Jordan B Peterson - How to remove toxic people from your life

[@Goldensunrise-8]

I told the truth & now I find myself a psychological orphan, curiously enough I feel less alone now, than I did when I was trying to conduct a healthy, honest relationship with someone who couldn’t meet me there.

[@NintCondition]

It makes sense because being around people that in one sense or another makes you feel like less than leads to a whole bunch of emotions, none of which tend to be positive or productive.

[@5029rahul]

Ram Ram Jyoti 😁

[@havenbastion]

The problem isn't just removing toxic people, it's also what to do when removing all the toxic people leaves your social life a gaping hole.

[@cmc7507]

True! But when with toxic people we still experience loneliness plus toxicity.

[@maplenook]

No contact, baby!!! Life is short!!

[@adamwarlock5286]

People in your sphere are either sails that will fill with wind to assist you to your destination or they are anchors holding you back

[@katrinakelly1835]

No single piece of advice could be considered holy good That's greatest bit of advice I heard in along time

[@ericbrufatto5371]

I'm sure he said "wholly good," but interestingly, 'holy good' probably means the same!

[@sainirmith9869]

Agreed. Any piece of advice from a genius having a IQ greater than 165, who worked 14 hours a day for 35 years in studying and practicing human psychology, in my opinion is holy good. For me, any piece of advice from Jordan Peterson is holy good. All the advices that he gave have worked wonders for me, and still are and i am 100000% sure that they will countinue to work in the future too because in my opinion he doesn't give advices, he shows us the truths of nature and life that we have failed to see. And the truths of nature never change. That's the beauty of it. And if ur still reading this long message i wish u a very happy new year mam.🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@auto_5]

WHOLLY*****

[@nadiafedorenko491]

Unfortunately high functioning bpd/vulnerable covert npd mothers don't understand boundaries and drawing lines in the sand! You will ALWAYS be in the wrong no matter what you do! Running for your life and never turning back is the only way you will have peace.

[@ih7729]

Calm down, little lady.

[@davidbell2547]

I've had to do this plenty of times. It hurts but it's worth it. 2 main ways I use to 'judge' toxic people are 1 whether they add or subtract from your life and 2 which is related to one, whether the relationship survives without you making the effort (eg relationships are 2 way streets. If it doesn't survive without you investing into it then you are in an unhealthy one-sided relationship)

[@chrisesca9971]

Who genuinely wants the best for you and for themselves 🙏

[@lsd938]

Toxic people are difficult to identify.... I had a boyfriend... He was very difficult at the end of our relationship.. it took me two years to throw him out because I was emotionally dependent upon him... and had no other support... when you are emotionally dependent on someone u forgive them a lot... He was a psychopath... Very high on Hare list... all sweet talking... perfect mask...

[@audriiiiroberts3030]

that is what Iḿ going through right now. itś horrible

[@kt11540]

Yea, these people are nuts..

[@kh2716]

Bitches always say stuff like this ‘my ex is a psychopath’ sure he is..... and you’re really well rounded.

[@wakeup2realityostriches]

She was such a catch I bet xD

[@TheAKD56]

"he was a psychopath" More like you were either blind or could do nothing but use him.

[@amandasligar9269]

Been practicing this for the last year now..much happier than I was before.

[@johnswanson217]

One friend of mine made a phone call on me everynight whining. He constantly hated himself, divaluated his family, his job, his past, and so on. I wished best for him so I listened, gave him harsh advices sometimes. But he never truly took my advices and not even tried to change himself. And few months of this shit, I knew it was hurting me, and I was enabling him to whine and get supportive words to be temporarily okay. I said him this should stop, but he became more dependent and agressive on himself, so I gave him some warning and finally blocked him and ghosted him. And some months passed, I heard he got better and healthy, starting new relationships. So in some cases, you may be enabling some people to be dependent and weak. You shoud leave them, or if possible (if theyre not being agressive or try to cling on you), make some space.

[@christafurden]

I’m dealing with this situation right now. I feel so drained… I’m over it. He is clinging on and the harder he tries, the more exasperated I feel.

[@nomadbrad6391]

I have NEVER been one for slogans from a very young age....I could NEVER articulate why. I appreciate you share the root word origins for SLOGAN, it empowers me to now articulate to family and friends why I have not liked slogans, which have always seemed phony and insincere methods to create BUY-IN

[@TheSunUpInTheSky]

"You prepare a table for me in the presence of my enemies." Sometimes in order to reach your greatest potential, you have to be willing to have some jealous fiends around you. After all, if there are no enemies, how can God show His greatness in preparing you a table? But it is not our place to fear man.

[@agraves561]

Nice, I agree

[@helenbailey8419]

Jealous friends are not friends they are just people you know.

[@mysterymark9969]

Yes, I agree. & also, "There is a time for everything, & a season for every activity under the heavens : A time to search & a time to give up." -Ecclesiastes 3. Indicating that neither letting go of bad friends or persevering with peace to your enemies is the superior option. I'd say that letting them go is the last resort, but yes, we definitely have to search for peace first & foremost. Thanks for the comment.

[@erinblue4043]

If the people around you are not supporting you in your endevours, and they put you down and they punish you for your virtues or even punish you too intensly for your faults, and fail to engage in reciprocal interactions, then It comes a point where you a Better off finding someone who is on your side.That's what I did, thanks Peterson

[@joanneg7646]

Ive been getting up around 3:40 /4 am for years mainly for work it starts at 5 -5:30 and now its just a habit.. so now i read and well listen to dr petersons youtube..

[@FranTenor]

Stay with the people I would recommend to a good friend to be with. Amazing.

[@perro4996]

Cutting out people is easy. Finding good friends is difficult. The people i have arround me are not perfect, but they are all i have.

[@vodkatonyq]

cutting out family members is not easy at all.

[@lesleyelalami2562]

@@vodkatonyq I totally agree. It's not easy but if not cutting them out means your personal annihilation you just gotta do it, painful though it is. They're like having cancer. You just have to excise then their toxicity is gone and your life is healthier. xxx

[@finding_aether]

Cutting useless ppl out allows better ppl to come into your life.

[@davejones290]

Cutting toxic people out,and then you're left with know one,☔☔

[@mesalouis8976]

This ⬆️

[@conservativemustache8184]

I miss this guy. I hope he reappears soon.

[@RobPolson]

New book on the way!

[@scm24]

the most toxic, vicious, nasty folks Ive dealt w in my life were/are actually the people who needed the most love....twas/its a defense mechanism...still, I keep em @ arms length & dont go outta my way to interact w em...

[@benjamin-sch]

Certainly seems true based on what I've experienced too. Even still I won't let toxic people bring me down because they can't deal with their own self projected problems. Being in need of help is no excuse to bring down other people in order for you to "lift up" yourself.

[@forestgump0915]

Your advice calms me down Dr. Peterson. I have a question I’d like to ask you on one of your q&a’s but idk where to go to post my question

[@Desiklown]

thinkspot

[@iamasoldierofgodkingofking1244]

God bless you and keep you forever and protect you and give you peace in Jesus name Amen.

[@shaniamontara8057]

What about family who mocks you and even looks down on you when you are trying to make positive life changes? For example I’ll over weight and and I’m getting healthier because I don’t wanna be on medications and die of something I can prevent. When I prepare veggies or say “no thank you I don’t eat that(anymore) they roll their eyes and sometimes ask me if I would like something they know I shouldn’t have m. They try to tempt and pressure me into the the things I’m trying to steer away from. I love them but I DO NOT like them. I want to separate but I always feel like I shouldn’t. Tips?

[@jorji6645]

Well I’m not too sure if they look down at you for becoming healthy. That they are simply looking down at you and rolling their eyes at you whenever you want to not eat what they have to offer can be taken differently, in some cultures it’s not exactly nice to refuse gifts and sometimes they’ll take great offense. But if that be the case if they are mocking you for what you prefer in your life then imo you should leave them be for a while and see how they react without you. (I am by no means an expert in anything I’m simply just giving my own opinion to help you out if it’s of any use. So please don’t really consider my advice this again is just a formulated opinion of mine that I thought could be helpful, there are plenty of options out there and I don’t wish for u to make a faulty one. Best of wishes to you mate)

[@angelhelen84]

You might need boundaries and space, see how you feel with that.

[@jorji6645]

@@angelhelen84 probably the best option for anyone that encounters something like this

[@traceytansley1659]

Create distance and get yourself healthy, once you've established a strong stance i.e. e atting healthy only..then maybe you can withstand how they act and still say no to unhealthy foods no matter how much eye rolling or temptations they try on you to sabotage you. Ppl are afraid when you change the dynamic of your relationship or change yourself, they feel the relationship they are used to having w u is changing and they don't like the unknown, eventually they will get used to the new you, but until you become fully strong and steadfast in the new you, find other support systems and stay away from them, make excuses. If you cant find other support systems, be your own support system. You must be the best to yourself before you can be there for anyone else. Good luck!!! 💕

[@lukehart7225]

I find myself like that with my family - l do my best to try change my ways and my family belittle me sometimes even though they care about me.

[@seanmoran6510]

I work in Government and my dept has become very TOXIC no one and I say no one will have a conversation for fear of getting into trouble or sacked. Egg shells abound

[@jackneely9404]

See if you can find an anonymous way to shed light on the corruption. Infiltrate and cast doubt where there ought to be doubt. Put yourself in a position where if you are revealed as the instigator, that your motivations are clearly also revealed in their genuine pursuit of a healthy environment. If you don't do this, you're both the oppressor and the victim, so to speak. You're shooting yourself in the foot, feeling sorry for yourself, and blaming others while also shooting them in the foot. There's nothing morally correct about complicity to corruption. Systems are inherently unstable and degrade, and it affects the quality of life for people inside and surrounding the systems. You have to take action or it's your fault when things go sideways. My Nana finally stopped getting walked all over after 40 years in her career. She's 71, I believe. The entire branch of her business had to shut down when she finally said enough and left. It nearly destroyed an entire national company. Now she's struggling to know what to do financially... she still needs the income a job provides, even with her retirement and social security. But she's no longer paying for the cost of living with her very soul, and I'm enormously proud of her, and grateful that she found that courage. She was too resilient for her own good, but she ultimately learned the wisdom of letting things dissipate, and walking away. Now I look to her as a pillar of modesty and inspiration, because she was the person who sacrificed everything in both directions. And she did it provide for my family, who has always struggled agonizingly. We all have a necessity to be so bold. Because you will die. And you should be beyond ashamed if you die as a lesser person than you could have possibly been. It's unforgivable.

[@saraandstuartshannon2160]

I think toxic ones are easy, because you can step back from them and protect yourself from them. The worst ones are people that you don’t know if they really like you or not... and if you don’t know if you really like them or not... those are people that take way too much of your precious energy. You keep asking yourself if you did something or say something wrong, or said too much, every time after you meet with them...

[@jamesburke1978]

Sean Moran So who put you in debt? Look in the mirror!

[@hypelock1474]

@@jamesburke1978 He didnt say debt he saidnhis department. As in the place he works.

[@remi9018]

Thanks...I am just trying to be myself ..so this subject is on my plate at present...and i have had these isuess most of my life with people....its a about boundries and trying to get people to respect and know mine....thanks for the podcast ..its a real help...as I am going the this topic at present..

[@ChrishBlake]

For anyone asking themselves how do they know if it’s them or the other person (similar situation here), ask yourself does that person facilitate your development? People in your circle will naturally add to your life/energy by telling the truth and aiming upwards/towards the good. Friends/loved ones like that only want the best for the best part of you. To determine if you’re the toxic one, ask yourself the same questions. Do I tell the truth (to myself and others)? Am I aiming at my ideal (self and situation)? Facing this truth is hard, but suffering is part of living a fulfilling life. A lesson I have yet to start following.

[@BC-justbreathe]

I spoke the truth. Repeatedly. Over the course of years. My efforts at communication and resolution were met with gaslighting. His is my family. I'm done. No more. If I'm needed for elder care, I will assist as it's my duty. But leave me the hell alone the rest of the time.

[@AnnaLVajda]

I think we should rely less on others for validation but when people are intentionally sabotaging or attacking you distance yourself and if need be retaliate. Once you have been targeted many frenemies will not just let you go give less attention to them though.

[@channelguide37]

Your advice is really helpful, thanks.

[@michealbreathnach2928]

Slua Gairm is and Irish and I think Scottish (both being very similar languages, but I only speak Irish Gaeilge) Slua is a crowd or horde and gairm is a roar/statement basically a war cry by an army before battle.

[@lthejustice4255]

How to know if ur the problem or them?!

[@Kim-kw7fo]

I've often wondered if it's me. I'm often shut down, criticised or belittled when I speak. I'm in my 50's. I'm often afraid to speak also, so just end up agreeing and sadly not being authentic. 😕

[@xDemonTech]

Self reflection, defining your values and being honest with yourself and others will reveal the truth of that. The fact that you're asking does not necessarily mean that you are at fault, it might indicate that you are the one who is potentially taking some responsibility for the toxic relationship so that makes me think that you are going in the right direction. There are a lot of negative, antagonistic, self loathing people out there, and when you are sure of their behavior being toxic you know it's them. But it's them in the context of your own value system, which has to be rather clear for you to be able to discern this. Also take note of peoples behavior and call it out immediately, sitting on your anger or chewing your tounge will only make you bitter and lash out against the person. You need to have a couple of concrete examples of the behavior to be sure about another's toxicity. Also ask yourself why you might be saying/doing things. Do you unconsciously demean people and try to one up them or hurt them in some way that gives you some kind of a payoff? This stuff isn't easy and it has been a struggle for me. Peterson has a lot of good things to say about this and his Personality lecture in particular is helpful in this regard. Best of luck, I know your struggle all too well...

[@lureloffen1717]

Who is dependend on who?

[@chriscolameco6850]

Look into the three following books “The Body Keeps The Score” (How trauma manifests itself in the body) “Drama of the Gifted Child” (Conceptualizing early Childhood dysfunction) “The Bad One” (Erin Tyler’s memoir about discovering she’s not the devil)

[@raymondotoole2600]

@@Kim-kw7fo tell em how it is ! I’m sure if you speak your truth that they will either edge towards allowing you to be yourself or they are simply a lost cause and I’m afraid you’re going to have to find like minded people! pretty simple process to be honest. There’s loads of events you could go too once this pandemic is over and simply all you have to do is build a new circle. Yes it can be scary but hey at least you’ve got out of that hell hold that stops you from being youserlf

[@user-xj4ef5pv2d]

The more important answer in this question is what to replace them with!

[@magnvss]

He said it: “You should surround yourself with people who genuinely want the best for the best part of you” and by contrast to examples of toxicity: “They have to be supportive of you on your endeavors, reward you for your virtues and do not punish you too intensely for your faults and also reward you when you do what you should be doing, engage in reciprocal interaction…” Also, as he mentioned it in other comments: people who will happy when you improve and want the best for you, and encourage the best parts of you. Yes, it’s not an easy task to find the right kind of people, but better wait and look for the right people rather than having people who are destructive for you. Also some people is pathologically attracted to toxic people and without knowing it, they are toxic too, so there is also some self exploration to make too.

[@kenmicheal4916]

Telling the truth isn’t wholly if it puts someone elses life at risk

[@GINMOONLIGHT]

tell the truth I like telling the truth I have to say it's not very pleasant sometimes. abuse toxic family members. I never seem to learn my lesson. you only have one mother. in the end does it really matter......

[@natalierullmanward9137]

I'd be Ginmoonlight also

[@erezmuslim227]

If your only mother after numerous attempts at reasoning and showing how much something means to you still doesn't care, what's the point. I'm in this situation now, and I bet that if I go away and come back she will not have changed and the toxicity will just come back. There are only so many chances you can give. Not to mention, forgiving abuse after abuse only shows that forgiving has to be done with care. Otherwise, it will not benefit you. I changed my mind on the last part actually, I can still speak to my gran and see my dog when I visit on those rare occasions. I will just blank my mother out. Why should I not see them because of her? It will only be once in a while and if she's in the background, that's all she is. Noise.

[@iriniignatiadou7196]

i removed toxic people from my life ,but i heard they shit talk about me stilll

[@MsDebbiepolak]

And they will....whatever you have allowed them to know about you good or bad they will use it to help cover their multitude of sins...Satan never plays alone and he never likes good. But Jesus says, he who loves Jesus HATES evil. They are toxic people following each other instead of following what is good or morally beneficial for any soul!

[@MsDebbiepolak]

Stay with Jesus He will keep you Strong and wise. He will bring His people to you, but beware, Satan works harder on those he DOESN'T have going to hell with him, his time is getting short

[@johnmadsen37]

PentaKill yes. They still do. We have all heard about you in the JP forums.

[@iriniignatiadou7196]

@@johnmadsen37 lmao

[@elisabethseaton6521]

Who cares? Although not easy, I think letting go of people should include letting go of your own attachments to what they think about you. After all, you left them because of the way they think, which underlies their actions. You are obviously coming upscale in consciousness, proof that you had enough sense to leave them behind. Kudos to you!!

[@tengisulziikhishig7455]

Really good advice, I love to remove toxic people from life, but whether I try I became bad person.

[@ashishsaundade7618]

How can you tell if someone is toxic or essential to your growth? Wouldn't you want to keep some people around? And what do I do if i've fallen in love with a toxic person?

[@merryarttoonesakamarysusan559]

Slogan...The battle cry of the dead...lol love it

[@elisabethseaton6521]

Wholly good, Not Holy good, but as in whole, completely good,

[@GrasslandsG81]

My problem had often been that I didn't recognize what was toxic until I was already weakened and crippled by the poison, yet quitting cold turkey was nearly impossible as well, due to DT's... (...metaphor, BTW)

[@mlufka101]

Toxic means super difficult to be with. A real challenge especially when it's about own family. Those people need extra patience and love from us . Thank you for the video . 😊

[@RustyShakleford1]

mlufka trufka how much patience and how many chances can you give someone? I'm genuinely curious of your opinion, I lean towards forgiveness but I haven't made my own choice what is the line. That's why I'm curious as to where others draw the line with someone?

[@mlufka101]

@@RustyShakleford1 hi, thank you :) the thing is that I believe to be a 'toxic' person sometimes too. I mean the other person who cannot stand me for some reason and I even don't know why as I'm not told nor aware of it. I know I'm not perfect like most people too. And I try to give as much credit to others as I wish it would be given to me. But it's not how it works. I keep forgiving as I find it easy, (maybe naive?) but learning/memorising how I was treated so trying not to 'repeat' myself with that particular person. Usually you can feel that something is not the way it 'should' and that's where you can recognise own boundaries. Give back someone the responsibility for him/herself but not turning your own back at the same time. It's like telling someone that you 're no longer playing his/her rules as it's not fair. personally it feels like giving back something heavy, gives in return kind of freedom. still sorry but at least not so puzzled and drained. good luck! ;)

[@ivy3839]

Toxic people do not appreciate our efforts, they take them for granted and than they accuse us of not being involved, it’s never enough - so they best to be cut loose for good !

[@mlufka101]

@@ivy3839 You can be right. It seems to be the best solution - cut off. But if there's nobody to show and give 'love', how those 'toxic' (lost, defensive etc) people can ever change? there are perhaps only a few (or none) people on this world to be totally 'black' or 'white', there are shadows between. ;)

[@danielickert4498]

Every person can make mistakes, hurt others or say/do the wrong thing. That doesn't make us toxic though. Toxic people are the ones who are unable or unwilling to see their own glaring flaw and take steps to do something about it. Instead, they usually blame it on others or the world. Every person deserves love and compassion. If we make a mistake, we need others to forgive us and help us change for the better. But if we are unwilling to do anything about it (if we are toxic), then compassion would only keep us stuck in that destructive mindset. In that case, parting ways is the only viable solution. It creates enough pain in ourselves to force us to change. When you know a toxic person who is unwilling to change, cutting ties is the most compassionate thing you could do. It's the only chance for them to grow. By staying nice and friendly towards them, you only accept their negative behavior and therefore create more of it.

[@DarkLordAli95]

I'm pretty sure I heard Jordan smash the keyboard at 1:43 when the camera went off, then later on he said that it's a new system and that they're still working out the "bugs" hahahahha

[@G0ldenEagle64]

So. If you look at life as a fork in a road. One fork is decisions that take you where you want to go and the other is decisions that are unhealthy or drag you down (farther from the life that you dream for yourself). When you start taking the road to where you want to be, you will inevitably start walking away from the friend you have who are walking the other road. However; I believe there is a vast difference between cutting your friends and learning how to distance yourself in a healthy way. What you want is to be disconnected from there emotions. Present, but not affected by there mood swings or negative things they say or do. Strong enough to not make the choices they make that take you off the right road and drag you back down to where they are. The analogy of walking through the woods and stumbling upon someone screaming for help in a really deep pit. You being the helpful person you are, give them your hand and try to pull them out and they pull you down with them. Now you are both stuck. The next person comes along and you call for help. He walks away and comes back with a rope. He has given you a tool to get out of the pit. He can't make you use it, but he's helped you from a healthy distance. I believe that morally, you should be there for your friends. It is selfish to walk away entirely (smarter, sure) but then you have to live thinking about all the friends you left behind, justifying it with "well I had to. They were drowning and I could only save myself" I've certainly lived with that feeling and I don't want other people to as well. So, as Jordan Peterson said. Your true friends should be those that care about you. Know what you want and consciously help you get there. For example, I have started to quit vaping. My true friend doesn't do it in front of me anymore. My bad friend will offer me one whenever I'm around him. Does this mean I can't be there for either of them when they decide to quit? Absolutely not. We are all conscious beings making decisions on this journey. And it's up to you to make good ones or bad ones. To learn how to live your life without the emotional influence of others around you

[@oanhvo3922]

Thank you so much for your story. It helps me. It's cool that your was trying to quit vaping and hope you succeeded by now.

[@G0ldenEagle64]

@@oanhvo3922 yeah, I managed to quit! It feels great! I'm glad you got somerhing out of my story. I forgot I wrote this and reading it again was a great reminder of where I was and where I'm going!

[@SvartVargSkog]

let the dead bury their dead

[@maylynbayani]

How to remove toxic people? Well i just cut off all communication and never turn back.

[@dreambig6304]

how weird that i unconsciously to some peaple don't want tell my sadness bicoz i think i gona meke them happy.or say somthing happy that they gona ruine my day.

[@dorothy792]

I get that feeling as well.

[@zeethedrummer]

3:50 Love it when Jp talks like us normal humans, not like the Superman he is :-P

[@shinazbakar]

What if it's a family member that you really love and depends on you but is toxic AF?

[@lizhalligan2089]

Shinaz Bakar ❤️🙏🏻❤️ Walk Away❣️

[@spring983]

They are depending on you because they are toxic AF and they are toxic AF because they are depending on you. If not you they'll find someone else. Walk away and see what happens.

[@justsomeguy1671]

Piece of advice: If you're thinking of cutting all friends out if your life because they're toxic, don't do that do this: Just reach out to as many people as possible, best way?....use the friends you have now AND befriend their friends, your bound to like some of them, get there numbers offer to go out for whatever do what it takes, network with the bad friends and you'll slowly be able to drop the negative ones. And if the old ones give you flak for dropping them? "I never owed you anything" they were lucky you were friends for the time that you were right? That's life sometimes people change people move on. Although it's nice to be faithful and not drop people, don't be a narcissist.

[@GUTTERWITCH444]

Sounds like a lot of shit to do ain't no one got time for this shit

[@justsomeguy1671]

@@GUTTERWITCH444 but ya gotta have some friends...so before you bitch them invite thier friends out and network a bit. Otherwise you're going to have to start all over again. Making friends can take a while especially if your social skills are rusty

[@Ali-gv1yw]

Thanks Jordan!

[@laurenkil]

I thought the question was just “Do you have any practical advice?” LOL it made me laugh...

[@DB98000]

I am the toxic people in my life

[@Grazikon]

It's great that he remembers well the Celtic etymology of 'slogan', but nitpicky tidbit: it's Scottish Gaelic

[@Goldensunrise-8]

Yes it’s not Welsh.

[@carolynnr.6409]

We all have something "toxic" within us. Maybe would should examine ourselves before we decide to remove someone from our lives.

[@carmelina182]

a toxic person talking

[@carolynnr.6409]

@@carmelina182 LOL

[@saprissa30]

Eating seeds as past time activity....

[@gabrielfrancos6573]

The toxicity of our city... of our city.

[@sofitocyn100]

My mother is extremely toxic and it wasn't until the age of about 24, 5 years ago, that I realised that most of the hardships I've had on life were because of her. I see her once a year only but talk regularly over the phone because I always feel that I should keep contact and try to make things better. But at her contact I become the worst version of myself. I hate everything about her personality and she even disgusts me physically. And, although she loves to play the victim card so that I (everybody) feel bad when we argue, she'll never admit that she cannot stand me either. So I feel like the bad person when we get into an argument, but she pushes me to my boundaries because she can't handle me either. As long as we talk about her or something she wants to talk about (it's been the same 3 topics for 10 years) she is fine. But once I talk about something else, or I direct the conversation to something more intellectual, she loses her shit. She wants to control everything and if you do better than her, she snaps. If you know more, she snaps too. But instead of admitting that she doesn't know something (she never reads and has a very low intellectual IQ and no education) she just pretends that she knows but just doesn't remember. She also lies a lot and exaggerates details of stories so whatever she tells you, you can be sure that it is neither interesting, nor even true. Luckily for her, she is married to my Tep father who is an angel and lives her too much to even have the slightest bad opinion about her and as a result, he's been feeding her manic personality for 20 years of marriage now. People are always the problem in her mind. She is flawless. Because of her, my family from both sides (mother side father) don't like me because they have known her to be toxic, so they never gave me a chance in life because you know, I'm the daughter. I am 29 but I want her out of my life. I've tried many times to cut the ties off, but she always finds a reason to contact me and once we get in touch again, there is no way back. She writes as if nothing happened. I lose my time and energy with her.

[@susa5473]

Yes. Same with me. I have been through this and she through me I'm a bad mood for days. I just changed my number

[@GUTTERWITCH444]

Sounds exactly like my mom and I can't fucking stand the sight of her

[@Klarpimier]

"HELP I'VE BEEN STABBED WHAT DO I DO" "well it depends on what you mean by stabbed"

[@TheSeanpatrickobrien]

How do I remove myself?

[@lizhalligan2089]

Sean walk away ~ No contact! No social media stalking! check out KZbin Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissists

[@mightyman6459]

I’m very indecisive often when it comes to interacting with others. I’m in a fraternity and everyone is very much all about logical thinking and drinking but in my heart I don’t believe in just about drinking. I think I just need a girlfriend so I have some responsibilities and meaning in my life.

[@elisabethseaton6521]

Well, the kind of girl worth spending time with would reject a booze hound

[@sojournerkarunatruth4406]

It becomes easier to make decisions when you have values to live your life by #loveyourselffirst

[@mazinal-mahrouqi5232]

I think the order is backwards here from my personal experience. You dont have to find a girl to get meaning in your life. Find the meaning in your life, the thing that makes waking up worthwhile, and strive towards that. Then you will meet people and ppl will approach you.

[@jiggajivin]

Just got rid of the biggest pain in the ass I ever knew

[@stickjr.3715]

Am I the toxic person that gets good people out of his life?

[@cgasezimmermagan8640]

Need this for my parents😮 😣

[@markh4926]

No!, is a great way to get rid of those toxic dorks who come along. One guy already knew that I detest having male guys stay overnight in my home. I allowed one guy to stay twice and I told him I didn't like having anyone over night. He's dense but I got the message over to his thick dumb skull, I 've told him no on other occasions where he attempted to gain control of me. fa cough. Then this other guy wanted to come stay over, he put it like this..."I need to stay at your place for maybe two nights a week and sometimes just one night and so on." I did allow him to spend a night in a detached building but told him, I'll be awake early to take you to town. I also very clearly and without any stuttering told him. "You are not moving into my home!" fa cough

[@srinivasanrajagopalan3377]

I don't think slogan is from welsh. May be it's from Sanskrit. Where some kind of prayers or wishes are sung when one prays and that's called a Slogam in sanskrit

[@Arrowsofreem]

But what if the toxic people are.....my dad

[@Illmatic25]

Cry Wolf dealing with that this moment. He says he wants the best for me but then continues to belittle me and take jabs at me whenever he can. He’s psychotic and im slowly beginning to lose my grounding as well being around him too much

[@ghostly1245]

How am I supposed to remove myself from my own life?

[@zachsh]

😂By making yourself less toxic

[@williamwhitelight39]

Be a new you. 👌

[@natalieboult4726]

Get help.. books.. therapy.. good luck

[@chilledtea6614]

how come he never has a door?

[@mmdehnmm]

What can you do if they work with you and they also live in the same house??¿??¿ He's never going to go away He's never going to stop hurting me

[@ThorOdinson1269]

Never going to go away? Can you leave?

[@mmdehnmm]

@@ThorOdinson1269 financially is going to be extremely difficult, I work and live with my horse.... It's not like I can just pick up and disappear, although I wish I could.... Right now we're in the same cycle, where he says he's leaving I just stay quiet and don't argue and hope he disappears but unfortunately he usually only goes away for a couple days and finds his way back. I'm doing my best right now I have cut off all communication and I'm trying to avoid him as much as I can.

[@DeanRendar]

Technology clout are making me intersection with unsavory, untrue entities for reasons intangible to my own life, I loathe their self insertion into my affairs and if I had the power would secure against and away from them.

[@Alex-yt5gj]

Stalkers are also toxic.. ;)

[@will-oc3uq]

Well it depends on your definition of truth

[@ericbrufatto5371]

Theres more than one definition of truth?

[@williamwhitelight39]

that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality

[@mauzi222]

Best friend should be rich and willing to buy you things without you asking.

[@jewishbride5010]

Well, simply I ask Jesus: amen.

[@MegaWolverine999]

Don't u mean "amen RA"

[@Lemonysnicket201]

Want the best for the best part of you, what does that even meen🤯

[@patricianostra1622]

I am very toxic girlfriend because I don’t want my man doing things stupid

[@patricianostra1622]

@@fallenangel7884 🙂☺️

[@mosheahvows5071]

Ive made the decision to cut both of my fathers out of my life. Its weird... My father is not really abusive to me, but he isn't supportive. He's just... Nothing to put it bluntly. He pays the bills for my family at home, yeah, and I respect him for that, but I have no interest in his interests anymore, just so we share something... Anything between us. Im in a very difficult time of my life. I hate how its come to this, but he has shown zero interest in being a part of my life, and after seeing this video, I cannot allow him to take up space in my head any longer.

[@bagobeans]

Wholly is the word being used. Not holy.

[@davidthomspson9771]

DF?

[@Io-Io-Io]

the person probably meant 'wholly' not 'holy' ... english is not everone's mother tongue .

[@veronicav1779]

Title has nothing to do with video content for god;s sake who is entitling these videos, ZERO info on HOW TO REMOVE TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE

[@craigiscanadian]

Oh the irony of JP advising on toxic people haha. The dumb guy's smart guy strikes again!

[@planetexplorer2615]

How to find genuine people?:

[@beckybrynjolfsson]

Routine is a mindless monotonous quiet life of desperation. It is a great way to become predictable, brainwashed and controlled. A free life is alive, spontaneous, unpredictable with no routine whatsoever.

[@briannaw.7226]

I just did. Your the toxic one not me. Stop projecting onto me.

[@susanauger3758]

Justines slogan

[@robbrenton9438]

Just stay with God, The Flying Spaghetti Monster, and He will be the best friend you can ever have

[@zholud]

Video ends 2:35. Disliked.

[@daisy8284]

Dmitrii Zholud just because the video went out for a minute while you could still hear the audio? What a bitch.

[@zholud]

Daisy no, because 2:22 starts totally different topic which was not meant to be there.

[@zholud]

Daisy p.s. I love Jordan but I hate click bait titles, and videos with irrelevant title/content. If I want to hear Jordan’s opinion about toxic people then video ends 2:22. Period.

[@MsDebbiepolak]

There is more hate then good in our world. People will easily waste more time liking something Not beneficial to their soul and then complain because satan throws a curve ball to make you easily stop becoming a wiser, stronger, thinker and listener to build you up. Be Strong. Stay on task.

[@DG-mv6zw]

Dimitri Zholud 1. You don't need to see him in order to hear his advice. 2. It's not "clickbait". He did actually answered the question regarding toxic relationships. He simply went on to answer a second question. It would've been clickbait if he failed to address the topic in the title. 3. If you had listened much more carefully, you would've learned something you didn't know previously.

[@Przepoczwarzenie]

Noone gives a shit about any part of me xD

[@31minutesago]

What if I'm toxic and know even worse? Then can't relate to these supposedly healthy yoga people? Also, how do you deny that every single thing about our culture is toxic? Sure, Kindergarten through ninth grade isn't. Every job, all entertainment, auto pollution, most families, half of all marriaged, even the houseflipper/landlord vampire commercials in your videos?

[@jessejordan8116]

Most important step is click on ‘not interested’ whenever this guru for angry men pops up...

[@anonymousdesigner7963]

Why do you say that? I am curious of your opinion.

[@DG-mv6zw]

Jesse Jordan And yet you clicked and watched him! What a self refuting, inane statement! 😁 Essentially your saying " I'm not interested enough to watch the video I'm interested enough to watch." I don't know what's worse. The fact that you've made such a ridiculous illogical comment, or the fact that you're dumb enough to post it on a social media platform for everyone to see the level of stupidity. Any person who's a stranger to reason and logic, will obviously not find Peterson interesting. That's more of an indictment on you than on Peterson.

[@sojournerkarunatruth4406]

I think I get what you mean with his take on feminism? I just chock it up to (for one) he’s elderly, secondly he follows the Bible (women didn’t have the right to vote for so long because Jesus **wasn’t** a woman?) so, in a sense maybe he **is** a guru for angry (christian?) men, but I had auto play on and heard some wisdom from him? So now I just practice disregarding the message that doesn’t agree with my values?

[@jessejordan8116]

Oh DG. You assume I watched the video, then formulated your argument based on that faulty assumption and began insulting me to defend my disrespecting your guru. You have my sincere apology for upsetting you so much.