How To Attract Girls Through Small Talk (Like A Pro)

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Timestamps:
0:00 The mistakes 90% of men make
4:59 Less is more - remove the unnecessary
7:51 Understand the girls point of view
10:25 When the basics don't work, do this
11:55 Examples of Unique Questions
17:40 Identify your current frame
19:35 NEW FRAME: Interested, but unconventional
22:28 Old Way vs New Way
24:34 Cut your losses early
27:20 Why you must meet girls IRL
29:24 She will pursue you
32:20 NEW FRAME: Comfortable, but unpredictable
36:25 Pulling back
37:10 Example of this working
38:37 Being unpredictable makes you attractive
42:22 Stop wasting money at clubs

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i was clapping when you said feeling motivated after watching million hours of content but not actually applying it. (so true100%) You are the most relatable guy out there just keep doing what you are doing.

[@manudaskanu111]

Based on the title this might be your most valuable video ever. Thank you Master Denmo 😁🙌🏻

[@Denmosocial]

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[@Denmosocial]

Blessing you guys with a full guide on a sunday. Rejoice and enjoy. You got this bro

[@mrboring6553]

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[@jimbobfisher8904]

Thank you father Denmo Christ in heaven for dying for my sins and creating sex I’m forever grateful towards you.

[@jorbu1423]

This guy is good. Met a girl at the gym and putting your advice to work.

[@zitofan4life]

Thank you for your content. I had been sick for quite some time and not dating so now trying to get back into it is intimidating. It’s a brand new world we all have to learn to navigate. God bless

[@shortcoursercracing4284]

Thanks denmo it’s hard to keep up with all your videos but I love the hard work!

[@akonemanaba4183]

Love these vids man

[@ImaginaryShadows1]

I research so many years on different dating coaches how they approach dating. It’s good to learn different points of view.

[@Madchris8828]

So basically I just need to get better at formulating questions. Appreciate the video man, giving me a lot to think on. Also made me realize I've probably had more girls attracted to me than I thought especially when I was a bit younger. My stupid ego alot in the past got in the way in a negative sense "oh she could never be into me" quite a lot.

[@sumeet.]

Seen the skool notification and clicked💯

[@Denmosocial]

good man

[@Justin4Jays15]

As an ammy mma fighter I love it to death when Denmo always drops some martial arts analogy there spot on every time 😂

[@naturewins]

Best video yet, gold 🥇

[@Ferri2378]

Bro, there's a song called "A Woman Needs Love" by Ray Parker Jr. That song pretty much sums up everything you need to know about women and it sums up the topic of this video as well ;)

[@UlfsaarGotHungry]

This is awesome. It will work wonders

[@muthaz1952]

I don't feel like I'm good at talking to people and making friends, but apparently I do it really well an easily. Sometimes I struggle with what to say in the moment, but have great angles in hindsight. Or forethought. Which is where I'm working. To think of things and use them when I can or should.

[@MachoManEditz]

u are the man denmo!

[@nbayern7000]

The video I needed

[@Denmosocial]

cheers man love ya

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

Her name is Shelly renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@thalmoragent9344]

​@@user-ei4tl7qd2s Nah mate, she left you, and she isn't thinking about you. Just saying, she isn't thinking about you, just enjoy time with friends and family

[@allblackfxbb]

Im just starting to watch this, but what i find is most difficult is keeping that attraction after the fun first few conversations and hang outs

[@LucaBovelli]

Bro plsss make the talking to people videos again they were fire af

[@grubyjanusz4517]

it''s very nic of you to make those videos so you can help other guys (like me). thank you

[@Steven-er2od]

this was actualy realy helpful, thanks Denmo

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu man come back and reference it if you ever forget

[@assassinn8er656]

Hey mate, I was wondering if you could do a video on people who are already in a relationship or like communication and small talking with the general public..

[@jamesmutikainen]

Man these analogies are great

[@Denmosocial]

wait til you see my program haha

[@aidandpolonsky]

Suggestion for evolving your content. It sounds like you're talking down to us as the viewer instead of inviting us to make adjustments if our current methods aren't working. Long time fan just checkin in. Keep it up man.

[@fiendeng]

SOA 👈 share observe ask. Share something about yourself Observe something of the other person and Ask something about the other person. starting the initiation by sharing something about yourself allows the other individual to humanize with you easier. observing and vocalizing something about the other individual shows that you actually care and pay attention to them. showing genuine concern. asking shows the individual that you want to further the relationship. THIS strategy works beautifully with all new relationships, be it financial or romantic

[@hassanbirbir6363]

bro, I am from morocco, north Africa and we have the same problems interacting with girls as you have in the west. I have been watching since 2022. I think this issue can be a part of social media prevalence. the problem with me is that I talk to girls normally without any problem, but when it comes to casual fun and relationships, it become more awkward and clumsy. i have never dated before tbh but my parents say i should not in this age 21

[@byron9630]

If ur Muslim isn’t that a good thing

[@Belmont1714]

Isn't there arranged marriages, since it's a Muslim country?

[@hassanbirbir6363]

@@Belmont1714 you got the wrong idea buddy lol. things have changed

[@oman9492]

If a girl thinks your hot. You can say anything and do anything and she will like you. Its if you are average or below average looking or trying to pull a hot bird you need fake personality. My best is to talk to a girl like your best friend, or your previous girlfriend. Or just try to be her friend if you know you will see each other again. Also good to chat to guys as well. Its always easier to talk to guys and this gives you practice when speaking to girls

[@thefuck1742]

My go to line is, " Look, we either fuckin, or I'm fuckin. " it works 97% of the time.

[@Denmosocial]

username checks out

[@krasnoinaslapee]

ima start using that line too 🤣

[@zevanshuster8441]

I don’t get it lol

[@brandon_henry_222]

​@@zevanshuster8441get what?

[@Manosphereclips]

watching this on 1.5x speed is normal speed lol😂

[@UP_THE_CHELS]

I think the mental aspect l is also important I can't talk to women and never will be able to because I always think of what I wanna say and the only thing I can think of is how she will reject me.... That's the wrong mindset you gotta take a better mindset with this advice

[@retfird]

I’d appreciate your thoughts on how to choose the women you approach, at bars or clubs there’s plenty of attractive women but I’m having decision fatigue

[@Denmosocial]

dont overthink it bro just go talk to them lol

[@drtharay]

This shit as absolute gold bro!

[@liampihl5546]

I haven’t sen the whole video yet and I don’t know if you mention it, but I’m curious about if this works on a girl that isn’t a stranger?

[@AshutoshKumar-es8xy]

Bro you are a philosopher

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu brotha

[@mrboring6553]

love the bjj analogy man😂!!

[@Denmosocial]

lmao glad it made sense I wasnt sure if it would

[@mrboring6553]

@@Denmosocial honestly I think it probably wouldn’t make sense to people who don’t train, but it still sounds fun and interesting with your talking skills

[@jesusnieto6911]

13:42 "besides the jacket' 😭

[@oskarikuivinen1484]

Love the first frame😂

[@omarmoramariachi]

It is really weird but without knowing I did all of this steps with my ex wife and I really didn't had any experience it was all instinct based. knowdays it is hard to apply it on purpose 😅

[@18JR78]

7:02 Ronda Rousey with Judo and the Arm Bar. One trick Pony.

[@radfoo72]

I'm not even 10 minutes in but I have a constructive critique. 4:18 is funny and should have been the immediate intro followed by the bit at 2:29, then 1:44. Those 3 cornerstones of comedy, What we want and what women want commanded my attention most.

[@geomejia8946]

38:50 what if, because we’re men, we DONT play games and if we both want something we go and get it??? Or is that gone nowadays too😂 I’ve had a situation where I did this just subconsciously, I think I actually had plans and didnt expect to spend more then maybe 2 hours with this one girl, she was cool,there was definitely chemistry, teasing flirting sexual tensions etc…all this built up sun goes down we’re in my car she’s staring in my eyes as we’re talking etc getting closer being more touchy etc then I started touching her a bit but then I guess in the moment I failed to catch on and told her a had to go soon but that I enjoyed our time together…needless to say we didn’t link up ever after that and I’m positive she went to go take care of what I built up with some other guy😂😂 So no, not always is “playing her game” the right thing to do…especially nowadays you’ll look like a loser to most girls since they’ll probably get insecure that you didn’t try anything and blame you….ofc that type of girl you probably shouldn’t purse too much…what’s Yours is Yours even if you fuck up a bit here and there

[@dakinebrah6246]

Been called a flirt my whole life. Just so easy for me to talk to women. But others interpret them as flirting 🤦‍♂️😑🤣

[@sergeybalenko1442]

Denmo Hi I’m from Ukrainian and I have bad English but I‘m working with it. If I buy your program I am able to approach girls if I have a little skill in English?

[@Denmosocial]

Hey sergey, thanks for asking. I would say yes and at the very least it will apply to your skills in your native language.

[@Camroc37]

This popped up in my recommended and since I've been talking to a girl I like I checked it out. We have classes together, and she clearly likes me (we have gone out after class several times, I asked her on an actual date and we are going next week, we text sporadically and have a nice playlist going, she draws hearts on notes that she gives me, etc.) but I'm still a bit nervous. I don't want to escalate too fast since we will be in class for the whole year, but I don't want to come off as disinterested. Anyone have any advice, I mean I think I'm handling it pretty well, better than some of the examples in this video, but I really want to drive it home and make her my girl eventually. This has been happening since late January, so 3-4 weeks. I have an idea about her schedule and she doesn't seem to have any other guys in her life, and she only reciprocates interest to me and nobody else in class. Usually I just go with the flow, and I still am, but I'd like to make it just a bit more special since in my eyes she's a 10. Literally made for me. Knows every album I've ever liked type thing, same style as me, 5'3" and I can pick her up like a bag of potatoes, absolutely stunning. She's pretty busy besides after school days and lives an hour away so it's not been easy so far to set up anything besides after school. Edit: Something I'm struggling with is pushing back, I don't talk about women like this usually but with her I can't help it: She's just so damn cute that I don't wanna treat her like a normal person. So if she verbally pushes me I only manage to push back about half the time. Also she's a really good texter in terms of quality but tends to stop replying sometimes for a day or two, although she's not on snap or TikTok and isn't that into her phone, and apologized for her lack of responses. I'm glad she's not a phone addict at least.

[@AgeofCraccadilliaassent]

Welcome e to the friend zone

[@Camroc37]

nah we been making out@@AgeofCraccadilliaassent

[@user-ix5fp2uh6f]

Great advice.. Can you make video for people whom just came to Canada and don't know English well 😮

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

believe me : just go back

[@user-ix5fp2uh6f]

@@bogdankovalenko5096 What do you mean back?

[@kulik03]

This will be good, I suck at small talk

[@Denmosocial]

hope it helps you brother

[@kulik03]

couldn't be more helpful, I'm going on a date tomorrow! @@Denmosocial

[@FranciscoAlvarado-vh8xk]

you win some you lose some

[@owardocarther30]

The lawnmower killed me 😂😂😂

[@Denmosocial]

hope that analogy makes sense

[@NICHS1994]

I’m told by my support worker to not approach gals cos ur country is different? It’s not like from the UK. Bro x

[@definitelynottigerwhitten5865]

10 approaches. 5 numbers today😎😎😎

[@Denmosocial]

absolute animal send me an email

[@definitelynottigerwhitten5865]

THANKS DENMO😂💯These girls were BADD you should see these instas. What’s your email?

[@UP_THE_CHELS]

How did you guys get over not having any experience and having fear of talking to women? All I can think of is why she'd like me is there's a more attractive guy around. Did anyone beat that mindset

[@ForceField9]

It depends on the chick and her self esteem levels. She could look like an absolute baddie but maybe she is an introvert but got out of her shell that day because her friends made her and she just dressed really well. We never know the real story until we find out.

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

Nah I just stop trying, life’s too short to worry about bitches

[@thexrpscum]

Yeah man. All you have to do is realize there's a million girls just like her, so take a shot. Expect to fail, but don't relegate yourself to that failure. You just have to not give a fuck if she rejects you bro. Then if she does, do that 3 more times in the same day with 3 different women. Oh, you got rejected by them all? No worries bro. Have you ever played a video game? You ain't gonna beat that boss the first time around. Keep it at, but with different women.

[@NateChaudTV]

Simple, aproach many women and you will naturally learn to work around that sort of stuff.

[@t5396]

The answer is contained within your question. The reason why you suck and the reason why you're so insecure because you lack experience. So, the solution to your problem is getting experience anyway you can.

[@nickk7425]

What i don't understand, is weman will stare at me put themselves in my orbit, but one i go uo and make some very safe small talk, the girl just acts completely awkward and weirded out, so then i my mind i just think to myself, "well fuck you then"

[@masuterukasu]

38:30 Denmo being an idiot pays off.😂😂😂 Everyone wants this.

[@LoronWillis]

Where we suppose to meet women, I prob meet a woman I’m interested in like once a month at best

[@ethanieldude1]

This is the most difficult part for me too. Theres nowhere meant for meeting people except the bar or clubs, and those suck imo. Literally your best bet is Target/TJ Maxx/Walmart etc. Sometimes going to the park or taking your dog to the dog park works too but it takes forever to meet somebody, let alone someone that actually matches your personality.

[@SmDOrGtfoo]

I've been so conditioned to being overlooked/rejected that even pleasant encounters with women piss me off anymorem

[@dalethedippa5822]

Every time my man gets near the red pill he cowers away

[@mgk_moloko]

🔥

[@AgeofCraccadilliaassent]

Thetes no small talk for my face and height

[@muthaz1952]

"hey what's a good place to go eat around here?? Oh yeah? We are gonna go walk around for an hour, wanna have a bite there then? "

[@ResilientSurfer]

Make sure you listen and don’t let her yabber too much

[@Michael-go9hm]

Mate I struggle with the basics

[@thunderstrikebs5556]

He's wearing a turtle nrck so he's smart

[@LucasVinicius-ki6ew]

I would love to join socializer, but $140 is too much money in my country; our currency is worthless💀

[@zachpahrmz]

Yeah but it could be setting yourself up for failure by being try hard if you get her. I think if you have to try that hard it just isn’t it worth it. It’s going to be hard work to keep them and who wants that? Not me.

[@nipplemonster5848]

I absolutely detest that it takes this much effort to get a woman interested

[@angelvideos6794]

I do not, this is fun

[@sogous]

No way you have to be an interesting person for someone to be interested in you?!??

[@Josh-fp2qn]

In 2024 we have to put in 10x the effort to get a woman who is disloyal, attention seeking, and useless outside of the bedroom. Far cry from our grandfathers who only had to put in a little effort to get a faithful woman who brought a lot to the table.

[@Simonde4e]

@@Josh-fp2qntrue, but nothing we can do about it other than play the game

[@MaSSiveBalls00]

just take the tip from family guy "you, me, sex," works every time.

[@FitnessFreakSA_Sindile]

🎉❤

[@hireecejulie]

The student has become the teaching assistant

[@IvanTheNormal]

I'm done. I'm gone

[@JosePerez-bl9gl]

12:35. im a jack it guy myself 😂😂..

[@AgeofCraccadilliaassent]

There is no small talk for my face and height

[@JetTinkerer]

Dude idk what world you live in or maybe you live in a giant city, but these days a 4 has sooo many options. While you're playing hard to get or whatever, she's just gonna next you lol

[@MartinJovanovic]

24:01 IMT 506

[@user-hl8fd7yx4o]

bro im a jacket guy myself lol

[@robin6921]

First you say we should go for girls that are above our league (when I am a 6, I should try 6s, 7s and up), and now we should not go for good looking girls or girls that are more attractive then us. What is it bro

[@everope]

Stop rating and just talk to people that seem interesting. Don't use "she's not hot enough" or "she's out of my league" as an excuse.

[@anujapasandul6969]

uppercut worked commenting in prison

[@nunchukGun]

lmao if you skip to this timestamp with no context 10:25

[@Gamelogic4]

Task not understood i accidentally fulcrum choked the girl

[@Mynameisgooood]

Weird cloth choice

[@jrdonaldson2053]

First

[@jacksonprust9919]

SMALL TALK DONT WORK

[@systemdeveloper5266]

How many times did you try?

[@bogdankovalenko5096]

so complicated. let them enjoy cats instead...

[@vtc8570]

Try museums, guys. Quality girls there and there's lots of art to talk about. Plus in her eyes, the fact that you are in a museum means that you are cultured and refined.

[@LoudWhipzTV]

There aren’t any single girls at muesuems trust me lmfao they’re always with a boyfriend. It’s a date idea you don’t go to museums alone lmao.

[@craigla3815]

Yawns

[@user-tr1xh2ps5i]

Useless bullshit

[@ibrahimguler1569]

It is so superficial and meaningless.. what is your real purpose here..

[@kubricksghost6058]

Fckin hell.. Which men are actually listening to this crap 😂

[@FitnessFreakSA_Sindile]

🎉❤