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@chriscoin863 Жыл бұрын
As a Man , don't make the mistake of being in a relationship with a girl who doesn't rate u or not physically & sexually attracted to u . Women break rules for much better guys and make rules for guys they do not rate . . If she doesn't want to be involved with u intimatly , but she wanna stay as friends , let her go , unless u are ok with such rules .
@obivictor6701 Жыл бұрын
So true
@jaydeeentertainments2985 Жыл бұрын
Facts
@peterkariuki9475 Жыл бұрын
I see *Red pillers in the room.
@teachersikhumbuzomoyo5419 Жыл бұрын
Dump that selfish thing
@samuelpetros4757 Жыл бұрын
Your comment is better than the whole video
@eugenesmith8661 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think it’s immature to ask for a breakup if not getting sex. It doesn’t mean that’s all u want. The bathroom isn’t the reason why I bought my house but I wouldn’t buy that house if it didn’t have a bathroom. 🤷🏾♂️
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
U get sense
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. N it also means I’m not prepared to cheat on you 😊
@fahdwolf Жыл бұрын
Men lose the ability to physically touch anyone soon as he hit puberty. Scientifically speaking men can only express love in a physical matter opposed to women that is able to get stimulation from other things. When you cut a man off of sex it means he is not loved. No Matter how the women try to slice it he will not believe anything. Unfortunately some women are aware of this knowledge and using it against weak unsecured men for manipulation.
@asafoadjeiclinton3500 Жыл бұрын
Barsss!!!!
@damglad1675 Жыл бұрын
Yes I heard a comedian say that and it made soo much sense!
@fitforlifepft1 Жыл бұрын
No SEX? Just Leave! She thinks she is BETTER THAN YOU! Trust me!….She’s mad and THINKS you want her body only, why are Men not mad because she Only wants your RESOURCES and long term.. Bros.. Think!!
@yousernameish Жыл бұрын
absolutely, no sex means shes lost all respect. ditch her pronto.
@arandomguy.2309 Жыл бұрын
Obviously you didn't learn anything from the video you just watched
@arandomguy.2309 Жыл бұрын
@@fitforlifepft1 I've been on this channel since forever. If sex is your problem, patronize a hooker everytime you're in the mood. If a relationship is what you want, be ready to adjust to some of your partner's feelings same way she will adjust to some of yours. Compromise ! For people like you, the relationship/marriage ends when you're no longer sexually attracted to your partner. Why not? When you center everything around sex, at some point you will get more than even want to consume. What next? Infidelity? It's only an immature man that places sex first at all times. Many of you will complain about cheating wives and that's okay, most of you get what you deserve because you lost a good woman because she refused to give you sex (for reasons you both must have already communicated).
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
You’re a true ALPHA💯
@felixfrancis5139 Жыл бұрын
@@fitforlifepft1 exactly
@kulrulah1664 Жыл бұрын
There's always gonna be someone who's willing to give it up. What I can tell my fellow brothers is don't beg.
@biliplangus1242 Жыл бұрын
never
@sar9089 Жыл бұрын
@HLM How is that ??
@motivated_stoner_42011 ай бұрын
I think this refers to your actual girl tho
@romeezy985 Жыл бұрын
So let me get this straight, she's supposed to deny you the cookie and you're not supposed to look for satisfaction elsewhere ?? That sounds crazy to me
@noahfaroh1250 Жыл бұрын
Same here
@mr.bennett1807 Жыл бұрын
When they deny the cookie there’s another guy she’s seeing it. Same thing happened to me
@KPhils Жыл бұрын
Sounds too crazy to me too. I can't please.
@thewiseone6049 Жыл бұрын
She's giving advice from a woman's perspective. I advise you to seek further counsel 😆 🤣
@theophiluseniayewu6270 Жыл бұрын
Honestly
@Another_Look Жыл бұрын
On this one, I have to disagree, as have a number of men in the comments. If a woman was giving you sex before, then she stops, that means she has changed the nature of the relationship and she cannot reasonably expect you to continue behaving the same, while she herself has changed her behaviour (by withdrawing sex). And it is not a matter of "So all you wanted was sex!" No, she has removed a key part of the relationship. It's like removing a window of a car then when a passenger complains, you say "So all you wanted was a window!"
@xtraphilip Жыл бұрын
Hahah
@magabimagabi Жыл бұрын
ahahahhhh im dying laughing
@craigisaacs3506 Жыл бұрын
Hahahaha you nailed it
@Itsgold123 Жыл бұрын
That analogy 😅😂🤣
@chinonsogerard4469 Жыл бұрын
You must be a lawyer. Hahaha
@davidnicky916110 ай бұрын
Hi Jessica, I been following you for couple of years and I do really like your approach to relationship struggles and solutions but this one as a man I feel differently. As a man sex is very pivotal, essential and not only symbolic but defining. For my woman to deny me sex without prior explanation or cause communication, it portrays disrespect and disregard. For men we want you to make sence to us over your reactions
@semirecyclableclient10 ай бұрын
I experienced a sexless relationship for a couple of years. I didn't cheat and I didn't threaten to leave. We had kids together, for one thing. However, when you get to "mistake 3" and upwards, the problem there is that when you are dealing with this kind of situation the stress and depression that is put upon you MAKES you into not being that amazing person they once knew. You CAN'T just act as if nothing has changed and continue to be incredible, you don't have that kind of energy anymore because nobody has been returning the generosity that you put forth.
@hanielnasheed718910 ай бұрын
That’s the very hard part of being in a relationship!
@chukkswealthclothing937010 ай бұрын
Facts upon facts
@collinsbamuturaki427410 ай бұрын
Honestly, it gets really hard especially when you love someone with all your heart. Serious depression sets in & you start hating this person. The unfortunate bit is that she will later blame you for the change in behavior forgetting she's the one who caused it
@semirecyclableclient10 ай бұрын
@@collinsbamuturaki4274 Yep, exactly what happened. And I REFUSED to stop loving her with all my heart, but like I said that love was killed by constant disregard for me. Not bitter, just telling my story.
@ChrisP-ni4lz10 ай бұрын
Very well said
@andrewmabuza5246 Жыл бұрын
Mistake 2 is something I will never do in a relationship. The only reason we go into a relationship is sex, then the rest. Even women, cheat if you can't satisfy them. The moment she stops having sex with you, you have all the right to assume that she is getting it somewhere else. Chances are that she is already speaking to someone to which she will give it to him. One last thing, sex is a deal breaker for all men. No man will ever date a girl who made it known from a word go that no sex will be involved but women can date you just for the benefits and leave if she is not getting anything from the relationship.
@moneymantra7318 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@vakabonkapmache242210 ай бұрын
From experience I know for a fact once a woman stop having sex with you it's cause she is already talking to another guy. Her interest is somewhere else.
@zmatthew917 ай бұрын
Making alooooooot of assumptions here bro. Women change there minds more then thy change their sheets. Half the fun of being told no is seeing how you can turn that no into a yes and if you know how to operate you can turn that no into a yes. Someone once told me never expect sex from a female. I didn't understand then. I do now.
@andrewmabuza52467 ай бұрын
@@zmatthew91You're wrong. No mean NO. It is not my duty to try and convince an adult to change their minds. If they are not willing, they must inform me when they have changed their mind. I do not subscribe to mediocrity and no one should be subjected to such behavior. If a woman says no, it should be taken as such, not otherwise.
@samuelyemmy96204 ай бұрын
What if she’s still a virgin…?
@MrMaier3000 Жыл бұрын
I’d say 90% of the time, she’s not attracted to you anymore.
@ernestmalonkane8668 Жыл бұрын
The biggest thing is to really know what you want as a man. If you want a relationship that involve sexual activities with your partner, go for someone who is willing to engage in such relationship. I always say never try to make someone happy at the expense of your own happiness. It's not good both in the short and in the long term to put up with her "values" when ultimately that's going to make you an unhappy person. She is happy to be in a relationship with you and engage less in sexual activities with you or not engage at all. On the other hand, you have desires and the desires run high sometimes, but you just can't engage in sex because of her "values". It ultimately makes you a miserable man with a happy woman.
@iamagina Жыл бұрын
You are very correct.
@marvind.rogers1706 Жыл бұрын
Well expressed. 💯💯
@biembagodwin8352 Жыл бұрын
Word!!!
@chijiokeahalaekwuo7881 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@craigisaacs3506 Жыл бұрын
This sums it up
@JohnSmith-bh8um Жыл бұрын
Correction: everyone has a 6th sense of cheating. Physical intimacy is a love language. You need to make absolutely clear that your needs will not be ignored. We live in a time where everything is taken for granted. Your women will actually bank on the notion that you will not cheat in her. But, you do not have cheat on her to get your point across. Affirm that your needs aren't being met. Giver an opportunity to correct her ways. If that dies not work emotionally detach yourself from her. She'll reconsider her values. This isn't a guide to make someone sleep with you. Either she wants to be romantically involved with you, or she does not. You'll find your answer either way.
@darlingtonofoje4462 Жыл бұрын
True. a woman who really likes you physically and mentally won't play games or give you conditions. if any woman tries that gimmick with me, I don move o. I don't play stupid games. She ll break the rules if she really likes you jare.
@chaucerparks1713 Жыл бұрын
Excellent Advice..✌🏿
@shorts26 Жыл бұрын
@@darlingtonofoje4462 exactly
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@darlingtonofoje4462 I like your spirit, it resonates with mine
@dnas387310 ай бұрын
Johnsmith.. is the fjkn mannn..spit that knowledge.
@daveroberts4685 Жыл бұрын
As a man with a strong drive, I can tell you that to wait for a woman to give you sex and to have to resort to “satisfying yourself”, is very hard on the male Antony. This comes from several physicians who have relayed that prostate, lower lymph gland, and testicular problems significantly increase “satisfying yourself”, The best advice is to find a sexual active Woman!
@peterjamuBE Жыл бұрын
As a man the moment she suddenly refuse to have sex with you automatically she's getting it from someone else , simple.
@patrickemeka6286 Жыл бұрын
@@WitchOnABroomstick please where did you hear that from.
@zat-en-aphpaneah2830 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree
@carlousmagus5387 Жыл бұрын
@@WitchOnABroomstick The she can either kick rocks in Afghanistan or learn how to share. I'm not going to do my part as a Man if she won't even do the basics, which includes sex; Women really need to stop with the bait and switch bs. You know you didn't pull that crap with pookie, rayray, chad, tyrone, and hector so what makes you think you can treat me that way?
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@patrickemeka6286 ask for me wai😂
@jaylyon2328 Жыл бұрын
Word
@CdoGtheGreat Жыл бұрын
I think this video is good for singles that are just dating, but the truth is, unless you are an immature person or couple . Chances are if it's been too long into the relationship then your goals are not inline and you should just move on. Now I think the most common version of this topic is among married couples. Now that's the video I'd like to see. The implications are endless....
@chinyscentsforyou8681 Жыл бұрын
I have been in a similar situation and sorry Jess your solutions don't work. Most of the time, if a woman loses genuine desire for you they're gone. They only come to their senses when they see that other women desires for you. Unless it's because of a medical complication, if a woman is not giving me sex, I sure am getting it elsewhere and if she finds out, she decides whether she wants to stay or go! Otumfour Kojo Agyemang
@mobydick5046 Жыл бұрын
Yeah man, what else is there in a relationship if there is no sex???
@cheshire_skatkat9093 Жыл бұрын
Yes! And once it's gone it is gone for GOOD.
@lifebeingrevealedwithjudsonjay Жыл бұрын
I'm not SURE if letting a woman know that if she's not available physically, you will leave her is being immature (It's all in the tone, energy and information you provide when telling her this) Sex is a VERY serious part of a HEALTHY relationship and for me as a man it's a part of my comfort zone within the relationship so if she's going to take my comfort away without a reasonable explanation, a comprise would be ideal but if a comprises can't be reached an ultimatum has to be put on the board. I feel that if you say your going to leave her for that, the threat can't be empty, a empty threat is what makes you immature and this is just my humble opinion
@andrewmabuza5246 Жыл бұрын
This is so true. Sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship. Mind you, all women if they are not getting enough sex, will surely get it somewhere. They might not leave you but when she has to choose, she will choose better sex than a nice guy who meets her material needs.
@liamjoyce78317 ай бұрын
It’s a good opinion
@boscojay1381 Жыл бұрын
I remember when I dated my ex. She took time to give it away at the beginning. Fast forward and once upon a time , she gave it away within 2 weeks to “another”. So I think it depends on the lady…
@godwinjohn767 Жыл бұрын
Is interesting how we do say "give u sex" when we talk about men and women sexual relationships like if saying women don't want sex themselves, sex is mutual it should be "if she's not having sex with u" not "if she's not giving u sex"....we need to correct this idea honestly.
@alexgodwinchinonso4531 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@gabrieltetteh9830 Жыл бұрын
A big pointer!
@phylumphuck2568 Жыл бұрын
Because women decide when and who to give sex to
@robertdesmond1131 Жыл бұрын
It's soo irritating
@phylumphuck2568 Жыл бұрын
@@robertdesmond1131 it's not irritating..if she doesn't give u..what do u want to do....force her?
@lanniefisher8714 Жыл бұрын
It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, we all expect consistency. Don’t introduce me to an image of yourself you don’t plan on maintaining. If you like it 5 times a day, cool. If you like it twice a week, cool. Cause when you give us sex 3-5 times a day or week, we close the door on anyone else but when you suddenly stop without any explanation at all, you’re opening a window to invite someone else to do what you refuse to. A medical condition is a different story. Or any kind of legit reason. It damages us mentally and emotionally hearing no all of a sudden for weeks on end with no reason.
@jamescraig8601 Жыл бұрын
So let me get this straight. She gives up sex and then stops. The man is supposed to just accept it and show her his love with out receiving love back? Lmmfao
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
I’m stunned as well
@andrewmabuza5246 Жыл бұрын
@@archerx68 sex is the only thing a woman can show a man that she is in love with him. Tell me something else that you know which you are sure any man will be convinced she loves him if it is not sex.
@archerx68 Жыл бұрын
Goes back to the only thing women bring to the table is sex?...
@guitardedimbisol6087 Жыл бұрын
@@andrewmabuza5246 one of her hot friends
@Flyc2 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@frankgeez6584 Жыл бұрын
Simply drop her There are plenty of women Supreme yourself and level up Some lucky girl is gonna want that dragon
@wamacho Жыл бұрын
I believe relationship issues should be handled on a individual by individual basis. People are different and so is their reasoning and reasons for taking certain stands.
@terrence.boghart.2939 Жыл бұрын
Being denied sex in a relationship is a very unpleasant moment. I will say Moment because it's not supposed to last for a long time. There should be valid reasons to support why she is not giving you sex, because the same person who is denying you sex will be asking for other favours from you. Women are calculative beings and if she starts denying you what she has given before,your concerns as a man should rise. So I will disagree with you Jess because if she needs me to make daily sacrifices for her with my wallet and attention,she should at least give me some cookie, but if she thinks I don't deserve it then I should leave her and get someone else simple. Love is all about sacrifices.
@danielalex4133 Жыл бұрын
Yes
@linusarthur5634 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@BigMan-ke6zb Жыл бұрын
I would like to ask this woman, why does she think strip clubs are full of married men? It's because married women have this thing marriage twisted. Strippers are very smart too. They'll prefere a married man over a single guy. The reason is they understand why the married man is there. It's because of his none sexual wife or girlfriend. Believe that.
@hermanlucaslucas846 Жыл бұрын
One of the best comments ever indeed🤛
@archerx68 Жыл бұрын
Women get job/career... Save your money!... Men always make it about their wallet and your a$$🍑 pu$$¥ c😽 sex isn't Free... Sounds like legalized prostitution... Most women love men but hate Deez 🌰🍆🌰....
@marvind.rogers1706 Жыл бұрын
Jessica clearly works very hard at balanced perspectives and really I applaud her for it. 👏👏 But on the topic of sexuality, her natural feminine bias shows. And that's alright. For most men, libido is a fact. Libido is instinctual and does not lend itself to the realms of compromise. Either we're getting it or we're not. I also believe a lady's emotional needs should never be neglected either. Like Sizakele said in the comments below, it's best to be intentional about finding someone whose sex drive matches ours. Sexual compatibility is too often underrated and overlooked which will likely lead to problems later on. I've experienced this. This subject matter can be almost entirely avoided by being honest with ourselves and our potential partners about our sexual appetites early on (not first date, but soon thereafter 😜). Good conversation! 😃
@andrewadusei3883 Жыл бұрын
True paaa😂😂😂 she is thinking like a girl here paaa
@alexireri8858 Жыл бұрын
I concur
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@andrewadusei3883 😂😂 Andy she’s a girl noww. I guess you remember she said that if your lady isn’t willing to give sex, you can both negotiate for her to come sleep over for emotional connection. Woaaa how does it sound in your ears??😁😁😁
@andrewadusei3883 Жыл бұрын
@@kofiduku934 😂😂 emotional connection b3n. Everyman is a man and every man might respond to situations differently, if you dont give him sex and he leave how does that make him inmature. the lady is supposed to submit and give him what he wants so the two of you can leave in harmony but if you can’t give him that and he finds it somewhere else what is inmature about this.
@hermanlucaslucas846 Жыл бұрын
@@andrewadusei3883 nothing that's the problem women do not rule the world God loves men just as much as women meaning that it goes both ways if he can find better then he's entitled to as well as the woman no love lost..
@marcocasamassima389 Жыл бұрын
Dear Jessica, sex is one of the basic needs on the Maslow pyramid, the "physiological needs". Food is also a physiological need on that very same model. You can ask someone not to eat for a week, maybe two, but at the end that physiological need has to be satisfied. I completely understand the point when you talk about possible objective obstacles to sex, it can be some health issue for example, nevertheless an healthy human being (not talking only about men) cannot compromise on this basic need for too long. This is just my humble opinion.
@tobiadeiza2018 Жыл бұрын
And if it's an health issue that's why they say communication is the bedrock of every relationship so she should be able to talk about it if she loves you she should not be keeping quiet that quietness drives a man crazy cause your mind will be thinking many things like maybe she is just using you and nowadays most girls do that that's why at the end that when the guy propose to them they throw the ring at him because they never loved him but using him so if your girl is doing that especially someone who has a lot of experience so what do you expect a guy like that to do so I believe there should be a good conversation between them serious one at that
@timilehinkolade5088 Жыл бұрын
Very well said
@Expensive-op6pn Жыл бұрын
After marriage your submission stands, if before, then it becomes a whole different topic.
@miguellorenzo3609 Жыл бұрын
It's very simple she doesn't respect you and it's time for you to go your own way...speaking from experience of course
@Thor133327 ай бұрын
I disagree. Its not fair for a man who is in a monogomous relationship and is faithful to have to put with that. Basically she has friendzoned him but still expects all the benefits of a full relationship. Its best to leave her alone.
@K3MU3L Жыл бұрын
Solution number 5. A married couple who now have kids wanted a code word for sex so they agreed to use the term, "use the washing machine". One day the man came home and asked to "use the washing machine" and his wife replied, "Not tonight hun, a bit tired". The following night he came home and asked again and she replied, "Not feeling like doing any laundry tonight, I hope you understand". He said ok and went to bed. The following night he came home before her and waited in bed. When she got home she asked, "Hun would you like to use the washing machine tonight?". He replied, "No thanks, I had a small load so I did it by hand" 😁
@abelhernandez2381 Жыл бұрын
She better watch out. He might stop at a laundromat soon.
@thomasuwewichmann4398 Жыл бұрын
Finde ich gut damit hat man der Frau das Instrument der Manipulation entzogen und sie kann selbst einmal darauf hängen bleiben. Wenn Sie es dann mit jemand anderen macht dann hat sich die Beziehung wohl erledigt.
@mc_wizzytv9269 Жыл бұрын
Hahaha Baba don start Handromat
@dimensionexo. Жыл бұрын
😸
@directorisaacage Жыл бұрын
@@thomasuwewichmann4398 💙
@skizzraw3034 Жыл бұрын
Love is more than that, but so many females say, “ love don’t pay my bills”
@jreid100 Жыл бұрын
Guy’s it’s not that serious. Just move on!!!!, and get it from someone else. Don’t be thirsty always make them want you 🤷♂️
@bokilo12 Жыл бұрын
The same woman will break the rules for another man in a split second. Sex is not the price just as my responsibility towards her is not the price but duty. Brothers run
@josiahflame7477 Жыл бұрын
180km/hr🏃♂️
@barakawabuge5285 Жыл бұрын
Murife dont run 🤣
@fredrickkoech8396 Жыл бұрын
Rules are made for beta men and broken for alpha men
@fitforlifepft1 Жыл бұрын
100
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
💯
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
The SIMPS will never get this😂
@bazbonbonair2884 Жыл бұрын
I got cheated by ex wife, in a BIG WAY. I am 55 being 18 years in the marriage, with two handsome children. I would like to share an extremely important suggestion. You can consider it to be an add on, to beautiful Jessica's video. As we ALL aware INFEDILITY number one problem, in breaking of the marriage. Very important GUY FRIENDS, never take your friend home. ALWAYS guard your wife from the closest friend or closest relative. This phenomena normally takes place within or around your family. So beware guys, keep your guard up, at ALL times.
@hlalelemohale729610 ай бұрын
Blessed is the man who hears his kids calling you mom. I am here in SA🇿🇦 and I wish I were that man! He is truly blessed! I have followed you for sometime you are the best!
@ibrahimfadiga5174 Жыл бұрын
I am not agreed with you with certain points. I believe if a woman is truly attracted to you. She will give you no matter what. A lot a women put a rules for men that she is not attractive too and prefer to give to someone else that she is in too
@Cyan_Cap Жыл бұрын
BINGO ...
@vyceentertainment82385 ай бұрын
Ive done the exact opposite and had a wonderful relationship, dont ask a fish how to catch em
@pontianekakoro1737 Жыл бұрын
Jessica, no man should stay in a relationship where there's no sex. Once she denies you sex go get it elsewhere.
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
👊🏾
@romeezy985 Жыл бұрын
Point blank period
@egogeo Жыл бұрын
Simple. Any woman that doesn't understand that should get out of the relationship or not get married.
@stephenlucas961 Жыл бұрын
I think this works on a single level. Once women and men are married, you are telling your partner that they are the only one. So many marriages end because they become sexless
@danielijeh2559 Жыл бұрын
If a lady uses sex withdrawal as a manipulative too... I recommend reading the manipulated man by Esther V. You don't give sex, you engage or partake in it. Thanks.
@bokilo12 Жыл бұрын
Unless a woman is a Virgin or denying for health related reasons, denying ur man sex or a man who loves u sex is purely manipulative. What if I stop providing for her as well for a while, will she stay ? Brothers when a woman denies u the cookey and it is not health related for more than a week or 2 ,brothers move.
@alexgodwinchinonso4531 Жыл бұрын
I support you
@gabrieltetteh9830 Жыл бұрын
The woman being a virgin isn't even an issue. When a woman truly loves you, they can go to lengths of even breaking their virginity. Just for you.
@bokilo12 Жыл бұрын
@@gabrieltetteh9830 i agree my brother. Some of these over westernized African women feel it's ok to use sex as a tool of manipulation and expect men to flow in the name of love and duty. While a man would is expected to maintain his duty to her no matter what happens. You deny me the cookey and i get it elsewhere plain and simple but will still love u. It's not dat deep.
@TheAILLC1 Жыл бұрын
Exactly. This makes alot of sense.
@shantelm2013 Жыл бұрын
@@gabrieltetteh9830 that very mistake that has made woman change their mind abt giving the cookie
@myoozikismylife11 ай бұрын
My wife of 30 years just told me she does not want to have sex with me because I don't help enough with the kids. She says although I don't work I could give her a break sometimes. I told her she was wrong to think that way and that moms and dads never get a break. I asked for Hugs and Kisses after realizing I had not been hugged or kissed by my wife in almost six months. Seems like the wife is the roommate and I didn't even know it.
@rodneydavis2955 Жыл бұрын
I love your channel Jessica 💯 But I disagree with you on this one. Based on the mistakes to avoid, it appears the woman has the power in the relationship.👍🏾 If a woman chooses not to have sex with her man, then that is her choice. However, the man has the choice to leave her as well ‼️
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
👊🏾👊🏾
@knockdadeathstroke3799 Жыл бұрын
It's interesting how I found myself here and haven't done any of these 5 mistakes. I never begged for sex, always prioritized true love, always wanted my partner to feel good first and make sure she can trust me, Id even delay sex myself. But my ex partner didnt still give me sex and I still dont feel bitter or bad about it, sure, I wanted it but it was never severe, could always control myself and find other things to do with her, what does kinda suck in my experience is that despite me being understanding, loving, utmost loyal and caring...she wouldnt reciprocate. And its still fine, I grew from that relationship and wouldnt take her back not because she didnt give me sex...but because of her selfishness and not being sexual with me is only one of the signs of that.
@andrewmabuza5246 Жыл бұрын
Then you must have grown to understand that a woman who denies you sex and you understand, will surely lose respect for you. Women don't need a ye mam man. They take you as a weak man. You need to stop it now. Make sure you're also prioritized in the relationship as well. She can't be the one whose needs are met without compromise but cannot satisfy one integral need of the relationship.
@knockdadeathstroke3799 Жыл бұрын
@@andrewmabuza5246 oh believe me man I would say no to her plenty of times. And yea, I shouldve ended it sooner, definitely. Crazy thing is she is now stalking me probably wondering why Im not hung up on her after she left. I upgraded, prioritize myself and I work everyday. She couldnt come back even if she wanted to. Im seeing other women, hell, even sleeping with some.
@astonkenya7561 Жыл бұрын
Did you spend your money on her in the first place
@ekenedirichukwuj.muojekwu7484 Жыл бұрын
I smell happy friendzoning
@PKBassPlaya Жыл бұрын
Jess, I always love and rock with your content and hope you get to over 5M subscribers very soon. However, this content was a direct contradiction from some of your earlier content advising men in this same kinda situation. You've told us guys about watching out for these kinda traits ladies use in manipulating guys and yet you're giving advice contrary to what you've mentioned earlier. For guys out there, just know that the moment she starts manipulating you by witholding the cookie all of sudden, find the self respect within you to walk away. It really hits different when you're being there for her both emotionally and resource wise and there's no reciprocity whatsoever. Her body her choice fine and good but also know that it's okay for you to walk away when you're not getting what you want or desire either especially when you both have made it known from the beginning. 9 times outta 10, if she's stopped being intimate with you no matter what flimsy reason she gives you, she's most likely getting her back blown out by another dude. You're just the safe (nice) guy she can do that to because she knows deep down that you'd probably simp and stay. Some of you see the writing on the wall but still think you can speak English and reason with her. Negotiating cuddling instead 🤣🤣😂 now that one took me off guard. I really laughed at that one I must say. Personally, I make my intentions known from the get and I'll also tell you if you plan on playing these manipulative games, I'm a master at that as well. Find the respect and dignity within you to come to terms with the situation, end it and find someone else who'll play ball on your level. There's nothing wrong with that.
@Superlumy Жыл бұрын
Well said.
@zat-en-aphpaneah2830 Жыл бұрын
This is some of the best feedback I have come across on this video. I wholeheartedly agree with you. I am currently going through a similar situation and she blames her hormones for the abrupt interruption of our active sex life. However, since she is not my wife but only a girlfriend, I have the discretion of getting my groove in with somebody else.
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
I want you to know that I liked this comment before finishing it cos the sense is accurate. Women think we reason exactly like them
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@zat-en-aphpaneah2830 medaase. Pls do
@khotsojusticemafethe4473 Жыл бұрын
Well unless she's a virgin or very undoubtedly religious I don't think I'd put myself through that for any other reason... sex is one thing I could never deprive myself of because of someone, especially if we have had it before. If you don't give it to me then I'm getting it somewhere else
@romeezy985 Жыл бұрын
Period
@nancyntokozomahlangu4512 Жыл бұрын
Hi Jessi love your channel I sometimes watch it the whole day and forget I got chore 😅 ...sometimes a woman can stop having sex with a men because they don't share the same sexual energy to the point where the female just stops feeling sexually attracted to the other person...
@darkphoenixaresryu Жыл бұрын
Men get married for 2 reasons primarily. 1. Consistent sex and 2. To start a family. When a woman you are married to you denies sex she is violating the covenant of marriage. Have a conversation find out why express your concern and if she continues to deny sex then leave the relationship it is over. If she is dating you and you have never had sex then know what you want. Men never settle for less than what you want. Jess I agree with not threatening and not cheating, I don't agrees with continuing to spend and do for her. Pull back have conversation and know your limits men.
@stuyvesantrockwell7070 Жыл бұрын
All relationships are transactional.
@sar9089 Жыл бұрын
How is that ?!
@stuyvesantrockwell7070 Жыл бұрын
@@sar9089 you pay with you time, money, resources, attention etc etc. you give something to get something.
@prophetfrankowusumensah9578 Жыл бұрын
When your woman who always gives you sex, starts not to give you sex, I can give you 💯 assurance she is no longer interested in you anymore. Her mind is somewhere else, if you force her, she will lie down for you to come do it and go, she won't participate. If you see her coming back to you, the other guy disappointed her big Time so she will quickly change for you. There are times naturally even men don't feel for sex, you have to take note of this too;if she don't want sex for a day or two or a week is normal Bro. Understand her and give her time, maybe she is going through tough times
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@WitchOnABroomstick pls stop that crap😮
@princered7459 Жыл бұрын
@@WitchOnABroomstick no but the fact that your vigilantly commenting that everywhere shows your pushing an agenda.
@princered7459 Жыл бұрын
@@WitchOnABroomstick no but the fact that your vigilantly commenting that everywhere shows your pushing an agenda.
@angeleyesjr9676 Жыл бұрын
Especially when there on the rag!
@GamingJean Жыл бұрын
A wise man once said never take relationships from a woman there side is always chosen.
@chijiokechristian6931 Жыл бұрын
I disagree with you. What is love without sex? Well, if you want a relationship without sex, also consider a relationship without collecting money. I COME IN PEACE
@barakawabuge5285 Жыл бұрын
She begs
@Expensive-op6pn Жыл бұрын
Marry first, thank you.
@barakawabuge5285 Жыл бұрын
@@Expensive-op6pn so both money and sex should wait till marriage
@barakawabuge5285 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
When I meet a comerade I trace them. Big ups bro👊🏾😁
@jubilantvision2212 Жыл бұрын
Maybe it’s best not to get in a relationship with a woman who doesn’t want to sleep with you; because some of her have predominately sexual relationships with their exes. It’s best to stick with the ones you click with.
@cleophasrangwena4185 Жыл бұрын
Hae teacher, your channel is much of a blessing mostly to Africa society where sex lessons are viewed negatively. God bless 🙏
@alvinjayson Жыл бұрын
@Jessica Os, I have watched most of your videos and I found them helpful except this one. Today I choose to respectfully disagree. If she doesn't want to give you some, just leave her - End the relationship right away. There is no time to play games.
@patrickkatongo8597 Жыл бұрын
No time, indeed. I agree
@willthiswork8 Жыл бұрын
Exactly. This video would have be valid maybe 10 years ago . If the woman is not giving it up she basically has ended the relationship in my eyes . No way I’m gonna stick around for that shit .
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
@@willthiswork8 while you’ll be demanding responsibility from me
@alvinjayson Жыл бұрын
@@willthiswork8 what another woman won't do, another will.
@willthiswork8 Жыл бұрын
@@alvinjayson facts!!
@macdonaldselahle606210 ай бұрын
Women loose interest after giving birth. I dated a woman with 2 kids and things changed after we had a child (my 1st child) and I lost my job. Intimacy stopped from her side and I tried to communicate this and suggested we seek counseling to help us find ourselves. She dumped me and told me she's going back to church and feels dirty that we are having Intimacy out of wedlock. I decided to leave the relationship because of the increasing disrespect from her and her kids. Best thing I've ever done for myself.
@elppiofficialАй бұрын
This is what am going through
@Marcaunikas Жыл бұрын
The worst thing that any man can do is to believe that any woman is too special. There are many women out there better than that woman you are with, If you are not getting love as you want just move on to another woman. She can't stay with you if she is not getting anything.
@isaacelinamspielberg5752 Жыл бұрын
If she won’t give you the P. Please move on. She’s not going to give it to you. No time to waste time.
@Brentronixx_ent Жыл бұрын
Jess how on earth could I ever repay you 🥂 I’ve never been so composed ❣️ please don’t stop
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
Just share my videos with anyone who needs to hear them too. It's the best you can do for me right now ❤
@ronaldanane5451 Жыл бұрын
Hmmm Jessica de3,I just want to see her with my eyes…I still think she is some celestial being…hmmm…she rocks too much it’s makes me teary…nipa but koraa na ne ho twa sei??? 😩
@judeodika1208 Жыл бұрын
Great video, Jessica!!! I wish men & women can put in the work to understand the psychology of the opposite sex. Don't bother being with a man if you won't invest the effort to understand how a man thinks and feels about these things; so that you can effectively learn where, when, and how to make compromises. I dare say that a man's desire for sexual intimacy is akin to a woman's desire for attention and affection. You will always find the average woman where the attention is, and you will always find the average man where the "cookie" is. Starve either of them of their 'drug', and watch that relationship fade. Trying to fight it is trying to fight nature... And nature ALWAYS wins.
@damianlawrenceagoh8017 Жыл бұрын
Mr Jude spot on, you just nailed it..
@psalmodyinspirational1212 Жыл бұрын
This is not only true, but brilliant!
@kobichidi2827 Жыл бұрын
SPOT ON!!
@burselfkatcher2934 Жыл бұрын
Succinctly opined. Cheers!
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
Woaben ‼️
@henryhyde2399 Жыл бұрын
This is the biggest load of garbage I've ever heard in my life. If she won't sleep with you before marriage that's fine if you're into that too. But as far a women you've already slept with leave her, shes either cheating or she wants to period.
@sizakelecomfortmtshweni9530 Жыл бұрын
You're lucky when you get in a relationship with someone whose sex drive matches yours...
@numbianqeeen4356 Жыл бұрын
Yes but also dangerous, if she removes her panties that easily for you she will do it for anyone
@numbianqeeen4356 Жыл бұрын
I wouldn't say lucky because the day you get sick or travel then who's gonna take care of that sex drive, huh she will cheat on you 100%
@BigMan-ke6zb Жыл бұрын
Well, if he isn't getting wh at he wants, why stay? She'll never change. Women have and used their bodies for yrs to get what they want. After they get what they want then her true self arrives. This is a problem for men. Men have to learn this before they get into a relationship. Especially marriage. I've known Women to have told their guys that, " I never liked doing that anyway " this comes after you've made that commitment to "I do". So Women quit playing that game.
@sizakelecomfortmtshweni9530 Жыл бұрын
@@BigMan-ke6zb Well that's unfortunate. What I am saying is you'll actually see this from her talks and actions. You don't have to intimate every time. Immediately you do that, it can get boring and it's more of a red flag
@kofiduku934 Жыл бұрын
Paaa
@markoperic5023 Жыл бұрын
If she said no. I take it as a no. And not try to prove to her that I do care. One girl acused me so many times that I dont care. And broke up with me. Saying she hopes we can be friends. I told her I dont want to be friends. And left. Next day she texts me saying she is obsessed with me. So clearly. What you are preaching will only lead relationships into friendships. And not back into romantic relationships
@tochidavidbeloved6566 Жыл бұрын
The moderator talks as though sex is just for guys alone,she paints this picture of guys being sex hungry at all times and benefits more.Always strike a balance ma’am
@ngwadeyo8847 Жыл бұрын
And this women want sex more than us but they just have de guys they want it wit
@rumeeburu3648 Жыл бұрын
Hey Jess, thanks for this. It was really helpful. I'm looking forward to a video describing a situation if the table was turned: "What to do when you don't want to give her sex and she's upset." That kinda thing.
@gabrieltetteh9830 Жыл бұрын
It's very rare to hear men not wanting to give a woman sex though.
@joseazeite Жыл бұрын
Im also interested to know if things turn around. What women would do about it? Greats from Dublin.
@WitchOnABroomstick Жыл бұрын
@@joseazeite i would stay with you forever!!!!
@anyaorahuchenna1022 Жыл бұрын
I'm interested to know too seriously 😀
@jeromebarnes2812 Жыл бұрын
Lol... Listen..
@odinakajulian7474Ай бұрын
I love the angel Jessica is coming from. It's mostly about the kind of person she is, what values she upholds. Though most women don't give in into sex easily so as for you not to tag her as a loose woman. Therefore, we guys need to be patient with them most times unless it's transactional
@a5324edits Жыл бұрын
Hi Jessica i love your videos from KENYA ❤️❤️ reply first comment 😃
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
@nelsonmbindyo8893 Жыл бұрын
Me too
@gilbertkangwa5 Жыл бұрын
Am really touched thanks alot it's like everything about this video pointed out my situation will surely follow your advice 🙏
@spiritmoneysssspiritmoneys9902 Жыл бұрын
Love is sharing, and sharing is supposed to be reciprocal. Ever think if a man approached a girl and there is nothing like sharing at all, how would it be? To me it's selfishness, if men are also selfish, how would it be... A man loves u genuinely, cares for you, and wants to share the love with him by making love and you find reasons to decline,but u would take everything he gives you without saying that it should wait? My dear it's selfishness, love has to be expressed, and one significant ways of expressing love is by love making
@blendzcityblueb4862 Жыл бұрын
Hello Ms. Jessica I usually don’t make a point to comment on any KZbin videos (yours or others) but this particular video I felt deemed a response. I think the advice you gave to the guys on this particular video was wild and unrealistic. It’s not only frustrating but disrespectful that every time a man’s needs or desires are referenced by women they’re deemed as immature. As men we are expected to provide provision, protect, and profess to the women were involved with no matter the case and if we don’t than we’re immature, insecure or some other shaming language to justify the manipulative tactics that women use on men. Any man in any relationship who is not also having his needs met by his partner should leave. Simple. Not because he’s having a tantrum, but because relationships are about both parties needs being met. Not just one side. It doesn’t matter if the need is something small or large. If it’s something that is valued by that partner, and was understood by both parties that the need was expected to be met in the relationship than that person is not holding up their end of the bargain. Only men are expected to continue to meet all the needs of their women and get nothing in return. No man values cuddling over physical intimacy, and we should not be asked to compromise our needs by our women. If men told women like “Hey my love, I found a new religious belief that doesn’t allow me to protect you unless we’re married so whilst we’re dating if any danger arises you’re on your own” no woman on planet earth would allow that. Women understand that the protection from their counter part is a non-negotiable thing and would never listen to any man trying to convince her otherwise. I don’t want to harp with this comment it’s already entirely too long but fellas if you’re in a relationship with someone who is not willing to meet your needs with the same energy that you meet theirs LEAVE! Find yourself a partner who’s better aligned with your values and willing to meet your needs like you are to them.
@burtpayak7 Жыл бұрын
So the man won’t get sex but he will get respect. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@philipodallo7950 Жыл бұрын
I had to park the vehicle for this...🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
😀
@philipodallo7950 Жыл бұрын
Much love and support from Kenya 🇰🇪
@sincerehatten8841 Жыл бұрын
Lol thought I was the only one.
@incredibleramadhani901 Жыл бұрын
🤣
@roberttruman8444 Жыл бұрын
It's a pity that in the 80/90s sex and in particular men's sexual needs got downplayed so much in society and our media, and not regarded as important for our mindfulness and fundamental to the health of a relationship. I wouldn't enter into a relationship now without having discussed sexual tastes and libido and recognising a sexual compatibility as well as being compatible as people. One thing that I think is not openly talked about enough is the inclusion of sex (of any kind) in the monogamous relationship model and the codes and morals promoted by faith groups. Marriage was brought in for a several reasons, but one was as a way to legitimise sex between couples rather than sex being written off as a sin. Although in reality it had more to do with suppressing female sexuality, but that's another debater altogether. The way it's considered as something that can only exist between a couple creates some unhealthy attitudes for people. Those who aren't into sex and don't need it often or even at all, feel obliged to "lie back and think of England". The more dominant ones who refuse to have sex and belittle their partner's need for sex feel hurt and betrayed when suddenly their partner receives it elsewhere. The person wanting sex but not getting it is forced to endure feelings of frustration and rejection. If he/she has to beg and plead for sex or resort to masturbation (which just ain't the same) then they have to get used to feelings of shame and dissatisfaction and this alters their behaviours and interactions meaning that other people could suffer as a result. If they get it elsewhere then they have to live with a sense of guilt as well as dealing with the stress of the risks associated with it.
@norman4870 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being who you are, GOD bless you and all who are close to your ❤
@twisted240z Жыл бұрын
Sometimes when a woman abstains sex in a relationship it is because she’s the one that’s cheating.
@mc_wizzytv9269 Жыл бұрын
You're so loaded with Wisdom Jessica, all enlisted, I was guilty of sometimes. Thanks so much for sharing .
@tameanathi841 Жыл бұрын
Hi Jessica I love your videos they are very helpful ☺️lots of love from South Africa❤️❤️❤️
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
Glad you love them! i appreciate the feedback
@sizakelecomfortmtshweni9530 Жыл бұрын
Looks like there's plenty of us here... Hala from Pretoria, South Africa 💖💓
@tameanathi841 Жыл бұрын
@@sizakelecomfortmtshweni9530 Hala from cape town 😂
@ronaldsello7078 Жыл бұрын
From Pretoria 😍
@zukomazingisa6051 Жыл бұрын
KZN😄. .Alpha Male Strategies
@normansindana436610 ай бұрын
Great insights. I wish I knew this earlier but its never too late to learn. You're a sister most guys never had because of your depth of insights ❤❤❤
@wordpressguy8893 Жыл бұрын
**Nice one Jessica** when i was growing as a teenager, my granmum use to warn me that "SEX does not satisfy"! she said that,when she notice that young girls are always coming around in search of me for school assignment, for text book.... I learnt that lesson! Some Ladies are always willing to give you **MORE**that you can ever ask or **Recieve** But, you need to be patient enough because**you cannot always get what you see** Regards --wordpresguy from rome--
@Edygah Жыл бұрын
Much love from Uganda 💯💪💪
@andrewadusei3883 Жыл бұрын
I really do like yr videos Jess, i like most advices u give but this time naaa, my health is the most important thing to me and when things go wrong i should be able to express myself to be people who wld listen and understand Holding in to impress the lady that am strong or what is not what going to make me feel better, when things r not well with u and yr partner u open up. U seek for help people that understands Secondly is just a matter of pirority, if a man gives everything to a woman then it means he cares he want her but when the woman keeps refusing he just have to stop and move on, trying to still do all those things to her in order to win her is just a waist of time and money cos most girls they have other men that keep coming to them and giving them things as well, so if she refuses you just cut it off and move on. And its not just about the sex is about her love as well. If she refuses to give in the logical thing is to cut all benefits and move on
@junglejim1538 Жыл бұрын
Jessica... this is some of the best, most mature and most practical advice I have heard on KZbin. Great job, Ma'am! Keep it up! 😀
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Will do!
@johnlenge7965 Жыл бұрын
So long as she's not expecting me to play a boyfriend role! Nowadays women will use the guy they find less attractive while giving it all to the one they are attracted too! If a woman so says is not willing to engage with you sexualy is because she doesn't find you attractive. Ask for a break up there is absolutely nothing immature about that
@humanicgenes8825 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this, have learnt a lot from your videos.... Love from Zambia 🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲
@tochukwutc3727 Жыл бұрын
I haven't watched all your videos but there's something about this one that's so honest and I can tell you didn't have to research so much or read a script. It came straight from the heart and i appreciate that. Thanx for all the great pointers...keep working ur way up ur relationship doctor degree😉
@JessicaOS Жыл бұрын
😅😎😎
@dandrecarter1614 Жыл бұрын
I enjoy your videos. When it comes to duties in a relationship as it relates to a man a sexual appetite is important. Not understanding this can be frustrating. No who you are and what you can afford and what you can’t afford to have in your life.
@babyfacebaddie Жыл бұрын
Who else clicked of the video the moment she asked us not to cheat when we're in a sexless relationship. MY KINGS NO WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR SANITY DON'T EVER GIVE ONE WOMAN THAT KIND OF POWER OVER YOU and it's not cheating if she withholds sex first This is why you never ask a lady for relationship advice..IT IS LIKE ASKING THE FISH HOW TO CATCH FISH
@sparktech96 Жыл бұрын
You are one of the best relationship coach. A very good Ghanaian. You have really helped me. I look forward to see you one day when I get to Ghana.
@patrickmwathi4112 Жыл бұрын
This was for me ...loving your content from Kenya 🇰🇪
@sarcynick6 ай бұрын
its very interesting how men are always told to hold on to their hormones when asking for sex, told to wait for her until she is ready. BUT women are told to never settle for less when their demands are not met, and they should go look elsewhere...
@DriBaby-om4sv8 ай бұрын
Having different sexual appetites can definitely cause friction in a relationship. I think sex brings union between partners especially in pivotal points in life and is more than just the act of having it. I don’t think it’s immature if either partners chose to leave due to lack their of. I am not saying that leaving should be the immediate response but if you have tried to communicate and work towards the issue without any results then separation maybe the next appropriate step.
@tonysargent3218 Жыл бұрын
This is horrible advice. Just dump her.
@agnesboakye8145 Жыл бұрын
Thank you dear for this educative topic, I think that if a lady loves her husband or her man she is always ready for sex whenever the man needs it and sometimes men too should know how to speak to ladies when it comes to sex. Thanks once again Jessica🤛💕
@EzraBufford Жыл бұрын
Many times they have a reason that took away their mood for you. Sometimes it’s a new health issue or something you negatively did or is doing that sapped her desire for you!
@tonyganz5420 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@geoffreysanga8030 Жыл бұрын
This was very mature as has been your content that I have seen. I like the way you balanced out the points. All to say if there is a connection acting rashly may hinder what is needed.
@cheshire_skatkat9093 Жыл бұрын
First mistake: being in a relationship. There is NO good reason to be in a relationship this day and age. Second mistake: Not having sex BEFORE love. Sex should always come before love. If you are not sexually compatible and dont match each others drives you are destined for failure anyway.
@Kantz1 Жыл бұрын
Wait, I don't get it, Jessica. Why do we see it as women giving sex? Are they some kind of cars that just take men to their destination? Isn't that kind of talk degrading to women? Are men some kind of punters? Are women not sexual beings themselves?
@bobbie64433 ай бұрын
So basically do nothing about it and just suffer in silence. Got it!
@hasadkabaras5510 Жыл бұрын
I hve been following and am still doing because the tips helps alot
@levymalikebu1813 Жыл бұрын
Yes as a man I get that, but the lady must explain why she is doing that. Otherwise the point of that relationship is mainly sexual and if something goes wrong in this area, that relationship is bound to break. Still thank you for the advice since men are easily unsettled when their lady does this.