Iyanla Vanzant on R. Kelly and Healing Sexual Trauma

Iyanla Vanzant talks with Karen about the R. Kelly verdict and gives some practical advice for healing sexual trauma. #RKelly #SexualTrauma #IyanlaVanzant #KarenHunterShow
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[@deloresorr4740]

To deal with the echo, I silently repeat: I surrender, I release, I detach, I let go of every person, place, or thing that does not serve my highest good.

[@daniellehillman6277]

I LOVE this Sis!! I pray your ok that I share.

[@calvinsmith7419]

Such a powerful moment between Ms. Vanzant and the caller who was describing what happened to her. When Ms. Vanzant was asking her to “just breathe”, my wife closed her eyes and took a breath. I watched as tears fell from her eyes. When you went to break she told her story for the very first time.😢

[@KarenHunterShow]

WOW! Calvin! Thank you for sharing that!

[@sparker7768]

Thank you for seeing what was happening with her and staying by her side to LISTEN. So many of us are not heard.

[@karenl7786]

Love, peace and healing to your wife, and bless you for sharing! So many will be encouraged that there are those who will listen and hear in love.

[@MissPamR]

Is there another part that I missed?

[@WLNS4Life]

Shared Breakthrough Moment!! That level trust is rarely reached. Beautiful

[@joyh.729]

‘Remaining loyal to ppl who treat you badly in an outgrowth of trauma.’ Powerful!!!🌟🌟

[@rosslaverdure]

"Lot of R. Kellys out there that we haven't dealt with in our families." 👀 When I was in middle and high school, we used to call these girls 'fast.' Many times we resented them for being with the men. And I do mean MEN. But we never said anything about the dudes because you don't 'hate' on dudes. That's how we're brought up. Man law. Now, I am 38 and I find myself realizing what was going on back then. You're talking about girls who were 11, 12, 13, all the way to 18 (because 18 ain't really grown). And these were full grown men are preying on them and they're being enabled, many times by us. Anywho, good conversation. Necessary conversation.

[@turquoisepurple7sky151]

I am so glad you came to that realization.

[@victoriaalvin2446]

It's been ahuge issue, which needs to be stopped with treatment, prison isn't always the answer. I know first hand, I am a 60's child.. and I am now living my best life!

[@Coco-zi3ey]

I was 12 when the first man began showing interest in me. I was terrified. It made me so self conscious for being tall and dirty for my body maturing. And I was only a child. Even in high school I can remember men (six years older, I was 16 and they were early twenties) coming to my high school with their flashy drug dealer cars (80’s) waiting on school grounds to make their attempts to take girls out to lunch or picking them up after school. I always felt like a target. This sick behavior was so rampart. I don’t remember any of the school staff intervening. It was all systemically accepted and at the cost of many young people that didn’t understand that they were the prey until well afterwards.

[@terracottawellness1561]

Truthfully, 21, 22, 23 for many of us as young adults, are NOT "grown" and since the brain doesn't fully maturate until 26, I'm inclined to say grown men should leave ALL children under the age of mental/emotional/spiritual/financial maturation ALONE even if their physical bodies have the appearance of "grown."

[@Coco-zi3ey]

@@terracottawellness1561 Truthfully? Pfft…you are funny! No excuses. Anyone 21 and up (men or women) are pedophiles under the letter of the law if they’re fkn or fondling girls or boys under the statutory age. Now that’s the truth.

[@freshbme2]

Sad but true. Sexual molestation has been going on in the black community for decades. Our elders were so God fearing that they just tried to pray the sickness away. Thank God it's no longer a secret you can't talk about.

[@victoriaalvin2446]

It hasn't just been the Catholic church, it's been in the Baptist church since I grew up. SMH

[@AllBrightColors]

Correction: CENTURIES

[@freshbme2]

@@victoriaalvin2446 I couldn't agree with you more. I was grabbed by my associate minister in the Baptist church, and the first lady saw it. THANK GOD my mother was quick to press charges against him. And to add sugar on top. He was caught in his car with a male prostitute...the associate married pastor!!!

[@kimkirksey562]

All communities

[@yvonnemfuller]

Professor Hunter and Minister Iyantla Vanzant, this was one of most powerful show I've heard on these air waves. The sensitivity and care that was taken with this caller caused me to weep and absolutely 💯 agree that we are conditioned to be loyal to our abusers. And as black women, we are trained to tolerate the unacceptable. This whole segment was so beautiful

[@KarenHunterShow]

thank you.

[@nyeb3242]

"The violator still in ya face on the regular" hit different now looking back but I am not a victim. I am Divine💜

[@rhondateal9859]

OMG!!! Just when I think The Karen Hunter Show has reached the pinnacle... you go higher... thank you!!!! You took me there & even after the show I had to sit in my spirit for an hour 😍🙏😍🙏😍

[@MizzNee796]

Maxine Waters said back in the early 90’s “we don’t have a ‘teenage pregnancy problem’ in the Black community, what we have is a dirty old man problem!” I’ll be damn if she wasn’t right!

[@homelesshannah50]

Maxine can't talk about any DAMN body!! When "dirty old man" Bill O' Racist came for her ass she was silent. Hey Maxine how about cleaning up your district and stop calling Meg Thee Stallion a "role model"

[@roadlesswandering]

"The word is powerful and so is your intention!" Thank you, Ms. Iyanla.

[@lt3074]

i just don't understand how mothers don't believe their children when they tell them they have been raped or other sexual abuse

[@sherryw9206]

Because some of them are so obsessed with a penis and they can't see straight.....

[@carbar3936]

Selfishly, these mothers hate being alone more than the raggedy men they deal withwho are hurting their kids. These moms don't love themselves or their kids. These moms claim they love the kid, but not really. They may like the kids, but definitely not love them.

[@p.w.7493]

Thank you, Prof. Hunter and Ms. Vanzant, for addressing this subject, albeit the painful memory it might stir up for some. My heart goes out to those who've been violated. Stay strong!💯

[@danadane827]

"Stop remaining loyal to the people who violate you" This spoke to me.

[@leonjordan9518]

Why aren't any of these damn parents going to jail with him. Oh, I'm sorry, the payments stop coming. When that aliyah mess went down, it should have been handled 21 years ago. DAMN SHAME OVERALL.

[@leonjordan9518]

@@jackieburns5257 to the extent of the law.

[@kimbronson3520]

You're right, had they dealt with R. Kelly when it happened to Aaliyah the other girls would've been spared.

[@tralayned3872]

We used to be taught "stranger danger", but as Ms. Iyanla said most are violated by people they know.

[@auspiciousj]

I love when women show their natural beauty.❤

[@WynIDreamTV]

This is exactly what I needed this morning.. I'm literally tearing up right now, because I finally admitted in 2020 that I'd experienced sexual trauma as a teen (from a family member) to both of my parents. Somehow the solitude of the pandemic wouldn't let me escape it the way I'd conditioned myself to do for so long. The blessing in it all was just speaking my truth proved to be the start of the healing journey that I'm on right now.. thank you for this Auntie Karen! I feel way less alone, and encouraged to keep healing👌🏽🧘🏽‍♂️✌🏽

[@Ladyrolanda]

We need people like Elder Vanzant to teach us how to love each other and stop being so judgemental. Yes, he’s wrong but how in the world did he/we get to this point?

[@AlppleJuice]

Omg that is a must listen. Ms. Karen, please have Iyanla on as often as possible. I love your conversations with her. ❤️

[@jaalahford1637]

Iyanla Iyanla Iyanla - thank God for you! Thank you Karen Hunter.

[@andre7767]

I was saying the same thing about the COVID lockdown, it was something that went beyond not going out, not working etc. It was a nightmare for those who are being abused also. SMH.

[@therealkoolaidandkale]

Damn. This really hurt my heart. 💔

[@andre7767]

@@therealkoolaidandkale Me also. There is so much going on. It's heartbreaking to know some people will never get the help. I have to remind myself that I'm fortunate to not have those troubles, take advantage of my opportunities, learn, give and laugh.

[@MamaDee737]

I enjoyed seeing the natural beauty of you both. It was very refreshing. I have always wondered why we as Black women stay loyal to mistreatment of us. Post traumatic Slave Disorder runs deep in our community.

[@sirillaminor4589]

I appreciate the fact that they know this is a sickness and instead of blaming R. Kelly they are wondering why no one got this man some help!!!

[@sherryw9206]

I agree

[@vanessasanders5647]

Now that was a very powerful and positive truth in many family. I totally agree we do have a DIVINE powerful energy source to call upon right now for much needed healing. I love the fact that you Professor Hunter choose to address the difficult subjects. Thank you because that's healing too.

[@dr.arnitafowler8860]

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[@gloriastewart7522]

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[@clynnjohnson418]

I want to see the enablers prosecuted also.

[@Theinfamouskiki411]

It still amazes me people fall on the sword for robert Kelly. He didnt build no schools, march in any protests, create institutions to uplift his people...nope. He sings good. Hes talented for sure in his craft. No doubt. But until we give more props to education, excellence, and uplifting we are doomed to fail. We need to stop seeing our kids as a nuisance but as an investment. No one wants to deal with the rampant sexual abuse in our communities. We cant blame the white man for that. This worldwide. People wanna go in on gay men when half were sexual abused!

[@abundance6484]

I agree

[@turquoisepurple7sky151]

Facts

[@deehowe4141]

Beautiful except for the last comment. We must stop conflating sexual abuse and sexuality. SEPARATE ISSUES!!! If all of us sexually violated “ became gay”, chiiiile, please!!!! There would be FEW straight people left!! Let’s stop confusing these issues. It is misguided and dangerous.

[@andrewstaples8677]

Amen

[@pearlsrevealed]

💯

[@moreliarsandfrauds3963]

I'm still waiting for Woody Allen's daughter to be interviewed, and Roman Polanski, and Stephen Collins all their victims silenced it's sad.🤨

[@derrickbraithwaite-mais8469]

Agree.💯👏🏿

[@Gwenesis]

That'll be a long wait if ever these wm will be made to face their sex demons.

[@moreliarsandfrauds3963]

@@Gwenesis Not really, they won't face the so called demons, but they most face the prison system ASAP 🤨

[@Gwenesis]

They won't face prison either unfortunately. Prison is reserved for Bp. If there was truly justice, the Catholic church would cease to exist.

[@moreliarsandfrauds3963]

@@Gwenesis Oh they'll face it , pressure has to be placed , and embarrassing things have to be repeated in order for it to gain attention 😠

[@lisas9462]

You got to have another source of LOVE.....God's LOVE it's always been there for us. Thank you Iyanla. 🙏🏾

[@deborahfrederick916]

Thank you for this, Professor Hunter. I was violated at 13 by a 22 year old Vietnam veteran who was hooked on heroin. He subsequently overdosed, deliberately. I thank God for bringing me through it all.

[@KarenHunterShow]

Yes, I'm so glad you came through it to be whole today! Blessings!

[@fannie2529]

People are always saying molestation and rape is a disease, but these people know when to hide their mess and who to do this to. Yes, it's a sickness, but people have a choose to abuse another person or not. They need the Lord and we need to pray for their deliverance, but make excuses is never good. Not saying that's what your conversation was about.

[@ruthlessnsavage1958]

A disease cannot turn itself on or off depending on whose looking. Its not a sickness or a disease. Its a choice.

[@abeenalove1931]

This was a muvh needed conversation. It was very triggering, but I needed this so much. Thank you sisters Karen, Iyanla, and dREAM. You are doing GODS work See you all in Knubia.

[@CocoChanelle-1]

Her telling stopped her abuser. That was Very important. Abusers like to work in the dark until it comes to the light. At least they tried to protect her later by keeping him from her - So that was good. Too bad the statue of limitations has passed. It’s horrible to still be around your abuser at family gatherings and are supposed to act “normal”. God Bless you Iyanla for using your pain to help others heal from their pain. 🙏🏽

[@tehyierd2377]

Can we have a discussion regarding the fact that child marriage is still legal in many US states.

[@Ladyrolanda]

My story too. I told and was called a liar. But the truth is still the truth to this day. How do you have a relationship with a mother who calls you a liar after her dude violates you 40 years ago? My constant dilemma. 🤔

[@therealkoolaidandkale]

Praying peace on you today and forever.

[@byfaithwalking1529]

Do what keeps you safe mentally/physically/spiritually?

[@HeyMsVal]

I'm so sorry....sending you a hug 🤗

[@kasja344]

It heals when you face it, acknowledge it then allow yourself to feel the Power from it that you made it through it still standing

[@tinamarie4]

Agree with all of this….not punished but held accountable….exactly….he was abused and not helped…then in an industry that feeds the demons….crazy all the way around….it’s a sicknesses…they all need healing and therapy

[@Tricee2000]

Agreed

[@01sandes]

Thank you Miss. Vanzant for the powerful word!!❤

[@tcg5427]

She has lost a bit of weight or something...she looks very different. Either way much respect appreciate her wisdom

[@huntingtonparkway]

YES. A noticeable change

[@janellej2348]

Yess! I’m so happy my professor was apart of such an important conversation. Topics dealing with sexual misconduct can be very uncomfortable to talk about being that traumatic experiences can feel so self isolating. Great Idea having Ms Iyanla here made the environment feel cushioned or supported for a space of vulnerability. Excellent interview learned a lot about shadow work!

[@aquickstory2196]

that's right: you cannot do absolutely anything without divine intervention: nothing! you can hit your head on the wall or wail at it.

[@flowingcreeksentertainment9895]

BLACK QUEEN POWER, love it!!! Thank you ladies for your platform! Much appreciated and educational video!

[@e_vantuallythenomad6916]

Thank you for having this segment. I honestly don’t think this epidemic is more prevalent in the black community than in any other. I know that is not at all the most important point but does deserve acknowledgment. When Iyanla spoke to powerlessness I feel all men feel a type of powerlessness to women. If someone has something you desire and that person can say no, there is a powerlessness, whether real or not. I also don’t think that enough studies about testosterone are conducted. I hear much more about women and hormonal behavior but not the same towards men, young men and boys. Powerlessness combined with uncontrollable hormonal reaction is a form of intoxication and over rides reasoning along with environmental teachings. We know women have not had rights and have been marginalized throughout history. Society gives permission. There are so many factors. Again all races equally victimize their women and children.

[@deehowe4141]

Thank you!!! I could not believe she gave that misinformation! All cultures . All.

[@sondrajenkins9908]

💯

[@beantianja]

Greetings to one of my mentors, sheros Iyanla Vanzant, greetings beloved. These are some powerful spiritual days we are in. Calling on that divine that guide is imperative daily. Honor and so much respect Sistah. Thank you, Prof Hunter. Iyanla Vanzant is exactly who we need in these times today. Give thanks

[@cynthiarose4056]

Amen. Thank you, both for this conversation. We need to heal💕.

[@Camie.in.Philly]

Sis and I were just talking about this very topic and how you have to be strong enough to love your l yourself enough to let it go

[@rudiannwildgoose-laing4629]

Devine intervention (for me thats God) is all that can help you in this world. Your word is power (power of the tongue) and so is your intention.🙌🏽 Thank you for sharing.

[@tseawright8771]

DEVINE POWER CALLING ON THAT ALL THE TIME..THANK U SO MUCH KAREN AN VANSANT...

[@angel1xoxo]

Her advice is very helpful. I’m glad that I’ve come across this today. ❤

[@donnabohanon1570]

Two of my favorite women! What a blessing.

[@lisaluvasil]

Step 1-This is “Some New Level Stuff” we ain’t Never seen before….So Acknowledge it & call on God /the Spirit/Ancestors/Higher Energy power

[@terracottawellness1561]

I hear you lisaluvasil; but IMHO, LEAVE them "ancestors" alone. . .some of them are just as guilty. As for me, I'm seeking WISDOM as I seek ELOHIM, for when WISDOM calls, she calls out with a voice that doesn't play!!!

[@rakennzylue8614]

Got to go in the Bush and weep🙌

[@torreyinnewyorkcity334]

Good for the soul! Professor Karen love you! Thank you 🙏

[@24KinfO]

It's sad because some young girls actually like older men. That's probably a part of why they went with him. It's flattering in a strange way. Smh. I did.

[@carbro_320]

Plus his celebrity status and the parents willing sending them not thinking they would be abused for his gratification

[@abundance6484]

That doesn't exempt the older man from practicing high morals. The adults are supposed to righteously guide the youth in the correct direction. Too much thinking with the lower nature has the entire community messed up.

[@jackalinebailey7347]

And so many girls look for the father figure that was lacking in a single mom household, confuse a little male attention for fatherly love. It's very messy but Ms Vanzant said it, you have to find the Divine in you. Be still to recognize the answer is in how you handle the situation going forward. You got the power.

[@msflygurl3760]

@@abundance6484 yes let’s keep the convo on the adult. I feel like that was a nice way to say they were being “fast”

[@michelle-thatsitthatsall1137]

@@jackieburns5257 this is very interesting. I read her transcripts, she followed him from state to state trying to please him. I hardly think he lured her by saying he believe in the Bible, she thought she was going to be “the one.” I am all for accountability. He’s being held accountable, but for some reason this lady and so many others aren’t.

[@victoriaalvin2446]

Sisters !! This is a great platform. I have my own story to tell so similar to Sister Iyanla's past history. What we don't know won't change.

[@ninab9169]

This happens so much and it’s really sad i can’t even imagine 🥺I truly understand now that I’m grown why my parents never let me or my siblings spend the night out sit on family members lap or friends just very overprotective When i became a teen i remember grown men trying to talk to me and i was truly disgusted 😖!!!!

[@MISSRUE32MCGEE]

I was listening earlier today. Thank you for educating me.❤️🙏🏽

[@sugashy45]

She Izzzzz ❤️❤️🖤🖤🤎🤎 her spirit Awesum!!! Thank you Professor Hunter 🌹🌹🌹

[@hildajones7306]

Big facts you stay getting good information to the public 😇true gem 💎 thank you Ms Hunter

[@Kaëlanii]

Remaining loyal to people that did u bad!!! This powerful statement just changed my life and today is the first day of my 51 year of life AND first thing i listen to this morning. I'm stunned at the timing yet ik this is God speaking to me. Thank you Miss Iyanla and Miss Karen for allowing God to use you as his vessel so i will clearly hear this much needed piece of the puzzle of my life on this day today. Im speechless, humbles and blessed. I thank you God for always without fail guiding me and blessing me with moments like this at just the right time. I humbly accept.

[@tiffanydcoates2904]

I’m only watching cause the Queen mother iyanla vazant is on .. we need your wise words! We must communicate with our children! Make sure no predators have access to come in !

[@yellagirl419]

Whewwww this is Fiya!!!! Thank you so much

[@155linden]

Informative and moving information as usual💜💜 I thank you for your dedication, btw I still listen to you on Urban View and enjoy your YT videos

[@karenl7786]

Thank you for sharing this with us. We've got a lot of work to do. There used to be a lot of complaint that this young generation in particular self diagnosed themselves in the extreme with mental health issues. Somewhat true but I also think they're just more honestly trying to figure it all out. The silver lining to a lot of exposed pain is that we give ourselves a better chance than ever to begin to heal.

[@pearlyj.7493]

Unfortunately your family can be your biggest betrayal. They can be guilty of setting you up,and then deny stuff. 😏

[@byfaithwalking1529]

Whoa that is the absolute truth!!!!!!!

[@tjgipson7045]

Confirmation. I needed that RIGHT now ❤️💯

[@lilvoncampbell]

How many ways can a person say thank you? Major TY to the Karen Hunter show and team for gifting us this interview.(where caan i find it in full?)... As a survivor/ human, I lowkey (high key) found myself struggling with the whole Rkelly verdict. I couldn't pin any one reason over the other..... But boy that whole concept of being conditioned to be loyal to people who treat you badly over hit home.... TY Queens. I have to put some more intentional power behind my yes's and my no's. Wishing all the power to empower their own Yes's and No's.

[@KarenHunterShow]

www.siriusxm.com

[@hazina1947]

Very powerful. I love this Sister

[@cynthiarose4056]

Beautifully said❤️.

[@tamarar.4642]

This brought up some feelings I had forgotten about! My grandmother always feed this blind man from her neighborhood. She would tell me and my cousin to take him his plate. My mom told me not to go down there and she told my grandmother as well. One day we took him the plate but he was in his bedroom. His son was there in his bedroom and called us in there when we were about to leave. He grabbed me and started touching me but my cousin started beating his but! I bit him and we ran out the house and I was crying. We promised each other to never go there again and not to tell anyone. YEARS later I was dating my boyfriend at the time and now my husband I saw that man standing on a corner and screamed and started crying! I told my boyfriend/ husband about it once I calmed down. He was shocked because he knew the man as well! This happened when I was 7 or 8. I didn’t tell my parents until I was in my 20’s. My mom cried and my dad was angry. My mom was a new nurse at the time so my grandmother kept all the grandkids. She said she always prayed when she left us because she worked so much. My grandmother kept us while my mom and two aunts were all getting started with their careers so I know she was overwhelmed. I’m shaking just thinking what would’ve happened if my cousin wasn’t with me that day. We did send my boy cousins down there after that and they left that mans plate at the end of the driveway every time from then on lol 😂! We never told them why we didn’t want to go though. They become very protective of us after that and they were much older than us.

[@KarenHunterShow]

So sorry.

[@victoriaalvin2446]

When I realized what was done to me I was 30; I knew it wasn't my fault, but I did not know how to tell! Who to tell! SMH....

[@KarenHunterShow]

So sorry...blessings.

[@NoName-jf7wb]

Me too. After the issue broke broke. Now I’m pressed thinking who did I hurt out of the pain I didn’t know I had. I hope now we as a community can have a healthy convo around this on how to move forward in relationships. It makes me want to stay to myself.

[@oco987]

Wow, that was an amazing session

[@EricMajiedMajesticMusic]

This Information, This Good News!! IS A God Send❣️ Thank You Both…………

[@mshill2406]

Karen this was a wonderful show!

[@KarenHunterShow]

thank you!

[@TiyaBedford]

Thank u for this. I tok notes on the exact steps toward true healing. It is necessary

[@sevuw]

Hallelujah, Thank you, thank you for sharing this conversations that bring life and healing!!

[@boniswaayan8362]

I must add, most of us cannot heal ourselves. A good therapist, a sisters or brothers circle which provides communal support is critical for healing and letting go. 12 step groups are excellent for recovery from all sorts of trauma and addiction.

[@KarenHunterShow]

Most of us cannot and should not.

[@shakarafulford8723]

Thank you for this video.

[@tiffanypatterson]

The sad part of the whole thing with R. Kelly is that he doesn't think he did anything wrong and if he got out, he'd more than likely still just do the same thing.

[@kimkirksey562]

I agree

[@christyhouse2287]

Hey, Karen and Iyanla, the question asker, and the question answer err 😆. Nice conversation. Thanks Karen

[@dashiarahmaan8478]

Wow good stuff…that was a great conversation! Thanks for sharing!!🙏🏾❤️

[@mr.tsells8944]

Aww.. I didn't know you were ill. God Bless you .. I enjoyed your show

[@killyourego493]

My teacher took advantage of me back in the day and I’m still not strong enough to come forward. I don’t want to be victimized. What’s worse is this person is STILL teaching more than twenty years later.

[@sondrajenkins9908]

Im sorry that happened 2 u. Prayers 2 u 4 strength peace and healing 🙏🏽 I can relate as I was sexually abused as a child as well I did not come 4ward either my mother knew and did nothing so i thought what could I do. Looking back I realize I could have saved others from the same shameful victimizing fate.

[@Therealcrashbandicoot]

Powerful ✨✨inspiring ✨

[@tracystokes6299]

Wow that was great insight.

[@a.r.9779]

The actual charges and conviction doesn't match the narrative that's been put out for decades. All I can say is read the trial transcripts and tell me why he was the only one standing trial if this is really about "sexual abuse toward black "little" girls? The selective outrage is more of an issue in the black community than a R&B singer.

[@alonzoeley9330]

I TOTALLY AGREE!!!, THANK YOU!!!!👏👏👏👏👏

[@yasmin8851]

They need to start going after his inner circle.

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

THIS!

[@sherylsutherland1183]

When I told my mother my father molested me all she cared about was image and what people would think she send me across the ocean to live in London with my aunt for about 2 years. I'm almost 50 I have two kids and I tell my daughter who is my youngest when she asks why she can't see her grandfather the granddaddy has a mental disorder and she won't be safe with him the last time I saw him he act like nothing ever happened and I'm supposed to forgive and forget. I remember when I was a teenager because eventually I had to come back to the house and the cycle continue I eventually left home but when I left home I wrote a letter to my mother and full details what was happening to me the sad part was even though my father did evil things to me you knew you know who I hated the most my mother I tried to poison her I didn't really hate him I mean I hated what he was doing to me but I didn't hate that man I hated the woman that let that man do those things to me she is now passed on and I don't even think about her or go to her grave I don't really think about my family at all just my immediate family.

[@KarenHunterShow]

I am so sorry you experienced that.

[@sherylsutherland1183]

@@KarenHunterShow thank you for that.its hard when you have kids because it's hard to trust people around them and even women and sexually abused your kids now before we only used to think of men doing the abusing sexually. I have so much trust issues.

[@shamalama29]

Hey Ms Hunter, I just heard that Miz, got engaged. Congratulations to Miz and Bridget. Your radio show truly makes us all feel like we are family.

[@terracottawellness1561]

Is his name Miz? I thought his name is Smiz. . . .thanks for the correct name.

[@shamalama29]

@@terracottawellness1561 No, I think you are right with Smiz. I guess we can ask Karen 😂

[@RuthLessGemini]

69 yrs old??? Where???

[@Tankstheguy]

I wasn't believed at the age of 13 and I was a super tom boy because they say I wanted ice cream and I got mad. The second time I slept with a knife and had to use it that's when it was taken seriously but still swept under the rug. It was a cousin. After my children were born (because I didn't have anyone to love me back) I never let a man touch me again. I dress like a man and am still a tom boy. Mentally & physically i have been damaged. Food became my addiction

[@micheleholley1070]

Professor Karen, thank you for this segment. The wise shaman Madame Vanzant said people who feel powerless use these tactics in order to feel a sense of power, Professor Karen I would like to humbly push back and say people who have power and the system is in their favor use these tactics, it has been used on slaves and women and men in every economic level. So is the goal to have power or a sense of privilege? People who feel they have no privilege want it and people who have too much privilege are drunk off that privilege. Professor Karen now after I have type this I must ask what is the difference between wanting power and privilege or is there a difference at all?

[@deborahblackshear3325]

Thanks Karen and Dr Vasant.

[@jamespolite9730]

Thank you

[@EC4400]

Spiritual transference. Time for deliverance. Explain what happens in the spirit world when violation takes place.

[@fah232]

All the enablers need to be charged right along with him, including the ex-wife and some of those parents. Doesn't the charge racketeering itself involve multiple parties ?

[@latriciamcdowell8984]

They wer kids but running around trying to be women why was there parents all allow ing girls to his show? Why was some of them going to show with him if he was so bad taking money from him ? Why was not calling police? U want to no why they wanted money when it ran out not he is the worst person in the world!

[@pearlsrevealed]

They allowed their daughters to be around him because IF they heard the allegations they chose not to believe it. Given the opportunity you would have gotten as close as possible to RKelly too.

[@robertleepow9299]

some time people conclude their opinion and believe they are correct. now, whether it's a boy or a girl, the violator is wrong, unjust, and don't think of the conflicts he or she will cause in the future of the victims life. liked your statement " he will be held responsible not punished " YAHWEH is our only judge.. Respect.

[@2008fedx]

Where were the parent's

[@serene_001]

Why didn’t Ms. Vanzant agree to talk with Mr. Kelly when he requested to speak with her? But now she’s commenting on him and his situation.... Can someone help me with this question?

[@IbaandAse]

Mr. Kelly’s camp reached out to Iya. She declined saying “he wasn’t ready” for healing. Mr. Kelly and his people wanted to control the process.She sensed that they wanted to “do TV” and not be healed/be serious about being accountable. There’s an interview on KZbin where she talks about it.

[@lt3074]

it's sad that r kelly is in denial and won't get help for his sexual abuse, for me i'm glad justice was finally served.

[@lathisasdunston1426]

He won’t get help being locked up!!’ 🤦🏾‍♀️ He asked this lady 4 help she denied him help!!!!’🤷🏽‍♀️