KUDASAI is RUDE? How to say PLEASE properly in Japanese

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This time we'll learn the differences between
ください (kudasai)
vs
お願いします (onegai shimasu)
vs
どうぞ (douzo).
Do you know 「お/ご + __ + ください」 is more polite than 「てください」?
Check my video on 敬語 (keigo = polite speech)
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I appreciate all the effort put into showing the sentences in written form in the video. The romanization, translation and the corresponding katakana characters for the kanji. As a Japanese new-beginner this is incredibly helpful.

[@xhantar]

Just realized, I meant Hiragana, and not Katakana. A rookie mistake 😖 すみません m( _ _ )m

[@josefmn]

@@xhantar friendly tip: when there's ひらがな on top of 漢字, we call it ふりがな

[@chriswiddajonathan8941]

I must discourage u from relying on romāji Try to make hiragana and katakana more familiar to yourself Since ur learning a language that has its own alphabet/writing system, i believe that its always better to memorize the alphabet, hiragana and katakana in this case, by heart U can learn kanji as u go. Since kanji is a little more complicated to learn than the japanese alphasyllaberies

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@@the_observer9786 If your goal ist to SPEAK Japanese, then romaji are perfectly fine. If your goal is to READ Japanese books, then yes, one should become familiar with kana. But it is almost a separate skill set. One can learn A LOT Japanese without knowing a single kana or kanji. (Just like Japanese kids do during the first 6 years of their lives :) )

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Mission in life : Be a rude foreigner with varying levels of politeness. Lol

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LOL😂😂😂👌 I cracked

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Monty Python: man who is alternatively rude and polite

[@TheManofsorrows]

lol

[@JohnM...]

Laughed so hard at this comment...years later. I needed that laugh

[@mottsu7644]

I read the title and was like "oh no did i really offend everybody in japan with everything i said even when i tried to be polite" lol

[@franswahyu6831]

Same thing to me..LOL

[@mottsu7644]

@@franswahyu6831 good to know i wasn't the only one haha

[@xXAkitokunXx]

bruh i feel bad now

[@venomm4563]

Nah, youtubers like her like to scare everyone for no reason. Kudasai is totally fine and acceptable and isn't seen as rude or anything.

[@kevinmbtbass]

It's ok, we got the gaijin card

[@milesedgeworth3010]

I always wondered this. I defaulted to お願いします whenever ordering or asking for things because I thought ください sounded a little demanding. Glad to know I made the more polite choice, and why it was the more polite choice.

[@FirzenExpert]

Same! When I went to Japan, a friend of mine said he usually ask the waiter for water by using mizu-kudasai; and I was thinking internally... hmm doesn't that sound like a demand? But after hearing the first part of this video, I see it's a legitimate way of requesting water; just there's a more polite way by using 'onegaishimasu'

[@danitomondlane9884]

Objection!

[@danielantony1882]

@@FirzenExpert The demanding way is 水を貸せ, which is a literal demand. I'd recommend learning the proper differences between particles and such. 下さる is always polite. It's just thar you have to know how to use it, as pointed out in the video.

[@danielantony1882]

下さい is literally the Keigo form of くれ so you're kinda wrong there.

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It's incredible how you take such a seemingly simple topic and turn it into such an interesting and informative lesson. What a great teacher you are!

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now this makes everything much clear, ありがとうございます

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[@DeHaos]

下記の文は次の重要なポイント： 『ください』って使い方のは：助詞「を」の後で、たとえば食べ物を注文するとき―"日本酒をください" 。二つ目のは『て』形式の動詞とともに、動作を伴う何かときよ。あなたは誰かに敬語で何かをするように頼んでいます。 これは、あなたが何かを求めている人に対して礼儀正しくなることを目的としています。 『お願いします』って使い方は：　食べ物を注文するときも、この場合は「を」は必要じゃなくて、大丈夫だと思います。礼文を挙げるのは‘’水をお願い致します‘’とか。 追加：『おねがいします』は、『ください』よりも礼儀正しいです。二つ目のは、誰かの注意を引くとき、 たとえば、あなたのテーブルへのウェイター/ウェイトレスだ。三つ目のは、自分ではできないサービスをリクエストするときは、おねがいしますを使うのは多いです。そして、最後のは、電話で誰かを頼むときはおねがいしますを使うのは多いです。あなたは謙虚にあなた自身のために要求をしている。 これは、あなたを中心にして要求について謙虚になることを目的としています。 こんの2つの文法ポイントを区別するのはちょろいものにも関わらず、見損なわなくたほうがいいだ。 みささん、うｐ乙。今後の文法や単語表現の動画が待ち遠しくて仕方ない。

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[@snowpea3112]

I lived in Japan for a whole year and this is the first time I have fully understood the difference between kudasai, onegaishimasu and douzo.... you're videos are so helpful! thank you!!!

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[@saebre.]

Ironic that this video came out the same day as Yuta's video "Is Japanese Hard to Learn?"

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Difficult parts are a) the characters and b) the polite forms. As misa thought us, kegs is a bit more complicated then just desu/masu forms .

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[@TheArtisanGeek]

Just have to say that the intro is suuuuper cute! :)

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No way,you watch her too!??! P.S. I really like your content. Specially that "pain" edit (I failed my Japanese test) gave me a solid stomachache. Loved it

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[@danielhartley9003]

6 years in Japan and I never had a great lesson like this! Thanks so much!

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Your videos are explained so well and love that you include English, Kana and Romaji subtitles!! Really helps a lot :D

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[@kelleytm57]

she is the prettiest otaku i've ever seen

[@CyclingCornwall]

thank you for making this clear , saying please and thank you is very important to me ,in English we do tend to use "please" for all situations ,though the the tone and preceding words will be contextual . knowing which to use in Japanese is very helpful .

[@shawnbell6392]

You are super helpful and knowledgeable, your teaching style is great! Many thanks to you!

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Thank you so much for the great effort and explanations you always put into your videos! They are so helpful and easy to understand in a fun way. So much love ❤

[@Infinicat]

This was an awesome lesson! ありがとうございます！ I also appreciate the use of the furigana, it helps me learn the kanji better.

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ありがとう、みさ先生！ very helpful and informative 🥰🥰

[@tealcrystal6088]

Fun fact: a word similar to どうぞ exists in Turkish too. It's "buyurun".

[@zulalsancak917]

yess exactly! I was trying to remember the equivalent in Turkish, I'm glad you commented this. "buyrun(formal)/buyur(informal)"

[@matthewdavis9437]

Fun fact: Japanese isn't related to Turkish.

[@gwynbleidd_doethbleidd]

@@matthewdavis9437 another fun fact: no one has stated so

[@tealcrystal6088]

@@matthewdavis9437 それはちがうよ! They're both Altaic languages

[@matthewdavis9437]

@@tealcrystal6088 The "altatic language family" is widely discredited. It's not a real language family and the only ones that still think it is are Turks.

[@JRevengeZzz]

It is so interesting how I contextually got some of these without really understanding what I was doing lol.

[@a.o2544]

All your lessons are really helpful, thanks a lot Misa-sensei !!!

[@MOTHHMAN]

Thank you for this video :) really helped clear some stuff up for me! ありがとうございます！

[@YamamotoTV2021]

So basically you can say this: チャンネル登録してください。 OR おチャンネル登録ください。ありがとうございます。 And because tōroku is a _suru_ verb you can also say チャンネル登録お願いします, right?

[@mikhailvarkovsky4150]

I love your videos, Misa sensei. I have learned a lot so far, thanks to you. I have a suggestion for a future video, how about explaining some of the most common "abbreviations" or "elisions" in everyday language? Sometimes I see sentences in mangas ending abruptly in っ or sentences ending or connecting ideas with "って" and i don't know what that means. The Japanese used in mangas is really weird sometimes *Emoji shrug

[@nathaliamartins8265]

ミサ先生、「お待ちしてください」も見たことがあります。これは「お待ちください」より丁寧ですか。あるいは逆ですか。 ありがとうございます。

[@zeroimpact742]

お待ちしてください is grammatically incorrect. another way to ask people more politely to do something that Misa sensei has not mentioned is , お待ち願えますでしょうか？ which you often hear in business scenes.

[@inochifantasy]

もう一つ面白いビデオ！みささんありがとうございます＜３

[@Ramberta]

I love your videos! You are a very good teacher :D

[@uncleouch9795]

When the Dojo starts class, everyone yells Onegaishimasu. Meaning Sensei, please teach us.

[@iceraycer9196]

I'm new on the channel, just here to say it's a really good video and well explained with visual sentences, nice job and thank you for the lesson !

[@teguhrahatprabowo9497]

So to my understanding, Kudasai : give order politely Onegaishimasu : Asking for help Did I got it right?

[@hypotheticaltapeworm]

Marth: みんな見ててくれ Teaching us te form since 2001.

[@Masaomi84]

What's the Kanji in the middle?

[@hypotheticaltapeworm]

@@Masaomi84 it means "to see". It reads here as み, "mi".

[@jaredpatterson1701]

Wow, was that in super smash bros?

[@hypotheticaltapeworm]

@@jaredpatterson1701 Yes, in Melee.

[@Masaomi84]

@@hypotheticaltapeworm Ah, Thanks! Was he your main lol?

[@ilyaibrahimovic9842]

Could you comment on when ください is ok and when もらえませんか is more appropriate?

[@sideswipe147]

Best 日本語 lesson I have seen online in quite awile.

[@_Username__]

Always fun to see new vid out of Misa san

[@innnn663]

tl;dr - intermediate japanese learner confused by clickbait title i was confused when i looked at the title, and after like 4mins in the video i was like wait, i know most of this already! these videos are incredibly helpful, but dang the titles are sometimes a bit clickbait-ish. Careful Misa

[@EastWindCommunity1973]

Your videos are wonderful, thanks so much!! Pikapika!

[@juliannavolkov844]

I was thinking a couple days ago that ∼ください sounded a little demanding. I'm so glad みさ先生 made a video like this. ありがとうございます！❤

[@danlim9087]

とてもたくさんポケモン :D かわいいね. The color coding is super helpful, and your explanations are very clear, thank you!

[@belerinah]

This is so helpful! ありがとうございます

[@JohnTaurus]

That intro look awesome!

[@74Ahly]

Thank you so much ^^ and make more videos on onegaishimasu

[@0_plusultra17]

ありがとうなぁぁぁみさ先生！！！

[@moomakemoney]

(Insert angelic choir sound here). Epiphany. I do believe this is the first video of this type where I didn't get list along the way! Yay! So, what they say is true, if you just stick with it long enough suddenly things begin to click into place and make sense. I'm very happy about that! Domo atigatou Misa sensei! 😁✌

[@oguzhanyildiz4495]

Politeness is everwhere, i love this language so much!

[@ADeeSHUPA]

uP

[@dreamcore]

Ultimately politeness leads to insincerity and avoidance.

[@kingchickenwing4887]

@DogSayingWoosh Why? Most people aren't actually polite, no matter where, so Japanese culture just forces people to put up fake politeness and not show their true feelings.

[@kmch7286]

You don't know what you are talking about LoL. Japanese etiquette is overly specialized in boss-subordinate and merchant-customer relationships. If you work in a Japanese company in Japan, you will surely scream.

[@KaotikBOOO]

Can't wait for you to have to deal with a hotline in Japanese A 2 minutes problem taking 20 minutes because all sentences get 10 times longer in keigo xD

[@LaniakeaDenizen]

From other Japanese channels like That Japanese Man Yuta I've heard that "~て ださい" can be considered rude because it sounds you're requesting something from them. He recommended using "~て もらえませんか" instead. Is that something a learner should worry about or is it too formal? (or did I miss it in the video?)

[@Fer_Guerrero]

もらえませんか - could you (give me), I think it is used when you don't want to bother other people so you want to be sure if they are able to do something for you お願いします - I would like to/I'm wishing for (something), when you know that the other person is already there to do something for you ください - Please do/please give me, directly requesting for something I'm a beginner too so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong

[@awakepictures9435]

You can stick to the quite high level of politeness, but still a common requesting phrase if you want. Just replace もらえませんか with いただけませんか

[@zeroimpact742]

@@awakepictures9435 いただけませんか sounds as polite as もらえませんか, or rather more polite. I find those expressions to be overly humble at times. The literal explanation is that it says 'Can't you～ please？' or 'Is it impossible for you to～？'. They also anticipate a negative response.. You should say like いただけますか？ or もらえますか？ in many situations. ex) When you call a restaurant employee to ask for water：　お水をいただけませんか？ sounds too humble . お水をもらえますか？ is more natural If you think it is natural for others to do so, you should choose ～いただけますか/～もらえますか. Otoh, if you ask others to do something difficult or the person has no obligation to do at all, you should choose ~いただけませんか/～もらえませんか.

[@ilyaibrahimovic9842]

@@zeroimpact742 Have you lived in Japan before?

[@leonkhachooni3287]

Such an important lesson. Thank you Misa.

[@BQD_Central]

That the te-form is used for a request was something I knew, but it isn’t really written down in (german) university material. And before I ask the question what the te form of いく is, I’ve already found out it’s 行ってください。 Shogun 2 thought me that 行け　is something a general would shout to his subordinates.

[@dimestorephilosopher3308]

I am way too old to learn a new language, and I've always wanted to learn Japanese. After a few videos of yours, I honestly think I might have been able to when I was younger. Informative and fascinating. Thank you.

[@stupidiot7291]

I don't think there is an age limit on learning a language. You might not get very good at it... but who cares? If you've wanted to learn it, I say go for it, regardless of what society says you can and cant do. Effort is the biggest factor in doing anything, and I think if you temper your expections of skill to the level of effort... you would be happy with your results even if you dont get very far. --- This is from the experience of having studied 2 completely different languages as an adult. - I got both to better than conversation level, but dropped one due to the lack of interest in the language.

[@Mayakuya]

And then you learn どうぞよろしくお願いします ... :D

[@muzakkiwangjoo93]

i love the way you teach. with the hand gesture, and your accent is cute x3

[@IanCunningham92]

少々お待ちください was one of the first phrases I learned in Japanese. I worked at a busy restaurant in Waikiki at the reception desk and there were so many Japanese tourists who didn't speak English at all. I sometimes said ちょっと待ってください to them as well, because I didn't know then that it wasn't as appropriate in a business setting. I also said どうぞ when handing out pagers or menus to them. When I worked as a server at a Japanese restaurant in the UK the chef would yell お願いします to let us know there was food that was ready to go out.

[@zeroimpact742]

very natural and common I think. When you said どうぞ, you omitted a sentence like the one that followed ~こちらのメニューをご覧ください. When the chef said お願いします to you, s/he omitted a sentence like the one that preceded この料理をお客様のところへ～ . If you both know what to do next, you can skip some sentences. But you should have at least said, "メニューを"どうぞ to be polite to the customer.

[@IanCunningham92]

@@zeroimpact742 True, but when you're first learning a language you tend to not get the nuances, like when to omit the object of the sentence or what level of formality is appropriate in a give situation. I think most of the Japanese guests were just pleasantly surprised that people outside of Japan would make the effort to speak any Japanese at all and didn't really mind if the person's usage of the language was 100% correct

[@zeroimpact742]

@@IanCunningham92Yes, everyone can improve step by step. It was my small advice to help you for that.

[@ker82ker]

Misa-sensei, the romaji at around 15:00 shows go- shomei where it should say go- setsumei. Thanks for the lesson!

[@ShaneTheGeek]

I really like how you break everything down Misa Sensei it is very easy to follow. I like your style. :)

[@arsenemir0456]

Well as a french people, I want to improve my english and learn japanese and i can do both thanks to you. So ... 本当にありがとうございます。最高の日本語の先生です。

[@Konuvis]

Alors pour ameliorer ton anglais deja tu dirais 'french person' pas 'french people'. 'french people' c'est plutot 'les francais' ou 'le peuple francais'

[@arsenemir0456]

Je prend note ^^

[@lucky_edie]

First time seeing one of your videos, was really helpful. Cheers!

[@vietnamesetiengviet]

It is very helpful. Thank you very much.

[@paul6332]

Your lessons are so great! You are a adorable!

[@Xhalo1183]

From what I am getting is it sounds like go-noun-kudasai is used when trying to give a request from a position of authority and being polite. Where as onegaishimasu is making a request from a position where you have no authority. I remember hearing that negai is something like wish. So onegaishimasu is expressing the wish for something. Not sure that it is accurate as it has been over a decade since I was taking Japanese classes where this was covered. But I loved the video. I like learning about what sounds weird to native speakers and the notes at the bottom help a lot.

[@waldfee2283]

Great help! Thank you!

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Every language has these little complications. It's the spice of life.

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ありがとうございます、みさ先生!!

[@Bikerpunk330]

This video reminds me of your older video I just watched about suwatte kudasai vs sawatte kudasai! 😅

[@naturalselfyoga1617]

Great video. Very informative and well done. Glad you dont use romanji because it forces me to learn katakana and hiragana. Glad for the concept videos. I need to get into learning Japanese again.

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Great lesson of such a fundamental topic - no body covers it as well as Misa Sensei.

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Wow nice intro Misa!

[@samethan7667]

love your videos thanks

[@TheMichaelParkes]

Great teaching methods.

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I really love your videos

[@depressedteadepressoespres186]

11:12 we have this too it’s called “giving your blessing” or “getting the parents blessing” 😊

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Misa sensei I hope you always good. Happy. But if sometimes you feel down, It's okay. Even great celebrities feel it. There's peoples who will always listen your stories.