Life - Over 40, never married, no kids...Regrets?

[@floflo3]

I am 47, single, never married, no kids. I think it is VERY hard to find the person I would be okay with living with. Regarding kids, the world is tough, I wouldn't want to intentionally have a kid that I subject to the horrors of this world.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I couldn't agree with you more!!!

[@Batman-vr6jp]

Right

[@Ojhfdxhhgg]

Looking back as a 53 year old I am very grateful I never fell pregnant....I am glad i would never of been able to give a child a life better than my own...it would of been a life of pain, struggle and fear which i am glad I never allowed this happening...

[@chose3095]

Smart choice if I can rewind time I wouldn’t had any kids

[@Walklikeaduck111]

Same here... Though in my culture without husband and children you are as good as invisible or if seen, a threat. But still its better than the other option.

[@Mukanimou]

At 50, I wish I had children, I wish I was going to have grandchildren, I wish I was married. Also, I wish, I came from an upbringing where family came first. Unfortunately, my family was divided and my mother was always projecting her misery on everyone. So I ran away and never stopped. I wish I had mentors who told me to take my time, get to know myself instead of feeling the pressure to meet someone. I could have avoided turning into the chameleon I was for years, all to end feeling empty and alone. With all that I know now, I would have loved to have meet my mate, rooted in a deep friendship, love and full of adventure. Build our pursuits, careers, family and wealth together. Some people prefer to be alone. I live with a giant void in my life being alone and question the point of even existing without a family. I hate it. I wish you all the best. I pray you all find yourself and not let your past predict your future. Thank god for internet now offering endless information and resources. I wish it was available when I was younger, desperate for connection and answers. It's been a long 5O years. Hopefully the rest of time is better.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Mukanimou I'm not far from 50, and my heart breaks for you. I'm sorry you didn't get the chance to find someone in your early years. I hope you know 50 is not that old and that if you wanted to, you could adopt. Oh, there are so many children out there looking for a loving home. This is something I said I would look into when I got my own things sorted, even if I was single still. It truly breaks my heart to hear you didn't have the greatest upbringing. I was raised by such a loving and caring family. This was never my reason for being single. I just haven't found the forever person, maybe in time. Maybe you, too, just haven't found that right person, and I hope you do. Stay strong, be kind, and know that you are not alone. 💙

[@Mukanimou]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 I appreciate your comment and share. Don’t feel bad for me. At the end of the day I ran from all that was good. Yes, my childhood sent me on a tough path but many people overcome this and move in a better direction. It took me a very long time to redirect and I am left with the result of my decisions. My hope and pray by sharing my experience is it will in turn help others truly be themselves and follow their hearts. In this case, to be parents or not. There is no right or wrong decision. It’s all about getting to know yourself and what matters in life to you. I now know love & family was and is everything to me. I know now why when wondering around alone for so long what the giant void was and still is. I wish you all the best in life.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Mukanimou I wish you nothing but amazing things. I hope you find happiness in this crazy world. All we can do is share our stories in hopes that others will not feel alone. All the best my dear 💚

[@Mukanimou]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 🙏🏽

[@BerryKind]

This is very similar to my experience growing up with my mom, and I do believe it influenced how I carried myself and who I am now.... I needed to get away and I needed alone time to myself and I think I took it to extremes.

[@SweetlyDarkArt]

45, never married, no kids woman that's just trying to survive. Being the parentified eldest of 7 siblings, I was forced into being the third parent so it completely killed my want for anything like that relationship again nor kids. I'm just going to remain in my little corner with my books, my art, my pets and caregiver now to my elderly Father. I prefer the peace of my time to the stress of what little free time I have being taken away from me. No thanks. ❤

[@benmyers9030]

Children don't take your time away. They are a feature not a bug in your life. Your parents failed you and your siblings. That is why you perceive family as misery.

[@Syno_Phobia]

​@@benmyers9030 children take a lot of time to educate, giving attention, and build multiple income to cover their needs and education. She had enough and finally have a chance to lives life on her own

[@mysterio5837]

@@benmyers9030 you generalized that and consoled it to your behalf so you feel good about it. Maybe that maybe true if i had a kid too. Maybe , maybe not. EIther way, do what is happy for you man

[@ferdinandagustin4089]

Your pets are like your children, specially if it is a dog

[@Ava2969ny]

​@@benmyers9030 - there's a lot of validity to your comment because a parent's bad marriage, or just requiring that the eldest child to be a caregiver, is damaging indeed. I don't think a lot of parents realize how damaging their own bahaviors and expectations can be to their children.

[@sciencejoker6694]

My married friends are all miserable😂

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Mine, for the most part, are happy. I guess it's choosing the right partner. 😆

[@teoleno4019]

Mine are all divorced single baby mama's. 👶 🤢

[@osuk1]

liar🤡

[@passiveincomegirl1824]

@@wanderingwithjenny671which no one can control

[@janaeclarke136]

Yikes...

[@ronaldjoseph9055]

I had turned 40 years old this year on May 25th and have never been married or have children. I am a male with high functioning autism, work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want any children is because raising children will be a lot for me with my autism. I also hope that my future partner or wife likes to travel too and we travel to many different places and also go out and do a variety of things.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I wish all your dreams come true. When the time is right, you will find your Mrs. I applaud you for not letting it stand in your way. The world awaits you, safe travels. 💛

[@Jaycarbrownie12]

You can have kids if you want and they may not be autistic it may be good for you

[@Jae-by3hf]

@@Jaycarbrownie12no, do not tell someone with autism that YOU know best. As an autistic woman, I understand this mans point and if you don’t understand, then ask, don’t force your view onto others!

[@benmyers9030]

Since you have autism maybe you don't understand so let me help. No one will marry you because no one wants to hitch their future to a part time Walmart employee who lives with his parents. Also, you will not travel because part time Walmart employees don't make enough to travel anywhere or even pay their bills. If you are "high functioning", raise your level of performance, apply at target or something. Your time is now. The world is not waiting on you. Your ancestors were meant to hunt, autism or no. Channel the spirit of your ancestors and make them proud of their bloodline!

[@lisageek1310]

Oh yeah lets just have a kid and see if its good for him. Doesnt matter if it goes wrong its just another helpless human that ends up in the system. Children are not experiments.

[@mike62401]

I’m 58 never married no children. NO REGRETS! Do I wonder? Of course I do. Am I sorry/lonely/miserable/have doubts? NOPE! I love my single and childless/grandchildless life.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm so happy you have no regrets. I think everyone wonders about things they don't have. Stay happy, my friend 💙

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Same here and I’m 40 years old and don’t follow the social norms

[@kristinadospoy7347]

It's our poor choices and regrets in life that makes us not want to be married or have kids of our own.

[@Ava2969ny]

@@kristinadospoy7347 - Sometimes it someone else's poor choices (like a parent who forces the eldest child to be a caregiver to younger siblings), that make people not want to be married or have kids.

[@thunderstar7116]

I like travelling, but honestly I prefer a thousand times staying at home. I can spend days in a row without stepping on my front door, and I'd be happy to live like that for the rest of my life, good thing that I work at home, I'm very confortable with that. And that's part of what you said, one has to know oneself and know what one wants in life, It'd be a disaster if I were to abandon my life preferences just to try to fit in with someone (someone that hates being at home for example), and that's what many people do and they end up in toxic relationships and feeling more lonely than ever.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I couldn't agree with you more. People settle because society makes you feel that way. I love that you have found comfort in being with just yourself. So many people have not taken that path. I believe that everyone finds their own way, and what works for one person isn't always going to work for another. Thank you for watching. 💛

[@Aniexo_]

Same here I love being at home and Work remotely to avoid in person human interaction.

[@Walklikeaduck111]

I hope to live like that too..

[@barksnbrews]

I’m 43, divorced, and child-free by choice, and I have never regretted it once. I would be perfectly fine had I never been married as well. I’m happy single now and while I’m open to the right relationship, I’m in no hurry and I’m not willing to get into a relationship just to say I’m not single. I’m just not ashamed if any of my choices on this front 🤷🏼‍♀️. Single in your 40s can be amazing. Dating isn’t great but that’s true for other age groups too; I think that’s just where we are as a society.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Couldn't have said it better. Love to hear when people are happy and comfortable with just being with themselves 💚 no one should settle just to make society happy.

[@ThePatriotPod]

Sure you are. Now go get a few cats.

[@olgaolga4873]

I'm 39. Never married, no kids. But wish having a family so much.... It's my pain.... Thank you for this video. Now I know that I'm not alone in this situation. I'm watching you from overseas and thank you so much for your clear accent.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@olgaolga4873 I'm so sorry for your pain. I know it's not a choice for everyone. I hope it comes true for you. Stay positive ✨️ ❤️ and thank you

[@Ava2969ny]

@olgaolga4873 -- You still have time to have a family. I was in the same situation years ago and I considered both adoption and using a donor to have a child. I didn't go through with either of these methods because I didn't have enough faith that I would be able to provide a good life for a child, as a single parent. I encourage you to take some time to figure out what your options are before you hit your mid-40s...because the void only gets bigger as you get older, so don't put off being proactive now.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Ava2969ny beautifully said.

[@olgaolga4873]

@@Ava2969ny thank you very much for your comment. Besides I'm single I have infertility. I'm thinking about a donor embrio but it's hard to accept this idea for me. I realise that each year is super important at my age. I hope to take the right decision soon

[@georginakourtis4735]

@olgaolga4873 you can still do it had friend who met someone at 40 and had kids..

[@tihu-n9x]

I am 40 years old and divorced because I have no children. The pressure I have to bear in my hometown will be very great, and my personal value and anxiety will resist each other

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@tihu-n9x I'm truly sorry you have that pressure on you and I hope that changes for you, so you can have peace 💙

[@chadguindon6909]

I am 39, single, never been married and no children. I have depression and anxiety disorder and I'm unfit to be a husband or father.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I truly hope you find the care you need. 💙

[@eden1867]

Just pray God is good

[@Laura-y3d5e]

Read Quran..a Muslim book by our God .. especially surah baqarah ..write in KZbin you can find ..your life will change inshaAllah

[@mintminded6666]

I can rely to that!!

[@mintminded6666]

@@eden1867 What a random answer that doesn't help crap

[@yuppie992001]

The money hungry/career driven accusation is my main gripe! I think on the outside it appears like that, but work is for survival. It is VERY transactional to me and I literally get no fulfillment out of it. I use my job to live comfortably and pursue creative interests.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

You are correct. Most think I'm career driven. When I'm in reality, I just have a job. I live a comfortable life just as you do. Thank you for your comment, and I hope you have an amazing day.

[@benmyers9030]

Married people do better financially. So if you actually wanted more money and more protection, you would have started a family. It's OK that you are career driven. You can be honest with yourself and everyone else

[@angustheterrible3149]

​@@benmyers9030you sound jealous, lmao.

[@benmyers9030]

​@angustheterrible3149 you sound confused, lmao. Do you even logic bro

[@4thllz]

@benmyers9030 Incorrect. Married men do better financially, married women do worse. Single childfree women are the happiest demographic 😂

[@Avocadocat-qo2tb]

39 & have 0 regrets about not being a wife or mother. My life is not created to be a servant 24/7

[@amazinggrace313]

I just turned 44 , never married , no kids. Let me tell you that I tend to have more money and freedom than my married with kids counterparts. I feel mostly happy and not stressed. My body is in better shape than my counterparts too and I do whatever I want. I get a tad bit lonely sometimes but it isn’t overwhelming at all. My personality has always been resilient for being alone. I’m very focused on myself and I’m open to love some day if it happens but I’m not pressed. I’m blessed to be where I am in life, happy and healthy. I’ll tell you what , I’d be more worried about smoking and drinking and drugging than not being married or no kids. Everyone I know who is lost has those problems..

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I love that you found happiness with yourself. 💙

[@benmyers9030]

You do not have more money than married people in general. You have more money than your small social circle. Correlation is not causation. You are not "open to love" because love is selfless. You are a "tad bit" lonely now? What do you think happens when you are 64?

[@amazinggrace313]

@@benmyers9030 you know my financials? I don’t thinks so. I make more money than two people put together in most cases. The rest of what you said and tried to be judgmental about you can shove you know where. I meant what I said and I said what I said.

[@benmyers9030]

​@amazinggrace313 its obvious you are sincere. You are focused on yourself but open to love. That is a contradiction. Love is selfless. Love requires sacrifice. You are looking out for number 1. But you are a tad bit lonely. Will that get better or worse with time? At least you are very wealthy and can afford lots of trinkets to keep you company

[@amazinggrace313]

@@benmyers9030 you don’t get to decide what I’m open to. You really sound like a hater on unmarried childless women. Our lives aren’t meant to live for men and their desires. We are autonomous beings and it would do you great to accept that.

[@Cosmic.creator33]

Thank you! I just turned 40 this year. Do you have any suggestions to meet more like minded?

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Talk about it. That is my best advice. You will be surprised at how many like-minded people are out there. The more people I meet, the more I find. Also, finding people who are divorced and are taking on the solo life. Have an amazing day. 🤍

[@hrburrell7587]

Im 48, no kids and not married. Definitely no regrets although i still hold out hope to meet someone one day. As i look at the decline of society and the selfishness of most people in today's world it looks less and less likely that I will meet someone, I refuse to settle for someone without the same values as me.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@hrburrell7587 couldn't agree with you more

[@penlov-q1w]

Me 42.male. Never married. This World is heart of darkness

[@ErikamGar]

It is hell for bringing more slaves 😢

[@rudimerm7686]

Unfortunately, I have met many men and women in their 40s/50s/60s (mostly educators) that say "I don't regret it," but later they change their tone. The grass is not greener on either side (single or married), but if you are sane, educated, financially capable, emotionally available, and have a hint of selflessness, the option for starting a family should be a thought.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@rudimerm7686 I'm sure there are people out there that do regret it later on. I can't have kids, so that is not a choice. As for marriage, I'm not against it. Just haven't met the right one.

[@rudimerm7686]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 I totally understand. Great points.

[@hrburrell7587]

Many people do consider it and decide against it. Kids arent for everyone. I have several single ( and married ) friends ranging from their 30s to 60s who didnt have kids and are completely happy. I don't think we should push our lifestyle choices on other people . I know just as many married people who do have kids who have confided in me that if they could go back and do it again they would havs stayed single and or not had children. To each his own.

[@rudimerm7686]

@@hrburrell7587 It is different for everyone. Let me sum it up for me: One day, my son (4-years old at the time) came to me and said "Daddy, I want to die before you because I never want to see you die." I don't think another human being would say or feel that towards me aside from him. Everyone should do what makes them happy and what is best. However, if people are bashing marriage, I will give my 2-cents.

[@hrburrell7587]

@@rudimerm7686 Like I said to each his own, no one is bashing marriage, just simply stating the fact that there are many married folks who wish they had stayed single as there are many singles who want to be married, I could just as easily say the same for singleness as some people are critical of others for choosing not to be married or have kids so it works both ways. No one should push their own choices on other people. Nothing wrong with marriage at all, do what makes you happy but no one should tell other people they should consider having kids or getting married etc just because it works for them. Let people be who they are

[@Ffollies]

I'm a man, late 40s, not married and no children. This is not the way I wanted my life to turn out, as I've always wanted my own family but it just never worked out that way. I try to make the best of things but it's tough some days. I guess after I die none of it will matter. I just try to live day by day.

[@georginakourtis4735]

Put yourself out there could make a lady happy

[@DEBTFREEMIKE769]

I dunno why this popped up on my recommendations lol. I’m 46, never married, no kids. Went to college. Hasn’t turned into much. Not feeling regret, but also not as happy with my life. I will say though I’m glad I went child free.

[@TheMusicmak3r]

Nice cat

[@CiaranThompson-i9d]

Just found this video. Title caught my eye. I can relate. 51 year old male. Never married or engaged. Pretty well grounded guy. As you say, I have a job not a career but I do ok. I have a degree of contentment and a pretty full life. I dread the drunk at weddings asking why I'm single - irritating to the point I avoid gatherings and occasions now. Some of the comments in related videos are pretty mean. Having said that, at 51 now Ive babysat an older male friend through a very nasty divorce and watch a cousin go through the same I kinda feel I've maybe dodged a bullet. I think some ladies struggle with being alone but a lot of guys crave it in my experience. Most marriages nowadays are destined to fail, wedding shops are going under - very telling. Count your blessings Jenny. Thankyou for the heartfelt video❤. I'll look forward to binging on the rest when I'm not so tired. Best wishes for your future. Sincerely hope you accomplish everything you desire. Greetings from Belfast😊

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Thank you for watching. Yes, being single at occasions can be a pain. I'm now that pertain that questions them on their "happy" marriage. lol usually, they stop asking. I'm happy that you are content in your life and hope you make the best of every moment. 🩵

[@CiaranThompson-i9d]

Bless you🤗🙏🙌

[@Jared_Albert]

Not to worry mate. Lots of migrants to take your place in Belfast

[@lifetimeeducation3739]

I am 21 years old I am from India I appreciate this video🙏🙏 It should be the best video in yt according to me Some positive thoughts I have get Hoping more positive videos will come

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Thank you so much. 💓 I will be posting more in the future . Have an amazing day.

[@courtney5812]

I have no desire for kids let alone a relationship. No, not because I’ve had bad experiences, it’s literally because i just don’t wait it. I know deep down being single is best for me and I hate that everyone wants to see me in a relationship…

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@courtney5812 stay true to you!

[@Mmyythandle]

I was born in the 80s, not focusing on settling down, focusing on career is what led me to be single and childless at 40. Focus on your career they said - how the heck is that more important than having a family? I hate that I bought into that. And you can have a career your whole life as women we only have so many years to bear children.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Mmyythandle I'm so sorry you missed out on having that family. I was never career driven. You are not alone. So many women have done just as you. I don't like to hear someone missed one something because of others. I airways want it to be a choice. Women shouldn't have to choose one or the other.

[@Mmyythandle]

@ I didn’t miss out completely I still believe I will have one. Just wish I’d done it sooner. The perfect age for that to me is mid- late 30s but I was too depressed during that time I blame the covid shutdowns lol

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Mmyythandle that's so great, I wish the best for you. You would be surprised at the number of women who have done it in their 40s and say it was so much better than their 20s. Yes, shutdowns were hard on a lot of people

[@lunarae8037]

Same I bought into it and came up empty. Maybe not completely life has had some amazing adventures but I’m not stable because of my upbringing so why subject child to that? I’m feeling confused at this time on where my life is going but maybe it’s for the best!

[@Ffollies]

I'm a man but I'm wondering, who is it that told you to focus on your career? Your family? I've heard it said to men, but usually not women. Women generally aren't held to the same financial expectations as men are.

[@catchmeintherye2102]

Single life is not for every woman. I got married in my early 30’s and i was soooo ready. I was super excited and still am. I tried the single, career driven life for over 10 years but I was longing for a family. I continued working on my own pace especially after the kids. Single life is not for everyone, just like married life isn’t for everyone either.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

You are so correct. I know many people who can't be single. Some people need someone in their lives at all times. Everyone is different and so happy you found love and are happy with your choices 😊 🤍

[@dogman683]

Wow ur beautiful! I noticed women who are child free age wonderfully. U look so vibrant and youthful.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Awe, bless you. Thank you.

[@Jae-by3hf]

Came to say this too! 🩷💜

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@Jae-by3hf thank you.

[@benmyers9030]

Wow you are so thirsty! I noticed simps age pathetically. You look so strange and repressed

[@ayintovah3132]

I've notice the same

[@psychostranger2097]

I am 39 years old virgin man. Never had a girlfriend. My father left home when I was 7 years old. Raised by a single narcissistic mother. I am golden child and sister is scapegoat child.

[@Walklikeaduck111]

Sounds like it was a demanding childhood. Being golden child can be as difficult as being scapegoated sometimes.

[@Walklikeaduck111]

In my experience, married women really seem to judge and dislike single childfree women. And these are supposedly happily married women, why do they even care?!

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I have come across a few of those in my time. So many women felt the pressure and went with it. Unfortunately, I think the judgments are more about jealousy. I will say, though, in my case, I felt more judgments from men. And that, too. I believe it's just people who wanted this life but didn't end up with it.

[@Loretta_C]

Great video and excellent points. I am 43 and have been in many relationships but have never met anyone who (1.) I had a great connection with and (2.) would also be a great father. This is one of many many reasons I don't have kids. The cost of raising kids is the second reason. I have to add this 3 months later: amazing how may regretful parents there are in the comment section jealous of child free people.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I couldn't agree more, and thank you. I was just having a conversation the other day about the cost of raising kids. I don't know how people do it. Have an amazing day 💛

[@benmyers9030]

You don't have any worthwhile men wanting to marry you is what you are trying to say. Why do you think that is? If you were married, you would have more money, then you could afford kids. You are broke and addicted to copium

[@benmyers9030]

​@@wanderingwithjenny671 they do it by making sacrifices. A sacrifice is something that costs you but benefits someone else. Also, you have more money when you are married, so there's that

[@gregdenys7162]

"never met anyone who (1.) I had a great connection with" It means you suck at judging people.

[@Loretta_C]

@@gregdenys7162Ok Greg. Don't have the balls to show a photo of yourself, just a troll making simp comments. Move along.

[@iamswarms]

You followed your gut, had the courage to reject societies pressures and....it worked out. As it should have. I too, have taken my own path. At 54 I'm VERY happy.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@iamswarms right. Society really puts pressure on so many things. People need to think for themselves. I'm happy your happy 😊

[@mindywyatt6564]

Oh my word! I miss you face and your voice so much! I absolutely LOVE this whole video!

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Thanks love, miss you too. We need to catch up xo

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I am 40 years old and I was in a failed arranged marriage due to my autism spectrum disorder and I’m definitely glad I didn’t have children and I help my younger brother with cerebral palsy

[@pamelamkhize1070]

37 single, no kids waiting and praying for marriage not in a run , in good time it will happen.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@pamelamkhize1070 so happy to hear. I wish nothing but the best and wish you many blissful years. 💚

[@Steve-tc2pi]

I'm 73 and never married and never had kids. The only down side I see is if everyone was like me there would be no people.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@Steve-tc2pi agreed.

[@floridababy2006]

I’m 21 and don’t plan on having kids ever.

[@chardalasimons1392]

I'm 38, never been married and never had children. I'm a teacher and a godmother, so I am around children most days. I find that that fulfills me. When we have our summer and Easter breaks, I love to travel. I was in Colombia 🇨🇴 in July and had an absolute blast. Marriage and having children just isn't for me.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@chardalasimons1392 they travel bug is as expensive as having kids 😆 I worked with kids as well, that was enough for me 😆

[@Ash-t5l]

Hello! I know this video is a year old! But I just want to say THANK YOU for covering this topic. The pressure everyone places on women can be heavy! It also can make one feel like they aren’t enough! Thank you for sharing your experience 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Ash-t5l awe thank you. I still stand in the same position. It is a lot of pressure. Just be true to you

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

I’m 45 no kids been married but was a step father. Dating and relationships just aren’t for me. I just gave up

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I wouldn't say give up. But make sure the love for yourself is most important. Being comfortable alone is important.

[@tyxi6840]

I always focus about myself and I'm really happy I'll stay single foreverr like this I'm so happy than anyone else it's so good

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Always do what makes you happy.

[@tyxi6840]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 of course

[@KateeAngel]

Yeha me too. I am extremely introverted

[@GoddessOfLove-pr7ek]

​@@KateeAngelSame here. I really love being a Introvert.

[@Ariadne_Oliver]

Imagine the reaction if you asked a married person whether they regret getting married and having kids....

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Tia-Louisa oh I have, many times. The best is when people, married and with kids, tell you how smart you are for not doing either 😆

[@DarrenBoydraddadlovinlife]

I love seeing societal norms changing also. Thank you for your honesty, and your courage to be you.

[@Scorned405]

I’m 54 and I’m a man and never been married or have kids. I do not at all regret it. I don’t like kids. They are incredibly irritating. No I have absolutely no desire for kids or a wife

[@katrussell2014]

You're so beautiful! You keep doing you. You inspire so many people.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Thank you so much, means the world to me xo

[@kevintutt2807]

Some people either pity or envy those who are older, single and childless.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@kevintutt2807 That is very true. I guess it depends on how a person's life turned out. I just hope people see that no matter how it went, life is a blessing.

[@melissasimpkins3827]

I am 48. No children. I want to get married one day. I don't want children now that my mother passed

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm very sorry to hear about your mom. I hope you find a truly amazing person to spend the rest of your life with. 💙

[@melissasimpkins3827]

Awww. Thanks so much

[@mysteriousmat]

Ive been single for long time just turned 40 and sometimes i think what if but i know ive not been mentally ok for children and marriage.its pressure of people around you and family that can be hard. So Spending to much time thinking about things you don't have means miss stuff going on around you. Its about learning to get know your self first then if something comes maybe be your be better person.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@mysteriousmat exactly 💯

[@gh-sb1dy]

we are just alike i feel like we are long lost twins souls, we are identical .i feel same way. when i was in my 40s my family was compalining to have kids and it was taboo not to have them even though that was back in the late 60s it has shown me times dont change much. now im happy and live a very happy en joyful llife. my husband complainsd he stills wants kids but i told him its still not a good idea.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm so happy to hear you, too, do not have regrets. Thank you for sharing with me. Have a beautiful day 💛

[@benmyers9030]

So you are in your 90s now and your husband wants kids?

[@melmel7011]

Asking why is not a problem, the problem starts where you think my reasons are not valid enough. That's where I get pissed off.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

The reasons are yours and yours alone. You don't need to justify anything to anyone. Your life is your own, and you will live it the way you want.

[@roxanaraducanu7299]

That’s wonderful,Jenny!

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Thanks girl ❤️

[@BillMiller-ob4vh]

Love is disappearing it's more lust than love out there We all know that lust has an expiration date so why bother when your heart is only going to be broken 💔

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Agreed. There is no communication, no commitment and trust is slowly going away as well. Sad but true

[@kristinadospoy7347]

Romance has already disappeared

[@BerryKind]

Yep. I am 35 and don't believe in love anymore.... I'm fine by myself

[@Only1yas222]

I appreciate her talking about this. I’m 40 with no kids. I can’t say I didn’t want any kids but I can say it wasn’t Gods plan in my 20’s or 30’s. Now I’m 40 + and the men I’ve dated aren’t interested in having kids. And truth be told at this age I’m not either. But I do tend to think what men think about me being 40+ and no kids. Do they feel I’m unworthy, something is wrong with me or will I be able to be compassionate enough for there needs. Whether 40 year old me admits it or not I’m pretty sure it’s a thought. I don’t feel less than but at times I do think what my life would have been if I was a mother. And of course time to time Not being a mother how different my life would have been. It’s not an issue but definitely a thought to be had.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Only1yas222 i absolutely love every point you made and agree with you. I have had those thoughts and wonders at times as well. Thank you for being honest. Be true to yourself and believe that everything happens for a reason. 💚

[@MyohmyBuddies]

Never married, no kids. It is so chill so I hope to never marry or have kids. That would be amazing. Jesus Christ is enough for me. Have faith in Jesus, it will fill your life with beauty

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@MyohmyBuddies so happy you are blessed with your choices.

[@ivanfunctionx8431]

I'am 33 male never married If i someday want to settle down and getting marriage I will find woman 19 - 24 years old to marry

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I’m 40 and still single

[@Aaaykaay]

😂😂😂19-24😅😅😅

[@ormus64]

good luck on that buddy

[@bradleylove8606]

I feel that it would have been nice to have a few children as I am older and much more lonely with no family now.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@bradleylove8606 I'm sorry to hear that. There is adoption.

[@ronaldzamora4292]

Even if your married and have kids, you will still be alone at the end. Becouse your children will move out and get married also, and your spose gonna die.

[@jgar6643]

LIFE WAS A FANTASY... FROM THE TIME U WERE BORN.. U WERE BORN ALONE.. UR PARENTS LOVING U AND RAISING YOU IT WAS THEM SATISFYING THEIR FANTASY OF A CHILD FOR COUPLE OF YEARS.. UR FRIENDS AT SCHOOL WAS A FANTASY SO THAT YOUR LIFE HAD MEANING AND TO RELATE TO OTHERS TO MODIFY HOW U WOULD WANT YOUR FANTASIES AS ADULT.. UR WIFE OR HUSBAND WAS SO THAT YOU WAS NOT LONELY AND PROCREATE KIDS SO THAT YOU FELT LIKE U HAD A PURPOSE IN LIFE.. THEN CAREER AND MONEY WERE TO HAVE THE MEANS TO BUY OTHER FANTASIES THAT WILL FILL UR LIFE AND NOT FEEL DEPRESSED.. THEN UR GRANDKIDS FOR THE SAME PURPOSE AS UR KIDS. THEN YOU AGE.. AND UR KIDS LEAVE TO DO THEIR OWN LIVES... THEN U CANT WORK... THEN U GET SICK.. THEN THE PAINS.. THEN U RETIRED... THEN UR SPOUSE LEAVES OR DIES.. BUT WHAT YOU FAIL TO BELIEVE IS THAT THEY WERE THERE TEMPORARY.... THEY WERE FANTASIES.. CHARACTERS IN A STORY WHO PLAY ACT A ROLE FOR WHICH THEY ALSO RECEIVE BENEFITS.. LITTLE BY LITTLE BUT SURELY U LOSE THINGS.. AND WHEN UR OLD U END UP ALONE LIKE HOW U STARTED WHEN U WAS BORN... AND U DIE...U FAILED TO ACCEPT THAT ALL THOSE THINGS WERE FANTASIES.. FALLING IN LOVE THROUGH ROMANCE AND MUSIC.. SEX, ETG, THEY WERE ALL FANTASIES MY FRIEND... NOTHING TO IT.. U WERE HAPPY ONCE UPON A TIME, AND NOW UR SICK AS A DOG.. ITS TIME FOR U TO GO... THAT'S ALL IT IS.. DONT FEEL BAD.. LIFE IS A BITCH SOMETIMES.. CRY UR SORROS OVER THE BEST BEER EVER BUDWEISER... AND LET GO.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I definitely know what I want in life at 41 going on 42

[@Jared_Albert]

Sorry for you. If it’s any comforts we are all forgotten in a generation or two

[@dannylin5980]

There’s a huge difference between dating someone, versus living with them. I lived with two girlfriends before. Never again But at the same time, I wanna thank my ex’s too. Without the experience living with them. I wouldn’t be the person I am today, and I didn’t miss out on anything in regards of being in a relationship. The only thing I missed is proposing to someone. Already got my experience living with someone already, which comes after marriage, and also on top of that, a risk of putting all my financial assets at risk if for some unforeseen circumstances a divorce happens. Yeah no thank you

[@Idontcareifioffendthecommu-m1z]

So it is possible for a man in his 40s and with no children to find women in their 40s with no children.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@Idontcareifioffendthecommu-m1z there are a few of us 😆 . It's actually pretty common.

[@IIl_393]

As person who get a deprived childhood and now I have to built decent life to myself and develop in many aspect of my life I will never have a baby that rasing will take so much time, and energy. Beside I still I don't know how health home life I should give it to a child, like my parents they made horrible memories for me and my brother in young ages . Beside in this modern period there's difficulty of finding a job, education issue and expensive schools funds, miserable society and bad leadership at politic field. I am not frustrating but all these things are make sense to me to review the decision of having kids ..

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@IIl_393 that I can understand. It is a scary world.

[@BerryKind]

This is me, but i'm 35. Honestly, i don't think i will regret it. Meh.

[@heinzsmith5817]

I did the marriage thing! NOT again I'm going to enjoy my single life and do what I missed out on, having fun with friends!! I'm very grateful for my 3 kids. So what if you never married or kids your choice!! Be happy enjoy!!

[@chelsea7229]

1:40 This is absolutely not true. I really want to push back against the idea that everyone wants to raise/teach someone else. There is nothing I want less than being responsible for showing someone else the ways of the world and there are plenty of other people who feel the same way.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@chelsea7229 of course, you are entitled to your opinion. Have a lovely day 💚

[@MattyLiam333]

Relationships and marriage. What an incredible waste of time, energy, and money.

[@Sydneyfc77]

I’m 35 never been I. a relationship and I never wanted to I hate people telling me what to do I like being alone

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@Sydneyfc77 as long as you are happy that is all that matters

[@Sydneyfc77]

@ yeah to me the benefits don’t outweigh the disadvantages in a relationship lol

[@Ndasuunye]

asking a 40 something year old is still too soon. they're old enough to ASSUME their conent, but young enough to still do anything they want because they're alleged to be healthy enough. if your successful and 40 the world is STILL your oyster. its the older folks who need to be questioned. and i hear a lot of stories of lonely old folks in nursing homes because nobody visits them either anymore or due to having no family.

[@perporiap9364]

It is so sad that we can't find the other half of us during our stay on earth though we might live happily. I understand that what other comments says. It is because when your standards high it is near impossible to find sb. Many guys have barely 3 out of 10 criteria. I used many years Facebook and some dating apps. People I liked never created relationships with me rest are just bunch of dudes with no goal and whatsoever calling me sick being single. I loved to have family of my own maybe one kid but I just can't go create it like my other goals. I am a social person but don't go to party or clubs. I don't think as well a husband can be found in such places. Singles in my apartment complex enjoy living with their dog. Even in elevator they ask for attention to their dogs. No complain but when society formulated to make you look awkward, shouting you are single, like some weird issue, it really affects your mental. As much as I like to feel OK about this, I am not and really disappointed not having that person in my life to share emotions with. I pray to cosmos to bring every single lady out there best of best abundance and joy

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@perporiap9364 very well said. I don't think everyone wants what you do. I'm sorry you haven't found your pair yet. I hope one day you do. 💙

[@RIP19851]

39 never married and I don’t want kids

[@tyronewalker5764]

4:27 Sixty-eight never married and childfree. Guys like me are never chosen. 😢

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@tyronewalker5764 I'm so sorry to hear that.

[@jcking2586]

You dogged a bullet. Be thankful

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@jcking2586 LOL I don't think it's that bad for most 😆

[@static-and-rust]

This video is over in the first 10 seconds. You don’t regret it. You don’t regret anything. OK

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@static-and-rust I know right, it's so hard to believe 😆

[@antoinettesalaver6426]

You look amazing! 😊

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@antoinettesalaver6426 thank you

[@ansett7272]

Male 60 never married no kids. Not gay! By choice never wanted kids and stayed that way. Marriage never interested me. Happy still single. Not in any relationship and not interested in any. I enjoy my freedom. Most weddings I have attended ended in divorce! One lasted one year plus note the collection of child custody issues, restraint orders, maintenance payments and lawyers having a field day! I keep out of all this. I run my business and meet wonderful interesting individuals on a platonic level. Interesting topic and I have no regrets being single as one is free and I love it:)

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@ansett7272 I do love hearing both sides of it. Thank you so much for sharing. Stay happy 😊

[@eddieanthony6886]

The common denominator is her. Its her.

[@fragrance7768]

I don't have any regrets, I mean... I do

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm sorry you have regrets.

[@-ClayMan-]

My question. Why are you still single when you said that not everyone wants to have children ? Were you wrong about this assumption?

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

I'm so sorry, I really don't understand your question 😔

[@-ClayMan-]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 Sorry, I just noticed that this video is 1 year old, so I'll ask the question differently. Have you found that man for yourself yet?

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@@-ClayMan- no, but I'm not looking at the moment either. And yes, I'm still very happy. 😀

[@-ClayMan-]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 hmm🤔, so if you're that happy, why are you talking about it on social media? Are you looking for approval to confirm your emotional state?

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@-ClayMan- my dear, I don't need approval from anyone. If you are here to be a keyboard warrior, you picked the wrong place. The reason I did this video is because I know I'm not alone when it comes to being happy and single. Society has taught us that we need to have a significant other in order to be happy. I'm here to show society that they are wrong.

[@magda3150]

There is theory that there is part of self absorbed women that find themselves extremely special couldn’t get a man which would just be like them perfect in every subject. This is really funny part of the story “why still 40 and alone”. But if you are not of this part of women and there was just not the right guy or you weren’t somewhere at the right time then I congratulate you.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Oh, not me. I'm far from perfect, and I definitely don't seek that. Let's be real. Does perfect really exist? I just haven't met the right person. Maybe one day. Until then, I'm happy on this solo train.

[@angustheterrible3149]

Why should someone settle for less if they're happy being single? Some people just don't want a man in their lives. A relationship is not compulsory.

[@BerryKind]

Lol, not everyone. People have different stories and experiences.

[@hgfxjnn]

I'm 41, never married, no kids. I almost had a kid. Unfortunately, she had miscarriage 😢 But I think I enjoyed being free. You know that single life to go as you please. I don't have to explain why I'm coming home late, or why I keep leaving the toilet bowl up every night 😂 John Cena said that he doesn't want kids because he likes the free basically. However, I do for some reason want one daughter. I just want to say: "my baby girl"

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@hgfxjnn well, you are still young, you can keep trying. Also remember, there are so many kids out there that would love to hear, "my baby girl" ☺️

[@hgfxjnn]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 appreciate you

[@georginakourtis4735]

Wish I could go back date the right person..😂

[@doctoddd]

[@facellina]

Is it because of your nose? I have an ugly nose too no partner no kids I am 52 contemplating a surgery finally

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@facellina lol I didn't think there was anything wrong with my nose. See, I got this beauty from family. I'm proud of the way I look. I also don't need to look like barbie. One day, you will see, natural is more beautiful. I wish more women would see that. You enjoy your nose job 😘

[@bran8370]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 You have a very cute nose Jenny, no issues with it from what I can see.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@bran8370 thanks love!!! 💙

[@bensanderson7144]

I’ve always felt a tinge of pity for the single and childless. They’re good people, though.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@bensanderson7144 If they want to be solo and kid free, you shouldn't. It's their choice. But of course, if that's not their plan, then yes, I do as well.

[@BerryKind]

Don't pity me ! 😊

[@sadsack8319]

All women in their 40's with no kids and never been married have done nothing significant in their lives.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@sadsack8319 I'm sorry you feel that way

[@BerryKind]

Lmao. I wouldn't allow marriage to define me....

[@spotlight6507]

1:51 better get a dog

[@mufakkirhussain2816]

So sad. You missed youth and fertility

[@mirianakovachevic748]

It's good to tell oneself it was a choice or it'll feel like being a loser. I prefer truth even if it's ugly.

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

Not everyone feels the need to have someone in their life. It's always a choice. It's also a choice to be in a loveless, unhappy relationship. That's the great thing about your own life, it's your choice. Truth!

[@KateeAngel]

What do you mean? For many people it is a choice! I choose to be childfree, and would do anything to stay childfree for life!

[@Jaycarbrownie12]

Supposedly you just know how she feels lol 😂 how ?

[@mirianakovachevic748]

@@Jaycarbrownie12 Just listen carefully and you'll get it.

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

@@wanderingwithjenny671 You have the best responses to everyone!! Truthful yet also respectful. 😊 I’m in your same boat and feel the same way you do about it!

[@TheVoidxzinex]

looking like you hit the wall full speed

[@wanderingwithjenny671]

@TheVoidxzinex not really sure what the means 🤷‍♀️