it's all about being intuned with your emotions, listening to your intuition and trust your inner knowing. speak to yourself like you would as a mother to your child, but you're the child. be empathetic, acknowledge the intensity of emotions even when you're not clear on the reason, even when you can't see the whole picture, even when you're in the darkness - simply allow without any judgment, there's enough of judging by others. those are your cards.