Iyanla: Fix My Freeloading Family | Full Episode | OWN

Iyanla Vanzant visits Chicago to help a family on the verge of collapse due to an overcrowded household and family struggles. Family matriarch, Alma, is fed up with her freeloading children and their inability to find financial freedom. (Original Air Date: May 31, 2014) Watch more of Iyanla Fix My Life on the WatchOWN app and visit: www.oprah.com/...
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About Iylana Fix My Life : Author and inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant goes behind closed doors and deep inside people's lives for emotional conversations. She helps reveal secrets, uncover truth
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[@TheTaurean]

I’m still in the good year of 2024 telling people “Not on my watch!” 🗣️😆 Iyanla is missed and needed.

[@vvorthabilly]

I still need merch from her

[@helena3631]

That used to be my line and when she told them in another episode to scre as m into the ground

[@NetteJ]

Very much needed

[@Lily-cm3nj]

Yes yes she's needed now more than ever with all the foolishness going on these days!

[@Lily-cm3nj]

​@@NetteJNow more than ever!!!!

[@zuneidadutt2825]

That hug Junior gave Iyanla when she praised him was so powerful. He needed some validation in that moment.

[@jewelsdayspa7764]

Yes!

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

I said the SAME thing about that hug! It's NOT about validation Junior has some other issues going on that need to be addressed! The girlfriend probably KNEW that and thought she could save him and NOW look!!! 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@user-rr7su4sq2b]

I felt that too

[@norawalker9180]

And then...."What's are you crying for???" 🤣😅 She has issues just like her boyfriend

[@PropheticStorm]

Absolutely ❤ I pray that he does well in life... seems like a genuinely good soul, just having a hard time in life and very broken.

[@MkCD.]

Iyanla’s son was in the garage scene in the hoodie ready to protect & serve for his mama if needed 😅

[@SimplyCryss]

He always ready.

[@dijaworldworld3895]

She said that ain’t your husband. I hope she understands that distinction.

[@caseyhill636]

So tired of women having babies with men that they aren’t married to

[@reginabyrd8903]

Yes yes

[@davisholman8149]

Notice the new high top athletic shoes. POS can’t keep a job, but he can get new shoes.🤬

[@marsha-madness-super-badness]

Word.

[@shareesedevose6393]

Right!

[@royaltii_]

"You take that in the basement!" has me lmao. Go Iyanla

[@dawnlee866]

Shade😂😂😂

[@LeshaFBaby]

😂😂😂😂

[@user-dh9wg7kj4g]

😂😂😂

[@mrs.bernard5415]

REAL MF TEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[@xxxtrddy]

She said “ gon on somewhere with all that” 😂😂😂

[@brownsugagigi3661]

And what are you crying for?....I fell out!!!!!😂😂😂

[@youngjordan8283]

I loved that 1.

[@LeshaFBaby]

😂😂😂

[@dollskull86]

Right 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Xzaany]

My favorite part she needed to hear that

[@zuritribe4844]

[@ericalashan1923]

"Why require him to build a nest when he can do you in the basement" 😮...Tell 'em Iyanla!!!😅

[@YANAMization]

Daughter: She brings a man into her mother's basement, has two kids by him but yet it's all his fault. She should made sure he was stable before having a family with him.

[@Lucian_Media]

Yes and no. These men be really putting pressure and making all kinda promises. 😢 Sometimes it's hard for women to make a positive decision and stick to it when boundary setting is reframed as a lack of love, care or understanding; when there are implied threats of violence to the women or themselves. 😢😢

[@dcg590]

She is totally at fault. She CHOSE to be a baby mama. She didnt choose to be a wife to a worthy man. This is all on her.

[@dcg590]

@@Lucian_Mediaexcuses excuses excuses. How about choosing to be require being a wife first, to someone worthy? Had she done that, she would single and childless, or married with someone worthy. She chose neither. Now she is dealing with g with the consequences. This is all wrong

[@specialkay4329]

Even better. I don't GAF if he's stable or not. If you want a scrub, fine. Take him to YOUR HOUSE. If you live here, Ima need $500/month, from ery fkn body. Betchu they'll be gone to work, or the shelter.

[@ashmariedavie]

​@@dcg590they are both at fault he could have made a choice not to procreate until he was established

[@lakicia30]

Iyanla cracks me up. Her conversation with the daughter and her boyfriend. “It’s like a slap in the face”. “Which side?” 😂 “And what are you crying for?” 😂 She was tired of them folk nye 😂

[@sonnyjermain]

Child "And what are you crying for " is burned into my mind because I'd been thinking the same when the shady camera man got the daughter while Iyanla was hugging the poor man. The hell was she crying for? 🤣😂🤣😂

[@summerross9233]

Lmao I was crying for the boyfriend when she turned and said that I cried laughing 🤣😭😭

[@sweeteypie590]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sweeteypie590]

Told the man you don't want him, yet you crying. That what side had me 😂😂😂. What you crying for 😂😂😂

[@BeenJanky]

Or when she said why make him have a nest when he can do you in the basement 😂😂😂😂 Suh had to clutch her pearls 💀💀

[@ShayWilliam341]

The daughter have the audacity to say her boyfriend needs to be a man but still had kids with him knowing he didn’t his life together she’s definitely lacking accountability

[@JustMalcolm914]

Both of them should be accountable not just him

[@goddessof1995]

They both lacked accountability. He didn’t have motion and she was weak-minded and chose him. All she done was open the door and let poverty in.

[@msarmstrong410]

This!

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

Classic woman

[@july77773]

That's right. And the sleazy man takes advantage.

[@Willahbean]

Ain’t no way 4 able bodied ADULTS sitting up in my house and not paying bills. At least pay something!!!!

[@rtayloralcindor]

For real, they're too grown

[@helpkelp3595]

Or at least make an effort to work enough to move out and better yourselves.

[@zzizahacallar]

With the economy now and inflation; I get why they live with the mom. Pay for something

[@rosahurd6620]

@@Willahbean HELL YEAH

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

Ain't no way!!

[@shay9262]

Omg I cried for Junior in that moment she said she doesn’t take him.. I know he has to get it together but I just felt for him in that moment ..

[@Theworldismine5]

I mean what should she do . He’s not stepping up . Honestly not is she but we’re not gonna act like he’s such a great partner and doing what need to be done for the family

[@Geminidreamsz]

Your heart is breaking for someone who isn’t getting it together for his family . I’m sure she expressed her concerns over and over

[@twylamoses1471]

He has no confidence at all

[@Xzaany]

@@Theworldismine5why step up for a woman who belittles you

[@MattRomPsalms]

@@XzaanyI have to agree. I’m not saying he is the man he should be but she’s breaking that man mentally and emotionally. Man or woman, who can step up to be the person you’re asking them to be if belittling them is the most that can come out of your mouth? She created the mess as well and is putting the blame on him.

[@harrietmuchu5434]

There is such a powerful lesson here for me as a Mom. SEEING your kids as capable is a skill that requires practice. we think we love them by protecting them for hard choices and hard decisions, but it only prevents them from building self confidence.

[@Jasmynshawntel]

💯💯❤️❤️

[@kampriabuba]

I had to read that several times. Wow ❤

[@Desmaraysayshi]

Let your kids fly but make sure they always have a safe space to come back to if things go wrong. My parents didn’t think i was ready to move out let alone move across the state and they would talk about it behind my back (which did hurt). I just turned 26 in January and i have now officially been out of my parents house for a year. It’s not easy but sometimes my mom hooks me up with groceries when i visit home

[@BuddaFly18]

Took the same exact lesson from this.

[@kyedric9780]

The daughter is blaming the boyfriend but she’s to blame too. She has no job and as mom said can’t keep one but yet has these high expectations for her boyfriend. They both need to get it TOGETHER!

[@tierrahillard7011]

Seriously

[@Lucian_Media]

Yes, BOTH of them. These men put pressure on women and refuse to maintain boundaries but she clearly was not strong enough to stand up for herself

[@aussiemouth747]

Shouldn't have kids you can't afford to support.

[@Kierraburch25]

Bingo!!!!!!

[@Forevermy3k]

She does work, he doesn’t and none of the kids contribute financially. Even at the end it said she received 2 promotions on her job and that he’s finally working consistently. Were you even paying attention?

[@Queensofafrica8]

The way Adrian kept looking at iyanla when his mom was telling him his Grl can’t stay over 🤣🤣 he wanted to choke them both!!!

[@theresamurphy6554]

🤣

[@greaterishe7197]

​@@marskeinsPeriod 🔨

[@ronnawatson724]

Lol

[@EB-ok3io]

Look like a serial killer 😮

[@teegreen3909]

She doesn’t has on a luxury winter coat

[@zuritribe4844]

TO ME JR HANDLED THAT LIKE A MAN!! HE DIDNT GET MAD!! HE DIDNT STORM OFF!!! HE SAT THERE IN THE TRUTH!

[@home4life505]

No. A man w/o a job and 2 kids is not handling it well

[@emmannuellehardiman7428]

Ha had a job did you not hear him say he was at work when she kicked them out​@@home4life505

[@zuritribe4844]

@@july77773 he didn’t hurt anyone and he had emotions to deal with 🤷🏽‍♀️ he handled it the best way he could and I can appreciate the wall being hurt rather than him hitting or flying off the handle

[@zuritribe4844]

@@home4life505 but he wasn’t taught that a job was necessary that’s guilt that goes on his parents but I totally get what u saying no excuses as a Man U have shut to do and u gotta make that shyt happen just like a woman 💪🏾

[@yesterdayitrained]

@@july77773That was her son punching out the walls, not Jr. Keep the story straight.

[@josiegeah5031]

This is a little boy playing big man games 🤣🤣🤣 I almost fell out!!!Iyanla has the best reads 😂😂😂

[@MsMak03]

😂😂 gems is really what I’d call em

[@easterbunnymomson130]

She does I love it😂😂😂😂😂

[@user-jn9sf7qt3h]

So utterly TRUE!!!

[@Daniellehiu]

The mom's boundaries seem perfectly reasonable. Tiffany can go back to her mama's house. She's not responsible for taking care of the grown son's gf.

[@allysemcnair4762]

That's so true!

[@missmorris6450]

It’s ok if they were paying financially but no one is helping out that’s disgusting

[@allysemcnair4762]

@@missmorris6450 Most definitely

[@casshoneyy]

My bf mom pay for my apartment.. this crazy in this environment

[@iwashere5956]

@@casshoneyy and you still sleep with him like he's a man??? That's crazy

[@realniaimani]

“IMMA SHOW YOU CRAZY!” Ms.Iyanla ain’t NEVER been the one to play with 😭😭

[@kimjohnson7817]

The daughter takes no responsibility for her circumstances. She is in her mother's basement & made no effort to get HERSELF out of there.

[@helpkelp3595]

Yea I hate how she can talk down on him but forgets to realize that it was basically her idea to live with her mom

[@gettheedgenow7079]

I love Iyanla's haircut. She looks truly amazing!

[@dfoshee4350]

❤

[@rhondahopkins4366]

If their mother passed away, they are not going to know what to do and probably be homeless. This happened all the time.

[@D-Will2k]

😮 so true

[@Peace-Love-Justice]

Trust me. They find a way, and a person to lean on. I don't understand why women (in particular) think they are not replaceable and everything will crumble without them. They do it with kids, with men, and even on the job. I am a woman and I saw my mom do it. As a result, she left this earth at 55. My 29 (at the time) year old brother, who had many women living up in my mom's house was just fine after she passed away. He just found a "momma figure" in women who he could also sleep with. He's 50 now and is living with his girlfriend of almost 15 years. She's been the primary bread winner. She wanted kids. He had already had kids, first one at 16. So he told her "no". But then brought home a kid from stepping out on her. And she's now taking care of him and the kid. Ladies, I blame you for lowing the standards. Now, when I expect something from a "man", I am looked at like I've got an eye in the middle of my head. Like I should have standards. But I won't compromise. I'm 56. And single. And childless. Because even if I couldn't have a guaranteed partner, I was damn sure going to do what I could to have a responsible co-parent. But that wasn't to be. So my career got my attention. No regrets. And when a man realizes that I'm the prize, and know how to treat a lady as a loving partner, then I might have a life partner. I hope so. But I am not holding my breath. And nor am I miserable being alone. I'm an introvert, and I enjoy my own company and my solitude. Ladies. Especially Black American ladies. Do better. Please. If not for you, do it for other ladies who have standards and don't lower the expectations so at least the men have to work. Make them build the nests. Both as your sons, and as your prospective mates.

[@ThatDamnTaurus]

This is a show that we need to come back.

[@yahrayanaarah6891]

Immediately‼️

[@beckyhauk5248]

She is so badass. Every family in America needs a visit from her

[@trigreeng450]

Dude that’s punching walls shoul have been gone a long time ago

[@dawnlee866]

At first I was like he’s still young, but he’s showing signs of violence. Disrespecting his mother. He needs to go🙏🏾

[@sweeteypie590]

Not hard to tell his mother is afraid of him. I wouldn't be surprise his anger stems from his parents not together. He definitely needs to go.

[@lonerVixen]

Exactly!

[@serious7179]

​@@dawnlee86622 is not young in this respect...he is a ticking time bomb

[@mattmatthews3689]

Iyanla out a hault to it , Not on her watch

[@notready6472]

"And what are you crying for?" 😂 I’m screaming…it was the eye lock and head roll for me!

[@user-dz3yp7lb2j]

Iyanla did the best for Junior. That girl was already broken up with him in her head when she really helped set him up for failure

[@motherofthreeb6337]

Fourty seven years old is young to be going through this. 😢

[@redcokamixed6716]

The stress is making her look 20 years older

[@nooneknows2269]

Iyanla, please come back and fix our lives. You have a ministry, and was sent by God

[@shayelowlow]

The son was ok with everything until his mom told him he couldn’t get any 🐱 😂

[@TheMomentsShow]

"But he can do you in the basement" 🤣🤣

[@josiegeah5031]

💀 🤣🤣🤣

[@FoxQueen13853]

That’s embarrassing for the both of them lol

[@tammiewatson7288]

Alma needs to stand firm. Keep that deadline

[@rolondabrown1233]

She said “what you crying for?” lol

[@LisaHackley]

I literally just laughed at that part🤣🤣

[@realniaimani]

Baby she was OVER HER !! 😂😂😂

[@alethachery611]

That part had me laughing so loud, that I woke the house up

[@kristinenickley1755]

I so agree, Iyanla is so awesome!!

[@teabrown02]

I NEED updates to this family..

[@BlessedtoSOAR]

Her son's reaction was so disrespectful. She has the right to ask he not have his girlfriend at her home. Wth!

[@brandenhuffmen8259]

Once mothers allow their 16-35 year old sons girlfriends live with them, they will try to act as if it's not their home and not the mother's home. My older brother did this and it wasn't pretty. He eventually was kicked out with her. They will also let their girlfriends disrespect their mother too.

[@sharllotemazoe5323]

😅 😅

[@Tru86]

My sister did her kids just like this they are almost in their 40s she passed away and they dont even know how to live as functional adults

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

That is terrible. I hope you had some conversations with her along the way, I feel for them because it is going to be rough!

[@allysemcnair4762]

This is some tough love for both of the kids that is well overdue. Mother's baby their son's and want the daughters to grow up and have it all together. That's so backwards both kid's should be held to the same standard's. I'm glad this mother is finally saying enough is enough!

[@toschajeffries8833]

That's so true because my mother baby the last 2 boys and I was the last girl. Growing up I felt unloved but it wasn't until she passed away and I realize why she treated the boys as babies because they needed more of her attention than me.

[@allysemcnair4762]

@@toschajeffries8833 My condolences on the loss of your mother and I hope she's at peace. 🕊️ 😔🕊️ I do understand that parent's know who needs their love more but in the moment we don't see that. My own mother is like that so I completely understand. It's just something about those son's that has a mother softer than normal.

[@toschajeffries8833]

@@allysemcnair4762 yes I see that with my grandson but I will break the cycle

[@allysemcnair4762]

@@toschajeffries8833 That's all you can do it's good you see the cycle should be broken.😌💯 When you know better you gotta do better. 💯

[@hunterbaby2088]

I believe in Jr. He has it in him. ❤

[@Uniko2012]

Me too i have hope for him

[@dewannaglow8365]

He’s been living with his mom, and still doesn’t have money for a hotel for 1 NIGHT?! Grow up! Omg

[@TruthIsLove7]

That lady is so full of it. She's not kicking those folks out. She acts like she's afraid of them in her own home. I have a son and daughter myself and ain't no way my husband or I would allow them to be shacking up and having babies under our roof.

[@Chocolatechocolate7224]

Exactly! That’s what I’m saying…she hasn’t set boundaries with them. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents but you need to be in school and working and also you have to be respectful as well! These people are jobless, lazy, and disrespectful and top of that they are bringing her significant others in their mothers house so they can mooch off as well. It’s disgusting! My father would’ve never allowed this

[@jazminearceneaux7452]

The issues isn’t them living there. It’s that they not helping the mom.

[@sharinpitts5333]

So the boyfriend has a job, why doesn't the daughter have a job if this would help them move out and be better? If that truly is the basis for their problems. Where is his family? He really had nowhere to go.

[@allysemcnair4762]

I think that was so sad it's like he has nobody but them. The daughter definitely is holding him back too. If she thinks he's the issue she needs to look at herself as well.

[@allysemcnair4762]

@@dobedobewop Exactly don't discard him as a man that's just wrong. We all struggle as humans but she's kicking him when she thinks he's down.Meanwhile she doesn't have a job but he does. So who's the one down bad like get real.

[@dememurphy7859]

Right I believe she had already moved on & another dude was in her ear selling her a dream

[@allysemcnair4762]

@@dememurphy7859 Exactly and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. She will go from man to man all her life thinking that way.

[@sharinpitts5333]

@@dememurphy7859 It's possible the way she's carrying on. But even her mother was saying he's not good enough..there's more than meets the eye with this crew.

[@meganmyers7826]

She right, when a man breaks his promises to HER, she will dimenish him.

[@home4life505]

Now, i know why parents sale their homes and get condos. To ensure grown kids wont return😂

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

😅🤣

[@realniaimani]

Junior is a real man for checking Adrian because boy THE HELL?!!

[@arthurlawrence5006]

She made him better for the next woman. Watch and see.

[@kamariaspeaks]

"Now what YOU crying for?" ----Iyanlaisms.

[@norawalker9180]

😂🤣😅😆😁

[@norawalker9180]

😂🤣😅😁

[@kimlove4740]

Iyanla is not afraid of anyone!! The way she didn’t back down and said not on my watch!! 😂 even waved her finger at him! that little punk backed off immediately! He is abusive because that mom made her home a safe place for him to be abusive!

[@be-unique2325]

Junior deserves to take care of him like Miss Iyanla said

[@TheBaba1920]

Junior, he somewhere thriving I hope.

[@rashadbishop1465]

One thing about Iyanla, she will identify the truth, and the responsibility of the irresponsible💯.

[@realniaimani]

“I don’t play” 😂😂😂I MISS HER SHOW!

[@yolandalcheek462]

I wonder what's the update 😂. I'm 40 years old and never "shacked up" in my mom's house. That thought never crossed my mind!

[@Willahbean]

There was a time when me and baby daddy needed to move back home. Dad said yes, mom said no. My now husband was forced to MAN UP and do the work to get his family back. That was 22 years ago and we are still going strong.

[@aussiemouth747]

Never in my day either. It was always a good incentive to move out.😆

[@rms3435]

Its unnatural! Unless married and for good reason no need to live with parents as adults!

[@allthingstrea6419]

Why doesn’t the daughter have a job? It definitely takes two incomes to make it.

[@teresavict1831]

This is what happened when you don't set boundaries with your children 😢. The mom is being taken advantage by her own children especially the son he seems so entitled.

[@christophersims6863]

The anger I see in the 22 year old comes from fear and his inability in his mind to move forward. Military, school, training school and off man. He lacks courage to do so.

[@user-ep9vr5ol2g]

"You're Not Abandoning Him, You're Calling Him Higher" 💯💯💯

[@therelaxzone1591]

We need a follow-up to this story - Love ya Iyanla!

[@ThobekaTshabalala-ot4gi]

The violent one that acts like a hooligan should be the 1st one out!Period!!!!!!!!!!

[@615BlackBarbie]

Andrain, isn't going to go to jail. He KNOWS who to behave like that with.

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

Correct !!!!

[@tamaragore437]

I see he backed up when Iyanla stepped to him.

[@sabrinajohnson9078]

Her reaction or lack thereof to when he agreed that five out of 7 days he isn't happy about the man he is is 😢 she rolled her eyes like she was disgusted she clearly didn't care

[@MindSetReset]

Yes, I agree. watching @25:12 - 30 seems like she was mocking him a bit. I guess there was not vested interest for him in this family healing, as the daughter didn't want him.

[@factualtalker1749]

She feels power,over her male mate,because she’s in her mother’s home💯, partnership is combined efforts

[@dawnlee866]

Exactly. She needs to get a job as well. One works night shift, the other works day shift. It can be done🤔

[@toschajeffries8833]

Power has nothing to do with living in her mother's home its the lack of respect she has for him because he's not providing for his family.

[@zataishasims9732]

@@toschajeffries8833 I see that but I do feel like she does feel power because she is in her mother home. Which she shouldn’t I would be very embarrassed living with my mother with my wife and Children.

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

Why do you all keep saying SHE doesn't have a job!! When did they say she didn't? Just as we thought HE didn't have one remember!!🤡​@@dawnlee866

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

​@@toschajeffries8833thank you!!! Junior is a MANIPULATIVE coward that is afraid to be HOMELESS not loveless!!! 🤡 Read the comments and you'll see they all feel as if it's the daughters fault Junior isn't a man???? 🤦🏿‍♀️🙄

[@roxannadeshong3833]

Iyanla is the best! Boundaries are important for family, friends and even coworkers. If you don’t “put the line in the sand “ people take advantage.

[@issy_b_onair]

There's a lot of 22-year-old brats walking around out there.

[@nycgirltee]

I'm going through the same thing with my 22 year old daughter they are extremely entitled

[@issy_b_onair]

@@nycgirltee I'm sorry to hear. I wish you the best. It's not easy.

[@user-bb9eb8sy5r]

Truth be told!! Mine keep coming back like a bad habit 😢

[@subekennedy9554]

You have to teach them this early on. Why are the parents spoiling these grown ppl

[@rms3435]

Today with cost of living 22 isnt that old to live at home. But there will be rules and respect! #1 being you not laying up with no man or woman in my house. You will contribute etc.

[@Chyna43]

Oh wow. My 22 year old son moved out last year and yes its a struggle for him, but he is determined to keep pushing. He knkws he can come back too, but he wants to be a man and make it on his own. These grown people a mess in this house

[@candi_ferdi]

Junior has embracing hugs. He has soo much love in him.

[@MsMak03]

😂😂😂 Iyanla said, ‘ And what are you crying for ‘ 👀

[@easterbunnymomson130]

😂😂😂😂😂 She always reads people In good ways it’s funny 😂😂😂😂

[@sibonelo_dacu88]

"And what are you crying for" ??? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Jersmen_Kay]

I left the house into my 20s but i worked and contributed. Thats just what worked for my family and when the time was right, my boyfriend and i got our own place. I couldnt imagine not only living at home but having my PARTNER there too?? And not contributing?? Nah.

[@msarmstrong410]

Facts!

[@kristee2947]

Blessings to this family! The truth is hard sometimes but so necessary. ❤

[@alwaysaccurate8725]

Mom feels guilty about the dad so she is enabling these ppl

[@LeeMitchell-dz2cy]

She Is Making Up For What Their Dad Is Lacking As A Father In

[@snsn7251]

Yup. N not paying bills that's crazy

[@cherry0078]

Adrienne would be a shelter/Jail if he cussed me out in my house.

[@tonnieverse4038]

I am the one who would probably be in prison. I am a brought you into the world..and can take you out. ..type. So when my boys were younger..they were taught this. So once they could not get it together....as adults...they already knew not to come into my space with nonsense. I dedicated my life for my children...when it was my turn...they knew to come in peace. Some of their choices..i hated. But I would be there for them... If they chose to approach the situation...in a mature matter.

[@christinekelly7769]

What about hospital or morgue...

[@tannyshayearby8698]

So Junior is the 1st person addressed? Ok. Junior needs to leave that family and the daughter needs to get a job. She's in her mom's house not paying bills. She.could have been gone to and finished school to put her and kids in a better position.

[@redcokamixed6716]

Jr has a job that’s the craziest part

[@kimr282]

@@redcokamixed6716 that part!

[@joyceg7859]

Why is she sitting with him n keeping him around when she know she wants to break up with him ?!?! It’s because she knows she plays a role in the bs ! But she’s trying to put it all on him ! That’s sad.

[@pribro9563]

It could be fear as well and her not wanting to tell the entire story. Remember we don't see behind closed doors he could be threatening her and her family or to harm himself. We never know.

[@mbhonimongwe3994]

Talk is easy...she has kids with him..

[@millana100]

@joyceg7859 maybe... but it's possible that he's a good father to their kids and she doesn't want to lose that. She might be able to find a new man, but if it doesn't work for her kids that creates new problems.

[@trigreeng450]

Accepting a man that’s not tri will drive u crazy…

[@mascara1777]

She probably doesn't want to break her kid's hearts! It's a hard decision.

[@s.rosesmith6525]

Alma has to stand up for herself and let her children become adults.

[@Kali2Htwn]

Was wondering why the bf felt comfortable staying at his gf mom’s house in the basement and not at his family home . I feel so bad for the guy

[@becky7637]

Why feel bad? He’s not a man he’s using these women he should be ashamed!

[@MissTXTee]

Yeah, I thought it was odd that he had no place to go when Iyanla told them to leave for the night. He has some issues he needs to deal with....

[@thandonm]

I'm afraid Alma is going to let him back in after Iyanla leaves 😅

[@0207khenry]

😂😂😂😂😂 she said you set the tone, you let him know it was ok to move in to her momma house….. boom!!😂😂😂😂😂

[@salenachannel769]

Surprisingly I understand they couldn't be out in time. That deadline was for the current conditions. New conditions new terms. I pray for you all to be successful 🙏

[@inmeekwetrustztv3064]

I've seen this so many times throughout life. Omg

[@jasminethe3818]

People underestimate proper home training 👏👏👏

[@mmca9323]

Ms. Iyanla is so beautiful

[@virgo7956]

Flap, fly, or splat😂 Damn Iyanla😂😂

[@van5135]

The move out deadline was too soon for them . They need time to save money to move out but i am glad things are much better

[@redcokamixed6716]

I’m h well that’s life it comes at you fast

[@cierrab8408]

It seems to be well over a month. That’s more than enough time. They have not been contributing to her household and she didn’t ask for any rent either. Just asked for them to leave.

[@mgbl2808]

Should’ve been already saving since they weren’t paying rent.

[@CreatedByNoriElan]

2 couples, 4 people (adults) can work and save for a place.

[@kaerose7358]

I think one of the most important statements she made in this episode is to tell the daughter that Junior is not her husband. Ladies need to learn that a man that is not their husband is not responsible for them. Stop settling for what you are not seeking.

[@sharinpitts5333]

Ayanla should have been more careful walking up into violent people's faces..yelling at them. It's dangerous

[@tonnieverse4038]

Ms S...she doesn't have to be concerned about her safety. I am sure some of the staff are men...working the camera and such. Anyway I see so many women..or parents..esp grandparents..going through this nonsense. I would not mind a child of mine hanging around...until they felt ready to leave..esp with the way things are these days. I would encourage learning a skill..more education..etc..if I would allow this. Not bringing in..extra people..and having children etc. Also going to a trade school or not...the child would have to be working...at least part time ... If they were not serious about trying to secure their own independence...by their actions...than I will have to cut the cord. Children who play on a mother's natural affections....brcause they don't want to break a sweat...and set proper priorities..etc..would not remain under my roof.

[@Queensofafrica8]

Behind the cameras are a lot of men INCLUDING her own son who is part of her security!!! I assure you, she is fine! I promise you, Adrian was NOT about to do ANYTHING but get mad and storm off like he did!!!

[@MindSetReset]

@@Queensofafrica8 'INCLUDING her own son who is part of her security!!!' 💯💯

[@christinekelly7769]

Exactly her son is there and don't mind giving a beat down over his momma 😂😂​@@MindSetReset

[@Ria19907]

I agree with the OP. Some dudes don't care that she has an all male staff and will still take that chance of swinging on her, though. Getting in their personal space is risky 🤦🏿

[@missdebbie6303]

This woman is needed on national television TODAY!!!

[@virginiapurvis3917]

Why do you keep having kids with him if he won’t work?

[@danielawharton3679]

He works the daughter dont

[@virginiapurvis3917]

@@danielawharton3679 she is the one that works he can’t keep a job

[@leslietarter2096]

The daughter is responsible for breaking the spirit of her family.... and he allowing it to happen. We all have experienced someone or something that has made us doubt ourselves. He will do better once he can move on from her and be a father to their children

[@stormb28]

See what happens when you enable your kids and “spoil” them. They’re totally helpless.

[@lisabrightly]

After all that, they still didn't leave that ladys house by the deadline 🤦🏾. Its been years now. God willing, they finally left.

[@Teenywing]

All those adults are living there and the place is a dump. Why aren’t they at least paying for fixing the place up.

[@torry24]

That daughter has some nerve, getting on the husband when baby you live in your moms house too!

[@mascara1777]

No, a man should have had a PLAN. That's the traditional way.

[@schondra1993]

@@mascara1777His plan was to accept the invitation of living in his gf's mama's basement. If the gf wanted better, then should've set a higher standard.

[@norawalker9180]

Not a husband..boyfriend

[@home4life505]

I wish couples in our community would marry and build b4 becoming parents.

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

You get shamed for even recommending it.

[@babygurlll968]

Poor mother has never known peace,,tragic marriage, overbearing kids

[@TheMomentsShow]

I could see if the 22 year old was living there without the girlfriend and in school or working. You shacking and messing the house up.

[@NC-wf4ki]

And what are you crying for!!! I love it!!! You created that lifestyle for you and your kids.

[@florastewart7957]

A lot of depression in that house. But realistically, rent is horrific for kids .

[@CreatedByNoriElan]

Kids. Not adults.

[@bklyyynn]

You know what…. If I was Junior, I would leave her and glow up.

[@elizabethperry2622]

They have two children together. Leaving her comes with figuring out child support, custody and visitation. I can see where he’d want to try and make it work before earmarking 35% of his income to go straight to her and only having his children every other weekend and six weeks in the summer.

[@CreatedByNoriElan]

​@@elizabethperry2622damn

[@TheMomentsShow]

Its sad to see people work backwards in life!