Jo Frost Alerts Child Protective Services When She Believes She Hears A Child Getting Spanked

[@JetbBlue747]

The dad was saying "turn around". Most parents say "look at me when I'm speaking to you". Turn around means belt time !

[@cewe2003]

JetbBlue747 so true!

[@latoyafrazier5931]

Right

[@carlasopinion7671]

JetbBlue747 correct

[@stephcourtnage5546]

.. to be supported by the fact he has a belt in his hand, ready to use. That boy doesnt want to go in that room because he knows what will happen. It's happened before.

[@marclabrie6027]

@@cewe2003 always mean that

[@weriderthanyou]

....are y’all forgetting he’s a special needs child? He doesn’t know better! You have to take time with them.

[@cosmicstarrry]

Tanisha Souden ADHD had a spectrum but 90% of the time it’s easily corrected by medicine. I

[@dusundavarfreohr3491]

I don't give one fucking flying shit whether they are a special needs child or not. You should NEVER spank a child, not your child, not another and not with a belt.

[@skye-louisescott2754]

My brother has autism and he barely understands discipline but hitting ? That just makes it worse for his mental state and now he thinks hitting is good ? This family is pathetic !

[@cindynymph]

Believe it or not. People with learning disorders do know better. I have Autism. I know better. My Mom didn’t treat me any differently than she treated my siblings. You just have to teach every kid right from wrong depending on the person. Figure out how they learn and teach them that way.

[@angelahinshaw6925]

Tanisha Souden I hate people who hurt kids it don’t matter what color you are why do it matter if you hurt anyone they need to stay in jail

[@mariafox9226]

He’s a child with special needs. You should NOT be threatening or belting him.

[@sallyfearon3369]

You shouldn’t be doing that to any children

[@CPunicorn]

He's a brave boy

[@florastewart7920]

Why does mom allow it?

[@44jah.]

masteraustin05 bro my dad spanks me and he is a very good parent so is he evil?

[@ShinySonic]

I have autism but my mom still hit me with a belt then moved on to doing it with a wooden paddle

[@ss75691]

My mom would hit me, throw me against walls, splash water at me, yell at me, humiliate me, and then when I was 17, I got into a relationship with someone who did the same thinking this was normal behavior-I was strong to take it. I have a daughter now and I refuse to repeat this cycle.

[@ahlamm-6141]

Good for you, I’m sure you’ll be a great mother ❤️

[@tikusblue]

That's amazing. You definitely are very strong. Your daughter is lucky to have you

[@Mmmtruk]

BLESS YOU

[@natemorgan1996]

Shania, I know we don't know each other personally but I'm sorry that you went through that shit, you don't deserve to be treated like that nor does your daughter

[@byronthompson2708]

Stay strong

[@elisehaynes9811]

Dude, if you harm a special needs kid in any way, you're going to hell.

[@cosmicstarrry]

Starry EyedFreak ADHD is easily corrected with medication

[@madisonmeredith9475]

Starry EyedFreak ??? So they can behave any way they want and it be okay? No. They need correction just as much as anyone else.

[@anthonyreynolds8995]

Elise Haynes you’re

[@illustriousmonster]

you're an idiot.

[@juliawburn2352]

Special needs kids do need careful discipline, however beating that kid repeatedly just because they can't control themselves is abuse.

[@foxloaf8843]

"Marcus was only crying because he was scared." ... Your kids shouldn't be scared of you.

[@leilanivaughan-williams3038]

I freak out about our Dad, even though he doesn't smack. He's just scary for yelling and trying to force my sister to have dinner with our mean Nanny

[@yorzi2139]

TheKittyQueen lol i remember when i was 9 i got scared of my mom just for screaming so what u mean😂

[@leilanivaughan-williams3038]

I'm still scared of him

[@yorzi2139]

Leilani Vaughan-Williams same tbhh am 15 and she still scares me

[@leilanivaughan-williams3038]

I'm 13 XD But my Mum is like the 'SAVE ME FROM HIM" person who tells him off

[@SOUSN]

If Supernanny says it's bad - then it's bad. This woman has decades of experience behind her. Screw Georgia state law.

[@organizedchaos4559]

Lmao you treating her like a god now

[@avaaaaaaaa]

@@organizedchaos4559 Because she’s a professional at her job, it doesn’t mean she’s treating her like god ?

[@organizedchaos4559]

@@avaaaaaaaa so a professional is always right?

[@avaaaaaaaa]

@@organizedchaos4559 Not always. Just sometimes. It still doesn’t mean they’re apparently “god”.

[@rainatmidnight]

@@organizedchaos4559 I'm going to assume you're too young.

[@Person-ef4xj]

As an autistic person as I remember as a child getting spanked actually caused me to become violent rather than becoming less violent. Also studies done on spanking indicate that children who get spanked more tend to be more likely to get arrested later in life NOT less.

[@dd4850]

It caused me to laugh awkwardly which made my mom hit me more because she thought I was laughing at her

[@ashebennett7726]

It caused me to have negative and intrusive thoughts that I try not to act out upon. Nothing dangerous, but still harmful. I never stopped feeling angry. But one things for certain, I also have empathy. Hope this child is doing better now. Hope you’re doing better too.

[@localabsurdist6661]

Violence always leads to more violence. Either in the way that the kid becomes aggressive and violent or the kid internalized that this behavior is normal and people are allowed to treat them like that and often end up in abusive relationships

[@shelbystrogen3128]

Plus when you hit your child as punishment and tell them you're only doing it out of love then they'll grow up believing that hitting is a sign of love, making them more likely to end up being in an abusive relationship or even become abusive towards their partner.

[@kathypalmer2865]

Spanking is not harmful,has been done for centuries and the fact that we stopped spanking for the most has had on our children. They think that they are entitled to everything that they want without any consequences.

[@Alyrulz421]

The worst part is the kid saying he doesn't know why hes in trouble. How is it effective to beat a kid when you wont even communicate what they did wrong. If this is how they acted knowing they could get caught i can only imagine what they do to that poor boy when no camera is around to see. They dont deserve children

[@xTwilightWolvesx]

It’s even worse when you realise that the kid is special needs.

[@kingofichigo]

@@xTwilightWolvesx that is worse. Dear gods, that poor kid

[@wickandwax]

That used to be my mother. She'd scream at me for an hour. She'd scream even longer if I tried to defend myself and say "I would've been done if you hadn't interrupted me." I usually either had no idea what I'd done or she was blaming me for things I hadn't done, like telling me I was "manipulative" when I was six. She'd scream at me for "fake crying" and then I'd cry harder because it was never fake. She'd demand an apology and if I apologized for the wrong thing she's beat me with a belt. Wish I still didn't live with her, but I have executive dysfunction and I struggle to do... well, everything.

[@Alyrulz421]

@@wickandwax my mom was awful too. There were many incidents where I either had to guess what I'd done wrong or was forced to admit guilt for wrongdoing, and no matter what I said or did I'd get beat on because sorry doesn't matter to abusers, they just wanna hurt you. I know it'll be scary, but take the plunge and get away from that monster. Do whatever you can. Sleep on couches. It'll be more like living than what you do now. Never speak to the bitch again, that's what I did. God bless

[@eleanorl.9820]

this has nothing to do with your comment, but stan MCR :))

[@SpiritDragoness]

My mom hit me with ever what ever she could grab, belts, pans... throw stuff, plates books. She was violent and a narcissist. She hid behind this spiritual person, a holistic healer and a vegan facade.... but behind closed door she was a monster. People who didn't know her, adored her. People who knew her wouldn't pick up her calls.

[@jamieroark5769]

It was the same way for me, except my mom was also severely racist who also molested me as well, and threatened me if I ever said anything to anyone. Of course she denied everything up to the day she died last year. And I also live with quite a few disabilities myself as well, so I can understand why the kid would be scared.

[@Melissa_newby]

Same

[@Melissa_newby]

My mom was too faced she would act like she was the nicest person ever and everybody loved her

[@susansnyder2420]

I’m so very sorry. That’s horrible. My mom could be a monster too.

[@JohnsonKayla12]

Wow that’s crazy. Sorry you went through that. Makes me wonder who else is out there faking that they’re good parents and nice people

[@lilgoosey-lc9zg]

I live in South Florida, and all the time I hear shit like, "Yeah, I'm proud that I beat my kids. Teaches them a lesson." ...To hate you? To be violent when they're angry? To do it to their own kids when they grow up? To not trust you and end up being severely emotionally crippled because they can't talk to their parents?

[@angelicalicari8355]

ALL. OF. THIS.

[@bucolicrose5464]

FACTS

[@nicolishoss7116]

Well said, violence teachers violence. My 14yo child has never been so much as spankd on the behind and she's polite, kind, never been in trouble, tells me everything, as i do her and is an all around good kid. There is no need to bully or beat a child and teach them its ok to lash out n ok to hit ppl smaller than yourself. Its sad i feel for kids with parents tht hit esp with objects. Its illegal here in Britain to even spank your child, as it should be and it should be illegal everywhere

[@calvinaiscott3711]

i'm black, it happens in most black american families... and this is literally my mom 🤦🏾‍♀️ she brags about beating us and laughs with her friends about it like she's so proud of it🙄 she be like"yeah i beat my kids and idc WHAT you think about it hahaha" like she's so blind as to what actually happens emotionally.. and then wonders why no one wants to talk to her about anything😒

[@nicolishoss7116]

@@calvinaiscott3711 awe thats so sad and heartbreaking. Any mum should only ever wish to teach, love & protect their kids. How can you want to protect your kids from others hurting them but then hurt them yourself. To k owingly be the one to hurt your kids emotionly or physically is heartbreaking to me. Dont ever be proud of hitting a child, it makes you a bully and a monster NOT a parent & their life teacher. I hope you're fine now & hopefully break the cicle. Teach your kids better with love and 'teaching' discipline, A hug, an explantion n loss of priviledges when needed teaches much more than violence & anger. So sad. I truely hope your mum can realise she hurt you and allows you to express your feelings so use can move on & can have a better relationship 💖

[@pokepew]

If you're too emotionally unstable to teach your children WITHOUT HITTING THEM, you shouldn't have children. Whoever thinks hitting their child is okay, needs parenting classes and severely needs therapy.

[@Jen_xox0]

It concerns me how many POC like myself defend plain child abuse because we grew up with it. We need to do better with our children. Edit- Y’all can continue defending child abuse and lazy parenting all you want I’m no longer replying to comments 🤡 I’ve already given examples and other people have provided info on the long term effects of beating your children but ignorant people will stay ignorant. “You can lead a horse to the water but you can’t make it drink”. I don’t need to explain my comment any further.

[@TheKim369]

When mine were born I decided I was going to do different, and I did. My father was a cop and I remember being whipped with his policeman belt when I hadn't even started school. I sure did hear about it from all the "hitters", it's like deep down they know they did wrong and want you to do it too, so everyone can feel better about it. And sometimes they want to call your child spoiled - mine weren't. I ignored those people. I took away toys or tv or games, or outings, or gave chores, they were disciplined, just never with hitting. They are now grown. Both have good jobs, never been to jail, no unwanted pregnancies, we really love each other and enjoy spending time together, laugh at gatherings, no throwing potatoes or yelling or storming away from the table at Thanksgiving. I think they have way better self esteem than I do deep down. And they don't even think to hit their own. The cycle can be broken, unfortunately hitters will put some pressure on the ones who break it. But for mine, now, it's not even an issue. We got through to the other side. I truly wish you strength, you can build a better future for yours. The hardest part will be the other parents, not your kids.

[@narajayde520]

@@TheKim369 i was spoiled but still got whooped and it gave me anger issues and it’s awful

[@Ashenicky2009]

My husband defended the fact a principal paddled a 6 year old student in today's society because he was paddled a lot in school. Turned into a huge argument because I told him if it ever happened to one of our girls I would defend them, and what I didn't add in there was that if he took the principals side we would be divorced quickly. The most I've ever done in way of spanking was I used my hand but I made it a point to myself to quit doing that. Now I walk away for a moment if I feel myself getting angry and then I handle it. But even then I refused to use anything other than my hand.

[@TheKim369]

@@Ashenicky2009 My eldest got slapped on the hand just one time. She was less than a year and becoming more mobile, touching a small plant that was low down. Husband said no, and she touched it again, so he slapped her. I thought, if the goal is to protect the plant, let's move it up higher, if the goal is teaching the word no, I bet we can find a non violent way to do that, we teach other things without hitting. Grown ups have the money, the keys, can reach up to the high places, they are smarter (hopefully), she was too small to even open a door at that point, I figured with all those advantages, we didn't have to resort to violence. End of the story, we did end up divorcing, he's dying and she cares, but not enough to become his care giver, she got a degree, earns a good living, has never been to jail, has good values. The in-laws openly disapproved, they thought we should hit, the kids aren't close with any of them. The biggest pressure seems to be the hitters. I don't know you, but I feel like saying I'm so proud of you! Hopefully you don't have to divorce over it, in our case we had other problems too. You know, kindergarten teachers have classrooms full of kids and manage to teach without hitting. Surely a parent, with a good relationship, can teach a child or two. This is already too long, but I have to wonder, if hitting worked, why did your husband need to be "paddled a lot"? Have a wonderful day, I think you deserve it!

[@Ashenicky2009]

@@TheKim369 thank you 😊 yeah, I don't think we will ever divorce over this. I talk to him if I think what he's doing is wrong and he's told me before that I need to be more patient as well. And our oldest 2 definitely like to challenge us lol. Especially our middle child, she will throw a tantrum at the drop of a hat, but I'm learning so much with her. Earlier she was fighting with my oldest over something, started to hit her and I made her stop but tried to ask what she wanted. She ran off, so I let her cool down a moment and then went in there and talked to her. She doesn't speak much yet at 3 years old but I told her she has a right to be angry but she also needs to tell us why she's angry so we can fix it. She just calmed down and started playing lol, but it's a positive compared to her screaming and throwing things lol.

[@monicevangelista3514]

"Marcus was only crying because he was scared" Of course he'd be scared, you're towering over him with a belt in your hand, any child would be scared if you do so. The thing is your child shouldn't be scared of you, they should've respected you.

[@wendyburke2210]

Good point ! & always remember FEAR will never become RESPECT .

[@iisunzo]

And no ones gonna scream as loud as he did by the sight of a belt. Even if he hadn’t hit him? Y’know that he’s being severely abused by that belt. As never in my life have I heard a child scream and cry while look at a belt.

[@imapotato6590]

exactly. whether you hit the child or not with the belt, it is still intimidation. It is still to make the child fear you instead of respect you. It's traumatising. Ive had my father threaten to hit me of one of my siblings with a belt before while bringing it out and waving it around multiple times (though he has actually physically hurt me but not with a belt more with pulling my hair and throwing my head against the bed over and over again but thats another thing entirely) (and I still love my dad, he is an incredible father, a loving husband, but he does have a dark side so welp). I was never hit by a belt, but the fear can still be traumatising. Never ever use fear and intimidation on young kids that are helpless and cant protect themselves.

[@debbiespiegel3722]

Girl bye

[@TheBlockerNator]

People are always scared when they face consequences.

[@TheLovelynoel]

Just a reminder that, "I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine", does not override any of the years worth of research on the harm it causes.

[@honinakecheta601]

Yeah, some people don’t get messed up mentally from being spanked as kids but those people don’t represent the majority of people who do suffer from the after effects of that. I was only spanked a couple times as a kid and it was never anything hard enough to bruise me or really hurt me, it doesn’t bother me now as an adult, but just because it didn’t effect me negatively into my adulthood don’t change the fact that for many others this was straight up traumatic for them

[@justinian6199]

@@honinakecheta601 I agree. I was a problem child so I got spanked a lot, but it was always just one swat with the belt. So it wasn’t bad for me, but def a lotta people are abused heavily.

[@bessmcmess4314]

I was horrendously scarred from getting hit as a kid. Even a decade of therapy later I still flinch whenever someone moves their hand too fast near me. I still sometimes find myself getting anxious when I know my husband is coming home, even though he’s never hit me, but because it reminds of when my mums boyfriend would be coming home and we’d all try to be as quiet and busy away from him as possible so we didn’t attract attention to ourselves and cause a beating. I’m so happy for the people who weren’t affected by getting hit, but for a lot of us it leaves life long fear responses to the most benign things.

[@selT02]

Thank you. People that experienced a certain thing like to speak for all the others that did too. What they forget (in this case of getting beaten by your parents) is the people that are traumatized, that flinch when somebody moves too quickly, that have anger issues now or do the same with their kids now. And heck all the Angels that died from abuse.

[@Sarah-pq6wz]

I was too.. abuse of any kind is SICKENING. I still DON'T forgive my parents for that.

[@JackiePlayzzz]

Like a lot of POC as a kid I was disciplined with a belt, hand, shoe, and sometimes a spatula or wooden spoon. My parents grew up with it and so did their parents and so on, my parents thought that if they hit me I wouldn’t do it again or I would learn my lesson. They always said to me, “One day you’ll thank us for disciplining you the right way” when In reality it only made me hate them. You see parents believe that threats and hitting will teach your child to behave when it only makes your child scared. Growing up with physical punishments made me think it was just discipline, I now know that this is downright abuse. And when I become a parent I want to be different because I would never want my children to experience physical pain just because they did something wrong. And I urge parents or future parents don’t hit your kids, talk to them tell them you are the one in charge, if you put maturity and some aggression in your talking you children will understand who is the one making the rules, if you hit them they will only learn that hitting others is ok and if you want to be the parent to send that message to your kids I hope you know the consequences to your actions.

[@JackiePlayzzz]

@Tigiudanke Barrie This couldn’t have been said any better

[@natemorgan1996]

@@JackiePlayzzz I'm sorry that you went through that shit, you don't deserve that ever! I'll tell you what, hearing your parents say that one day you'll thank them for beating you is just fucking disgusting and makes me wanna vomit and whatnot, you deserve way better, I used to get spanked as a kid with both hands and sandals by both mom and dad and no I didn't turn out "fine", later in life I started developing anger issues, low self esteem, undiagnosed ptsd, to be aggressive when angry, and all that

[@Mr.Goodkat]

Telling someone "you are the one in charge" is just welcoming rebellion against your big headedness, people respect humility and putting "aggression" in your voice is not cool either. Would you like someone dictating and talking down to you, saying they're in charge of you and putting aggression in their voice? "treat other's how you would like to be treated". Parent's need to stop with all the "I'm the boss" and "I'm in charge" nonsense, it's so insecure and just grasping for ego boost by stepping down on other's because their self esteem is horrible.

[@natemorgan1996]

@@Mr.Goodkat I agree 100 percent on that, man, their kids are not their slaves or their fucking servants or dogs, I would like to see what happens if they try to boss each other around and see how the other person reacts

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@natemorgan1996 You mean if a parent tried to boss their spouse around? or just "adult peers" in general?

[@iwasdyingtodeath9626]

People aren't seeing the bigger issue he. This guy spanked his SPECIAL NEEDS child. Depending on what this child has, he may not even realize what he's getting spanked for, and depending on why he's being punished, the reason may stem from whatever is wrong with him.

[@Juliette20382038]

bet you its adhd and they are saying special needs to hype up the story

[@andrewpalafox7632]

+Monica Barnes ad/hd is a form of special needs, actually. although, just like any other special needs child, their disorder or condition varies from person to person. he could have ad/hd and be extremely hyper and uncontrollable, but the father may see it as everyone else in society does, -- > "it's just an excuse to not listen." I have AD/HD but it's very mild and does affect me day to day especially since I'm not on prescription for it.

[@andrewpalafox7632]

+Monica Barnes also haven't seen the episode, so I'm not sure if he has ad/hd! but that still doesn't matter. a man shouldn't whip his child with a belt.

[@imcarressa]

I Was Dying To Death I had no clue he was special needs

[@mareyonnajohnson6638]

I Was Dying To Death I get what your saying

[@allysm.c]

we teach children to use their words and to not be physical, yet parent will hit their kids at any opportunity. it is wrong. period. the fact that he is special needs just makes the situation worse.

[@meriah10]

Right and if someone else hits them or they hit someone else then we’ll be upset

[@Twinsconspiracy]

EXACTLY! Grown ass adults can’t even handle their own emotions and behaviors- yet we try to hold children accountable for theirs? I don’t like to judge other parenting but you should never lay a hand on a special needs child.

[@xokaylee5252]

@@Twinsconspiracy i am expecting in january, i am a teen. and i told my parents i will not be spanking, whipping with belts or “popping” (shorthand slapping in the face) and they got so offended. in all honestly it has scarred me to this day and i can’t imagine putting my child through that. i think it’s disgusting

[@patriciawhite6429]

@@xokaylee5252 you need nickoleen peck. teaching self government. she teaches people how to control themselves with 4 basic skills and so much more. check it out she has a youtube channel and a podcast. it works way better than the supernanny.

[@giannawest7374]

Agreed

[@Stuartette]

If your child (regardless) is scared of you, you have failed as a parent.

[@throwbackthemez1054]

Ikr

[@craveliving681]

@@hdd6754 No. Your kids don't need to fear you. They need to respect you. Huge difference.

[@craveliving681]

@@illustriousmonster Sorry I want to be a decent parent whose kids aren't terrified of them and hopefully won't be traumatized growing up I guess

[@craveliving681]

@@illustriousmonster Well I mean if they existed you could. But you sound like you're 12. This, my fellows, is what happens when you hit your kids. They think harming other people and their kids is a normal thing. Don't turn your kids into this.

[@evieaddy9580]

@@craveliving681 this is called being a Troll

[@jillspangler5139]

She must report. All professionals who work with people MUST report abuse.

[@cierradunham4296]

Exactly!!!

[@danefilander6306]

The parents should be facing prosecution for child abuse corporate punishment to extremely out of order!!!!!!

[@princesse0920]

If the father was ok with whipping his kid when he KNOWS there’s cameras in the house, I wonder what he was comfortable doing when the cameras aren’t around. Hopefully things are better for the kids sake because this was years ago

[@ImAlterlol]

true

[@kkibela]

We all know..

[@moonhunter9993]

yes

[@SeptimusHeap95]

Study after study after study has shown that assaulting your child as “punishment” leads to violent behavior as they get older, depression, anxiety and resentment towards you as their parent. Is your child old enough to understand reason? If no, they will not understand why you are striking them. If yes, you should be using reason and not using your kids as an outlet for your anger

[@GypsyRoseBlanchardisaliar]

My mom was abused and beaten sans she’s fine.

[@Hannah-zw9ow]

@@GypsyRoseBlanchardisaliar my dad was beaten and he’s fine as well, but that’s no fucking excuse to continue the cycle of beating your goddamn child and he had enough of a brain to know that.

[@Jleigh225]

@@GypsyRoseBlanchardisaliar I’ve been in a car accident and was fine, therefore all car accidents pose no risk to anyone. That logic is sound right?

[@susiethepotato355]

im not violent i would not call two hits with a belt switch hand or flyswater to the bottom as assult and im only depressed cause i was bullied and my mom died and i have anxitey because of school and my mom dying so everyone is diffrent

[@heatherlowe7330]

Yes! And the problem is that some parents have anger issues so when the kid accidentally sets them off they end up getting a whipping for nothing. That just teaches the kid to be scared of the parent and ends up with the kid trying to stay away from the abuser! I acknowledge that not every parent that uses spanking is abusing their child or children but some are and don't even realize it.

[@JewishKeto]

Don’t want CPS called? Don’t hit your kids

[@aestheticallydepressed6935]

Honestly, we need more people like Jo in the world.

[@singalingalongaling]

aesthetically depressed Amen!

[@princesscurl733]

Yes we do

[@Deserteagle-yx9oc]

Not really because some of the people in this world that are stupid have probably never been wiped but I do understand his is special needs and that I agree with you shouldn’t wipe special needs kid but but the ones without special needs should be wiped sometimes but there is a line

[@ericawinn9127]

Yes we do my sister and I used to watch her nanny show just so we know how good our boys were compared to others and we would use some of her tricks and they worked

[@glossyjossy]

I disagree

[@suzannedavila1446]

I'm pretty sure by law she has to report suspected abuse. Thats what it is you dont need to hit your child with a belt. Especially a special needs child. Find resources to help you better deal and be appropriate.

[@lindsayschultz3816]

Mandating reporting. Absolutely she is a mandated reporter.

[@waneyarafiq3125]

ETN Zae Are you being serious? A lot of children throw tantrums in stores (even those who are disciplined physically) because THEY ARE CHILDREN. I understand that not all children do but that's not always because their parents use corporal punishment. Jo's showed parents multiple ways of disciplining your kids without getting physical. Also the fact that you said that you don't care about any of the studies that have been done shows just how ignorant you are.

[@addledbyatmosphere2784]

I’m not a Social Worker but I work in Social Services. I called up a household to review some information, identified who I was but I don’t think they caught it because before I could say anything else, the adult on the other end said “Hang on a second...” and left the phone. You could hear kids in the background arguing with each other, getting upset. Next thing I know, I hear this adult smacking, hand to skin - you could tell it hurt by how loud it was over the dang phone- one of these kids and it kept going... and going... a good 25-30 secs. The kid is screaming and crying and the adult kept it going, dragging the kid back to the phone with them. Adult gets back on the phone and all I could think to say was “If you’re going to do something like that, might not want to do it with a Social Services worker on the phone.”, hung up and filed a report after I got my angry tears in check.

[@44jah.]

Actually it’s not a law in Georgia that’s what she said to video I live in Georgia pretty much my whole life and I still got

[@margaretgrupski4548]

Admiráis You still got what ??

[@EST.1996]

I believe most people who spank their children either have anger problems or were also “ spanked “ and think it’s normal and also think fear is the same thing as respect . The cycle continues and continues until someone breaks it . When I encounter someone who does believe in spanking I asked them to just imagine how they would feel if someone twice or three times bigger than them would be threatening them with physical violence. The people who are like “ I was spanked , and I turned out fine “ . Probably have some issues and don’t even realize where it came from . When I see deeply problematic children or even adults , I always wonder how their childhood is/was .. so much of what we do how we behave or have other relationships is obviously directly from how we were raised .

[@razzle1964]

Quite insightful. Yes, it often CAN be the case but, not always. My Dad hit me, just as his Dad had hit HIM, I gather (just think ‘East London for the whole of the 20th century’ to picture how bleak you wanna imagine). I’ve 2 girls, the eldest is your age. I don’t think I’ve ever even thrown a fluffy cushion at either of them & they’ve BOTH turned out wonderful. I’d like to say “All You Need Is Love” but, I realise it’s more complicated than that.

[@Widdekuu91]

I was together with someone that got beaten at home as a kid and teen by his parents and sadly, this man continued the cycle. Especially when drunk, if he felt I was 'annoying', he would push me and scream. I have been thrown against the radiator, which he hoped would 'teach me to not whine about wanting to be carried like a bride next time' (long story, bottomline is that he was weightlifting and I asked to be picked up and carried like a bride across the doorstep, youknow, romantically and it upset him, so he picked me up and instead, hung me backwards, spun around quickly in a circle while I screamed in fear and then chucked me against the radiator.) Or whenever I spoke 'annoyingly' on the street, he'd push me forward and yell; 'Walk on!' He once didn't see where we went and chucked me against a streetpole. I cried and he pushed again, it caused people to look at us, after which he whispered; 'Stop crying, people are looking like I'm abusing you or something. WALK. ON!"'

[@BijinMCMXC]

Well you believe wrong. People spank their children because the Bible says “spare the rod, spoil the child”. I will listen to God’s wisdom not liberals that call it child abuse. There is a HUGE difference between that and child abuse, and parents that beat their children excessively to feel powerful and hurt them. What makes this wrong is the kid is special needs. He prolly don’t understand what’s going on and therefore will have no capacity to learn from it like a normally developed child.

[@Nintendofanboy101-yk8ro]

@@Widdekuu91 he was kind of abusing you though.

[@Nintendofanboy101-yk8ro]

yeah there was an issue where whenever I saw a comment that said "kids need their fathers, I would freak out. I still do. It's not just spanking either. It also comes with gaslighting, verbal bullying(example calling your kid stupid over not being able to get homework done), and threatening to do things and actually carry out some things. It's why I don't think I could have kids. I'm not mentally well enough to have kids.

[@misswhitegrape0225]

If I beat another man with a belt, that would be assault. If I beat my fiancé with a belt, that would be domestic violence. Don't children deserve the same protection as adults?

[@bipbopcherryontop6256]

Austyn Kersey If you told your wife to sit down and eat and she's not allowed to get up til she's eaten, that would be an abusive and controlling relationship. If you tell your child to sit down and eat and they're not allowed to get up til they've eaten, that's normal. Don't compare relationships with friends and wives to relationships with parents and children, it just doesn't work. You can say hitting is wrong, but these comparisons make no sense because it's totally different.

[@bessieburnet9816]

S A No, the comparrisons do make sense because this is about protection of other people and children and teaching your kids not to hurt anyone. Honestly.

[@bipbopcherryontop6256]

Elizabeth Brawn And telling a guy he can't tell his wife she needs to sit down and eat is also protecting her and trying to show him he's abusive. What you do to a partner or friend or anybody else is different to what you do with your kids. Adults can tell a child what to do, they can't order another adult the same way they do a child because that would be abusive and controlling and a dysfunctional relationship. You cannot compare the two, they're totally different. Nobody has the same relationship with their kids as they do with other adults, that would be messed up.

[@darkcorner901]

That’s a great point. Sit and reason with your child. Take the tv away for a day or their video games. That’s how my mom taught me.. on the other hand my dad would scream at me and I can’t even look at him and I’m 20 yrs old.

[@saranyasingh9192]

S A there's a huge difference in being mentally abusive and physically abusive. Hear yourself out and you'll realize what you said is senseless :).

[@Maryxx95]

Since I'm African being spanked/beat as a child was pretty normal, but since I was the last child I never got hit much. Lots of people turned out fine after being beat, but I never understood the purpose. You have a child who is smaller, less powerful, and more naive than you and to show them that certain behaviors are wrong you inflict pain on someone who is considered a part of you. Yeah, when kids get to a certain age, they may "know better"...but when elementary school teachers get in disagreements with kids do they hit the children? If your spouse does something unacceptable do you hit them? would you hit your own mother? your friends? I'm sorry, but a kid being your child doesn't justify that violence to me. YOU are angry at what your child did so YOU take your anger out on that child? instead of finding other more solid ways to teach the kids it was wrong? I get it can be a quick fix but if you've had to spank your child more than once over the same thing then clearlllllly spanking/beating doesn't work and only results in shutting your kid up for a few hours or days.

[@geraldinebecher7702]

Mariama Bah wow, what great insight you have. You pretty much covered it all. Totally agree.

[@aimeerobinson368]

Mariama Bah you ethnicity doesn’t make abuse ok, no one should ever be hit and abused. I have seen children abused by parents who considered themselves good moral parents... they are Mormons and felt beating their daughter was rite, cause the Bible said so... well, I am Atheist so that doesn’t rest with me. They scared their daughter so badly by threatening her with a belt beating for being outdoors without permission.... as she ran home to obey her mother, she ran through a sliding glass door and ended up with over 300 stitches head to toe.. and a leg cast. She was terrified of her parents beating her. That is a sick parenting torture...

[@hihiz432]

@@aimeerobinson368 they never said it was okay but corporal punishment is much more common in families of color. It is our normal.

[@skkart4885]

@@hihiz432 Yup, I even see people of color justifying it in this comment section. It's really sad that it's our normal.

[@lizardas]

He says, "We have whooped our kids, yeah. I don't consider it corporal punishment." The fool doesn't even understand what corporal punishment is.

[@amandavo2640]

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[@ericaschaidt8588]

Right by definition spanking is considering corporal punishment.

[@theshadowfax239]

Obviously he's not the sharpest knife in the drawer he can't even deal with a small child without beating it. Imagine being outsmarted by your child.

[@heathergrundyvlogs]

How can hearing your child scream and cry like that not make you feel devastated? If you heard them like that from the hands of someone else would that be ok? Even though you made them feel the same way?!

[@TheBlockerNator]

I'd much rather have a kid cry from being disciplined then have them getting arrested because they never got disciplined.

[@heathergrundyvlogs]

@@TheBlockerNator children who get smacked by parents aren’t being disciplined. Parents smack when they’ve lost control of the situation. So what does that teach children? If you’re frustrated , just slap someone. What happens if you slap and get into fights as an adult? It’s assault and more likely to be arrested.

[@TheBlockerNator]

@@heathergrundyvlogs Kids are different then adults. Obviously you wouldn't hit another adult. But you wouldn't send another adult to their room or take their stuff away.

[@heathergrundyvlogs]

@@TheBlockerNator slapping as a child teaches that violence is the answer.

[@rentonwilson7286]

@@TheBlockerNator If you have to resort to hitting your kids you’re a failure as a parent and human being.

[@chesiregirl]

"I don't believe it's corporal punishment" ...What? Whether you think spanking your kids is okay or not, you still can't deny that it's corporal punishment. Corporal punishment is a punishment intended to inflict physical pain, which is what spankings do.

[@kate2326]

What I don't get is he said so himself, she asked him and he said "Yes I do" but then added "But I don't think it is". Well, why did you say yes then? What *do* you think corporal punishment is?

[@kate2326]

***** If you were replying to me I wasn't directing the comment at you, it was aimed at the father in the video. He said "yes" but then said "no".

[@ajaugenti1976]

I believe in corporal punishment because of why, I had it before so let's bring it back!

[@jewgirl952]

Here in Nevada it's legal. My daughter's male friend was beaten nearly daily, I called CPS, police went there and then reported that it's legal as long as it's controlled and with a paddle on the butt and not damaging causing injury.

[@ajaugenti1976]

Donna Manning Wow! :O

[@kurasayo4732]

I'm 22 but hearing this child and seeing the belt in his hands scared me

[@emmahollow8898]

You are a wuss I bet you are white too you and your whole kind is sad

[@emmahollow8898]

@lewisgamer6 how? U barely know what you are talking about

[@emmahollow8898]

@lewisgamer6 I'm sorry for discriminating against white people I feel bad now I'm probably giving my race a bad name for discriminating against white people making us all look bad. I hope you can forgive me

[@juliat6444]

I'm 22 too and this makes me sick to my stomack. It's illegal to hit children in my country. If they lived here, they could be prosecuted and potentially lose custody. Cause it is very clear that this is abuse, not discipline.

[@44jah.]

@lewisgamer6 i’m just bored 😐 do I need to hear you-

[@yilingpatriarch4223]

Wait i could've called cps when my mom used to beat me with wooden bars/belts/ and spatulas 😭 she used to tell me that everyone punishes their kids like that

[@megsmith6758]

My dad used to hit us with slippers. Luckily I live in the UK so he got punished and had to go through courses and had restricted access to us. He still tells us today whenever we do something wrong that if we were kids when he was then we would’ve had a beating. I’m autistic and have sensory overloads and so I refuse to see him now. He’s not really a farther to me.

[@ToonCatTV]

@@megsmith6758 some southerner american gonna flip der lid if they read this

[@jeff_and_zero056]

The chancla , the belt, a switch, a spoon, a coat hanger, a flyswatter, a backscratcher, there hand, lotion bottle..... ....

[@lfox_777]

My Mom and step dad had a belt and a wooden paddle they drilled holes in just so it would hurt worse I never learned anything by being hit though it was just part of my life i upset them i got spanked i guess it made them feel better but it never made me feel bad about what I did to get it in the first place ... my dad once asked why I had bruises on my butt and I said it cause they spank me I was then forced to lie and say that I lied about that and that I dont get spanked I'll never forget being forced to lie that felt worse than being beaten

[@SJRD18]

@@megsmith6758 good for you for going no contact! That was a wise decision. ❤

[@adamraines6696]

“i was spanked as a child and i turned out fine” meanwhile they have anger issues and regularly beef with an 8 year old

[@caityq13]

Corporal punishment is lazy parenting. It's saying you're too lazy to talk to your kid and instead just scare them. Parents get frustrated and don't take responsibility for teaching the children why things are right and wrong.

[@esther8298]

Exactly, adults are abusing their power and it teaches kids to do the same.

[@mickmo5242]

Yes it reaches them to not communicate, exactly!

[@lifewithmandy5220]

Yes yes yes!! I said that just now not realizing you had said it also!! It IS lazy parenting and a form of violence!

[@destinylee1414]

Completely false!!! This is just ignorance!!!

[@syd-_-5342]

_DestinedByDestiny _ Ignorance how? Studies show corporal punishment caused children to resent and fear their guardians more.

[@TechnologyFML]

Hitting a child, with or without a belt, is unacceptable and, frankly, lazy parenting. As an adult, you have to maintain control and composure at all times (as much as humanly possible). How are you preparing the child to handle conflict in the future? What does hitting teach them? The fact this was toward a disabled child makes it that much more disgusting.

[@thatlimabeanc7041]

I completely agree.

[@crystalr4650]

Hitting a kid only tells them that it's okay to hit others then they get hit for doing exactly what they've been taught. It's a nightmare and I couldn't agree more with you.

[@TechnologyFML]

Crystal R Absolutely! And then how are they expected to handle conflict as an adult, in the workplace or otherwise? With a spouse? If/When they babysit someone else's children (whose parents don't want the babysitter hitting their child)?

[@crystalr4650]

AmethystSoldier Precicely. Sure, some kids won't hit others no matter how you punish them but isn't it better to teach them problem solving methods rather than to hit someone who is doing something they dislike? I feel like many parents miss out on oppertunities to teach instead of punish.

[@TechnologyFML]

Crystal R Oh definitely. The point is to have CONSEQUENCES not PUNISHMENT. You should be teaching the child about how their behavior impacts themselves and others, not seeking revenge for the distress the adult/parent feels from their behavior.

[@abb873]

"Marcus was only crying because he was scared" He was holding a belt in his hand when he went into his room.

[@GiesDiary]

When my sister would get in trouble she would cry before they even touched her because she was scared...

[@MopsyDoo]

@@GiesDiary that means nothing at all tho. You have to remember the keys points being made. A. That child was special needs, you need to have patience and understanding with them as things aren’t as simple for them as others. And B. That man had a belt in his hand. At that point it’s not giving the child a spanking it’s giving the child a beating with the use of an item. Children shouldn’t be getting beat with belts or anything else you can hold in your hand. At that point it’s nothing teaching them anything but to fear you. A child shouldn’t fear their parents.

[@GiesDiary]

@@MopsyDoo Lol tell my parents that. They strict but thank god they no longer use the belt..

[@CalculusKai]

@@GiesDiary no one should be having a literal panic attack at the sight of getting in trouble

[@jayconnolly5676]

@@CalculusKai I wish my parents understood that

[@rebeccawells1580]

If you guys want some more perspective on why hitting it counter productive… I was a HUGE brat growing up. I could’ve been on super nanny. I would throw fits ALL the time. My mom hit me (I am now no-contact with her) all the time because of it. She one day had enough, and contacted a woman at her church named Donna (lol I just realized they have the same name). I must’ve been 4 at this point. Whenever I really acted up, I got sent there for the weekend. Donna NEVER hit. Whenever I threw a fit, she would sit me down on her lap, and just hold me there until I calmed down. She then asked if I was ready to apologize. If I said no, she would keep me there until I apologized. Eventually I cracked, and apologized. She only had to do that twice, and just like that I was completely changed. I would never throw a fit at their house, and I obeyed. The second I got sent back home and threw a fit, my mom would just hit me, and would never try to learn the techniques Donna used. And I would just get worse and worse and worse over the years, until my anger issues snapped and I blocked her out of my life. If you want your kids to respect you, and not run off at 18, don’t fucking hit.

[@rebeccawells1580]

She would also use the “soap in mouth” technique, but it wasn’t soap. It was something non-toxic. That definitely shaped me up. But you know what didn’t? Hitting me as hard as you could.

[@Lokidude-m6h]

@@rebeccawells1580God bless, Donna, a true queen. We need more people like her instead of Neanderthals who only know how to throw hands. Where ever Donna is, I hope is she is well and it’s good your free from the abuse now ❤

[@mssunnylunarain7]

As someone who was spanked growing up, it absolutely is hitting and it is lazy parenting.

[@susiethepotato355]

well my mom tried using supernanny technique and it didt work for us when it came to me and my sisters fist fighting but spanking actually help us cause everyone is diffrent

[@ravenransom949]

Your opinion

[@brianneh1547]

@@ravenransom949 and the opinion of every respected child psychologist, but I guess you know more than someone with a doctorate in the matter, don’t you? 🤣🤣

[@kaylee1769]

@Faith That’s when spanking is done WRONG, when it’s done properly like how I said above it does work and it never affected my siblings, cousins and I badly psychologically. We’re actually all very close to our parents

[@yourgirllaurk]

I'm sorry you think thay way. But as for myself who got spankings, it was better than my parents putting me in a room by myself for 10 minutes(because I didn't learn anything by doing that or them giving me constant lectures). They even made me pick out my own switch(that's old school). As for my sister she'd rather have gotten spankings then sit in a room for 10 minutes. Discipline between both of us was different than the other. My parents didn't spank me out of anger(which would be considered abuse) but out of discipline. There's a difference. There's nothing lazy about it, you just don't like it as an option.

[@iyantae88888]

i don't think any parent should beat a child with special needs. i don't agree with that at all.

[@madelyn2507]

Children shouldn't be beat at all

[@bigrometv]

+The Black Bandana I got my ass torn apart with a belt never did that shit again your parents never touched you so you probaly did it again thinking "they will just tell me to not do it" ass whoopings is the key to success

[@vinovino5157]

+TheMoldyDorito no, it does not lead you to success LOL.

[@videovomit2518]

+TheMoldyDorito All it leads to is the victim of the belt spankings deciding to do it to their own children instead of doing something more peaceful like putting them in time-out or taking away a toy, simply because spanking is faster. This leads to the victim's victim victimizing their own kid, basically a huge cycle of abuse. Please don't spank your children or encourage others to spank their children.

[@hayles44]

Keyma B ok sooo then you say special needs kids deserve equal rights

[@tacosandthings2023]

I think whipping a special needs child is kinda wrong

[@luddan9498]

Yeah, It's very wrong

[@BriLoveMusic]

The problem with the term "special needs" is that that it's too broad. A teenager with anger issues or social issues qualifies as "special needs". Heck! Then we're all special needs people because we can all use special attention in some areas in our lives! lol terminology these days is so inaccurate, unfortunately. But clearly, children with actual mental retardation shouldn't be whooped by a belt for just anything.

[@iloilee]

Briana Molina, yeah they need to define "special needs". I have celiac disease and that's considered "special needs" but that wouldn't be a sole reason not to spank a kid lol

[@ThisOneCassie]

Celiac is considered a food restriction not a special need

[@TheFantasyboss]

It IS wrong. Not kinda...

[@RachelDeRosier010894]

People need to stop saying "it happened to me and I turned out fine." Whether they know it or not, they're obviously suppressing the fear and pain they didn't deserve to endure growing up. And state officials who grew up in an abusive environment like that are only making it worse for children today by doing nothing to stop it. It's a lot easier to use force than effective communication. If a parent has the balls to hit a child in order to get through to them, but not the balls to own up to their mistakes years later, then they never should have become parents to begin with.

[@mikewebber2637]

Yes, it's rather like "we didn't have seatbelts and baby seats in the fifties, and I survived."

[@BreannaBaozi]

I've never been hit by my parents and I think I turned out fine. I guess I may have been a rare type of kid, though, because I only needed to be talked to in order to understand what was right and wrong. My mom told me once "When you go to work when you're older, your manager or the person in charge won't hit you. Even though I'm in charge, I don't think that I should hit you either, because i'm supposed to be teaching you what's right and wrong." Now, my biological dad was a different story. He actually wanted to physically spank me and lay his hands on me when I did something that wasn't to his standards, but my mom told him no. I'm glad that she did, because I would have been even more hateful of him than I am now if he did hit me.

[@prankgirl9112]

Breanna Bunny No child EVER needs to be hit as a method of discipline. Never ever.

[@BreannaBaozi]

Prank Girl I also agree. I think that if the parent wants to discipline their child, they need to talk to them. I'm so glad my mom was that way with me. I know so many kids who are afraid of their parents because of the beatings they got. Kids shouldn't be afraid of their parents.

[@bbygxr33]

oh god it's abuse to spank a child. no it's not. sounds like you need a wake up call prankgirl

[@BreannaBaozi]

LaylaMichelleLuv But she never said that it was abuse. She just commented that children shouldn't be hit as a form of discipline.

[@prankgirl9112]

LaylaMichelleLuv hitting human beings is never right unless your life is in danger. And of all the humans that we should not be hitting it is the ones that are too small and helpless to defend themselves. I'm sure there are some forms of spanking that are not egregiously abusive but they are ineffective.

[@curlysheep4623]

I see people saying "i got spanked and look at me I'm fine!" What People who defend spanking need to realize is that not every kid is going to react the same way to being hit. While i don't believe in spanking at all some kids may be fine after being spanked, but every kid is different what's nothing to one could cause distress and long term mental pain for another.

[@natalieperez625]

I got spanked and I am not fine lmao

[@hope2338]

i got spanked, but only a few times when i was like 5/6. my parents calmly let me know why i was getting the spanking, and that they still loved me. and that they didn't enjoy spanking me either. that seemed to work for me!

[@aphradite321]

@@hope2338 what works for you won't work for every kids, didn't you hear the video, the boy got spanked for taking his dad's charger, that is NO reason for a parent to beat their kids.

[@howardanderson3662]

I agree Kaylee, and would like to add just because the person says they "turned out fine" doesn't mean they did. For all they know they could have some underlying issues they don't even realize they have, or why they have them directly related to being hit as a child.

[@DianXxX]

@@aphradite321 Omg he just took his charger and got SPANKED?! That's messed up...

[@victoriacardos8582]

Yoooo if she enters my house my parents would be in jail😅

[@2baran]

same lol

[@Tammy_Tammy123]

Same lol! I’m Hispanic! She would have seen a flipflop fly across the room and hit me upside the head while I tried to run away. 😂

[@Pokeguy-10]

samee 😂😂

[@kemiarobinson]

LMFAOOOO right😂

[@brooklyn4779]

Victoria Cardos sameee she would be dodging the chanclas

[@1990onyyy]

Honestly, children can feel guilt so when you strictly and sternly speak to them very slowly, looking them in the eye, they will understand. It's adults that can't be disciplined with words, but children can. Hitting or beating a child is not necessary at all and adults do it just a power move, which is wrong in every way.

[@Outnumberedbykidsandcats]

I totally disagree that adults can’t be disciplined with words. Plenty of adults can.

[@TradBarbie]

You're insane. Children are lying narcissists.

[@natemorgan1996]

@@TradBarbie do you fucking hear yourself? That is just bullshit real there

[@TradBarbie]

@@natemorgan1996 You're just offended because you treat your parents like crap.

[@jordanspaulding1490]

A beating with a belt if different then one swat with a hand. That was going to far.

[@TattooLoveXX]

I've been hit with a belt and I turned out fine. no wonder why the new generation are pieces of shit. parents think sending their kids to their room with all this technology is good discipline

[@jordanspaulding1490]

+TattooLoveXX I have been hit with a belt too. Bad parenting isn't about beating your kids into submission. That child was obiously terrified and that is not okay. Children need to learn how to respect their parents not fear them.

[@TattooLoveXX]

+Jordan Spaulding Respect comes from "fear " but of course your going to be "afraid" if you know your going to get hit. I rather have my mom hit me for the first time so I know what it feels like to hit. rather than getting my ass beat in a schoolyard for being a back sass pussy who never has pusnishment

[@TheRedstoneTaco]

aside from the "p" word (I consider it a cuss word, it is my raising up), you are totally right. Thank you for having the courage to stand up for the true morals in this terribly corrupt and incorrect video. God Bless you and have a great day.

[@mmoreno205]

+TattooLoveXX That's shit. You don't have to beat your child to parent. A good parent should be able to find more effective means.

[@darkinproductions]

A belt is beating in this age now, not punishment. You are on purpose making A MARK ON THAT CHILD. I see nothing wrong with spanking but not belts.

[@jessicasmith4192]

+GenEbony if you think having sex as a teen is fucked up, you haven't lived long enough

[@hollyalbertine]

+GenEbony stopped reading your comment after "abortion isnt wrong". im all for giving discipline to kids, but im not for killing babies...

[@jessicasmith4192]

+GenEbony 😂😂😂 if you think I'm reading all that shit 🚪👈🏾😴

[@AndreaJCline]

and this mentality is why so many children are little brats. children are not fragile little flowers who are going to break. As long as there is a firm reason for the belt being used (example is I had a belt used on me after getting caught shoplifting at a local convenience store), then there is nothing wrong with it. And people wonder why the world is going to shit, it's because people are worried more about being their child's friend then they are about being a disaplinary. I can say firmly that despite having a belt used on me multiple times during childhood I have an amazing relationship with my mother. The trick is to explain to the child why they received the punishment they did once they have calmed down and it should never be done out of anger.

[@KoshVader]

What's so wrong about teenagers having sex? I agree if they're underage they shouldn't be doing it, but is it really bad enough to deserve being assaulted. I'm an adult and if someone hit me with a belt, I could report them to the police for assault.

[@kimberleylingsvlogs]

I have to say its great to know theres loads of people who disagree with smacking their kids. I was physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my adopted parents. I was adopted because my birth parents neglected me. I was abused since I was born. My adopted mum was the one who would constantly smack me in the face really hard where my mouth ended up bleeding and was swollen the next day. She smacked me over my head so many times leading to headaches and dizziness. Even my adopted dad smacked me over the head but he regretted it after and apologized. but my adopted mum always punched me and my brother around and she never felt guilty or apologized. she said it served us right and that we deserved a good punch. smh she even locked my brother in the shed when he needed the toilet. When I first moved in with them I pood in the bath and my adopted mum smacked me straight away and shouted at me as I ruined her bath and she had to clean it up again. All this abuse started when I was 3 years old and my brother 2 years old. I am 28 years old now and married and have kids myself. I never abuse my kids ever. Oh and I dont let my adopted parents go anywhere near my kids unsupervised my husband and I are always there watching them, even though my daughters dont want anything to do with my adopted parents. I told my husband everything what happened to me but adopted parents are lying saying that they never hit me etc..... they even got my brother to deny it aswell which pisses me off. I know the truth and so does my brother he even admitted the truth to me on skype in front of my husband that he was hit aswell as I was. I do remember feeling very scared if I did something wrong and I admit I would lie a lot as a kid so I wouldn't get punished. I remember always flinching everytime adopted mum raised her hand it was horrible just torture. I was never close to her at all and I grew up hating her and when I had friends over I would never introduce adopted mum to my friends as I was embarrassed of her and hated her. I still hate her right now and when they are with my kids it makes me sick knowing what they did to me as a child and they act like they are innocent when they are nothing but abusers. I still get nightmares of me living over there everytime I sleep. its horrible then I wake up and realise its a dream and that I am safe living with my husband and my kids. Thanks to my husband he saved me from living with adopted parents. I am lucky to have my little family. There are loads more abuse that happened with me but I haven't got space here to write it all. I must add though due to abuse I now have anxiety and depression because of them.

[@karenneill677]

Kimberley Fatima Ling I am so sorry you went through all that a abuse. I hope you have tried conciling. God bless you and your family

[@kimberleylingsvlogs]

Karen Neill Thanks and yes I have had counselling and still see a counseller. it always helps talking it out. But unfortunately the counseller cant stop the nightmares I keep getting from the abuse. sadly I am emotionally scarred for life.

[@speedwagon9405]

Kimberley Fatima Ling Lmao ok

[@kimberleylingsvlogs]

Mustaines Hair what's so funny. Have u been abused before? Won't be funny if u were abused yourself is it. Lol

[@prankgirl9112]

Kimberley Fatima Ling I'm so sorry for all you've endured. I hope you have worked through your problems with professional help. I too am happy people are becoming more aware of how damaging child abuse is. God bless you!

[@firstnamelastname4680]

Parents need to step into their kid’s shoes every once in a while. How would you feel if a person three times the size of you hit you with a thick leather rope with a huge metal buckle at the end of it? You would be terrified! And you would be even more terrified if said person was chasing you and screaming at you! Parents need to get it together and grow up. Learn how to discipline your kid and stop taking the easy way out that is likely traumatizing your child. The kids didn’t choose you to be their parents but you chose for them to be your kid!

[@greenbanana1001]

I got whooped as a kid and I am thankful for it Cos it’s turned me into a good person not like the generation now with 0 respect

[@TradBarbie]

Well i *guess* I'd *listen* if I don't want to be hurt 🤔

[@TradBarbie]

@@greenbanana1001 amen!!

[@agarcia3986]

I mean let’s be honest if someone came at me with a belt and was like ‘Imma whip your ass’ I’d bend over lol I’m a kinky bitch

[@savannahgriffin1675]

@@greenbanana1001 you realize he has special needs

[@meezergeezer]

Okay, this burns my butt. BE HONEST. A child getting hit with a belt is not "getting spanked," something I think many of us experienced. Hitting with a belt is getting BEATEN.

[@prettylyons2880]

thats where you are wrong. I went through both beatings and spankings. There is a huge difference. Getting spanked by a belt IS NOT A BEATING. The pain from a spanking lasts for a few seconds to a few minutes. The pain from a beating however last days, weeks, and sometimes months. It includes severe bruising, cuts, bleeding internal and out, broken bones, and sometimes surgery is needed to repair the damage done.

[@Lookatmeshine]

+Lydia Whetstone you can get that from a belt...

[@prettylyons2880]

+angelstouch92 belt buckle, or paddle

[@TattooLoveXX]

+angelstouch92 I've been hit with sandals belts hands and a spatula. I love my mom to death and she only did that when I was super disobedient. I'm alive and fine. parents know a days raising a bunch of pussies who only play on their phone and nasty attitudes.

[@loverglow13]

+Lydia Whetstone I was spanked a certain amount of times depending on what I did wrong. With a belt. One time, I got 45 spanks in a row. I couldn't feel my ass.

[@PheonixStarsx]

I’m in special ed and when I was in kindergarden And I had breakdowns and stuff like that at school the teachers don’t hit me they just calmed me down with toys and stuff it always worked somehow

[@SSToten98]

NOBODY asked

[@pastellites2064]

That’s good! That is the right way to talk to a kid.

[@pastellites2064]

@D.M.W No need to be rude.

[@manickitty2783]

I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was little. I was constantly having outbursts, that would cause me to scream bloody murder. My elementary school was less than understanding, and I was expelled in third grade. Which is absolute bull shit, considering that they had special ed classes IN the school. but, instead; I was expelled. However, the joke is on them; because I went to several different special ed school's afterwards, and worked my ass off, to gain control. Eventually, I was able to go back to the local high school for senior year, and I graduated from the very school district, that had given up on me, and told me that I wasn't worth their help. so, suck on that Cornwall!

[@DianXxX]

@@manickitty2783 I don't even know you but that is amazing and heart-warming! Also when you said suck on that cornwell I died

[@jordanl5686]

It doesn't matter if he's special needs, it doesn't matter who the child is you don't hit them, especially not with a belt.

[@atomicfox4390]

There's a big difference between abuse and discipline, and this is disepline not abuse, it doesn't matter if they're special needs or not they're just like any other child, just because they're special needs doesn't mean they can do what they want without consequences an ass whoopin gets the point across quick and simple

[@PlaystationSimmer]

I agree completely, I just think people are even more upset that it's a special needs kid because they typically don't understand what they've done wrong, when most other kids do

[@aphradite321]

@@atomicfox4390 this isn't discipline, do you know he only beat the child for taking his charger? That's NOT discipline, that is abuse because that shouldn't be a reason to hit your kids, and he also has special needs which makes it ten times worse

[@aphradite321]

@@atomicfox4390 because the trauma is gonna stay with him longer than the usual person

[@aphradite321]

@@atomicfox4390 I am black and I believe that hitting your kids is lazy parenting, instead of talking to your child and telling him he is wrong, you are activating a sense of fear, so he is not misbehaving because he is disciplined, his is behaving because he is scared, I'm saying this from a personal experience, I am not obeying my parents because I respect them, I'm obeying them because I'm scared, this has stuck with me, I became VERY antisocial in my early teens because of the so-called "discipline" that traumatised me, and I think if it was a discipline I wouldn't be scared of my own parents

[@JWX94]

My dad used corporal punishment on us all of the time. Even if we looked at him a way he didn't like, it triggered him. I'm scarred for life because of it, and I'm struggling to find the confidence I need to be a mother someday.

[@IsabelleSelimGallo]

My dad did this to me all the time. He got so angry and verbal with me one time. That I literally ran to my room and locked my door. My dad had busted his way in and I literally was backed into a corner screaming "get away from me!" "you're scaring me!" It took 3 mims to get my step mom to finally step in and pull him away from me. To this day. I still have that impending blood running cold feeling when people stand near me or the feeling will creep up on me one day, and my heart starts racing and I can't calm down for a good awhile. While I understand punishing your kids for bad behavior. That kinda treatment ain't the way to do it. It borderline abusive in ever word. He'd one whipped me 12 times with a belt because "I had misbehaved during a school trip" but nah that teacher witch got check mark happy is what it was (I was in special Ed even though I shouldn't have been I was acting out as a child die to the abuse and fear I suffered as a child growing up. But nobody really cared tbh)

[@Anniecravens]

I am so sorry you were treated that way. I hope now you are treated with love and respect. 💖

[@THARVEYTV]

Breaks my heart that this happened to you. I’m so sorry! My mother was similar but without a belt in hand, just shook or pushed me around. It went too far during a visit with my stepdad’s mom when my mom pushed me and I fell over an ottoman, nearly hitting the back of my head into a glass entertainment center. His mom came into the room, seeing me getting up and my mom is that coward type that hides her actions, covering it up telling her I just fell. But his mom was too smart and just gave her a look. She hasn’t pushed me since but the verbal abuse still happens time to time.

[@annetteslife]

Have you ever been treated for PTSD?

[@IsabelleSelimGallo]

@@annetteslife yes ma'am at the young age of 13 ..

[@IsabelleSelimGallo]

@Elijah Mathews Henry okay who the fuck are you bc you keep coming on my shit saying disrespectful crap You need to get help

[@abrra1410]

Yes Jo. Adults finally standing up against this crap

[@singalingalongaling]

Thank God!

[@lovevioletflowers3442]

I remember a time when, before I had children, someone asked me something about the topic and I said that I thought that beating and whipping children was unnecessary and that there are better ways to make children behave. Now that I'm a parent, I'd say something different. Instead of merely describing it as unnecessary, I'd describe it as unjustified, abusive, and totally unacceptable and should be illegal. Yeah, I said it. You thought I was going to say it's okay to beat on somebody who is smaller than you? Not a chance. Too many people take out their frustration and anger on the child, pointing to something wrong the child did as though it were justification for the adult's actions. I cannot imagine betraying a child's trust in that way. I'm supposed to protect them, not hurt them. There are plenty of other ways of nonviolently disciplining a child. I use them in my household and have respect and order in my home.

[@gracieewart9282]

I'm so grateful that you're doing this for your children. The world needs more parents like you. So many people reading this (including me) are wishing that their parents were like you. Thank you so much for what you're doing for your kids!

[@biruss]

is one swat beating

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@biruss One swat is deeply immoral and hurtful. In the middle east you can hit your wife one swat, not cool and even worse on your kids.

[@biruss]

@@Mr.Goodkat if not done in anger, and as a last resort, how is it wrong.

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@biruss Because you are hitting another person, putting concern for yourself and your will above concern for them. It hurts, it's scary, it's unequal treatment, it's harmful and it's bigoted and ageist.

[@cheese9718]

As someone who grew up spanked with belts and a leather whip (NOT A BULL WHIP OML-) I can say that I totally disagree with this kind of punishment in children. The only thing it causes is fear and unsafety. Children feel threatened in these kinds of environments and its really sad 😔❤

[@SurvivingasMom]

My whole generation grew up like this, and most of us lived to tell about it. I personally don't hit my children, but I do believe the lack of discipline is a huge problem with children these days. Parents shouldn't be afraid to discipline their kids. A man yelled at me today for yelling at my children when they were misbehaving. I didn't even hit them and he screamed in my face what a terrible mother I am.

[@madisparks7353]

Surviving as Mom I totally agree, although in this case it was taken too far. My brother was spanked as a child he grew up terribly ( hes just an idiot) but this is mostlikly not because of the spanking. My mother and father split up just after i was born so when my brother was 3 and had already made some strong bonds with my dad. He got mad at my step father and got quite an attitude towards him but, thats just because he didnt understand that it wasnt his fault. My stepdad still thinks he did something to offend him or hurt him. Anyway, i totally agree with you on this and think that it just depends on the situation and parent.

[@spidaminida]

The difference between discipline and abuse is whether it's for their benefit or for yours.

[@sawyer8242]

Surviving as Mom yelling can really hurt. Your a terrrible mom

[@yeehaw4907]

Yah like My baby cousin is a brat she acts 15.And my uncle was mad at her cause she ran off and he tapped her face not even a slap! A.Tap.And some guy was like "did you really just hit her" Bruh really

[@anonsecondname5810]

Surviving as Mom I agree discipline is fine, as long as you don't hurt the kid, emotionally or physically. I don't think shouting is the best thing to do 95% of the time but I get there are situations where it's necessary, definitely don't think you deserved to be shouted at

[@marracinoxaveria]

My mom spanked me as a kid, my dad was abusive, there IS a huge difference..

[@SherlocksAlwaysRight]

Just because your father hit you harder and more severely does not mean your mother's actions were not abusive.

[@SherlocksAlwaysRight]

She had no business laying a hand on you. Sorry this happened.

[@sexymonster7667]

SherlocksAlwaysRight Sherlock fan?

[@viennasausage6690]

Spanking is discipline, yes, but when it does come to punishment, the parents need to explain WHY they punished their child. If they don't and they just casually hit their child without stating the reason, especially if it's with something else other than a hand, it will not only physically damage the child, but mentally as well. That's when it's considered abuse.

[@charlotte-senpai933]

My parents don’t spank me they give me “a discipline talk” so the just talk to me about what I did wrong

[@minwade5436]

No child & particularly a “special needs” child should be subjected to corporal punishment whether it’s legal in the State or not.

[@TradBarbie]

Oh you're God?? 🤔

[@cherrybomb_9873]

@@TradBarbie I'm pretty sure they're just someone with a brain.

[@RockSokki]

@@TradBarbie Who said anything of that? They dont have to be God, if he exists anyway to know whats okay and what isnt.

[@TradBarbie]

@@RockSokki I say you're not allowed to comment. Now obey.

[@RockSokki]

@@TradBarbie Who says I can’t comment? No one. Commenting isn’t exactly a right or wrong thing. Sorry but your way of trying to make a point failed.

[@Hannah-wj8do]

When I was younger my dad would slap me or spank me with a leather belt, but when I got older my dad always asked me why I never open up to him or share things with him or love him like how I love my mom those were the reasons why I was scared of him and I didn't want to go through it again. Later on with my boyfriend we somehow talked about kids then to disciplining kids and I said I wouldn't spank or slap my kids ever because if i hated it they would too if I was terrified of my dad so will they to me.

[@elizabethpokos7303]

If you look into behavioral psychology you would see that "punishment" is the least effective way to correct a behavior. A good behavior should be rewarded through positive reinforcement and discouraged through negative reinforcement. A punishment is different from negative reinforcement and can lead to an individual shutting down and never completing the behavior that is wanted. The difference is a kinda hard to understand (and way to complicated to explain in a comment), but when used properly negative reinforcement works 100% better than punishment especially in mentally ill children. I do not have any kids, but I have been fostering aggressive and behavior issued animals for over 3 years and have seen the difference myself and recommend that anyone with children or pets (or even relationships) learn how to properly negatively reinforce a behavior instead of punish it.

[@whossoul]

Thank you. I have a degree in childhood development, and seeing all these uneducated people who have no idea what they are talking about is infuriating. All this info is out there....unfortunately the type of person who hits children is also the type of person too small minded to think that they might actually be wrong and accept the scientific studies and undeniable evidence that spanking doesn't work and is harmful.

[@elizabethpokos7303]

whossoul You're welcome(: I am a student right now working on a minor in psychology among other things and I was ok with spanking (mainly because that's how I was raised) until I attended my first behavioral psychology class. Thank goodness for this nanny, she has made it her mission to teach those ignorant people the correct way to raise children. Knowledge is power!

[@tiffany1993ify]

+Elizabeth Pokos I used to believe in spanking too until I saw the light. So happy I have a better view of what effective discipline is now.

[@elizabethpokos7303]

Ara Quag I am glad you found the light, so to speak (: Remember to spread the word to other people who have children or pets in their lives as well

[@angeltsuki4692]

Not every kid is the same tho

[@CynthiaPrice79]

It wasn't a child "getting spanked." It was a child being beaten with a belt. There is a HUGE difference.

[@liamwatson5125]

In Canada, both forms are assault.

[@nunyuhbusiness9016]

A lot of things in Canada are backwards. I agree that beating a child should be a crime, but a butt whooping isn't assault.

[@maryshome8]

Spanking is perfectly legal in Canada.

[@Zeldafan1ify]

Cynthia Price lol you clearly don't have Hispanic parents

[@rxss6154]

Liam Watson in the UK, youre allowed to hit youre kid but you cant have an item in your hand to hit them, it must be your hand and thats it, and it cant leave a mark on the child or otherwise its assult

[@CynicalScientist261]

Corporal punishment should be illegal. I don't care if you think it help to keep your children in line. It's abuse. You are hitting another person.

[@CynicalScientist261]

You disagree?

[@leilanivaughan-williams3038]

It's teaching them to be scared to be caught, so they get sneakier. It doesn't teach them what they did wrong and why it's wrong

[@jonathandavis7317]

Thomas Gannon abuse is totally different from spankings geez

[@ZayaMillis]

Corporal punishment should be illegal federally

[@wozthescott6214]

I agree!

[@Kumahachi8]

I don't believe that corporal punishment is effective. In actuality, studies have shown that children who are disciplined in this manner are more likely to misbehave further. Instead, we should punish with timeouts, etc. and reward good behaviour. It works a lot better and it means that the child doesn't have to be in fear of their parents all the time.

[@thelovevslife9172]

Depends how it's used. If one spanks the child in anger, it won't work. But sometimes using physical force is necessary

[@walkedinthisparty_5173]

Your the kind of person to say when your child is in prison "oh it wasn't his/hers fault and they shouldn't be there..

[@Kumahachi8]

chicagoBullsVevo •_• Nope. If they do wrong, they need to be punished. I just don't believe that corporal punishment is the way to do that, especially and it causes raised levels of aggression in children, meaning that it'll be more likely for them to be put in prison.

[@Kelli_D.]

time outs are a damn joke! I was spanked as a child I actually was only spanked ONCE because I learned my lesson! I was told not to ask for anything at the store, I did it any way, and I was told no multiple times. I kept asking , I was told if I asked again I would get my butt whooped, I did it again, my mom took me to the middle of the mall where the benches are, bent me over her knee and whooped my ass - I was 6 yrs old , and I never misbehaved like that again. When I was told after that not to ask for anything, I did NOT ask for anything. Was I scared of my mom for whooping me? Hell no, I had much respect for my mother. (My father would never lay a finger on me, he was not the disciplining kind, I did no wrong in his eyes) I grew up just fine, had kids of my own, tried that whole time out, reward good behavior B.S. where did it get me? a 4 yr old child telling me to Fuck off! needless to say that she got her ass whooped , put in the corner, and grounded from t.v. for 3 days. Did she ever speak to me like that again? NO she did not, and from that day on I spanked her and her little brother and she is now 18 and he is 16 and they have been spanked a few times over the years. But they've grown up just fine. and grew up respecting me, and knew what I said was the law in my house. I'm not saying people need to whoop their kids every single time they do something wrong, But Without strict rules and discipline , including butt whoopings. You will end up with hoodlums for children, who end up in jail before they're even freshmen in high school!

[@Kumahachi8]

Kelli Dowdell Please calm down. Even if you're passionate about something, that doesn't give you the right to be rude to everyone else, especially when they haven't been rude to you. Please try not to talk ill of people who use different methods despite you having never tried the method. You don't know for certain what's best unless you've tried both methods and been consistent with them. In response to your statement, though, every child is different. You behaved that way, but you can't guarantee that another child would behave in the same manner, or respect their parents instead of fear them. For example, my mother feared her father as a child because he would have smacked them if they had done anything wrong, and her sister acted out regularly as a result. Studies have consistently found that the most common result of smacking is fear, a higher probability of acting out, and a higher probability of taking it one step further and abusing their children as adults if such fear arises. As such, it's best not to presume that your child will be totally fine with it. There are other techniques that have been proven to work just as well without such problems arising, and I'm just of the opinion that they're more worthwhile. My own mother used these methods with me, and I was more respectful of her for that very reason, because she didn't lose her temper often which would lead to smacking. She was patient and consistent. As such, as a person who grew up with such techniques, I feel that they work, and studies back me up.

[@chaunti123]

lol did you guys miss the part where they said the boy was special needs?? you shouldn't use corporal punishment on a disabled child.

[@bigboomer1013]

Richaunti Aud. I got that part and that's where I draw the line. But mostly the fact that it was all over a charger and he porpously want to make the child suffer

[@tillandsia776]

if there's anything that never ceases to shock me is how often people will laugh, giggle, and joke at the idea of being beat up, like wtf something's terribly wrong with that where's your empathy?

[@chaveski5760]

Some people tend to laugh from nervousness/anxiety and others find it humorous as a way to cope from abuse- those are probably the only 2 reasons why it might be okay to joke about it- (edit: you shouldn't make jokes unless you were a victum of abuse)

[@josephineosei1151]

Laugthing and joking about it helps me cope with it

[@MordyMcCheese]

Jo doesn't fuck around when it comes to kids. One of the many things I love about her.

[@itmebree]

There's a huge line of difference between discipline and abuse. You could hear the child SCREAMING. His father made sure that he was afraid of him. How could anyone ever do that to their own child?

[@SweetNightmares_]

You don't hit a special needs kid. Or any kid for that matter.

[@u2yes1dnoedcpsabrinakittyb2]

XxConstant AnxietyxX You kinda have to for discipline

[@Susumagoo9]

Disciplining and a beating it’s completely different my mom used to spank me with their hand closed now imagine it being with a closed fisted different, that being said special needs kids need special disciplining so that was totally unnecessary

[@celtictarotreadings333]

@@u2yes1dnoedcpsabrinakittyb2 I don't agree with hitting kids for discipline but seriously what decent human think using belts is good

[@lauw8653]

@@u2yes1dnoedcpsabrinakittyb2 I'm a mother and trust me you don't!! Only ignorant people that don't know any better or how to control their emotions. It's literally disgusting, I have never 'spanked' my 3 year old daughter and she is the most polite well behaved child. Why? Because I've put TIME into her and EXPLAINING things to her since she was a baby so she doesn't have crazy tantrums. And even if she did I wouldn't because guess what? A child's brain isnt even formed!! They are not able to process things and handle things in the same way an adult thinks. All parents should have to do a course in child development before having a child. It is unbelievable the stupidity of some adults that think discipline equals violence and that children won't behave without it. My mum never smacked me either and I respected her and she made me an extremely empathetic person. Smacking is a grown adult not knowing what else to do and losing control

[@eventerkeira]

@@u2yes1dnoedcpsabrinakittyb2 no, you don't. Talking to them and using correct disciplines works so much better. This show is proof

[@hottakebabe3842]

Studies show that corporal punishment doesn’t actually work to make kids behave. It just creates resentment between the parent and the child.

[@bipbopcherryontop6256]

Catlily Holmes But many children who were spanked say otherwise. Even here in these comments. Obviously many will agree with you too, but it's a case by case thing, you can't expect that every person has exactly the same outcome.

[@hottakebabe3842]

S A I guess I just find two decades of research and multiple studies with similar findings to be more reliable than a few, personal stories

[@bipbopcherryontop6256]

Catlily Holmes There should be so many entire countries with these issues in that case, should be widespread across those many countries, but it's not...for a reason.

[@sonder9284]

Catlily Holmes My mom spanks me, but I hold no resentment towards her. She spanks me 5 or 10 times, gives me some time to cool down and think and then she has a heart to heart talk with me. Studies don’t represent everything.

[@ronaldcox8551]

Catlily Holmes I'm sure it does. It's probably just a bunch of liberal hippy bullshit propaganda that forces people to listen to their opinion. I was spanked as a kid and I'm glad. It's taught me valuable life lessons. As an adult, I can see where my parents were coming from and it's actually given me more respect for them. They didn't want to do it but they had to because it's better to deal with the punishment and learn your lesson as a kid instead of as an adult. Punishments for adults are a lot longer and harsher than any spanking could be. They love us enough that they'd rather we have resentment towards them than see us in jail or worse.

[@Kensington555]

Okay, beatings include, belts, switches, fists, this is what I got growing up. PUNISHMENT for children open handed spanking on the behind, IF time out and taking toys/games/play time away doesn't work. I have a special needs son and he's never been beaten or spanked. But my techniques work for him. He doesn't get yelled at for being human, for making mistakes, like we ALL do. But if he hits someone else, bites, scratches, ect. He will be punished and have to sit, and that's literally the equivalent of a spanking to him (I'm assuming) because he does not like staying still, but must do so for four minutes, we go by age for timeouts in my home. After his punishment, I explain to him WHY he got put in time out, and that is because he did not listen to mommy or daddy about being safe and kind, or was mean to his sister/ his friends/ my husband and I and hit/bit/pushed/threw toys, ect. He learns by being treated like a human being and met eye to eye. Some parents should have classes to even see if they qualify to be a special needs child's parents. I know my punishment sounds rough but I'd rather him sit for four minutes than go through what this poor baby went through. I hope he isn't traumatized and afraid anymore. How sad is it for a special needs child who cannot make mistakes and be human without being beaten with a belt. It literally crushes my soul.

[@bubblegumb298]

Thats not rough, that is actually an awesome technic. No violence and being treated like a human.

[@quinngrey8916]

You sound like a wonderful parent, Jesus bless you ❤️

[@brittanybarger5267]

That’s how we discipline special needs kids where I work (your method that is). My personal opinion, some kids don’t take to timeout, and do need a spanking. It wasn’t until I was older, probably 7-8 before I had a belt across my butt, but the open hand did nothing to me anymore. Neither did taking something. But I don’t think I was abused. That was like a last resort. I can probably count on both of my hands how many spankings I’ve actually had in my life. My parents taught me right from wrong, and now I’m a respectful adult. My kids will be raised the same as I was, unless of course they are special needs, then I think the situation should be gone about a lot differently.

[@nicolesummers8139]

You sound like a good parent. Your child is lucky to have been born to you. Keep up the good work & continue tp spread your experience in effectively disciplining and communicating with a special needs child. Lessons shouldn't be negative and traumatic during any phase of your life. Like attracts like. You envelope your child's upbringing the negativity they will emits negativity into their environments the world will become negative so where their future. I have a special needs child who's 13 he's autistic and we had to leave his father and get a restraining order because he was physically abusing our son and was absolutely not okay. So I took him away and I've been raising him since he was 5 all by myself and it's always positive positive positive. I was physically abused and verbally abused as a child and I broke that cycle I have never wanted to harm my child in any way even when he upsets me for frustrating. I've just never been able to understand or Justify the desire to want to cause physical harm or paying to any child specially your own especially one that has special needs! Like I said keep up the good work parenting is hard parenting a special needs child is even harder. But it's at the much more rewarding because these little angels will grow up to be magnificent adult individuals because adult individuals because of the adult individuals because of the trials and tribulations we endured while raising them. But they are all 100% worth it! God bless!

[@michellewolfe193]

@anonymous She's going by her personal experience. Parents will use techniques that worked on them when they were children.

[@Yes-dy3nx]

As someone who takes care of mentally challenged adults, you wouldn’t believe the difference it would have made in these people if they had been raised correctly. I agree with supernanny on this one. A special needs child is a whole different ball park than a normal one. Period.

[@naokihunter7252]

Says "turn around" Has a *belt* in his *hand* "Oh he's just scared" Yeah? NO, first your child shouldn't be scared of you and second, he clearly beats the child. He has that belt in hand ready to use. Even if he didn't use it that time there was clearly something up before jo came and it included that belt. The kid sounded terrified.

[@imanbatak9459]

I don’t think i will ever get how someone can hurt their own child in that way. It disgusts me😢

[@ZenDragoonYT]

spanking. whatever is used. is cowardly parenting. you are a full grown adult hitting a small child. this is NEVER okay.

[@gurleent5496]

Zen Dragoon my parents did this. I'm glad

[@viennasausage6690]

Pff. I'm glad my parents did this.

[@stephaniemarcial7489]

That’s your opinion.

[@humanperson2205]

Your a coward if you don't spank your kids because of them they'll just walk all over you. You have to teach them proper discipline.

[@hunterjones3342]

Amen

[@mika4670]

How can you make physically abusing children LEGAL? Why was it even discussed as a law? Like: "I think I should be allowed to punish my kids how I see fit, even if it's hurting them to learn their lesson!" "Oh yeah. I agree" ...like what the fuck?

[@runawaycooki379]

If an adult physically hurts another adult, the adult gets in trouble. If an adult physically hurts their kids, it's a great way to punish... What?

[@javiruiz780]

I don't know I think kids should be spanked if they do something horrible, but I also think that sometimes it's just parents taking there aggression on someone that really can't defend themselves. I dunno what to think.

[@ashleytaccone5298]

Javi Ruiz the kid walked in his room lol couldn't have been too horrible! I spank my kids to put them in check but if they're already listening I would never follow them into their room with a belt!!

[@javiruiz780]

+Ashley Taccone I totally agree with you.

[@x0xqweenx0x]

The kid is special needs though, so a spanking would either do nothing or would do way more harm than good.

[@youngjesus5992]

Javi Ruiz I would defend myself when my dad tried to hit me hard I would start shoving him and yelling at him sayin "pinche viejo Chaparro cálmate o yo te calmo" and he would get even more pissed which I thought was funny but now we get along fine to the point were I feel like he's a friend

[@fizzysodatanwong7796]

Young Jesus lol "CALM DOWN OR I'LL CALM YOU DOWN"XD

[@KaylaMarieYT]

i think there's a difference between spanking and using a belt. i was spanked as a child with a hand. only once at a time and very rarely. i think using a belt is considered abuse. that can leave welts and using an object to beat your kid i just... you can't always control how hard it's going to hit them. i think giving them a pat on the ass is effective but don't beat your child

[@Drivebymumble]

Hey, It's Kayla I just think there is no lesson being taught by hitting other than fear. My mother's beatings started with the same intention and just kept escalating when she didn't get the result she wanted. I think it's complete chance whether hitting gets results.

[@brinalea7778]

I was beat with a belt growing up and im 57 years old now and it has messed me up my whole life! Still in therapy to this day

[@sianhall329]

If your child is too young to be reasoned with, then they're too young to be hit. If your child is old enough to be reasoned with, then REASON WITH THEM! TALK TO THEM! As a parent, if the only way you can get your point across is beating a child (because that's what you're doing, not 'spanking', but deliberately attempting to inflict pain) then you are a truly shit parent who shouldn't have had kids. Hundreds of studies have proven that children who are regularly hit grow up to have a host of issues. So all of these "Oh, well my parents hit me and I'm fine" claims are bullshit. We all know that it's unacceptable to hit other people, but if you think it's OK to do so with a child (who can't even fight back), then there's clearly something wrong with you.

[@bigboomer1013]

Sian Carney-Paul it's only wrong if you want them to suffer and beat the living hell out of them and porpously give them bruses and hit them more than 2 times and way too hard and for a stupid reason like not doing home work or taking a charger. They should only be spanked if they get into a temper tantrum and misbehave horribly like some of the foulmouthed kids who punches their mom's and destroy everything to get what they want. If done wrong, then it is child abuse.

[@bigboomer1013]

Sian Carney-Paul and it's also probably better if it was a teen becuase they suld know better than being a brat and they get very disrespect full so as a last resort you should spank them (for got to say that if it's a younger child you suld only spank them not too hard and only as a last resort if they won't take a time out as an answer and won't listen. My mom use to spank me and so does my dad (before they realised I am a special needs kids and learned that my autisum is the reason why I have trouble understanding and get stressed alot) and they say "now you have a reason to cry. Go to your room and think about what you have done". Actually spanking works if done in a non abusive way and as a last resort because it shows that you ain't kidding about their bad behavior. Ever heard of "all bark but no bite"? That's what it is, the kid won't care of you give them a timeout but the most certainly won't want to get spanked

[@taylorfoley7678]

BigBoomer101 I completely agree. I'm 14 and used to get spanked a lot when I was younger (most of the time it was for fighting with my twin brother).

[@JaneJRiley]

Thank you and AMEN to everything you just said.

[@evieaddy9580]

i think i must have been smacked 3 - 4 times when i did something wrong and by golly did i learn. but then as i got older i learned to smack back.

[@dieenevlogger8746]

Wait? That’s legal?? Where I live you’d go to jail for that.

[@FedUpPrincess09]

Idk where u all r but in America it is not illegal and there r actually laws around abuse and that which legally make it ok coming from a caregiver...and this is not just some states vs others...spanking is legal in all 50 states but they cannot cause injury or leave marks and according to CPS it can be 3 swats on the butt only with an open hand

[@FedUpPrincess09]

"all forms of physical discipline, including corporal punishment, can rise to the level of abuse if parents are not cautious and exercise good judgment" "Can you legally spank your child? The short answer is yes. In all 50 states and the District of Columbia, you are not forbidden by law to use corporal punishment on your child as long as the form of punishment is reasonable and does not cause injury." "Currently no state has a law that explicitly bans corporal punishment in the home. In fact, most state laws have specific language in their statutes on abuse, assault, battery, or domestic violence that make exceptions for spanking by a caregiver"

[@catrinacarter8417]

Yep, in our school in Oklahoma corporeal puniahment is given with a wooden paddle. Its absolutely ridiculous. Its 2019!

[@aetricia4233]

i believe that you’ll go to jail for child abuse i think. and it’s definitely not legal.

[@catrinacarter8417]

@@aetricia4233 child abuse is illegal, yes. But different states have different laws on what qualifies as abuse. Like Oklahoma is very lax on spanking. We can spank with a belt, a paddle, wooden spoon, or whatever as long as you don't leave any severe marks. And many, especially in rural Oklahoma, do use those things religiously. We need to stop that nonsense. We have a high incarceration rate for a reason. Lazy parents who would rather beat their children with belts instead of teach their children is one of those reasons.

[@birdcheese2770]

my friend is terrified of even the sound of someone imitating the sound of a belt to the point where she'll start crying. she also hates being touched.

[@sherribuckheit6682]

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[@tinymayo9614]

Nabil Shah What kinda comment is that?

[@tinymayo9614]

Nabil Shah Hmm?

[@krii9102]

Just ignore the troll.

[@tinymayo9614]

小百合 It's so hard xD

[@maureendomingue5173]

Thank you jo. Hitting a child in any way only gives them permission to hit others. Hitting is Not Acceptable

[@tamiweber9409]

Unnecessary to beat your Precious child. I think parents that beat their children are "Narcissist"

[@lilianadelcaribe]

thank you!! parents like this undermine the value and preciousness of their child and how much of a blessing it is have to one. and this is how you treat them? heartbreaking.

[@lilianadelcaribe]

@@44jah. dumbest thing ive ever heard.

[@thavelasco]

And lazy.

[@BuinidhMoChridheDoAlba]

@@44jah. Belting is the lazy and abusive method that does nothing except damage a child

[@Khalagessyca]

@@44jah. you’re an idiot .

[@aloiselectrathechangelingb1765]

My parents used to spank me and I don't understand why people who are supposed to love you would hurt you on purpose.

[@exceptionallyemma7053]

アロイス Alois Electra The Changeling Boy This is my belief! I lost quite a bit of respect for my father, who's a great guy, after those multiple occasions that should have been handled more adult-like.

[@himynameisbrianna7754]

アロイス Alois Electra The Changeling Boy I agree. There are other ways to discipline your child without having to resort on physical punishment. My parents used to spank or whoop me when I was younger. It only taught me to avoid conversations with them. We have an okay relationship but it isn't ideal in some situations. Other factors were involved, but you get the just.

[@oshawottMOVIES]

アロイス Alois Electra The Changeling Boy so you learn to respect them

[@Aurora-rw9lp]

Me too

[@saltamirano2003]

My parents used to spank me when I was younger. We never got hurt, it's just telling us don't do it again. Idk if it's a Hispanic thing but they would also pull of a belt but they would never hit us w it bc that's just way to far. I do see where some cases being spanked it wrong. But I was born around it, I was never hurt at all.

[@Velli0143]

As I’ve always said and always will say, hitting a child is not helping them know what they did was wrong. It is just instilling fear into the child, the fear of getting hit by you if they do anything they think YOU might think is wrong. If you hit your kids, expect them to never confide in you, because they will always be scared of you, and you just traumatized your own child.

[@singalingalongaling]

I agree

[@karenritts364]

Wrong. I spanked my kids. There is a difference. They adore me and are very open and honest with me. Now they are both grown up and aren't into drugs or alcohol nor have they been in jail. I spanked them when they were acting up and being disrespectful but I also gave them love and always gave them my time, reading to them before bed, movie nights on the weekends, helped with homework and lots of love. They respect me. I could not ask for better kids.

[@TradBarbie]

@@karenritts364 Funny, the people saying this don't have children. My brother and his wife *insisted* they'd *never* hit their child. Fast forward and they actually whooped their three year old too hard for accidently breaking the TV in their trashed house. These are those types.

[@TradBarbie]

@@RockSokki What you're experiencing is called "Dunning-Kruger effect".

[@TradBarbie]

@@RockSokki No I read the information. If an adult says "Santa DEFINITELY brings us all presents, and clouds are made by airplanes" and they're serious, then I don't need a whole psych eval or DSM to know their IQ is low: or know that if they give *me* advice that that would constitute Dunning-Kruger. Glad you looked it up though. You can go back to bed now 😉

[@PlsWaLuigiDomMe]

It is genuinely so sad that these people can say “he didn’t cry because I hit him it is because he was scared” as if your children being deathly scared of you is okay

[@judithmorales1282]

That’s not a cry of being scared, that’s a whole other level of heartbreaking cries

[@tjrefaat]

she needs to stop that shit. i was in foster care and those homes are fucking worse than the one they take you from.

[@pyxmalar]

I live in a latinx household and that was how I was disciplined growing up. My parents would hit me with a belt, chanclas, wires and/or whatever they had near them. I really don't blame my parents too much because that's how they were raised(but even worse) and they didn't know any better. I can say that corporal discipline does NOT work having gone through it myself. And I now have trauma because of it. And a whole list things wrong with me 🤠

[@CalculusKai]

Right it may curb the behavior but in the long run there are more negitives

[@marcusn.3762]

I am very sorry that you had to go through that and the problems you have from it. I really hope things have been improving for you. You deserve better.

[@ishowspeedsuiskibidi]

same thing. I don’t blame my parents but my grandparents, and that’s why i hate old people

[@mumlife4346]

I'm sorry you had to go through that and I'm sorry if people don't want to hear this but I'm gonna say it anyway without meaning offence to anyone.They do know better my mom got hit with slippers etc raided like that she stopped talking to her parents because of it and she had 6 kids and not one of us ever got hit by her she use tell us that she didn't want us going though what she did.Im sorry but parents do know better regardless of how they where raised its their own choices to hit a child or not

[@never_give_up90]

I know 100% what you mean.

[@McCarthy0000]

I have a special needs child (autism) and their brains are literally different from a “normal” child’s. They aren’t defying you on purpose, they are struggling with something....same can be said for a “normal” child as well, but chances are this kid has autism and was triggered or overstimulated....hitting him solves NOTHING. Plus the child might not even UNDERSTAND WHY he is being hit by his own parent. This breaks my heart. I wish I could adopt him. Good on Jo for being a wonderful human being ❤️

[@lolabigcups7121]

There is a gigantic difference between spanking and beating. It looked and sounded like this special needs kid was being beaten. she did the right thing.

[@melissarozema790]

Im proud of the supernanny fir doing that

[@GalacticPossum]

"He was only crying because he was scared." Yes, he was scared of getting hit by a belt, by his father. That shouldn't even occur to a child.

[@purpledragon8122]

I can say from experience that all hitting your child does is make them fear and hate you. Set an example, be calm, polite and explain why something is bad so that child learns they are deserving of respect and expect that from others. Peace, love and breaking chains 🌸

[@Juliette20382038]

i have no respect for people who have no kids of their own and think they have any idea what pareting is like....i was a perfect parent too till i had kids

[@majormana1]

I helped raise my siblings i know a lot

[@Juliette20382038]

h

[@Kannibalkisses]

She has over 20 years experience working with children, your saying that counts for nothing because she doesn't have her own? I'd sooner take her advice then yours.

[@Juliette20382038]

no it doesnt

[@Juliette20382038]

Kannibalkisses no it doesnt and my daughter is 12 i have never ever hit her and i have a baby and unless you have kids you will never know what being a parent is like