Victoria Shocked by Family Abusing their Dog! | Full Episode | It's Me or The Dog

Two owners disagree about the dangerous behavior of their dog, Dakota. Along with stopping the way the couple harshly disciplines the pet, Victoria tries to get things under control in order to keep the home safe.
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[@Cupcake_Murder]

People don't understand that when you get a dog you need to teach them things like you would a small child. No one is born with knowledge. Everything needs to be taught.

[@thecasualatvguy617]

Exactly. My nephew didn't understand the puppy I just adopted is a clean slate. She wants him to play and uses her mouth like with me. He is to afraid to push her down and say down. Lol. She is starting to understand the down and back commands.

[@beautifullyanimatedspeaks3301]

Amen. Facts. 💯❤‍🔥

[@caobita]

🎯

[@paulinebrus7580]

most people do understand, but these parents...they didn't learn their children how to behave with the dog. They are so lucky Dakota has no bit their heads of. Other dogs would have.

[@lilhedgehog8576]

@@pnwobserver3343 I mean they can be but most dogs have the brain of a four-year-old so you’re calling a four-year-old a predator, which is kind of funny no offense, but I just find it funny.

[@IsAbElGoNzAlEz9829]

That man is a walking talking red flag. How you treat animals is hugely indicative of your character

[@kathybrem880]

He’s a creep

[@Kronkgirl]

Yeah that guy is a problem

[@nickyjones867]

Absolutely!

[@ytsc1109]

Looks like he'd beat his wife or kids if pressed.

[@_lexi]

im worried about his children

[@K.-lw7hz]

the "that's your fault, not hers" is just so satisfying to hear

[@jeffbaldelli1268]

It always the dog owners fault. Majority of dog owners are horrible.

[@Danny01474]

@@jeffbaldelli1268 I'll slightly disagree; It's not ALWAYS the dog owners' fault, but it's VERY VERY VERY often the dog owners' fault. By this I mean that, sometimes, there's just a dangerous dog born and that's all there is to it. But how often is that versus how often is it the owners' fault... Yeah, it's nearly always owners' fault.

[@audrey1370]

I swear Victoria is a saint, she's so patient with this man who clearly doesn't care about Dakota and who doesn't deserve her. And so many red flags: trying to get rid of her when his wife is at work?! Who does that?! Apparently the same kind of person who hits their dog... 🙄

[@Saint.Holy.Sinner]

😂😂😂😂

[@kaylee8620]

That's very judgemental. The husband is probably the only one who's actually taking care of Dakota in the family. You can see from the way he handles her, it seems that he's always been the one with the leash etc. Also, Victoria hasn't addressed how the kids' and wife's high energy affects how Dakota behaves. This is usually what happens in a household. The husbands are usually calm but doing all the dog chores + making money. The wife and kids always have anxious and high energy. They need to do something about their energy and take out the dog for a walk more often to keep her satisfied

[@kyliixx0]

@@kaylee8620he’s also the one abusing the dog and causing problems.

[@ember9361]

@@kaylee8620 why are you so eager to defend a dog abuser

[@kaylee8620]

@@ember9361 @ember9361 That doesn't count as defending, I was stating the truth about the husband, the wife, the children and the trainer. Just because Victoria says he is a dog abuser, doesn't mean he is. Don't forget that Dakota bit his children. And don't forget that Victoria failed to address the real problem - the wife and the children, they've got high energy and too anxious causing the father having a hard time in handling Dakota, and, Dakota probably doesn't get as many walks as she needs. Victoria should be teaching the father on how to control space with Dakota in order to communicate with Dakota on not biting his children and, Victoria should be teaching the wife on leash handling so she can bring Dakota to walks more frequently. I'm sure they've got a problem with Dakota on leash. People don't get frustrated without reasons. If you ever handled a misbehaving dog that size, or bigger, you'll understand what it means when they misbehave.

[@SarahAParis]

They're teaching their kids that it's ok to mistreat animals.😡

[@user-ek1qz1wt8q]

ME TO

[@jen_gem]

I know 😤

[@1_star_reviews]

The dad said he’s “only had her a year and tried to get rid of her twice…no one in the house wants the dog but the mom”. It’s seeming like the men in the house just aren’t dog people. They should rehome her.

[@coda3223]

​@@1_star_reviewsDude is also using his kids to gang up on his wife to win an argument.

[@Skrunkly_Velvet_Worm]

@@1_star_reviewsfrfr

[@Mountainlover1111]

He’s bitching about the dog as if its not HIS responsibility to train her… YOU are the failure sir, not her

[@rosas4851]

If you dont want a dog in your home it's not your responsibility

[@aljones75]

@@rosas4851it kind of is if you have young children

[@rosas4851]

@aljones75 sorry but not everyone wants a furry baby. If they can't control or take care of the dog, the dog is better off somewhere else

[@ulverine3188]

He didnt want the dog in the first place gtfo

[@ulverine3188]

how are u gonna compare actual human beings to dogs @@aljones75

[@kukurydza007]

Omg, the way Dakota tried to comfort the little crying boy only to get pinched in the muzzle... Poor baby

[@HBJaneALT]

Aargh that was such a critical moment! Luckily Victoria was there.

[@fairygrl999]

aw yea this broke my heart, poor kids to deal with that dad modeling those bad behaviors, and def poor pup

[@capsulamental]

Every dog deserves a family, but not every family deserves a dog

[@irmpenrie5345]

Exactly, that's all there is to say about this episode. Deplorable Dakota.

[@susangreen5146]

Totally agree

[@edster612]

Actually it breaks my heart to see a dog being mistreated and having it's needs not met. That family has no idea how much damage that Dakota could do if she had a mean bone.

[@AnnKovshova]

Yes! The dog just wants to be loved, trained and played with

[@morganablackwater2017]

...Dakota actually seems like a sweet dog, just need some training and care

[@MartinaJBuckleyAltaredstatez]

Well put

[@saracoleman2042]

Exactly! She’s begging for attention and guidance. The way they allow their children to handle this dog is just disturbing.

[@joey6451]

especially when he hits him!

[@ndxxmx2416]

You abused her and expect a respect from her!? She's got feelings, too. She's not a doll

[@bekleedee]

Right?! When he said "she doesn't trust me and thats mostly my fault." Dude. What are you on about? Its ALL your fault!

[@eleanorhogan8643]

I completely agree with you about that, she is a living thing.

[@feliperamosesquivel9522]

is just a beast.

[@ghoultooth]

@@feliperamosesquivel9522So are you, Felipe. Does that mean you don’t have feelings?

[@feliperamosesquivel9522]

@@ghoultooth haha

[@beautifullife3769]

It boils by blood seeing her getting abused by a family that lacks control. They not only failed as parents they failed teaching their children how to properly treat, raise a dog. The kids see the dad kicking, punching, yelling at the dog. The wirst thing a human can lack is compassion towards animals.

[@Miauura]

And if they got rid of her you would be hearing them say "we had a very unruly dog" as if it was not all their fault Dakota was very well behaved compared to what she could have been with those kind of owners

[@aurorasedgemore735]

Exactly , having him consistently say that if he sees change, then he’s willing to work with her even though he is the main problem of why she is the way she is and that is awful and that’s why the children are exhibiting the same behaviours that they see from their father, he does not deserve to have her She is a fantastic dog and is very tolerant of what she has to go through and the fact that she hasn’t bit anybody just shows how tolerant she really is. She deserves so much more.

[@Catherinemorais]

He just doesn’t deserve to be a dog owner. Poor Dakota. Absolutely gorgeous dog 😢

[@UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md]

Neither does the wife.

[@kiddywriter]

He’s made great strides…give the guy some credit. Takes a lot to be receptive to change one’s behavior. Not everyone has that ability

[@kiddywriter]

Kudos to you both! You have done a great job with your beautiful dog!

[@kiddywriter]

You both have done an amazing job! Kudos to both of you!

[@reebot690]

Man this is so frustrating. Because that's a really nice dog and for the right person, she could be an amazing sport companion. She's begging for something to do. Instead she's left to walk on eggshells, punished for being a BULL TERRIER. Why get one if you don't want this personality??

[@gointothedogs4634]

I know. I was thinking if the guy would just go out and play ball with her, she could lose some of that high energy.

[@elizabethwalton2255]

Right?! The poor dog is constantly asking someone to play with her 😭 They have a puppy and are abusing it. This is so upsetting. Wish Victoria would force a rehome.

[@kellharris2491]

Yeah this dog is a working dog. And this man has no interest in training her at all.

[@LinZhasInfiniteSwag]

No way they "did a lot of research" like the lady said they did. I like how Victoria called her out on that lie.

[@OneLove101.]

Agreed. 👍

[@OkamiWSDwarrior]

This dog is actually incredibly sweet. She is amazing for not being more aggressive and destructive. Poor thing 😢

[@darladimple8437]

more like annoying he keeps jumping on them

[@annalloyd6180]

@@darladimple8437 thats not the dogs fault? those things are fairly easy to train out of them.. the owners just didn't...

[@darladimple8437]

@@annalloyd6180 true

[@AllThingsClarice]

@@darladimple8437don’t talk rubbish, the husband is a clown. Poor dog!!

[@CelestialMoonx]

@@darladimple8437Not the dogs fault but the owners. Dogs wont learn if they arent taught.

[@labrynna87]

The thing I like most about this episode is a tiny detail: In the first week, when Victoria was there, Dakota had her tail between her legs almost the whole time when Joe was training her, but in the last few scenes she was wagging her tail and seemed so much more relaxed. It really looks like she build some trust towards her owner and that's beautiful!

[@ErikaDeyzel-yf1ot]

Yes I too noticed her tail came up and was wagging more. That's a good sign. Their body language says a lot.

[@worms5893]

"We've only had her a year" And I've had my cat 7 months, if my boyfriend of 4 and a half years asked me to get rid of her I would drop him so fast.

[@Mandaraminu]

Same, if my significant other doesn’t want my fur-baby I don’t want them.

[@TreatOthersWithKindness]

Then you're a responsible pet owner. Would not believe how many pets I rescued because the boyfriend or girlfriend 'didn't want them around' anymore. That's why I say, if your so wants you to do that, then yeah - find someone who loves animals. Lots of guys out there who are pet lovers. Same with girls.

[@112887db]

lmao just because you have a lot of kids doesnt mean you are an energetic family. Do yall hike, bike, run or anything????

[@ElizabethBlack-wk7mr]

Exactly what I was thinking.

[@Viktoria12388]

Right? A chaotic home is the worst place to be for a high energy dog. A calm animal that can ignore the party would fit in so much better, but tbh I don’t know why they even got a dog in the first place? They don’t seem to be doing anything with her!

[@janesmith4617]

I noticed both parents doing that, not just the mother. Neither of them seemed to understand that they are parents to their children, and responsible for their safety.

[@stinesfloy]

A common mistake is to think a lot going on is the same as high energy. Guess people think it sounds better to describe themselves as energetic. So many people tend to pick dogbreeds based on what they want to be and not what they are.

[@jilldurham5498]

Do you know what the hell the definition of energy is? Chaotic and energy gonna be hand in hand duh

[@TheSummerOf86]

I really hope this dog got re-homed. She deserves better

[@angelinascinta5619]

Right garenteed he went back to his old ways after this episode lady next door needs to call animal control on him.

[@ambergibson7381]

I feel the same!! They aren't comfortable with this amount of responsibility!! A rehome is in order✌🏽

[@angelinascinta5619]

@@ambergibson7381 💯 facts

[@Hope-nr8pz]

She really does and her grabbing that swing when the child is on it she is playing she ain’t being violent that’s what my aunties English bull terrier does

[@aff77141]

I hope they got divorced 💀

[@Ann2409.]

I got an instant bad gut feeling about that guy 😟 if he treats his dog like that on camera I can only imagine what he’s like when cameras are not around. Poor dog 😢 I hope she’s been rehomed to a more suitable home

[@honestlyjustaweirdo7706]

As a dog owner the best change I made was to realize if my dog is doing something “bad” it’s because I am not doing something right, whether it’s training, or showing a behaviour, or not enough attention/exercise. If my dog is struggling it’s becuase of me

[@Madronaxyz]

Love your attitude!

[@AnnKovshova]

You know, this man is the first owner in this show who uses a torture collar not as the last resort for an unruly dog, but more like "why not? I don't like her"

[@morganablackwater2017]

Even with normal leash he tries to control Dakota every step... He pulls her and hangs her on the leash... Its SO VISABBLE ...this guy really disgust me

[@imalwaysright]

Or because of ignorance. It’s America.

[@imalwaysright]

@@morganablackwater2017where?

[@kathrynhoward4196]

​@@imalwaysright There are ignorant people everywhere. America doesn't have a monopoly on it.

[@Ojasoomaa]

They didn’t need a dog. They needed less children.

[@lrla8657]

Give the dog to another family. They don’t need another distraction when they aren’t even watching their kids properly!

[@UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md]

The wife does fa as well.

[@nadia9377]

His kid misbehaving, he’s like: “I’m done, i don’t want him anymore, i don’t need a kid in my life anymore” and slapping them

[@cinnarenaroll1292]

what bothers me to no end whether it's in this show or something I see in real life is when small children are mishandling an animal and the parent says nothing about it or does nothing to stop it. Absolutely hate that

[@JesusSaves-fw5bi]

I think this program should be called “ It’s not the dog, It’s YOU!

[@deidrebetts2936]

This family barely watches their own children, let alone their dog. The mom saying "he was too fast for me" when the kid was literally waddling at a snail's pace was the dumbest thing I've ever heard. I don't think the parents are present at all--they barely interact with each other, their kids, that dog, it's like they're living on another planet

[@alyssagggghik]

I actually wish she would’ve recommended rehoming. She’s a wonderful dog and deserves a loving and dedicated home

[@shinygems739]

This is so true, that kid was going at glacial speed but no, too fast.

[@lindziep6319]

Yes the parents need some training 😮‍💨

[@laurent-qu8xg]

Actually the snail pace was too fast for her😂

[@blueskyalldayeveryday]

Vast majority of people are like this. I can’t even watch this without my blood pressure going through the roof 🤬

[@ANGELDUSTISMYNAME]

Imagine hitting your dog and thinking that they will trust you.

[@susanhawkes2519]

STOOPIT!

[@MobilesuitBigO]

Depends how and why. Biting a broom no... Pawing your face and knocking off your glasses sure, but he kept doing it! And he chocked her with the collar, WOW.

[@lauramartin7675]

As I once heard, "dog training isn't for the dog, it's for the humans."

[@5u1c1dal24]

No its absoloutly for both. To keep both safe.

[@juttishere99]

What? Dogs are a waste. Why waste all your time and energy on a mutt? Sure, plenty of dollars later and energy the dog may be disciplined around you but it still takes off like an idot when it sees a kid a mauls the child.

[@teapotlizard]

the absolute tomfoolery of having three small children and then getting a bull terrier that you won't train. i'm speechless.

[@dogculturereveiw]

And forcing the kids to worship the dog

[@jennifertan]

when she said "we researched" i was calling SUCH bull crap bc the first thing about terriers is that they are not dogs good with small children 😭 this dog is literally meant to herd

[@Thebeezzkneezz.]

​@@jennifertanbully breeds are extremely affectionate dogs. They can be just as good with kids as any other dogs I've been bit by more small dogs than big dogs, but because they didnt do much damage it was seen as perfectly fine We adopted a dog when I was 10, was told we were looking at a beagle, but we walked out with a skinny scar coverd pittbul he was the sweetest dog, me and my sister would wrestle this dog, he would play with us, do his zoomies, I would put my whole arm in his mouth and he knew not to bite down hard , if we fought he'd get inbetween is and bark at the aggressor The only thing he didn't like. Was men, as he was most likely absued by one They are extremely smart, but also extremely strong they deserve respect

[@Thebeezzkneezz.]

​​@@jennifertancollies, and blood hounds were also made for herding / hunting yet I don't see anyone talking about them, We went to a dog park and this collie was chasing my pitty and jumping/nipping at my dog, people think just cuz their dog is seen as "good" and mine as "bad" they can let their dog mistreat him / think it's all his fault

[@TobydeCorgi]

This family doesn’t deserve a dog in the first place🤷‍♀️

[@TOOTHLESS666]

They deserve a therapy session

[@lilolmecj]

They just didn’t need one at this phase. They have way too much going on.

[@Vendetta_s]

They have kids under 7 and decided “hey let’s get a puppy that’s the equivalent of a 4 year old! “

[@evasmith2705]

Yes, especially with three small children, and Dad working at nights.

[@jeffbaldelli1268]

​@@TOOTHLESS666 Straight facts

[@teeth_boy_sal]

all dogs deserve a loving home but not all homes deserve a loving dog.

[@aff77141]

That man never wanted a dog in the first place, I'm shocked he even has kids

[@ashsmee]

Ok wait so they did “research” and decided a Bull terrier is a good fit with a young family….what research did they do. This is typical bull terrier behaviour and they should have never ever got one.

[@Erintii]

My thoughts exactly. My parent's neighbors had two bullterriers and two kids. Wife trained dogs and those were best behaving dogs in the whole neighborhood. She was carrying a kid and had dog's leash on her waist. But she was exception and it need time and experience to have such dogs.

[@twilightmarichat1854]

Yea i would have gotten the family a golden retriever.

[@theSFCchannel]

Yes our EBT'S are not for first time dog owners and that family is lucky the dog wasnt a male EBT as they are 10x more powerful and have 5x more energy

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

No, the woman clearly says they researched for what dogs were "very high energy"-NOT that they researched what dogs were a good fit for a family pet nor with young children.

[@tbvanwagner]

they actually have more bites actually because people assume they are perfect dogs.@@twilightmarichat1854

[@nikkirutland9814]

Wrong dog for the family, wrong family for the dog..😮

[@MlSS.S]

Wrong family for ANY dog!

[@GLGL520]

@@MlSS.Sand maybe even for any kids

[@kathybrem880]

@@GLGL520yep, wait til they’re in their teens!

[@anonymoose116]

BINGO

[@anonymoose116]

​@@kathybrem880there's no need to wait for the kids to be teens. I have 4 kids, the youngest is now 9, and we've had dogs their whole lives. But I actually work with my dogs from day 1, and I took the time to teach my kids how to be around dogs. We've never had an issue with bites or aggression. Dogs and kids can coexist, but the adults in the situation need to understand their role and responsibility.

[@sharonandrews6985]

Channels like this are EDUCATIONAL and VERY NECESSARY. Thank you for lending your expertise. Will save a lot of animals some unfair and unwarranted stress. Thank you

[@roseh.1842]

seeing the way this man “disciplines” his dog makes me think about the way he probably “disciplines” his children. so many red flags here 🚩I hope that poor pup found a home she deserves.

[@beautifullyanimatedspeaks3301]

​It's seriously frustrating when these owners use these trash accessories: choke chain, choke collar, shock collar, shock mats, etc, and never try it to see how it affects their pets.

[@twilightmarichat1854]

it's when the tools are used incorrectly is the problem and most owners aren't properly educated how to use them. Then we got owners that look for "shortcuts" in training. hate those kind of owners. they basically think the tool magically makes the dog well behaved in mins when really you still have to put in the work.

[@colourfulcrafts5492]

And they wouldn't dare use them on their kids but it's only a dog so it's fine 😤😤😤😡

[@Chupazombra]

@@twilightmarichat1854 yes! hard agree! these things are not bad if used correctly!

[@Alice-xy3fi]

@@twilightmarichat1854 Calling some, if not all of these things "tools" when used on an animal you are supposed to love and train lovingly, is like calling a cat o' nine tails a "tool" to be used in whipping children. There is no properly educated way to inflict pain on someone who loves you and is dependent on you..

[@daniellamcgee4251]

​​​​​@@twilightmarichat1854There is no appropriate use of a tool of torture as a form of discipline. 7:16

[@nonexitingsoulofaweeb2379]

I honestly don't know how Victoria didn't beat the sh!t out of the dad when he smacked poor Dakota

[@alyssagggghik]

I disagree with it but I’ve seen people do corrective smacks on dogs and they have never been that hard or that immediate- the way he lashed out then and then the way he yanked on her choke collar chilled me

[@essi.z8583]

​@@alyssagggghikIt's a perfect example of clear aggression on his part. He is not able to control his emotions.

[@mischr13]

If he's able to do that in front of her, what he does when it's just him is probably way worse

[@strawberryfox8819]

I honestly worry for the kids. It says a lot about a person how they treat an animal when overwhelmed and kids are seldomly not overwhelming.

[@penntopaper9305]

they need cps at that house lol

[@NotZerc_]

I believe this: Its not the dog, its the owner.

[@janellea1028]

any grown man hitting an animal is a coward. if i were his wife i would be questioning his character.

[@susanhawkes2519]

Joe is a coward and a bully.

[@alyssagggghik]

The way she reacting to the husband during training…my heart broke. The wife’s face looked like she was looking at him in a completely different way too

[@dragonnightwing9082]

The tail tucking too... 🥺

[@elisamaza8909]

i would not be so sure that his wife directly looked at him - they often cut it like that to make it look a certain way or to emphasize the impression...

[@camilaalimac2702]

@@elisamaza8909I think they’re talking about the dog lol she’s a girl

[@elisamaza8909]

@@camilaalimac2702 ooops! 😅

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Learn to read. The end of that comment was "the way the wife looks at him too" 🙄 ​@@camilaalimac2702

[@trishf2184]

At the core these folks are NASTY. NO excuse for brutality on a POOR animal. It's soul crushing to see people with so many excuses and Zero insight.

[@marilynrowland5197]

Not necessarily nasty. What they are to the core is IGNORANT! They don't know anything about owning and caring for a dog, nor have they bothered to do a little research and LEARN SOMETHING! They are the kind of owners who teach dogs bad behavior!

[@imalwaysright]

They asked for help and could reflect on their bad ways, so there’s more than zero insight. Being this nasty and judgemental is pointless. Is Veronica like that? It’s the same energy as them being so brutal and nasty on their dog

[@imalwaysright]

Calling them “nasty to the core” is a wild, inflated overreaction too.

[@spiralrose]

If these people cared about being good pet owners, they would’ve researched how to be. The dog is an accessory for them, like a picket fence or a two car garage

[@annetnedelec9453]

Not the folks. Just the guy

[@Sam-mh4mc]

I actually cried when I saw the way he was using that choke chain. The way they absolutely abused this dog in the name of training is ridiculous and she was actually soo sweet and if she really wanted to hurt them, she could easily do that but just the fact that she doesn't says how sweet she is. This family doesn't deserve this pup. And the children are learning the wrong things. Also I CANNOT understand how this family thought that getting a bull terrier was okay for their kind of family. thats some BS research they did. Also this is the kind of family who wouldn't even be able to handle the friendliest of dogs, idk how they wanted a bull terrier.

[@Karime18]

This is the one episode were I genuinely feel bad for the dog. I was angry and tearing up for this dog. What a horrible life they're giving her. They need to rehome her with people that will care about her training.

[@leafygold3467]

Why do you folks only focus on the negatives. Did you not see that they are changing and putting the effort on training the dog now? Forgive the past as the dog and owners now have a connection and understanding of each other. Be relief and happy for them.

[@that.ll_do_pig]

​@@leafygold3467agreed.

[@laurenschenck5355]

These owners didn’t do any research before adopting Dakota ❤

[@M00s3r]

They wanted a tough looking dog, they didn't think you have to put work into them!

[@meeofcourse4152]

Correct. Shameful English Bull Terriers are GREAT PUPS... FULL OF ENERGY, FUNNY. KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GETTING.... TRAIN TRAIN TRAIN. KINDNESS. HIGH EXPECTATIONS. PROVIDE ACTIVITIES- MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY

[@mantatee5741]

That was a very age appropriate teaching for the children. Impressive.

[@lg5996]

The dad took notes

[@carrie3952]

The amount of times that this guy said ‘she doesn’t trust me as much’ or something like that and complaining about how this stuff won’t work for him IS INSANE

[@julial.r.5383]

People should prove they're able to be good pet owners. For each pet application.

[@sfloridapatriot5572]

He worries about the neighborhood children, but not his own.

[@jenniferwells2291]

He's worried they will get sued

[@TOOTHLESS666]

​@@jenniferwells2291he's braindead

[@morganablackwater2017]

Hes abuser, he doesn't care about anyone wellbeing just about reputation. If his kids get bit he may hide it from neighbours - but if neighbours kids get bit he can't hide from it.

[@suelynrogers]

They are oblivious. Did not see the danger of their toddler approaching the dog in a frenzy, towards the neighbor's dog. They don't perceive or understand.

[@peacewithyou6341]

Do you even watch the episode? His children are his first concern. The woman wanted a dog, did not train him, he comes home and sees the children are terrified of the dog. Looks like the mother is more concerned with keeping the dog than the safety of her children

[@DHRadioGal]

As dog owners, we NEED to realize we are the problem & need the training. We need to stop blaming the dogs. 😢

[@1_star_reviews]

It’s unfair to the boys in the house to have an animal there that they don’t want. Rehoming is the only cure here unless they plan on letting the only person in the house that likes the dog, the mom to be 100% responsible for it.

[@fighterinmkiwiscience3517]

But some dogs are bad and attack kids

[@abrielc6157]

​@@fighterinmkiwiscience3517 Dogs aren't mean ppl make them "mean" And alot of ppl don't teach their kids how to treat dogs..

[@fighterinmkiwiscience3517]

@@abrielc6157 dogs can be mean

[@abrielc6157]

@@fighterinmkiwiscience3517 I didn't word it right but I was trying to say I don't believe it's entirely the dogs fault when they are mean

[@vivdoolan6846]

She described their family as energetic, what she meant was busy/ chaotic. Badly matched dog.

[@DeadWisteria]

It’s so good to watch a family do such an amazing turn around with their dog and the way they handle the situation. They really took her advice. Dakota is an incredible dog and she deserves the absolute best. Hopefully they will keep up their attention to her training and proper management.

[@RiniDiamandis]

1:27 that toddler kicking at the dog is WILD imo it's v telling of her temperment that she just lets them treat her like that and continues wagging her tail i guess she's used to it, but she doesnt even seem phased by it. she's a sweetie

[@morganablackwater2017]

Exactly... My cat would claw those kids eyes for half of things those brats do to this poor dog... Dakota have actually very good temper and is very patient

[@judim5379]

I’d like that movie strays but not funny….

[@Computernerd002]

Tail wagging isn't always a happy thing. Dogs wag their tail when excited; there's good excitement and bad excitement. She was definitely anxious when the kid was aggressive with her. Her tail wag was one of her behavior cues indicating that. However, she managed that anxiety very well and tried to avoid the situation rather than get aggressive. So I definitely agree her temperament is good, just that the tail wag was an anxious one and not a happy one.

[@AaliyahRoseMikaelson]

@@Computernerd002yep and tail wagging can be from overstimulation which can be from a lot of different reasons

[@shinygems739]

She just wanted so badly to be loved!!! The way she leaned into the husband when he started actually praising her, that poor baby!!

[@rroes7319]

They aren't a family that should be around animals. There needs to be a blacklist of pet-adopters

[@user-ly4yp8ml2i]

But now that they know better, they do better.❤

[@Gaius__]

@@user-ly4yp8ml2i Yeah, for a few minutes, on TV.

[@littlesparrow303]

@@Gaius__I’m curious if the dog is still with them or they finally gave her to someone else for the better

[@teamcougars]

She is a very beautiful dog and she is decently behaved considering her circumstances this family has done a complete injustice for this pupper😢

[@yuko273]

That dude is aweful. Poor dog. And you can see how relaxed and chill she is with the women and the difference with the dude at the agility center. He's nearly choking her and she doesn't want to stay near him, always pulling away. So aweful.

[@Shimo2130]

HOW IS TURNING YOUR BACK TO A DOG A STRUGGLE

[@deeanna8448]

I thought the same thing 😂

[@morganablackwater2017]

If you afraid of the dog its hard to turn your bac on them for some folks probably

[@Tothkaresz]

In this case it's a justified question, but for me it's not easy because my family and friends don't cooperate. We have a 5 months old terrier mix and he is very hyper all the time so this turning back and soothing period takes time. They think we are to strict / it's unnecessary and they don't take it seriously. Very frustrating.

[@stacyqualls7359]

@@Tothkaresz I have the same problem with friends and family that come to visit. I put my dog in a sit stay at the the door and try to train my dog not to jump on people, in general, but especially at the door. My friends and family know she harmless and just wants to say hi, so they don't listen when I tell them to ignore her or turn away. A stranger (sales person, delivery person) doesn't know that she's harmless and could try to back away and end up tripping on the stairs or overreact which could get us sued if someone gets injured. Maybe I need new friends, because I'd never get rid of my dog, lol.

[@that.ll_do_pig]

​@@stacyqualls7359yes, I have learned that somebody who will not respect the boundaries I've asked them to regarding my animals, is a red flag.

[@kmq1313]

Clearly they don’t want a dog. They don’t walk her they don’t train her they don’t let out the dogs flipping energy and these poor kids are like we want our energy let out to suddenly attack the freaking dog and the dogs like yo you wanna play to I’ll bite your hand. Just go to my kids too much stuff to think about you don’t need a dog… I know she fixes the problem but like honestly they are the problem, not the dog

[@juliarangelr]

they should rehome no matter what victoria does

[@r4cc00n2]

The dog is usually never the problem...

[@RiniDiamandis]

so true, that dog needs an owner who is as active and energetic as her and who is willing and happy to play and exercise with her. regardless that dad has anger issues, and the kids have taken to hitting her as well. that's dangerous behaviour.

[@SchokiiDubs]

They don't need kids either. Letting them do such things to an animal. They also have to "train" their children.

[@brightmoon7132]

@ShokiiDubs Yes. The whole time I was watching I was wondering if Joe treats his kids and wife the same way when they do something he doesn't like. And the mom is just clueless. The poor fog should be rehomed.

[@introvertedseasalt2178]

Man what a beautiful turnaround. It takes a lot of effort to train a dog among other life responsibilities. I'm very happy that these parents are willing to be taught, and i genuinely hope that they continue treating and training Dakota right. What amazing progress theyve made so far!

[@FalconX88]

"We are a high energy family"....yeah, I doubt that.

[@AromaBlue]

My daughter is 3. Ever since she was a baby I introduced her to different animals and told her they were "aww, love". She is so gentle and caring I am now teaching her not all animals need to be touched and loved, just like people. It is very telling how impacted not only the dog, the children were by their parents relationship and treatment of the dog.

[@neonlights3739]

We do similar with our little cousins. We tell them “Gentle, soft” and demonstrate by gently petting the animal. They love our animals and our animals love them too 🥰

[@jessH090]

Monkey see monkey do

[@kathybrem880]

All five of my kids were fantastic with all our pets from infancy

[@g.peacharts3674]

Thank you for for doing this, its so important

[@AromaBlue]

@@kathybrem880 That is great! ❤️

[@angel784]

As a dog lover I'm furious because it's clearly not the dog's problem it's obviously the owners 🤬😭

[@lesleycooper7544]

Get rid of him

[@belbel414]

​@@lesleycooper7544 Yeah the husband needs to go

[@Skrunkly_Velvet_Worm]

@@belbel414 yeah get rid of the husband and rehome the poor doggy, she needs an actual athletic home with lots of energy outputs.

[@094Dasha]

Relax... they are working hard to change things around

[@MiIaDoesArt]

@@lesleycooper7544the dog

[@jordinstephens9355]

Everyone has a lot of negative things to say about them, but I was SO proud of their humility, self awareness and willingness to learn every time they ran into an issue that was their fault. Way more character and understanding of nuance than a lot of people in these comments are displaying.

[@cescatilly]

This family doesn’t deserve a dog, they’re treating her like an accessory they can just throw about. If they can’t handle having all those kids and a dog then rehome her with a family that cares. Plus they’re not ‘high energy’ they’re chaotic and the dog feeds off that

[@DolphinNerd]

When the girl said that she couldn’t imagine life without Dakota I was like yeah right! She neglects her dog!

[@MelatoninCapallini]

Yeah I felt like she was framed to be good in this episode despite her inattentiveness to the dogs and the kids.

[@honeycrispsnail4032]

@@MelatoninCapallini legit like if my husband hated my dog that much, i’d rehome for his sake and my children’s sake.

[@Ghosttt314]

Its funny how ppl are willing to be known as animal abusers so long as they get to be on TV. Like, that's the light you're willing to be shown in? Walk into the grocery store, ppl recognize you and go "You're the ones that abused your dog right?"

[@Ghosttt314]

The pay better be worth it 😅

[@piaogilvie8463]

The guy's ignorant. He doesn't know, that having a dog means investing time, love and energy into the dog. The only animal he should have is a stuffed one

[@beanybabyrabie]

@@piaogilvie8463you should tell his wife that, at least he TRIES. She refuses to invest any energy or time and then says oh well idk but I’m keeping her. Pathetic. He didn’t want the dog.

[@mirandapanda5439]

Dude wants a well behaved amazing companion without putting any work into it.

[@penntopaper9305]

a lot of these ppl are so narcissistic that they dont believe theyre in the wrong at all. they genuinely think ppl will side with them.

[@katpie3603]

It's so heartwarming to see the people evolve and relate to their dog...love the harness with the two points of contact! Thank you Victoria.

[@onlybygrace3]

I am so glad that this family are humle enough to received correction and have a new bond with their dog. I hope all goes well, and their kids will also be able to have a good healthy relationship growing up with their beloved pet, and long lasting memories too. Wishing this family all the best.

[@stefgreen5237]

“We want a high energy dog because we have a high energy (hectic) family” wtfwtfwtf lol

[@karyannfontaine8757]

Those children are not too young to be taught to be kind to the dog or any other animal. That man is horrible and his violence makes matters worse. The wife wants things to work out and seems kind.

[@rottweiler938]

Nah the man is not horrible. He wants the “classical” and “cinematic” relationship that society portrays that people will have with their dogs. However, he doesn’t understand that it takes training to get there and his understanding of training is clearly misguided and wrong. His temper was also short, but the long and frustrating situation likely played a major role in that. By the end of the episode he realized how to actually bond with his dog and seemed so much more happy- and even relieved- with the situation. As for the kids, that was a whole mess. They were following their parents example and their parents allowed them to do so. Furthermore, it endangered the kids’ safety. Victoria’s lesson on how to treat dogs was great for teaching them. Lastly, the wife was definetly the one who contacted Victoria or had the idea of it, but she still contributed to the situation. While she had good intentions, she was still causing the situation to become worse. She said that she couldn’t imagine her life without Dakota, which seems to suggest to me that she was more in love with the idea of Dakota being in her life than the actual reality of the situation. I think a key thing to note is how she allowed her son to wander over to the dog during the scrap through the fence. Yes, they’re focusing on the training aspect of it but your family still matters as well. It was also good that Victoria corrected her on this, though it was a little harsh but it was out of concern rather than hostility. From what I could tell, however, the wife wanted a dog but didn’t really seem to be near as involved as she should have been, considering her position on the issue. Overall, it was amazing to see both the dog and the owners react so positively to the training methods Victoria gave them. I think it’s important that if owners call a dog trainer that they are willing to put in the work themselves and be taught. If they expect the trainers to do it all, then they themselves will not form a bond with their dogs that are important for obedience and understanding.

[@morganablackwater2017]

​@@rottweiler938 no doll... He is terrible... Funny thing is that what you wrote actually confirms that...

[@wattersi1968]

They see their father hitting the dog .and they think that ok

[@lilolmecj]

We are seeing him after months of frustration. He might be a very nice man.

[@Barakon]

@@lilolmecjwhat nice man hits an animal?

[@lakagranger3012]

Those people shouldn't have animals. Poor dog...

[@leighhauserman9549]

I biggest peeve is people getting working dogs and not meetings those needs and wondering why their dog has behavior problems. It’s amazing what proper exercise and enrichment can do for a dog’s behavior

[@awesome13awfulness]

Those parents aren't even able to teach their children how to interact with another living being, but thought "hey lets get a Bull Terrier cause we are a really energetic family"!? I feel so sorry for the dog. Bull Terrier can be amazing family members but they are (like all breeds) not for every family and you've got to put actual work and time into training the dog. And also the time and effort to educate yourself.

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

"We wanted a high-energy dog because we have a very high-energy family"

[@chrystpick7741]

What they should of got is a older rescue, basic training is already under thier belt. Have naturally a lower energy when around the house, but will still happy go a on a day out with the family.

[@thecasualatvguy617]

I let my puppers run and play in the backyard whenever she wants. Lol. Tons of toys. She can't play with her buddy for another week which sucks for them bothv

[@Alice-xy3fi]

I don't think it's a problem for a high energy family to have a high energy dog, if the family constructively channels the energy. One high energy family will just be chaotic and drive the dog nuts, while another will use the energy to do things together and with the dog that will be great fun and enrichment/adventure/experience for the dog, and allow the dog to constructively use its energy-- e.g., hiking, going to the beach and doing zoomies up and down the shoreline, digging in the sand, etc, going to the dog park or the people park and playing frisbee or fetch, etc.

[@faithcobb2795]

Yeah! Like maam you don’t match, you balance

[@FernandoTorrera]

There are different types of high energy. I would have recommended a cocker. My cousin has a cocker very soft with the kids but is high energy. You can sit in a chair and throw the ball

[@A_M__Apothecarymo]

I hate that all this pressure is put on Dakota to continue to have a home even though all of the problems his humans caused. 😢

[@Freakydevil-qk3ye]

Hey Victoria I just want to say thank you because you help show the stuff I believe in and I own a pitbull who was abused and it’s been hard for me to get him around animals and people, I was friends with his owner and since he was young we had this un breakable bond, and your videos helped me get him to trust others the way he trusts me

[@Prettygoodspell]

The way Victoria yelled at the neighbor lady was awesome.

[@Sanstorm09]

fr like lady why you just standing there like there isn’t a dog flipping out right in front of you 💀

[@denisehaley9271]

​​@@Sanstorm09The old lady was totally clueless as to the events taking place with the neighbors dog. Then she's getting yelled at by a stranger. Perhaps the neighbors should have give the old lady a heads up PRIOR to Victoria working with them and their dog. The stuff is all done for TV drama and viewer reactions. After all comments and views make her big $$

[@luanaduncan5484]

The husband is the problem! Get rid of him, not the dog!

[@user-dl8eo6zc9z]

@@denisehaley9271 So?

[@TheCATlover345]

​@luanaduncan5484 nah I think the dog needs a better home

[@jebby0606]

It also upsets me that the husband is ok with going behind his wife's back to try and sell the dog against her will, that's not respectful. Yes the dogs out of control but you don't get rid of your spouses pets without their consent!

[@crystalh450]

I agree with you, but it is clear he doesn't want a dog, period. For all we know, she went out and picked this one up without his consent. It sounds like their marriage isn't perfect.

[@joey6451]

the worst is that he hits him!

[@annt7384]

That’s just poor communication and decision-making.

[@MammaM1217]

He definitely shows an attitude that I wouldn't be OK with in my home.

[@annt7384]

@@MammaM1217 Yes, definitely troubling. He acted like being kind to your dog was a sign of weakness & was too focused on his own aggression towards the dog, as if that ever worked . It looked like he was learning, though, and nice to see him be affectionate towards the dog after a good training. I hope that continues for everyone’s sake.

[@natachadeknoop6523]

I love how Victoria is direct with the husband, and make sure that he understands that his dog bad behaviour is because he didn’t take the time to educate her and be with her, it’s same with the wife but because she is softer and love her dog she is less physical but she is also responsible. She also should take the time to educate her dog and her kids; yes it could be hard, yes it’s exhausting but the reward at the end is so beautiful. I’m really thankful that my parents did that when I was a kid because I juste had a so amazing relationship with my dogs when I grew with them around me ❤

[@FHGodat]

Thanks for sharing this great experience!

[@RiniDiamandis]

"get better or get out" bruh YOURE THE PROBLEM lmaoo

[@Beeryy93]

That honestly wound me up so much, he seems like such a pathetic, weak “man”

[@lucylaldy]

It was so sad and frustrating to watch the early part of this episode. Terriers are wonderful dogs, but they are a lot of effort! They need a lot of exercise, training and socialisation. I loved the last scene of Joe taking her out cycling, that's just what she needs. I hope they keep (kept?) up with the training and set Dakota up for success!

[@kimyoonmisurnamefirst7061]

The episode is from 2011, which is why it has the more conflict-centric editing for the "drama" compared to the newer episodes which concentrate more on cooperation.

[@imalwaysright]

⁠@@kimyoonmisurnamefirst7061the type of owners are different in newer episodes.

[@imalwaysright]

I liked seeing Joe bond with the dog. Coda seemed so much calmer towards the end. I hope they continued the training and they and Coda lived their best lives

[@janiceal-najjar5093]

​@@imalwaysrightThe dog's name is Dakota. Not Coda. Abbreviated to 'Kota" by the sound of it

[@littlesparrow303]

@@kimyoonmisurnamefirst7061dang!! I thought this was recent & thought Dakota was in a better house now

[@isabeljaramillo3835]

These videos always make me cry once the dog parents understand their dogs. Love it!

[@Poolberi88]

That was super One of the best i've seen. All done with kindness and training. I've a feeling your children will also turn out well, with kindness and training.

[@misstoasty1]

This guy is aggressive all around not just because of the dog. The way he talks to his wife, body, and facial expression. Even when the trainer is trying to help on how to work with Dakota he reeks aggression

[@imalwaysright]

If he was “aggressive all round” he wouldn’t be open to training, seek help, praise the dog, smile, work with the dog, be affectionate, take it riding, as the episode showed. A lot of people in the comment project super-negative narratives on to the people that don’t match up.

[@P.Mac9]

@@imalwaysright 👏 👏 👏 all of these people are so judgmental and make assumptions about this man as a dad and a person because he doesn’t like a dog? If he was so horrible he wouldn’t have invited a camera crew inside his home to try and fix the situation.

[@HerrAfitna]

@@imalwaysrightI had the same feeling. Very fast judging people.

[@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad]

Seems we’ve got another psychologist in the comments lol. You can’t make such drastic assumptions about someone just from watching 1 video that was filmed during a difficult time in their life.

[@honeycrispsnail4032]

no he is not 💀 if you take like 5 minutes to watch the other parts of the videos, that’s literally just how he talks and acts. when Victoria asks him to be more excitable and animated around the dog, his tone is still pretty flat. it’s just his personality. if he is truly aggressive, i don’t think that he would’ve called the trainer to help him solve the issues with his dog. what’s aggressive is you trying to come at him with your own tone. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@GoldenWolf248]

The one thing these people did right was hire a good dog trainer. So many people aren't even willing to do that. And props to them for making so much progress and not giving up!

[@elg1400]

Anytime I've met a family that has children and also a horribly and dangerously misbehaving dog, I can't help but wonder; if you can't train a dog, which is extremely straightforward and relitively easy in comparison, how are you going to train a child?!

[@dsheppard297]

It took us a while to train our dogs, but it was worth it. They became our families best friend.

[@elizabethgohre2335]

Get rid of the husband. Period. If that’s how he’ll treat the animal when he’s frustrated he’ll do the same to the kids or wife when it gets bad enough. It’s just a warning sign.

[@FRETW1ZARD]

He can learn. He was probably raised that way and doesn’t know any better. He turned up to the training lessons with an open mind, he deserves a second chance. Not a third though.

[@headdog9895]

Yes. This exactly

[@AnnKovshova]

The mesage to many wives from this show

[@Nix_101]

​@@FRETW1ZARDHe's not a dog that needs training. He's a father of multiple kids. If he didn't develop empathy at this ripe old age, he shouldn't be having a family.

[@user-wx8gt4ol7w]

He deserves a chance. He was willing to give it a shot and learn. He took responsibility of his actions and he changed for the better. That's all that matters to me.

[@hannabarbarawojcik]

I LOVE how the husband said "It's humbling to be corrected". I was positive he was being sullen and resentful, and had remained thoroughly oblivious unconvinced but I stand corrected.

[@kitkat88]

Anyone who thinks it's ok to treat an animal the way this guy was... red flag, imo.

[@aspenonpawss]

All dogs deserve a human but not all humans deserve a dog…

[@gillianbrookwell1678]

My advice to anybody is don't own dogs unless you are both in agreement with it; Myself and my husband decided not to have dogs until our children were much older, otherwise it causes friction, or worse in relationships. It's so obvious that the husband doesn't want the dog, and that's his right.

[@loc1976]

You're very right about that. I just think in this case they both wanted the dog, but he didn't get the well behaved dog he wanted, and then he wanted to give her up. My advice to anyone deciding to get a dog is to know it will take work to teach and nurture and socialise, and a new owner has as much to learn as the dog.

[@AnnKovshova]

I've seen many people in this show who didn't want the dog initially, but that's the first time I see a person who so willingly abuses the unwanted dog. Sort this out with your wife, not with the poor thing, for Christ's sake!

[@morganablackwater2017]

​​@@AnnKovshova I think this wife needs to sort herself new husband. If someone hits the dog its only a matter of time when he hits you when you do something he doesn't like. Peoples whos response to undesirable behaviour is violence its a HUGE red flag.

[@beautifullyanimatedspeaks3301]

Epically Factual. 💯❤‍🔥

[@Runastarfall]

then you throw out the husband or tell him he got the kids... so, you should be allowed at least a dog

[@abluewingangel]

The guys arms are crossed he doesn’t care he simply doesn’t want to deal with it. The dog needs a new home with a better family who love him.

[@dinishanagalingam4515]

i dont blame the kids for hating the dog, they sensed that the dad hates it and the kids followed suit.

[@jeanninesnyder9627]

Joe, I'm so proud of you for going through and giving training a try and not giving up. You also taught the boy's that you are an AWESOME AMAZING Daddy.. Well done Joe.

[@ro340]

Why is no one talking about how the friend let the dog out?! The dog was clearly trying to get out, everyone was yelling about it and the friend still opened the door.

[@kerryharrison3806]

Yup, unfortunately that smart dog is surrounded by idiots!

[@Nigel_Gardiner]

He (the male owner) needs to be disciplined (for pointlessly and cruelly hitting the dog). The dog needs to be trained. (Edits added in parentheses to clarify meaning)

[@BS-dq1kz]

Yes! Absolutely agreed.

[@XxEmoGothOutcastxX]

She needs to be trained, yes, not beaten

[@monatravels-sz6md]

@@XxEmoGothOutcastxXi think they mean the owner hahah

[@ventibreeze6648]

No! The family need to be trained.

[@user-ly4yp8ml2i]

Also remember a bully is someone who has been bullied a lot. How can he know how to relate unless he is taught?

[@TubeUil]

Amazing to see what bringing awareness does to a frustrated person. it's an unhelpful thing to say: he is an abuser, he's bad and shouldn't have dogs. The difficult option is: communicate and show what is happening. Slowly bring awareness to reading the dogs behavior and his own actions. Then the frustration can slowly dissipate because now he learns what to do that actually makes the dog happy and therefor also him. In the end its a slow road but one that is better for everyone. Well done! And to him too, for being ok with showing this process for a wide audience!

[@user-zr9ws9pb5w]

Always entertaining and informative. I have tried many of Victoria techniques and with time and patience they work very well.