Iyanla: Fix My Fatherless Family | Full Episode | OWN

[@Fantasy-wp3wm]

All 3 of these sons, despite this Father's absence turned out way better than he did.

[@Qeqezwisdom]

Uhh did you miss the drug addict and in and out of jail for being a violent criminal part?

[@variousJnames]

That's a given. But they've turned away from that life and Juba is a father to his children who is present. Still better than their Dad. ​@Qeqezwisdom

[@Jacobytru]

@@QeqezwisdomUsually fatherless homes or single parent children goes down the wrong path because they didn’t have the proper guidance from healthy parents. So I can understand it. They are coping with it in ways by using drugs, going to jail and or risky sexual behavior.

[@Geminicricketi]

@@Jacobytruif only the mom didn’t push him away. I was shocked that she got no blame. They piled on that dude so bad. Sick

[@jauhwilliams8618]

@@Geminicricketieven if the mothers pushed him out of their lives romantically, it was still Mr.Houstons job to be there for this children. No excuses; HE FAILED AS A FATHER! Not the women.

[@delorasledge2492]

I love how Jubba(?) embraces his brothers and sits with his arms around them...instinctively protecting his little brothers and being much more of a man than their dad.

[@karenmcgee1869]

Yessssss! Loved it❤!

[@helpkelp3595]

Yess it's like you would've never known they haven't met each other prior to this

[@bp900]

He could have filled in for his dead beat dad for them

[@mele9131]

“Have you ever kissed a dollar bill?” Iylana has the best phrases.

[@HarperSophia]

She really does!!

[@eightwone8216]

"...played basketball with a check ?!" Ooooh ..... Iyanla will set you straight each time.

[@necoleclark2806]

😂😂

[@ArronYouSeeItMalachi]

She ATE HIM UP with that one!!

[@Shema2099]

What does that mean

[@livia8227]

This dad is very theatrical. No tears actually dropped. I have a feeling that he is a narcissist. He probably can’t even truly feel emotions

[@monicagomez4616]

I noticed that too. No tears not even down his cheeks. I wonder just how sincere he was knowing he has a history of lying to his own sons.

[@tianacameron9456]

Yep. No sympathy for the man…only the sons

[@Geminicricketi]

I felt bad for him. Everyone trauma dumped on him. Iyanna thought she was talking to her dad the nerve of the deadbeat dad son to pass judgment. No one understood. If he such a weak man and horrible father, y did their mom have children with him? You can tell she is what kept him away. Low key believe the baby out the window thing cuz although it’s wrong, y is that the only way to make the mom listen? That’s extreme combativeness.

[@Geminicricketi]

N it seems like he wanted to be there. That’s y he sent money. The mom was that intolerable

[@DarlingWheresthecoffee]

Exactly! Not a single tear dropped. What a manipulator

[@s.ariane260]

That middle child gon keep it real, EVERY TIME!

[@brianal7143]

He's been through some things you can tell. He's not buying the pity party his dad is selling 😂

[@toschajeffries8833]

Yea and the father knows that, that's why he did not embrace him like the other 2.

[@HarperSophia]

Fr loll. Love him.

[@monicagomez4616]

I love him for it.

[@mariacollinsthomas8706]

Yep

[@daisyboafo6778]

I’m very simple minded, I see “Iyanla fix my life”, I click.

[@here2laff397]

Don’t even read the title, just clicking right on here lmao SAME 😭

[@lavernemusic]

Same

[@zuritribe4844]

YUP!!!! WERE ADDICTS!

[@venitajackson556]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🗣️🗣️🗣️👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@specialkay4329]

Me too. Our dysfunctional society wore her tf down.

[@here2laff397]

When those brothers met each other and hugged !!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥹🥹🥹🥹

[@karenmcgee1869]

Heart felt!

[@TheBaba1920]

The dad can go cause the brothers got it

[@Bema12699]

Sean just wanted an apology and for their dad to be accountable. He stood on business!

[@PropheticStorm]

The way the older brother embraced his brothers ❤❤❤😭🤧

[@BRIDGETUHMYEAH]

Isam (forgive me if I didn’t spell his name right), is very gentle and has a nice energy about him 🙏

[@The2headedmonster]

Thank u so much !

[@thomasthetans]

He really does have a gentle energy to him which I love!

[@joymutheu1981]

Yessss I absolutely loved him, I smiled every time he smiled, even through the tears. A lovely soul he is ❤

[@victormmendie494]

Every form of brokenness somewhat begins with a dysfunctional home. I applaud Iyanya’s intrepidity on this one.

[@MaryjaneLove]

. -&&& ii totally agree . . ❤

[@brenale_heartsJesus]

Absolutely

[@leilaford7469]

Very powerful Episode. It made me so happy to know they’re trying to build relationships

[@stephaniethames8784]

These older males who weren’t in their kids lives will never have a peaceful ending. It’s disgusting

[@Nanilethu]

One thing I've learnt from watching these episodes is that a father plays a huge role in the children's upbringing.

[@Exxtol1]

It's crazy how even when we're adults, even if our lives our perfect, we can't stop thinking about the love we never had from either or both parents.

[@yawfraser]

True

[@HarperSophia]

Facts. Never really grow up fully. Inner child stopped growing.

[@Geminicricketi]

You can stop. It’s called healing trauma. My mom was in jail most of my life. Raised by my dad. As an imperfect human how can u not understand the life of your parents? I am thankful my mom did not neglect us or kill us. She was a great mom til I was 6. She gave us to foster care. Told no one. My dad always tried to come around n she was always mean to him. Even forcing us to leave our bikes in a field because my dad bought them. Most single mom’s toxic like that. But anyway, Like adoption giving up a child not easy but necessary compared to forcing me not my sisters to struggle beside her. She fell into drugs n been in the streets til this day. 🤷🏽‍♀️ she not tired yet. Still love her. Some not built to be parents but have 0 guidance on how to be a good 1. Be understanding. Not resentful

[@autobotdiva9268]

Once a therapist tells you its ABUSE... you stop.

[@Geminicricketi]

@@autobotdiva9268 I would be careful, selecting the therapist. Most of them hate men are on the left politically. They advise you in a way that may not always be the best.

[@adhd875]

The dad has no tears at all while the son eyes is full of tears rollingdown them cheeks , the dad is so full of drama

[@michmex220]

Indeed he is so full of it, and because of that reason I believe that it was in his sons best interest that the father wasn’t around in their life’s , because he most likely would have ruined theses three beautiful men’s life’s even more had he been in their life’s when they were small…. Because it’s apparent to me that this man has always been so full of himself and always so full Of drama!! And all though they can’t see it the father actually did his sons a huge favor by not being around as a drama filled daddy as they were children!

[@PrettyColorsDoe]

I don’t believe the dad is genuine. I barely if at all saw any tears while he cried. He was also quite theatrical. It’s always all about him.

[@suezettemills5336]

I soo agree. He's a deadbeat dad. Period.

[@brenale_heartsJesus]

Yeah I noticed not a single tear in his tantrums. Just a lot of yelling and excuse making.

[@robertcurry4832]

Right! If he never had a stroke and was living a healthy happy life, the boys would be the last thing on his mind.

[@PrettyColorsDoe]

@@robertcurry4832 exactly. he doesn’t want to be alone during such daunting health challenges. hes also going to need some help now that he’s older. His body has forced him to slow down otherwise he’d still be in the streets MIA

[@faithgift]

The man has stroke so he should learn to control himself not to get high blood pressure and heart attack.

[@cindisowder2182]

Thankfully these men have each other. Their dad is dramatic about himself only.

[@tampaflbeastforlife]

I can never get enough of LYANLA

[@sibusisombatha1846]

Neither do I

[@turquoiseturtle7664]

IYANLA

[@GodLovesYouAllTheTime]

@@turquoiseturtle7664typos happen. My GAWD!

[@robertcurry4832]

Same 💯💯💯

[@karenmcgee1869]

I think we all love her! Now that she's no longer doing ministry doing these shows, the past shows are even more precious.

[@Tayjahbaby8371]

They get old, and sick and want forgiveness...whatever!!!

[@s.b9679]

YEP just like they went around saying in The color purple interviews forgiveness this forgiveness that NO, now If and when I'm ready to forgive you esp if something that was done to me like Celie oh honey you can forget that I'll forgive you from a distance but I'mma for sure move on as well esp if I found love like Celie and shug

[@Drando1989]

Many of them end up dying alone. I read an article about “Hospice Kids” and honestly got more infuriated with the absentee parents who expect the children they abandoned to be their care givers in adulthood! It’s audacious!

[@rwariahe]

A must watch for those absent husbands and dads. It always ends up like this

[@butterpecanbrielle]

ALWAYS!!!

[@nyleac4389]

@@Drando1989I just tried to google it with not luck. Was the article called hospice kids or should I try typing something else?

[@Unpopular0pinions106]

So basically he had a stroke, realized he has nobody and now wants to make amends

[@mariaseidi4023]

Exacly ,when they need you they came around

[@muzimthembu453]

Pretty much.

[@Geminicricketi]

How do you did you come to the conclusion? Seems like he was always trying to be there.

[@mariaseidi4023]

@@Geminicricketi trying ? You are there or not

[@caylawilliams]

@@Geminicricketihe never tried it’s not hard to be there for your kids !

[@livia8227]

My dad had his troubles. But one thing I can say about him is that he was at home every night. Him just being there made me feel safe. My husband is an amazing active father. Seeing him as a father has made me love him and respect him so much. My heart breaks for children that don’t experience that love from their dad.

[@mariaseidi4023]

Exacly ,now at 50 i realize i had wonderful parents,yes they were not perfect but i hear só many horror stories from other parents,abousing their own children phisically, emocionally,mentally or even sexually ,many people should not have children ...specially in the black comunity ,we are already in a very precariouse situation why bring more children in this or at least have One ONLY or Two max...

[@erinjohnson4273]

I miss my dad

[@butterpecanbrielle]

Hmm that father seems manipulative. When he senses that he is going to receive negative feedback, he becomes overly dramatic.

[@sheilap9854]

I Cried 😭When Chon Was telling the Story Of When he Was About to Take his Life And Heard the Voice of his Mom! I Hope they're All Doing Well❤

[@keiarapayne3206]

The dad passed

[@faraboverubies98]

Those young men after all they have been through have tender hearts and are so handsome and kind. I hope the best for each of them. Also, I really like each of their names.

[@smustipher]

Thank goodness they came out ok in spite of it all, hats off to their mothers and whatever family was supporting them while the father was off doing.....whatever🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@MuurPortal]

The middle son Chon...love his refusal to accept bs

[@joyceevans1860]

Hes not crying! because theres not one tear in dad's eyes😮

[@bp900]

Maybe he was dehydrated from crying earlier

[@nicoladavis580]

Those men are better off without that man in their lives. He still has not genuinely apologized to his sons.

[@ArlisaWilliams-xn7zg]

He’s rehearsed what he was going to say!

[@mobrk6036]

and when nobody else got the script he got mad

[@andreaholmes5697]

@@mobrk6036Right!!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@yayagalore4626]

Jubba fine and a sweetheart! I love how he embraced his brothers even though he didn’t know them. That’s what they needed. Someone of theirs to show them love other then their mothers. But that father needs to be loved from a distance.

[@DJ_Einstein]

This episode really brought me to tears. I hope all three of these men have found their own healing outside of healing their relationship with their father.

[@DJ_Einstein]

I'm also wondering if the father is on the spectrum. If he was, that would put some things in perspective.

[@The2headedmonster]

Hmmmm interesting thought . I guess we’ll never know. He has passed away

[@chillbrutha82]

"I was tired for no reason." That hit me hard.

[@YouCantSeeMee4]

As a fatherless daughter I hope my father comes across dis

[@Geminicricketi]

Y dont u have your dad? What does your mom say?

[@sherei9530]

I pray your situation informs your future actions. May no child of yours experience the same. Lord, send this woman a loving man who will show his dedication to her before expanding their family. Keep her protected during her compassionate wait for her father. Blessings in the name of Jesus, amen.

[@karenmcgee1869]

Juba's smile, love, forgiveness, and protection were everything. I loved the strength and integrity of Chon. Praying that he heals completely. I love the intellect and heart of Isaam. All of their tears broke me down.

[@The2headedmonster]

Thank you

[@karenmcgee1869]

@@The2headedmonster you are welcome!

[@The2headedmonster]

Yea my father was many things . But in the end he did his best . Too bad he passed away and we could never find our footing . This would be the last time I saw him

[@karenmcgee1869]

@@The2headedmonster So sorry to hear this Isaam!

[@Shazzyhtown]

I honestly dont believe the dad is truly sorry....

[@brianal7143]

He's not! He just wants his sons to get over it and help him. He's the same deadbeat guy as when they were growing up unfortunately

[@smustipher]

He's sorry for how his screw ups affect HIM, not the damage it inflicted on his children.

[@andreaholmes5697]

That sperm donor is a piece of work.

[@TheUAProdigy]

If she held my face like she did Sean, I'd be bawling.

[@HarperSophia]

Same. Had to rewind.

[@SPtheGREAT]

The WORST PUNISHMENT for a father is for his children to want NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM...

[@jenalma6280]

I'll never understand how a parent can "teach" their children that lying is wrong but they lie to their children on many levels

[@Gigilovehugs]

Wow good point only if all parents thought this way

[@teresamarie7460]

Seeking love from deadbeat parents is the most sadistic thing on Earth. This is the very reason most people are damaged goods.

[@kathyander4920]

Yes, so true!!

[@meganbee.]

I’m enjoying these episodes. Please keep them coming.

[@tampaflbeastforlife]

i say that with every EP they post lol

[@Calmingsounds1234.]

Me too

[@TSBOFRLM]

Not one tear in his eyes because narcissists unfortunately don’t have a true emotional center…the father needs a LOT OF THERAPY!

[@HarperSophia]

And you know he won’t lol. Insufferable.

[@TSBOFRLM]

@@HarperSophia Right

[@caitlinpearse6034]

Unfortunately, therapy does nothing for the vast majority of narcissists, either.

[@Zillennialjayjay]

@@caitlinpearse6034True, he definitely loves that drama in his life. His son’s feelings and pain is his supply.

[@MayorOfTheCaribbean]

Shawn is not having any of this lol...his face was like "Bruhh"!!!

[@kendragatson687]

Bruhhhh

[@hildamartinez7437]

Wow , these onions had the water pouring out of my eyes. Ms. Vanzant’s work is so important to mend the brokenness , often as a result of family dysfunction .

[@zuritribe4844]

RIGHT!!!!!

[@CosmicJournee]

A lot of health issues come from emotional distress and trauma. The father needs some deep therapy on his own before he could really be present for his sons. Every veteran’s mind completely changes once they enlist and it’s not for the better.

[@annesmail4129]

The dad is full of it. No tears

[@genniejefferson6588]

I am so very, very thankful, I had both my loving parents growing up. I do not know how these people feel, but I feel for them.

[@wsysouttt]

The elders should ALWAYS reach out to their kids. ALWAYS.

[@jasminetucker8213]

It was the hugs for me….crying like a baby🤧❤️

[@ljperry570]

' have you ever played catch with a check" goes crazy

[@nicolehuff8455]

I don't think I've ever cried more during an episode of Fix My Life. I wish this family health and healing.

[@nicoladavis580]

I am 43 years old and I still have both parents. Thank God.

[@Goddess4.4.4]

I pray those brothers stick together and be close… they can’t make up from lost times but they can move forward and create great memories with each others

[@florastewart7957]

Players gonna play until the playground closes or you get kicked out.

[@stephsays-503]

I’m glad I’m not the ONLY one who realized that man didn’t drop a SINGLE tear but did all that hollering, Tubi needs to reach out to him expeditiously because... 😂😂😭😭😭😭💀🤦🏾‍♀️

[@annetteodanga]

🤣🤣thats the comment i was looking for

[@ladyroyalsupremest]

I hollered at Tubi.

[@ljackson24]

I needed this laugh. 💯😂😂😂

[@kkain123]

That's how these some of these guys are. They get out here, have these kids when their young and not be present. Soon as they are grown and life gets to them, they want to come back and ask for forgiveness. Smh

[@Geminicricketi]

That was suggesting to me that the MOM was the issue. and they had to wait till the child got older.

[@ljackson24]

@@GeminicricketiWell, clearly that’s not the case. If so, why so many children with all these different women? Bc, just like in this case, more often than not, the man ups and abandons his responsibility talking about he’s scared or didn’t know how. Newsflash: women get scared too and often have to learn how to do things regarding parenting. So, that’s just a crock of bs. What they really should just admit is that they’re weak. That’s the truth. You not knowing or being scared is not enough. They’re just weak af & it’s sad. Smh

[@LatishaMmmmmkkkkkzzzzz]

She said Every tear waters a blessing. I'm swimming in tears over here right now 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@brenale_heartsJesus]

Im so enjoying these episodes being posted so frequently!!! I really do learn so much from each episode and helps me to walk in healing in areas where it’s been needed.

[@user-fk7yb4zg6z]

The father dragging stuff like being so extra lmfaoo for nun

[@MissTippiLu]

Old player’s card ran out, NOW he wants forgiveness. Damn shame. So many of us are born from BROKENESS but God is the great healer. Forgiveness comes through him, not by our own strength.

[@D-Will2k]

My father is like this too. I just love him from a distance.

[@tamikabennett3023]

same here

[@shaeb.9627]

Me too

[@kathyander4920]

That's all you can do. You have a heavenly Father. God loves you, always!!!

[@suezettemills5336]

He lit up when she asked him to tell her about "his" stroke. Ugh!!!

[@toschajeffries8833]

Yes... he wanted to tell his story, it seem as he never got the chance to tell anyone it. I feel that help raising his siblings had something to do with him not raising his sons. I feel he didn't want to be bother.

[@HarperSophia]

@@toschajeffries8833same. Like maybe the trauma of having to be parent/dad figure at a young age, made him avoid being a father for his own kids. Like a trigger.

[@toschajeffries8833]

@@HarperSophia I agree

[@nikkispicer886]

This makes me appreciate my dad more for never leaving. My God….

[@smustipher]

Avoiders of personal responsibility have a tendency to relish in any opportunity to play the victim.

[@TheTaurean]

🥺 Oooo Iyanla why you got this grown man on this good KZbin with a part-time dad growing up crying. Aww man this hit me too deep.

[@puritykm]

These precious humans are too good to miss out on their lives. This dad must regret his wrong decisions

[@tashasmith2148]

Im crying watching this because i feel their pain,lord help us all😢😢

[@MaryjaneLove]

&&&& it's sad because my father is alive living in the same city I live in but my dad act like he don't want to deal with me . I haven't seen my father in over 10 years and I'm married with kids now and it does hurt to not have your father around ... It's sad 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@kathyander4920]

I know how you feel. My son's dad deserved them. I feel so bad for them.

[@MaryjaneLove]

@@kathyander4920 &&& it does hurt not having your father around 😔

[@bettykhuboni8758]

I love Chon's realness. ❤️ ❤, he is a good man within and he can be misunderstood at times

[@daisyriley2701]

This brings tears to my eyes I fell in love with your shows it mean a lot to me

[@kkain123]

They Daddy was creeping around the neighborhood lol they live 15 minutes from each other. He must have told those women some good stories.

[@HarperSophia]

How he managed to sleep with them is beyond me. His voice is crazyyyy

[@elysasmith7682]

Newark and its surrounding cities everyone is about 15mins away. Newark born and raised 💪🏾

[@Geminicricketi]

The mom probably ratchet n would have beat the other lady up. Shocked mom skated on accountability.

[@sherei9530]

There's nothing like having siblings make The Discovery while in the school building, mothers duking it out at the busstop, and young couples finding out they are siblings or relatives. Then teachers have to sort things out and keep everyone safe. This mess must stop!

[@bellebella6267]

@HarperSophia that voice creeps me 😅😅😅

[@SamanthaSegarra-z8m]

This sucks .. my dad died 15 years ago... Oh how i miss him... And this man has kids that want him in there lives ..

[@maescreativespace444]

The way he went to hollering and carrying on when he was being confronted is a clear narcissistic tactic. He definitely dangled his son out the window

[@meiylani.]

Ngl i would not let that man "bless me". I dont play with that at all.

[@abdullahabunayyan-jv7sj]

"I has been close to death as one can get "so what does he sons got to do with that? He's manipulative and wants his sons to take care of him now that he's sick and he hasn't been present in their lives. The nerve😢

[@desheathebrand]

These beautiful kings, I am in tears omg

[@The2headedmonster]

Thank u

[@lizanjau3]

Forgiveness is tough . Apologies are the hardest to seek but healing is everything 🙏

[@karinec.2131]

He’s just looking for someone to take care of his old crusty behind..it’s pretty obvious. I would pretend I didn’t even know him.

[@Geminicricketi]

Y’all all so mean. No compassion. Sheesh

[@bigananikagiso6413]

​​@@Geminicricketiwe've seen it happen time and again, its nothing new, the dad has 3 sons to send his medical bills and talk about his issues, as shown in the vid when he kept talking about himself

[@briasworld8]

💯

[@maescreativespace444]

Right… trying to guilt trip those grown men…

[@jae.thequeen7288]

That middle child seeing nothing but bs all over his dad and he isn’t holding back. S/O to these 3 brothers though, the way they handled themselves and took accountability for their actions instead of making excuses spoke volumes.

[@antoniapalmore7494]

Hes full of it. What you see is going to get he is self centered. Narcissistic personality 😢Take responsibility.

[@akinimueni]

Yeah round and round and round

[@taylabrown5278]

I’m not crying 🥲…the oldest son being emotional got to me.

[@SteveC-x6t]

Ok was not prepared for the eyes to well up 😂us men fortunate for good fathers/father figures in our lives owe them so much! Props to awesome pops out there

[@beverleyhamilton4588]

From our mother's womb we can feel the vibes already ; and more importantly we are like sponges we soak it all up like sponges even when we are not ready to speak.....let love prevail 💕

[@jenniferespute1370]

Iyanla you are doing a tremendous job putting familys together. Love and blessings to you. 🙏🙏

[@helpkelp3595]

It's scary how some people can break down crying with no tears then recover like nothing!

[@Pjsixty60]

You call those crocodile tears all day long.

[@SashaLawrence-ns3vv]

Parentifying the oldest child makes us not really want children . I never had any. Many still do of course like this absent father.

[@BeUr_Best]

Parentification is real, many people don’t understand it’s negative effects, and I’m so sorry you have to experienced that. Prayers for your healing ❤

[@HarperSophia]

Yeah I can see that as well. Wish he hadn’t given these kids false hope tho. How you gone tell a child you have tickets to the Mets and then never come and get him 😂

[@rosemisatiofficial5428]

I can relate with the lack of desire for children.

[@beverleyhamilton4588]

That was emotional. One of the worst. If not the worst... Thank you Iyanla (Great Mother) 😊

[@tonybest8064]

It’s the look of the older brother meeting his younger brothers… the smile and the water works 😭😭😭

[@aprylclark3796]

I’m glad they got healing before there father passed away. They needed this! Break the pattern

[@deasiathompson91]

I love Jubba ❤️ so nurturing & kind. These men grew to be great men without the help of their father!

[@veronmae7990]

The most beautiful episode, three handsome sons and their dad,wishing them everlasting sweet fellowship ❤

[@313teejay]

Did the stroke prevent tears from falling???😭😂

[@tsugrad13]

😅😅😅

[@Helen-fg5pz]

😢😂😂😂

[@saidimulengima367]

😂😂u make me laugh louder

[@bellebella6267]

I can't breathe 😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@nishac359]

I almost choked 😅😂😂😂

[@Jojostrokesofficial]

I feel like one hug from her … I’ll cry and be healed instantly 😂😂

[@GoogoolMe]

It's sad to see that kids need their parents even though the parents are themselves broken ppl.

[@imhisapple1105]

Wow, what handsome men! Brothers, I pray you protect each other and love one another always.

[@bevandowski]

I like the fact that the one son said, "What do you want you to do with that?"

[@andreaholmes5697]

I love that middle son!!!! He don’t play!!!!!

[@kathyander4920]

Men need to realize they will one day get old and need these children.

[@ArlisaWilliams-xn7zg]

Not one wet tear!!!

[@ramonahamm6292]

This man still does not take any accountability

[@ShivaLadiva-sb9nw]

I would be suspicious but this is an opportunity for these young men to heal. They deserve so much more .

[@ArlisaWilliams-xn7zg]

Where are the tears Mr. Houston!!!

[@moe_ramz]

Narcissistic too….🙄

[@TheBaba1920]

I could tell it in the first few minutes of seeing him. No empathy