The Ultimate Guide to あげる vs くれる vs もらう (to give & to receive)

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This time we'll learn the differences between あげる (to give) vs くれる (to give) vs もらう (to receive) and how to properly use them in a sentence.
☆"～は あげる" vs "～が くれる"
★ "～が くれる" vs "～は くれる"
☆ "～にもらう" vs "～が くれる"
P.S. This is an updated version of the old lesson I had before. I've put more explanation and example sentences that can help you so please consider watching this too even if you've watched the old one :)
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[@milespewitt655]

Having taught grammar for many years, it was somehow very disturbing that many of my Japanese lessons seemed to totally bypass syntax. More often than not, teachers reverted to “it’s just the way you do it” as a means of explanation. I suspect these teachers just don’t know how to justify a particular usage (e.g. が vs は ).　This teacher explains everything perfectly. Learning from her is further facilitated because she speaks clearly and slowly, repeats relevant issues, and uses relevant examples. For older students such as myself (I'm 66) she is a godsend. Thanks!

[@googavo1d]

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[@MusicalRaichu]

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[@milespewitt655]

Yes, I’ve learned several languages the old way: lots of work and lots of rules. It was a lot easier when I was younger, but there’s nothing I can do about that! Now, learning a new language is a combination of frustration, sadness, embarrassment, and senior moments. I wouldn't do it, but live in Japan 8 months out of each year.@@MusicalRaichu

[@nurulmaru]

Yes, that's true. I feel the same.

[@BiGSmoke-.-]

@@milespewitt655 I hope you are at a intermediate level now by watching her videos.

[@felipechaves6100]

For those confused about why に means “from” and not “to”, I believe it’s better to think of it in a different way, when not talking about directions, に indicates the secondary object in the sentence, while the を indicates the primary one. That will be carried along in all Japanese grammar, turning に into “to”, “of”, “from”, etc. Also, this に in not interchangeable with へ like the direction に.

[@splendor666]

This make so much sense.

[@RandomStufLemGD]

My brain made so many connections that I could see the electricity

[@ericsurf6]

OMG! You're the best Japanese teacher on KZbin. Thanks so much Misa for your wonderful, easy to understand lessons. Happy Holidays to YOU! Be Well & Challenge for 2019.

[@BiGSmoke-.-]

I hope you are at a intermediate level now by watching her videos.

[@aktchungrabanio6467]

@@BiGSmoke-.- Are you?

[@a.m.6973]

Summary: Imagine I'm Naruto, Konohamaru is close to me and I'm not very close to Itachi. The examples would be: サスケはイタチにプレゼントをあげた - Sasuke gave a present to Itachi (4:38) 木の葉丸にプレゼントをあげた - I gave a present to Konohamaru (2:54) Giving to me or someone close to me (emphasis on the giving part) サスケはプレゼントをくれた - Sasuke gave a present to me (5:08) サスケは木の葉丸にプレゼントをくれた - Sasuke gave a present to Konohamaru (14:55) Emphasis on the receiving part (the gift is the powerful Sharingan) サスケに写輪眼をもらった - i received Sharingan from Sasuke (22:50) 写輪眼をもらった - i received Sharingan 木の葉丸はサスケに写輪眼をもらった - Konohamaru received the Sharingan from Sasuke

[@じゅじゅ-j9p]

英語を勉強している日本人です！日本語を勉強する英語圏の人向けの動画かと思いますがとても勉強になる！

[@SelcraigClimbs]

そうですか?本当にすごいだと思います！日本語を勉強しているイギリス人ですけど、なかなかペラペラに話せるようにならない~~ でも、勉強のために頑張りましょう！

[@Gabriele2068]

クリスマスに何をもらいましたか。 先生がいつものように 最高レッスンをくれました。 このチャンネルは本当に便利ですね！ 日本語でもっと上手になったと思う。 先生、本当にありがとう！🙏🏻☺ 頑張りますよ！

[@aktchungrabanio6467]

I'm sorry if I sound arrogant but I'm so proud of myself right now! I could read and understand everything you just wrote without relying on a dictionary! The only exception being 便利, but other than that, got it all right. 頑張りましょう！

[@alexrider1105]

ミサ先生、「あげる」と「くれる」と「もらう」の使う方を教えてくれてありがとごさいま！

[@mooseygoosy]

i think one part of why your lessons are so much more helpful to me is because in class you always hear the desu/masu form as the base so it's harder to think of the casual form on instinct. hearing them in casual form when i already know how to make them formal makes it so much easier to get the grammar point in my head because there's less flowery language. plus i just hear it less so it's nice to hear someone talk mostly in casual :)

[@natazadonskaya8619]

The most detailed and well put explanation on the delicate topic of もらう＊くれる＊あげる. I finally got itに ありがとうございました!

[@TheSpriteStory]

今まで最初の3秒のミサを見るために、いつもこの動画に戻ってまた見る

[@luiscosta6610]

メリークリスマス、みさ先生！ I don't know if you take video suggestions here from the comments, but, in case you do, I'd like to ask for a lesson on 何も, 何か, 誰も, 誰にも, 誰か, いつも, いつか and all those + particle compounds and how verbs get conjugated with them. They're pretty confusing and I always find myself struggling with them since words like 'nobody' and 'something' are used in any conversation. Thank you!

[@moggy1989]

Luís Costa I go through the exact same thing. Good suggestion! だから、みささん、お願いします！^^

[@MusicalRaichu]

か indicates some particular but unspecified value for the question word. For example, どこへ行きますか="Where are you going?" どこ is an unknown place and you're asking to identify it. どこかへ行きます="I'm going somwhere." どこか is an unspecified place but you're not asking to identify it. Similarly, 誰がいますか="Who is there?" だれ is an unknown person and you're asking for them to be identified. 誰かいます="Someone is there." だれか is an unspecified person but you're not asking for them to be identified. も with a negative verb indicates that whatever value you fill in for the question word, the negative sentence holds. For example, 何も見えません="Nothing is visible"="I can't see anything" In other words, if you substitute "some person" for なに, then the sentence holds, "No person is visible". If you substitute "some tree" for なに, then the sentence holds, "No tree is visible". If you substitute anything at all for なに, then the sentence holds, "I can't see anything at all". でも with an affirmative verb indicates that whatever value you fill in for the question word, the sentence holds. For example, いつでも行ける="I am able to go at any time." If you substitute "now" for いつ, it's true, "I can go now." If you substitute "tomorrow" for いつ, it's true, "I can go tomorrow." If you substitute any time you like for いつ, the sentence is still true, "I can go at any time." Does this help?

[@luiscosta6610]

@@MusicalRaichu, thank you for taking your time to explain this. It was very helpful indeed. My problem is more on what particles to use with those words, though. For instance, you said '誰かいます' -- there's no が after 誰か -- but 'どこかへ行きます' keeps the へ. Similarly, '何も見えません' has no を, etc. And for 'I asked nobody' (誰にも聞きませんでした, right?) the に, for some reason, goes in between the 誰 and the も. That's what confuses me the most. But thanks anyways. I really appreciate it. :D

[@MusicalRaichu]

@@luiscosta6610 も is easy to explain. It typically replaces は・が・を. Xは tends to mean "I'm talking about X as opposed to anything else", while Xも can mean "I'm talking about X that is like something else" so it doesn't make sense to put は and も together. I have on very rare occasions seen がも and をも but usually も just replaces them too. With other particles, especially に・へ・から, も tends to follow them. か is a bit trickier to understand. In Japanese some parts of speech can differ from European languages. In 誰かいます, 誰か is being used as an adverb. 誰かいます literally means "there is an existence, how much? a someone's worth of existence". Just because "someone" is a noun in English (and most European languages) does not mean it has to be a noun in Japanese. Hope this helps.

[@luiscosta6610]

​@@MusicalRaichu, I can't thank you enough! I'll for sure have this explanation of yours in mind next time I deal with this type of words, especially now that I know 誰か works as an adverb in Japanese. 説明してくれて本当にありがとうございました！とても役に立ちました。

[@MrGorobu]

I've been studying Japanese for a while now. I'm not sure whether you'll see this comment, but I just wanted to say your videos are an absolute godsend. I'm in awe of your technical understanding, and very thankful! Love from London!

[@DanVR001]

Hi.

[@aktchungrabanio6467]

みさ先生、この授業をどうもありがとうございます！ I really mean it when I say I appreciate how dense your lessons are because you explain so many nuances that are often skipped or forgotten in MANY other resources. For example, your constant reminders of why it's important to use は instead of が in certain examples is extremely helpful since those 2 are the Achiles' heel for most 外人 ! (myself included, of course). It's also super practical when you single out and color each section of a sentence because it makes it so much easier to translate and fully understand. I'm going to review this particular video for a while! It's so densely packed with invaluable material, and the fact we can review it as many times as we want until it's fully understood makes it's a gem. Again, thank you for your hard work!

[@Nicodegalloyo]

The wa and ga part usually confuses me, but this video cleared it up a lot. Thanks Misa! Merry Christmas. And that outfit is really cute!

[@gina.angelli]

Thank you for repeating stuff even if you already did in an older video. God knows I need constant reminders. You are the best teacher

[@aimi5571]

You are the best Japanese language teacher I found! I have been learning Japanese for a while but somehow I could never digest the lesson on あげる、くれる、もらう. I watched different videos and read different sources but I was still confused until I watched your video. You explained everything so simply and naturally. I especially appreciate your culture notes, context analysis, and really just your in-depth explanations for these words. I really appreciate all your lessons and I hope you never stop making videos.

[@AbeyantHeroAspires]

I'm 5 yrs late on the release, but my GOSH this helps me where I was struggling so much on how to express giving/receiving between other people and myself, or observational desceiptions. I'm a few days from JLPT N4 test so wish me luck 本当にありがとうございます、 みさ先生

[@abujihadsalahudin]

you are the best Japanese teacher I seen online I love watching your videos and keep up the good job

[@ClarifyEht]

Just finished this last semester battling this in Lesson 13 😫😫😫 I’m glad you still upload and I can’t wait to see more of this!

[@賴耀宏]

I really love your teaching style. The pronunciation either in English and Japanese is clear-cut and slow.This makes me absolve Japanese grammar structure absolutely especially because the parts of speech of both languages are hight-lighted in matching colors. Thank you very much.

[@lynettel5558]

I'm late but i can't express how much this has helped me to clear up the confusion in my mind! Thanks so much Misa san. Merry Christmas and happy 2019😊

[@BiGSmoke-.-]

I hope you are at a intermediate level now by watching her videos.

[@enzuber]

What a fantastic Christmas gift! Thanks so much for all your efforts and kindness helping us on the long but rewarding journey of learning Japanese.

[@BiGSmoke-.-]

I hope you are at a intermediate level now by watching her videos.

[@matthewisawesome]

Merry Christmas! Thank you for being a really nice teacher : ) Your videos have definitely helped me improve my Japanese! ありがとうございます！

[@kathrynrose6519]

みさ先生がとても役にたっているレッスンをくれました✨

[@originofnoise]

The best explanation for these 3 verbs I have ever found. :)

[@JoachimderZweite]

Merry Christmas to you Japanese Lady who has taught me so much. I am a supporter. This was a wonderful gift and I especially love looking at your bookcase full of stuff.

[@ICANTHEARHER2222]

There was no better time for this lesson than around Christmas because all you do is give and receive gifts, love, and food 😂

[@metinulas1217]

一つずつ敏感なご説明してくれてありがとう、本当に役に立てました。喜んでフォローしますよ。

[@lowprofile7873]

Thank you Misa sensei. I was getting confused about that, now I get it 🔥

[@gutocbs]

Thanks for the video, Misa-sensei! I never really understood when to use each verb but now everything makes sense to me

[@benny496]

Thank you so much for the indepth lesson! Merry Christmas Misa Sensei. Have a great one!!!

[@gapedandamazed6988]

I mean let's be honest. If you think of くれる as a verb for 'to get' and not another form of 'to give'. It's infinitely times easier to understand. くれる functions in everyway as the word 'get' in English. Just keep one eye open to the fact that it does mean 'to give' and that 'to get' has another verb for it and you should be good. To be more specific. Think about if you can use 'get' in the sentence instead of 'give'. If yes. most likely you can use くれる. Unless you want to express 'recieve'

[@krishnaroy1823]

You are the best Japanese teacher

[@MiltonJava]

Great explanation for GA in this example. ありがとうございます

[@lasoob]

Misa! How did you know I've spent the whole day struggling to get my head around this topic?! Earlier I was thinking that I wouldn't be having such a hard time if I had a Japanese Ammo video on it 😊

[@1dreamysky]

Wow this is a very thorough explanation! I opened the video thinking I almost have it all covered but wow. This is very helpful! Thank you very much T^T

[@katerinak4164]

Thank you for an other great video ! I always make mistakes when I use ageru/kureru. Hopefully not any more. Thank you !

[@shibarai3421]

I'd say you're the best 先生 , I've been learning a lot . Thank you!

[@fighterairplane]

YOU ARE THE BEST! You made my 4 hour commute so much more bearable! Thank you for all you're work! 🥰

[@RonGerlandVFerrer]

0:25 Ageru (To Give) 7:55 Kureru (To Receive) 20:19 Morau (To Receive)

[@momoo1762]

You and miku San are the best KZbin nihonggo teachers..

[@smnsth7188]

Merry christmas sensei nice teaching style

[@skippychurch2965]

What an incredible teacher

[@obamascock2169]

に has tons of different meanings. It can mean to, on, at, in, for, etc. In general, its best to remember use case, like when using with location, times, or recipients.

[@DaMoteSupnet]

乙！ お兄ちゃんがカバンをくれました！日本に行くとか旅行のためのカバンかもしれませんねー！いつもすごくて本当に役にたつ動画をくれてありがとうございました！頑張り続けてください！Keep up the great work! 👍👍😊

[@ariellemyers9470]

At first, I heard, "お父さんがくまをくれた" and I nearly spit out my coffee thinking you said that somebody's dad gave them a bear.

[@enriquezarate4842]

さすがみさ先生😄 ありがとうございました Could you please make a lesson on some of the counter suffixes? That would be very helpful, just like the rest of your videos are. You're the best!

[@BAn-mu4qe]

Thank you so much Sensei for this clear, great explanation of a potentially confusing topic!! This is such an important topic as it would be so easy to offend someone by using the wrong verb when refusing to yourself!!!! Thank you again. You are an excellent teacher!!!! From one teacher to another!

[@francescolomaglio6393]

no cap

[@Hyperbolicus86]

クリスマスのためのあなたの動画をくれた :)

[@clm0208]

あげる give くらる give (me) もらう received (as a gift)

[@frederickfullerton4745]

useful summary

[@simantipal2302]

U teach so wonderfully,wish I could learn from you にほんご

[@greyabbott8058]

Your hair looks so good omg

[@supercat438]

素晴らしいレッスン、ありがとうございました！

[@krishnapaudel9703]

I love your video which teaches me more and more about Japanese language

[@luisbanegassaybe6685]

Thank you for making this ありがとうございました

[@kylewelsh_krossdesu7700]

こんにちほほほ to you too, Misa. :) I’m spending my holidays studying Japanese and wouldn’t have it any other way! Happy holidays everyone!

[@frederickfullerton4745]

you lessons r very comprehensive ,uninhibited and humorous .the one on colour was excellent and on so called rude words really amusing.I am an artist love to do one with u how to paint

[@shaktithakuri1718]

Misa san plzzz make lesson on particles like "ya" "wa" etc. I hear japanese using that lot at the end of sentence. and I also wanna use it too after i learn about it :D Thanks for the lesson...you are a great senseii..hoping to learn a lot for

[@kellerthepianomachine]

I was always confused on this topic so thanks for making a video on it! Btw great intro, メリークリスマス!

[@joebroadinjapan]

Merry Christmas! Thank you so much for all your videos!

[@TheNinjaPanda45]

こんなにはっきり説明してくれてありがとうございます！　Ｔ－Ｔ本当に助かりました！！

[@wanderer4666]

みさ先生、このビデオありがとうございました。みさ先生の楽しい授業から、日本語簡単ですよ。日本語をもっと教えてください。

[@lolsaLlama]

Have a wonderful time during the holidays Misa!! 👋 メリークリスマス ~ ! ⛄️

[@annapotpot]

When she said I didn't receive anything for Christmas, I felt that.

[@takagiantaka8103]

misa you are the greatest teacher! marry christmas!!!

[@Jânio丁]

Thank you so much for this! I used to study Japanese, even have the N3 certificate lol but stopped a long time ago. Recentry I freaked out because I couldn't remember te differences between "kureru, kudasaru, morau, itadaku" 😅😅😅😅 I wish to return my studies!

[@ambercleaveley9051]

ありがとうございます美佐先生

[@umamaheswaran5819]

Nice explanation Miss san

[@atashikokoni]

俺:　「ね、シャルル、誰が魚をくれたんだ？」 シャルル:　「ハッピがよ」 俺:　「おい、ルシ。ハッピはシャルルに魚をあけたよ。好きだね!」 夏:　「俺も魚をもらいたい。みんな、食べよう！」 Yes, I've been watching Fairy Tail recently 👆

[@francescavalletta4388]

Thank so much Misa!

[@nisharainbow]

Thanks for another awesome lesson misa sensei!

[@NforNatalie]

あげる：ミサさんはみなさんに説明を　あげました。 くれる：ミサさんは説明を　くれて　ありがとうございました！ もらう：ミサさんはPatreonを　もらいました。

[@moonymoons]

Thank you so much I’ve learnt so much from you🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@jasonjohnson7859]

Wow found a Japanese gold mine. Thank you

[@FerroNeoBoron]

16:00 I imagine that's why you didn't do the くれましたんですか (I think that's the right conjugation if it semantically made sense)

[@TheLanguageSponge]

Thank you for the lesson, Misa. Just a curiosity - early on in this lesson you mention if 'I' am the one who's giving something, we always use あげる. Does that also apply to 'we'?

[@midoann]

Merry Xmas! Now it's 2019. Thanks for the excellent lesson.

[@robertoquiambao8192]

Very nice Misa sensei

[@FanEverton]

day 17, learning more and more, thanks sensei

[@justintyme8335]

Thank you for so many awesome videos! ジャクとサムがギタらをくれ伝います。

[@louisng114]

What if I want to say "I have worked hard today, so I am going to give myself a present;" should I use あげる or くれる?

[@sadeq195]

"so I am going to give myself a present" isn't it too long. I mean, you can shorten it right? Like, "So, I'm going to receive a present" = だから、（オレが）プレゼントをもらう。

[@Vick1994x]

my guess would be あげる because you are the subject who is giving something

[@baumroll1529]

今日は頑張ったから、自分にごほうびをあげよう。 It can't be くれる or もらう.

[@xiola]

I have a feeling kureru has some humility level involved where the subject can't be yourself or it sounds quite full of yourself? (though I'm not fluent so don't quote me on that). あげる should be fine in theory but depending what it is, in most cases I think it might be less awkward to just say what you are doing for yourself more specifically, rather than saying "I gave something to myself"? Eg. "I bought chocolate for myself" (自分にチョコを買った）rather than "I gave myself a present” (P.S. Baum's answer sounds way better though ("I think I'll reward myself"?)... I'd trust them more than me lol. )

[@sleepy4118]

I think when u see yourself as another person you would use: 自分にプレゼント(を)あげる

[@AcidRainbowSkies]

おめでとうクリスマスみさ先生🎄!

[@saltwalk]

Great vid. Thanks.

[@amabel__4531]

thank you for your videos!!! you put a lot of love into them 🥰🥰

[@Ozaiyah]

Great video, May the lord bless you all and happy holidays.

[@fakename2582]

Misa, is it because of reru (passivity) that kureru is not receiving? It really invokes the feeling of coming, and even the second person "you" usage feels like sympathetic reception. Oh, I know this is not a conjugation of kuru, an exceptional case verb. Still, it gives that instinct; probably even more for a native such as yourself who has such rich mental connections to the sounds of Japanese.

[@osonhodeleon]

Epic lesson.

[@julio.oliveira694]

Oh my God!!! Great video, Im amazed, I need to take class with you. Where do I sign up for online class? Thank you Misa-chan

[@キラキラくりくり頭]

She doesn't accept any new students. She has some existing students on... iTalk or something. But she's said a few times that she can't take any more students.

[@andrejbalaz3381]

Oh Misa I just wached your 1 video about this theme xD メリークリスマス サンタさんが来ましたか I hope

[@WizLicos]

最高なクリスマスプレゼントはケチャップです！

[@negantherealone2065]

Great Video

[@bottamayo26]

This ain't called the Ultimate Guide for nothing.. Excellent Explanation!

[@boradmay]

Very helpful, thx

[@scepticoptimist2976]

みささん、教えてくれてありがとうございます! みささんのビデオがとても大好きですぞ。 Sorry if I missed these but: -in this '私にこれをくれたの'、what is the meaning of this の？is it a womanly speech particle, or an emphasis mark, or smth to explain like ので、or...? - if I am telling smb that 'a 3rd person does smth to a 3rd person', てあげる　seems to be the right one. But what if the giver is socially higher than the receiver? If a daimyo gave smth to his vassal, and I am telling about that, which should be used? What if I am another daimyou? What if I am another vassal? すみません。

[@luiscosta6610]

1) Adding 'の' at the end of the sentences is indeed a female speech thing. 'んだ' would be the more neutral way. That said, it gives the sentence a certain nuance of 'I'm explaining to you that ' or ', that's why!'. Basically, it sounds that you're explaining the reason why . 2) You'd use ~てあげる for all of those examples; the social statuses of the receiver and the giver don't affect the verb you're going to use -- it only depends on the people themselves (you and your family if receivers, in this case).

[@Icetroid]

クリスマスにみささんの日本語の動画だけをもらいました。

[@oldmanandthesea7039]

To say to give to me/my in-group:family, friend, etc., use くれる. (use くださる when referring to superior.) これは母がくれました。My mother gave me this. 先生が辞書をくださいました。The teacher gave me a dictionary. To say give, use あげる. (use さしあげる when referring to superior.) 父にお茶をあげました。 I gave my father some tea. 私は is omitted. 田中さんは社長に花をさしあげました。 Mrs. Tanaka gave flowers to the company president. To say receive, use もらう. (use いただく when referring to superior.) ジオンさんは友達にレコウドをもらいました。John received a record from his friend. 先生に手紙をいただきました。 I got a letter from the teacher. 私は is omitted.

[@yikelly1559]

Best explanation

[@Brinkie3]

メリクリスマス、みさ先生👩‍🏫 ルンルンopだから爆笑した🤣 クリスマスで私が日本食を作っています。照り焼きです。

[@Otonium]

Thank you!

[@SkullCloud11]

メリークリスマス！