hair goals! 🙌

[@Bigt69692]

Are those guys looking to find a 25-32 year old woman or a 40yr old? Tbh the only guys I've seen like that worked a ton and want a young trophy wife who is hot and will be a stay at home mom

[@OhDarling1982]

​@@Bigt69692 trophy wife and stay at home mom... In this economy???? I'm thinking you may be older than me and/or located in a city with a population under 2million people?? 😬

[@yvettebeauchamp3475]

I would establish if they want kids before meeting up with them. Ask everything on your mind before meeting in person.

[@montanadanna]

@@yvettebeauchamp3475 yes and yes 👍🏻💖

[@kimlhelzy]

If you want kids I would not compromise.

[@BettyYatesSouth]

I love your natural hair so much

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

If you want what you want badly enough, please don't settle for being with anyone who does not share your more ardent desires.

[@RuthWilcox-de5vn]

Deal breaker. Don’t compromise what you want in life. Totally agree that one of you would end up resentful.

[@akafit2802]

I’m a new subscriber and loving your content and energy! I am 42, single and never married so I REALLY relate. Dating at this age is awful. As someone who also wanted kids I would encourage you to meet with a fertility doctor if you haven’t already and just go over all your options and get your hormones checked, etc. I went at 39 and ultimately ended up doing 3 IVF rounds using a donor because Mr Right still hasn’t shown up. Sadly it was unsuccessful for me even though I’m healthy and in shape. By no means is that meant to be discouragement, but there was just a lot about fertility that I was never taught about. Also check out the book It Starts With The Egg. Some good info in there. Hope you don’t mind the unsolicited advice, but knowledge is power!

[@imurhuckleberry5793]

I think you know the answer to your own question on this one, a hard No. I feel like you are on the path to finding the right guy that will be your fit, you are sure doing your part to become your best self ready for the undertaking. Proud of your progress and happily celebrate your achievements along side of you. For me, deal breakers would be a lack of daily humor, not backing my goals and no passion for music. We must remember though, each of us has 10 good things and 10 bad things about ourselves. As long as we are working on improvement in our weak areas and our basic needs of safety and acknowledgement are being met, the rest are little things that could easily be otherwise be our personal button pushing pet peeves.

[@christine0418]

To be honest, I don’t know how you are single and never been married. You are the whole package and any man that gets to marry you is lucky. It’s hard for me to speak on the deal breaker. I’ve known my husband since 2 grade, he’s the only man I’ve ever been with and we been married 32 years and have 2 adult kids. We are grandparents now to our rainbow 🌈 grandson. So I can’t speak on a situation I know nothing about but like I said you are an amazing woman. You deserve true love and happily ever after ❤️. Sending lots of hugs from Florida 😘🤗

[@shepherdLoki]

You really are a great singer and song writer. Don't give up your dream of being a mum. X

[@cathy2142]

My deal breakers: Drug user Alcoholic Addict Ex-con Violent Pedophile Animal abuser Cheater Atheist Has STD Unemployed Living with parents Mean to anyone Married 21 years. ❤. Happy stay at home mama. Living the dream being cared for loving God and my family🙌

[@shellyvavrick1088]

Total deal breaker, don't compromise. ❤

[@Elizabethmoonlightchild]

Find someone who wants a baby! Don't compromise on that! All my kids are grown and I want to date a guy who has 4 kids, oldest being 13 the youngest 2. I was head strong on not dating someone with Littles as I've been a empty nester for 2yrs. But he's pretty amazing! I know completely opposite of yours, but I get & understand the dynamics & mental struggle it brings on.

[@danceteamo6]

I’m 35, single, want marriage and kids in the future. I do mostly online dating. When I start talking to someone I ask them if they want kids early on, before we meet, before a first date. I don’t wanna waste my time or theirs if they don’t want kids. No judgement, we just want different things.

[@Yellowstonervlogs]

Exactly. I have no idea why she is entertaining anything else.

[@marieneu264]

I can’t believe you even match worn somebody take dosan’h want kids. I’ve never been on a dating app, but i assumed they asked your kids of questions before they start recommending people to you. I guess I’m wrong?

[@spunkycat6144]

I wanted 3 kids, got married to a guy I had only known for 6 months, found out he was not at all what he seemed like pre marriage. I was his 3rd wife, but I was young (23) and naive and thought I had won his heart. He just wanted arm candy. I was tall, blonde, fit, etc. He even said so, and this became a common theme in pretty much all my reading relationships. They just wanted to be seen with me. I knew I could not raise 3 humans into that relationship. I gave up and the 30s were just around the corner. I should also say that my culture is very into marriage before you know what...so no guy wanted to go out once they found out that I didn't play. My 40s broke this spell bevause I passed an entire decade and then some without getting some😅. I decided that my southern religious beliefs was dumb. But then i was in my 40s and in the exact same spot. I had married for 1 year, left because of bruises, throat punched, arm candy guy, who would not give me any closet space, to meeting guy who had already been milked by girls when they were younger and were already broke from alimony and child support. I met lots of guys who were looking for housing and free meals, I got no actual dates, I met broken guys who had been taken advantage of financially by women. I guess it was just bad decade for men. I am now a decade older and the guys, well I haven't dated. I don't drink or do drugs, so that narrows out pretty much every guy. I don't know where the guys are hiding, but in my 30s I thought I was going to lose my mind, I wanted a baby so bad. I have fought guys off, I just think all they want is S. I do like being single but I feel, as a creator, that I messed up somewhere. Timing seems to be everything.

[@denisehollich4462]

I love your new song! You have a beautiful voice. I married a 50 year old man when I was 37, second marriages for both of us. He had a 15 year old and I had none. He said he would do one more kid because it would be a shame for me not to be a mom. I remember thinking that even if we couldn’t get pregnant I would be happy to have a life with him. He was enough. I did have a daughter. That was 21 years ago. I love my daughter and am so glad she is here. It was a rough go with her, depression and Crohn’s disease. Being a parent is tough not that I would say not to do it. Just giving you my perspective from my life. I just really hope it all works out for you. Keep singing and being you! You have so many talents!

[@lachantal830]

If you want kids, dont compromise, you will regret it. Dont give up your dream Danna 🥰.

[@chrisjenkins4035]

I love your natural length hair! It's so pretty without the extensions!

[@user-cs1xz]

also not wise to be getting into rships knowing you and the person aren't on the same page on kids....imo. it's nothing to do with compromise. no one should ever compromise on wanting or not wanting children. that's a serious life plan difference

[@jennajoyce4662]

Love your natural hair!

[@jillr759]

The hair is everything!!!! You know what you want. After a very long struggle with infertility we adopted. At 41 I do feel since I also got cancer I would have been ok to without kids but that’s me. It’s blissful most of the time. Not always. The up and go life absolutely changes something to consider. How would Danna be in one place? Once they are in school you can’t pull them out unless you home school. Which by the way is a very good option. Deal breakers: loud chewing, allergies, sniffling, soft hands, hairy, untrustworthy, narcissism, mama”s boy, out of shape, not a nature lover, lack of respect, gawker, lack of love for music, disrespect.

[@Cecille_the_one]

Danna you being able to hit the moth with a hanger and still stay on camera is a talent🤣 always love the fun!

[@kathycox6420]

Don’t compromise!

[@afrey361]

I loved the song at the end. Your voice is beautiful! Do you just want to have children or is being a mother something you cannot live without? I wanted children at some point earlier in life but fell deeply in love with a man who didn’t. I realized that i wanted the kids but couldn’t live without the love of my life. We’ve been together 15 years and we both feel very happy and fulfilled…no resentments. I have never regretted this decision. This isn’t to say it would be the same for everyone; it’s just my personal experience. To each their own.

[@judiewagner6473]

You are almost to 72K! 👏🎉💪

[@susandusenbury6352]

Getchu to 100K!!!🎉

[@Sunflowers36]

No kids would be a deal breaker. Maybe bike path crush is an option as he’d likely want kids? Nothing wrong with dating and marrying a younger man.

[@reneescott9747]

Absolutely not. Total deal breaker. I wouldn't be with someone who didn't want kids.

[@liz4581]

My deal-breaker is you have to love pets and animals.

[@ewright7274]

My dealbreaker is you cannot have any pets or animals😂

[@liz4581]

@@ewright7274 😄😂😅

[@BoomBubbleBustRepeat]

I love my Chia PET!!!

[@debrar9512]

We all know that it is harder to fall pregnant from your late 30's so before you make any decisions get your fertility checked out and if all ok see if you can freeze your eggs maybe ❤❤

[@Jilliankochavim]

I had kids young but can’t imagine having them now in my early 40s. I am not sure if people can grasp what a lifestyle change it is, but I understand wanting them, so might be a deal breaker… that resentment is real. I’d stop entertaining anyone not on the same page since it is what you truly want. I’m just glad I got it done bc they are so much better as adults that care for and support themselves 😂

[@LovinLifeAtHome]

First, love your new song! Kids or not - that would need to be discussed thoroughly before committing to a long term relationship. Friends of mine agreed before marriage to no kids however she later changed her mind and wanted kids. He said "I wanted a truck, I got a truck, I take care of my truck. You want a baby, you take care of it." Yikes - they ended up divorced, she married his best friend and they have 2 kids, lol.

[@darrellquenett4384]

shouldn’t have to compromise if you want kids

[@Craig_C-8078]

I am you just in a male version! Don’t compromise. You know what you want and you have to stick to that goal

[@montanadanna]

Hey, thanks for the comment. Great advice. This is something that is certainly a deal breaker for me.

[@lucindapeterson6040]

Dont compromise

[@keltlanasmith4376]

Total deal breaker! There are a lot of compromises that can be made, but this isn't one of them if you want to have your own kids.

[@TexasGirl1633]

Think what would happen if you settled and then years down the line you get divorced. I think you would be devastated if you gave up on your dream.

[@Blind_Bibliophilic_Life]

If you want children of your own, do not compromise, it's not worth it for you. You deserve to have you dreams/goals met and supported by your significant other. Absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE the new song. As always, endlessly talented!!! Love from Texas🫶🏼

[@kathleenj1158]

Don't compromise bc you'll always regret it & fill unfulfilled. Your voice is really beautiful. 🥰❤️

[@mill7433]

Don't compromise on having kids. You will regret it. It's obvious how much you want children. Be true to yourself

[@twohourteacher]

Deal breaker if they don want children, don't compromise. Maybe it's up to them to compromise.

[@lacrimashi]

Lovely lady, keep following your heart ❤️ Do not settle, do not compromise on big topics/values/dreams. Be open and direct in communicating what you want and need. Honesty is the best policy. Ain't no body got time for games when it comes to matters of this magnitude.

[@Ms.OliversLife]

No compromise. Nope.

[@trinhfallon5647]

That is a major deal breaker.

[@positivejean]

For sure don't compromise on wanting kids and don't settle just to be in a relationship. Love your videos! Long time fan from back in the Cali days!

[@ginnyleedays]

Sister sounds crazy but pray, God will send you the perfect person when you least expect it!!! Stop worrying and Trust he’s got you💜

[@larissaromonouski4870]

Can’t say enough how AMAZINGLY TALENTED you are❤❤.

[@sashauntethered]

don't settle! I am so excited to see you with your kids someday 💖

[@jennytravis6247]

I LOVE ALL of the cleaning videos. I love cleaning & organization videos

[@hopper345]

There's that talented danna I have been watching for four years and what ever you choose should be your choice 😊 have a great day danna 😊

[@nancystevens6820]

Do not compromise on wanting children. Someday, you will end up very bitter towards your partner. Just my opinion

[@pattir2408]

You crack me up Montaña Dana!!! I’m 60 this year and have never married and didn’t have a desire for children. It’s taken me this long to realize that my life has been meaningful even when I don’t believe it most of the time. You do you……. You’re extremely talented and any good man will be wiping your feet/or massage them 😂. I will trip you out a bit with my one and only love story! I wanted a loving companion in my life….. So I said a mantra for 45 days and that was in May! 🌈 I let my mantra go and continued on with life. I went to a non-denominational church named Unity! A bunch of us became friends and had gatherings at each other’s homes for great conversations. August 1, my good friend was having the get together at her place. I get there and several people were already there. I walk into the kitchen and 💥 💥 Bam there he was! I knew the moment we met it was meant to be. He was a Pisces and they are deep thinkers. We could talk or not talk, either way, we felt right. I made a vision board with my Love “ Sal” and everything came true, even the hot tub on the balcony. 💗😜🌈🤣💕

[@marieneu264]

This is awesome! ❤

[@arielmcgillacuddy6640]

If you want kids and I believe you do and I haven’t been following that long but you do then it is a deal breaker and I am saying this with love you don’t have time to waste unless you have your eggs frozen and waiting and who has the $ for that. But good for him for being honest and not stringing you a long.

[@sunnyblonde93]

I know it’s so unromantic, but I treat prospective partners as friendly acquaintances until I know we align on our core values. Only then will I consider opening my heart to them to see if we can connect that way. Chemistry is wonderful and it feels so good to feel at first, but that’s supposed to be the easy part. You don’t have to work for it. It’s just there. So I don’t allow myself to get there until I know they’re worthwhile. Easier said than done buuuuuut still I attempt to embrace it.

[@joleneharper9036]

I love these videos ..I can't have kids my uterus tried to kill me so i evicted it ...but I had that conversation about kids on our first date with my now husband

[@jenniferflores925]

Your hair today 👩‍🍳💋

[@thesimplefarmgirl]

Definitely don’t compromise on your desire to have bio kids. Like you said, you will end up resenting him if you give that up. I feel for ya! Love the song!! 💗

[@spunkycat6144]

Omgawdddd. That song is radio worthy ❤

[@RebrushedByMaddison]

No personally I would not compromise, you talk about wanting kids so often I feel like it’s something you see in your future, whether you do that on your own or with a partner! if that person doesn’t want children I would end it now before more feelings start brewing!

[@AbiNomac]

I love the lyrics of your song!! No compromise especially when talking about anting kids.

[@Alexandriaslife]

This song needs to blow up! It’s beautiful! Fitting for movies 🥰

[@LilyBecca]

You should deck out your trailer! If you wanted, you could even rent it out.