Mamak Sessions - Can Guys And Girls Be Best Friends? Is it ok to see more than one person at a time?

[@whyyuna69]

WE NEED A 2 HOUR PODCAST OF THESE FOUR

[@_bb_ana_tks]

Today's topic is so interesting. It makes me reflect back when I was younger ,those silly things and feelings that I had before 😅😅😅could you guys do a topic about crushes 🤔🤔 that would be an interesting topic which I wanna know from your point of view 😅😅

[@ajbear9534]

well...to answer Jin's question, my answer is -it depends like what Arwind said, if u're not actually serious towards the person that u currently seeing then yes...because its like u wan to see other options before just setting eyes on one particular person. it will have a different meaning if u are already serious with a person but then still seeing someone else...its seems like u're not being faithful to tat person(cheating), unless u both put on the table that u both wanted an open relationship. tats another story. ^ that's my answer also i would like tell Jin i love this episode!!

[@olicksonjack195]

Jin, i can relate way u saod about the guys and girl can be best friend. It's really amazing to hear that u guys still bff now

[@rafiq6521]

Shu Faye look super pretty in this video

[@SuperCryingdevil]

Yeap i guess. If you have options why dont just try. Even if it doesnt work out at least you make new friends and get to know yourself /myself better

[@bryantiong8099]

Awww fits xNova perfectly!

[@pageperpage]

On A's ques on the getting to know phase with more than 1 person, as long as it is communicated and defined and accepted by both parties. The formula, no matter what content, is decided by partner A and partner B, not what outsider's dictate (can be guided by others, but final decision rests on both in the internal pair). No matter how the relationship is defined - seeing, dating, getting to know, etc. Of course this changes when it's exclusive (unless both agree to an open relationship)

[@densonmok1252]

Loves the content and topic today!! I had been in those situations(and still) and felt related to it! Thanks for sharing in some very good points and stories! Love it!

[@SiaZS]

Yes more love topic please.. it’s so interesting to see others perspective on some matter.

[@nickgan8089]

Look forward to your podcasts every thurs! Cool episode with such an interesting topic this time around.. but... at times i don't really get what Josephine is trying to say.... LOL. One thing is for sure... Shu Faye is a must in every podcast! Keeping in real!

[@joshlohthimcay3692]

If it just talking/texting with multiple ppl (potential partners) one on one I feel like it's fine. But dating with multiple ppl is a bit over for me. I feel like dating is the next level and labels it as "taking this relationship seriously"

[@lohjuinxian8064]

well i found this interesting on how people older than me think about this kind of topic . 14:16 , I truely believed that boys and girls can be best friend , keep talking to each other casually even though they are not classmate or whatsoever , maybe also from different school too . Not everyone has the intention to seek for relationship with other people , some people just wanna have a friend to talk with . It's ok to know more than one people at one time because I just wanna more about them , not the purpose to find a partner to be in a relationship with , because at the end of the day we are still friends and we like to know more about each other :) Maybe I was graduated in a boy school so I have this kind of perception towards it .

[@TanTianBee]

Nice session❤🎉😊 👍 Good one. Important topic.

[@afsadfasd]

Shu Fye took out her phone just to divide that 100% up xD she's so me!!

[@nurzafirahzainudin]

Next, invite Shawn Lee as a guest. What topic? I don't know

[@WoobyHob]

but why lmao

[@jonathanlim4585]

Drifting and TGR career!

[@lebronjames5287]

@@WoobyHob hear him beatbox

[@LivingwithLONG]

YEAH!!!!Josephine!!!!!

[@alvankyk]

I feel that if it's not agreed between two people to be in an exclusive relationship, then it's ok to go out with other people, provided that they know you currently see them as just a friend. It's important to make sure they know your intentions so you don't accidentally hurt their feelings.

[@kerynp]

On the question, I agree with Josephine that you can be talking/seeing a few people at once provided that you are not hiding it or feeling guilty about doing it yourself

[@jackwong4111]

For Irwin question. I think it’s okay when the guy or girl is seeing more than one person because if the guy or girl would want to choose a partner for life or be in relationship with the other half it’s better to choose being out with which person have the better feelings than having a bad relationship afterward then go to a new one.

[@darkjediknight2923]

Great discussion and great channel. What if you have a female friend who flirts back to your charms, seems to like you too, and gives all the signs of being single. Then randomly one day texts you saying she got engaged and hope you can come to the wedding... when she NEVER told you she wasn't single at all... and none of your mutual friends (female) knew she wasn't single either?

[@shinee_onew]

For me as a girl who never dated anyone before, I personally like to get to know people first then settle down with one. That's how you get to know your partner or opposite sex better. But this can be quite obvious tho, especially if you still studying and you hang out all that get to know, make friends. But it might be different if you're at work...idk about that. ✌️

[@KellyCKL96]

Actually, my friends and I discussed about the question Arwind asked, before I watch this episode la. HAHAHA.. Somehow we all agreed that, one person can have a good feeling (or interested) with more than one person. It's the same thing that, when you are dating a guy/girl and in the same time you can still adore/like an artist. That is the same feeling. That is why, the quote always said that "No one in this world is irreplaceable" maybe except our family la. It's just all about your personality and attitude towards the person you are committed with. I understand Josephine think that, it is not fair or even irresponsible to that person you like at first but sometimes you cannot control your own feeling bah that hahahaha.. Depends on you want to listen to your heart or your brain. Heart said, go with your feeling while the brain said, please be responsible thanks! As Arwind said that is before dating, I mean we are all friends before we date right? I think making friends is not a wrong thing just that, once you make your choice you have to be responsible and committed to each other. haha Thanks bye.

[@shirleytan8042]

For a relationship to work it must have a balance with 3 elements of physical attraction, friendship and commitment. Boy-girl best friends would have friendship but not necessarily physical attraction. No commitment to be exclusive. It's good not to keep an opposite gender best friend when there is a bf/gf in the picture.

[@TanTianBee]

Sweet time ❤

[@kuhangunaseelan7576]

Shu Faye was just so so . But with Josephine on the showwwww holy roticanai overfried!!!!! Dayummm

[@uganrajhan9621]

Answer to Arwind question is yes, with keeping in mind that dont get close and have a like border to that you have like a limit and know that this would be the best so that wont have falling out or cheated something like that this is what i thought

[@limpredator]

I think if you're seeing like two people at the same time it's okay to do so cause you're not in a relationship, there's no commitment yet though so it is okay to see two person at the same time but of course the other must know that you're seeing others

[@vivchai]

I agreed with Josephine. Only know 1 person at a time...

[@ataires]

Everytime Josephine say 'like' take a shot.

[@gracekgj]

PotatoinDisguise 🤯

[@JaniceQH93]

Part 2 pleaseeeeee... So relatable

[@qy5717]

As a single person, i feel that it's ok if u are interested in more than 1 person & and trys to get to know them individually as long as nothing is established.

[@Shioriichann]

Honestly, I think it is fine to go out and see multiple person at once as I considered it as "hang out" rather than date. A date, in my definition is just going out with a person that both of us have mutually agree to get to know each other. I'd rather say, it is better to hang out with other people, knowing very well of yourself that you're not catching feelings and just really want to be friends with the person. Anyway I think a guy and a girl can be best friend provided that everyone is very clear of their feelings and boundaries. If my actions were misleading, I would be straight up front draw the boundaries but just continue to be friends. At some point, we would always question our opposite sex friend about feelings and relationships so it should always be clear in both sides in order for the friendship to grow. Boundaries on physical touching should be limited to a certain extent as you do not want your partner to be confused.

[@loicheechean3183]

wah ... this topic totally spicy n subjective ... moral ... right or wrong ???!!! Anyway I would like to say Josephine is an angel after this podcast ... ^^ n Shu Faye bring out so much interesting story ... n agree with u make a right choice ... ^^ N thks Jin n Arwind ^^

[@yanjun06285]

shufaye so pretty here

[@satoedjoean]

Just found out about this podcast and tbh, I'm now on that position. LOL. Nice topic!

[@dzvuriyahvelayithussein3025]

Yes, it's normal because I would like to get to know the person first like hang out as friends, before I start dating.

[@ChenKhanwei]

I can so relate to Jin's story

[@HarithSlay]

Is it OK to seeing multiple person in one time? My opinion is it depends. Some people who r professional enough has no problem to do it. But majorly, these kind of people who seeing multiple person in one time is not a good person, especially boys around 15-21, or maybe more. (Well since i'm still in 20s, I still can't see beyond) Having the opposite partner as a best friend is not a problem. Even me, I had a few of them. Probably cuz i'm picky about friends, so I don't want those kind of people who will burden me became my friends.

[@EDW5316X]

To me, yes it is ok to get know multiple person at the same time because if you only get to know one person at a time, it will create attachment and it hurts when that person in love with other guy

[@tha_oz]

34:04 thats literally a wong fu short LOL "single by 30" LMAOOOOO

[@teksumetsu]

i agreed with josephine.... not because she's cute but reality so pain full.... hahahaha kbye...

[@jarrodteck]

I'm with you Josephinee . Dating multiple people is kinda cheating even if u tell them about you dating other people too , they will feel its a hunger games for you but if its just as friends I think its fine .

[@12345678977317]

Okay Jin is right I have a chance!!!!

[@ashlynteoh9703]

I feel it's totally find to be seeing other people as long as you're both not exclusive.

[@bryanlow7534]

Where’s the ep.13 ? I thought every Thursday so I waited

[@farhanzulkifle9184]

i think its okay la to see multiple people for one time only just to know each other better . If you're interested to meet one of them again , then just focus on one person and let go the other . its like try and error .

[@joshlohthimcay3692]

Most hilarious episode btw 😂

[@samueltan2148]

"Nice guys" by nature like us can really learn alot from Jin haha Also, I agree with what Josephine said more

[@esdee_chiunam]

I like how Josephine thinks, don't worry you're not weird.

[@elbobberts]

I wish u would make a podcast ep with the misfits

[@itzheyqal8163]

This topic is the MOST INTERESTING ever!!... I am very curious how can they invite shu faye out wif a trick.. I really hate a guy trick a girl out like tht even I am a guy too... Girl must be careful tho.. Btw jin this is the most interesting topic ever

[@nolimitschanneltv6257]

Josephine ain't stupid for financial salary wise . Good job JIN

[@MrTommyLoh]

Going out with a few girls, but we go out as a meet up and get to know each other and have dinner on friday. nothing more thn that. if the feeling is there thn there will be more outing ( not date )

[@MrVandermark1]

please have a part 2 of this xD

[@joshualim3397]

Personally, I would agree with Josephine, seeing other people and telling them are seeing other people as well is fine.

[@edmundthoy3698]

Yes, because you will need to know the person more before committing. Period

[@christyk97]

I think guys and girls can be best friends, but at one point in the relationship, one or both of them have romantic feelings for the other person. However, instead of making a move, that person may just let that feeling go because he/she doesn’t want to lose a best friend.

[@Cxleow90]

Josephine one is the correct way. If the both of you don’t really have a connection, then only move on to others

[@booblahmama7655]

Yes it’s okie to see more than 1

[@starstriker91]

I say yes it's possible but it will automatically break off if you have a partner. It's really dependent on the individual gua

[@lynn9443]

Yes, guys and girls can be best friends. From my personal experience, all my closest friends are guys and so is my best friend. I know him for 5 and a half years and been best friends for 4 years and we never once have the thought of dating each other. We are close to the point people think that we are dating and they asked if we are a couple but both of us will always give the same reply which is stare at each other with that *eww* expression and laugh it off saying we are only friends and we are like siblings to one and other. idk la but I always share food and hug my close friends, sometimes I'll let them lay their head on my lap or shoulder I met their parents before even stayed over at one of their house, and saying I Love You to each other is a normal thing for us like we say it every time we end a phone call/ group voice call ( there're 5 people in the group 4 guys and I'm the only girl) that also explains a lot la probably cause I'm not attractive enough for them, they are pretty good looking but I don't see them in that way. We also sometimes share pictures of people we find attractive like if they see a cute guy they'll share his picture to me and if i see a cute girl I'll do the same la. As for if it's okay to see more than one person at a time, I would say I'm in between. It also depends, i wouldn't mind if he tells me before hand like say he's trying out to see how is more compatible with him and if he chose another girl, tell me first la before you confess so I can be prepared at least i won't get my heart broken too badly and of course I'll still stay friends with him.

[@nicholaskhoong]

Yah guys and gals can be best friends. Mosy of my best friends (people i have share my thoughts and feelings are girls) . So if u ask me i say yes

[@tcruise77]

With regards to Arwin & Josephine's questions, I partially agree with her principle (POV). However, don't need to spelled out clearly to the guys (options) you have. As long as you have not made "In a Relationship" confirmation, and jz let them know you are "evaluating your feelings" with more personal interaction. You are free to hang out 1-on-1 at the same time (meaning Monday- *Guy A* , Tue- *Guy B* , etc..) but please la, not more than 2 guys. Just be tactful the way you word it and how you carry yourself. Because some guys can become salty after he becomes the "LOSER". It only becomes a " *CRIME* " if you refuse to decide who to choose after a month or 2 of heart-soul searching, and you tried to hog onto both of them. Nonetheless, you are entitled to drop both of them in the end and accept *Guy C* . lol...

[@laofeng997]

I fed her a bit lah. :Lennyface:

[@melsingsmel]

Hi, I actually agree with Josephine, My stand is same as hers. It is the safest option for everyone’s sake;p

[@nichocolatereal]

hey I'm first and I saw you at after rain today at around 6+

[@chiavoon1770]

same thing happenning to me right now eh @JInnyboyTV

[@birdbird7701]

I agree with josephine tbh. If I'm seeing someone, I'll never be thinking about other women. And i wouldn't want the girl I'm seeing to be seeing other guys too, imagine how it would feel if she didn't choose you, man that would feel like shit, that's way more misleading, it's like ur going out with her already and you're being given a chance, then suddenly she chose someone else.

[@darkjediknight2923]

I had a situation where a female friend flirted back with me, liked me flirting, flirted with me (initiated on her part), and gave signs of liking me, who then told me suddenly by text she just got engaged, hope I can come to her wedding. She never mentioned she wasn't single at any point (when apparently this had been the case for "years"), and mutual friends (who are women) thought she was single as well. I cannot believe the lack of shame on her part, or how she doesn't think that's plain crazy. Some way to treat a friend. It certainly made me feel pretty damn hurt. Some friend indeed.

[@liewt711]

invite shawn lee please

[@gregorytan3456]

Yes pls

[@nbaextreme4647]

Wheres marriane??

[@justrelaxwme4528]

When a guy approaches someone, we can't say for sure is to woo her, but there is always an intention behind that action ;)

[@staceylsh]

I think its okay if just talking/texting to more than one person bc we want to know more about that person or whether which person is more connect to you, but when comes to dating like dating multiple person is abit above the line haha

[@joshualeong2206]

yes its fine to see multiple people at the same time. if that specific person catches your attention then you can chase him/her and the rest well, u can stay friends with them la. meet more people so that u can observe their characteristics that suits as your partner la. (if this makes sense la)😂😂😂

[@MrTsm05074]

No. Even if I know that I have the option to see more gals at one time, I couldn't divide my attention to more than one girl at any time. I feel that I am faking my feeling towards anyone of them if i 'exercise' my option to see more than one gal at one time. Well I am those kind who is serious about dating, just sharing my opinion

[@sherlynkon304]

Is it ok to go out with more than one at once? Of course, nobody is obliged not too. But this has to be mentioned to the person going out with out of respect.

[@darkjediknight2923]

Agreed it's common courtesy surely. I never get why people don't consider how they would feel if someone did it to them. Or why supposed friends ghost, or whatever. I had a situation where a female friend flirted back with me, liked me flirting, flirted with me, and gave signs of liking me, who then told me by text she just got engaged, hope I can come to her wedding. She never mentioned she wasn't single at any point, and no mutual friends (who are women) thought she wasn't single either.

[@luquier599]

I personally have the same opinion as Josephine, that we should see only one person at a time

[@rhoniop50]

Josephine yap😍😍😍

[@Jayawaves]

It's ok to see more than one person..... we do it subconsciously anyway.

[@claireli88]

It is true that guys like to talk to me, maybe they like me or they like to show me they are rich and handsome 😊

[@cheryltiang1427]

My opinions is same wid Jo.. I would either tell them first that im open to others or juz focus on the current one..😉

[@tarannoah1314]

Watch The Doctors kdrama .. similar scenario

[@vinayagarajelangovan3132]

Awsome

[@daviddinata6081]

josephine is old school, and its normal, just rare

[@justrelaxwme4528]

Done with one, and then go with another one is ok

[@teeseee4134]

Could jo and shawn almost had something going on previously?

[@joshualim3397]

45:00 Das Stealing ahead yooo 😂

[@gregorytan3456]

Jo LANGUAGE

[@PsychItsMike]

As an American, you expect the other person to be dating other people until its exclusive.

[@Idkwhoisthisplz]

Well you should at least tell the person you are also seeing someone, it's the only mature thing to do. Got ghosted by someone I went out with and found out weeks later. We could have remained friends, now we are just strangers.

[@Snoopyyy1999]

No. I totally agree with Josephine with that one, is considered ‘cheating’ unless the other person knows. Only meet someone else when you know is notworking out with the current

[@FBI-fb1mv]

21:16 dafuq jo and 38:40 wtf? and 40:19 for a fuck

[@tha_oz]

no. it is not ok to see more than one person at one time

[@ONzy13]

Can't .. it's called friendzone .. either the girl don't like the guy or the other way round .. u'll be distanced sooner or later due to multiple reasons .. Hmm .. I'm with Josephine .. don't want to make things complicated or misunderstanding .. #TiffwithMi

[@gregorytan3456]

👏

[@feelfuulfiil]

This one sounds more logical @jinnyboytv

[@adrianooi6087]

One person at a time

[@daryantoh861]

It's called non-exclusive dating - if everyone know that then ok.

[@leegikwangsgirl]

NOOO ITS NOT OKAY TO SEE MULTIPLE PEOPLE AT ONCE ITS MAKING PEOPLE AN OPTION. If yre interested then get to know that one person if it doesn’t work out take a step back then get to know another person. If not comparison between multiple people will never end like someone will always be better or lesser in some ways in comparison to the other person. The basis of it in itself is giving a picture of potential cheating in the future

[@kneega3801]

When u guys talk about relationship,why not try to bring a teenager to the talk,might be fun😂

[@carfusion5162]

Hell no, feelings are complicated and don't play a fool. We cross the lines that we set... So better don't play your own feelings.

[@prokillerx321]

I'm side with Josephine, its not about cheating and unfaithful to the opposite. But it doesnt feels right......