Iyanla Vanzant's Spiritual Spa : Freedom from Family Patterns

[@trinimom7686]

I listen to Ms Iyanla on my morning walk. Every ounce of my being received this message. I was so busy trying to not be like my mom that unconsciously I did the same. My mother so wanted to not be like her mother that she did the same. I never connected the generational pattern but now that I know I have some work to do to Fix my life

[@christinaw.4626]

I LOVE this woman because of her wisdom and detachment from judging her old self/ways while also keeping it 💯 that as a 67 yr old BEAUTIFUL woman she still is a work in progress ‼️ she inspires me all the time to be my authentic self 😁

[@bw2579]

This is a MUST WATCH! I had my children to watch the broadcast with me - 20 and 19 years of age. What a word! What a word! We have been in a struggle on this very topic for years. We are ready to let go! It is time to let God take this burden and for us to move on. Thank you Ms. Iyanla for your obedience in allowing the Holy Spirit to usher in this topic through you. My daughter and I are still discussing and the broadcast ended over an hour ago. Thank you so much!

[@BTheBadass]

6:11 I had to come back to this prayer for the end of December and the beginning of January 1st, 2025. Thank you so much, elder. I appreciate you and I Love you. I forgive and I receive.

[@barnahappy3573]

Hi! Black Spanish woman, first generation, and I can testify that the fight is real. I’m embracing the good heritage and consciously breaking with the bad patterns. The best think I have done for myself and my family is getting in therapy. By working on my issues, I have created the space to have difficult and necessary conversations that is bringing healing to all of us. Do the work. It’s not easy but our ancestors did their part so we can get here and I think that this is our responsibility. Thank you Ms Iyanla

[@Dianathedivine]

I raised my hand for the entire spa🙋🏽‍♀️. You were talking about me... my family... my mama and my patterns.

[@trinimom7686]

Me too sis..but we now know we can work to break these habits

[@daphnepowell-cooper9858]

Breakers Annoiting

[@TonettaClay]

You got this sis. Good luck on your journey. We all support you here.

[@beverleyreid7572]

I have to watch this again. Thanks so much Iyanla. You’re so needed in all our lives. God bless you and keep you safe! OMG! I too experienced the “who do you think you are narrative” from both women and men in the family. I totally upset them.

[@TonettaClay]

I can identify with you Beverly. Me too. It's going to be ok and they'll be fine. Good luck on your journey.

[@labell5689]

This is my teacher I live this lady

[@TonettaClay]

Mine too sis.

[@charlzwill495]

me too

[@sharondavis3535]

Me too

[@kckc1294]

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[@briethomas3648]

I'm glad you said that I want to leave my children a positive legacy!!!! And break the chains that kept me captive!!!! I'm ready to Free and do the Work!!!!!

[@angelacampbell6499]

biological father was married didnt have nothing to do with me, I wanted to travel and became a flight attendant loved seeing more of the world and i travel online i started forgiving just quit a job i felt enslaved too felt good and freeing

[@jenjenhenry]

It's impossible NOT to smile when she comes on 😁

[@alexzandrite5018]

Thank you Iyanla for freely sharing your spiritual wisdom!

[@Sharedpath777]

1. Read the book: Love Without Condition by Paul Ferrini. Get over it by Iyanla Vanzant. 2. Own your own belief system. Invite the Holy Spirit to come into any situation that you want to change, as the Holy Spirit responds to our simplest invitation. 3. Use 21 to 41 days to change patterns.

[@WLNS4Life]

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[@TonettaClay]

Thanks for putting this here!

[@debervin9121]

Thank you, I couldn't remember the name of the author she recommended.

[@happylindsay4475]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

“People will become afraid when you start changing who they THINK you are.” ~Iyanla Vanzant Whooooo! Do it to me one more time Miss Iyanla. I just stopped being the only one making the peace and keeping it. I just said no. All hell broke loose, I almost lost my mind, but guess what? Your girl is still HERE! Praise God, I’m still here, so I’m still blessed. 🙌🏽 💡🕊📖 #LuxEtVeritas #spiritualspa #iyanlavanzant #womenofwisdom #thankyoumama #Iforgiveyoumama #whathappenedtoyou

[@k.dstandard1836]

I am beauty personified !

[@jennycadot3635]

I watched it again and it was soooooo needed! Thank you sooooooo very much Iyanla! 🙏🏾

[@lalakiwa4209]

There needs to be a part two of this. Thank you soooooooo much♥️♥️♥️

[@nwanyibuifeobiako162]

I learned so much about the transference of generational patterns from this video. Thank you so much Iyanla!

[@Dianathedivine]

Iyanla!!!!! You hit the family nail on the head and I love you for it. Thank you thank Bless You... Bless me as I break these chains

[@ladyzeyez85]

“Hurt means you have an expectation that wasn’t met” such truth! Iyanla I love you! 💕 Always speaking to me.

[@43cassy]

I LOVE you Iyanla! Your gift is impeccable! Soo much healing will take place because of your presence on Earth! Thank you!❤️✨

[@oluwadare12]

Iyanla Vanzant there is no one like you!! Your humor and wisdom is exactly what I needed to hear the hard truths that I am faced with the responsibility to overcome. With the principles you layed out, and God's help I'm confident I have brighter days ahead. I'm smiling with my whole heart. God bless you immensely with all that you require for your journey ahead!😊

[@hasioseel4807]

A DEEP BOW TO YOU TO OUR BELOVED MRS. LYANLA VANZANT. WE LOVE YOU AND YOUR MESSAGES!!!

[@willierice1033]

Willie Mae ( Greenville SC) GOD I NEED THIS SO VERY MUCH. IM TIRED OF BEING SICK AND TIRED OF ME

[@stephanieagselgado5312]

You are ENLIGHTENED on another level! I am so honored to be able to hear your teachings. You give me SUCH motivation to realize I am ENOUGH and I can grow and heal from ANYTHING that no longer serves me. I AM LIGHT....I AM ENOUGH...THANK YOU IYANLA

[@jacklynjohnson9505]

Help with my talk toxic relationship you say he love you then he bring up old stuff old pastor no I bet he been in jail and Warner did warned on everything

[@micheleholley1070]

Madame Vanzant that was a powerful prayer, I had to listen it again to get those teachings.

[@boundsgarneff5157]

I can't get enough of these juicy videos! I'm sending you a big Hug. Thank you for helping us to elevate as a community. 💜🙏May the Lord keep blessing you at all times.

[@temz5605]

Ms. Iyanla is GOLDEN!! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@moneeauntie]

Queen your humor is the best awakening. Ty for being honest in your teaching and sharing the love. You are courageous. It's real and I love it..Girrrrrrlllllll.

[@graceallovermae]

Younger sister and I realized all of these things within our family and self and decided we WILL CHANGE!! in fact, we are the change for our future generations, we're like Angel's

[@mina9547]

Iyanla you are a blessing in this life with your authenticity and most of all because you speak the TRUTH that reach deeply our hearts and makes us say " Yes" that is exactly what my heart knows ! Let's put in practice those teachings!Thank you

[@Jacknjellyfries]

Thank you for speaking to my heart today. It was like I was there asking you the questions.

[@michelebcombs5016]

I too, am a result of an extra marital affair. I too, became a lover of married men. When I learned about generational curses, I prayed that this one be broken in the name of Jesus. My daughter told her friend that she has never seen me be with another man other than her father. I pray that it will not skip a generation but REALLY BROKEN IN FUTURE LINE.

[@successfranelle2580]

Thanks you very much Beloved Iyanla For this teaching 🙏

[@otaxsugar5]

I love you, your guidance, your videos are very healing. God Bless you 💖 from New Zealand 💖

[@_Rondapoo]

I know nothing but God sent me to this! wow ! Very eye opening, thank you for continuing to be a blessing !!

[@aliciamitre9977]

You have some fans here in Baja, Mexico, Te amamos Iyanla. Gracias por tanto!!

[@micheleholley1070]

Thank you so much Madame Vanzant, I see a lot of myself in the examples you expressed. Thank you so being so clear and precise.

[@Tech81272]

everyday i made it a point to watch your videos. even if i had to stop them and marinate in the thoughts. for the past year mym healing really accelerated. when i started watching your videos i was being bullied at work today i wake up grateful to be in a better position that allows me to be greater

[@michaelaponte6287]

Omg !!!!!!!!! This is so hard to hear, everything she is talking about hit home for me, I took three days to hear the whole thing..Thank You:) i started the process of working on myself a few years ago and this was the icing on the cake 🙏

[@keisharowland6176]

Ms. Iyanla LORD have mercy; you hit the nail on the head. I need to hear this. Did I set myself up to be the glue that holds my family together? Food for thought. I need to put a stop to this behavior. I need to put myself first and stop helping people that don’t appreciate my kindness. “ People will become afraid when you start changing who they think you are” Amen.

[@KA-yz2ld]

Wow an amazing soul, I love you... Thank you blessing us with your wisdom... May God continue to bless you🙏🏿

[@rwariahe]

My all time powerhouse. Receive my love from Kenya

[@sheilaslater6763]

This is truly life changing! The genius Iyanla so many ahas I love you!

[@FK-nr1qp]

Your profundity is amazing !!! Thanks Iyanla ! More than words can explain!!!!!!

[@SerayahB]

Just watching this in 2022 and it really hits home. Thank you so much for this.

[@myrahj1482]

Ms. Iyanla. You have blessed my life. I'm just beginning to do the work. Any work and its because I'm tuning in to your message. More than half of tonight's message was directly my experience and I'm also sad be of recently loosing my sister. So many times I just want to give up & quit it all. But tonight I'm gonna drink some tea, write some feelings and know that you blessed me with some work to do. Thank you❤🙏

[@pamelajackson4428]

I listened to this message 11/23/20@11:34a.It helped me look at my life different.8:30 am,I was having a Emotional Breakdown.This message brought me life.Thank you

[@dolliegaddis8041]

This is great. I shared it with my 3 daughters. I love that you call it generations patterns and not curses. It give a new mindset on this subject. Very enlightening!!! Thank you.

[@keenafromphilly]

People NEED to understand the spiritual inherited traits...come through auntie!

[@reikiwarrior8888]

thanks you so much, 12 step fellowships are also very useful and helpful x

[@kingdomkcchosen]

Thank you Ms.Iyanla, this message has confirmed so many patterns that I had to quit. You're are so on point about volunteering positions and guilty to quit them, but I praise God for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak to me when I didn't want to say "No". You're so amazing with your craft. 💕May God continue to use you to open the minds of stuck individuals. Amen🙏🏾

[@rsc-h8w]

Miss Iyanla- You give me so much comfort and inspiration. I am grateful for you 🙏🏼

[@ברכהה]

Very important topic. Thank you!

[@judythroupe6031]

Shalom this was powerful...nice to see other Israelites listening

[@debralynsimon3345]

Well this hit home for me today

[@Victoria-qk3mu]

Soooooo thankful I found this You are a treasure ❤

[@briannaspeezy4258]

Wow When I heard LOYAL to jobs we hate I screamed. FACTS

[@faithi5873]

Much Wisdom, Wise Woman! Respect!

[@aliciaraquel9260]

Very good and necessary! Always love to The Spiritual Mother

[@TheAuthenticEmpress]

I love you Goddess Iyanla 🧘🏽‍♀️🙏🏾🌕☀️🌊💗💫🌎🌳🌬️👑

[@lillianwilliams5510]

ILLINOIS, containing to watch. Sometimes, at different times.or days. This series of Spiritual Self Spa has truly been a blessing. We dont want to always tell, what we are going through, with family, friends, associates, because we dont want to be vulnerable. I have been following you for years. These recent series are helping many. Often you address an issue, that we can't publicly express. you help us, to deal with our personal issues and with others . We also have to realize, that we cant change people,we have to either change ourselves, or stay in the same place,which is not healthy. We,also have to learn to let go of people and things, that are holding us down. we cant carry everyone's baggage,and ours all at the same time. Our shoulders are not always broad enough, to hold everyone. Family sets the foundation for our stories. many of us have had to be the yoke for many and yet our own yoke is broken. I am a senior citizen, a baby boomer. My life has been basically blessed, but I have had my share of hurts, disappointments, grief, but more joy and happiness. I am,however, dealing with a family member is breaking my heart,because of the issue, she. has; yet she will not let family help her. so we pray that she is safe,that GOD,will deliver her from what we feel are demonic spirits. Parents are blamed for many issues, but it is not always Parents, but outside forces, that get control. even in the families, that have good foundations, family members do self destruction. These are family members, who are loved, but want to reject family,because non-family people prey on them. Yes,the member is vulnerable, and weak for many reasons, but the foundation is well established. Now,naturally, there is no family, that is exempt from issues. Everyone has to work together.

[@billiebillie678]

Thank you so much for your teachings, Mama Iyanla. May God continue to bless you.

[@reneemills1089]

Thank you for giving birth to my destiny to being a Spiritual Warrior!

[@authornikkib2025]

I wrote my first book entitled THEM DAMNED CHURCH FOLKS 2014 AND IT IS ALL ABOUT HOW I GREW UP IN THE CHURCH FOOLERY AROUND MY JUDGMENTAL FAMILY WHO WAS SO HEAVENLY BOUND THEY WERE NO EARTHLY GOOD. AS I WROTE THIS BOOK I REALIZED THAT I WAS JACKED UP. THEN I BEGIN TO REALLY LISTEN TO YOU AND PUT IN THE WORK IN ORDER TO BREAK THE PATTERNS!!! NOW EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT ME LIKE I AM CRAZY BUT OH NO I AM BREAKING THEM DAMNED CHURCH FOLKS PATTERS!!!

[@krystalestrella9098]

This revelation fed my heart and spirt thank you so so much 🙏. So very thankful for you .

[@music4living26]

So informative!!! OMG

[@noreneharris9456]

You are Beautiful, self awareness

[@lauracorral-flores3478]

Love the Queen you help me be better. From Colton California.

[@dyneshathomas]

I Break every unspiritual pattern inside of me! I call all of my Divine Esoteric Energy back to me!!!!

[@afrodivasalonandspa1]

Thank you Miss Iyanla. I love the information and the joy in your truth and delivery. You are such a rock star.

[@beverleyreid7572]

THIS IS MY SECOND TIME LISTENING. I WISH IYANLA WAS MY BEST FRIEND. I SWEAR TO GOD.

[@mishavaughn873]

I feel you! “Beverley Reid” Just having someone in your life with so much wisdom is so helpful! This women is powerful she is knowledgeable and I’m grateful that she is sharing this information!

[@mslady8895]

Walking into 2021 with a new mindset and found this. Thank you for blessing us

[@rozlewis9914]

Love these moments with Iyanla.

[@shaylaforever9048]

Great episode... I can relate to the promiscuity due to longing for love. 😩. Lately I've been feeling guilty about my sexual dysfunction. So now I'm trying my best to forgive and understand why I was so lost. I actually think it was bad self esteem.

[@abimbolaaka4064]

What an insightful eye opener, what a soul searching discovery! Thank Miss Iyanla!

[@MissGlitterBow]

I nodded, I pondered, I laughed...Ms Iyanla is so wise 🤍 I need to watch this a second time.

[@charlesharling6306]

I paused at 34:48. I needed about 5 minutes to recover from the blow of what Iyanla just said! 🤯

[@michelebcombs5016]

My daddy came around not for me but he provided for me. My mother tried to fix my every wrong, whether physical or mental. My mother never say anything bad about my daddy ever. I wished I could say the same but I am doing better in this area.

[@LeboLizMolaba]

This is a powerful teaching ❤️thank you Iyanla 🙏🏼 sending you Love all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@discoveringyourinnerlight]

Absolutely beautiful Ms Vanzant! You are heaven sent😇

[@reineessindi5349]

Amen my sister, preach please. alleuia. thank you so much

[@YouTubeGeek222]

oooh breakthrough is coming!!! thank you Iyanla!!!!!

[@sacredspacesllc5260]

I needed to hear this today. I am going to break all these unhealthy generational patterns.

[@purepositivedivinevibespur6214]

Spoke to the very core of my soul people will become afraid of you changing of who they think you are 1.) self-awareness look at yourself and realize why you do what you do and how you do it 2.) take ownership of your belief system what is it what were you talk to believe in what do you really believe take ownership of the dysfunctional pattern what is consciously or unconsciously take inventory of why you do what you do or what you do 3.) Travel more when you travel you start to change those family patterns because now you are opening yourself up to new things in New ways and habits 4.) Forgiveness forgiveness forgiveness the family pattern

[@erikastevenson7142]

My God!! thank You My Sista this was awesome 💘

[@msjones015]

I love you! You have no idea how much you blessed my life and I am grateful for you ❤️❤️❤️

[@zahranjie4516]

Waww thank you so much . Now I understand why I've never been in a relationship and am 27 years old never been in a relationship I am a fatherless daughter mom emotionally abused growing up nobody cares about me. But I've grown to love myself and take care of myself and tell myself I am beautiful and enough. I forgive them. they make me the young woman that I am today stronger than ever before

[@juanitaallen768]

Pray for me and my family

[@haveuever4388]

This is beautiful

[@shaintac6072]

Got ten more minutes that I'll have to finish tomorrow. Thanks Iyanla. I took notes

[@tomekamontegue5122]

Iyanla, Im watching this 2 days later. My issue is that I have an issue with injustice and unfairness! I find myself repulsed by people who do wrong things to other people just bc they can. Just bc people are not strong enough or have the wherewithal to fight for themselves. People who disrespect others just make me so sick and what I do after attempts to talk to them and show them how their actions made someone else feel. I stop talking to them and I have nothing else to do with them. Then I’m accused of unforgiveness. But it’s not that I don’t forgive, forgiveness is always there and I don’t even stay angry I just take myself away because to be around them makes me feel sick inside. I do understand behavior patterns and I know it’s a real thing and I know I’ve been affected by them myself. So I never really saw anyone in my family do this but my family says I’m cold or not emotional bc I just walk away. But, Iyanla I don’t just walk away after 1 isolated incident however, if you are not willing to do your work so that other people are not being so hurt and affected by you, I don’t see a reason for me to keep being in your company.

[@tomekamontegue5122]

I saw an episode of Iyanla fix my life. And Iyanla was working with these sisters and their parents. The father was so ridiculous, and unwilling to participate in the process in a sensible way. And Iyanla said; “ Sometimes you just have to leave people right where you found them”! Those words were music to my ears... I started shouting! Because when I recognize that a person is unreasonable, dishonest, and uncooperative I walk away! Not even after the 1,2,3,4,even sometimes 5th attempt. I have given people years but once it starts hurting me deep inside and giving me ulcers, IM DONE WITH YA!! Blessings to all!!

[@elainemcginnartist]

thank you Iyanla, trying to figure out my wild Irish family with our destructive patterns and addictions, you make so much sense and give so much support, a true wise woman. Love from Ireland.

[@khristiannawashington120]

This blessed my soul! Thank you for sharing your gift with us and helping me heal! Bless!

[@slog4548]

I've been drawn to you and now I see why. My mother committed suicide when I was 18 mo old. She was a beautiful 27 year old woman with a career as a saleswoman and 2 beautiful children. She was a college graduate who marched in the 60's for civil rights and women's' rights. I was sold a sex slave and tortured for many years as a little girl. I never had love except from my brother who was kind of in the same boat as me. I have been on a spiritual journey ever since and felt the same as you, like I really was destined to break the pattern. But living past 27 is not enough. No, no. I want to learn to give more love. I want to achieve all my dreams and fulfill Jesus' vision for me. I want to fulfill my duty to God. So thank you, Miss Iyanla. You are a blessing.

[@TheFlowerGardenZa]

❤️

[@nakagwabena2160]

My best coach...

[@oliviajordan9611]

Thank you Iyanla for this message.

[@BeingBrandy]

I appreciate you and all that you do 🌟💐

[@tamarahickman6301]

RISE AND SHINE IT IS ANCESTORS TIME...X GENERATIONS...#ADOS...GBF...

[@butterflyswisdom2830]

Break every chain....!