If Their POTENTIAL Is Prolonging Your HEARTBREAK - WATCH THIS | Jay Shetty

If they suddenly ghost you in week 9 then it doesn't mean they would've suddenly been great in week 16. What that shows you is they only had 8 great weeks in them..
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[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@esterazoltan5683]

Rr

[@valeriaelma8596]

Thank you!

[@praveendetha6431]

Well the problem is, I just don't want to "just" get through life , I wanted to excel to make an impression an example...but all life has to offer is survival 😐

[@error_hd]

Hi.... I need to talk to you if possible!!!

[@MI-tk8yq]

I hope so becasue my heart is broken.

[@teketseltsige2011]

To the incredible person that's seeing this, i wish you all the best in life don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what success is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing .

[@palesatshabalala007]

Awww maaaan.. I felt that. ❤💯

[@dianevrhovac9349]

Thank you

[@robertmmuntanga]

time and patience is the most strong weapon to use in healing

[@lillydo7713]

Powerful information given here on potential. "Don't obsess over what could have been." It should have been but it wasn't. It would have been if it's right for you.

[@brainstormd]

You cannot explain life. You can only experience it.

[@ribaker822]

For once, two men talking deep about these core issues. I really appreciate this and respect these two men.

[@HammahT]

I was seeing this girl for almost everyday of the summer for 4-5 weeks. we were in a summer internship together, workout after and go beach after. I would see her more than my family and I would always buy us food. I honestly treated her like a princess and she treated me good too. She surprised me when she set up this blanket with flowers, and all my favorite foods, she made me a cake. It was an amazing night, she said that she wasn’t ready for a relationship but I kinda pushed it and was pressuring her about it because of insecurities, and I didn’t want it to end. So the last night I seen her I asked her out and she said she wasn’t ready but she was kissing my cheek after when I drove her home. So I stopped the truck and kissed her, and she reciprocated. I opened her door and thought that it was going great. But the next day she basically said that she don’t kno if she can keep it going and she doesn’t kno if she’s ready. So I respected that and offered her a break, she obliged. At first I was sulking (still kinda miss her) but I realized if she truly like me she would come to me when she’s ready but I felt disrespected. It was wrong of her to do that she was implying that she wants me to wait for her but she doesn’t want me to wait bc it would hurt me more. So I’m going to let it run it’s course if she comes back cool, if she doesn’t it’s not meant to be. But the problem is I’m hoping she does come back. Everytime my phone dings I want it to be her and convince myself to not get excited. But I don’t kno tho shit is annoying. If anyone is reading this thanks for letting me go on. I honestly just need someone to talk to. Don’t really got much friends for this kind of stuff.

[@palesatshabalala007]

Maya Angelou said, 'if someone shows you who they are, believe them.' ❤💯😅

[@Eagles.Fan.Since.Super.Bowl.52]

You forgot the most important part of the quote. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou

[@Sora-ry5xn]

A very big thing people overlook tho, even tho you shouldn't fantasize too much and perceive them as someone you think is, a long term relationship requires vision and dreams where both are committed towards. Planning is still crucial, potential is what makes people crave for the future and it takes work to build it. Just know that people who are able to persevere with you through obstacles will be that one you imagined. If not then they're not ready

[@nanasshi0711]

That early stage of infatuation dominated by the desire to impress, however natural that is, is truly exhausting. At some point you may loose yourself if you attach a large portion of your worth based on how they reciprocate

[@mikelaurenzaphoto8486]

My mom forwarded me this video because I think she can tell I still have warmth in my heart for an ex - I was with her for two years through the death of her father and we bonded extremely deeply. Sadly things took a wrong turn, we began to mistrust each other, and hid parts of our lives from one another. The relationship took place over covid, and I isolated myself from many family members and friends because her sister has muscular dystrophy (20% human lung capacity). I sacrificed so much of my life for her out of what I thought was "love" - but in reality, she wasn't the kind of girl I could ever make a future with. I was looking at her, a secular jew, to abandon her family convictions and follow me, and felt unloved when she told me she didn't see a future with me because of our cultural differences. It's a shame, but it happens. For anyone currently still processing a loss, be steadfast. Time heals all. Be well

[@timothy897]

We are in bro Broke up with a girl who had been with me for about 2 years because she started complaining about who I am as a person and just really lost feelings for me I sit back and thoughts of "she was only tryna help" bother me but hey, I'm a lot better than before ❤🖤 Time is Healing us bro ... God is also there for us

[@dianevrhovac9349]

Thank you

[@richardjosey6795]

Oh shyt! This is gold. Throughout this healing journey, I've struggled to work thru this. You've just helped me unlock the next level. Much appreciated.

[@rmaria95]

I wish I could meet Jay Shetty and give him the biggest hug. I'm really struggling right now, and he truly is a light in this world. ❤

[@mirelgoi7855]

Thanks for sharing the story about how your wife loves you for who you actually are. It reminds me of what I’ve read from a revelation called ”Discernment in Relationship”: ”At the surface of your mind, you might find much agreement, but at a deeper level beneath the surface of your mind, there are only a few who will be able to really recognize you. So there is no need to gain general approval, for this is hopeless if you are to be honest with yourself and honest with others. Seeking approval from people from whom you need something is a fruitless endeavor.” (By Marshall Vian Summers)

[@johnchapman5125]

Thank you, Mirel.

[@abuseinterrupted]

I immediately had to Google whether Matthew Hussey was married because this is the most mature advice I have ever seen him give. I love you both, here, discussing how much you've grown and where the disconnect was between where you were before versus where you are now.

[@the_free_Soul]

Thank you so much for having this discussion. I gone through an emotionally abusive break-up and he told me that I'm a narcissist.... I took it so seriously and i feel sad and awful about myself. I thought I'm bad person just because i want them to stay in my life but he refused to have conversations with me. Then after months of Grieving i realised and understood that "it's nothing to do with me" when someone throwing such words on me. It's their thinking. But now i realised my worth and moved on from this but Still Healing from all this. God gives healing power to everyone who are broken. 🙏❤️❤️

[@sonyaandrews1773]

This is so very true and my story too. May God continue to bless you through your healing journey.

[@the_free_Soul]

@@sonyaandrews1773 More power to you also dear.✨❣️

[@gauravbhan]

As long as we are on a path of self improvement, all will turn out great. Yes, when relationships dont work, we tend to blame each other. But in perspective, neither of us are the best fit and universe is giving us those signals. 🙏🏽

[@mukyalabeatrice2342]

This is so true

[@jimbernard71]

I am 1 month out of a breakup of the best 4 months of my life!!! I had to end it seeing the true writing on the wall... THIS IS THE MOST INFORMATIVE VIDEO YET... THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS 🙏

[@How.Dare.You.]

Matt is alway so articulte and such a great speaker. Not to mention his wisdom

[@welltivate]

Just wanted to say I REALLY love listening to these type of interviews and collaborations. I especially listen to them while commuting or doing chores at home. It makes it so much better. Make more please 🤗🙌🏼

[@brainstormd]

If you get one percent better each day for one year, you'll end up thirty-seven times better by the time you're done. - James Clear

[@kyleoliver5763]

Very related What’s your story?

[@WarrickRanger]

I made it to 7 dates with the last one, before she showed me that all she had was 7 dates in her. We made plans and started charting a future, and you're right that the loss of "7-date-her" didn't hurt nearly as much as losing the "rest-of-our-lives-together-fantasy-her". I don't miss a real person but I do miss an idea of a person I'd built in my mind.

[@jordancoetsee6731]

The point of a relationship is that you do create the future together. It's not a bad thing, that's where growth is. Life happens and you are supposed to grow together. It's a risk and that's where love comes in.

[@teamsteed1]

Thank you for posting the video.

[@caramelkyd]

needed this

[@ShaunGuerreroTheLoanOfficer]

Thank You so much for putting this together. I needed to hear it for a number of reasons.

[@Stephanie24842]

2 great coaches together! Wow!

[@sidharthasatapathy3491]

Love you Matthew ❤️🙏🏻 Such a genius are you.

[@jimbernard71]

THIS IS SO ON POINT!!! Thank you so much🙌🙏

[@zealh1495]

❤ that collaboration.. love it ❤😊

[@nunusameera1523]

Jay Shetti is a legend. Once you get addicted to watch his podcasts, you'd never get rid of that habit. What I fear the most is the idea that what would happen if Jay Shetti stopped doing podcasts. That's painful

[@selenyimarta5551]

I've always been suspicious when someone was too kind too "early". I felt it couldn't have been my "miracle". It is all about him. He is a kind guy. Because he loves being kind and lovely.

[@asomya87]

Thank you for this video. Really beautiful!

[@govindgargi27]

Two beautiful minds 🧡worth listening!! 🧡

[@jeffdasilva7203]

Wow!! These two guys are amazing together 🙏

[@maryamkhan2978]

I don't understand why would someone mistreat someone like Jay and Mathew. Like seriously!

[@msnicolevickers]

So good guys. Thank you for pointing out the need to always stay in the moment.

[@sonyaandrews1773]

This video was eye awakening !!

[@chologaming2887]

Man...... this is literally my current life haha....... man oh man... this hit me hard... but in a good way, I cried watching this because it's a reminder that there a better days ahead

[@virwindicahinggis7493]

I was in that told situation where u could never know what kind of person you're relating to when you feel anxious and insecure. So, I made an alert and reminder personally for my self, be mindful.

[@YacineFayethechangemaker]

Love seeing Matt and Jay together

[@Rima-ll5pe]

Great point. We don't know anyone. Thanks guys🧡

[@hansanathchamindu]

Thank you jay

[@violetasw1880]

Love the mentality, of they "gave a good season"

[@ChaparritaFilipina]

Wow I love this duo! 2 of my fav

[@yoshitaarora4240]

This was such a great video. Needed this so much right now. Thanks for putting this out. Learnt a lot.

[@rebeccahermosillo6]

Soooo good!! 🔥 ❤

[@tanningandtarot]

This is the KZbin video everyone needs to see

[@pJo2973]

Thank you.

[@mariopresi6551]

Been going through a rough patch lately..this short pod cast and a few comments I just read made me seriously think what happened recently to me! Tnx for your words 🙏🏻

[@seharali3168]

Love this duo

[@mrs.keisha4482]

This was so very helpful. Thank you

[@twofierce]

Yes! Yes! Yes!

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

My favourite speaker Jay genius

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

The special precious gifts than everything is love,kindness,peace in life.

[@eu5969]

Great!! Thank you!

[@rawsiebee1]

OMG!! I desperately needed this video in 2004!! Great information that I'll remember going forward. Moving on to better! Thank you!!

[@kateroth7154]

This was amazing.

[@akibammar1375]

Wow!great speech! 🥸

[@katherineloveclay]

Yes true.

[@utkarshasingh5588]

Thankyou so muchhhhhhhhhhh for this video ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@happydance1185]

Beautiful!!💪❤️

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.

[@gtsc]

Thank you... 😊

[@radhikasrinivasan826]

Am so glad someone pointed at the fact that people are easily being labeled as narcissist. The exact that I was having after seeing so many of these types of self discovery and personality types videos. Feels refreshing to hear this labeling being hypocritical to some extent. @4:35

[@sonny2744]

Yes jealousy pushed me over the edge even thou I loved her I would rather be alone than to live like that...

[@vo6172]

The moves lol! To funny love this clip just what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

[@FordMaverickFanatic]

I watched the whole discussion between Jay and Matthew before and it was great! Highly recommend it. I also highly recommend watching videos of Guy Winch on the subject matter for those who may be hurting. I'm a little under 7 months out of a relationship right now. She ended it unexpectedly on me. We dated for 8 months and I was absolutely in love with her. (We were best friends for the 8 months prior to dating) I still miss her sometimes, but I realize she's gone and I can't being her back. She showed me her colors. I know she isn't "the one that got away" because if she was "the one" she'd still be with me. And even if the relationship lasted longer, I'd be more devastated to find out later that she didn't feel the same. I definitely am doing better than I was in the immediate wake of the breakup. I am ready to start dating again, but it is genuinely tough to find new people. Hang in there folks! Have faith that things will all work out. I believe they will!

[@flowergurl0575]

With faith everything is possible Wishing you the best 🙏🏼

[@10ksam]

Good luck to you. Hope you will find the right one some day.

[@nokxy7019]

Same here going throu the same nd it's hurts so bad. I gave my all to the guy.

[@sailormoongypsy]

This was beautiful. You two together make such an amazing duo ❤️

[@jiglis5912]

Do you know the guest name ?

[@danielhobbs3964]

@@jiglis5912 Matthew Hussey

[@jiglis5912]

@@danielhobbs3964 thanks bruh

[@bilenhindi]

background music - dope!

[@tonis8018]

This is an eye opener for me… thank you both

[@kyleoliver5763]

I hope this works for you so far What’s your story if you like to talk!!

[@user-rf4qg7nb2t]

I’ve been saying that for years. It’s just hard to live by.

[@krishnakanukollu7695]

You are nervous because you only value a wrong thing. Great. Inspiring.

[@helloworld8561]

Ohhh Wow...What an Excellent Conversation yaar...🤩🥰 Those points were Just like straight arrows..🙌👏

[@pocketfulofposey]

Well, they say everyone puts their best foot forward in the beginning of dating. That’s why they say not to get attached earlier. Wait for the cascade to crumble.

[@joshuabarends3427]

This highlighted something I have been trying to put my finger on, in myself. What do we do when we identify this type of person in ourselves?

[@jennyyang973]

I really needed to hear this, after receiving some bad news. This surfaced randomly when I woke up this morning at 6:58am in Cali. I just realized my phone never stop playing KZbin. Thank you

[@Skj1028]

I think I made the same mistakes, now he broke up with me. I just love this person so much. I will go above and beyond for him to love me, then I started to lie about me so in his eyes I am perfect, when the truth is I am scared, wounded, and I can't accept my past. He make me face my own demons my own delusion my wounds. Now, he gave up to me.

[@sandradasilvaferreira5855]

I lept watching and I realise how far I halve come on my journey. I enjoy each date and no idea when I will see him again and I look forward to see him again without expecting. I keep working on my evolution.it is very important for me. To not change who I am, where I want to go . But I take time when we meet.😊

[@mattp415]

Love watching this, one thing that I have have learnt is that you should be proud of yourself and your uniqueness as that's where the true connection starts otherwise if you don't you are just putting a fake masks up

[@laviniasnow4494]

😯 Jay Shetty and Matthew Hussey in the same video! 🔥

[@hjflippen8164]

Thank you. needed to hear this. I was ghosted by a guy I was with for 1.5 years. To get closure I contacted his ex that I by chance found out her name; we talked for two hours. Came to find out He ghosted her the same week that he and I started dating. Sigh. She was so glad to get this info, because the day after he ghosted me, he started coming around her again! Now she knows the truth. I told her I was so sorry that he did that to her. Closure.

[@kyleoliver5763]

I go through exactly similar situations

[@discopotato675]

Wow... Holy shit!!!! I needed to hear that...the part about closure and such. I'm still struggling after breaking up with my GF in January. Not that "she was the one" aspect.. I know I made the right decision... But don't have that closure. And asking myself what more could I have done...."You HAVE closure!!!! “.... The thing that didn't pan out.... WASN'T the thing!!!!

[@Jacana-Alx]

Wow...so well put bro.... Trying to connect is more important then trying to impress..

[@africangirl189]

Saw your book somewhere in Africa in a bookshop

[@cassiestevens8382]

Thanks💜🌹🕊

[@Thomassina1]

It was so helpful to hear man-talk. I really had no idea that men romanticize potential of a girl, of a future w/them, etc. I thought it was only us girls who did that. It has truly given me hope ! Guess I'm jaded as I've come to believe that most men are after the deed and simply tolerate us as a means to an end. 4:48 desire to impress rather than connect . 6:48 it did not pan out 10:00 fantasizing about potential (hilarious!) *It would hv been - if it should have been*

[@ennn6582]

What is the background music on this? It feels motivational and inspirational!

[@shazme4915]

Space is mandatory even in exceptional relationship or wait for turn to come

[@copacopa4881]

I feel like either we try to excel or to autosabotage ourselves, it is coping responses. Both making us feel unauthentic. I give more than I'll receive, or I give less than I deserve. Can someone relate?

[@owumabonny6148]

Am going through a lot of about disappointment

[@moniquezmuda3924]

Amen

[@NirupamDeria]

Would've given a 1000 Likes if it were possible❤❤❤

[@subhashreerout2019]

Wowww... Awesome understanding

[@abhijitbidwe1878]

Would someone share the whole episode? Thanks

[@user-rf4qg7nb2t]

If it could have been then it would have been

[@gavinspeaks]

Detach from the outcome, let it go. You are always manifesting something, even if you’re manifesting things not manifesting. Trust the process. ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@renaidaleito8467]

Love ❤️

[@husan.kandol]

Interesting

[@AnnaBertram-zh6ci]

Is that whole conversation available as podcast?

[@discopotato675]

I'm soooooooo guilty of falling too fast