Janet’s Dating Again - Advice for Entering Relationships After a Breakup

Janet’s Dating Again - Advice for Entering Relationships After a Breakup | AsianBossGirl Ep 298

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@AsianBossGirl 2 ай бұрын

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@dyhppyx 2 ай бұрын

I've also been listening to you guys for years. Janet if hearing from a guys perspective means anything. You are genuinely attractive with a cool personality. Your maturity in life matters makes you even more interesting as a person. Life isn't fair and it's full of good and bad luck. I don't know exactly what happened but I'm pretty sure it wasn't because you're lacking. I know our default is to blame ourselves and in many cases that is objectively correct. But I can definitely say you are not bottom of the barrel at anything and should be proud of all you've weathered.

@sophiabrown8398 2 ай бұрын

so true

@Crystalclear0 2 ай бұрын

This actually made me cry. This year has been soooo tough. I’ve gone through a break up and break ups with friends as well. Like Janet said, there comes a time where you ARE so fragile and everything feels hurtful and scary. Thank you so much for opening up. I plan on getting myself a therapist as it’s been really incredibly overwhelming and I just don’t feel the same. Can’t even have the energy of dating men, they scare me. Just super uninterested in other men. I wish you the best of luck with everything Janet… this stage is most likely when you will find your person. You seem healthier and more confident. :)

@4aggieharts 2 ай бұрын

I’ve found going to therapy so helpful and validating. They ask hard questions and make me evaluate difficult things but in a way that feels like they’re “Team Me”. I hope you find a journey with a therapist that is healing. If it’s not working out with one therapist, do an appropriate wrap up and find another. Stick with it, don’t give up on healing and thriving!

@kshiosaki 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing Janet! I have been through very similar experiences. To hear it on a platform like this just validates that we are human, need to keep encouraging each other to feel all the feelings- and to heal in our own time. Will always be a fan of you ladies and sending lots of love from Hawaii!

@raerre9563 2 ай бұрын

I echo this! Thank you so much Janet for your vulnerability. Our hearts go out to you and it's not easy but you are so strong and inspiring. Sending big hearts and love from Canada ❤️

@jayywong1231 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Janet. I also went through a breakup where I was burned this year, with someone I made and thought was my person and my life teammate, but I just had to watch it blow up and crumble. Thank you for giving me the courage to continue healing and moving forward, even if its carefully and in a way that is more guarded and less certain about the outcome.

@baekhapx133 2 ай бұрын

Don't restrict yourself to a timeline. Everyone is essentially on the right path at the pace they're supposed to go. It's a matter of needing to learn the lessons you need to learn in order to get you to the next level. These experiences, although painful, will surely get you to where you want to be. Sending hugs and well wishes to you Janet! 🫂

@truclinhpham7553 2 ай бұрын

Janet. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. I’m going through a tough break up right now. Still crying and heart broken after 4 months so your story made me feel so relatable and healing in some way. Thank you and I know you will be happy again soon! :)

@jacquelynchin5513 2 ай бұрын

I had a friend break up earlier this year and a romantic breakup literally TWO DAYS AGO, the timing of this is a MASSIVE sign for me. Thank you I needed this 🫶 for me, it was also a shorter relationship after a long-term relationship, so it was really different/weird to let someone in again. Soooo relatable Janet, I really appreciate you sharing your experience and letting us into this side of your life ❤

@Pinkelephant10 2 ай бұрын

Janet is a sister we all need❤

@katll-p4r 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing with the community, Janet. As an outsider who has been following your story for a long time, I can understand how hard it is to go through life changes during a difficult time when things don't go the way we want. I will always be a supporter of yours. My input on this topic comes down to adjusting decision-making skills. Perhaps it was not a good idea to start a new relationship with someone when you were not fully healed. I know that sometimes, the right person comes into your life regardless of when it is a good time or not, but I always believe to find the right person, we have to be the right person ourselves, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It takes time for those things to be fixed after a break-up. People on the older side have usually developed a certain way of how they view the world, their personalities, and their ways of taking action. It's harder to accommodate another human being when a romantic partner comes in. That's why those relationships failed. I don't mean that you need to change yourself, but learning to adjust, adapt, and communicate healthy boundaries are better solutions. Before trying to find red flags from the other side, maybe do a quick flag check on ourselves first. I agree with your new goal of being open and receiving potential possibilities in the new year. I would add one thing, always be PATIENT. Hope everything will go well with you! You've got this!

@imsocorkyy 2 ай бұрын

This was such a great conversation. Thank you Janet for being vulnerable and sharing what this past year of dating has been like. As someone in a similar boat, I resonated HARD. Play was also my word of the year so that was a fun little nugget to hear as well! Wishing you a lovely end to 2024 and joyous 2025. 💕

@peache8 2 ай бұрын

I love hearing Janet and her dating experiences. There's definitely a lot of pressure when dating when you want marriage and kids. After the trauma of my last serious relationship, and also the pandemic, I stopped dating altogether. But I have never pressured myself toward any destination because it depends on your person. I just want to find the one I was meant to be with forever. And that may or may not end up in marriage and kids. Sometimes magic happens when you leave things open to surprise.

@Lczzy 2 ай бұрын

Janet, thank you letting your walls down and letting us in. Yesss, as Asians it's hard to go against the grain and let things happen.... excited for you to find your own path. Wishing you the best!

@momshiebells 2 ай бұрын

Janet's life update ❤ I started watching your show from the episode with your significant others (last year), and I've been hooked on your life insights and perspective ever since-especially Janet's!

@janetl7123 2 ай бұрын

I am a fellow Janet who went through a breakup recently. Loved you're perspective on getting married, pregnant etc. being the odd one out, Janet😄

@catherinetong4472 2 ай бұрын

Love listening to pplz stories. I broke up w/ someone that I dated for over a decade....dated a bunch of guys.....trust me on this...when the right guy comes along "time" won't mean anything....meaning u will want to move forward with the person, irregardless if ur past.

@purplepoppy07 2 ай бұрын

The part about friends/family not seamless meshing really resonates with me. An ex of mine was more of an artistic and impassioned free spirit, while I'm more mellow and kind of do everything by the books. We had incredible conversations and connections when it was just us too, but I had a hard time fitting into his social circles and vice versa. I never thought that would be something I would care about but yeah that made it hard to picture a shared future.

@BNcherrypeppermint 2 ай бұрын

Janet, thank you for being vulnerable & sharing your personal story. I really loved this conversation the two of you had in regards to your experiences and what you took away from it. It feels like you’re a sister to all of us. ❤

@ItsShanonMaglente 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for being vulnerable Janet! Also, loving your look in this episode!

@autumnasparagus 2 ай бұрын

hey Janet, thank you so much for sharing your story - i related so much to it with someone I previously dated. we were radically different and that contributed to the struggles of doubt and friction early on, at a stage where we were just getting to know each other. I have felt like I was doing sth wrong because I havent been able to find the same understanding from well-meaning friends so thank you for validating my experience in having the courage to share yours, and I wish you all the best!

@MrPOSTMANNNN 2 ай бұрын

Janet is gorgeous. I hope she gets what she wants! Thank you for sharing!

@desigurlie15 2 ай бұрын

So proud of you Janet! ❤ Whatma meant for you will always happen to you

@tracyalan7201 2 ай бұрын

I tend to think that people always go through phases in life, romance, profession, work, personal growth, relationships that aren't predictable. People try to schedule everything in life, wanting to be structured, organized and control. However, there are somethings that can't be controlled or predicted. I have confidence in all the three ladies of ABG. Sometimes, depending on that schedule/person, we get let down or thrown off the game. We question our beliefs, worth, thinking. Regrouping, taking stock, being flexible and more open to life's unpredictability. Be cautious, wise like I know Janet is and she'll do okay. Janet like the other ladies are fine and capable at whatever they choose to do.

@SunnyPark00 2 ай бұрын

WE LOVE JANET

@roxanneubana1409 2 ай бұрын

Janet you are beautiful on the outside and inside. Helen it’s so nice how supportive you are to Janet.

@christygirl1993music 2 ай бұрын

I needed this episode. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your experience like a sister Janet!

@jaqchen1016 2 ай бұрын

Determine what you want. If it's a family, you don't need a relationship or baby daddy to do that. If you want a relationship, put that out in the universe. But you don't need a man to have a family!! I had the same mindset and I got married at 30 and divorced at 32.

@cinnjotime 2 ай бұрын

Janet is so sweet and raw u are an inspiration to me

@elvee8888 2 ай бұрын

It’s always hard to accept things that don’t go as planned. Just like dealing with a loss, we also have to grieve the plans and future that we lost. Janet is still in denial. Her breakup was definitely life shifting but she’s still hesitant to admit it. Sometimes new mothers go through depression because they are grieving their pre-mother selves. It’s okay to grieve the person you once were when you were in that relationship. Love her. Remember her. Accept that she’s no longer a part of you anymore. I also don’t know if keeping in contact with him every two weeks is beneficial. I understand that they don’t want to cut the relationship cold turkey, but I think the distance would really help heal the wound. Then after the wound is healed, they could potentially reach out to continue their friendship.

@Emmasbubbletv Ай бұрын

Love this

@boarding711 2 ай бұрын

my advice is today there are options if you freeze eggs. I know a 46 and 48 yr old who became mothers. So if I knew what I know now, freeze them. I also had a rule: date someone anyone 3 times. if you're free, you meet. And just give it a whirl. Be open minded. Don't come to the table w demands like a perfect product you're designing. This is not a user focus grp. -a mid 40s fellow ABG

@peterchen7166 2 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s good to embrace differences, Janet gives too much consideration to friends and families, maybe put all that away, and focus on yourself and this person, it might be more relaxing, well, you guys are probably not the right match at the first place. Nevertheless, still it’s great to experience that, I wish you meet the right one soon. Sorry for being judgmental and thank you for sharing everything.

@victoriatenn9613 2 ай бұрын

Love u guys but there are waaay to many ads.

@lilianr513 2 ай бұрын

GOOO JANET YOU ARE ENOUGH ❤❤❤

@nataliehong8821 2 ай бұрын

Janet, I think you should get in touch with more of your feminine side and less of an Asian girl boss. Based from your conversation, I think you deserve someone better. And being vulnerable and accepting is already a great next step. Dating in your 30s is even more difficult than in your 20s. Men you meet in your 30 is even more reluctant to compromises in relationship. We can’t sometimes have it all. Something needs to be sacrificed or given up in order to achieve certain life’s goal. Even as you reflect on your own parents’ relationship, they’re not perfect either. I hope you’ll meet your Mr. Right soon!

@Quackhamster 2 ай бұрын

Big hugs to ya, Janet

@mrgarywong 2 ай бұрын

Is it just me or does that shadow of the mic on Janet's shirt look like a cat? lol. Thanks for opening up to all of us about this difficult situation, but its all for the better now. Enjoying all the fun things you put out on IG so keep doing what you're doing. Wishing you the best on your romantic journey.