Things about Relationships I wish someone told me about

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And this tells me you read the description, which means you respect what I have to say! Thank you :D wishhya the best!

[@eatme982]

"I'm sorry I have to cut you off. I'm not responsible for your happiness." "You're literally my therapist I pay you 250 an hour"

[@chloeithsad]

i- lmfao that's great.

[@kiyoshi5430]

LMAOO O O O OO O

[@SuchitaBhattacharya]

LMFAO WAIT-

[@your_newsavior2436]

I WAS EXPECTING SOMETHING REALISTIC LOL

[@kookiejess]

They're still not responsible for your happiness, just saying

[@magicaleevee843]

A good phrase the internet taught me is: "You don't have to light yourself on fire, just to keep others warm." Man, that helped me a lot.

[@Faith-zt3pq]

Woah that's a good one. I've never heard it before

[@karla3153]

@@Faith-zt3pq i heard that one too

[@alina6623]

Thanks

[@angelchan6398]

Thx boiiii

[@weymorales]

this is accurated

[@nikkijones6070]

“you are NOT responsible for anyone’s happiness!!” this single line is actually helping me so much holy crap, thank you so much jaiden.

[@simonerose9040]

*Parents*

[@A_Kiwi_Donut_YT]

The only happiness you are responsible for are your own and your imagination

[@adithyanr7415]

But you are responsible for your own happiness

[@simionleva3856]

Except don't live by it TOO much or you'll become selfish

[@user-lr9ho8wc7n]

@@simionleva3856 There is a difference between not being responsible and not doing sh*t for anyone’s well-being I guess

[@greendemon905]

I used to have a friend with severe depression. At first, it wasn't so bad, but over the years, he grew worse and worse. He ignored any chance to improve himself, started acting more and more childish, and eventually blamed his situation on everyone and everything but himself. People started seeing me as greater than him, and it hurt me. I just wanted us both to be seen as equals. He didn't care. People told me to end our friendship, but I was afraid he might do something to himself if I did. I was afraid I might be the last thing keeping him on his feet. It took a long time for me to accept that I couldn't help him, and that I was not responsible for his well-being. So I let him go, and I grew happier. I don't know where he is now, or how he's feeling. I miss the fun things we used to do. But they weren't worth all the negative things that came with them. Any relationship, be it platonic or romantic, is about giving and receiving. Those two need to be in balance. If your give more than you receive, or the other way around, then the relationship is out of balance, and you need to change something.

[@tlee1098]

Receive* not need

[@samsterhamster948]

hey i totally get how you felt!! glad to see that you’re happier now

[@gayparakeet]

That is such a touching story. I dont think I would have to courage to do that. Props to you.❤

[@athena5714]

You know what they say, misery loves company

[@mrcleanthebaguette1422]

Being depressed is not your fault, but refusing to even try to improve you condition is 100% entirely your fault

[@urmomgay]

Jaiden: "No one wakes up and is like 'haha im gonna be super manipulative today!'" Politicians: *Watch me*

[@fusix92]

"Lying isnt a career" **laughs in politician**

[@Michael-mh2tw]

Hot and original take.

[@pkmntrainerred4247]

Also politicians: Uh wait don`t watch me its harmful for my career. Don`t watch me just listen to me & everything`s gonna be fine. TOTALLY not gonna manipulate you guys or turn the whole country into elected autocracy, I SWEAR. Just F@@king listen to me & not to those other a$$holes & if something starts making sense just shoot it in the face with a bazooka. And if you don`t listen & start teaching M how to do MY job, I`m gonna throw ya in jail bud, so good time enjoying picnic to prison land adventure park if you decide to buy yourself a ticket, the price for which is- your freedom LOL, so enjoy your time. Totally not gonna turn this into a elected autocracy.``

[@astek.lenartowicz]

Polish politics:well we manipulator evry dsy every hour every minut eevey secound (i and my friends call Polish politics little liaras)

[@collinashley2570]

What is Politicians

[@anson3383]

“Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on y-“ *_D E M O N E T I S E D_*

[@SenselessArcade]

King Anson I thought I was the only one who found that joke dirty...🤣🤣🤣

[@fischlvonluftschlossnarfid5048]

*69 likes*

[@AECcomputers]

@@medditor3863 Wha?

[@tojislefttoe7505]

I just realised this! Lmfao

[@tojislefttoe7505]

@@medditor3863 bruh, it's a joke

[@chocoboko123]

"You are NOT personally responsible for anyone's happiness!" Is one of the most important things I have ever heard in my life.

[@latexu9589]

That sounds like a legal excuse to be an antisocial jerk.😅

[@Thatkid367]

But a therapist helps I was gonna say something else don’t worry about it

[@wyvy7013]

"do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?" has carried me so far in knowing what relationships are harmful to me

[@animationcity8178]

Jaiden:”You dont have to solve other people’s problems” Me: *Looks at math* “Well, if you say so…”

[@ziyahdavis2571]

Wait wha

[@kingvoid8823]

holy shit your IQ

[@funnyvideoguy3216]

I mean, when are you gonna need it anyway (unless you aren't in high school yet)

[@animationcity8178]

@@funnyvideoguy3216 Or in Turkey.

[@DanielLovesArt]

@ii_nixliiYT agreed.

[@muffinman2143]

Jaiden really out here advocating for everyone to be their own Lorax

[@gamegod6859]

speak for your own trees

[@grumpyoldmanneedsanap8365]

Yessss!!!

[@abcjhill3063]

i am the Lorax i speak for the trees,if you polute eviction notice to thee

[@crack_soda]

I am the Clorox, and I speak for the Bleach.

[@lilyplayz_yt]

I am the lorax, I speak for the trees. Litter again, I'll break your knees.

[@beanieboo-M.K.Y]

The thing is, this isn’t just with friendships or partners, it’s family also sometimes. I know a lot of people that never thought about it. Personally I experienced a horrible relationship with my father until I inevitably cut him out of my life, and just wanted to put this out there for everyone

[@jessicatoussaint9140]

I can relate to this. I can't wait to cut mine out of my life too. Good on you

[@bashattack2414]

Same here with my grandma, I cut her off years ago, but have only recently realized how abusive she was towards me. This video has honestly saved my life in a weird way.

[@_Bear70]

Yup, easing him out of my life rn. It really is amazing what cutting out toxic people can do.

[@Lalalalandrawr]

Jaiden's channel gives me a breath of fresh air, a cousin I don't see often but always have a blast when they're around

[@JKH133]

“When you do the kisses with someone” Cutest phrase ever

[@eebertdeebert]

JKH133 Yep.

[@bigboyobi-wan]

haha yA

[@fluffernal]

SHIP

[@miciah3351]

Ship you and yo doggie

[@toatlord247extreme5]

Wow

[@aarushirawal7231]

Jaiden: talks about relationships James: talks about his dead moth

[@csuporlucifer7744]

And yet, which one of them is more successful? They're both awesome tho.

[@thegistofthelists]

JustAHamsterOwner Oof he said *more*

[@csuporlucifer7744]

@@nuggetthehamster7072 they can't both be *more* successful.

[@yfi6841]

@@nuggetthehamster7072 i agree with you my friend.

[@csuporlucifer7744]

@@nuggetthehamster7072 also agree

[@soapysucks921]

I just got out of a toxic relationship 2 weeks ago and I've started to think it would've been better if I stayed or dealt with it. I came back to Jaiden's channel and saw this and this video really helped me a lot to see the red flags and the reasons why I left. I just wanted to say thank you for making this, because realizing manipulation or leaving unhealthy relationships is something really important to keep in mind. Thank you :)

[@KasaiRayquaza]

Okay, so I think I'm finally ready to share this. I learned of this video roughly 2 years ago. At the time, I'd already been through a slew of slightly toxic friendships, so I resonated with this video. But, by that point I had a group of great friends who I really trusted. About a year ago, one of those "great friends" asked me out and I said yes. It wasn't exactly how I imagined my first relationship going, but I thought it was going swimmingly well. At least that's what he told me. Because any time I expressed doubts or anxieties about something, he told me that's just how it was supposed to be. And I'd been friends with him for like three years, so obviously he was "very trustworthy". After about three months, I was ready to not be getting him anymore and (after a semi-traumatic experience right after we broke up involving unwilling first kisses and a child-locked door) ready to not know him any more. Because of what he had told me, I felt like it was my fault. Like I had pushed him to whatever. But about a week after I got out I remembered (if a little too late) this video. The number of "toxic traits" listed here that he had were ASTOUNDING: - *_Emotional Blackmail:_* He knew this was my first relationship, and told me that dating someone "super-duper casually" had WAY more emotional responsibilities than most married-couple relationships have, and I basically became his unpaid therapist. He also totally trauma-dumped on basically the first date and kept using that to guilt me into stuff. "I know you'll be the one to not leave" and stuff like that. - *_Shifting Blame:_* He kept blaming me that in those three months we really only ever went on 2 dates. However, I only was the cause of this once, and that was because that weekend I had strep throat AND Hurricane Ian hit. All the other times the dates got postponed he was hanging out with friends or he had a stomach bug (which he also blamed me for... For some reason...). - *_Gaslighting:_* Was used to supplement the shifting blame. - *_Guilt-Tripping:_* Was used to supplement the emotional blackmail. - *_Support system:_* He very much tried (and somewhat succeeded) at cutting me off from my support systems. He kept accusing me of hanging out with my friends more than I hung out with him, even though I hardly went out, and he hung out with his friends all the freaking time. He also told me that in a relationship you don't just go to your parents for everything, that's when you start being able to handle things on your own. And, once all was said and done, he went to our manager and said he didn't feel safe because I told my best friend (who worked with us and is incredibly in tune with people's emotions) a watered-down version of what had happened, and got me in serious trouble and placed under what was basically a "keep-quiet" mandate. Meanwhile I was having mini panic attacks anytime he came too close. (And yes, I knew going into it that dating a coworker was like farting in an elevator, but I figured a one time exception with "one of the sweetest people I knew" would've been fine. Nope.) - *_Justifying/Explaining Actions:_* I'm not even gonna list how many times I did this, either to myself or to others. - *_Disliked by the Trustworthy:_* My best friend mentioned on several occasions that he got a bad vibe from this guy. I just figured he thought he was annoying. - *_Feel Like Leaving Is Dangerous:_* See emotional blackmail. - *_"Do you put off seeing or responding to them?":_* Yeah. Many times he'd text me asking me to play unpaid therapist for him again, and I'd just pretend like I didn't have my phone for a bit. - *_"Have they threatened you or themselves in any way?"_* Yup. There were a lot of veiled threats directed at both of us. He acted super religious and he basically implied that a girl who breaks off a relationship was a "harlot" and would never be forgiven, and he also implied that breaking things off might be dangerous for him. - *_"Do they make you feel like you can't do things on your own or you can't make a single decision without them?"_* Yup. See support system and shifting blame. Also, he kept talking about how I didn't know what was best, so I should give up on my dream and a day-job that I loved so that when he was a famous movie star I'd be able to pull him away from all of the ladies who'd be throwing themselves at him because he's "so hot and so famous". - *_"Do they ask for a lot of favors or money and don't pay them back?"_* I didn't experience this first-hand, but I remember him telling me about an argument he and his friend had about how they'd always go to movies, the friend would pay for the tickets, and he never paid her back. - *_"Do they talk badly behind your back?"_* His best friend (who was toxic in his own right) dated one of our other coworkers. We got to talking one day, and she said that her ex (the best friend) would talk crap about everyone in our workplace. I was apparently the only one he didn't have any comments on, until things ended, and she implied that very nasty things were said. I didn't know the friend that well, so I can only imagine where he heard those things from... - *_" Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?"_* Absolutely. That was the three most emotionally draining months in my life. - *_"Do they put you down?"_* Yeah. Between how I "couldn't get the whole dating thing right," I "didn't spend enough time with him," etc. I pretty much felt like total crap by the end of everything. Plus... -When we were together he hit on the coworker who was dating his best friend while I was just a few cubicles away. -He kept going to events "as a friend" with this girl who I knew had a crush on him and would always come up with a lame excuse as to why I couldn't go. -Even though I told him before the first date that I was asexual and he said it was fine, he later told me he just said that in the hopes that he might get me to change my mind. -I brought cookies into work one day, he said that I'd "have a good place in the kitchen" and that was when he started showing interest in me. (Found this out after all was said and done.) -Oh yeah and I brought those cookies in when I was only 16 or 17. He was 5 years older than me, making him 21 or 22. That is illegal and (considering he's the outlier in guys I've liked) likely grooming. But thank you, Jaiden, for helping me realize that it wasn't me. I really need that. (He leaves tomorrow, and hopefully I will no longer be [as] cursed.)

[@localsoul9760]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I may not have gone through any toxic relationships (as far as I'm aware), but after reading your story and many others in this comment section, I REALLY feel bad for people like you and those people, while they CAN get better, often don't. They are super harmful and I really get pissed off at them when I read these types of stories. However, I do get that people like them can get better.

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

Wow, your ex sounds like a really gross dude. I’m glad you’re free of him now.

[@licarsmeth6890]

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. One point has me genuinely curious- you being asexual means you wouldn't wanna date anyone? Or have a romantic relationship? Or is it just you want to have a platonic relationship and not a sexual one? If so, why chamge from friend to boyfriend?

[@KasaiRayquaza]

@@licarsmeth6890 I'm romantic I just don't want to... Canoodle.

[@vignotum132]

Holy fuck dude. Best of luck in the future

[@hwaddeong]

Jaiden: Someone shouldn't ever need you. They should want you. Romantic Movies: Wha'd you say?

[@shaina4891]

Ifkr! The idea of love they project is really toxic if you ask me (I know you didn't but still) It's just that the whole "I'll die without you" facade is really shitty.

[@TheWorldPillow]

@@shaina4891 Strong agree.

[@RAINY7701]

100% AGREED. You should NOT need anyone to survive, unless there is a valid reason to require help from another individual. (I.e caretakers). YOU SHOULD NOT USE OTHERS AS A TOOL FOR YOUR SURVIVAL. This idea is toxic asf and annoying to hear about for the millionth time. (Sorry this kinda became a rant)

[@FlakeTillman]

You should see what Hollywood producers do behind the scenes... (Seriously. Those movies are made by sick people.)

[@lucienanimations4041]

Dum you are so rude to her i don't know why people hate her she is awesome👍🙄

[@barnabyjjones2348]

“I’m pathetic just leave me” “Ok” *leaves* “Uhm”

[@chandawellgapot8399]

*me being literal*

[@yellowdandelions7760]

*Thats what I call a pro gamer move*

[@marilynsmalley8807]

Poké Dudes meeeeee bro

[@barnabyjjones2348]

Wow this is my best comment since one I made on a Betty boop video

[@theambergryphon4266]

I hate people who keep repeating that shit.

[@JokingSteak]

As someone who is battling depression and anxiety, I wonder how I come off to others. I just got back in touch with some old high school friends, they don't know what I'm going through because I haven't told them, but I catch myself oversharing certain things and being overally emotional. Honestly, reconnecting with them has helped me take my first steps to take charge of my life by going back to school, but I have to learn not to text them so much when I'm feeling down. I feel like it's kind of selfish, but I just get so damn lonely sometimes. I just hope I'm not being an emotional vampire.

[@ava8068]

jaiden ik u will probably not see this but i really wanted to say thank you for this video. the "you are not responsible for anyone's happiness" changed my life completely. it got me out of a friendship where i was being SA and it got me to cut people off when they put everything on me. also the ecosystem analogy. i always tell my friends that line if their in a similar situation and it had helped them so much. 3 years later, thank you jaiden❤

[@SpiderKidAnimations]

Jaiden: We have to interact with people Pandemic: Allow me to introduce myself

[@hunnydayzzxxx6610]

THE HUGGING AAEÆÆÆŔĚƏƏ

[@TheKiwiCache]

Celestial Dragons the fuck are you saying my guy

[@dood9191]

Hmmm, I like the stealing joke.....

[@NaxDucky]

Me, an extrovert with discord and zoom: are you challenging me?

[@villainshototheythem2178]

SpiderKidAnimations Anti-socials with anxiety such as I. “We are going to be great friends 😌”

[@connorl0204]

“Dont let people force their junk on you” -jaiden, preventing sexual assaults 10 minutes at a time.

[@aceofheartzxaver1366]

Even if it was a accidental convenient sentence

[@kingstonsilva1417]

Hey great anology😃😃😃

[@TheActualMrLink]

@@kingstonsilva1417 dontyoumeanANALogy

[@eiko1]

@@TheActualMrLink _w h y_

[@CozyAlaedu]

@@TheActualMrLink WHY

[@purityang3l]

i came back to this video after i got broken up with and i realized that both of us were being terrible to each other . its really hard to see bad behavior in yourself but coming back and seeing it explained from an outside perspective is really enlightening . i always forget how helpful this video is until i come back to it

[@reesesduckk]

rewatching this after having gotten out of a toxic relationship is so eye-opening. I was being manipulated and bullied for so long, and I didnt even realize it I would blame myself constantly, because I always felt like it was my fault. but, finally ending things off was the best decision, it did sting, but I wasnt myself anymore and I had lost so many friends in the process. being in a toxic relationship is extremely difficult, especially when you feel like there's no one to turn to and you feel trapped. but, just remember youre your own person, no one should ever control your life and the things that you do

[@shimmienshake]

“you are NOT responsible for anybody’s happiness” Me: But they’re my children

[@genericdude9082]

Bruh

[@KlavierMenn]

Well... that's the only case, it's your responsability, I guess? But there's a fine line in being responsible and being a helicopter.

[@KlavierMenn]

@@suravinayan2753 When the child is yours? sure.

[@belltempest3708]

Ok gray area

[@darthestar8791]

Ok. That's a gray area. While you're responsible for making sure they grow up to be a happy, responsible, loving individual. You're not always responsible for their happiness(In other words. Don't make decisions that are already going to make them happy unless it's related to their needs(unless it's them being picky about things like food))

[@WulfieZi]

My therapist: exists Jaiden: I'm about to end this whole man's career.

[@joselint7158]

Omg literally what I was just thinking about it 😂

[@Maukiki]

*lets act that is not there

[@chopperbrosadvance9760]

Wtf

[@le5052]

PLEASE get actual help if you need it, don’t use a KZbin as a substitute.( still love jaiden!) not trying to ruin the joke, but jokes aside, PLEASE get help if you need it.

[@goobing]

Jaiden, the ultimate therapist

[@Hatstockings]

“You’re NOT responsible for other people happiness!” You do not know how much this helped me Jaiden with a certain relationship so thank you so much!

[@joyflameball]

I have sent this video to two of my friends when they were in toxic relationships, and used the eight points you listed out around eight minutes and thirty seconds in to help them figure things out. Thank you SO much.

[@Sizzox]

”When you look at somebody through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just looks like flags” - Wanda Pierce

[@Lol-zw8ks]

Damn that’s a good fucking quote holy shit

[@warrena5515]

Bojack moment

[@certifiedtoaster2425]

I used to be in a really famous teee vee show...

[@livlovd6380]

So like if you look at someone you “love” the red flags arent as visible?

[@warrena5515]

@@livlovd6380 no shit

[@stemginger5880]

"Drugs are bad...are my other friends going to do it???" Friends: slams heads into coke

[@cupcakeletsplay9475]

That was funny I don't know why😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@AnAppleSlice]

*SNIFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF*

[@murdurerjack7463]

Yes, the rest of us also saw that.

[@philswift2435]

CANS COKE INGOB-)HEADS SMACkWould FRIENDS MY

[@tiffanymills7479]

I could not stop laughing

[@iamhiddentalent]

I used to have a friend that had a lot of issues, and they actually sent this video as a way of guilt tripping me, saying “I’m sorry for being a bad friend…” and I told them they were fine. It’s disappointing I didn’t see the signs before. Rewatching this video, I can reflect on how accurate the toxicity was to my friendship.

[@i_gacha_panda_2714]

Every once in a while I'll come back to this video, I've had a couple toxic relationships, one was more recent and we were friends for a long time with no problems and randomly they became sour. I doubt myself a lot on if I am actually " in the right" but this video always helps me realize and remember that I did all I could before it went bad and that I didn't do anything to cause it to happen. Thank you ❤️

[@Kirbzi]

I've recently had to ask my best friend of a few years to give me some space and leave me alone for a few days, I felt horrible for doing this but he has slowly become much more toxic over the past few weeks and it is starting to negatively impact me. I know I will thank myself for this in a few weeks time. Like this video says, we are not responsible for other peoples happiness. Hopefully you are in a better place now and have found some new people to bring some positivity into your life!

[@aromanticfranziskavonkarma]

"NOT responsible for anyone's happiness!" "But.. I'm Santa Claus..?" "..." "Alright, grey area."

[@8-bitgiraffe917]

thomas jefferson

[@8-bitgiraffe917]

@g@m3 i said that because of the op's profile picture. it's daveed diggs playing thomas jefferson in the hamilton musical

[@moonie9750]

Lmao

[@pansyflower9697]

What about Cupid?

[@mayar404_]

It's at 4:49 btw

[@shaynatang8888]

Jaiden: Not responsible for anyone's happiness. Person: But I'm a therapist.

[@marco_panda4606]

Therapy gives people the tools to help them fix themselves

[@lightning2738]

Okay gray area there.

[@crazybot1123]

Alright, grey area.

[@backwardsdescription4971]

Or a mother

[@linguine_noodle]

I’d just like to say that therapists have the job of helping people and/or giving them the professional social/emotional help they need. Therapists are responsible for helping people to change into being the better version of themselves’ in order to make their life more enjoyable, but, therapists do not control the people they see. If their visitors refuse the advice they are given and decide to be so incompetent that they block out any useful information towards a better path to the future, the therapist is not responsible. (Y’all probably know this, I just wanted to comment it)

[@attackingtew2053]

This is such a heartfelt and deep video. It feels like psych2go

[@GeekyGrant]

I remember watching this years ago when it first dropped, it was great back then, but I didn't realise how much I needed this now... Just had to go NC with someone and this helped bring context to things and validated my actions... Thank you Jaiden

[@Boyandarrow]

-You deserve clean air. *China* : stop right there

[@michellesouthward6606]

sea turtles : I have air but I CANT BREATHE

[@augusteklimantaviciute9445]

FOSSIL FUELS, POLLUTION, DEATHHHHHH.. sorry I've been in school for too long..

[@omoghosty5777]

China: We are selling _canned air_

[@nahiyan4564]

Air: MaDe In ChInA

[@geoss2346]

@@omoghosty5777 i became zillionaire

[@shanonymous2010]

“Don’t tolerate any pollution, you are the one who has to live in it, and you deserve clean air.” -Jaiden Animations What a great quote honestly. (Fixed my comment)

[@shinyzane2660]

first reply of 337 likes lol

[@shanonymous2010]

@@shinyzane2660 what lol

[@shinyzane2660]

@@shanonymous2010 i was the first reply to your comment

[@aydenday5805]

That freaking hit different oh my gosh

[@daithioloinsigh]

Ye

[@madilynsmith7635]

"Are my other friends gonna do it?" BAM

[@agrafenabaharava3852]

I’ve been in a toxic relationship for six months and these were the most tiring months of my life, him wanting to kill himself and having draining mental health and it was slowly draining my mental health too and until he got sued for child pornography i didn’t let go of him… I wish I had broken up sooner. I had to carry so much responsibility for him and also carrying for my own it was too much stress… at least I remembered this video and it helped me a lot to see what happened and what could’ve gone wrong and how it could’ve drained me. THANK YOU SO MUCH JAIDEN! You’re such a wonderful creator and you deserve even more recognition and it helps all of us a lot in life. once again… THANK YOU

[@yukabazooka3663]

"Are my other friends gonna do it?" *smacks face into the pile of coke*

[@soulextracter]

Yeah I know right! My gf is sleeping behind me, and I'm trying to be quiet, then all of a sudden "PAFF" and I break out laughing like a donkey!

[@kaylascott3339]

😂😂

[@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee]

XD tru

[@ProfessionalNoob123xyd]

The horrible story of a man that was forced to connect his youtube account to google+ k

[@alejandroperales1316]

ThatGirlInTheComments 500th like baby

[@teagannam]

*”It’s not selfish to want the best for yourself”* I really really need to learn that. Tysm Jaiden (and Katie!)

[@todorokishoto2176]

For me it is

[@teagannam]

Todoroki Shoto fALSEHOOD this applies to literally everybody. It’s completely natural and healthy to want the best for yourself and if someone calls you selfish for caring abt yourself, cut them out!! It’s not that you shouldn’t care abt yourself, it’s that they don’t care abt YOU.

[@taylorcampbell2653]

I agree

[@meganparker550]

i liked this now it has 666 likes. I will unlike it to keep it holy but know i like this comment uwu

[@doris4469]

It is selfish, but who said selfishness is evil?

[@leona5167]

thank you for this, it's so hard to manage yourself around relationships. this video really helped me a lot in realizing and taking action even though it hurts but I guess things just need to change

[@westerholt1071]

I'm really glad I stumbled along to watch this video. Thank you. I've been struggling with a situation and at least for a little bit it brought some calm to that storm :)

[@isabellas1600]

Moral of the story: *don’t be friends with anyone unless they are fertilizer*

[@sofi_sticado111]

Quote of the year

[@maythegamer1291]

What if they’re animals living in the plants?

[@jadinrobinson603]

I subed to you because that cat is cute

[@gamingcookiereal]

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@Bennie_Tziek]

Or if they are Santa

[@tylers9006]

When someone drinks straight out of the milk carton RED FLAG

[@belleyelena7720]

Just drinking plain milk is a red flag :/

[@crystalbubbleaj7581]

TJ Shavis oh darn they caught us

[@fangirlgames6963]

🚩

[@bella9590]

BOTH OF YALL ARE WRONG

[@claritycw6424]

Yes thank u

[@melshiemoo412]

ironically I watched this video when I was in a toxic 5 year relationship, and i remember thinking nothing was wrong at the time and applied the video to other people in my life in my head. But revisiting the video really makes the parts of us that didn't work out become glaringly obvious, goes to show that hindsight is 20/20. I know the things i messed up in the relationship, and am more aware of the things my partner did behind my back now that we are done. i love your videos jaiden, keep it up!

[@ShelbyLikesStuff]

“And some people have knives and no emotional reaction to murder” that is shockingly accurate

[@SSaucers]

Jaiden: *Swears in a video* KZbin: RED FLAG

[@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255]

Dang right

[@nethascotx24]

Well it's not technically a swear as she didn't say the last letter

[@peachy1954]

@@nethascotx24 yeah but this is KZbin. stop doing drugs your high sis

[@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255]

@@nethascotx24 yeah she definitely did say the last letter on

[@girlyvideos2809]

Dean lol

[@applepie2147]

Anyone else super afraid that they're being manipulative towards others without noticing?

[@anaveragehooman2364]

Me

[@gmkdraws2477]

I’m not cuz I don’t have any relationships :3

[@maryanderham9967]

Yep. Now I’m scared everyone thinks I’m a jerk and I have no clue

[@aod.1]

your profile picture reminds me of 2012 and I love it so much

[@nolifenerd2750]

Me

[@katon4444]

You know, i watch this video at least twice a year. This is by far one of the best video on youtube you could watch to slowly heal and get back self-confidence. This video is extraordinary pure and full of kindness as much as good for putting limits where they need to. Jaiden, you can't imagine how much this video has helped me so I want to say: Thank you

[@BrynnWit]

I saved this video and reflect back onto it when ever things feel fishy for me or a friend who is telling me about a crappy person. I normally watch through and if a friend needs it send it to them. It’s always nice to have a refresher

[@henry5783]

"don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -jaiden 2019

[@moxximain]

DIRTY MIND TEST!!!

[@hellryderplayz1854]

doing that is something called rape i suppose

[@sunclove3554]

I S T H A T A N A N T I R A P E J O K E ? SJWs 2019: BURN IT WITH FIRE!

[@velconx15]

Wait what?

[@velconx15]

How is it dirty mindex?

[@charlieli4199]

Jaiden: THAT"S TOXIC AS SHIIIIIIII KZbin: RED FLAG

[@thatguy5720]

Lol

[@Rapidihnov2]

No it’s Jaiden: THATS TOXIC A SHIIIIII KZbin: YELLOW SIGN

[@galaxyadalyn1324]

Lol😂

[@guxkkusamamama]

XD IM DEAD XDXDDXDXDXD

[@trashwolf9563]

Ah! She didn’t say the whole word!

[@TheStopmotion2]

Everyone’s talking about the other people’s happiness line but I absolutely adore and cannot stop thinking about the Santa Claus grey area line

[@strawbs_03T]

Thank you, jaiden. I've been going through some tough friendship changes. 0:46 -1:21 hit home for me rewatching this video. This has helped me understand my situation more clearly & about myself as well :)

[@laumishhhh]

Now that I'm out of a toxic relationship, this video hits different.

[@MalakSmalak]

I had a super toxic friend. We used to always fall out and he would always find i way to lay the blame on me, making me feel like it was my fault we were in this shithole of a situation to begin with. What i didn't know, is that we fell out because he didn't agree with what i did. He didn't like what i did so that made it a problem. This is a brief rundown of what happened. Me: 'Hey i'm going to go hang out with (insert random friend name here) today!' Him: 'So you're just going to leave me alone? What the hell is wrong with you. I thought we were close friends. You always treat me like shit!' You see where i'm coming from?

[@velmadinkly1093]

@@MalakSmalak ah yeah. I had a friend like that. She was awful but I then I moved so it was fine I guess

[@MalakSmalak]

@@velmadinkly1093 oof sorry to hear that :(

[@felinefrost7023]

I’m proud of all of you in the comments who got out of that It takes a lot of strength so good job

[@MalakSmalak]

@@felinefrost7023 well it most certainly takes a lot of strength to say you are proud of someone! Thank you :)

[@EliMunoz2003]

I saw something once that said: “When you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, the red flags just look like normal flags.”

[@clastophobic]

quote from Bojack Horseman

[@endergirldragon]

Hahahahha *My glasses are pink*

[@chaos7076]

Wha

[@spreademu1218]

Every 60 seconds a minuet passes in Africa.

[@lex1212]

how does that mean anything /im14andthisisdeep

[@monroefoster4606]

I like the pile example because it symbolizes that it's perfectly fine to help them out a bit with what you can without neglecting your own mental health but it's important to set boundaries about how much you can handle helping with

[@deadchaos912]

I just broke off a 10 year friendship because me and the friend had grown apart and they lashed out at me and started blaming me for situations I can’t control. Breaking my friendship off with them will most likely cause most of my friendships to disappear which I’m terrified of, but this video made me feel more confident about my choice. It reminded me why I broke it off

[@TheEternalBlackHole]

Jaiden: No one wakes up and says "Ha, ha I'm going to be really manipulative today." Greg Heffley: Hold my soda.

[@ashlynnmalone6109]

I fucking snorted, how dare you (translation from gayngry: thanks I needed this)

[@Gabi-ej5rb]

I’ve committed nose exhale

[@slimjim658]

* exhales * yep

[@mo7a1xy60]

Ray Diaz too

[@ohmyohnothegrapesarecoming2011]

ahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahaahahahahahaha

[@sheevpalpatine8889]

"No one wakes up and is like "haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today!" " You're right. You can all trust me.

[@Destinyawe]

I will do whatever you ask. I pledge myself to your teachings.

[@krysticblue1336]

*heavy breathing* HUAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[@olisbricks2468]

Why does she look like toga from mha

[@Sammy_Wammy_]

@@olisbricks2468 she does

[@shantanuurgunde2013]

did anyone notice toga?

[@horror_game999]

This video helped me so much on relationships. I watched it ages ago and liked it despite being young and not understanding it a lot, I really liked it and watched it every year since. it's really helped me and given me a good understanding on relationships, whether it be friends or partners

[@iam1coolkid]

i come and watch this video quite often, it helps me a lot and helps me remember to value my own happiness when it comes to relationships, so thanks!

[@averys370]

As Garnet once said: *“Your soulmate Is your complement not your missing piece”*

[@hyperkitten2247]

sup fellow fan

[@r3trobananas33]

Imagine when they turn to the gem, they just remake into a jewelry store

[@Isaacindelicato123]

Complement*

[@johnmurcott1273]

I'm a therapist

[@johnmurcott1273]

Do therapists have to help people

[@JustaLamborghiniCountachWhoCom]

"Responsibilities aren't just assigned to you." Schools: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.

[@justsomeguy144]

The guidance counselor: No No... He's got a point.

[@SOMEONE-pr8qp]

Expooooosssssseeeeddddd

[@trevorbean1534]

Employers: Nothing to see here...

[@patriciafarrelly1068]

Parents: yea... just schools..

[@brodysawa5563]

666th like

[@aidennevada243]

Thank you for this video! It helped me to notice that I need some distance in one relationship (non romantic, more familial). Just because they want me, I don't need to be close to them.

[@Andytheratking]

You have no idea how much this helped me Thank you

[@zing1624]

“*Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on you*” You’re right! **Tell them to start recycling!!**

[@07burchan]

Ye save the Earth

[@tobikeepstalking9071]

Make bad thoughts happy : D

[@vekopt]

Hehe

[@datgamerian]

it's funny because it has a rape connotation haha

[@thatoneguy9983]

Owo

[@ozymandias3846]

My health teacher played this in class, best teacher ever

[@johannamorales3478]

:0

[@verzionhorizon]

i want that teacher.

[@insectcat7057]

I wish mine did, we had this exact same talk but longer and more confusing so playing this video would have saved multiple weeks worth of thought and agony.

[@lamp888]

Yasss

[@verzionhorizon]

wait your a lamp? well you better be careful of moth then-

[@graceb_irl]

this video is so important to me, it's helped me so much and really changed the way i view things. no joke i send this video to my teachers if they ever even MENTION something along these lines (and they always love it)

[@CherryXXCola]

Two years ago I watched this video and it made me realise i was a part of a REALLY toxic friendship. It was one of those “but she’s really depressed and su1c1d@l i don’t want anything to happen to her!” Friendships where I end up being forced to carry the burdens of my friend to the point that they aren’t getting any better, but I’m getting worse. It pulled me into a really dark place but this video smacked some sense into me and I ended the friendship. Now I can say I’m really truly happy.

[@zuricchu]

"You're not responsible for someone else's happiness." This is a truth that's really hard to learn but very important to accept.

[@somethingunusual8456]

I'd love to print it and put in my forehead, so that MAYBE that one specific person would finally get it.

[@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147]

@singularling It's harder when you lived a life where making others happy is practically survival and just an instinct. Edit: grammar mistake.

[@sridaran2666]

"but i'm santa clause"

[@peachesandcream333]

I cant stop myself from doing this yet lol. I need to go to a rage room XD

[@peachesandcream333]

@@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147 omg so right, I didn't know how to put it into words lol

[@Jireninyourrecommendations]

When someone's gonna swear in your Christian Minecraft server *_RED FLAG_*

[@emilyr6510]

*police sirens*

[@emilyr6510]

DO NOT SAY POTTY WORDS LIKE POOP OR FRICK ON MY CHRISTIAN MINECRAFT SERVER * Nuclear explosion *

[@justposeidon3810]

I'm Gonna Curse And No One Can Stop Me! *Inhales* H E C C

[@haydens2361]

Scott! Yass

[@LiarLiarPlantsforHire]

Dead meme

[@raccoonjuice]

bro i needed this video for the last 6 months my girlfriend has been manipulating me exactly like this it got to the point that is was difficult to think about anything else and it took until a week ago to really realize that it could not be healthy i was bassically doing anything and everything to make her happy at the expense of my own mental health, it sounds litterally exactly like this video its scary im just so happy im out of it and my real friends are amazing for helping me notice it and break away

[@marimba_jenga]

tysm for this, i was going through a hard time and you helped me detatch from them. now that i confronted him he is acting as the victim. even though he hurt me so much and technecally cheated on me he did way more and hes acting like i did way more. im still recovering and i js wanna say ty, i hope this video helps others ❤

[@dogwithheadphones]

I love how Jaiden’s channel is a mix of stupid funny life stories and just really deep topics like how to deal with emotions

[@makinbaconbitz689]

“You should care about yourself more!” Vs “I ATE SO MANY GREEN BREANS I-“

[@sara_4900]

Yes the perfect balance 🌟

[@xxvioletcookiexx1668]

The girl who said"im gonna be super muniplitive today"looked like one of the villians for my hero accedmi anyone else notice that?

[@sara_4900]

@@xxvioletcookiexx1668 She looked like toga to me at least

[@no_cubed]

It’s also filled with beautiful animation ✨

[@5m0kyCat]

The thing I'm calling ''The Island Mindset'' has helped me! Basically, I ask my self ''Is this person helping my island/ecosystem?'' and if they aren't... 6:40

[@RoxieBunnyHeart]

I've used this video to help other friends for many years, and now this year I'm using it to help myself. I even have the hard pill section clipped for repeated mantras and for slapping at friends who are struggling with this kind of thing. Codependency can sneak up on you no matter how healthy or well meaning you are. Thanks for this wonderful bite-sized video of self affirmation. It'll be a while before I feel better, but I can rest easy knowing that eventually I will. ♥

[@lokithekitten8668]

"Don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -Jaiden 2019

[@vico1054]

Loki the kitten ikr

[@criticalgamerx172]

9/10 Kids don't understand this joke

[@pineapple3555]

Ew lmaooooo

[@pineapple3555]

I didn’t even realize that... I’m never gonna unhear that xD

[@justsomeguy144]

Her chuckle after saying that though.

[@theowinters6314]

"When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"

[@CadeAlex]

I'm 13 and this is deep

[@pamelakrejci1840]

I mean- its true-

[@airplane6417]

Damn. Just damn.

[@tessaholman5511]

Wow......that’s poetic

[@polarbot8982]

Isn't that the horse from horsin' around?

[@haliax1675]

4 years later and I found this video. An old friend and me were friends since Reception. Lately he has become a bit more manipulative and wierd and I don't know why but then this video popped up on my For You. I watched it to see what it was about and it helped really well. I supported him on what he needed to improve on and helped him go see therapy. Even though we aren't in touch anymore I'm glad I helped him through this video. Thank you Jaiden

[@philippak7726]

Man, I wish I'd seen this video when it came out. I finally tossed a friend out of my life in 2020 because it was a "yes" to about 60% of those questions at the end. I wasn't dating them (though they wanted to date me, and every time I reminded them I was VERY AroAce, they were like "it's ok, you'll get over it"). They were a constant source of negativity that drained my soul, and when I finally went to get out, they basically accused me of choosing another friend over them. I am SO much happier now that I don't have to deal with them every few weeks. I don't care that their mother is emotionally abusing them. I tried to let them know to talk to their therapist about it, but she was paying for that therapist and his single bedroom apartment, so he didn't want to admit it. Examples of weird, controlling behaviour: Not allowed to look away from them when they're talking, even if it's because something moved and you're human. Being upset that I stopped asking how they were, which happened because every single time I'd get basically "oh my life is terrible and nothing can change it" Complaining that the women on tinder "weren't hot enough" but shooting down any ideas for where else they might find a date Thought he was "owed" a text by a woman who gave him her number. Refused and got angry at the suggestion she may have given him her number to get away from him - he cornered her after a boxing class, and was very tall. Yelled that he "wasn't intimidating" at the very suggestion.

[@hazaralchaar4292]

I love how Toga wakes up and is like: haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today

[@newalbacore8352]

yeppp, time to go manipulate uraraka and deku hehe

[@Someone-vk6pl]

Me: sees this Me: ARI!!!!!!!!!!!! LIKE ARI!!!

[@_Lynx_kitty_]

Haha yeah

[@vibinqx]

I watched this so many times already and now I have only realized that’s toga 👁👄👁

[@sfoliver]

Lmao I didn't think anyone else knew who that was

[@blaire_bones3872]

Jaiden: Practice positive self-talk *I aM a GoD-* Jaiden: alright not that positive

[@jubernavarrete3807]

The Oblivion_76 notice the mirror after that part

[@littleflowersbloom]

This video taught me to stand up for myself and put myself first when I would always justify someone else's behaviour. I am proud of myself for making the right decision. I also learnt what is toxic within me. I do not vocalise what I feel or need when it is required.I must learn to stop being embarrassed of my own wants, needs and emotions. I am not too much or too sensitive for being the way I am. Further, a reminder to everyone. None of us are perfect human beings. We are all flawed. In fact, incredibly flawed human beings. So, I want you let be less harsh on yourself. If you are toxic in some ways or were, do your best to work on it! No one can perfectly eliminate the ugly sides of ourselves but we can always try to reflect on ourselves each day, be mindful and progress. Being too mindful is very stressful! Relax, do what is best in your consciousness and enjoy life :)

[@sn0wii.__]

rewatching this video after leaving toxic friends really hits different. made me learn that it’s really not easy to spot manipulation. stay safe out there.

[@Jireninyourrecommendations]

When you hear someone knocking your door and it says "You forgot your French lessons" *_RED FLAG_*

[@smildoddlesXD]

ehehehehehheheeh

[@burdenuner9084]

Beg for your life in spanish

[@dragonz3037]

NO DUO! DON'T DO IT!!

[@wolfheart8604]

Getting a notification for that same thing JUST as I read this comment? Red flag. *BIG RED FLAG*

[@DiamondRose]

I’m gonna go do some Spanish now.....

[@the_great_mammon]

"Someone shouldn't need you, they should want you." Yea, I found that out the hard way. That's why I love my friend group now.

[@kaprecerajkumar9618]

Good for you @Koshi Sugawara stay strong

[@Booeyb800]

Have you ever pooped your pants thinking it's a fart

[@the_great_mammon]

@Kenma Kuzume Hey Kenma!!

[@the_great_mammon]

@Sk Can Thank you! To you too!

[@the_great_mammon]

@@kaprecerajkumar9618 Thank you so much

[@rufee3653]

Big thank you for this video! It really helped me think about this topic in a perspective i never looked through.

[@keira_mcmac]

This honestly just helped me so much, I recently left one of my best friends cause they were super toxic and did a lot of this and it was so hard because I keep thinking that I should just go back or talk to her cause she is going through kinda a hard time. But this just helped and now whenever I want yo I just think “ your not responsible for anyone’s happiness but yourselves” 😌

[@seth_7197]

When someone says “did I ask” every time you say anything. RED FLAG

[@christiehuckleberry7685]

THANK YOU

[@ilovjello13]

Bright PE did I ask?

[@ilovjello13]

Bright PE lmao jk

[@seth_7197]

Lol

[@derppan9215]

DiD i AsK?!?!?

[@ArthurSilva-ql4zd]

“Yeet toxic people out, yoink good people in” -Mahatma Gandhi

[@lilywoodrow7881]

Mind if I use that for my research paper?

[@-acne]

I have to yeet more than anything else :,,)

[@ArthurSilva-ql4zd]

alpha bet Subscribe to Pewdiepie, also T-gei

[@HotDogSkins]

I thought she was gonna cuss

[@wolfsmith7285]

I mean in reality it'll get to the point where relationships wont exists seriously i mean now a days toxicity is nearly over 75% 🙏💥cant wait for the earth to end at some time period 👌

[@elementscity4204]

I'm rewatching this video three years after I originally watched it, and only now do I realise how much this video helped me, so thank you❤

[@poyo6084]

thx for explaining emotional blackmail since my friend got emotionally blackmailed and I couldn't explain it, so I just sent him this link, this video is very entertaining and helped me understand manipulative and unhealthy relationships

[@Just_som_Ottur]

*_YOU DON’T HAVE ENOUGH EXPERIENCE FOR THIS SKILL_* omg I love you Jaiden.. 😂😭

[@sprtnkumander9283]

MisterOmega thanks

[@AbMaSync]

I don't need experience: 8:12 I AM A GOD

[@user-np2xl4qk4w]

@@Trunic "carefully, he's a hero"

[@chrisx248]

Practice positive self talk: Kanye: I am a god Ok not that positive

[@chrisx248]

@Xerion 🧢

[@mihailohranjec7518]

When somebody says that everybody's like "Oh who does he think he is?" I just told you who I thought I was. A god. I just told you.

[@randy_hato]

*Press read more If you know the Konosuba anime* or ye aint gonna understand le joke.. Aqua: I AM A GOD! Darkness: nice joke aqua, thinking big Is pritty good, but thats a bit too much Aqua: but.. i am a god ;-;... right kazuma? Kazuma: *looks at corner with a "heh (lenny)" face* Aqua: KAZUMA! Take that BACK >:'c (T n T)

[@michaelscott3174]

@@randy_hato yikes.

[@Shady22]

MrPlus seems about right

[@HM-xw7gp]

Jaiden, I hope you realize how much this video (and a few others) helped us become happier by learning more about who we are, what we desire, and shaping our boundaries. It's "only" been 4 years this video came out now, but I can see how much things changed for me in the meantime, and how, without even knowing it, this video (alon with many many other experiences) shaped who I am today, and the fact I'm happier everyday with who I am and where I am :) I still have a long way to go and a lot of things are unsure for me, but I learn about myself and better interacting with people every day, my friends are the best I could have hoped for and I found ways to easily come back to a safe space when necessary. I don't tire myself out every day anymore, and I try to enjoy life as much as I can before getting to the next step, be it through hobbies, relationships, silly stuff or whatever else I'm so happy I can call myself happy

[@rennie.2]

" and my *CUTE LITTLE DOLPHINS* are dying " dolphins :

[@jonathanrantzow4102]

Don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you. Jaiden Animations 2019

[@everlels7608]

CONTEXT MATTERS Vanossgaming 2015

[@madelinebogle7475]

A good message for both meanings and contexts

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

Thunder Waffle that’s what she said ;))

[@hazy3870]

Con👏text!

[@neckbite9159]

Best analogy ever