Malcolm Gladwell on Why 'Friends' is Misleading

Malcolm talks about his new book 'Talking to Strangers,' understanding human behavior, explains why 'Friends' is misleading, and reveals that human beings are terrible at sniffing out liars.
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Malcolm Gladwell on Why 'Friends' is Misleading
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[@Samwalton85]

Now here’s a good idea for a talk show, have guests who actually know a thing or two and have something interesting to say!

[@Samwalton85]

And yes I know Malcolm Gladwell, was introduced to his book “Tipping Point” in college and I’m still interested in his thinking.

[@Prayfordha]

Samwalton85 🤔

[@Ozzyisunavailable]

joe rogan podcast but without the strong focus on elk and aliens

[@SNNetwork]

aka joe rogan

[@niklaszillig7282]

It’s called podcasts

[@kimtaylor762]

Holy whaaaaattttt...... dude this is the guy who wrote Outliers.... that’s awesome that Jimmy got him on his show

[@claytonmartin5900]

i live in the town where he went to high school, and spent his teenage years

[@TheSnowReport28]

I read outliers in Hs (over ten years ago) and I’ve loved his work ever since.

[@lucaskidd]

clayton martin Elmira?

[@laurahinrichsen3917]

@@lucaskidd I love how all Ontarians already know he's from Elmira. Malcolm Gladwell is an icon. :)

[@sarahs7669]

He also wrote the Tipping Point; his books are fascinating.

[@jojomakes]

How is it possible for one person to look Black, White, Asian, Latino, Native American, young, old, male and female at the same exact time?

[@maiyankasinha832]

Yeah a true hybrid.

[@hesoyam7516]

Interracial Gangbang

[@Xeno_the_Robot]

He's the future.

[@Xeno_the_Robot]

@Br Ramesh You're precisely correct, my friend! 💯😂

[@zoraa2526]

I was just thinking about how cute he was. I guess that means I like people! 😊

[@clownnookie]

It's about time talk shows started bringing back more cerebral people for interviews. Writers, poets, painters, artists. Philosophers. Like how they used to back in the 70s and before.

[@samaraisnt]

Yes!! Totally agree. The only problem is the format is so shortened we don't get enough time with them.

[@deemagee6827]

I'd prefer scientists tbh. Ones like Brian Cox who can talk about why time moves in one direction rather than a philosopher speculating. Everyone should be a painter, poet and artist so not sure why they'd be on a talk show.

[@clownnookie]

@@deemagee6827 Sure, I'm all about seeing scientists as well. Actually, anybody with anything fresh and interesting to say. Subjects that tickle the ol' gray matter. I think the Brits still follow in that tradition, and that's probably why I watch many of their shows.

[@randolphpinkle4482]

Agree OP, but you notice how much time Gladwell spent stroking Kimmel's ego and persona? That's why he gets invited back.

[@churchillosimbo]

Church

[@leveraged6694]

Cool stuff, you need more guests like this Jimmy. Much more interesting than learning what a celebrity’s favorite color is.

[@beldonhuang]

I couldn't disagree with this lol

[@deifor]

To all the dumb comments about his looks, please read one book at least in your life. Malcolm Gladwell is a good place to start by the way.

[@arrebiy]

@Careful Icarus sounds like someone can’t read 🤣🤣🤡

[@arrebiy]

@Careful Icarus hahahahaha, okay. You sound hurt. 🤡🤣🤣🤣

[@mantoniol24]

@Careful Icarus there's a saying about people who get defensive....

[@mantoniol24]

@Careful Icarus calm down cupcake, I know you're all in your feelings because you're triggered 😉

[@katherineraven6381]

@@arrebiy 😄

[@adamtak3128]

I just dug myself a Malcom Gladwell shaped hole and have been watching interview after interview. Interesting dude....

[@jacktrppr1]

lol I did the same thing. Fascinating person, I'm going to get his book.

[@chambers8151]

Thanks for the tip. Here I go

[@abrahamgandarilla7819]

You’ll love his podcast “Revisionist History”

[@adamtak3128]

@@abrahamgandarilla7819 I started listening to it last night!!

[@patriciakedeni]

@@abrahamgandarilla7819 yea, am hooked on that.

[@cindymartha1696]

I must be completely mismatched. People ask me if I’m alright when I’m perfectly fine.

[@UniverseShinobi]

At least they ask

[@cindymartha1696]

@@UniverseShinobi True! 🙂

[@podunkcitizen2562]

That must be confusing to you? Are you all right?

[@taibabajar]

@@michellewilcox7175 what’s RBF?

[@ikhlaqkhaliq9782]

"Talking to strangers" is a book which depicts the complexities we face in understanding the nature of strangers. The author goes from stories and case studies of world best spies to the increasing suicides and crime rates. He infers that it is almost impossible to comprehend a stranger. This is a vast book covering vast levels of social and psychological topics which are missunderstood most of the time. I think everyone should read it. There's alot to learn in this book.

[@lamb4life327]

The guy is an amazing thinker and most of the comments are on the way he looks. Just sad.

[@deifor]

Thinking the same

[@TheLadyDelirium]

It really is very sad. Malcolm Gladwell is so interesting.

[@soullessmoriarty]

Indeed

[@Wise101]

He just needs a haircut and ppl will take him more seriously

[@arto9775]

No he isn't lmao, dudes a dickhead

[@abundantlyhealthyforever1419]

He looks real. He looks comfortable in his skin, his clothes. He looks fit. He's fkn intelligent and he's an intellectual. He's not sitting there worrying when his next appointment with the plastic surgeon is. Bravo!

[@jamesbadham228]

He's also a pretty serious runner.

[@gassingmonkey]

Yeah, and Malcolm looks that way too!

[@reginayfavors]

It is better to be you. All these people with fillers and new butts and faces are all miserable. I'm cool with who I am.

[@michaellee6578]

when's the last time an author was on a talk show?

[@evesapple]

Probably back in the 70's- any chat show since then are only ever either singers or actors.

[@marshwetland3808]

@@evesapple Tons of political books, though.

[@stanknugget]

Michael Lee Last week.

[@AB-yy9cy]

Every week on Bill Maher's show

[@GhalatKiye]

So many times on Trevor Noah's show

[@zehreelamachar6720]

This chap is so good that even when you give him a blank piece of paper, he'll write a book on it. Amazing how he finds such rare topics and go about exploring them!

[@mindfuldrone]

It's called plagiarism.

[@anthonyhewetson5086]

I had a civics teacher who prided herself on her unerring ability to judge people and she said than an entire demographic of students were habitual liars because they wouldn't look her in the eye when they spoke to her. Of course, this entire demographic of students had been raised to treat looking directly at adults as disrespectful. In this example, the only members of that group she needed to be wary of were those she most likely would have trusted.

[@ApoMelon]

his podcast, Revitionist History, is one of my favorites

[@Peta4241]

I was doing a lot of driving recently and was listening to it, I feel a little smarter after every episode.

[@djdeckstar]

It’s the best Jerry!

[@LittleB2007]

I love it too. The latest season was a bit disappointing though

[@robmausser]

@@LittleB2007 oh it wasnt just me.

[@mahed5807]

@@LittleB2007 at the start, he does say it's about random topics. I can't list them all, but they all taught me something.

[@toripurgers9769]

I'm pretty sure Friends fed my depression. "Why don't I have friends like that?"

[@dozog]

Because you have a real life.

[@toripurgers9769]

@@dozog yes, and it's a lot better now too. There's a great article out there on how Friends destroyed Western Civilisation - it has some real good points.

[@littleraskle]

YUP! Even now I'm in my late 20s and I think about Friends. How many people at my age are all living with their friends and going out all the time?? A very RARE few!

[@flala2261]

🤔 yea It’s an interesting idea isnt it

[@Dante3214]

@@littleraskle That's a very good point. I get depressed thinking I'm missing out. Maybe I'm not

[@fandy723]

I'm currently reading Outliers and that book has changed in many ways how I perceive life itself.

[@Apollo_Z9]

Instead of talking about how he looks, appreciate his books.

[@QuigonJoel]

If you took "like" out, it would have rhymed 😔

[@karmabeatONs]

He didn't read it!

[@Apollo_Z9]

Joel Coward did it.

[@VirginiaWilliamsontheverge]

MG is sexy af.

[@Bee-nw6df]

Appreciate both?

[@Tonia_tips]

He’s one of my favorite humans. He has really offered humanity a different perspective.

[@boxingproff7627]

Why y'all flaming my man Gladwell on his looks? 😂😂😂

[@JoyfulMD]

Seriously! I think his face is beautiful.

[@IM4fLEX]

@@JoyfulMD its just unique, compared to a stereotype not good looking.

[@JoyfulMD]

@@IM4fLEX I dunno. He does it for me. Major crush.

[@IM4fLEX]

Why not ask him girl?

[@JoyfulMD]

@@IM4fLEX Lol, next time I run into him :)

[@RanndiMarie01]

“Watch an episode of Friends you’ve never seen before...” Not possible.

[@purpinkn]

@@toma3447 cringe

[@ningenJMK]

Could this comment be any more accurate?

[@CHodgy]

I watched about 5 minutes then turned it off. It was lame in the 90s when it came out, one step above "Threes Company" why people watch that kind of brain poisoning is the question.

[@Hollins23]

This was great - informative, entertaining, and thought-provoking! Please give us more segments like these. Promoting books/ reading is a wonderful mission.

[@cotedazure]

I love Malcolm Gladwell's audiobooks, his are some of the few that I actually listen to from beginning to end.

[@amdistant5547]

Friends is not like real life ?? Wow that's genius !! We are living in a society where "brainy" people tell us the obvious and most people go wow isn't he smart.

[@ytyt3922]

He’s so good at explaining things to those of us with merely average intelligence

[@user-gn1ef8qd2i]

I like the part where he says it’s impossible to try and describe the plot of an episode of Friends. It would take many pages of flow charts.

[@ElinWinblad]

Malc is average

[@caseydouglas3671]

I really like Gladwell, he's a great thinker but is great at making things easy to understand.

[@luke6350]

Casey Douglas that’s very true

[@jennys9043]

Seriously. He has the rare gift of clear communication. In his books (which are written with such nice style), his podcasts and apparently in person too!

[@Figs3]

This might be one of my new favorite interviews of Jimmy. I find this absolutely fascinating.

[@qwertylife]

More authors on talk shows please!!

[@artofwar420]

That was an A++ interview right there. Reminded me of the days of Letterman and Carson.

[@hollywoodshopaholic]

This summed up what I've finally started to understand over the past couple of years. So much of the time, the way actors emote on-screen are exaggerated and unrealistic; their expressions look so genuine that they're actually disingenuous. People are far more subtle and nuanced in real life, and if you use performed content as a model for communication you will probably be considered phony.

[@Jericho1938]

Do you mean that "Lie to me” actually lied to me?

[@danCK1990]

That was micro expression this is different

[@davideassis87]

Well, you asked for it.

[@justlooking3649]

Good one

[@macforme]

Paul Ekman was the advisor to the show and he co- discovered micro-expressions. The show was factually a correct but the time span to solve the case was compressed to be able to wrap up the crime in 1 hour. In really life the span for solving could be weeks, months and even years. Dr Ekman has many books out but take a look at "Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit". It's fascinating stuff!

[@HeKnowsNotForever]

Hugo Bacelar Yes and no. It is possible to read ppl like that but NOT AT ALL how they show it in the show. The person can’t know that you are reading them. The way that the main character does it would be completely useless. He’s way too in their face. He’d have to observe them at an at ease state. So they would give things away without knowing it. But this isn’t what I think Gladwell meant. I think he meant it more in an “gut reaction” sort of way. And, unless honed, can be very misleading. I wouldn’t be surprised that in the book, if he says our own ideas and conceptions influence us more than what we know. That we see what we want to see. That’s pure speculation thou. Just saying based on what he’s written before. His style of giving information. Just a guess thou.

[@TheBrainFlow]

This is what I miss about Craig Ferguson (of the Late Lata Show with Craig Ferguson who was on before James Corden took over): Craig used to interview people who weren’t actors/directors. So many interesting interviews were made in that show.

[@kimbohunter9538]

I loved Craig Ferguson..you're right, awesome interviews, miss it so much!

[@MonsterSound.Bradley]

Craig was/is great, but he wanted to produce some money maker$.

[@KrisBryant99]

He likely wanted to play the whole ''not like other guys'' card but it just didn't work for me hahaha

[@thejew1789]

There should be a new friends spin off called "acquaintances."

[@maggiemcfly5267]

There was a friends parody in that kids show called Animaniacs, I think it was called that haha

[@avisco01]

A gritty reboot called “Adversaries.”

[@daniellove162]

The Jew - isn’t that just real life for most people?

[@thejew1789]

@@daniellove162 yeah its a joke (:

[@daniellove162]

The Jew - Yup.

[@jemiahdapap8053]

All 4 main Seinfeld members in one body. (Honorable mention, Larry David) 😉

[@sanbakardi]

Funniest comment 😁😁😀😀😅

[@guyincognito1963]

Truly brilliant

[@boxingproff7627]

😂😂 Did him dirty.

[@billykimber4463]

👏

[@plushpuppy32]

Omg. I laughed aloud

[@MisterChris1978]

Gladwell’s podcasts Revisionist History & Broken Record are incredible. Everyone should check them out.

[@stephaniewillis2895]

About to go on a road trip and I very much appreciate your comment. Thank you.

[@luciusbarbus]

Thanks!

[@marleyjanim5033]

Got link

[@wariocheats9701]

Didn’t know he had another podcast. I’ll check broken record out

[@MisterChris1978]

Marley Janim check whatever podcast provider you use. Revisionist History

[@alightthatnevergoesout]

Super interesting conversation with an extremely intelligent guy. Rare sight on these shows, glad I clicked on it!

[@Rohwit]

One of the greatest thinkers who is making us better in this present day of digital excessives and temporary attention spans. Thanks Jimmy - Love from India

[@RichardServello]

The mismatched thing is very interesting. I can self diagnose that when I first meet someone (especially a potential employer or client) I am perfectly matched. But once I am comfortable with someone I am the person with arms crossed and a frown that is happy and having a great time.

[@PropertyVlogsUK]

Why is that? I'm curious, why are you subconsciously showing body language that is the opposite from how you feel inside?

[@ayomade7496]

@@PropertyVlogsUK Yes. It's almost like your 'energy' doesn't match. I personally feel really uncomfortable around ppl I don't match with.

[@jamesmcinnis208]

You're utterly fascinating.

[@acharich]

🔑🔑🔑

[@BubbleGumzKorner]

Imagine seeing THEE Malcolm Gladwell on a talkshow and focusing on his appearence. This man is awesome. I have read ALL of his books, his blogs, his pieces, he's very informed

[@monkey-butler]

His books were life changing for me. Several of his podcasts in Revisionist History rank as some of my all time favorites. Brilliant guy that allows me to understand complicated stuff. My favorite non-fiction author.

[@anderssolberg6594]

Kimmel did a really good job in this interview! and Gladwell is a treasure!!

[@forrestrobinson2754]

Malcolm Gladwell is such a unique writer. Great guy.

[@schmoab]

I’ve really struggled with this my entire life. I can’t wait to read his book.

[@JasonLiske]

Where do you live? Most strangers I cross paths with are engaging and bring a new awareness. Meaningful encounters, at times just as transformative as an interchange with a good friend.

[@commodore665]

the irony is , that people like the actors portraying the characters on friends , would never be that close in real life

[@CogMarks]

They would be too jealous of each other.

[@richieroar84]

Mr Gladwell is a living legend. I’ve read all of his books!

[@kennmullen6454]

Thank you Jimmy. Good match, you and Malcolm. Gladwell is simply telling us that the knowledge gained in the time invested in our interpersonal relationships can not be generally applied to those we do not know and have not spent time... strangers. People in general are familiar or, unfamiliar. Therefore, with some exceptions, treat them as such.

[@nemisisaion2511]

He has a point...there is no normal. We are all different and unique. Talk to your neighbor or friend, just because someone doesn't appear to to be engaged or interested does not mean that they are not listening or interested.

[@jmartin891]

If Bob Balaban, Christopher Walken and Billy Crystal joined forces

[@hutch1197]

I don't know that most of needed him to tell us that 'Friends" is not a depiction of how people are in real life. It's a sitcom, and the characters and plots are absurd to make us laugh. WE ALREADY KNOW THAT.

[@amandab8433]

Took the family to hear him talk in San Mateo (thank you UC Santa Cruz and Santa Cruz bookshop) this past Saturday. He was absolutely brilliant, and hilarious. I can't remember when I was so engaged by what someone was saying, and at the same time laughing so much. If you get a chance to see him in person definitely go, and bring your loved ones along because they'll Thank you.

[@therealshard]

that was enlightening! his books were amazing to read and hearing him speak is equally, if not more, magical

[@LaremDuh]

I FRIKIN LOVE THIS MAN’S BOOKS.

[@umersalman1]

This is the kind of book I'd like to read. I am so bad at social gatherings.

[@gaborstaudinger2927]

I love this guy. How have I never heard of him until now?

[@msprisfigueiredo]

He talks about it on Oprah’s podcast. His observations are AMAZING and heartbreaking at the same time.

[@nooisebots]

When i was a kid i thought adulthood would be like friends..boy was i wrong

[@carlosparra8976]

my adulthood is similar to friends

[@priscillawilson2634]

I wouldn't say interacting differently with a stranger is a "mistake" but a learning experience.

[@sodeiku]

he's totally Phoebe types

[@MonsterSound.Bradley]

With 180 IQ.

[@natkam451]

The subject of this new book is something quite obvious, because we know that all people wear masks and don't show who they really are especially in public, this is such an old, familiar truism. But somehow people tend to forget about it. I have long had reflections on the fact that in today's era of media obsession, social media power, we are extremely vulnerable to believe in false accusations plus wrong and consequently tragic 'reading' of other people, because social media is conducive to fast and thoughtless judgment and spreading of stereotypical thinking about others, strangers. And it's dangerous.

[@psa921416]

This guy is fascinating. I could listen to him all day.

[@oneinazillion]

He looks like a guy who turned 60 on his 25th birthday.

[@Timcanhandlebar]

one in a zillion he’s looked the same for a long time

[@sanfranciscoprofessor2577]

Funny! But it works for him, like the clothing he wore. He looks trustworthy. He's playing the eccentric, funny, trustworthy genius. Picture his character in a movie-- that's who he'd be. Whatever he advises Bond, you'd believe.

[@elhadjiamadoujohnson4166]

He runs a lot.

[@yvesgtchoudjan7747]

It is sadden that some of us turn in to senseless comparison.

[@99scobey]

@@yvesgtchoudjan7747 yeah it is sadden

[@QuantumBraced]

I think the vast majority of people understand that Friends/sitcoms are not like the real world. I mean it's scripted, there's a laugh track, all the jokes work, there are no awkward silences, every minute is interesting, everyone is relevant... In fact the reason people like the show is precisely because it's NOT like real life, it's much more fun.

[@Iambriangregory]

I think you're severely overrated the intelligence of humankind you're living in a universe where people think wrestling is real I think you're the one that needs to get a grip on reality

[@AllThingsElementor]

It's actually pretty ironic becuase Gladwell is well-known for being incredibly misleading in his books. For example, he'll often take a small result from a study and talk about it like it's gospel truth.

[@QuantumBraced]

@@Iambriangregory LOL fair. But I don't think the average person thinks wrestling is real, it's a small minority.

[@Iambriangregory]

@@AllThingsElementor if it's well known I surely didn't know about it. So away your premise is faulty based on your own opinion of what is well-known and as far as taking a point and making it the gospel there's only one gospel number one number two nobody I'll say it again nobody has the final word on anything so anybody that you trust is not totally trustworthy so where's the story here duh. Humans sad to say pick and choose who they feel is trustworthy and many times not based on The Facts of Life and what they see before their eyes just as you proved in this case

[@Iambriangregory]

@@QuantumBraced hahaha Don't focus on the one example we could pull out 10 thousand of the examples of things people think is real or beneficial don't get me started on the first of 10,000. Most people think home ownership is a fantastic thing. Doesn't always prove that way

[@drdn4047]

I just finished Talking to Strangers and OH MY GOD IT BLOWS ME UP

[@whippin1335]

This guy is brilliant, and funny on top of it.

[@letbow9216]

Living Single was the original Friends show.

[@rachaelm7084]

Exactly

[@stanknugget]

Let bow Ok, boomer.

[@rachaelm7084]

Stank Nugget actually Gen X and early Millennials watched Living Single and Friends. Those shows were not geared towards Boomers. Your attempt to belittle or dismiss just shows your ignorance.

[@zimzimzalabim]

@@rachaelm7084 Boomers would watch Cheers

[@zimzimzalabim]

@@stanknugget whatever you say Greta

[@playdoughfunrs]

He looks like logic if logic took a different career path

[@haSHAH1]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@mnkykungfu]

The problem with Malcolm Gladwell is so much of what he says is "everyone is wrong about everything except I've figured it all out"... then a few years later he'll be like "Oh, I may've been wrong about that thing I said." Dude still hasn't figured out Presentation For the Situation...I'm relatively certain he's not more expert at reading human behavior than the other experts.

[@mtrotter325]

He's absolutely fascinating.

[@deenabee6279]

BLINK is one of his more underrated books. Absolutely love it. People talk about Outliers and Tipping Point. But Blink had me hooked.

[@Lanijiro]

An amazing author. Everyone should read at least one of his books.

[@jayneshone2552]

Talking to strangers is excellent. Definitely worth a read . Great book

[@brenegadde1278]

He's a genius super observant person,hope to be this successful as he is with his imagination and turn it to a working idea and make bank off it

[@brenegadde1278]

@RedRose7997 i am a believer we all are stars

[@fellowcitizen]

Come up with a title first, and book/find lots of interviews with the title as a point of departure. (Try and arrange three interviews by Summer, including one out of town.)

[@DIVISIONINCISION]

He understands Psychology, too. That's the underlying premise of his books.

[@sacrilegiousboi978]

I know a girl with high functioning autism who grew up watching lots of sitcoms like friends and subconsciously learned to mimic the characters meaning she expresses herself in an over the top emoji like way almost constantly. Any expression that is nuanced, complex or involves any kind of discrepancy eg. sarcasm will baffle her and cause her to misinterpret social cues and land her in trouble. This wasn’t too much of a problem throughout her childhood and early teens because she behaved like a ditzy hyper bubbly girl and had lots of friends but in her late teens and early adulthood, when interactions became more complex, nuanced and subtle, she began to really struggle socially.

[@mipmip5759]

This is good, please more authors on the show.

[@theprimalpitch190]

Re "matched." He's referring to congruence or in-congruence or our various aspects visual, verbal, etc.. Applies to self-self and self-other. Basically all decoded by NLP originators in the late 70s. Still valid and worth learning now.

[@YuukiGunn]

Weird to try to apply it to sitcom acting though

[@deborahhoffman7394]

Amazing how people are just focused on Gladwell’s appearance. Just listen to him.

[@silverblue73]

I did, he made me yawn

[@gregdahlen4375]

altho the topic of the book does seem to be that you can't tell what people feel from their appearance

[@theworkethic]

Americans

[@dixonpinfold2582]

Yes, his utterances are more important in most ways, but I perceive that he cares a great deal about his appearance himself, and cultivates his look very carefully.

[@melissaromeo9268]

This is my favorite author. I have read all of his books. I am so excited to buy his new book. I want to meet him and sit down to have a cup of coffee and just have a conversation.

[@rosac464]

I met him and was so overwhelmed I couldn’t speak.

[@parsoumash]

0:33 I feel like people still haven't grasped the difference between the word "unconscious" and the word "subconscious" .. When you're unconscious you are NOT awake. When you are awake and you take in things in the world WITHOUT NOTICING it is done on a subconscious level ..

[@dozog]

@All_Roads They have become synonymous, because people stopped to understand the difference or stopped caring about being precise.

[@dozog]

@All_Roads No i don't. You will see that most dictionaries have both meanings of the word "unconscious". Do you also say someone hit you subconscious, or do you still say someone hit you unconscious? (If you don't, then the words simply share one meaning, but are not synonymous) The meaning of words change organically. Eventually dictionaries will record the current meaning of words... as used by the majority. You can stop pretending that dictionaries, or any specific dictionary, are lawbooks or the gospel.

[@sanfranciscoprofessor2577]

Malcolm Gladwell is not only a terrific journalist and story teller-- he's one of the most entertaining stand-up performers ever to appear on a talk show. Not only intelligence on display but also humor, timing, shtick, a funny but non-threatening look, and an oddly pleasant voice to listen to. The comedy bit about the puzzled crime show guys was completely professional.

[@c-light7624]

I like the points that were made, but to be fair, Judge Judy doesn’t just determine who is lying and who is not. She has to base her ruling on the strength of the evidence presented and the testimony given. It either makes sense or doesn’t, falls within the law or doesn’t. “Don’t piss on my leg and tell me it’s raining.”

[@diogenesofseattle2344]

She's an idiot.

[@justlooking3649]

Matthew Alkman well I haven’t read his book yet but I also don’t agree with everything he’s saying . I don’t think he’s an idiot though.He also said jimmy is equally matched when doing an interview but he’s a talk show host....he can’t have an interesting tv show if he doesn’t fake some of the laughs. I mean if he’s faking a laugh then that’s not how he really feels inside...just like an actor...they’re faking emotions.

[@mipmip5759]

If you think you can see which people are lying or not, it just means you are probably up for some nasty surprises in your life... 🙄

[@mem1701movies]

Judge Judy doesn't listen to anyone. she doesn't care and she rarely pays... RIDICULOUS...CASE DISMISSED

[@frankhamilton3874]

All judges do that. So do cops. Has anyone ever heard a judge or cop say, “i determined he/she was lying so i sent them to jail”? Of course not....

[@90srule96]

A rare combination of intelligence, wit, and ability to relate to regular people for an academic. I wonder who Jimmy’s next guest was. They were thinking, “I’ve gotta follow THAT?”

[@snehamani1859]

More guests like this please!

[@sirsly8674]

The moment I saw him I didn’t even care about the interview anymore...I knew the comments would be fire and I was not disappointed!!!

[@Darth_Bateman]

"How about another Joke, Murray?!"

[@calcham1]

I had no idea what to expect from this video. At the beginning, I thought it would be boring. At the moment I was going to click away from this, it turned into one of the more fascinating conversations I've ever seen. I really feel like I've learned something. I am not familiar with any of Malcolm Gladwell's work (though I've heard the name before) but he is very interesting!

[@quantumlust]

I thought writers don't have a vibrant personality. But he can have a very good dialogue.

[@Lila90435]

Malcolm Gladwell is my favorite author!

[@QuantumBraced]

Some people are very good at lying, but there are definitely body language signs that strongly corrolate with lying. So it's not all BS.

[@Whimsey6]

I LOVE Malcolm Gladwell. I'm turned on by intelligence, & find him so attractive. Many highly intelligent people struggle socially, but MG is funny and knows how to work a room.

[@vippsmillennial6336]

This one was probably one of the few ones where Jimmy Kimmel was being a genuine person.

[@nawwartujar4254]

I listened to the audiobook, it was an amazing experience I enjoyed every minute of it. His narration was so engaging and raised the bar for the way audiobooks are produced in my opinion.

[@drewdricky]

Turn the sound off and watch friends.......just after I had turned my sound off while watching friends.. Aawwwwwwwww 😳😳😳😳 Malcolm is in my head!!!!

[@JimMacintosh]

Highly recommend everyone watch Malcolm on the recent Munk Debate. It doesn’t leave him in a good light to say the least… He might be book smart, but he’s highly partisan and gets petty the second his arguments are defeated.

[@NewMessage]

If you are gonna look like that, at least have the common decency to be a mad scientist.

[@ashurfim]

New Message he kinda is...

[@allisonbrockman6010]

After reading all his books and listening to his podcast for years, I've finally matched a face to the man!

[@TheLadyDelirium]

I know what book I'll be putting on my Christmas list

[@dozog]

I know what I will have for dinner tomorrow.

[@rishi1728]

When Malcom talks about seeing if someone is matched, it seems like he is saying that it is possible to know if someone’s feelings correspond to what he or she shows. If that was possible, it would also be possible to know if someone is lying. Isn’t he contradicting himself?

[@LittleB2007]

Malcolm, "Mindhunter" is not a show about cops telling who's lying and who's telling the truth

[@weverage]

Well it is about FBI profilers who are trying to come up with a framework for catching criminals. Plus, particularly in the second season, there is a large chunk of detective work going on, so...

[@margaretmccabe1360]

This an interesting person. I didn’t want to like it but huh he’s the real deal now I have to watch friends with the volume off

[@cellbiologyshorts9105]

Surely the biggest thing is how they could afford a massive apartment in Manhattan