I Asked A Girl Not To Fall In Love With Me

[@CaralineMcElhaney]

wow, I never found anyone who understands what's its like to be a hopeless romantic. its hard when you love someone and you feel like the relationship is tough because you're the one giving all the love and trying to make the other happy and also stressing yourself out over it at the same time. Forever in the club of the hopeless romantics

[@CaralineMcElhaney]

Joey Kidney I know right!

[@rachelcloud8045]

Yessss

[@sindreerkul123]

It’s almost toxic for me to fall in love with someone, I am an overly passionate person and I will do anything for them.

[@isabelle2850]

oh, and then they throw you away like garbage and they say they were not emotionally involved haha. then depression strikes again.

[@lifeisbeautiful.33]

I understand this and relate to this so, so well. Every single one of my guy friends falls in love with me, and I only view them as friends. I wish it would just stop to be honest. I don't want to be in a relationship, I've gone through a lot and guys can really scare me. I've got so much stuff going on in my life and I'm so messed up and I don't know if anyone could ever handle me and my insecurities and fears and depression and anxiety and my daily suicidal thoughts which sometimes turn into actions. I don't think I'm the one for them, but they see the smallest act of kindness and believe that it's more. I love making people happy and listening to them and being there for people. I don't mean it as more than friends but as you said, the world isn't so nice anymore. Being nice ends up being viewed as wanting to be more than friends. I don't see you as being cocky about this because I can relate to it so well because I experience it too. I want to make everyone happier than they've ever felt before, I love seeing the joy on their faces, it makes me happy and I think everyone deserves to be happy. I love making people happy. It just keeps being taken as something that I don't mean or want it to be. You're not alone, Joey. You aren't being cocky either. You're just a sweet guy who loves people and you try to show that. It just gets taken the wrong way. I understand.

[@JuniBee.]

Life Is Beautiful. Trust Me. -I completely understand how you feel...

[@texastulips2620]

I also understand how you all feel. Great video Joey!

[@trinitygrace145]

i get this on such a real level

[@oceanofdevotion1952]

This comment is literally beautiful. I love how despite the fact that you are going through some really rough times, you still manage to be a positive and kind person, even if it is hard. I hope you never stop being this way, because you really do being hope in such a dark world. I prayed for you and really hope things will start to get better.

[@sarahleone3529]

Life Is Beautiful. Trust Me same here I can’t keep guy friends long term because they start to like me and then when it isn’t mutual they just leave...

[@jasminehartill1851]

When you’re just sat here wishing you could have someone that would care for you as much as Joey cares for people instead of it being one way all the time and you just feel like no one will ever love you as much as you love others... so thanks Joey for once again reassuring us that we are not the only hopeless romantics💛(also new hopeless romantic merch would be cool)

[@jasminehartill1851]

Joey Kidney yay😁💛

[@RosieEBT]

I understand this and relate so much, I feel like we're such similar people its kinda crazy, except my social anxiety gets in the way a lot of the time, I just like to be friends with everyone and I'll buy the food if I go out with any friends and I'm always there for absolutely anyone who needs someone and everyone knows they can trust me. I love helping people, I love just being nice, but so far, as far as I'm aware, no one has ever fallen for me. It's so difficult for me as well because I'm someone who's never really experienced love so idk what I'm looking for, what to do or how to handle anything! Loved the video btw, the voiceover montage at the beginning was so beautiful as well. You have such a good way with words and are so good at phrasing everything. Thank you

[@HeatherBoydWire]

I totally understand Joey. I am obsessed with helping fellow entrepreneurs, attending their events and sharing their work on social media. Often when I go overboard helping guys, they take it the wrong way and think I am interested in them . It just gives me such a thrill to see others succeed and to figure out ways to help them. Ultimately when we support others we support ourselves so maybe it's a selfish thing...but being selfish is not a bad thing. Sending love and respect your way.

[@fossen6665]

I feel like,.. or I don’t feel like, I KNOW that I always give absolutely *EVERYTHING* of myself to that significant other, and what happens if I dont recieve the same back?.. Yeah well I get really hurt... The thing is that I KNOW it’s unhealthy and I KNOW I shouldn’t give so much of myself to people, but I do and I will keep doing it cuz I know i’ll never manage to stop. That’s just who I seriously am as a person and I actually think it’s a good thing💛 I also believe that we have 1 true and big love out there whos right for us. Call me crazy, but again: this is just who I am and what I believe in 🤷🏽‍♀️💛🌈

[@Omnia224]

my name is nora heyyyyyy

[@sarahleone3529]

Same I’ll give everythingggg and go out of my way to do nice little things and yet my ex still took me for granted it was the worst feeling in the world

[@ashe4you260]

Anna Diaz you dont need a boyfriend really,I havent had a girlfriend for years and here I am happy as ever.

[@keky111]

Nora, trust in your heart and try not to add so much pressure to relationships. Do what makes you the best you, and one-day something will come along and be everything you didn't expect and more then you could have ever imagined. Be yourself and don't change for anyone. :)

[@jecilyjamon6998]

Nora i feel you nora. I am also like you. When I love i just love. I believe thats how it should be. Its a risk. No one knows whats gonna happen next or what the outcome is.

[@ggymnast3]

Nobody has gone through too much or is too much to be loved 😊😊💛💛💛

[@alanismarieedwards]

This has opened my eyes to myself. Recently, I have been in situations where I could fall in love but I have refused to let it go further because I felt that it just wouldn't work. But this video has literally stripped away the lies I have told myself and exposed the truth at I was trying so hard to shield my subconscious from. And I am so so grateful that I can now see the truths that cause me to slam on the breaks before I had even started moving. So thank you, Joey. It's nice to know that despite being single we are never alone and perhaps the kind of love that we need won't come from a partner, maybe it will come from the family that we build for ourselves...

[@lauren33881]

Joey, I completely relate to this! People sometimes use me because I will be nice to literally everybody, that is just who I am. I feel like I've done something wrong if even one person doesn't like me and just can't accept when I can't make people happy or comfortable. I have so much love to give but just can't allow myself to be in a serious relationship for the same reasons as you. I am a lot to handle, I have anxiety, chronic illness, my emotions go up and down etc. I am too much for people to handle. I can't even handle myself at times so how can I expect someone else to. It does hurt since I am a hopeless romantic but I need to work on myself before I let myself fall for someone. Thank you for sharing this, you aren't alone.

[@JessHedrick97]

Joey, I completely relate to thisssss. I get you. I also have anxiety and anxiety attacks and I want someone I love to be there for me, but I'm too scared that it will be too much for them to handle or that they can't relate or won't relate or idk I guess its just hard for me to trust some people. I either get that instant connection where I instantly open up or I become shy. I also think I set too high of standards or at least thats what people tell me...but I don't want to settle cause I know the right person is out there, if I could just find them... Idk if any of that makes any sense at all, but I do understand and relate to where you are coming from. I think sometimes it takes time for us to become comfortable with ourselves before we can fully give ourselves to someone.

[@justWadel]

You’re so right about people just not being nice anymore. I go through through comment sections these days or my Twitter feed literally literally shaking my head cause of how hateful people can be. I just want everyone to love and be loved but that’s not how the world works sadly

[@sarahleone3529]

Honestly everything you said is me. And I definitely wish people were nicer these days, especially people my age like fresh out of high school are still so full of themselves and self-centered. And nobody is a hopeless romantic anymore! I definitely am and my last boyfriend couldn’t understand 😔 I will put everything into a relationship and not get that in return and it hurts. I give acquaintances rides home, I give people money I don’t have, I lend them a real listening ear and I’m the most loyal person you’ll meet and I still get the short end of the stick, and it isn’t like I want to have to change the core of who I am just to protect myself :( I don’t want to harden up just because the world is mean and unappreciative :( idk I’m going through a breakup and maybe I’ll never truly find someone that feels the same way as me...

[@paigemcguirk5041]

I totally feel this so much. I give so much of myself in even friendships and I understand how overwhelming that can be for people, to have someone who is so willing to give you everything. It's not cocky to recognize that, its self awareness

[@makeadevlin1256]

This story has such a powerful, inspirational message to it. And you are scared of hurting somebody, and I’m scared of getting hurt. I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore.

[@lifewithsky9949]

I totally get this. It's hard having so much love to give because people aren't used to it or you can get "carried away" because you're just such a passionate person when it comes to everyone, not just partners, but friendships. I myself have so much going on in my life, that I can't see myself in a relationship yet because I don't think that they can handle being with me and I probably couldn't be with anyone anytime soon because i give and give and give and give until I can't anymore, or until they don't want it anymore and they just go a different way, and obviously both of those are very emotionally and mentally draining. It can definitely be a sticky situation.

[@aedgcaedgc5890]

i really wish that there were more people like you, someone who also cares about others, tries to make them happy. And omg I wish I could have this kinda conversation with someone who’s that real and who really listens to you.

[@britneenegley606]

I completely understand how you feel. I also consider myself one of those people who cares way more for others than they do for me (Not In a bad way). The issue with that though is that people start to feel bad about their inability to reciprocate the amount of effort I put in, which then causes them to stop trying at all. It's hard being a hopeless romantic stuck in a world of cinics, but after a tragic late night conversation with my mom she reminded me of one thing. She told me to be a "seeker of joy" and my happiness tends to stem from the creation of others happiness, so I guess the only thing to do is continue to spread love in hope that we will not only teach other people how to love, but let ourselves love as well.

[@alyssabird6925]

i love you

[@theoaklandzoo9128]

I feel the same. I have a LOT of stuff going on in my head... My advantage is, that my look is really, uhm, untraditional, so not much people are attracted to me. But I have big problems with friends. I used to do everything for them when I considered them as my friends and I very valued our friendship. But then every single one of them turned their back on me and I realized, that they never felt the same way as I did... It hurts me so much even now. And because it didn't happen only once I don't think I can ever trust someone that he really likes me. Friend or boyfriend - it doesn't matter, because I don't deserve it and nobody can really love me. Even if they did - it would be bad for them, because I'm a huge psychological burden.

[@emmasmith9690]

You’re such an amazing person. I’ve been dealing with so much depression, anxiety and so so so many suicidal thoughts. I’m not saying I feel better, I still hear the demons telling me to die because I still want to die,but you,you make me want to live there is a small part of they wants to live because of you. Please never stop making videos. Thank you for everything you’ve done for me.

[@sydneyx796]

hi joey, my name is sydney and i am also a hopeless romantic. i’ve only been genuinely in love one time, and i am 18. i met him when i was a junior in high school, and i was scared of my feelings because i felt them so strongly in the first moment of meeting him. we got to know each other as friends, and one day we both decided to give us a chance. we lasted a month because i was too much for him, and it made him feel like he was making me crazy or hurting me. he decided to not tell me how he felt. he was known for hiding his feelings from me, so i never knew and continued thinking everything was normal until he told me to go kill myself. i didn’t notice, but he had been emotionally abusing me for a few weeks after he decided to cut things off (without telling me) but since i had to go through therapy i came to find that he really had been abusing my mental state. it took me a year to get over him, and i really hate that i gave him all my love and my first experience with love but this video made me realize that i may be hard to love because i’m such a hopeless romantic, but i’m also scared to fall in love again because my last love felt like it ruined me. but i’m still hopeful. so thank you.

[@sydneyx796]

also, hi i preordered the happy hoodie 🌻☀️💛

[@oumaimaha2983]

you stay strong and never let a butthole ruin your life x

[@sydneyx796]

Oumaima Hajji thank you love 💘

[@numba124life]

Honestly I appreciate your personality so much. Because it's so true. People think someone being nice is such a rarity these days. And in the most non-cocky way I can manage, I know exactly where you're coming from because I've experienced the same things so many times. I'm an all in person as well and I also put in more in every relationship/friendship than I get back, but I don't expect things back. It's just how I am. And things get misconstrued and emotions get jumbled and it gets really confusing for everyone. And even more so, where I'm at in my life now is the same with I still have a lot of love to give, but I'm not ready for the in love portion of that.

[@morgansametz608]

I’m upset I don’t watch your videos. More. Thank you for giving me the help I didn’t know I needed. The help I needed but didn’t want to admit. Thank you for being your self to help me. Thank you Joey. For showing me to be my self. Over the last 6 months I had two of my friends drop off the face of the earth from me. I had no clue what I did for them to leave me. I’m still depressed but your videos help me. I wear my heart on my sleeve and it literally kills me. I’ve never had a boy friend. Well I did but that only lasted 4 days. He left me for me no reason. I relate to you so much. I give love to people that don’t deserve it from me but I do anyways. I break my back for people who wouldn’t cut there finger for me. But I do it because that’s who I am and it’s slowly killing me. I’ve been hurt so much. That I don’t want to go through it again. I want to love but I don’t know if I can after what I’ve been through. Help? Btw bell notice is on 😊

[@klarapleckovic4644]

you are honestly one of the only people I can relate to. I always try to be the best version of me but alot of people don't like me because I'm "too much" or "to emotional" or "too jealous". I live in one of the worst town's in Croatia because if you're are not rich or not full of yourself nobody will like you(i know that doesn't make sense but it's really like that). I lot of people who don't know make up stories about me or hate me for LITERALLY no reason and the only boy I loved broke my heart and for a year lied to me that he loved me, that I was his best friend,he doesn't wanna lose me etc...he broke up with me. He said to my bestfriend that he couldn't handle me anymore because i was too much. I was depressed and all my anxiety came back. I'm just a hopless romantic trying to find someone who will love me for who I am and make me happy everyday. I am a really loving person if you get to know me and I have alot of love inside me but no one to give it too and if i wanted to give it to someone I usually push them away from me because im so scared that they will break my heart of I will be too much.My dream is to sit down with and talk but I know that's never gonna happen but love you so much keep up with the amazing videos!

[@miriamkay995]

i love how you are so open and relatable at the same time. i experience the same emotions that you do and it’s honestly gives me such relief. thank you for creating and putting so much effort into your content.

[@laurie2550]

I relate to this a lot. Making people feel cared for and happy is the most amazing feeling in the world, and kindness should be more normalised, not a signal for romantic love. And I totally relate to the "i'm a lot to deal with" part. I'm too much for so many people, whether they admit it or not. So, thank you, Joey, for putting your thoughts out here in a video. For some reason, you always manage to put into words what I can never express myself, and it's a nice and comforting feeling to know that other people have a similar thought process. Again, thank you.

[@katherinegarcia3762]

i can completely relate to this, but sometimes there comes a point in life where you just have to let go and we are all going to hurt others and get hurt by others- that is just how life is. I get what you are saying because I used to hold the same mentality, and i still do in a way, but i realize now that letting go is much more freeing than always feeling like i have to please the world. i do still feel really bad if i am not making someone happy, but sometimes you just have to be selfish once in a while and just look out for yourself because in the end after you help everyone- who is going to help you? nobody has you, like you have yourself. you seem like a really nice guy and all i'm saying is don't let this feeling overpower you. let go once in a while and you may just see the world a little different.

[@trinrichards235]

The video makes perfect sense Joey. You don’t sound cocky, just honest. People that are difficult to deal with because they have a lot going on, are worthy or the care needed.

[@Alexis37001]

joey, you ripped the words right out of my mouth. when it comes to loving someone i put in 110%. it seems like no one can handle my love so i push them away. i love deeply and it sucks, because no one has ever been able to understand how i love. they either think i’m crazy or just weird. it’s not my fault i care about the person who makes me feel happy. i can control how i feel but it only makes things harder on me because i’m not being 100% myself. trust me joey, we’re not so different.

[@giafaraino952]

the world needs more people like you. so genuine, honest, caring, loving, etc. you’re so open and kind and a gentleman, it’s rare to see somebody like you in this world. i don’t even know you personally, i just think from what we all know, your subscribers and your insta followers, etc. but the things you do and say just make you seem like such a real, down to earth person. you deserve to be loved. and when that day comes when you are ready to be loved and to love somebody back, whoever that somebody may be will be one lucky girl to have met somebody like you. 💘 ps. it’s awesome to know you’re a hopeless romantic as well, once again it’s very rare to find somebody like that nowadays!

[@katiemays8016]

I completely get this video. I struggle with anxiety and depression and I have always dealt with my emotions and feelings by just showing compassion for others and burring my own feeling whether with jokes or just listening. I try so hard to make sure that none of my friends or anyone else feels the way I do on a daily basis and the only way I know how to is to make them laugh or give them a hug or just make them feel special. It truly sucks that some people can't understand why I'm being nice to them or showing love. Sometimes this ends badly and its just because sometimes people can't understand that I'm just a nice person. I try so hard sometimes and I can't help it. so far only one person has fallen for me but I have never really gotten to feel love like that. I feel as though I am there for everyone I can be but there is always a wall and sometimes I feel as though I'm unwanted or not part of that group and I don't know why. I did have a relationship with one guy and it ended badly. we are still friends but I just can't let myself be the one who's being taken care of. thats not who I am and neither is he. He is the type of guy who wants to open the door and hold you when your crying and somehow thats all I want but at the same time I'm afraid that ill get my heart broken if I let myself be loved in that way. This probably makes no sense to you or anyone else but I want you to know that this video has really hit home and that if you do understand or anyone else I would love to know and not feel as alien or set apart. Thank you so much for every video it has helped me get through this year.

[@giannajoy4881]

i kinda had to stop this video for a second because you just said all the things i have been thinking about for so long but could never put them together in a sentence. everything that made me feel alone because i thought differently or too "deep" compared to other people. this video made me actually take a breath. It made me realize im not alone. thank you.

[@cheese61251]

Dear Joey, We are so alike in so many ways. I’m hopelessly romantic, I treat everyone with kindness, I’ve had guy friends fall for me just because I’m being nice to them and it translated differently to them. I understand feeling like no one is ready to fall in love with you, feeling like you aren’t ready to fall in love, and I understand the big personality concept. I get feeling like you’re better off by yourself. I feel the same passion about making people happy and helping them. I really appreciate this video, and I’m glad that someone gets it. You’re not cocky, Joey. You just don’t wanna hurt people. You don’t want them to misunderstand you being who you are as you coming on to them. Because then you’d have to turn them down, and that hurts people, which makes you feel bad for hurting them. I’ve fallen for my fair share of nice guys, and they weren’t into me. They were just being good people. And it is crazy that in the world we live in, being a kind and decent person is so unheard of, that acts of kindness can be seen as strange and that all it takes for someone to fall in love with you is being nice. Not every person who is nice has a personal agenda (like trying to make you like them), maybe they just wanna make other people feel happy, feel better. I understand some people aren’t treated nicely by others, so when someone is nice to them they want to jump on that opportunity...but that just proves the point that people need to start being nicer to each other. And it’s crazy how often kindness gets misunderstood or misinterpreted as flirting. I wish that there were more open-minded and open-hearted people. We could all be a little more plain and simple human kindness in our lives and in ourselves. Also, my phone Case is solid yellow too :) Yellow is my favorite color 💛

[@emmetc.9800]

I have never heard someone articulate my emotions so well. I go out of my way for all my friends every day and it’s exhausting but soooo rewarding. and I notice it, but haven’t acknowledged it until now because it feels disingenuous to acknowledge that I’m giving more love than I am receiving. thank you for sharing!!

[@TheHermel18]

I can understand how someone can perceive this as cocky but i definitely also see where you are coming from. You have such a big heart and coming from a girls perspective it is so uncommon to meet decent guys so when there is someone that cares so much like you do part of us can’t help but fall for the way that we are being treated. I really respect this video and i know you think you are just rambling and nobody truly understands but i’m pretty sure i at least picked up on the point you are trying to make. Can’t wait for the book because I don’t know you personally but from what i do know and what I have seen from supporting you over the years i feel like we have a very similar way of thinking and going through life and i feel like you understand the struggles mental health wise and hearing the way you talk about it so openly and putting feelings into words that i’m having but i don’t quite know how to communicate them personally it really means alot. This comment has turned into way more then it was intentionally meant to be but i feel like I kinda just sit back and watch and only ever express how much your content means to me half the time and i’m sorry for that but i hope this makes up for it a bit.

[@sarina4797]

And all the kindness you show it's mean your mom is an angel

[@leonie4021]

I love the fact that you are so open about your life and the difficulties you go through. You made me feel like I was not alone going through anxiety. I also understood that for me it was better not getting involved in any relationships at the moment and just focus on myself more and trying to live a happy life.

[@xmxrmee]

You’re not being cocky. I completely understand everything you’re saying. I don’t really think people can deal with all of the things that go on in my head or some of the stuff I do. I also think that some of the nice gestures I do are seen as something more sometimes too. I have a boyfriend, but I’m scared that if I open up and talk about all the things in my head and just spill, I’ll say or do something wrong and he’ll just leave me because I’m a mess. I’m scared to hurt other people too Joey. I’ve always been scared that once people find out about my anxiety or stress or my depressive ways they’ll think they need to do something and then will end up getting hurt because of me. Life is weird😕

[@lilybenedetti1899]

You make a very good point here, one that I can relate to. We tend to immediately fall for the first person who treats us with kindness and respect, simply because we aren't always used to it.

[@patcavi8]

the part where you said " i don't think they can handle me cause im alot to handle" i was like ME!!!! i love that you posted such a video on love and relationships, the fact that you are reflecting on that aspect shows how emotionally aware you are of your needs and the other person needs. Everything you said is exactly what i am thinkin.

[@jreggy9505]

Hey Joey, I do know what you are talking about. I have and still do these things. Unless you let someone fall for you, you will never know if they can help and look after you, or potentially be the one. The one thing I have learnt from always being the nice guy, is that you have opened yourself up to being used and taken advantage of. And you will see this when one day you really need someone, and they simply wont be there for you. Everything in the world is give and take, and you have to learn that sometimes its your turn to ask for help. Your still very young Joey, so you have a lot to learn about people, and the one thing you have to remember is that not everyone is like you and me. We both belong in a time long since gone, where gentlemen would open the car door for the lady, and take the lady to a nice restaurant and pick up the bill, or even just give the lady your jacket on those cool evenings. Its nice to see people smile and enjoy themselves just because you put yourself out there a little bit and go that extra mile for them, but just make sure that you also protect yourself from those that would use and take advantage of you.

[@sunidhirathore2589]

OH MY GOSH! Every word that came out of your mouth has made me feel soooo damn relieved. It's like I am listening to myself including the rambling part and the burp I actually feel I am listening to myself.

[@gmarxer6499]

November 22nd 2019, I am reading your book that you published, “what’s the rush” I came across page 64. I recognized those words all to well. I have came back to this video to say this because not only is it the page that this video reads, but this is the first video I have ever seen of you. Joey, you may never see this, but you are my inspiration, you are the one I look up to. And I just wanted to say thank you, for sharing your story. So Joey, stay YOU and stay beautiful and remember that there is no rush through life. I love you Joey Kidney 💛

[@atkaaaaaaa]

I can relate to you so much. Every single one of my guy friends has been in love with me at some point of our relationship or even still loves me. Some of my best friendships even ended because I got into a relationship and they couldn't take it. The reason for them falling in love was not me being too nice, but me simply listening to them without prejudice. In a world so loud and dense, there is rarely enough space to let the mind expand. And the only thing I do is creating space. For me it started at the age of 13 already, when I used to lie in bed crying the entire night because I was so scared of hurting someone I loved by not loving them the way they wanted me to. But it not only hurts to hurt, but also to lose the possibility of showing love and loving that person simply because it isn´t the kind of love they wanted me to give them. It is still love.

[@Weekly.checkinpodcast]

I think that loving someone is insanely hard, and having to give yourself to that vulnerability and them maybe not understanding you fully in the end and then you get hurt or they get hurt. I'm a hopeless romantic myself, but loving someone isn't something that I want to do. My love comes with the conditions of loving me back, and I think that's too much to ask from some people. I think it takes the right two people to love one another and sometimes it just isn't yourself. Thanks for being you Joey, all the love to you !!

[@hetvipatel43]

I believe there is a right time and right place for everything

[@fossen6665]

very same. and everything that happens, happen for a reason 💛

[@sophiegustafsson1925]

I so relate to this, I am struggling with eating disorders, anxiety and have been dealing with depression. I am a hopeless romantic and always want everyone to like me. I need people to feel loved and wanted, but I don’t think I can care for myself very well at this very moment. I don’t think I’m ready to fall in love, and I don’t really think that someone can be ready to fall in love with me at this very moment. I don’t love myself right now, love is a beautiful thing but yet it has destroyed me in so many ways.

[@tinykoo77]

I’m the way you are completely. I love people so much that I literally let it consume me. I always put people before me, and I tend to lose myself. I love people and care for people so much that people overlook it and take advantage of my gigantic heart. I do a lot for people and I don’t really think people can handle my love that I give. I was talking to my best friend about this the other day. And that’s why I’m terrified to fall for someone after getting out of a 2 year relationship with someone who didn’t understand the love I need to give/wanted. I’m glad someone understands me. I love your videos and it means so much.

[@duakpenmiprecious3944]

Ya I can relate. People just don't understand the bridge between you being in love with them and you being nice to them. Falling in love isn't easy because it requires vulnerability and being vulnerable isn't the best feeling ever. I don't want to fall in love because I am afraid I might end up broken. I guess it is fear that ruin it all. We are too scared to try because we don't know where it will take us. Being nice is great it makes you happy.

[@emmabishop4133]

I loved this. I have always been the type of person that goes out of my way to do things for other people, purely because I want to make someone else happy. Making somebody's day, makes my day. Both of my parents were incredibly generous loving people and I hear everyday how I am so much like them. I'm scared to fall in love because I know I am a lot to handle ... so far no one has stuck around when I show them what they mean to me. Caring about people is an essential part of my everyday life, I don't think that I would be who I am if I didn't do things for other people. I think that's why I chose to go to university for teaching, I will always be able to do something for someone else. Thanks for always being open and honest Joey. Also, it's not cocky if you're telling the truth! The kidney beans love you, I think one of our favourite things about you is how much you care about other people.

[@eliskahynkova4948]

I’ve experienced something similar. I love making new friends and spending time with them. But the problem is that not everyone wants to be a just a friend. And honestly, that is killing me. Every time when I think I’ve found an amazing friend, he’s gone as fast as he came. And people around me can’t understand why I don’t want to date anyone. Once I tried it. Okay, he’s really nice and I actually like him... But immediately when he asked me and I agreed, I couldn’t get rid of the feeling that something isn’t right. Eventually it ended up just hurting him, the person I’ve loved. I gave him a hope which didn’t even exist.We are not talking anymore and everyday a regret I let him to think that it could actually work out. And since then I’m literally afraid of getting closer with someone.

[@krazykris4957]

i think it's crazy and beautiful how alone all of us feel when we're struggling with something, but once we open up, soOooooOOoO many people relate. thanks for being honest. this video lifted a weight off my shoulders.

[@rachelshell4213]

I have a friend that is so like you. My friend stresses so much because he loves so much and is afraid that he's going to hurt people with his love. He wants to get married so bad but he thinks that no one will ever love him the way he wants to be loved. I believe there is always someone for everyone. You just have to be patient. And yeah, you might break some heart along the way to finding someone, but that's the only way we all can grow as a person and grow closer to the true love that we have been waiting for. It breaks my heart to think that guys like you and my friend don't feel loved or every think that you will have someone to love. But you will. And you are loved. You are loved.

[@kingrick6800]

I feel the exact same way; when I love, I love hard which can leave me vulnerable when I don't feel/get the love reciprocated to me

[@erinalzapiedi9630]

I loved this video Joey. I've noticed in myself and in my friends that we get all worked up over people who are just being nice. It's so expected that people won't hold the door, or offer to pay for dates. It's expected that most guys will be assholes, and it shouldn't be that way. I'm very similar in the way that I like to make the people I care about happy, and it often surprises people. I definitely got it from my mom too, she always does more than she can afford to just to show her appreciation for someone. I'm in college right now, and I'm surrounded by people who tend to be selfish, but the few friends who aren't make me so happy. Keep bringing love and positivity to people, it makes more of a difference than you might realize. From the person at the coffee shop that you hold the door for, to the friend that you buy craft beer for, it's the little things that seem to make all the difference. Good vibes will come back to you, they're just a little slow 💛

[@karinajudyte8040]

It's so relatable... I almost cried. Because being person like this is so hard, but I think it's worth it. There should be more people like you.

[@nightmaredawns3530]

Honestly I completely relate to you, I'm such a hopeless romantic but I'm just not ready to be loved? It's something you gotta be in the mindset for and be ready to give and receive that love but I just have a fear I wouldn't be good enough to be loved or not give the person the kind of love they need and deserve

[@fossen6665]

notifications are really worth it❤️ ilu joey

[@fossen6665]

always❤️

[@alexandragblessing]

i totally feel this... always wanting to make people feel seen and heard, showing love through tangible things... and then they fall for you...

[@alexandragblessing]

it's so sad that when you're nice that people fall for you... cause that's the state of our world

[@julissaaquino143]

somehow seeing this , I finally understand . This is how I am and it sometimes gets hard. Again love you joey 💛

[@TuyetTranArtist]

Seeing how you and many people here can relate to loving other people so much got me reflecting on myself in this way too. I have had many people read my kindness as interest and fall for me quickly as well. I treat everyone with the same kindness, whether they are friends or lovers. I used to wonder why people fell for me so quickly and disliked it when I have to reject someone. But now I realize why this happens to me, and quite possibly to many of us who “love too much.” We love outwardly a great deal because we wish someone would love us the same way too. Just as you mentioned in the video, you wish to be loved but you also have a lot of things you’re dealing with. The reason why we have so much to deal with mentally and emotionally is because WE are not giving ourselves the love WE need. We spend so much time giving other people our attention and care, but when it comes to ourselves, we give very little. So now outward love becomes a reciprocal need for attention in a relationship. We don’t like to admit we need this sometimes, but we have them. And I think it will help us all a lot when we finally give US the love and attention we need. When we feel full in this capacity, when we genuinely love and recognize our beauty and goodness for what it is, then we can genuinely love, both inside and out. Love you all and take care of your inner soul. It would love your attention and love.

[@emilymejia7180]

im so stupid, when you went on a rant about how the world isn't that nice anymore but you should be a nice human i legit double tapped the video as if it was on instagram, like i was liking it. but joey, i think i needed to hear this cause i think we just get used to the jerks that treat people like dirt so when we meet someone who GENUINELY values us as a human being we assume that that person is the one. honestly the direction i was headed. you are a person i aspire to be. thank you for your inspiration.

[@amoreselluna]

I’m honestly the same way a hopeless romantic but I’m also an Empath with an old soul as well. So like I’m always kind to people wether I know them or not. I get told a lot when people meet me that I’m so kind and seem like such a sweet person. I always give people compliments as well even strangers like for example the other day I saw this girl who had flawless makeup on and was wearing a cute outfit and I went up to her and told her I loved her makeup and her outfit and she was so flattered that she was like oh my gosh thank you so much and put her hands on her heart like in aw. I could tell it really made her day. I love being kind and complimenting strangers or when saying thank you for someone holding the door for me or when I go out shopping or to a doctors appointment I tell people to have a blessed and great day. You never know what someone goes through being closed doors so that’s why I’m always kind to people because growing up people were not kind to me and I was the girl that got hurt a lot by people and no one seemed to like compliment me or say anything nice to me so as I grew up into adulthood I told myself that I’d always be kind and nice to people because I was once there and it may be the one thing that makes their whole entire day. I feel that I’m more of a better friend or just some stranger complimenting other strangers than when I am in a relationship because in a relationship I give my all and it always ends up me getting hurt and/or walked all over on because I can be a pushover when I’m in love with someone and truly care about them & their well-being. It’s bad but I’m still trying to work on that.

[@chiennifer7300]

Hi hi! I relate a lot to being the care taker and just loving being considerate of everyone else. I also think its really important for you to be as whole as you can before you can really enter a romantic relationship with someone else. But I am also a super strong believer that guys and girls can be friends, and that its important to learn to figure out the difference between friend love and romantic love because they can be confusing sometimes. It is sad that in this world so many of us get confused when we find a genuinely good bean, and thank you for trying to illuminate that difference. Please also give some thought to the fact that everyone deserves real true love, especially you, and that it may not be handling you(?) but learning how to let yourself depend on others too to be just as amazing to you.

[@Nevemae22]

I don’t see this as cocky at all. This is so real and amazing. I relate so much. I wish I could give love to everyone but that often means people either take it the wrong way or use it against me. You’re such a kind soul. I fell in love with this video

[@kaylenleverenz9632]

I feel this. Except people don’t really fall in love with me as much as i keep falling in love with people because i want so much to give my love away. And i always end up feeling like too much for people or caring too much that it overwhelms them.

[@carrie4556]

i'm so grateful that you make all these videos and are so honest about it, you don't see it much anymore on youtube but with you, it's always real. it's always genuine. it's always you. so thank you, joey. i appreciate you a lot x

[@user-rx3rp2jf4u]

I don't think you were cocky at all. You're genuinely such a nice human, and I relate so much to this video. I'm always the one who makes sure EVERYONE feels included and loved, even if that means I have to go out of my way to see to it. This video as always was so aesthetically pleasing- they seem to be getting better by the day! x

[@lisaw3962]

I get it. I totally feel this way. My heart simultaneously flourishes and breaks if I find out someone likes me.

[@ailensantana22]

I completely get it, I think about it the same way. I feel like people like us invest all of us into our significant others , we give and we give and most of the time the other person does not know how to respond to that and we end up hurting instead of loving .

[@rachelcloud8045]

I truly do relate to this! I’m not that great at small talk and I don’t like the hey how are you because they it is so superficial. People get weird a lot though when I want to actually know how they are and it’s pretty sad actually. At the same time when I’m nice to people a lot of times I end up investing my entire self into someone else and I love doing it but it’s extremely exhausting and damaging. People also tend to take it the wrong way a lot and I hate telling people that a relationship isn’t going to work because in all honesty I don’t believe i am ready for that. I have a lot of issues and I need to learn to love myself before I can love someone else.

[@lizzybird142]

This is creepily relatable.i am very happy you spoke up about this because I always feel so isolated because I feel very similar

[@mariahwisdom-peters6919]

I think you're a superhero. And your power is making others feel loved. I think in a world where literally if you are nice to anyone you are shipped as opposed to it just being a nice gesture. I totally get this problem and it's actually caused me a lot of anxiety and sometimes I've even held back for fear of it being misinterpreted. Need to work on that. But I think you need to take your own advice and stay you, because if everyone in the world was as kind as you, the world would be great! When it comes to falling in love I'm no expert, but I think take your time, there's 7 billion people on this planet, I'm sure she's out there and you'll find her when it's time.

[@carmenpacitto3426]

This is so honestly beautiful. Not the video, but you. What you said made you a really good person at my eyes. I didn't thought that in the world could exist people like you, so humble and honest and non-selfish. You spread so much positivity, love and joy of living life that you made my heart warm and happy. You actually made me feel loved, happy, just with what you said. And it's not something that I have never experienced in my life. Fortunately, I had a happy childhood, I have a caring family and friends and love was never denied to me. But your love is something that I can't even explain. I can relate to what you said because I love when people I care for are happy and smiley and I made them smile or laugh. You have such a brave heart as well because you could get hurt anytime by people abusing your kindness but, apparently, you don't care. Joey, I want to thank you so much because you made me trust the mankind again. It is up to people like you and me (little bit vain lol) to spread love in this hating world. You made me understand this. Thank you. 💛

[@copperlocs6569]

Someone has finally said what I’ve thought for so long! Thank you Joey... for being so loving to everyone and also for having the wisdom to know what is best for you.

[@carlyholmes2964]

All I ever want is to make people happy and I even got really bad into depression because I basically gave my life for a friend to try to be happy and nothing ever worked so it kept getting worse. We’re not friends anymore and I’m in therapy now but I’m still nice to people. I try my hardest to make someone’s day or even make them happy for a few minutes. All I ever wanted was someone who would love me for me and wouldn’t screw me over and after watching this I got thinking. I relate to what you say, I can be a lot at times and idk I don’t think anyone should really have to deal with the things I deal with in a relationship. Anyways, I just wanted to say thank you. You’re a big inspiration in my life and you help me get through each day. Thank you so much Joey. Never stop being you💛

[@EllaChinois]

I can relate to what you said 100%. I have a lot more patience than most people. That is why it is easy for me to get a lot of people to like me. It is a good thing most guys don't fall for a girl's personality. I don't have much to offer other than my personality. It is a relief that I don't need to tell a guy who might be interested in me not to fall in love with me. That is one of the perks of being homely looking.

[@rosemobiadeen1622]

wow, i can relate so much to the hopeless romantic part. you are the kind of guy the world needs way more of, you're so sweet😭

[@cerisecover2390]

I understand this. Although I don't have adhd or depression I do try to make my friends the best that I can. I respond to their texts as soon as I can and always try to be there for them, even if they don't do the same. I like listening to these kinds of videos. I hope you feel better soon

[@brielleguymon2553]

i understand you perfectly joey, your destiny is not to be alone. there is a person out there for you, you will find each other. also, you are such a better person than you give yourself credit for! you are amazing joey!

[@tessherrera1680]

Wow Joey this was really nice to watch, that I unexpectedly cried. I feel like I’m such a hopeless romantic I love being in love I love wanting to be the best lover they ever had and will go out of my way day after day to do things even if that means driving 45-1 hr 2x a day to do it or buying gifts that aren’t just gifts but that have significant meaning that no one else pay attention too and I relate so much because I feel like my love is so big and so broad that no one can hold it because people are so used to love being conditional and I just want to show someone that I can love them in all aspects of a person like they never felt before. This was a good video. Thank you

[@sydnihernandez479]

Joey, I feel the same way you do, but in a different way. I have depression, I have anxiety, all that jazz. It's a lot to handle, even for me. I think of is at there is always someone out there for everyone. Maybe they can't handle it in the beginning, but maybe they can adapt. I want to make people feel loved as well and that they're wanted. It kills me inside to think that they aren't loved or wanted. There's somebody out there for you, I know it. Stay you

[@destinybrown4222]

I relate to this so much. I'm scared to hurt others, even if its just a stranger.

[@yaritzalopez6481]

Once I heard you say I’m just a hopeless romantic that scared to hurt someone.... made me realize I’m not the only one that feels that way, knowing that you feel the same makes me feel better.

[@stefaniastolz8830]

Honestly I was always told that it is my fault for getting attached to people so easily. That I somehow had to filter what I feel and how I share that with others. I just got so used not being in a relationship, that whenever the opportunity arises, I just run the other way around. I was always told I look better alone and this is just messed up ! I am messed up but it is encouraging to know that others feel the same and that I am not just someone who is " damaged ".

[@aspenschilz1857]

You remind me a lot of my friend Zach. He's just like you when it comes to wanting to make sure that everyone is happy and he feels the need to make everyone's day every day, but he goes through a lot too. He doesn't always have someone there to tell him that it's okay if he doesn't get around to saying hi to everyone. He doesn't always have someone there he can go to. I've told him to watch your videos and listen to the podcast (he always asks who I'm listening to) so I hope that he can see he's not the only one who loves too much.

[@selinab.6222]

I get that so much !! Lately I tried to hide that because I got frustrated and couldn't handle the expectations and thoughts that other people have because of my behavior. But there are people that can handle all the love that you have to give and more! ❤️

[@skylarjade1726]

You said leave a comment.. so I will. This video spoke to me. I do this thing... I live in a country where I havent met one person who was just generally happy. Its upsetting. I met someone who was alot to handle but I did it anyway. His life is completely different now. He specifically said and showed his life would be non existant if I hadnt have met him and told him that he is worthy and proved it go him. I tell people I am that one person who will take care of anyone, just to talk, sit in silence together, write or draw or just listen to music with. Anything. some people just need that one person to be there. I am usually that one person. I have met so many people in this world but I am still afraid to fall for someone incase I hurt them. I have only been on this earth 18 years but i've gone through beyond deep and still, I'm fighting through it. I don't talk to people to find interests... I talk because i'm a friend to everyone. I don't fit in to most places but yet I am "friends" with every individual person who hangs out in the same group but im not in it. My door is always open so anyone can walk in. The majority of my friends know where the extra key is if they need a place to stay or someone to talk to. Its that kinda thing I see that makes life worth living. The people you meet and the things you can do for people is why most stay alive. I have so much love for people, yet I can't find the gut to go and find ONE person to specifically love because I know i'm alot to handle. the thought of how can someone love me and my demons runs by every single time I think I might have an interest. I was in love once. And we had to let go of eachother because it all got too much. He let his problems push me away and didnt know I was there to kick them out of his blood and soul.. yet, I told him all the time how much he meant to the world and that I was there for him no matter how scary a thought got.I could tell, near the end he was hurting and it wasnt healthy, it hurt me too. And I in no way liked that feeling. So to solve it... we had to let go. Thing was... I gave everything. Everything I had, all my feelings, time,effort,money all those things into it and then it just stopped. Its one of the hardest feelings ever to let go of something your so attatched to and I hate it... im too afraid to find anyone to hold onto, but I want to. I am afraid of loving, and being in love because I dont want the feeling of hurting anyone or wasting my time. This video spoke to me in multiple ways I cant even explain properly. This video kinda showed me im not the only one who does this or feels like this. and Ive felt like I am for so long. I love the fact I am not the only one sitting here listening. I wish I could come find you and give you a big hug and just talk. Cause talkings nice sometimes. I like listening and all that... We're several miles away from eachother but If I ever meet you.. Thank you. 💕 Theres my comment...

[@angelicamenchaca9631]

Honestly completely relatable. I go through the same thing almost everyday. But with me, I try to help people, which you kinda do to. And I have an Instagram page that I literally reach out to anybody I can. Girls that even think they’re completely straight claim as though they’re in love with me. We as people are just wanting to depend and rely on something and or someone they hope to always be there. And it seems to them as I’m the only on that they can rely on, I love being that person so much. I’m just so incapable of feeling those emotions back. I’ve never been in love, nor do I want to. Not now not anytime soon. And when people tell me that theyre in love with me and cannot picture their life without me, it scares me. I don’t run from the truth, I just try to see them realize that they don’t need me. I need them. Not because I’m in love, but simply because I feel as though I need to help others because I cannot help myself. (I literally just spilled all this out and this is the first time I’ve ever said any of this. I don’t know how to feel.)

[@spookybrojo7186]

This video has me thinking a lot... I deal with this issue. I love getting to know people; I love listening to them; I love to make people feel important; I love the diversity of people's personalities. I want everyone to feel loved. But when I give that attention to guys, they end up crushing on me. Then I have to let them down. I don't wanna end up being tied down to someone who isn't right for me because I'm trying to be the nice person in their life. If you can relate to this, or if this is what you mean, let me know. Because this is something I struggle with. Thanks for sharing!

[@nataliejoy1211]

I was literally talking to my sister about this today. I love making people feel special, if that’s writing them a long heartfelt text out of the blue, or buying them that hydro flask that they’ve been talking about for forever but won’t buy themselves. Because whenever people feel like no one notices or cares it breaks my heart. I don’t know why that’s so rare. But I can’t let people love me like that. Or more so I don’t get into relationships because people don’t know how to accept or reciprocate that kind of love. I am the biggest hopeless romantic, but I never like to admit it because I am the person who never wants to be in a relationship. Mostly because when you break up you lose all the love and connection that you have with your best friend and that’s terrifying. Plus I have so much going on in my head and I have different feelings about things everyday, I sometimes can’t keep up, so how could I expect someone else to? Idek but this video really resonated with me so thank you Joey❤️

[@kriistineanne]

it’s crazy, i have so much thoughts about this especially when you mentioned people who don’t get enough love won’t understand because it’s another perspective for me. tbh, yes I am in a full family household yet the love isn’t there and it’s just always not happy for me so instead I’m the one that always WANTS to make everyone happy and feel loved only because I don’t really know how to feel loved/happy. and I’m a super hopeless romantic, so not only does this relate but it’s also such an eye opening thing and I’m so glad you made this video because then I just know someone out there is feeling the same way. and it is just so crazy, because our thoughts and mind is just full of ideas of how to make others feel happy yet we are just so TERRIFIED to receive it. so I absolutely get what you’re saying,, and I’m rambling but i know it makes sense to you so yeah sending you all the love 💕

[@holland5760]

I sit in my bed and just ramble like this all the time. My mind goes through a whirl pool of emotions and thoughts as i try and put the words together so I can explain it to someone so that maybe someone would know how i feel. I want to be kind and help everyone I see but i often get caught up over thinking in the process. The times I am not over thinking I am not thinking at all and then I feel like I am not helping or loving enough. I want to talk to someone about this crazy cycle of extreme happiness and sadness but I can't find the courage to even mention it. I think people fall in love with my actions more than me. In other words they fall in love with the stuff I show and do but they don't know what is happening under the surface or when I am alone with my head and my thoughts. Yet, I continue to live the same life and I continue to only tell myself about my discoveries.

[@biologbrallan]

Damn, I really enjoyed this laid-back rant of yours! Important topic and I think you explained yourself very well. I actually relate to you a lot, I got really mindblown because I haven't thought about it like this before. I've been trying not to show my feelings, simply because I'm afraid being too much. But perhaps it's not that I feel too much and that I'm needy, but that I just love hard and simply care immensely about my friends and the people around me. I'm just afraid of giving all the love I feel because I'm afraid of coming off as too much and as needy. And perhaps that's why I take things so personally as well; because I expect to receive the same kind of love and appreciation from my friends as I give them. And that's probably why I'm so hard to deal with, not because I'm too much and too needy, but because I love hard.

[@santinahgreen8230]

This is me. I have always had this craving of giving and receiving so much love to/from a person. Even in a friendship. I make sure that I am always there for them. The problem is I always give so much more than I receive. I'm at that point where I'm trying to just take time for myself, to learn more about me and give me some love that I deserve. You're doing the right thing about talking about it because there are like-minded people out there. We just have to them, eh?

[@baileywebb6318]

This is honestly so relatable. I want to be nice but guys take that the wrong way a lot. I really don’t want a relationship right now. Because I’m going through slowly losing my best friend and no one close to me understands what it’s like to watch them slip away and you can’t do anything. I honestly think that I need to work things out before I can devote myself to someone because I want to show them that I truly want to be with them and I can’t do that if I have distractions. Love your videos btw!💙

[@nightskydreamer3]

I can relate to this so much! In the back of my mind I’ve always felt like I’m not meant for relationships. My therapist once helped me realize that I feel both too much and not enough for others. I give and give and give... but I can’t seem to get the same in return. I don’t know how to ask for what I need without seeming greedy.

[@katia9445]

Yup, totally felt everything you said. I'm a lot. It takes a very special person to take that. And I give everything of me in a relationship. Witch is really unhealthy, I am left emty. Also the fact that me smiling at someone in the hallway a few times makes them like me is so strange. I am simply being nice. It shouldn't be a unique expirience. But saying that nobody could handle me or love me isn't fair to the other person. And even though I am a complicated person - love is so simple and so pure. Most people are complicated, more people than we know think the same way as we do. I don't want to be a boundery for somebody else to expirience me and giving each other lessons. I don't evene know if this made sence.