Jennifer Freyd - Betrayal Trauma

Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD, is a researcher, author, educator, and speaker. Freyd is the Founder and President of the Center for Institutional Courage, Professor Emerit of Psychology at the University of Oregon, and Faculty Affiliate of the VMware Women's Leadership Innovation Lab at Stanford University. She is also a Member of the Advisory Committee, 2019-2023, for the Action Collaborative on Preventing Sexual Harassment in Higher Education, National Academies of Science, Engineering, and Medicine. Freyd was in 1989-90 and again in 2018-19 a Fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford University. Freyd currently serves as the Editor of The Journal of Trauma & Dissociation. In September 2021 she will begin an appointment as Adjunct Professor in Stanford Med School’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and also as a Faculty Fellow at the Clayman Institute for Gender Research at Stanford.
Freyd is a widely published and nationally-renowned scholar known for her theories of betrayal trauma, institutional betrayal, institutional courage, and DARVO. She received her PhD in Psychology from Stanford University. The author or coauthor of over 200 articles and op-eds, Freyd is also the author of the Harvard Press award-winning book Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse. Her most recent book Blind to Betrayal, co-authored with Pamela J. Birrell, was published by John Wiley, with seven additional translations. In 2014, Freyd was invited two times to the U.S. White House due to her research on sexual assault and institutional betrayal.
In 2021 Freyd and the University of Oregon settled Freyd’s precedent-setting equal pay lawsuit.
Freyd has received numerous awards including being named a John Simon Guggenheim Fellow, an Erskine Fellow at The University of Canterbury in New Zealand, and a Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science. In April 2016, Freyd was awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award from the International Society for the Study of Trauma & Dissociation. Freyd was selected for the 2021 Christine Blasey Ford Woman of Courage Award by the Association for Women in Psychology.

[@nunontherunnumberone]

What's worse than sexual assault is my mother not telling my father to stop. Thank you so much for this video. Thanks to Dr. Ramani for recommending you. Her insights into gaslighting have helped so much. ❤

[@mauimarianne]

I also came here because of Dr Ramani. ☺️

[@PillCozbee]

How did you cope and did you evade becoming narcissist? I suspect my mom was abused by her father. Grandparents were briefly married then a sudden divorce and she wouldn't even say his name. My mom, however, thinks the world of him. I know some of his history and he was definitely capable of abuse. She created a False Self at that age and has been narcissist ever since.

[@karenallenfailinger]

I feel betrayed by the legal system

[@MACorrupt]

It’s a National problem 💔

[@sb1663]

They betrayed me too.

[@tompatterson6626]

@@MACorrupt it happens in Australia and other countries so it’s worldly. It’s the globalist bankers making money off this in court.

[@alicerose9140]

Thank you. Yes, betrayal trauma is the worst. It it wounds the very heart of trust and makes the victim seem complicit in their abuse. Also thanks to Sam Vaknin who directs his listeners to you and your theory of why we can be blind to it. It's frustrating that most youtube therapists only talk of it in terms of marital infidelity when it occurs in so many other ways.

[@AnimalFarm341]

Family court is trauma upon trauma

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Both my parents and both siblings, the extended family, then later, my spouse. Being betrayed was something I was conditioned to expect and accept. But what is learned can be unlearned, and that is what I am doing.

[@makaylahollywood3677]

My mother said to me, "I knew what your father was doing was wrong...but, i was afraid of him". She didn't say more- but, now that she's gone i want to ask her so many things. I loved my mother- but, i wonder if she realized i had feelings.

[@yvonnes7412]

Thank you for your work! By the time I was in the Navy (2008-2014), we had training and discussion forums with peers to discuss the issue of sexual harassment/assault and how people were to report it. They had developed a network of support and reporting options for victims, including helping to keep the issue private and protecting the victim. I had friends that went through assault including one guy who was attacked by two guys. He managed to fight them off and didn’t report them (mostly embarrassed and was in disbelief). Later he felt horribly guilty because those two guys went on to rape another guy. So he told his story to his peers as a warning that they should always report an assault.

[@TCpointsof]

Yes, institutional betrayal happens. I’m someone that has suffered such major trauma by my ex husband making up lies with my ex friend they co conspired to make me look insane to everyone. The rumors made up about me were so severe the judge didn’t care and wouldn’t allow me to even take mental evaluations to prove I’m fit. I lost custody of my child because of lies. I had to move across the country and start over. It’s been years ago and I’m suffering from parental alienation and so much trauma it’s a miracle I’m able to function at all.

[@wonder7798]

Thank you, you came at a time when I am struggling with my experience with a (pathological narcissistic personality) man. Whom I dated for 4 yrs. Recently separated

[@starlingswallow]

I too was married to a covert narcissistic man for 14 years. What hell. 4 years out (almost) and still healing ♥️ I hope you are doing good!!!

[@wonder7798]

Self sabotaging. I wish I could encourage self reflection in NPD. Awareness is so far out of reach...

[@keithstewart7514]

My mother used "Love" to betray me as if she actually was a Catholic instead of my Mother's "Other" I call by a BETR name as my NOTher!

[@kggr8458]

how do you mean? piqued my curiosity if we dealt with a similar situation)

[@nicoledpaolino9077]

I was raised by a extremely emotional abusive mother and 10 year older dark triad siblings who standardised exploitation and betrayal. I was never treated as the equal physiological player. Moving far away, I am finally free and healing.

[@lindsaya.barrios4730]

Alabama DHR was supposed to protect and find the truth; instead they took all my children from a safe and loving home and gave them to the people who conspired and accused me. They then allowed my children to be hurt by them. They didn't look at my proof or the journal attested in court where they had conspired; didn't take into account both men were currently in a custody battle with me. Completely insane and fiercely unjust. Imagine being separated from your children and nursing baby, jumping through DHR requirements and drug tests watching your children actually be hurt while they watch and ignore it, even when you have tangible proof. My oldest son had to rode a special bus to school his senior year instead of the car he saved and paid half for. My baby was neglected and not changed, sick all the time. Didn't matter. They had their heart set on me being the Abuser, woth ZERO proof except the testimony of those accusing me seeking custody of my children. Forget the psychological evaluation of one of the father's that says to rule out antisocial personality disorder and indicated alcoholism and violence. Institutional trauma is a very real thing. I hated them more than the fathers. They were supposed to protect my children, not the opposite.

[@markussteiner-yy8ty]

It’s funny she mentions the holocaust on so many levels.