ITEMS I REGRET DECLUTTERING | Mademoiselle

[@sixrs3112]

I understand you totally. This is why I make a two step de cluttering. Before I get rid of everything, I store them in the attic for 30 days to avoid tossing things because of my mood.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Yes I need to start doing this too! I recently did a bit of a rejig of my wardrobe and popped everything either in a suitcase or in the spare room. Not making any more hasty decision haha! 🙈

[@MsEricao]

sixrs3112 great suggestion

[@megmcguireme]

I keep a basket in the top of my closet for the same purpose.

[@2487jemma]

Sometimes we can love the idea of an item. I had a leather jacket and never wore it so sold it. Then I regretted it, so re bought the exact same one off ebay after a long time searching for it.... still dont wear it now.

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's so true! I definitely have some very positive memories attached to a number of these items, and I think what makes me really want to track a few of them down is that they used to be among my most worn pieces (and I can imagine myself getting that same level of wear from them again, even now). I suppose the real test is whether any of them actually pop up on the pre loved market haha! XD

[@jera1297]

😂 I’ve done that

[@rehmataulakh3796]

Yes.. me too

[@clindsay3406]

I feel the same way! I got a beautiful Rag & Bone buttery soft black leather jacket. Never wear it, and I think it is because it is too heavy to be worn indoors at the office. It is more outerwear. I live in a warmer climate with a short winter and don’t really need many jackets. I like jackets that can be a layering piece to be worn at work. I may part with it this winter.

[@jinachung4591]

I don't like Valentino rockstuds because I often see it on influencers and bloggers and after awhile it just seems basic. I have to say you have the ability to make items like the Rockstuds and the Neverfull look understated, fresh, and stylish. It makes me see them in a new light and helps me see how they might work in my own wardrobe 😁

[@mademoisellejaime]

Haha I can totally appreciate that as I've often been turned off by items just by the sheer number of bloggers or influencers seen toting them. Sometimes, it can also be hard to distinguish whether you actually like an item or have just come around to it due to over saturation. And thank you, that's such a kind comment!! Hope you're staying safe xx

[@donnatirino3987]

I have those exact Valentino kitten heels. The color is brownish. I was never a fan at first but the perfect blush color drew me in. They are the only heel I can tolerate. They can be worn with jeans or a gown. I get a ton of compliments every time I wear them. I plan on wearing them to my daughter's wedding. I would never part with them.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Yes that's the colour! Honestly been my favourite nude hue they have done over the years and nothing's come close. I'd bought them with the intention of wearing them when I got married but they didn't really go with the dress, plus I think I would have been devastated if I'd damaged them in some way. Went with a patent style from Dior in the end which was much more practical (in case I spilled anything on them). That sounds lovely, wearing them to your daughter's wedding

[@shelp5950]

Haha. Don’t reminisce Jaime!! We live and we learn right. This journey to a more curated closet isn’t all smooth sailing! Regret, panic buying, breaking shopping fasts the list goes on. it’s all a learning curve and something that takes a while to master! Regretting letting go of pieces was something I struggled with especially because most of the pieces in my wardrobe I do really love for one reason or another. But to be honest if we were getting the wear and joy out of these pieces, really, I think we would not have let them go in the first place, right! I fully have the “ones that got away” though 😂 I held onto to my hope sweater although, haven’t reached for it yet this autumn. I have the dark grey. It has avoided the declutter pile this season...... I’m getting better at this. When I learned to enjoy the journey the destination didn’t feel so important anymore. Ahaha. So deep the musings of a closet. 🤣

[@mademoisellejaime]

Hahaha so true! You live and learn through your actions and mistakes, and we are constantly evolving and changing tastes. Sometimes even going full circle - something that's happened to me many times I feel like. I almost went to wear my black Hope sweater today, but opted for a different one just as I'm trying to cycle through my knitwear (and I'd wore it last week). The dark grey is lovely I have to say. I hate to think how many hours I've spent contemplating my wardrobe. I need a new hobby LOL XD

[@meriumi]

I think all the reasons you listed (the ones you remembered) for getting rid of the items are completely valid: it's obvious they weren't a good fit for you/your wardrobe at the time. I hope you're not too hard on yourself now that your taste/life situation is different. Also, it might be good to reflect on whether or not nostalgia has you looking at some of those items through rose tinted glasses. Seems like you could end up having similar issues (especially regarding care) all over again were you to reintroduce the items into your wardrobe. I would also think a good many times about the Rockstuds - are you absolutely positive you would get a good cost per wear out of them even at a preloved price? Would they feel equally special now - would you only want to wear them to special occasions, and if so, are there enough of these events lined up in your calendar to warrant a new pair for those situations? Personally, I've been keeping score of my outfits over the past year and I've worn heels (not counting my ankle boots) only a handful of times, so putting a huge amount of money towards something in that category would be a complete waste of money in my books. As to whether or not I've regretted decluttering: no. I have regretted purchasing items. Getting rid of those (and other, worn out) items has in comparison felt rather liberating.

[@mademoisellejaime]

When I think about the bigger ticket items, and the reasons I sold them, I know the funds from those sales went towards creating some pretty special memories so I can't be upset about that - those things I will remember forever (our wedding day and honeymoon

[@meriumi]

@@mademoisellejaime I'm glad to hear you have such wonderful experiences to look back upon. Your current approach also seems very sound. Based on your videos and writings you put a lot of thought into your choices even in general, which I find to be of great inspiration. Have a lovely week as well!

[@lindareichertz7148]

Great video. I regret getting rid of a short black leather jacket. I did not know that about viscose. Would you consider doing a video on fabric types? Pros and cons, sustainability, and how they last over time. I am trying to wear more natural and long wearing fabrics. Thanks.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Linda! Ahh a similar regret to my first one. That's definitely a great idea - for me, there's quite a few reasons why I like to avoid viscose (also known as rayon). It's a man made fibre created from tree pulp, but has quite a chemical intensive process - which can be damaging to the environment. And as I mentioned, it has a tendency to shrink when washed. For those reasons, I prefer to avoid it but sometimes get sucked in by a pretty design. The "pros" are that it has a nice silky feel and good drape, plus I believe it's breathable. But definitely a good idea for a video, thanks for suggesting it! x

[@lindareichertz7148]

Thanks, Jamie. I will look forward to that. Sending love to you from the USA. @@mademoisellejaime

[@lulubaniqued6883]

Don't regret it!! I agree with you disposing everything you've shown in this video except for the black trench coat! That was a keeper because it's a classic.

[@mademoisellejaime]

It's more that I wish I'd held onto them; in part, I suspect this is because they all had really positive memories associated with them. I'm not usually a super sentimental person, but becoming a mum has definitely changed that. I'm already finding myself squirrelling away some of my son's clothing as he's grown out of the newborn and 0-3 month pieces! x

[@mauishopgirll]

You look so nice in everything you wear! I personally no longer rebuy items I’ve culled even if I feel regret unless it’s to buy a different color, size or material. In my experience items I miss are never as pivotal as my memories make them out to be. I say this from years of experience (I’m 51) of pulling out items from storage after weight loss, repurchasing items or buying too many of similar items. Instead of focusing and hunting for the specific item I would instead sit down and write out what hole I feel it would fill in my wardrobe, what I would wear it with and on what occasions I would wear it. I would also consider other similar pieces I have and whether or not I use those. Sometimes I find I have similar items that I’m not wearing and I realize while I love that type of item (say an expensive embellished shoe) I don’t actually wear it much. Then I would consider other items to fill that hole rather than focusing on the culled item only. Especially with clothing as our bodies do not remain exactly the same through life even if the weight is similar, especially if you’ve had a gain and then lost again. For example the Acne jacket could still feel boxy if you did rebuy but if you try another oversized moto in a different length or shape it may achieve the silhouette that you are craving. Not pointing out the Acne as it sounds fabulous but just giving an example 😊

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thank you Tania you're too kind. Some of those photos were truly a blast from the past (talking 5 years + older)! That's such an interesting perspective and take on it - I do think that there's so much truth to this. I've been feeling quite sentimental lately (not sure if this is a side effect of having a baby now.. haha!), and was browsing through old travel photos which really sparked the idea for this video. Each of the items I mentioned does have a positive connection to it (for me), which I think plays into that whole reason behind me missing it. I like what you've said about going for different colours or understanding what it was about that piece that you *actually* miss (and if it realistically works for you). Some food for thought, that's for sure! :)

[@blessedbee1]

I have done some ruthless culling over the years and there are definitely pieces I regret parting ways with. Now I'm much more careful when it comes to decluttering my wardrobe and I really don't mind putting something away for several years as long as it's a classic and something I have really loved and would love to wear again. I actually think this is much more sustainable than getting rid of a lot of items just because you haven't worn something in a year or two - I have put away shoes/clothes for five years and started wearing them again with great joy as my own taste and trends have changed. I think my number one decluttering regret at the moment is a black BCBGMAXAZRIA wrap dress with 3/4 length sleeves - I had it for years, loved it intensely, dressed it up and down, and it was truly the perfect black wrap dress, but I gained a little weight at uni and it didn't fit me quite right towards the end so I let it go. Right after uni I lost weight and was back to my usual size in no time and has been ever since. I'm still struggling to replace that dress and would love to find it preloved, but I'm not holding my breath. As for your decluttering regrets, I'm shocked you got rid of the Rockstuds. They might not be super trendy anymore, but I would say they have become quite iconic and something like a modern classic. I think you would get more wear out of them if you got them in black or a darker colour, however, I really love the colour you had.

[@mademoisellejaime]

I love that approach, and agree, it's definitely a much more sustainable option, particularly if you have the storage space. I hope you're able to come across something similar, otherwise you may like to consider getting a seamstress to make one for you. It's a route I'm thinking about for the KW top, but made in a different fabrication so it's easy to launder. Ohh I know! They are such a gorgeous shoe. Reflecting on it further, I have a feeling I sold them before our honeymoon in the Maldives, which would make sense - that was an expensive holiday but worth every penny for the fabulous memories. Coincidentally, I used to have the 100mm height in the black patent which were gorgeous, but it cemented the idea that the higher version wasn't right for me. A darker option probably would be more practical though. Not rushing into repurchasing at the moment, but will definitely be keeping my eye on the pre loved market for them xx

[@freckledklutz]

I feel like you just took us on a journey down memory lane. I first found you when you were doing capsule wardrobes and "really focused on the numbers" of items as you said. Its been really cool to see your style evolve and I think the takeaway from what I can see is to invest in really good fabrics that are not dry clean only and can be cared for well so they can be worn for years to come. I think you know yourself better now and if you want the rock studs again you can invest in them. I track how much I wear things and also sometimes put things aside to see if I miss them. I also have to be careful with my fantasy self too. I also have a checklist for purchasing things. Its important to learn from our mistakes and I also would love to see how you shop pre owned that would be a cool video!

[@mademoisellejaime]

It really was with this one, wasn't it? Oh gosh and even before that, I think I was much more obsessed. I used to write lists of all the core items I wanted in my "perfect" wardrobe, and try and whittle it down - not quite sure what I thought I was getting out of that as it resulted in me parting ways with a lot of items I loved. I totally agree with those points, good quality materials go a long long way, and it's why I've always been happy to spend a little extra. I think the thing I've found trickiest is battling with that idea of my fantasy self - I have often shopped for her rather than for "me", if you know what I mean. That's a good idea, and something I'm planning to do moving forward (rather than having such a cut throat culling method).

[@andreamorgan3573]

Hi Jamie, I think the rock studs have become a classic - my Mom has two pairs of dupes that are elevated by her elegance and impeccable style - I regularly look at the low heel pumps but haven’t pulled the trigger as yet as they are always available (I may do the pre-loved market) or buy great dupes in the future - Cheers

[@mademoisellejaime]

I think so too - I know others believe them to be "passe" but despite their ubiquity, I would still wear them today even though they've been around for years. I'm the same as you. I figure I can sit on that one for a while before finally re-adding them to my closet! :)

[@daffidalswuli]

I got rid of one pair of white 100% linen wide-leg trousers since they became too small for me. I also have the black version which I saved. Three or four years later, I lost weight and the black ones fit so well and I started missing my white ones. It was a really thick durable linen. I converted my black linen trousers to a cropped version with a hint of flare, which is so flattering, which makes me miss my white ones even more. I love your a little oversized black leather jacket, wish i bought it.

[@mademoisellejaime]

It's interesting you chose to save one pair but part ways with the other! Great that you are still getting the wear from them, and they sound great with the alterations. Have you thought about getting a dressmaker to copy the pattern and make some in a white linen for you? I'm starting to think this might be a good option for me with my KW frill tee, but made in a cotton which would be so much more practical! x

[@TheDessertPlease]

Thank you for addressing this, I understand your pain and have done this myself and it's made me more hesitant to get rid of things hastily but I am working on it!

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's exactly the approach I'm going to be taking from now on too - moving things to another room and sitting on it for a while before I make my decision :)

[@cherbear1211]

I kept my rockstuds...but only because they are so comfortable. And saying that about any heel is a big deal! They were def everywhere for a while there but now not so much. Works for me! Fashionphile and Rue La La have them oftentimes. Hope that helps! Love ur channel! It stinks getting rid of an item and then wishing u hadn’t.

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's one thing I will give them, SO comfortable. I've seen a few pre-loved, but now it's just about finding some that are the "right" price (and colour) :D Can take a bit of waiting!

[@cherbear1211]

mademoiselle exactly! I have a high pair and low and chose leather over patent. I think the patent is just beautiful but they don’t seem to give. I bought the low pair on sale... and they’re powder blue. Sigh. The right color is correct. What in the world to wear them with? 😂😂 still love them though!

[@jokarabelas7422]

Loved that Ellery skirt on you such a great shape. Funny hearing you talk about the blush/nude Chloe boots as I bought these maybe 18months ago from a net a porter sale but struggling to style them so they continue to sit in my wardrobe still in the box.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Ah I know, wish I'd hung on to that as it was a beloved piece of mine! Oh you're kidding. I always felt that they would look a lot "prettier" with white dresses or even just lighter colours? I remember when I wanted to buy them, they were $600 (NZ) but I chose to wait a few days and they promptly sold out. It's possible even then I may not have worn them. They're a beautiful shoe nonetheless!

[@alexweston6355]

You have had some amazing items over the years, I even remember reading your blog when the sea monsters collection came out! As I was a student at the time all I could afford was the jumper with the sparkly golden octopus, I wore it to death then sold it on trademe years later which I still regret. I'm always amazed at how Karen Walker clothes doesn't seem to date, even though they aren't exactly minimal a lot of the time.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Oh my gosh Alex - OG!!! That was forever ago. I loved that collection, had some beautiful pieces from it at the time. I've seen that sweater on eBay I think. A lot of the older pieces tend to pop up from time to time :)

[@Diane.Bishop]

I looked out a lot of clothes to de clutter a few months ago but hadn't got around to doing anything with them yet. Then I bought a white shirt that was a bit sheer and I realised I was about to get rid of a silk Everlane cami in a pale mushroom colour that was too close to my skin tone and too sheer to wear alone but would be perfect to layer under something white. I had never considered that it would be a great layering piece, I always just saw that it couldn't be worn alone. I don't remember having any problems with viscose but I try to actively avoid buying 'dry clean only' clothes because I know I will never dry clean them.

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's fortunate! And great that you were finally able to find a way to wear that cami :) Another commenter mentioned this, but if viscose hasn't been pre-washed then it does have a tendency to shrink. Safe to say the items I've bought haven't been pre-washed hence the shrinkage (it's happened with a Faithfull and Ref dress I owned too). So generally I avoid it. Yeah and I'm the same with dry clean only. It's hard to find a good dry cleaner too! x

[@lostrawkos]

I have a lot of viscose pieces. I wash them all in a washing machine temp. 40C on the synthetic mode so rotation is on 800. They tend to get shrunken in the wash and completely relax after air drying or ironing. It probably depends on the type of viscose but I would not wash them in higher temperature or rotation and I believe that the rotation it's what causes the shrinkage.

[@mademoisellejaime]

I do all of our washing on a 30C setting so quite "cool" - I think rotation is definitely part of it. That said, the two items I was specifically referring to, I hand washed in ice cold water and they shrunk a full size! Another person commented that viscose needs to be pre-shrunk otherwise that can happen, which must have been the reason in my case. At any rate, it's a fabric I tend to avoid just as I've had so many issues with it in the past. Happy it works for others though! :)

[@melissagold2559]

I'm literally wearing the same jumper as you as I'm watching your video

[@mademoisellejaime]

Oh I love that! And never would have thought to wear it backwards. Might try that next time xx

[@janicevin4207]

Made the same mistakes! Now I keep a storage box in the basement with the clothes I fell out of love with and I keep them at least to the next season where I would wear them and see if it is a definitely No. I do it also as I like to create a capsule wardrobe for each season but sometimes I am missing one piece and before buying I go shopping in my box.....

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's a great idea. Someone else suggested waiting a month too, which I think is another good option if you don't have a lot of storage. I love that you shop your own "stash" before going to the shops too. Sometimes all it takes is a new year and fresh set of eyes to fall back in love with something! :)

[@freefallingintograce4634]

Hi Jamie. What an honest and helpful video - thank you, as always!!!! You DO love a statement shoe, so I'm wishing you good luck finding another pair of Valentino rock-studs and the studded Chloe boots. Love the ruffled T- shirts but understand the maintenance piece. The one item I was never able to replace and miss is my Cafe d'Noir black suede boots. They came just to the middle of my knee cap and had the perfect sturdy shape and covered that little curve under the knee and worked with everything in my wardrobe. They were waterproof and had a beautiful toe. I let them go when the zipper broke and have been missing them ever since. 😭 Hope all is well with you and yours, and have a lovely week! 🥰🌺🤗

[@mademoisellejaime]

I always find this sort of reflection, silly as it may seem sometimes, so useful in terms of trying to understand my behaviours and learn from them :) Yes crossing fingers I can find them pre-loved! Awww I hate when that happens! Hope you can find a suitable replacement. I had a similar experience with a pair of heeled Chelsea boots. I'd had them reheeled and resoled multiple times but one day they'd just "had" it. Never found a pair that even comes close since :(

[@kmayer87]

Loved the video! Can you do a video on materials you love/don’t like. With ordering more clothing online, it’s tough sometimes to know what a material is going to be like in person: if it wrinkles easily, how it washes, etc. Thanks!!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Another viewer also asked if I could do a deep dive into fabrics so definitely one I'll be adding to the list :D

[@skihillsandy]

There are dry cleaning kits that you can buy to care for your clothes at home using your dryer. Has saved me lots of money & time.🙏🏽

[@mademoisellejaime]

Ooooh I didn't know about these! What's the name of the brand you use? x

[@wallihaley5194]

mademoiselle, I use Dryel. dryel.com/how-it-works/?gclid=CjwKCAjw2uf2BRBpEiwA31VZj98sRWnOCs2ZUycq0-Z9p8gv0hkzIUl36jeT1fCsM2BwQ7IFnuc3XRoCAPgQAvD_BwE

[@lynventris7996]

Thankyou for sharing. It's nice to know it happens to others! Yes! I do have a big decluttering regret. I was having a huge cull at the time and I parted with a Twin Set by Simona Barbieri navy and cream ditzy print dress. I just don't know why l let it go and am on the hunt for another one. I think it may take a while to find one. 🤔

[@mademoisellejaime]

I’ve had a couple things that I parted ways with in the past and managed to stumble across again so wishing you luck!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

[@kaireetann4028]

I do recall being perplexed when you parted with the Acne Mape jacket (I too saved up for this piece) but No Regrets! Sometimes it makes sense to sell an item that holds it's price value. I regret when I sell an item that I paid a lot for at a considerable discount. I recommend Veda as a more affordable substitute for the Mape if you decide to buy another moto.

[@mademoisellejaime]

I recall I felt no regrets at the time, but perspective (and shifts in style) are a a funny thing. Ooh I'll have to check out Veda as an alternative, thanks for the suggestion Kairee xx

[@deniseyeung7121]

Aritzia makes a sweater dress called the Bianca that is very similar to the Hope Grand sweater and they come out with new colors every F/W.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Oooh I had no idea. I LOVE Aritzia. Thanks for the suggestion. I keep browsing their new arrivals and spotting such lovely items :)

[@Minnow37]

I really enjoyed this video! And look forward to your anti haul with much anticipation. It’s very fascinating and helpful to hear your dissection of your actions and reflections upon how your style has evolved and your needs have shifted. I think the Rockstuds would look really nice on you, which I’m surprised to say as I’m not a fan of the style usually, I find them so overdone. But your silhouettes are usually more streamlined or relaxed/softened, so I think the shape of the shoes and the studs could go really well to add just a hint of sharpness. And we all know you love a good shoe 😛 Plus you’re not one to wear overly branded or ‘trendy’ of the moment items, so I can’t imagine you looking like you got devoured by the Instagram trendy influencer behemoth, which is what I associate the Valentino rockstuds and Gucci anything with 😂 I haven’t decluttered anything I’ve regretted yet. Although maybe I’ll have regrets if I manage to force myself to cull my things as I’m finally preparing to move, and there’s not much space in Sydney rentals eek ahah.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Jess! And yes I need to double check my video schedule that I've planned - this is a reminder of why I loved doing videos twice a week. I have too many ideas and not enough time to film (and edit) them with a little one haha! I think the rock studs are a polarising one, and I can completely appreciate that viewpoint. What blogger doesn't own a pair, it feels like?! I always figure that the mark of a good staple is when you love it, just for the fact that you love it (rather than being "coerced" into liking it from sheer exposure on social media). I don't really follow anyone who wears them aside from a couple UK bloggers so that may be a reason why I'm still so enamoured by them. Well, that, and I just think that they're a beautiful shoe that do *all* the talking - something you know I love as my outfits are often quite basic. Do you know when you'll be moving? Must be hard with COVID. Some friends of ours bought a house and move in a few weeks, and I think they're still not sure if they'll be moving their furniture themselves or with the help of removalists. And you never know, you may get lucky with your flat! x

[@UpToChris]

The lighting is amazing in this video :) definitely should purchase another pair of rockstuds!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Aw thanks! It was in and out a little bit as it’s been so cloudy in Sydney lately. Not complaining as the rain has been great 😊 haha and am hoping to find some for a good price pre-loved I think....! hope you’re keeping well xx

[@sarahmarinkovich-durfee4509]

I’m with you on this video. There are a few items now- clothing and beauty- that I’ve given away and now I think why!?!!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Glad I'm not the only one! XD

[@bridkelleher53]

Such a useful video.Very thought provoking .Making me more considered 're decluttering.I agree with your point 're minimalism and a capsule wardrobe.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Brid! Yes I used to be so obsessed with getting down to a certain arbitrary number - a shame as I definitely let go of some great pieces over the years 😅

[@karlinemann]

Just this week I thought that I already had just decluttered a pair of ballerinas that I wore at my wedding 5 years ago and never since. I found a really nice white+offwhite dress and instantly thought how nice those shoes would go with the dress and was a bit sad. Luckily a few days later I found a decluttering bag with the shoes in it :) We moved in the middle of the pandemic with our toddler when our daycare closed while working full time and chaos took over haha.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Talk about serendipity - so lucky you managed to find them. Hope you and your family are staying safe at the moment and looking after yourselves! xx

[@rimabelrhazi959]

Great video ! Loved the idea because we sometimes take some things for granted ! It was also great to see your previous outfits ! Can you do a style update?

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Rima! I did a bit of a style evolution video a couple of years back which includes a lot of blasts from the past :)

[@rimabelrhazi959]

@@mademoisellejaime Yes I found the video and it was great ! Really loved the hair too ! I always had black hair and I'm a first time mommy just finished breastfeeding maybe i'll try that it looked incredible on you !

[@bnstyle51]

I totally regret getting rid of some brocade black heeled mules and some pointy toe slingbacks that I had held onto for ages-they came back into style the very next season! I do hold on to all my jewelry except the cheap quality pieces-always fun to find something cool that’s back in style! Love your style and your very down to earth presentation and manner-are you a Kiwi by chance?

[@mademoisellejaime]

Ah that's so frustrating when that happens! Thank you so much, you're too kind :) I grew up in New Zealand, yes - good spotting. I've been living in Australia for just over six years and my accent has definitely broadened quite a lot XD

[@jackiespence]

I usually remember the good times with culled pieces. If I repurchase them, I usually regret it because (as it turned out), I made the correct decision the first time around. I'd suggest that you should let bygones be "bye gones."

[@mademoisellejaime]

Oops I thought I'd replied to this already, sorry! I've had mixed experiences repurchasing items. Sometimes it's worked out well, other times, I've remembered the core reason I parted ways with it in the first place. I think it's hanging on to those memories of all the good times had wearing said piece

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Thanks for another great video. There is only one item that I regret donating: it was a cognac-brown, very high quality blazer, with chocolate-brown suede collar and trim. It was beautiful, but had a straighter fit, it really just needed taking in at the waist. They just don’t make blazers like that anymore. I particularly miss the breathable rayon linings of those 90s blazers, the standard of the day, even better, silk linings weren’t impossible to find. I just can’t stand polyester, today’s standard, unfortunately. Younger women don’t usually get this, but when they go into early menopause, they will.

[@kli8469]

Love these types of videoes! 🤍

[@mademoisellejaime]

Yay so glad you enjoyed it! x

[@coolacharc6254]

Hi!! Aww I LOVED that Karen walker frill top.. but I also know what you mean about viscose ugh. Another item I have always identified as being very “you” is the black proenza bag!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Ahh yes it was one of those items I just LOVED. I found I could wear it multiple times in Wellington before it needed to be dry-cleaned because the climate is quite cold, whereas here in Sydney, it's so warm in Spring/Summer that you can't really wear the same top two times in a row (at least, I wouldn't!). Maybe I can get one remade by a seamstress in a silk or cotton :) Oh my gosh that's a blast from the past. That was my every day bag for years! :)

[@coolacharc6254]

mademoiselle wouldnt silk be really high maintenance too? That’s a great idea though, to have it remade!

[@carok6914]

So inspiring, thanks for sharing! Have a great week ahead ❤

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Caro! Same to you ❤️

[@paulamarie2325]

Great video, thanks Jamie. I remember almost all those pieces and must confess to being shocked at seeing the black frill t-shirt included, knowing how much you loved it 🙂 !! The only thing I would hesitate to repurchase is the Rockstuds. They're really beautiful but as someone else said, every other fashion blogger seems to have a pair, and so they feel a bit obvious. Perhaps you could use your creative eye to spot a more unique alternative xx

[@mademoisellejaime]

Yes that was SUCH a favourite of mine - still is to this day, and it was truly the clothing care aspect that drove me to part ways with it. After reading through a number of the other comments, I'm starting to think it may be a good idea (with that piece anyway), to perhaps get a dressmaker to replicate it for me in a different fabric. Will see how I go! With the rock studs - their popularity doesn't bother me (especially as they aren't exactly a "trendy" shoe anymore). I've always thought the style was special. Not going to rush into anything though, that's for sure, and will of course be keeping my eye out should something better come along :) Hope you're keeping well! xx

[@deborahmac1997]

I can see why you miss many of those pieces. When it works it can becomes a lifelong classic in our wardrobes. Note to myself, Viscose is a no go. This was great lesson. Sometimes we come across that bespoke garment that just works. Thanks for reminder to take pause. Can't wait to see you in the Swediish made sweater!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Oh definitely - and to me I feel like all those styles (perhaps with the exception of the shoes) are so classic, that they wouldn't feel out of place worn today. Probably another reason why I miss them so much! And coming up in this Thursday's video :D :D

[@donnaboyle7513]

I had to think about it a bit, so I don’t k ow if regret is the right sentiment, but I had this beautiful bulky ivory sweater that I always reached for, but I sold it because I felt it took up too much space in my drawer and made me look heavy. However, it was the perfect winter weight. My brother commented about it looking like a fisherman’s sweater and I guess I took it as an insult. I really ought to not care what others think.

[@candydavis4277]

This is why I can’t cull my wardrobe. Every time I do, I regret discarding a piece.

[@mademoisellejaime]

I can totally appreciate that! x

[@heatherranieri1241]

just wondering if you find the Assembly knit you are wearing in this video heavy or is it just me?

[@mademoisellejaime]

It's a SUPER thick and heavy knit, yes! A lot heavier than most of my other sweaters :)

[@heatherranieri1241]

@@mademoisellejaime Thanks for your reply. Great I'm not imagining things haha. Have you tried doing a half tuck? I can't seem to make it work for me? Its lovely quality. I will keep trying to wear it till I get it right lol : )

[@harryginnyalways]

While it's understandable to have these regrets, when the old goes out it makes way for opportunities to welcome the new. :) but maybe it's just me that never looks back once a chapter is over!

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's very true! I was recently reflecting on old travel photos which is where this idea came up as I found myself wondering why I had parted ways with a number of different items which I'd still wear today. I suppose, selling them made room for new items which I love just as much! :D

[@flufftronable]

I use a temporary separation box and go back to it in maybe a month

[@mademoisellejaime]

A few others have suggested this too, and it's definitely an approach I'm going to be taking from now on! x

[@thecosmetickoala7145]

Not wowed by anything you did sell apart from the acne leather jacket. Don’t spend money on things you are too scared to wear bc they might get damaged! But if you are looking for statement shoes the anine Bing Charlie boots might be a better and more durable option than the Chile ones! Only thing I regret selling is a pair of 2nd hand acne jeans, they were so comfortable, but Grey denim was out of fashion at the time so I sold them :(

[@mademoisellejaime]

For me, all the items have such positive memories attached and while many might not seem special, they were to me (and many were my most worn). The Acne jacket was such a splurge, and is still to this day the most amount of money I've ever spent on a single item of clothing! I know the AB boots you mean - I've never loved the silhouette from how I see it online, but maybe I need to try them on to get a real sense. They've had such lasting power! Were those the ones with the zipper at the back? I remember they had such a moment

[@TheMidlifeGallivanters]

I so understand your regret! I had a pair of stiff, cotton fabric, beige culottes. I regret to this day, giving them away. I did however, find a black pair recently, pre-loved, that are very similar. Jaime, what were you thinking regarding the rock studs and the Acne leather jacket? But, we do hope you can find these all again. Decluttering can be such a pain ;) Good luck on finding those that are meant to be back in your wardrobe. xox

[@mademoisellejaime]

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone - I can completely appreciate why some people are very hesitant to let things go at all. My mum was like that (though her closet was fabulous!). Ahhh I know! In saying that, the funds from the sale of both items went towards making some very special memories so it's nice to remember that. I'm not going to be too hasty about adding anything back into my closet, but definitely will be keeping my eyes peeled :)

[@caitlynbloxham3530]

I loved this video. I feel like we all go through cycles of collecting and cycles of culling and have these regrets. I remember the Karen Walker frill top and you also suggested these ASOS ones that look like them and I still have them!!! Best recommendation ever x x x

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Caitlyn! Yes and as our mood shifts or preferences change too 😊 ohh wow that’s so cool!! I love that. I’m wishing I’d bought one for myself now as if I recall correctly they would have been much easier to care for!

[@caitlynbloxham3530]

mademoiselle 💯 Our lives are forever changing and evolving. Since having kids you soon learn that you don’t have as much time to care for items with dry cleaning etc so anything that looks amazing and doesn’t need dry cleaning gets a massive tick from me!

[@janicevin4207]

Another comment is regarding laundering your knits: I machine wash all my knits (including cashmere) in cold water and even put them a few minutes in the dryer in the delicate mode before finally letting them dry properly flat....

[@mademoisellejaime]

I do this with a handful of my cashmere knits, but generally I'm not willing to risk it - I've had some disasters in the past using that method (not the dryer part - just the washing machine in a delicates bag). I suspect it probably has something to do with the washing machine we have. So glad it works for you, sounds so fuss free!! :D

[@monix3]

That's why I would suggest putting things in a box and waiting at least a little bit before selling them. 😊

[@mademoisellejaime]

Definitely something I'm doing more now! x

[@minhng575]

Tell me all about those regrets! I'm living abroad and don't want to expand my wadrobe too much, during study time I decided to get rid of a beautiful orange maxi dress together with other pieces that I considered too "formal" for my lifestyle back then, and now that I start working I feel regret and think of them oftenly.

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's one thing I always considered when parting with some of my more formal workwear items. When I began working in television, our dress code was much more relaxed (pretty similar to what I wear daily now TBH), and I didn't have a need for those items. I'm sure I'll eventually end up working in a formal setting again like that, so hoping I won't regret parting ways with some of the more classic workwear staples I used to love and wear often! x

[@cnsun17]

I can sympathize as I'm sure everyone has done a declutter they've regretted. I'm getting rid of things I haven't worn in over a year or things that don't fit.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Hehe yes I definitely don't think I'm alone in that :) And a year is a substantial amount of time to wait - I suspect would go a long way in helping avoid these kinds of "regrets"! xx

[@NinaThomas]

Watching your videos makes me realize the long term benefits of investing in more expensive pieces. You were able to sell them even when you were done with them. I find it hard to ever sell fast fashion pieces. (Granted, in this video you regret selling!)

[@mademoisellejaime]

There's definitely a lot more interest when it comes to the resale market for those more higher priced or quality items - that said, you still end up losing money, but if the item has been well-loved by you, then the pinch isn't quite so bad! xx

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

In my opinion, none of those nine items were really classic enough to regret selling, with the possible exception of the black coat. This happens to everyone when we buy trendy pieces. I think the thing to do is really wear and enjoy them a lot while we have them, then let them go. I bought a huge expensive wardrobe for 2019, then lost 30 lbs. and can’t wear any of it, even though I really love a lot of it. Oh, well.

[@kristenperry7344]

Ok I completely understand missing pieces but to go so far as to be looking out for them again 🙁 I hope you're changing your thinking around getting rid of things now.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Hehe well you know you made a mistake letting it go if you're on the hunt for it again, right? Am now taking a slower approach to removing items from my wardrobe - mulling them over for a month (as many others have suggested) at least! That way I can revisit it and see if I've "missed" having the item in my wardrobe :)

[@Kris-jh9pf]

I should declutter (again) soon - I’ll think twice over each piece.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Someone else suggested moving items to another place (like under the bed or in another room) for 30 days before making a final decision. I think that’s a great idea so will be doing that from now on 😊

[@Kris-jh9pf]

mademoiselle Great advice, I’ll try that 👍

[@ElaineWong-uc1qe]

Please keep your Lover and Karen Walker pieces. They are special

[@mademoisellejaime]

You know, they’re the two designers I first started buying at 15 years old (17!! Years ago now - crazy!!). Some of my favourite items in my closet have been from both brands ❤️❤️

[@jazmeen04]

If the viscose fabric was washed before sewing, it won't shrink, also it only shrinks once, not every time you wash it. I sew my own clothes and I always preshrink the fabric before sewing it. So I guess many brands take the easy way out.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thank you so much for sharing this info - this explains a LOT. I would say for sure that all the viscose items I've bought haven't been pre-washed, as I've never had an experience where the item hasn't shrunk. This goes for high street and what I would consider more "premium" brands.

[@barbb.9489]

Jaime, now that you have the baby, I don’t think you want high maintenance clothing! I’m shocked over the leather jacket and the Valentino shoes though.

[@mademoisellejaime]

With the amount of washing I have been doing, I'm all for things I can throw in the wash and hang up to line dry :) Yeah I still can't believe I parted ways with both items. I think the shoes may have been before our Maldives honeymoon which was a big expense - so in both instances, I sold those items to make some really incredible memories which isn't the worst thing!

[@melissajones4396]

What a cool idea for a video

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Melissa! x

[@ryeofoatmeal]

i still thinking about that wide trousers i donate last year 🙃 like wwhhhyyyy

[@mademoisellejaime]

I swear I forget I even parted with these items 99.5% of the time, but it's the 0.5% of the time I'm reminiscing - clearly I had some strong memories attached to them :)

[@marynamakes]

Viscose doesn't shrink in the wash usually, at least from what I know from fabrics. I have quite a few tops, shirts and dresses in viscose and I wash them either by hand or in the washing machine on a delicate cycle and +30 degrees Celsius. Never had an experience of anything shrinking in the wash.

[@mademoisellejaime]

It's funny you say that, as every experience I've had with viscose, it's shrunk in the wash. The last viscose pieces I bought, I hand washed in cold water (colder than 30 deg), barely agitated it in the water to try and minimise shrinkage, and both items shrunk a full size. It was pretty upsetting as it happened to two dresses that I'd only worn a handful of times. I even go to the extent of reshaping the items post washing too :( I'm curious to know what you're doing differently to me! It's happened to items I've put in the wash on a 30 deg C delicate cycle as well.

[@inspiredby624]

@@mademoisellejaime Well if it shrinks a whole size (and doesn't get weirdly misshapen) couldn't you simply go up a size on any viscose items you buy? Dry cleaning is so expensive and annoying that I personally just just machine wash everything and hope that the price of the odd item that might get ruined ends up being lower than constantly dry cleaning it would have been ;)

[@criso7947]

I liked this video it was different.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thank you! So glad you enjoyed - yes I don't think I've seen anyone else do something like this so thought it would be a bit of fun to reflect on :)

[@christopherarmistead2550]

Hi Jamie love the clothes you used to have and my favorite are the Valentino rockstuds those are some gorgeous shoes and I know it was hard to give them up and love for you to get them again. Thank you Jamie amazing video and have a great Sunday. Love XO❤😊

[@mademoisellejaime]

Yes I was so torn about letting those go, especially as they were such a special colour. I'd say my other motivation probably had to do with saving for a holiday or something (wouldn't be surprised anyway!). Hopefully I can come across them pre-loved at a good price. Fingers crossed anyway x

[@rehmataulakh3796]

Sometimes your life changes over years and indirectly because you decided to let go of something and move on. You can’t keep holding onto things that you might need, because doing that might keep you from reaching your goals.

[@mademoisellejaime]

That's so true, and relates to so much more than just our wardrobes. Letting go is one of the many things that leads to growth

[@rehmataulakh3796]

mademoiselle yes, I have been very well. I have been working overtime at the hospital but the people of Sydney should be thanked for how well they have handled the restrictions. It is because of people like you doing your part that our medical staff are not battling a crisis.

[@archaicamusement3871]

Except for the jacket and trench, the other items are out of time now. Get rid of them was the wise decision.

[@mademoisellejaime]

They might not be trendy but I generally don't opt for trends, instead going for items I love that I'll enjoy wearing for years and years, even if they're no longer "in" :) I do wish I hadn't parted with them, but there'll always be something new to love and buy, right? x

[@archaicamusement3871]

@@mademoisellejaime 😂 absolutely!

[@isabelkassan5244]

Don't declutter that lovely pink jumper! It really suits you! Just because others declutter you don't need to! Buy another wardrobe and keep everything! Beautiful tasteful style and clothes!

[@mademoisellejaime]

Sadly I already parted ways with it YEARS ago! A shame but I did repurchase it in black. LOL I wish I could, but I think I'd also feel guilty having so much clothing and not being able to wear it all xx

[@michellet1800]

I think your style is nice however those rock stud shoes look flashy, tacky, and basic.

[@mademoisellejaime]

Thanks Michelle. I know they're not to everyone's taste and from a trend perspective, they're "done", but I don't tend to follow trends anyway and it's a style I've always loved. I think they look really nice when worn with pared back outfits :) Tones them down a lot! x

[@rumiexpresse9049]

Come on, life is too short to regret clothing..thats just sad

[@mademoisellejaime]

Haha! Perspective is everything - for me it's more, I still love these items and wish I'd never chosen to part ways with them. I'm not the type to be overly precious about physical possessions (happy to part ways with pretty much everything I own), but I think its just that each of those items had certain memories attached to them which made them special. Maybe it's just been since becoming a mum, but I seem to be feeling a bit sentimental about things these days!

[@OfWavesAndWinds]

Valentino rockstuds - NO! They were so trendy and popular that they will always look dated from now on...

[@mademoisellejaime]

Haha I agree that they may seem "dated", but I'm personally not too fussed by trends like that. Tamara Kalinic (if you follow her) recently mentioned how they are just a "no" for her in her wardrobe as they are so done LOL. I'm happy to continue wearing something if I absolutely love it though - regardless of whether it's in style or not! :D

[@MC-ys9kk]

I feel like they’ve become so associated with a particular point in “fashion time”. They are beautiful though. I do fall into this trap sometimes of purchasing something either super popular, super identifiable and/or hardly ever wearing something expensive for fear of damaging it (affecting resale value or just loving it so much). These videos are very helpful in supporting a more thoughtful and educated thought process about what one purchases and why....and what to hopefully not repeat.