INFJ Compatibility - Who is the best life partner for you?

[@evelynwall6054]

Did anyone else see the abbreviations as Nickel, Iron, Titanium, and Selenium? As an INFJ I’m over analyzing this way too much

[@zahraofficialph]

Evelyn Wall 😂

[@Robert-dt3is]

Evelyn Wall LOL yes! I first thought of the periodic table for whatever reason

[@ericwolf9482]

That's what I thought they mean..first.. Brain full of everything!! 😊😳

[@adrjaboor]

Yes

[@redhead_in_florida]

I did now

[@ryuushi26]

Me as an INFJ: ends up being single cause I saw lots of red flags Our standards are really that high

[@Rakinn]

I'm single because I'm too much of a coward to confess

[@maybee...]

Agree, it has always been this way for me, I have yet to meet my perfect other, that person who shares my values. I simply will not settle. I don't mean they have to be perfect, just exemplary, above reproach, high moral standards. Like me.

[@abdisamadadam288]

What u want in relationship please

[@ryuushi26]

@@Rakinn uhm yea same my crush literally fits the standards but I don't wanna confess

[@whoblitzell]

Amen to the high infj standards. I have had women pretty upset when they asked why I hadn't considered them as a romantic interest.. I just try to be honest. Looks alone just don't do it for me..

[@sheledon3272]

ENTP. Been dating an INFJ for a week!! All I need to do so far to keep her happy is cuddle and make her laugh

[@Jpw28993]

only works for a while...she will get tired of it lol

[@alinahMQuantum]

That is what ENTP best at..making his/her INFJ partner happy

[@orthopraxic]

I am on relationship with ENTP but I just feel like~ I am very feminine guy and she s quite masculine lol

[@crisbowman]

@@orthopraxic Is it bad, or just unexpected?

[@orthopraxic]

@@crisbowman Both, at the same time

[@soapmaker2263]

Hey INFJs, INTJs love you 😘. The Ni dom connection is very deep and strong, and provides much needed understanding for two very misunderstood types. We are so similar in many ways, but also quite different, which makes for a comfortable yet intrigued dynamic. All the intuitive doms gel well together as fast friends and often lovers.

[@lilianebader5084]

Amazing! Don't know any INTJ's, would love to though!

[@lilianebader5084]

@@robthc5 Amazing! Don't know any INTJ's, would love to though!

[@tigremonster1645]

im intp and this infj is pissing me off

[@lilianebader5084]

@@tigremonster1645 not sure who you mean, but if you mean me: I am married to an INTP for decades... and you sound just like my husband when he really does not like somebody...

[@tigremonster1645]

@@lilianebader5084 Its this girl I am talking to kind of... I want to have an argument but she is too nice to fight me

[@homebodyheaven6114]

I feel like I’ve never met anyone else like myself. I feel like I understand things I can’t communicate to anyone-they can’t comprehend it, so they don’t receive it well at all. Very important concepts that I wish I could share with someone-just one person who grasps it. Like I’m a total misfit. It makes me feel very lonely. Perhaps I’m INFJ? Not sure what that means.

[@renpatman]

Homebody Heaven, I completely understand. Especially in friendships. At least my husband tries to understand me 😋🇿🇦

[@homebodyheaven6114]

Mine too, thank you. I love him. :-)

[@popcorngal7809]

@Homebody Heaven The INFJ designation is part of 16 personality types based on Myers-Briggs theories. Do a search and you'll find a LOT of info. :) Here's a link to one of many online tests based on the original Myers-Briggs test: www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test btw, I long ago identified as INFJ and definitely felt a sense of relief. I've always felt like a misfit and the sense of relief came from realizing there seems to be a reason, since that personality type is one that's not as prevalent as some of the others. Good luck in your searching!

[@sandrapihlskott3262]

Could be that you are. I believe that I am and I feel the same way. (But not misfit, we are not!) Take the Myer Briggs personality test or listen to some videos to find out in which description you feel most at home. I find it so great just to know that there are others like myself!

[@erika89765]

Homebody Heaven I’m an ENFP, and I feel the same way. I think it’s an NF thing, especially for introverts (my Introverted Feeling is through the roof even if I’m an Extrovert) because they spend more time analyzing and comprehending concepts that no Sensor focuses on. Sometimes it drives me nuts when I talk to my friends about the littlest thing (to me), because they say, “No, stop that, if you keep being so deep I’m going to have an existential crisis here and now.” I’m still in high school, but ever since freshman year opened up I haven’t stopped asking kids and teachers the deepest questions... and not getting too meaningful answers. I swear, are other NFs so hard to find??

[@devinhull7490]

Real INFJ'S saw that first list and started listing the elements they represent xD

[@ericwolf9482]

LOL

[@terrywang7984]

My brain chooses to stick to the element names so firmly that I have to constantly make an effort to avoid reading the letters that way.

[@adrjaboor]

I am the same .

[@liavierra3696]

OH dang YASSSSSS

[@Chuck_N0rris]

Nitrogen, Iron, Titanium and Sulphur. Pretty much describes me.

[@ztir6924]

My ex was an enfp narcissist. He did not know what to do with me except drained all my energy, tried to turn me into someone I am not & forget my values. I blocked him out of my life.

[@mattblom3990]

I'm an ENFP, I am sorry one of my kin fell to the darkside. Most of us love you INFJs!

[@sandrapihlskott3262]

Well done leaving; narcissist are a "personality type" of their own and compleatly destructive.

[@danielakraler37]

Totally sounds like my ex as well... but I’ve 2 kids from him. Can’t block him fully 😒🙄. Idk what personality type my ex is/was but he definitely was a narcissist and I’m INFJ

[@Music6982]

@Naivegedanke I completely fit the characterization of an ENFP and was confused by the coldness of my brother, who I thought was the same type until I learned he was more of an ENTP. We share a lot of similarities, but he is much less sensitive and more goal oriented by nature (naturally egotistical), while I am overwhelmingly empathetic (often lost in emotion) and very easy going.

[@criminalconcept7126]

The fact you blocked him out is like some true infj door slam

[@RubyRobbins88]

My favorite type of person is an ENFP. We get along really well, someday I hope to find one to spend my life with :)

[@Aggiemcdee]

I'm an ENFP married to an INFJ, we've been together for 15 wonderful years, it definitely is an amazing match. ENFP's bring a spontaneity and excitement to the INFJ's life, and ENFP's appreciate the INFJ for the wonderous, empathic and mysterious creatures that they are. There's lots of mutual fascination there. Good luck in finding your match :)

[@FerretL0ve]

I’m an ENFP who has been married to an amazing INFJ for over 11 years, and I can say it isn’t all roses. We share many moral and ideological views, but definitely butt heads a lot too! P.S. In the last few years, I’ve been getting more healthy personally, and smoothing out my rough edges too. It’s not easy to change, but INFJ’s are worth the work!

[@somebodysomeone453]

Same

[@bubblestroubles123]

My boyfriend is an extrovert and he likes to talk A LOT. I was so happy when he and my flatmate met because they would talk for hours while I’d be sitting there listening to them for some time and at one point I’d just stand up and go to my room because they’d drain me 😂

[@Suedetussy]

I‘m an INFJ and adore my ESFJ boyfriend. Of course, he doesn’t have the patience to understand my thoughts. He finds them tiresome and prefers to go out with me and do some activities. But i have no problem with that because i can share those ideas with my friends, too. What makes him so great is that he might not understand me on a deep level, but on a very basic, essential one. I feel very grounded in reality through his understanding of that neglected part of me. Personally, i think that we are opposites that complement each other, he thinks that we‘re are similar, which is very cute of him, because obviously my being different doesn’t matter to him. He feels related to me, because i don’t exploit his kindness - and i respect him exactly for that kindness that he gives to this world in an extraverted way and a hands on mentality.

[@user-rc1my2xc3s]

I'm a sucker for the ENFPs, the older I get the more mature they become and 😍... universe, send me my ENFP ✨

[@lextor4712]

haha, best of luck :)

[@ms.x1669]

I can also relate especially when you said "the older I grow"

[@vitaliyvidz175]

Are you an INFJ?

[@somebodysomeone453]

Same

[@thatguywhois]

I'm a sucker for the INFJs, the more I know them the more magical they become and 😍... universe, make my INFJ crush fall for me pls

[@cassidyv6355]

mr. bo, i'm an infj and married an intj, but we had no idea until after we got married! i think there are enough similarities between us (like seeing the big picture, paying attention to details, intuitive intuition, etc.) that make it helpful to get things done. but our differences in making decisions (thinking vs feeling) make it interesting! he is more logical and can help me see things objectively, while i help him see how his decisions might affect others' feelings, for example. thank you for your video!

[@ispeakpeople]

Awesome, Cassidy! That sounds like a fantastic pairing. Thanks for sharing about your relationship!

[@anhhoang04261989]

Cassidy Villano Hello there! It made me so happy to see your comment. My boyfriend who I believe is my missing piece and I have been together for a year but we just found out that I’m an INFJ and he’s INTJ. Everything you said technically described our relationship. We truly complete each other. Thank you for your comment and I wish you and your husband nothing but the best in life. :)

[@carletouk]

Cassidy Villano I’m an INTJ when I meet an INFJ it feels like I’m talking to an old friend straight away

[@light9623]

I need someone similar. I need someone quiet. I don't want to be dragged out when I say I need time and quiet. I also find it helpful to have someone who is intuitive. I do not have the time for linear thinking patterns in my home life and need someone who can think creatively. I also "think" intuitive people think outside the box and are creative a little more than less intuitive types. Not saying that people who are less intuitive are not as interesting because they certainly are. I just need someone who can access their imagination at will and be creative with me. I also find it pleasing to take care of the mundane aspect of the housework as it makes me feel like I am taking care of my other half and my animals. It's a way I say, "I love you and want to make sure your needs are cared for".

[@journeybeyondthesea]

mary mcclure all of this is 100% true for me too! And I’m an INFJ too

[@Userykp]

Same

[@bennyboy2079]

Where have you been? hahaha

[@Chillipep]

@Sneakers O'Toole I'm and INFJ married to an INTJ (20 years). Communication is sometimes an issue, but I couldn't imagine my life with anyone else.

[@ProdavackaDivu]

I agree if the person has internal intuition (IN) because EN people actually butt heads with me (like my mother who is ENFJ). I like ESTP because even though they have stronger sensing, it is the same external sensing type as INFJ. And they also have internal intuition (IN) just it’s weaker for them.

[@hanna-writes]

I'm an INTJ dating an INFJ, and it's working really well. Since we share the same dominant function we are fundamentally similar in a way that we both really appreciate (especially considering the rarity of our types), but with different auxiliary and tertiary functions, we approach the rest of the world and other people slightly differently, which I think is good for both of us. I remind him that sometimes we need to prioritise ourselves and not care so much about other people's opinions, while he reminds me that sometimes other people's needs should come before our own. Furthermore, our fundamental similarities give us a shared framework within which we can process our differences, and learn to understand and appreciate them. We understand one another, even when we approach things with slightly different perspectives and methods. Generally speaking, I think finding someone who has the same higher perceiving function as yourself is a good idea. You can compromise when it comes to decision-making, but you can't really compromise with the way you think and the way you perceive the world, and finding someone who perceives the world similarly will probably save you a lot of conflict. I wouldn't wanna date someone who didn't have Ni as their primary or auxiliary function, or mayyyybe as their tertiary, if well-developed. I think I'd clash too much with someone with high Ne or Si, or primary Se. The Thinking-Feeling combo and placement are less important to me.

[@fashionmikuxoxo265]

Almost three years with my fiancee and will get married soon. We're both INFJ we both feel so lucky to have each other. 😍😍😍

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

I call it Divine Destiny ~ There is no such thing as luck, usually, we attract each other's energies. It is meant to be in, and written in the Stars, beloved dearest fate! ~

[@larisarusu8935]

The funny thing is that i knew since i was little, that i was different from all the other kids, i was very shy and didn't like talking in public or at meetings, i was thinking alot at subjects that were not easy to reach by other people such as: our purpose in life, our conscience, understanding the other individuals way of acting and behaving, our connection with tha Universe and the law of attraction and many other subjecrs that are not usually of any interest to the majority of people, so growing up as an adult, thinking/feeling differently from the others, encouraged me to take a personality test, i don't know why i waited this long to do it, so i found out just last week that i am an INFJ (very proud of it). I hope that some day a soulmate will come in my life and i could share with him all the beauty that is inside and we can find our way into this wonderfull life that we were given 🙂. Thank you for these very helpfull videos!

[@WarsOfate]

That would be a wonderful idea/plan - from INTJ

[@bananabreadloaf]

I also believe in the law of attraction :3 I’m good at obsessing over reaching the things I want lol 😂 -INFJ

[@FlowergateSystem]

As an INFJ, I love ESFPs and INFPs as friends, but for a serious relationship or marriage, I'm interested in INTPs and INTJs.

[@wildchicken679]

Im an INTP and my sister is an INTJ. From what I have seen and read INTJ’s tend to be more isolationist but once you get to know them they’re fun and like to be structured so try not to mess with their balance. INTPs usually reserved and don’t like superficial relationships. If you catch their attention they’re going to want to know you on a profound level. INTPs don’t usually find people who get them so when you know them in a personal level they hold you closer in their hearts than you may ever know. Creatively explosive conversations and competitive games are fun :) I recommend INTJs though because INTP’s do whatever interests them in the moment and INTJs are predictable and organized so its less to worry about. (Why do I feel like I’m a salesman advertising🤷🏻‍♂️)

[@intheskyyofglass]

@@wildchicken679 hahaaa!! You're selling us, intj-s 😂😂

[@princenduati1535]

Infps are my best friends 😄❤️ ~infj

[@Watch-h5h]

@@wildchicken679Good salesman you are 😂

[@PaperMario64]

Great video. I can fully attest to what you say. I’ve been married 10 years and just found out that we are both INFJs. I did not tell my husband what I was until after he took the test. Because are so similar, it does cause resentment when, for example, things need to get done and no one takes the initiative, and one of us (usually me), has to take the lead. I believe you do need a difference somewhere to help each other grow.

[@ispeakpeople]

Thanks so much for sharing! I really appreciate you offering your experience.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

@@medusa6429 Yeah, that is a possibility, or he ranked low on judgement, he could very well be an INFP who is only slightly border-line, many INFJs mistype on tests. The relationship between an INFP and an INFJ is great, except that INFP does a lot better with ENFP or INTJs, due to wanting someone else to take the initiative for them. Dated an INFP with leanings towards INTP, and it was a complete disaster, the guy never wanted to take the actions, it was hard for him being a male INFP. Being a Pisces INFP, I felt that I was expected to make moves on him instead, because I'm a Leonine INFJ, so he couldn't make decisions and he was flaky, wishy-washy fishy. It was so annoying, because he was trapped in the Dream World of his Mind, and he couldn't get out of his head, since that is a serious INFP problem. Hopefully, they took another Test, they aren't all that accurate, he probably just got the wrong results, or he lacks some self-esteem/self-confidence. It does tend to bother women when we have to take the action initiative and do a man's work for him, men are usually more prone to being action-oriented. Hopefully, you didn't end up in a relationship with another Feminine Energy, because someone has to have the Masculine Energy in a relationship... Although, we all have both energies, someone has to be more action-driven and the other has to be more passive-supportive in the relationship. Friction is caused if you're really not comfortable in your role, unless he is just lacking in confidence, and needs some emotional push/support to force him to be more manly.

[@neriacassandrapalmes4619]

Lol, I'm just gonna say that INFJs fit more with INTPs. My male bestfriend is an INTP and we get along alot! I mostly spend my time with him because we have lots of ideas to talk about. We're really talkative about what the future would be like and we just drift ourselves to daydreaming with hundreds of Arthur or Harry Potter books to discuss. Some people might think the personality is weird but atleast I find it quite comfortable.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Kind of, but not really, INTPs have extremely low emotional empathy at times, and that lack of any emotional bond can kill an INFJ. You have to find a mature/healthy one who actually has a higher EQ, or they'll suck the life out of the INFJ empath. If the INTP is addicted to negative/toxic life styles or is addictd to video games and the Internet, that will kill the INFJ. Since, it is so easy for the OCD/ADD INTP to become fixated on WIkipedia/Documentaries on KZbin/Reddit/etc. It is hard to even have a relationship with one. They can spend all of their time ignoring and neglecting the INFJ, because all they do is play Online, and they can't leave their computer/house to have any actual life. Dated a guy that was an INTP like INFP, but he was kind of cross hybrid, because he seemed to be more emotional based and human than this INTP robot here. Still liked all of the computer stuff, and cancelled practically all of our dates, never spent any time with me during our relationship, and only wanted to hide in his room all the time. Couldn't stand the fact that he never cared to do anything with me, this INFJ girl is dying for some romance, and desperately wants a guy who actually cares to be with me.

[@jourdinthedragon]

@@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013 sorry you had that experience. I can assure you we aren't all that way. I've dated quite a bit for an accrued time of many, many years and I only ever missed one date in my life (my power went out and my alarm didn't go off because of it). Many of us do like video games but for an INTP like myself, I've probably only played 10 hours in the past 2 months. That may sound like a lot, but it's only an average of 10 minutes a day. I'm currently talking to an INFJ and interested in her. She happens to also like video games (and many other nerdy things that cause us to overlap). She also likes hiking and I do but don't push myself to go but she pushes me. Yes, I'm probably less relational than her and more of a homebody, but I know I need to make sure I spend time with people. Hang in there! Regardless of the type of the person, if you have healthy shared interests, common worldview and ethics, and similar direction in life, you can connect with almost any type. Good luck, I hope you find someone caring and attentive

[@Watch-h5h]

@@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013Maybe he was in a phase in his life while dating you.He liked you a lot but not finding interesting or exciting enough to go out together. They can be good mind mate but not for much for physical activities.

[@georgiesmith6449]

As an INfJ, I dont mind mindless or repetitive tasks such as dishes or cleaning house. I can daydream away while doing dishes, staring out my window. I dislike things that require more SE such as running errands or budgeting! I think my husband is an ISTJ. He hates repetitive tasks. So that works in our favor at least! Haha

[@826nicki]

I’m a ISFJ and married to my INFJ husband for 13 years.

[@Jelly-hq7ug]

I could see this working.. I'm infj and my mother is isfj... I adore her sooo much. My mommy is magical. So yup. Good match up hehe

[@vitaliyvidz175]

@Nickisha Davis Seem to be lead to an ISFJ Female. Any thing you think I should know or that would help?

[@sardarkhan7178]

An INFJ here 😊

[@ms89Jean]

ISFJ here 😀❤️

[@maia79]

INFJ here dating an ISFJ for four years, it's been amazing !

[@strna100]

I am an INFJ and I think INFJ´s need a balance..so I need someone who is opposite type. We are creative and little bit crazy. And I don´t care that someone don´t understand me, but I guess I need someone who is more practical, funny, live in present, etc. I need a balance. In life, in the relationships.

[@illestbeetch]

I agree, my partner is the complete opposite of me as an estp but it works because we are opposites so we balance each other out but still share the same morals and values

[@torisolomon4455]

INFJs perfect match is INTJ. Who else can sit home on a Friday night under the covers watching documentaries; while discussing moving out the country because you're both future oriented and concerned about where the nation is headed?

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Yep, INTP couldn't care less, and just ignores life like an Ostrich with his head buried in the sand.

[@evolving.as.jen22]

Sounds like me and my INFJ girlfriend. (I'm ENFP) We live out in the country. Also, we can cuddle in silence for hours ❤️❤️

[@GrafinVonHopper]

@@evolving.as.jen22 Se nesses pontos, vocês (ENFP's) se parecem com os INTJ's, então já posso considerá-los como meu par ideal. O problema que mais me deixa reticente nos ENFP's é a inconstância, a falta de foco e a necessidade de aprovação dos outros. Mas em contrapartida, também não aprecio a frieza e a baixa empatia d que o INTJ tem. Como mulher(INFJ) a decisão entre um e outro tá bem difícil...😞

[@editaquadidi]

As INFJ's , we know the benefits of having a partner so we venture to try it out but it's so exhausting. I know INFJ's are my soulmates but if I stayed with one, I would settle and I have lived so isolated that I know an extrovert would be the best option for me, shame most of them are self centered.

[@josephquinton990]

Dude,you are so lucky to have her in your life.i hope it last a long long time.

[@mattblom3990]

I'm an ENFP and I love INFJs as romantic prospects, I've gone on dates with at least three. Unfortunately, what happens is I hit a social "landmine" with an INFJ, usually a misunderstanding but when they give me the silent treatment my natural inclination is to chase & try to repair things. Unfortunately this only pushes the INFJ away, usually forever.

[@5GcE]

Naivegedanke I don’t think that is enough to block someone completely out of your life. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. I forgive you when you wrong me once or twice, but if there is a continual pattern of wrongdoing with no desire to change it, I will door slam you to protect myself. To block someone for messing up just once, even if it’s horrible for you, is just vengeful and leads to a lonely life.

[@JoBrill07]

@@5GcE Right, well INFJs do it all the time. You need not know them for more than 1/2 hour.

[@5GcE]

Jo Brill I don’t know many other INFJs so I can’t speak to that but as an INFJ I’ve learned that I do have blind spots and sometimes a situation appears differently than it actually is so I investigate first before judging. Only door slammed 2x in my life and one time opened the door again because it was too hasty.

[@JoBrill07]

@@5GcE ...very uncharacteristic to reopen a door. I don't need to know why you were hasty in the first place.

[@JoBrill07]

@Naivegedanke ...too eager to eliminate people before you know them. And that blows.

[@jourdinthedragon]

Came here expecting INTPs to be mentioned in the comments. Leaving disappointed

[@SamSam-ce2br]

My ex was an intp and lemme tell you that he was the best

[@gemmameidia8438]

Im an INTP and my fiance is an INFJ 😆

[@MrsLumiele]

I’m an infj who’s dating intp... he drives me up and down honestly. It’s insane but i cant get enough of it.

[@lilianebader5084]

infj married to intp for 27 years! never tiring, always new things to discuss and go over... lived in many places thanks to him, the beginning was a lot of work! even some heated discussions, but he really was the only person that ever wanted to know me. He loved and adored and appreciated my intelligence and my being... now we learn how to pleasure each other/enjoy each other's company, our relationship has become warmer, more physical... (we neglected to touch/connect enough)... i don't regret anything, not for a moment

[@wildchicken679]

Im an INTP teenager and you both traumatized me. :D

[@williamharrison1080]

I love this dude you're killing me with that microphone

[@ispeakpeople]

Hi, William! Sorry about the microphone. I'm not using that one for videos anymore.

[@williamharrison1080]

No dude I thought it was great because it covered your face in the video and you didn't care

[@ispeakpeople]

Oh, cool. :-)

[@chrismutulis7775]

😊

[@shmooglevitz7281]

INFJ male here, just got with an INTJ male after over a year of meeting. I think we balance our mirror-opposite weak points, as well as strengthen our future-visions of ourselves. The second part is probably what really ties us together: we believe in and support the other wholeheartedly, not because it's "expected", but because we fully think the other will not only reach, but exceed our goals

[@sandrapihlskott3262]

I'd say you're happier with someone you can share life with in the way you long for and prefere, rather than prioritizing the practical side of it, with a practical person that may not understand or appriciate the same things. So draining. Or who want to be social with others all the time.

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

I believe in the idea that opposite traits are great for compatibility. I was biased against sensors thinking I wouldn't be able to have meaningful conversations unless I dated an intuitive. I tended to date INFPs, but their Ne always read things into what I was saying that weren't there. When I started dating an ISFP (my super ego type and compete opposite) all the mental competition left and she took my words at face value dropping pressure and allowed our relationship to breathe. What I lost in intensity I gained in mutual respect for the other's skills that were alien to my personality stack.

[@UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy]

Honestly, I adapt so well to others, I think I’d be able to have a decent relationship with almost any type (I’ve been with INTP, ISFJ, and an ESTP) but I admit there’s some differences that greatly stop me from going long-term like how much I can share my ideas without them zoning out. I understand I can be a bit…intense, but it’s pretty hurtful when my partner can’t be bothered to listen at all. The only people I truly feel I can talk to like that are my INTP cousins, an INTJ friend, and this XNFJ guy I had a massive crush on (but never got anywhere). The conversations are always interesting and can keep going for ages. My current partner is an ISTJ and though he’s a good listener, I can tell there’s also a limit before he wants out of the conversation. We process things so differently we clash a lot in some aspects, but I still appreciate his openness to discussing things until we come to an agreement. So even with all its setbacks, it’s the healthiest and most balanced relationship I’ve had.

[@ailacapitin7755]

As an INFJ I want someone who's an extrovert because I want to absorb their fun side of life, but sometimes I want an introvert (someone who's similar to me) because we share common interests & he'll easily understand me. I don't know how to choose, maybe that's the reason why I'm still single right now. 😑

[@evolving.as.jen22]

That's what makes ENFPs so great; we're the most introverted of the extroverts. Takes some of us a little while to mature and calm down...but when we get there, we're gold. 😉

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Estou no mesmo barco que você😅 Minha dúvida está entre dois parceiros: INTJ e ENFP. Se por por um lado eu admiro uma personalidade confiante, forte, que não depende da aprovação dos outros e que gosta de ficar relaxando em casa; por outro lado, admiro a vivacidade, a transparência, a empatia e um lado mais sensível. Sim, meus amigos, é difícil ser mulher INFJ... Não sei qual deles seria o melhor para mim.😅

[@krisk.4731]

I can see having someone more social, and spontaneous, as beneficial.

[@DebbieHollandNZ]

One problem I have found with choosing someone who is "like you" NF's...... is that idealists tend to read each other too deeply and easily. This can cause you to feel like you have no where to hide. We all need space sometimes within a relationship and when you can both read each others motives emotions etc it can in and of itself lead to conflict.

[@bennyboy2079]

That's true 🤔

[@marvelouslymelrose3518]

My other half is an exrovert im infj. He drains me.

[@SLASHERamc]

Mel Rose :/ be honest, let your extrovert know you feel a little drained from his energy.

[@james12erby43]

Mel Rose Leave him, cause he will never be compatible with you.

[@toriak4720]

My ex extrovert never understood this, and he tried to change me into an extrovert.

[@Music6982]

@library of dragons I agree that it is important to spend time apart. As an ENFP, I love my alone time as much as any introvert and spend most of time playing guitar, gaming, watching videos, or reading about interesting things. At the same rate, I have met high strung ENFPs that are very dependent on others and don't know when to stop talking. There are obviously other variables such as maturity, core values, and having common interests to be met in a partner.

[@Music6982]

​@library of dragons We are idealists and adventurous in the theoretical/abstract sense. The things that make us think deeply and creatively are what excites us. It is often confused with ESFP, whom are more outspoken and tangibly adventurous. Both of us are excitable about a myriad of topics though. *My brothers are ESFP and an ENTP.

[@J4118-h5c]

from experience, infj and isfp is a good combination. for me at least.

[@aljohara6826]

As friends,YES I'm an INFJ and my bestfriend is ISFP we've been bestfriends for almost 17 yrs now and were 22-23 yrs old, but i cant imagine having an ISFP as a partner

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

@@aljohara6826 Yeah, it is a mixed bag, they can be, since I already failed with INFP and INTP, it is highly possibly, ISFP might have close to ISFJ, and since ISFJ is a great person, yeah. ISFJs are great Healers and are the Nurse Personality that goes perfect with INFJs, so if the ISFP has similar traits, but not all of them would/do, so it just depends! ~ You're going to find all kinds of people who are immature/toxic to really great mature/civilized people that it still doesn't work out with. For many people INFP/INTPs are great, just not for me apparently, and I just can't wait to date an INTJ!~

[@katerhinex]

Oh hell naw

[@barrypatrickius]

I am dating another INFJ and she was raised in a similar culture and we share the same faith and politics on top of it. We are both deep people who have no use for superficiality and shallowness and we are both communicative!. I don't know about me, but she is intelligent and interesting(I think she is just being nice when she talks about me). I under the potential for disaster(huge disaster) with two INFJ's who don't share the same world views/core values and two INFJ’s in a relationship will either be a match made in heaven, or something you may never recover from because they knew you the deepest, they understood you, and it still didn’t work(because of different core values/not enough similarities and not enough work on strengthening typical INFJ weaknesses)- but our relationship is unbelievable. We ARE confirmed INJF's but we are both analytical, logical, objective, practical, reasonable and easygoing(except when easygoing isn't appropriate, neither one of us are afraid to confront others). Think of a lively, warm, emotional(in a positive sense), passionate Mr. Spock(from Star Trek). We have both worked on strengthening the inherent weaknesses of INJF's in ourselves before we ever met. We relate on a level that is almost supernatural. We get along almost seamlessly . We understand and comprehend each other as well or better than ourselves and the similarities we share in personality traits, beliefs and opinions are eerie. We always communicate and never shrink from resolving issues, never avoid discussing differences of opinion when they do occur, but in a year and a half we have never had a fight. This stems from our similarities but also from being real, genuine and sincere people and not seeking our own well being first; our strong inclination to meet each other’s needs creates a healthy balance of give and take. Thanks to our auxiliary function of Extroverted Feeling (Fe), my INFJ partner and I have a knack for taking into account the emotional needs of others and we utilize it and apply it to our relationship. That said, my observations of people putting themselves first in any type of friendship/relationship have only deepened my appreciation for my INFJ significant other, who, without thinking twice, seeks to fulfill my needs just as often as I do hers.

[@GurpreetSingh-vs4kg]

Nothing matters, when heart match.

[@santiagoscho]

I think for a long-term partner, it's better to have the same personality. If you want to learn from other personalities, it would be best to get them from friends or people in society.

[@Thehardscrabblelife]

I, too, am married to an istj. It has been frustrating at times, but overall very helpful!

[@jaimeflor4181]

I know 2 other INFJ's online that also married ISTJ's. My mom's an ISTJ as well. In my opinion, they're really good at practical matters like saving money and keeping close track of the details that an intuitive will sometimes overlook.

[@ithacacomments4811]

My husband and I type tested before marriage. We were both INFJ. We had a beautiful, adventurous, best friend courtship. Marriage was a nightmare. His INFJ depressions took him to really dark places. He would totally shut me out. Marriage lasted 4 yrs. We were able to stay friends.

[@sandrapihlskott3262]

So sad to hear that... And guess sometime we can be burned and not want to try the same personality type again. I believe it can be different, depending on severeness of depression and how the person deals with it. Guess general life view plays a part as well, and effect how you deal with depression and other challanges. When being depressed I usually want to be closer, for ex. And usually don't get destructive thougts and such. Hope you'll find happiness if you haven't already.

[@whoblitzell]

You should support your spouse through depression.

[@jaimeflor4181]

I'm an INFJ and my SO of over 2 yrs is an INTJ. My 1st girlfriend was an INFP and my second was likely an ESFP. My INTJ's by far my best match. Even though our introverted intuition is influenced by different cognitive functions, we easily understand each others pattern recognition observations. We both like to dive deep into various subject matter and we both enjoy Se activities together. I've always wanted a partner that has a good understanding of me. She also recently told me, that I'm the 1 person that understands her the best. To be honest though, I think MBTI matchmaking theory is kind of flawed. It's said that ENFP and ENTP our are best matches. Although I have successfully teamed up w/ both of those types for college and music projects, I've never felt drawn to them romantically.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

I feel like they are wrong with that myself, they are great friends/parents, they are perfect mentors for an INFJ, but the worst for a romantic relationship partner. My INTJ is everything that I've always wanted and needed, but Extroverts like ENFP and ENTP are just so high in energy that it is exhausting. I couldn't take that energy drain in my life. Only, the INTJ understands how important rest and relaxation is, that it is nice to simply just lie back and chill watching television with someone, and enjoying the sunset outside. To gaze out at the moon, and the night stars, I love moon-watching and star-gazing after all, the lovely trees and the fields of flowers. Extroverts are just way to active for me.

[@jaimeflor4181]

Snowflake Star Princess Akiko Sparkle Queen I agree. My first girlfriend was an INFP and that was a very emotionally chaotic experience. I like Ne dom’s as friends, but they’re too random , messy and high energy for me. It’s draining and frustrating, even though I generally get along with them. My INTJ girlfriend is all I could ask for. She gives me space, she understands my Ni observations without much effort, and she’s very motivated about achieving her goals. I lived with my ENTP friend for a month, and it was a terrible experience. I live off and on with my INTJ, and it’s super easygoing. I guess we could all want something different though. I prefer having more in common cognitively and sharing a preference for planning/organization.

[@littlemars4482]

I'm an INFJ and I'm hopelessly attracted to ISFJ, ENFJ, ENFP and ESFP personalities because they just seem to get along with everyone without trying and I lack that, but I can't stand ENTPs, ESTPs, INTPs and INTJs because most of the people that I Met Who where like that only judged me and tried to push me out of my comfort zone. I think I only met one INFJ so far and when we shared our feelings with each other we would become even more depressed.

[@whoblitzell]

Sounds like two infj Ts. Infj a is more assertive and confident but can annoy people by seeking way too detached and confident

[@filledelalune1318]

I naturally gravitate more towards ppl that are similar to me. But still on the process of knowing & understanding myself better... I believe I'm an INFJ, but then again, I also have some traits that are non-INFJ. They say, INFJs are like walking paradoxes, maybe some are. That is what resonates within me the most. An introvert who is also open to see the world & experience possibly all that it can offer. Intuitive but also uses rationality. May be a thinker, but isn't all wrap up in one's head all day long; rather, enjoys life's pleasures too. Maybe, not everyone fully fit in 1 box or just 1 box. As for compatibility, I agree w/ openness. But I also think, alike ppl may not necessarily be boring together, if both enjoy travelling or taking on adventures for example, I believe that ain't boring at all 😅😃

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

We're the only personality that is completely 50%/50% balanced between analytical thoughts and feelings. We're unique in this, we don't go one way or the other. Even INTJs are completely thought-based first and foremost (even when deeply passionate), but INFJs are feelers who are pretty much completely centered with our minds. Some couples are okay with being boring, but they don't have any growth in their lives, I see an ISTJ and ESFJ here, that are completely perfectly complacent and status quo. They seem to love their lives, but they don't do anything, their lives revolve around their jobs and watching reality tv shows together. They don't go on adventures or leave the house. As two healthy enough individuals, they spend all of their time indoors, and almost never do anything, because they are just happy and familiar/comfortable in their marriage. That is not a life this INFJ girl wants to ever live, for me a marriage like that is insanely boring, I'd want to travel and go on endless adventures, I'd never be happy watching tv like that. Living like robots, I can tell that the ESFJ has deep anger and resentment stemming from his childhood, that he never resolved with his dead parents/sister, and his living brother. He seems to be deeply emotionally tortured by the past, and can't seem to ever be happy, because all he does is watch television every single day/night. That living and working in his own home seem to be making it worse, and he has no friends to go and hang out with, I bet he might be agonizing over his older brother who doesn't like him. It is tragic just watching this scenario play out daily, since he seems to have no ability to fix his emotional imbalance or his life, he just prefers to do nothing every day as it gets worse. Also, it feels like he probably has hidden emotional distress over not connecting to his daughter and son better, because his son is an INTP, and his daughter has mental issues. He seems to be losing control of his emotions as an ESFJ, and uses food to comfort himself, because I worry that he needs to visit a Psychiatrist, and get some Therapy. Of course INTP and ESFJ can't connect, they are the complete polar opposite mirror reflection of each other! ~ Does he feel angry because he can't have a better father-son bond? That his son is entirely unlike him? That his daughter doesn't love/care about either of her parents? She is a Narcissistic Asocial person, who doesn't know how to develop emotions and love for her parents, and has never had a romantic date/relationship in 41 years of her life so far. Being full of unresolved rage/resentment and past childhood trauma, yet, not even bothering to fix any of it, and neither of them ever leave the house to travel/adventure in their lives.

[@whoblitzell]

There are infj t and infj a types. Infj t is very insecure and over thinking. Infj a is very empathetic but assertive and almost too confident. It tends to bother independent women that don't want a guy like being too masculine or something. I have been told arrogance is off putting but truthfully I don't feel in anything special I just know what I like and don't like

[@medhud609]

But it's kind hard for me to meet another intuitive, there were just many sensing arround me

[@ms.x1669]

It's like you described a Pisces Capricorn relationship as the ideal. I am an infj-t and a Pisces. Capricorn seems like the best partner for me especially since they're more practical and realistic and I'm a dreamer and empath.

[@angelicamartinezr.8965]

Astrology is bullshit.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

This is even more in-depth and accurate however, as a Leo that is somewhat near Cancer, I'm in love with a Scorpio, but I dated a Pisces and it was a disaster. Capricorns can tend to be incredibly toxic and pessimistic (especially the males!), every male Capricorn I've known is a depressing negative influence! ~ Yet, female Capricorns tend to be awesome and strong, self-sufficient and independent women, I just feel that they lack any emotional passion for the most part in life. My Capricorn friend is a female INTJ, so of course she has passion for her career, her children, and her husband, you just don't see that often if you're not any of those 3. This Leo I know here is completely unlike me, she has 4 planets in Capricorn, and she is an ISTJ, meanwhile I'm an INFJ, completely different and lacking in any emotional expression. Despite being a fiery Leonine woman, she never seems to show off passion and excitement for anything in her life, and is living like a robot. ISTJs are known for being the least excitable people, to INTJs being the most, and it is very strange to see her live her life so robot-like, with mundane routine tasks. Bores the living daylights out of me, but she is happy and doesn't seem to care to do anything else in her life than this. There are so many differences that Myer's Briggs can talk about that Astrology can't, and one person is very much unlike the other! ~ Some Aquarians/Sagittarians seem to never get along with this Leo, and yet others online seem to be pretty awesome and cool people on KZbin. Astrology claimed that Libra was great with Leo, and that Scorpio was mixed results, but I find that INTJ is all that matters, Libra INTP doesn't work, Pisces INFP/INTP doesn't work. Yet, I'm praying to the heavens and the spirits of the universal cosmos, that INTJ Scorpio will finally work, because this INFJ lady wants to have her Soul Mate and Divine Love ~

[@evolving.as.jen22]

I'm an ENFP. My ex-wife was ENTP, and it was not a great fit for either one of us in the long run. Every single one of my closest friends, my mom, and my girlfriend are INFJ. That personality type is a great fit for me! My INFJ girlfriend is amazing. I love INFJs.

[@marimon3199]

I have met a entp, it did not go well romantically.. I have to say I think I’m more compatible with a enfp but esfp’s fascinates me

[@EH_888]

An entp wouldn't be ideal for me either.

[@Killinemkid]

INTPs are a much better fit

[@orthopraxic]

It depends. I am a constantly deeply thinker version of male INFJ and I am better with ENTP. Butttt...yeah ENTPs are lil bit stubborn

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

INTJs are the Best Soul Mates ever, ENTPs don't work well because they are closer to ESTPs, our exact polar mirror reflection opposites. The INFPs and ENFPs are great, and ESFPs are fun, but they probably won't work, because most Introverts can't stand strong Extroversion. ENFPs are the most Introverted Extroverts. If you want an Extrovert, you try the ENFPs, but ENTP might work, it is just that they are known to be bullies, that is just how they act in love. See the ENFPs are Feelers, they understand emotions and feelings, but ENTPs run away from their emotions, they don't like feelings, they truly don't, bullying is their way of flirting. When they Bully You, it just means that they either love you, or they care about your self-improvement as a buddy/friend, but this annoys the living daylight sout of us INFJs. Being Empaths we're to sensitive for their bully antics (usually), unless we're closer to our shadow-work demonic side ESTP flip reversal and darker gothic INFJs. Now, ENTP works great with ENFPs and INTJs, and great friend/debate partners with INTPs, because they need people who don't get so sensitive and emotional like an Empath does. Unfortunately, they are well known for bullying and constantly picking on INFPs/ISFPs, and although not as bad as the ESTJs are, they do have close similarities shared with ENTJs. Much like the ENTJ, they have minions, they are bosses/authority figures, they love to boss people around, and telling others what to do, which is what INTJ and INFJs both despise. We hate it when they tell us what to do, we're far to self-sufficient and independent to be obeying anyone else, despite what the ENTP believes, so we can't stand them sometimes.

[@TrueSkoolMusic]

This is great and i answered my last question on the other page before i found this. great thanks!!

[@gemmameidia8438]

Im an INTP and my fiance is an INFJ, it was kinda hard for us at the begining since we know each other from being friend with no any special feeling till we know something is going on between us, then we started dating and on the very early it was kinda hard since we argue a alot about our own opinion and stuff but we just dont give up easily, we learned each other more and more and started to understand each other and things are going fine now since we decided to marry 😊 I think my INFJ fiance loves to do problem solving as how Im as INTP and thats why we always try to solve things together even when we have a different opinion. He is really forgiving towards me when Im being so emotional as a woman so do I forgiving him since I love him, we learn to control our anger and emotion towards each other and compromising. But the interesting thing is that when we took MBTI test couple times, I got INTJ twice and my fiance got INTJ once as well, idk if it has something to do with our compatibility or if its just how we just loves each other. Ik its hard for him to let me go and so do I, we never think of it anyway as it is hard for both of us to actually falling in love with someone, well tmi..

[@mariamkinen8036]

💕makes sense. 💜your channel.

[@sirphil13]

Intuitives may benefit by having a dishwasher, it'll cut down on relationship static, weekly bickering, and resentment. That extra harmony time then can best be used for exploration (inner or outer).

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

I'd say it is a must, lolz. My husband also has to do all power machine tool work, and take out the trash, I hate vacuums and telephones. Anything loud or disgusting must be handled by him, he must do the lawnmower/weed trimming/weed-work and anything involving noises/bugs. I'm incredibly squeamish and can't stand insect removal and pest control, I don't like any form of chemicals, I'm entirely au naturale. He must understand that I'm deeply sensitive and empathetic, that it is hard for me to do things, and that I'm slow as a snail when I do things in life. Yeah, I don't mind doing chores, if I'm given extra time, because I'm slower than most people, and I'll never be efficient/more practical at doing anything. If he complains that I don't do things correctly, I'd say he can always clean better than I ever could, because I know I'm contradictory ,and that I don't make sense as a paradoxical INFJ.

[@MusiicRoolz]

damn this tru. i always end up doing the fucking dishes for my infp best friend

[@bananabreadloaf]

Haha yeah, sometimes I wish I could pay someone to do my dishes for me because I don’t want to so badly

[@whoblitzell]

@@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013 I've learned the key to happiness with INFJ women is to always listen to their thoughts and feelings seriously even if they're angry and just keep communication open. Also it helps to do all the house work and just be there for your spouse. My wife would hate me for saying it but we get along very well due to not arguing really.

[@BothSidesNow52]

I don't think it works like this at all. As an INFJ I don't mind doing housework and other practical activities. I think there is too much analysis and binary thinking here.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Everyone of us is different, I hate doing housework and practical activities as much as INTJs do. I can't stand it, but I'd have to share with my partner, and be fair to him.

[@ottots0093]

I'm an INFP and my partner is an INFJ...

[@tomu7942]

Be honest whats the cons in your relationship being infp and infj

[@ottots0093]

@@tomu7942 we think differently and have different ways of doing things. Sometimes that makes us bump heads. We learned to adjust and try to understand how we do things. We balance each other out. My partner is very precise and calculated, I throw caution to the wind and just go with the flow.

[@whoblitzell]

Another INFJ is what I need. Someone with the patience to understand me and to not rush me into sex. I have trouble with intimacy and would like to find the kind of woman that never shouts or hits her husband or demeans him verbally. I feel I bring a lot to the table as well. Make enough money for her to not have to work. Try to always be kind and considerate to my SO and I try my best to be genuine and honest with at least my romantic partners. My last wife was unhealthy infj. But so far I have only dated other infjs and I don't wish to stop doing so now. Would rather be alone than with the wrong type of person

[@Chuck_N0rris]

I think a lot of personalities can be a perfect match. I like other INFJs, ISFJs, INFPs. I dont know too much about the typologies but I like some extroverts too. I like to keep some privacy always. I am a quite private person so I would rarely fully commit. If I do, I would never leave you anyways so it is quite a big deal.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

The spectrum makes us close to ISFJs and INFPs, but the problem is, unless they are the right place on their personality spectrum, it just won't work. You might try so many factors, and the person is just completely wrong for you in all ways. So yeah, it can work, but it usually won't most likely. It is just hard to get an INFP out of their head, they daydream their lives away, and it might take a stronger Extrovert than any INFJ to pull the mout of that inner world of theirs. INFPs go perfectly with their fellow type ENFPs or ENTPs, even ESTPs at times I'd imagine, or even ENTJs, they'd just need a strong Extrovert to pull them out of their Introversion. Although, ESFPs might be far to much drama for the INFP harmonious daydreamers, and ESTPs can be trouble-makers for sure, they really do appreciate a strong Extroverted person. Meanwhile, us INFJs usually can't stand a strong Extroverted person, and much like our kindred spirit soul-mate INTJs, we tend to have serious issues with ESXX's. Extroverted Sensors can be the worst, urghh, and although ISFJs aren't as bad as ESFJs, I seriously can't stand ESFJs and ESTPs... That Sensor part is a huge problem for me, and most INFJs, because they can't understand us at all, even though we want Harmony and we desire to be people-pleasers. The ESFJs/ESTPs are usually extremely abusive and cruel to us INFJs, because they don't understand how we work, so they can be very loud/obnoxious/shout/yell at us. Along with ESTJs who are terrifying, and downright scare the living daylights out of me, they tend to be overly emotional people who can't control their anger/rage issues. They harbor resentments towards other people in their lives, and take it out on the poor little scapegoat INFJs (if no INFP/ISFPs are around to bully/shout at anyway). For them, the world is a completely different and opposite place than it is for us, since ESTP is our exact polar opposite shadow-side demonic function, lowest cognitive abilities. They are our reversal, the way we become when we are toxic and deranged, our shadow-selves in the mirror reflection, so they can't understand us whatsoever. ESTPs tend to have serious problems working on self-improvement, and get stuck in toxic immature bad habits and low dark energy vibes, which we INFJs can't stand at all. Nearly the entirely opposite anti-empath, they can't understand how sensitive and vulnerable we are on a spiritual energy based level, of having to absorb all energy in our vicinity.

[@sardarkhan7178]

An INFJ here 😊

[@chatsmaili3677]

I'm an enfp and I fall in love with an infj at first he was so open up to me and now I feel like he ignores me :/

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Yeah, ENFPs always attract/want to find either INFJs or INTJs. However, INFJ/INTJs also attract each other, and who knows what he is thinking/feeling. He is doing that same ghosting/vanishing act that INFPs do now? Maybe, he is mis-typed and is an INFP, or he has immaturity/emotional baggage relationship issues. Remember, many people are actually incorrectly typed on the Test, some INFJs are actually INFPs, and they are notoriously bad at ghosting people! ~ However, INFJs can do the same thing, it is just we usually do the door slam and say goodbye permanently, instead of continuously ghosting you like an INFP. This is due to our judgmental function, he might be low on J, and is acting indecisively like an INFP instead. Unless, he is really just lacking in self-confidence or something. He might be harmonious, and is afraid of hurting your, or is in some bad mood where he wants alone time, that he is worried about lowing his INFJ barriers. We build thousands of walls, and we never want to let anyone in, he might have emotional issue intimacy fears and anxieties, he might be overly neurotic, etc. Only thing you can do is be patient and pray/hope/try your best efforts, because everyone has their own issues in life, and it is hard for anyone who isn't an INFJ to see through them. If he is building walls, and maintaining to many barriers, he might have had a bad life/bad childhood experiences, he'll have to be a slower relationship for you. We don't start relationships unless we truly feel that the person is worth it, we only want marriage material most times, but we are highly secretive/reserved people! ~ As we never date around, we hate flings and affairs, you need to give us plenty of time to make up our minds and sort through our emotions and feelings.

[@whoblitzell]

Door slam can be tough but sounds like he's moved on already..

[@renpatman]

Love that you get right into it😃🇿🇦

[@rogerjozzi1050]

Hey home girl🇿🇦

[@KIMandROSS]

INFJ South Africans 🇿🇦🙋🏻‍♀️

[@ria0991]

I like grocery shopping, washing dishes and paying the bills🤣🤣 i hate mopping though... As an INFJ i suck communicating my ideas verbally but recently found out a year ago I'm good at writing. Better expressing my ideas with a pencil or pen. I can never find the right words sometimes with verbal communication.

[@preciousgoje2193]

I prefer NTs. Intjs, intps, entps, and entjs in that order.

[@mtngirlbunny9290]

Very well done!

[@ispeakpeople]

Thanks! I'm glad you liked the video.

[@themessinbetween]

Am gonna have my boyfriend take this test tonight... Guys wish me luck...I want a ENFP

[@wildchicken679]

Lordess Ciny You’re not dumping if he’s not. That’d be a shitty move.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

You can tell without the test what he is, if you know him at all. How does he live his life and feel to you? Especially, if you're an INFJ/INTJ, you should be able to tell already. However, I'd say that they tend to be huggable, and extremely friendly and awesome people, I love them, and if INTJ ever failed me, I'd go to them for comfort/best friend status. Don't think I could make a relationship work with an Extrovert, but they are the closest to Introvert, so as I'm a higher Extroverted 33% INFJ, I'm the most Extroverted Introvert, *Shrug*. Can always count on them for laughs, to cheer you up, and give plenty of emotional support/affection when you're feeling down and out anyway.

[@bananabreadloaf]

Just use the result to better understand him and look up best ways that your types can get along. Use this to get closer not to judge him for his type

[@BlakePompu121]

My wife and I have been married for 30 years. I always give her the instructions to hold while I put together the furniture without any instruction. Inevitably if I where to try read the instructions she'd just grab them out of my hands anyway. I figure I'm just saving a step. She figures I'm being a smart ass.

[@8butsideways295]

Really nice video... It certainly helped.. 🙌

[@SaskGramCracker]

How do I control how my soul decides to connect with what people. When ever my ex gf is dealing with anxiety or stress and it doesnt matter where she is in this world I'll be point on with her emotions.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

If you're an INFJ you can't and don't/won't. We're hard-wired into the Universal Energy as Seers, we're born this way and it won't ever change. For us, that is our natural unconscious way of being, we're true empaths, you'll resonance and feel what you're meant to feel always. We build walls and boundaries for this reason. You block it out with music/art/games/distract yourself. Being an Empath is hard though, it is simply the way that our life is.

[@whoblitzell]

@@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013 Its a lot harder when you don't build the walls or when you leave from behind them. People I knew for years didn't want anything to do with me. Saying I had changed. I hadn't changed i was sick of hiding myself all the time. After my exwife left me I decided life's short and I am just going to be emotionally honest with people even if offends them

[@mizenkah]

As an INFJ I am very happy with my ESTJ better half for more than a decade Alhamdulilah, but sometimes we do have our challenges in understanding each other’s “language” (Mars vs Venus), also our interest fields are different, I like sci-fi movies and stuff like that and she is not. The funny thing is that I found MBTI like 1,5 years ago which made more sense to me about our differences from MBTI perspective, while prior to our marriage we relied our bets a bit on western and Chinese horoscope signs and compatibilities and my desire to have someone with the same religion, community, values and traditions, while have an outgoing personality in contrary to my shy personality

[@vistinaeo758]

How good is INFJ with INFJ relationship??

[@fashionmikuxoxo265]

Awesome!! 😍😍

[@vistinaeo758]

@@fashionmikuxoxo265 we broke up

[@SamSam-ce2br]

He was an infj like me and he just got me pissed all the time but we sometimes understand each other but still prefer something different of what i am

[@vistinaeo758]

@@SamSam-ce2br we broke up now. thanks

[@SamSam-ce2br]

Im sorry 💜

[@HistoiresdefouCarolineHenry]

I’m wondering as I’m listening to your videos, if I’m choosing the right path as I’m about to go back to school to become a psychologist.

[@heffthehecked]

For number two, i think butting heads is nice tho, bc it means there is another logical perspective you're unintentionally not considering, and a thinker keeps you down to earth, compared to someone who will agree with you and you both could be lost. Obviously number two is quite debatable because it is a matter of preference.

[@privatebrowncake]

Anybody else started listing the chemical elements? 😂

[@rayw3332]

Insightful! Sticking to cognitive functions and their interactions, nice. The relationship conundrum...like me, or complements me(?). I would hope to find somebody who understands me but I now see that as a herculean task and beyond expectation. The next greatest task that another type could accomplish would be, is to get me out of my INFJ head!

[@ispeakpeople]

:-) That's a big one, Ray! But there's a lot of value to your thoughts and thought process. Thanks for your comment!

[@robincoulter581]

Okay. Not following a Manuel and inventory of parts means that product will not last as long

[@SamSam-ce2br]

What about esfj and infj guys 😍

[@curli-lettey4319]

I'm an ISFJ, don't know the breakdown if I am compatible with the INFJ.

[@bananabreadloaf]

Probably with one wants someone different and not similar. But I dated a guy I believe was an isfj or isfp and I felt really alone and misunderstood, and to make it worse he thought he did understand, but he saw something other than me and not the real me. And I could tell but he didn’t want to listen to me try to be understood. So it did not work well for me. -INFJ

[@katherinefoster5659]

Being INFJ, ITS SO HARD TO FIND SOMEONE WHO CAN I CONNECT. I FINALLY FOUND SOMEONE INFP FOR MYSELF BUT HIS LEAVING GOING TO JAPAN FOR 2 YEARS. BECAUSE OF HIS JOB, JUST PRAYING FOR HIS SAFETY AND EVERYTHING THE BEST FOR HIM. IM HOPING HE WILL COME BACK FOR ME!!

[@5thring791]

Hmm. I just came here from you INTP/INFJ "why they click" video. I'm getting some slightly mixed signals.

[@theoduval1408]

I don’t know that he is such a great commentator for the INFJ experience...and how the heck did he end up married to an ISTJ? Where was his intuition on that one? Were the two of them forced together at church camp by the elders or something?

[@glosh100]

Me has an INFJ muy brain has to turn off for me to like someone

[@mimimimz6719]

Can you please address in depth INFJ and ISTJ relationship. I heard you mention that your wife is an ISTJ, and I (an INFJ like yourself) have been in a long term relationship with an ISTJ. These two types are not suppose to be a good match, or so I read, since they are complete opposites. Thank you.

[@ispeakpeople]

Thanks for the suggestion! I will make a note to explore it soon. In the meantime, you might enjoy this podcast on the same topic: www.buzzsprout.com/117488/633301-episode-028-is-an-istj-the-best-soulmate-for-you

[@mimimimz6719]

I Speak People Thank you for your response ☺

[@mimimimz6719]

I Speak People I just finished listening to your podcast. Thank you for suggesting it. It was helpful. Your wife and you are a lovely couple, and I wish you all the best. Thank you both for opening a part of your life and sharing.

[@ispeakpeople]

You are very welcome, Mimi!

[@theoduval1408]

What attracted you to an ISTJ, for me, even if there was no one else on earth it wouldn’t happen. There is more to some INFJs than just being INFJ.

[@jaredmiller824]

Have you ever looked into Socionics? it talks about a lot of this type of thing for all different types in a relatively simple format. Socionics would say the "Optimal" relation is "Duality", which means both the first functions (Leading Function) are the same as the partners 3rd (Role Function). en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socionics My (INTP) Coworker has been looking into this lately and i'd like an older INFJ's perspective on this. Love the Vids btw

[@jenlan7440]

I made reference to this some videos ago as well. Your statement is not entirely correct. The dual has the reverse cognitive stack (i.e. an Ni-doms dual would be an Se-dom), for the INFJ therefore an ESTP. But as I'm not an "older INFJ", so per your comment you probably wouldn't like my perspective.

[@jaredmiller824]

After looking at it again i realized the diagram confused me. Yes, and thanks

[@ispeakpeople]

Jared, I haven't checked out Socionics. Hearing from you and Jen, it looks like I need to. Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad that you're enjoying the videos!

[@EH_888]

Hello. I believe that it is all subjective and based on personal preferences. -infj

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

@@jenlan7440 I'd say from my life experience that ESTPs are a complete nightmare, and ENTP would be slightly better, but INTJ is our Soul Mate Dream Match! ~ Lolz, yeah, I'd never want to be with my polar direct mirror reflection complete opposite, they're a complete chaotic nightmare. They can't understand on any level how an INFJ works, and they are extremely abusive and cruel, lacking emotional quotient understanding and empathy. Scare the living daylights out of me, I'd never date an ESTJ/ESTP ever, I'd consider an ENTP but they are known as being bullies, and never ever an ESXX. Can't stand Extroverted Sensors, and ENFP is the only one I'd consider, unless the ESFP was close border-line Introverted, but I don't think ISFP would ever work either. *Shrug* The ISTJ and ISTPs are the most boring people in life, along with INTPs, and INFPs just don't even want a relationship at all, they ghost and vanish on you when you date them.

[@shiannemcpherson1836]

I agree it’s important to establish what things you want to be similar or alike on and what things you want to be different on. That’s the key

[@ProdavackaDivu]

I bet ESTP would be our ideal mate because they have the same four functions as INFJ (NiFeTiSe) except they excel at SeTi whereas we excel at NiFe. I truly enjoy social and physical activities, but it’s so much easier when I have someone who is more confident Se than me to get me out more. And they still have Fe so they care about others’ feelings, and they have Ti so they can meet us at our intellectual level.

[@matilda4406]

that was helpful

[@TaxEvasi0n]

I wish I knew what I was (ISFJ or INFJ) so I could determine the perfect partner to look for (that sounds so bad though. I just want the highest chance possible for the best relationship possible).

[@mariemoss5946]

No I understand about wanting to find someone who is compatible with myself. I think paying attention to how you communicate and noticing what kinds of things you like would help you know which one you are.

[@mariemoss5946]

If you like things that are different of kind off the beaten path you would be a N but if you are a S you would like things that are more traditional.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Sensors look towards Past Experiences and judge based on the Practical, do you look towards History, or do you look towards the Future as a Visionary? Do you connect more with Nurses or with Psychiatrist/Guidance Counsellors? Do people automatically tel lyou their life story when you never asked for it, especially online? Complete strangers online will tell me their life story without being asked, they see an INFJ, and they seek out emotional/mental healing instead of physical healing. Can you see into someone's very soul, do you pick up on the energy vibes in the atmosphere, can you predict events based on feelings like an Oracle/Seer? ISFJs are normal people who are great and helpful/healing, usually Type 2 Helper Enneagram, meanwhile INFJs are mystical faeries and are magical random intuitives. We get "Ah Ha" Moments of Eureka Flash Intuition, and our Intellects are random, we don't merely memorize and follow the set instructions/protocols/information we are given. There is a huge and easy to tell difference right there, Nurses usually can't be that Empathetic, or they'd crumble under the pressure of their jobs. INFJs automatically and unconciously turn into social chameleons and can pretend to be/seamlessly blend in with any other personality type in life. We're known to be social butterflies, and the most extroverted of all introverts, we can do all kinds of things, yet, we tend to be Type 4 Romantics like INFPs or Type 6 Loyalists. With our high levels of Neuroticism and Anxiety, we can fit right in with Type 5 Thinker (INTPs/INTJs), or the Type 6 Loyalist Skeptic (INTPs/INTJs). Some of us might be Type 1 Reformer/Perfectionists like INTJs, but we're probably Type 4, with Type 3 Performer Wing, and Type 5 Thinker for our over-analyzing people personality. What makes ISFJs great Nurses and Healers is the fact that they have Type 2 Helper, with Wings in Type One Reformer/Perfectionism and Type 3 Performer. So, how do you make decisions? Do you look towards that traditional tried and true method, the practical information, or towards the future and create your own new way in life?

[@Chi181]

For some reasons why the istp types..soo all those yellow types listed on 16 personalities sometimes seem too shwallow to me..and then i distance myself from theme. On the other hand i have zero Problems with intps/isfj types. No clue why.i guess the yellow types are opposites from me and that creates the conflict. And honestly no idea how to fix that.www.16personalities.com/de/personlichkeitstypen i am infj.

[@franjay5585]

Im an ISFJ and find myself in love with an INFJ, problem is this INFJ is already in an on and off (complex) relationship. I want to comfort this person and try and help them just be happy in the end and would sacrifice my happiness for theirs because generally im used to sadness. As an INFJ how do you think i should proceed when trying to get closer to this person and help them through difficult times?

[@f.s.2642]

Are you still with this person?

[@mariamkinen8036]

I'm not considering going into relationship in this much pain n inconvenience . Never here. I will only need a safe reversal surgery to have my life back. I am mother to my beautiful daughter. In English.

[@silentecho4445]

I there a dating site 4 us, its going to be hard to find a INFJ woman. There's only 10% of us.

[@georgh4678]

can i contac you in any way directly i write romance and im very carfully with such personal things. thx

[@ispeakpeople]

Hi, Georg. You can get in touch with me via the contact form at the bottom of my website: ispeakpeople.com.

[@ispeakpeople]

George, I saw that you messaged me via my Facebook page, but I can't access it for some reason. Could you please contact me using the method I described above?

[@georgh4678]

I hope now it works i found it after endless search.aidblocker problem XD sorry that this take so long wish you a good day or night and I await your reply for my problem see you

[@Robert-dt3is]

All of a sudden I feel at home here

[@bennyboy2079]

Mate I'm 41...always new I was different from most , now this makes so much sense

[@Betscu.]

I am my best partner.

[@sarahcarter4671]

Infp in love with an infj here oops;;

[@blackdog1153]

No one...never married already told that I will never either.

[@meronoche2033]

Omg I wish I knew this before i lost somebody specially i could at list know his personality.😢😢so sad . But I feel like we are the same we pretty much try to show each other power over each other we have the same things most of the time ,except he is more calm and organized when it comes to anger and stuff 🤔interesting .

[@Syllogistically]

Forever alone

[@SLASHERamc]

Okay, off the bat I don't like T personalities, I think I need a person to help me out of my shell sometimes an E, so I guess I'm looking for a E and F personality type.

[@viktoriakandzia2151]

ENFJ Or ESFJ

[@chickedeedee292]

The voice keeps breaking

[@sheledon3272]

I was the 420'th like ; )

[@bananabreadloaf]

Nice!