Jay Shetty Reveals His 8 Rules Of Love | The View

The bestselling author and viral social influencer joins "The View" to share why he encourages people to learn to be alone in his new book, "8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go."
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[@KnowTrentTimoy]

Great advice. Being alone is not and should NEVER be a time of depression. It's a time to reflect, reenergize, refocus and redo things.

[@janemariefuentes2988]

I spend time alone slacking

[@HH-gv8mx]

But what are the 8 rules? The only one I got from this is you should be able to be by yourself without being lonely.

[@KnowTrentTimoy]

@@HH-gv8mx If I'm not mistaken I've got 5 of his 8 rules in my response. That's MORE than enough for me to understand the importance of being single and alone for a period of time. The point he's making is that being alone and single is NOT the same thing as being depressed. And if you are depressed don't blame it on being alone and single.

[@HH-gv8mx]

@@KnowTrentTimoy these are very obvious points to me. I’ve known that since I was eight. You should be able to be alone without feeling lonely. Someone like J Lo could’ve used that advice.

[@KnowTrentTimoy]

@@HH-gv8mx It's not so obvious for some people. Common sense doesn't grow on trees.

[@Wellness1beauty]

Being with the wrong person is worse than being alone. But it took me long time to learn

[@Idkidc0t4]

I’m here because of Rosé

[@maryamrahman8344]

"I won't accept less than I deserve." Great advice. noted.

[@joannplehn9990]

i was distracted watching this by how beautiful this man is. The eyes. omg

[@winniejean-pierre9605]

You should see his wife! She’s stunning. They are a beautiful couple.

[@Hotrodchef89]

RIGHT!!! OMG he is so pretty and just the nicest person.

[@tobehonest7541]

Beauty is in eye of the beholder ....because he creepy lookin AF

[@cecegiles7286]

@@tobehonest7541 let's see your pic. This man is very handsome

[@janhavisatpute-il4ev]

Thank god some one said it😮‍💨

[@spartan0404]

Beautiful eyes…but also beautiful message

[@beccamarie9782]

I'm a person that loves being by myself. A homebody, and do things on my own. I've always been that way. I spend time with friend and love ones, but I cherish my solitude.

[@yschuler1]

Same

[@victorial1982]

I was married for 20 years and married very young. After getting divorced I stayed single for almost 2 years. I achieved all my goals for an independent life in those 2 years. I discovered gifts and talents I didn’t know I had. Got rid of all negative feelings attached to codependency. In the first 6 months it felt like an addict on rehab. I was so desperate for new love but after rediscovering myself and having new hobbys that truly give me so much joy doing them, being in a love relationship started to become irrelevant. And that is a very healthy state to be in.

[@daydreamer8007]

Thanks for sharing your story! It is really helpful to hear with the place that I am in right now in life. So thank you so very much!

[@maharajaneela]

An incredible journey of growth and reflection. Good for you 👍

[@wadedavid4375]

Being ALONE and being Lonely are Two different things!

[@jadebrice3869]

I might enjoy being alone too much 😂

[@Interstellar2123]

😂

[@Handle18880]

1) know how to be with yourself so you can give yourself and receive what you’re worth 2) Have uncomfortable conversations to improve the relationships 3) There is no perfect person, more choices make more bad decisions, deciding to make something work and putting forth effort leads to the longevity of connections 4) Be honest with yourself and then share your truth with your person 5) Build your self esteem by giving yourself credit and awareness on all of what you have survived through your own strengths, do not be disappointed that your partner does not fix your problems and your feelings, that’s your work 6) Release unhealthy fantasies and be realistic in the principles of love that truly makes sense for you 7) Get comfortable with things that irritate you in your partner and leave space for people’s insecurities and your own and make efforts to acknowledge and have compassion 8) Stop moving on so fast and so quick and put in the energy and effort to stick around and make things work, rather than suffering the same disappointments bc you avoid working on yourself

[@niccetta]

Staying alone for the right amount of time while working on bettering yourself can make you a very strong individual. As Jay said you won't tolerate nonsense and you can become very powerful if you take the time to discover your strengths without help from anyone. This act is not for the weak and the weak minded looking on who never spent that time alone have no idea why these people may behave the way they do .

[@KCNwokoye]

Wise man. The wisdom in his books is what I have been teaching my clients for years. I am glad that there is an audience who need to hear this.

[@michelleh4717]

you know that he plagiarized almost all his content

[@HH-gv8mx]

But what are the 8 rules? The only one I got from this is you should be able to be by yourself without being lonely.

[@Kahayuman]

@@michelleh4717 ohh can you share some?

[@annatar6453]

No one can make you happy, only you can

[@LanceNRusso]

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@elef.5697]

That's admirable, but please say divorce wasn't an option for you. Some relationships are abusive and toxic, and divorce is the way out.

[@TheKayleeanna]

@@elef.5697 1000% Agreed! 💯

[@saramatthews7159]

Such a handsome and insightful man. I wish we could normalize being alone more here in the West. There is nothing wrong with companionship, but I have gotten more in touch with who I am as an individual by being alone.

[@DelaAntoinette]

I am a fan of Jay Shetty and I really love his message and most of all, his humility. Happy to see him share his gift on such a big platform and within such a short period of time. Looking forward to reading his book.

[@NellieKAdaba]

I'm a fan of him, ever since he was in one of Lilly Singh's videos.

[@Hotrodchef89]

For me I am and have been always alone. I like my alone time, my jobs require alot of outward energy, but sometimes I want someone and sometimes I don't. I am slowly learning to be present and love what I have now and not what is in the future.

[@rara1800]

Wow, this is one of the best advices I’ve ever seen on the show! We don’t talk enough about this.

[@racky2227]

This group of View hosts is the best they’ve had in the last 10 years! Great conversations!

[@simonlee4552]

My husband passed away 5 years ago, I am alone, and I enjoy it a lot. I can do what I want, and I'm very happy. I love my life. 👍

[@helens3677]

Well darn lol

[@cecegiles7286]

Sounds like you're glad he's gone

[@juhi4]

Really?

[@surlespasdondine]

@@cecegiles7286 No, it does not mean that. Just that she made peace with it and allowed herself to be happy again. You are allowed to find new happiness after a spouse passes.

[@pourladentelle]

His accent is sooo beautiful to my ear!

[@jwalt8019]

He’s beautiful and very insightful.

[@carterbarlow8160]

He is incredibly wise. I loved what he said about Ben and Jennifer's love story.

[@Kilala.6029]

I love Jay and his stunning wife!!! Love to see his platform grow.

[@Pipiglande]

Anything he said I could not grasp because was distracted by his beauty and energy 😍

[@tobehonest7541]

you also must find lizards attractive

[@Pipiglande]

@@tobehonest7541 no, and neither venomous snakes like you

[@llfsmith1]

I just really like Jay, wholesome guy...

[@michaelhause2669]

Love yourself, be your own best friend, be your own lover, love yourself unconditionally ❤️

[@kali5587]

So true!

[@patriciavaughan1390]

Since I was 18 I was never alone. I had a 26yr relationship and he left me. I’ve been alone now for 2 years and I’m looking forward to my future.

[@winniejean-pierre9605]

Enjoy that alone time dear! You’ll find love again.

[@wellahartig6382]

This is addictive, being alone is so important!♥️🎈🙏

[@melamusicworld]

I love Jay Shetty, his teachings have impacted my life tremendously!

[@abe365]

I'm in a decent relationship, but I'm not afraid to be alone. Also, I don't expect my partner to be perfect, that's not possible. My point is, I'll be in a relationship as long as we both are happy, if not, I'm not afraid to let it go and be single.

[@landlice48]

I love 💕 my ‘alone time’ and I’ve created my own enjoyable life experiences world-wide. I’m a 74 yr old gal and I’ve got more goals in my future!

[@AquaFonic]

I’ll never do that again to many toxic people out there I’ve been alone YEARS i will Never let myself get involved with anyone again !! PERIOD

[@cecegiles7286]

You probably chose the wrong person

[@carolineb7796]

Great guest!!! Bring him back again!!

[@kingcobrarules8117]

Spinsters rule. This guy is 100% right!

[@faceyourskin1]

Beautiful man, beautiful spirit ❤

[@MarvKevea93]

Wow! This was so deep.

[@shalondawilliamslynard]

I love your heart Jay!! Can't wait until our interview 🤩 #ItsComing

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.

[@aussienic8428]

Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew. I NEEDED time on my own after a 20 year marriage. It taught me that I didn't need anyone to survive. I was perfectly capable myself. I have now decided to start being open to having a relationship but it's not the be all and end all. I'm doing just fine on my own.

[@AKandCo786]

Amazing

[@Improvemypronunciation]

Way to go! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@SleepyArcticBirds-ft4lb]

Great, sound advise. 🎉

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

Words of knowledgeable people gives us the strength of mind.

[@paulrichard3614]

Love Jay! Can't wait to get this book.

[@landlice48]

Love your true and wonderful advice.

[@giftforgab9638]

I agree with everything he is saying.

[@jeanetteschock4744]

I traveled across country by myself for 6 months and it was never lonely

[@ChanceCard9]

Brave

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

Best professor Jay genius l love his speech very much.

[@jed1680]

Unlike I have seen Jay from other long-form videos with other talk show hosts, it’s interesting to see him for the first time that he wears a high-end, chic designer label.

[@eduardosanchez3858]

Love the shirt he’s wearing. Relationships are overrated. Happy to be single and I’m not ashamed or feel like I’m lacking in any way.

[@AllThingsSoul]

Jay Shetty has discovered his gift from God and he is blessing the world with it! There is so much to be learned when we embrace each other's life experiences and culture. He is so handsome yet so humble. It's beautiful to see.

[@batgurrl]

I probably stand alone, but I often cannot watch most romcoms because they are ridiculously predictable. I. Enjoyed what he said about the genre.

[@sharonjo7630]

I usually don't care for romcoms because they're so unrealistic and/or corny. The only one I actually like, even though I don't really consider it a romcom, is Pretty Woman.

[@angieponders3844]

FINALLY! A "The View" has a segment making it worth watching! Great job, ABC!

[@Kundalini_Goddess]

There is a perfect person for your enjoyment and evolution at a certain time period in your life.

[@jacobdavis439]

The way sunny says monk 😂😂😂

[@ganesago]

To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom. Socrates

[@mooretodream]

Love Jay :). Glad to see him on the View!

[@faciasherman3655]

Amen 🙏

[@lexaneli]

Well said!

[@ruthsingh9058]

He is telling the truth listen to this help me as I get older in so many ways

[@jahsimmeryl2286]

💖💖💖

[@martynayuzbasioglu2280]

@4:00 most of people do not have emotional intelligence and communication skills that would allow them to express their thoughts, wishes and feelings. It takes lots of time and work to get to a point of deep self awareness. Not many are willing to accept own triggers and issues that can poison romantic relationships. That’s why it’s easier to blame on partner and convince yourself they aren’t good and leave them behind. But true love can’t be broken… it will last as long as people are committed and see each other as special ones…

[@vienicestyles]

Everyone needs therapy prior to getting into a relationship because sometimes the problem is …YOU. Self-reflection is Key.

[@amyreynolds3619]

I like it. Good advice.

[@stephanieawuah]

Good

[@ameliaberry285]

Let’s go Jay Shetty! Is the GOAT!

[@Mister006]

playing needy instead of becoming self-sufficient, attracts those "saviors"

[@TheRealDeal130]

Narcissists.

[@Kahayuman]

I love jay Shetty. Always been my go to when i need a little push in my life

[@shedskin01]

Who is this guy?! Can he be my therapist?! This is the type of reality check I need!

[@mooretodream]

Jay Shetty! He’s on Instagram, KZbin and Podcasts. Just type in his name. :)

[@surlespasdondine]

Coach yes, therapist no. He is not a trained therapist so he could not be yours.

[@deborahblackshear3325]

Good advice young man.

[@eddy1010]

What a beautiful MAN ❤

[@farializ]

♥️♥️♥️ J A Y ❤❤❤

[@h.peters]

I will never ever ever use Jennifer Lopez as an example of having knowledge of what is self love & self growth. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever.

[@kms7012]

There’s not enough Jay’s in this world to help these women.

[@anonymous-en5uq]

True! Too many choices! Many will leave and go with others hoping for the image when they find out there is nothing out there, they're all the same and want to come back! That's when their partner moves on. Read the book and get a grip before it's too late ☺️!

[@Matthew-vp9rh]

The way he makes all of the ladies giggle

[@youssefelbadry8780]

Agreed. But also who doesn’t love a former monk who wears Prada and gives us lectures? What a vibe.

[@Katrosemarie]

❤

[@melindamcafee1728]

Whoopi we want that top you have on today. Where can we buy it?

[@litchick2715]

Honestly he says valid things but doesn't everyone know them. They are generic advice. It's baffling how he's making money off of this!!

[@michelleh4717]

he plagiarized most of his content and passed it off as his

[@mercury_rising]

I attribute a lot to his looks. Would he seriously be successful doing the same thing if he was unattractive? 🤔

[@miapax1962]

You are right-the “Halo Effect”

[@sanchitasishodiar2619]

🙏

[@smb341]

Please also bring on show relationship expert Esther Perel!

[@sandrakaniki2594]

I wonder if I good sometimes because I love being alone. Then again I yes NAH I am alright because I love taking care of people too.

[@surlespasdondine]

I think in Europe it's way more socially acceptable to eat alone at a restaurant, go alone to see a movie etc. I love being alone. At certain times in my life I've been lonely, because there was TOO much time alone and not enough company, but in general I love and crave big chunks of times on my own.

[@kingcobrarules8117]

My husband says never trust a man with a neck tat.

[@daydreamer8007]

Bahahahahaha!

[@WilliamBrown-vb5ws]

Not surprising that Whoopi, the only co-host who is not married, had no questions during the interview.

[@sharonjo7630]

She's been married before...3x if I recall her saying.

[@WilliamBrown-vb5ws]

@@sharonjo7630 She is not married now though.

[@saramatthews7159]

Lol Whoopi has been there, done that and she is content with where she is in life now. Not everybody desires marriage.

[@daydreamer8007]

@@saramatthews7159 nor is or should marriage be the epitome of success in life!

[@saramatthews7159]

@@daydreamer8007 exactly

[@vincentbaca790]

Doesn't Sarah look hot in green?

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@maheshseth751]

all those girl sitting around trying to figure out how repeating common sense is a profession now.

[@vuyon5317]

What is he wearing. He usually dresses so well in his podcast

[@agnesostrow]

Wasn’t he accused of stealing people’s quotes and advice without giving them credit?

[@lindaasulin7200]

That’s not true,I was very happy alone and was fine going everywhere and doing everything alone,and I entered a very toxic relationship for 12 years

[@maxjones9249]

Am I the only one who gets hella red flags from Jay Shetty?

[@searchingsoul1728]

How so? He seems like every other hustler in Hollywood or celeb life.

[@colett225]

You are the only one

[@ilovemybrothers8637]

Why didnt this guy went all the way with his surname?!?!? Why????? He wouldve been legendary !!!

[@renealejandre3490]

He sounds amazing except the comment about "one of the most beautiful stories of the individual growth that is required" ridiculous, Jennifer lopez gets new men like I get new underwear, totally sad if that is one of the most beautiful stories 😅

[@michelleharvey9098]

Attractive people always find more than enough attention that's what we're not saying wgy do you think people are seeking beauty formulas

[@elbib73]

Why are people so sensitive? People have become so self centered.