It's Normal To Be a Loser Before Becoming Successful

[@Denmosocial]

Men start out at the lowest level, but can achieve the highest level. Keep going G

[@patrickdelfanian253]

What I learned from my most recent date is a quality woman doesn't judge you like the internet has you believe. Restored my faith in humanity. It basically confirmed the message of this channel.

[@Denmosocial]

facts. The internet is like an echochamber of incel farts

[@Jedilord882]

Can’t even get one woman to give me a chance 😂

[@phabeondominguez5971]

​@@Jedilord882 then the issue is you, ya cold approaching people or nah? How's that going for you?

[@UCPDeltaDesertNightCamo2026]

​@@Denmosocialit creates false information and manipulation very evil qualities

[@Sh0ckmaster]

I can fully agree with this. Spent all my 20s and almost all my 30s as a loser. I am 6'7''/201cm tall, but weighing a disgusting 507lbs/230kg at my worst and struggling with my weight meant that I was never going to get anywhere with women. Finally sorting my weight a few years ago and realising what mistakes I'd been making was a huge turning point for me. The black pill BS was jettisoned quickly and I used Denmo's approach videos and the discord to improve myself. Results: Next week is my 40th birthday, I've had a girlfriend for almost 7 months and every other facet of my life (Career, health, organisational skills, nutrition etc) is better. Feels nice to finally have a bright future.

[@promise4779]

Great job man I'm much younger than you but you've clearly made a ton of progress and I hope you continue on your path to success. I usually go by the thought that when I'm on my death bed if I can look back on my life and be proud of what I've done I'll think I lived a fulfilling life and that's enough for me because this is my personal belief (totally fine to disagree everyone has their own morals and beliefs) I do my best to go to bed proud of my day because that's kinda the short form version of life kinda like the 1/infinity of calculus or integral and if you can find fulfillment in those you should be able to find fulfillment in your life. Overall, great work man and I hope you can continue to work towards the life of your dreams

[@Accentx]

Nice one, good luck to all of us

[@giveitatry951]

Thats great, im 32 and im in a kind of similar situation like you. The sad part is that it takes some people half their live or more time to get in better situation

[@Accentx]

@@giveitatry951 I am 31 and I believe that there are many of us. I started my journey of change at 29 and while my body is only improving, other aspects are bad. In fact, each person has his own starting point. But it’s amazing how the Internet has leveled everyone who succumbed to cheap dopamine. It's really sad when we realize the time wasted. We're moving while we're alive. Think about this, there are people who realize such things at 50+, living on autopilot for various reasons. So I think we won a big win because our thinking has changed.

[@Denmosocial]

bro that is amazing. you gotta send me an email with a testimonial haha

[@ResilientSurfer]

Nothing wrong with living with family until you can get on your feet.

[@Denmosocial]

agreed

[@UCPDeltaDesertNightCamo2026]

​@@DenmosocialI'm 19 and still at rock

[@thoughten]

21. Same here

[@walidechchafnajebendourou3369]

Denmo doing god's work, saving people's bloodline.

[@Denmosocial]

i like that motto. saving peoples bloodlines lmao

[@MrXslim]

We all gotta start somewhere

[@AnointedOne4God]

Thanks demno, I’m somebody that always focused on business and let my social skills decay. But now I’m taking time off work and approaching men and women and getting my skills up. It isn’t always easy. But it is rewarding. I get better daily. I’m not quitting until I have a cute girl by my side. Thanks for the motivation today. Love you bro

[@mathius_dragoon532]

There is a quote that says "Nothing succeeds like success". This is definitely true in the dating world. Repeatedly failing with women tends to create the conditions for even more failure. It's a vicious cycle.

[@cristian.ilie.018]

Everybody's amazing, you have got this ! You are already doing it !!!

[@Virtusstrong]

I’m a overthinker Mr.Denmo

[@philoni5368]

Did NOT expect a pink Floyd lyric towards the end, but it did go crazy 😂😂

[@Denmosocial]

had to sneak it in

[@expiredfroyo]

You got me Denmo

[@Darknight526]

+1

[@Denmosocial]

all good bro

[@arkow000]

Well made philosophy class for men. Thanks dude have a great weekend.

[@Denmosocial]

send it to your friends. you have a good weekend too

[@Fruitcupper]

The view from the bottom of the mountain is nothing like the view from the top. I moved out at 31.5 yo. 5 years on I now consider myself a man. I run a successful small business, climbed Mt Bogong *1986m* and wake up every day to its view from my balcony. Learn, grow, evolve, thrive by brothers.

[@staticfreeze6116]

Hey Denmo, I’m 19 rn. I really want to thank you for your advice. It helped me with talking to people and getting a girlfriend recently. Keep up the awesome videos 👍

[@yaniel7873]

yea, you got me, a'm an overthinker

[@Darknight526]

Jack really knows his shit. You fucking got me to a T. That Incel Law, that needs to be published in academic papers. Thank you for this type of content Jack, we really appreciate it!

[@Jiggonomics]

I'm at the part where you said "This is an interesting topic for the channel" I agree and just wanted to say I love and appreciate this unique and nuanced video.

[@Denmosocial]

thanks bro i know it wont get the most views but it is super helpful

[@Real1ty-ky3tj]

you got me Denmo

[@gavfagan4616]

Anytime I see a Denmo video pop up on my feed just gotta click on it.

[@abovethenorm3207]

I'm 17 & I feel frustrated all the time (it started 2 years ago)! I have so much energy, but few outlets to channel that energy towards. Basically, I want to do a lot of stuff, but I'm lost & kinda stuck & feel like I'm going nowhere (even though I try my best). Although I've made tons of progress, it still feels like barely anything. I'm aware of my potential, but I'm confused on what to do with it. However, when stuff goes right, I feel euphoric.

[@sebastianleyva8925]

Denmo, I’ve always had a positive view point on peoples negativity as I got older and started to understand more how human emotion and reaction works. I don’t blame incels either. They r just lost. I don’t even wanna call them incels cause they’re still human beings too. But remember this everyone, a great man once said…don’t quiet. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.

[@pedrovieira4806]

I'm 22, this video is really accurate, I felt that I wasn't good enought, but I have a well paying job and good friendishps from different groups, now onto my next objective that is to find a girlfriend

[@Camontheedge]

You got me denmo

[@nathanricetalks]

I swear Denbro at this point I'm starting to have a parasocial relationship with you where you're my friend and we play guitar together😭😂

[@ultimatebearbeast]

Yes, I am considered as a overthinker as of now. 😅 The information in this video is a bullseye.

[@macaronienshiis]

Guys something I’ve learned as a late 20s person, it’s to learn how to sit in the now, and have the mental skill to be completely relaxed around women. The way to live in the present moment is to let go of expectations and truly become indifferent to what others (including women) think about you. Also, love yourselves guys, have confidence in what you have to say and learn how to listen. Women feel that energy, and are attracted to it. Accept yourselves.

[@JavierCespedes90]

I'm 33 and started a new career 2 years ago, it's been rough, but I'm about to open a new gym now, after 2 years of being a personal trainer (I was an energy engineer before, hated it). I'm currently very fit and I hope these next months/years will actually be my peak.

[@Man-bp5ye]

Man I like u r presentation I'm here to learn English as well as your grateful thoughts

[@neoteodoro6174]

Yess i overthink alot

[@nobodysperfect06]

Yeah I'll always be angry and bitter and resentful that I didn't have my first girlfriend until my early 30s, me and her are not together anymore though. I know I've spoken to another guy like this who has a similar story who says he never had a girlfriend until he was 30, he has the mindset that if he was born a woman he would not have been alone and single that long. I remember one guy said this to me and he really pissed me off when he said to me: "Why would you be bitter once you got what you wanted? Even if it took that long why does it matter? You can still enjoy the fruits of your labor now" Because I didn't get into my first relationship until later than normal that's why I feel angry bitter and resentful. And plus being a guy, how the dating game has always been different for men for women in which I know I'm not the only guy that has this mindset and that is men always have to be the ones to put in all the work and effort in order to land a girlfriend or in order for a heterosexual relationship to happen or start. I get more mad and angry that people in society say that men are not supposed to view that as work or a burden as in men always having to be the ones to take the lead and Court women and lead the interaction, I will never understand why men are supposed to enjoy and embrace that role. Should be obvious as to what I'm talking about, yeah and I get even more pissed off that people and Society say that women also have to learn dating skills on how to meet men or how to attract men when it never will make sense to me since women don't have to do jackshit to make a relationship happen. Speaking of my lifelong hatred of men always having to make the first move all the time. Didn't happen for me around the time people normally have their first relationship. I get very angry and pissed off whenever people and Society have the mindset that it's better to be a man. I remember another guy said and he only added fuel to fire which made me more angry and pissed off when he said: "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say he pissed me off so much that it's not appropriate for me to say what was on my mind when I read that comment. Yeah I don't understand why a lot of people have the mindset as to why it's better to be a man at the end of the day. Yes it does truly feel unfair being a man at times. It only pisses me off even more when people say "thats the way it is, or so what?". it just fills me with a lot of anger and rage.

[@h8h215]

You are entitled to your anger and rage, women have alays had innate value, they are the gatekeepers of s3x thing is women have the problem of keeping the relationship so if its any comfort men are the gatekeepers to relationships. Knowing the rules on what it if women want should make it easier for you to pick up women, noone has to like it but it is what it is. Due to women having innate value this means in order for men to be valued in the eyes of a women men must create their value and women are the ones who chooses what they deem as valuable. There are 3 types of men The bad boy: this guy exudes masculine traits which women are attracted to, this type of guy excels at hookups and short term relationships. The nice guy: this guy does things in hopes of reward, this person is who is typically called a simp because hes trying to impress with what ever he cant but shows the least masculine traits as they display feminine traits annd are the most manipulative of the 3 types of men. These men are the least to have s3x or relationships. The grounded man, this type is both a nice guy and a bad boy they are the most successful at long term relationships, they know when being the bad boy is appropriate and when bekng nice is appropriate, women use the term emotional intelligence that men are lacking but what they are talking about is this middle man, knowing how to be both nice and solid, nice guys are "too nice" and bad boys just lead to bad statistics across the board. Plenty more i can say on this topic but ill leave it there for now, i didnt start getting lots of women till i was 28 and that took a personality shift from nice guy to bad boy, i think im more in lines now with being a grounded man however ive lost interest in having a family now, now im just enjoying life i have a girlfriend but my desires have changed.

[@sudeepsaxena8023]

I truly understand your frustration buddy as I also share a lot of thoughts with you. Guys are expected to be the initiators (and in a sense - chasers) of a relationship and then the girls repel them assuming that they don't have anything else to do. And if you don't show a lot of interest initially, she will assume you are not interested in her. And there is no scale to judge how much or less of the attention is effective!!! But I also understand that this is how it is going to be. I got a chance initially in the final year of my school when a girl showed interest in me but I blew it up by not being able to react quickly and then my own personal problems made me distant from her and all others in general due to which she assumed that I have lost interest in her. And then I tried to restart the conversations through Facebook but she misinterpreted one of my comments which contained a slang term she got offended by. And it ended abruptly before I could even be in an official relationship. After that, I would try to talk to girls online but that doesn't go too far. I can add a lot but that won't make any positive difference! I understand your frustration and even I am, at the age of 30, struggling to get a gf despite being tall and reasonably decent looking (not boasting). Recently, a local girl on a dating app showed interest in me but she was weird so I stopped talking to her! No matter how ripped your body is or how good you look from the outside, you will have to create a positive vibe when around someone or give that sense if they are anticipating your presence around them. If you have to rant about your problems, keep it to just 1 or 2 very close friends (and avoid keeping a female friend in that setup). I recently lost a very close female friend just because of my insane anxiety and insecurities. She would guide me a bit here and there. I still regret that I couldn't handle my anxiety better. It not only applies to girls but to everyone that no one wants to be around someone who is always ranting or negative. It works with just a few friends only. And at last, a girl is a girl... You have to give her positive vibes and show your progress as an individual. Otherwise, it is going to be very difficult to keep girls around even as friends!

[@kostaignjatovic3883]

Keep up this type of content man please

[@TheBuckMagoo]

love your content bro, i gotta get out and stop binging it tho 🤣

[@MissiFull]

I am in this phase. I recognize what is attractive to women, from a evolutionary psychology approach, and I know that I don't have any attractive trait yet.

[@MissiFull]

@@UnknownaliasGrl Says who?

[@MissiFull]

@@UnknownaliasGrl I think I understand you. And you are right that there are things which get worse with age and that black pill community defend that posture of determinism. But my comment and my perspective of life are not black pill, rather the opposite: Know that I learn about female psychology, I'm in a better position to act accordingly.

[@MissiFull]

@@UnknownaliasGrl I think I understand you. And you are right that there are things which get worse with age and that black pill community defend that posture of determinism. But my comment and my perspective of life are not black pill, rather the opposite: Know that I learn about female psychology, I'm in a better position to act accordingly.

[@MissiFull]

@@UnknownaliasGrl Not yet. Im starting.

[@MissiFull]

@@UnknownaliasGrl Not yet. Im starting.

[@bekabeka71]

I have it all by 29, 3 houses and an apartment and a plot of land🚜 however I am on retention to get to know girls and attract a high quality girl along my success journey

[@ivanivanich761]

KZbin algorithm cooked. Awesome video man

[@Denmosocial]

right place at the right time, it found ya

[@yannickvdputten]

In my case i fucked up my life when i got a girl at 12 yrs old, after i lost her at 20 yrs old. it was the best and the worst time of my life because as a young man i needed to constant validated myself of beinig 'Worthy of a relationship'. in the end she dropped me like a brick and after like 2 days she hooked up with another dude. it broke me down so bad. im 23 now, trying to better my life because i really lack social skills because i got depanded so much on 1 person. U know it still hurts but im trying to see this as a lesson. Nothing is given as a man and u need to work ur ass of to get where u wanna be. I too began to look for videos online to self improve but i think that u really need to take a step back and take control over ur own life again, cause many men are lost in society and jut live on standby mode, just waiting for something to happen instead of taking action urself as a man. i too learned that ur value isnt set by other people but by urself. so if u think ur a picie of shit.. well ur probably are one. dont be too hard on urself but keep selfreflecting. not everyday is gonna be a good day, but dont let a good day be destroyed by a negative thought. dont fool urself into a loser cause u arent. U - U have potential u just need to take action. Take it with a grain of salt cause im just speaking my mind right now. I hope my guys will end up on the right track and live happy lives :)

[@justincase1481]

I blame Disney! As kids we see "as long as I'm chivalrous and never stop and keep fighting for that ONE special girl, she'll fall in love with me" - that's exactly what makes guys simps and pushes girls away because they hate being chased. They math it quick in their minds = "A high value guy doesn't chase anyone, he doesn't need to. Therefor any guy chasing me is low value". Even if they liked you at first, you're "value" in their eyes drops when you "Keep Trying". I know, I've done it. Girls that liked me, stopped answering me if I asked them out too many times. Guys are different, if we like a girl, we like them, unless she gets fat. Girls emotions and feelings change like whiplash if you call them 2 times too many lol

[@Virab4]

Yeah im overthinker

[@RakMakary]

Good video man I agree

[@asdfghjkl123asd]

4:56 yeah, sure. Few years. More like few decades.

[@sodiumchloride5202]

Every single human being born as a loser unless you are a son/daughter of a politician 😂

[@MrBarnardoo98]

I agree!! I am 34 and yes I’m thinking about having children.

[@yaniel7873]

i congrats bro, you got it

[@avih]

Bloodline is saved with this one

[@Denmosocial]

bloodline going to stay strong

[@ryandeffley7652]

This was a solid video, and I can agree with most of what you said. But I disagree that women get less narcissistic as they age. I've found the opposite to be true. An older woman will be more into trying to maintain youth/beauty and far more LTR focused/goal oriented. So this tends to put older women way more into their ego and makes them far more picky/jaded. When I do interact with 35-45 year old women, it always feels like a job interview. 😂

[@gamingoverdose4075]

You got me

[@metalelf7]

If you say "so I searched online" then its pretty much over for you, the winds of change outdate advice on a weekly cycle. Anyone whom managed to enjoy teenage years before the internet just lived their lives cutting a centre line between dos and don'ts of local idiots. Echo chambers are the closest we have to real old school friendships.

[@DestroAzureDx]

You don't need to practice social skills if your looks are good, you will naturally get that positive reinforcement be it from women peers or parents. Women hate being chased but they love rejecting, it gives them validation of being wanted and is an ego boost, the bigger the boost the more attractive the guy. There are a small percentage of men 20-18% that walk into a room and dont have to practice any of this nor DO any of this, they just sit there and women are naturally interested in them due to thier looks. Your argument falls apart because even good decent women want handsome men with experience dating. If you cannot get experience with women in a relationship you add another level of doomed to yourself, if you're ugly add another level of doomed, if she has other options around her to look at add another level of doomed especially if you fit the last two categories

[@JavarisJamar-kx9pe]

What if you’re in your early 30s and are still in the loser phase? 😬

[@Denmosocial]

than you need to get off the internet man

[@KaizenWithRen]

starting as a loser earning what you got is more gratifying than having everything handed to you (that would still be nice tho)

[@DestroAzureDx]

You will lose what you earned before death, your hard work is nothing in the face of being born right or into the correct circumstance

[@MrJuan_Vzla]

@@DestroAzureDx who cares? (rhetoric question)

[@DestroAzureDx]

@@MrJuan_Vzla the people who suffer in being undesirable no matter what they change, do or accomplish

[@user-ee1fn4vt8b]

shit....you got me denmo

[@Denmosocial]

all good bro. now we can get better

[@jamieholt2547]

23 and hate my life!!

[@h8h215]

Whys that?

[@theavastark6463]

You got me

[@durodesduvo8424]

If you’re tall and white, you have the widest appeal worldwide by far. I just wish you guys could see how you fare as the “wrong” height or race for a year🤷‍♂️

[@CGZYT]

16. Already angry like the group above me.

[@h8h215]

What are you angry about?

[@umeshjoshi8361]

Denmo I from india 20yrs old from a very small most the girls giving me choosing signal s like playing with hair deep eye contact lip bite but I never approach them man I miss many golden opportunitys😢😢

[@andresgraziano7475]

Its over for currycels!!!

[@joezawinulreviewsandreacti2509]

Yeah I mean I think you mentioned the Italian thing but I mean this getting kicked out when you're 18 is more of an American thing I think I saw that 68% of those in Montenegro live with their parents

[@CGZYT]

I'm an over thinker, yay...

[@ReasonWithRainer]

Every teacher must be first a student

[@Denmosocial]

yessir

[@jamieholt2547]

I overthink a lot:(

[@NFTMule]

Hey im short, bald and ugly 😂

[@Dr.Harvey]

I'm 33 and you know what. Everything about being incel and looser is bullshit. Remember you loose if only you play by established rules. So fuck rules. And I mean do not pursue success by comparing yourself with others at first.

[@BeardedBeerMan]

Used to be cringe? What do you mean Denmo? I'm 24 and I am still cringe

[@Denmosocial]

all good brother

[@Jedilord882]

Everytime I’ve approached in person I’ve gotten rejected. What’s the point?

[@Denmosocial]

Keep approaching. Only people who are able to handle rejection become successful in society. If you cannot handle rejection than you will remain upset on the internet

[@saucy7839]

looksmaxxing didnt start till 2023 how did u find that stuff when u 16?

[@divyv20]

Hey Man , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?

[@carlurbananimals]

Says the guy with the perfectly straight nose

[@velardechelo]

ok but, how to tell jokes? my humuor is kinda strange :S

[@Foldylokx]

25

[@aga1nstall0dds]

Don't insult me.... 😢

[@neoteodoro6174]

22

[@bp-it3ve]

makes no sense but what can i expect from a normie.

[@HezekiahPree]

17

[@redtarget5275]

Working with African ls has made me more racist bro

[@Beforeigo-x9v]

Caring about what a woman cares about? First mistake. Im out

[@mannycalavera1848]

I'm nearly 40, I live by myself and I'm still an incel. Women are still with me the same way they were 20 years ago.

[@bananaspilt1988]

What makes you think you are an incel I'm curious?

[@mannycalavera1848]

@@bananaspilt1988 Not sure if it's my looks or my personality, or both. I just always get rejected. Simple.

[@bananaspilt1988]

@@mannycalavera1848 I'm sorry to hear about that bruh. The reason I asked was because from what you told me it doesn't sound like you are an “incel” An Incel is someone who believes its womens fault for them not liking them. So first things first stop identifying with the word “incel” because just because you get rejected doesn't mean squat. Everytime you identify with the word incel it just reinforces and already negative self fulfilling prophecy. As far as your looks I mean bro I mean this has honest as I can be there is a girl out there for you that will care more than just your looks. But if its something that really bothers you absolutely work on your physical health get some new clothes a haircut and your chilln just focus on what can change not on what you can't. And change it for yourself most importantly. Like if you want to become fit don't do it to attract girls do it for yourself. But looks man just do those 3 things for yourself and you'll be chilln. As far as personality I know you've probably heard this a thousand times but just be yourself. Being genuine is how you build connections. There are 7 billion people on this earth broski there is someone who would love to get to know you. Another thing is work on your self-confidence because if you are not

[@bananaspilt1988]

Confident in yourself then people can catch onto that. Maybe that could be the personality thing because I struggled with talking to girls and having difficulty forming connections mainly because I lacked confidence in who I was. Another thing is like the looks thing I said above if you really think your personality is playing a role in why you are getting rejected then really just sit there and reflect on yourself and really ask yourself is there anything that might be putting others off. And if there is then just work on fixing that. But at the end of day man just focus on whats in your control as far as looks and personality and just have a good mindset towards girls and just treat them like any other people and you'll be chilln. But much love bro I do believe you will find someone for you. 💪❤️

[@Oz1455]

I think your content is great, but I'm no longer desperate to have girls like me. I used to be, and it was miserable. You're a cool guy, but I only clicked to say this, and not fall for that clickbait.

[@Denmosocial]

all good bro but this video is hardly about girls and its actually a banger

[@Oz1455]

@@Denmosocial You know what, I'll give it a chance.

[@alexlloyd2154]

Lowxz T9 tj

[@hamilton7128]

bros content became a hell prison

[@Tarunuknowbitch]

16

[@Tarunuknowbitch]

yooo

[@Jdrake6792]

you got me denmo

[@Denmosocial]

all good bro time to improve

[@mvashi]

you got me denmo.