Jordan Peterson: Why Marriage is Important FOR YOU!

What does the binding contract of marriage do to your relationship? Why should you think about it?
Jordan B Peterson (born June 12, 1962) is a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. This clip is taken from the Biblical Series IV. June, 2017.
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[@EDTHEWATERGUY]

Once it involves the government it becomes total shit.

[@Roo_roo1006]

Facts

[@claudiapost-schultzke7216]

absolute

[@Satan666Official]

I've always seen marriage as a spiritual unification with a person, with the good, bad, and ugly. But that's what made it so rewarding. Facing all aspects of a person, and have them accept you at the same time. Even a best friend couldn't compare to a title like that. It's a beautiful thing when two people aren't idiots.

[@cozychats5044]

His advice stings at first, but then it haunts your noggin for days and it makes sense. It still hurts, but like the soreness after a work out, you know it’s a building discomfort, not the painful sensation of deterioration.

[@anotherperspective3609]

I'm 29yo now and not married yet, after hearing what he said, i conclude that there is no such thing as "perfect person, and the most important aspect to find in a person is someone who is willing to work on making things right/better.. And that also works vice versa (i have to be willing to work on my own flaws)

[@msbae]

Find me a good woman that wants a Christian marriage for life and I'll be happy to get married. Until then, it's not even an option.

[@thesetruths1404]

Good? 😂

[@daniellenm395]

That can’t be your only conditions. You are under exaggerating. I’m a good christian woman that wants to be married for life. Theres lots of us. But we arent just one thing. I have two children from my previous secular lifestyle, most men don’t wanna deal with that. I also have decided since conversion that I’m not having sex until marriage, even Christian men don’t wanna deal with that. I might end up single for life. Everyone has “pre existing conditions” that a potential spouse would have to deal with. You do too

[@thesetruths1404]

@@daniellenm395 way to go on not having sex until marriage. I know how most Christians are with that also. Too many don't take the design rule seriously, on both sides. They lack self control. I too am the one with children from a first failed marriage. I feel your frustrations. Peace...

[@mitchellcollins7370]

I know two Christian guys that waited till marriage. They out there too

[@johnjohnson6838]

Had one of those until she cheated on me. Being “good” Christian woman doesn’t guarantee anything.

[@phoenix5054]

Society: Young men are not marrying. How do we address this? JP: You see, some fairy tales have this archetypal…

[@SpencerRoyalcom]

The church must take its place at the table and those who marry within the church are stating they follow the Lord's laws for marriage and not the whims of the local jurisdiction

[@richardmabe4186]

No one gets married unless there is something about a relationship someone thinks will improve their own well being. No one marries to sacrifice themselves for someone else's wellbeing. People have needs; emotional, physical, psychological, social, financial. Marriage is supposed to be the whole package. These are the reasons people get together. If these are needs you have get married but be prepared for the possible consequences. You are not born married. You are born a complete human being and that is enough without marriage.

[@DexJedi]

You don't need marriage to reap the benefits of someone else. In that very egocentric and materialistic sense it would be wiser to just have a, or better, mulitple relationships. That is not what marriage is about. And on what basis is marraige "supposed" to be anything?

[@Heyimthai]

Well said from Sadghuru

[@richardmabe4186]

He's quite right.@@Heyimthai

[@a7dv7en7t]

My folks have been happily married for decades. They are both strong characters and have winners mindsets. Theres one thing in common for people that have failed marriages, or think that the union of love between two people serves no purpose: a weak lover's attitude. Man up like my father or woman up like my mother. Bad marriages happen when one of you becomes weak and only thinks about themselves and "how can this benefit me?" When you have that idea about marriage, you've already lost. Marriage is a blessing to glorify God. Everything else will come. The moment you forget about God in marriage or in life, don't act surprised when things don't go according to your plan.

[@zacharynewcomb8508]

That is the issue, why man up when a woman doesn’t woman up! Why put all effort into a person that doesn’t return it? Granted you are going to see that in the first year or the second or the third… but once kids happen and then the down fall comes because no longer fells how she did prior and nor will she ever! Or because she won’t woman up, while the man has manned up day in day out with with nothing coming from his partner. So the mindset changes as if I literally get nothing from that partner but BS day in and day out. Better to be alone so then don’t have BS!

[@stephenjohnson3163]

Man, i love Jordan Peterson! Never wanted to get into psychology so much until I started watching his stuff!!! 😂

[@TheTektronik]

I always wondered what was the incentive for marriage besides having a child until now I haven't found any.

[@osamaqtaitat]

It’s bullshit!!

[@joshvandyke1723]

@@osamaqtaitat Clearly you didn't listen too well to JP. Feel bad for you.

[@aaronkiker4408]

If you're a man then there is no incentive for legally binding yourself to a woman. It's all loss and no reward

[@TheTektronik]

@@aaronkiker4408 with today's situation gone totally out of control a guy has to think things a thousand times over before cohabitating with a woman!

[@aaronkiker4408]

@@TheTektronik agreed, same with getting married except cohabitation is safer

[@txlyons2937]

Friends and family who married young and had kids have spoken to me privately to *warn* me: "Don't do it!"

[@mikoivanov4985]

5:35 Originally Groucho Marx's famous saying: "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member."

[@haighton]

In the Netherlands, 2 people in a loving relationship can do the exact same things as a married couple. And when 2 people decide to marry, they have to choose/pick one of two 'regimes'. That chosen 'regime' decides about everything when a divorce is about to happen. And on top of that, the Netherlands have a 'no-fault' divorce system. Same-sex marriage is allowed legally since 2001. Divorce is relatively cheap, easy and fast. Oh and babies born without being married are all legal and legitimate.

[@nativewarrior4802]

Thanks for the Wisdom. Taking the leap and proposing to her on christmas!

[@hassansattar1648]

Did she say yes 😳

[@nativewarrior4802]

@@hassansattar1648 yes she did

[@waverip3rs]

@@nativewarrior4802 so, how's it going so far?

[@mariatorres9789]

How's the marriage? ❤

[@PFR1930]

Never sign a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. Plus: never take life lessons from fairy tales. I's gone too far.

[@666Victor777]

damn, thats pure gold!

I have no incentive or obligation to marry, and neither do you.

[@resurrectingman9011]

Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce.

[@PrairieWindSun]

100% of marriages end in death or divorce! Don't be fooled!

[@sbevexlr848]

@@PrairieWindSun what that's retarded

[@Hazn]

@@sbevexlr848 Read it a couple of times. It wasn't a serious statement (even though being true). Just like the OP wasn't (again - even though being true)

[@vamsigaming1233]

education is number 1 cause of drop outs

[@Ojasoomaa]

Living with a person before marriage is much better than not knowing the person beforehand. This is what happened with my parents - they divorced after 15 years of being married, their personalities were clashing, they did not know how to communicate with each other. I married my husband after 7 years of relationship, we have grown and have made mistakes. It's refreshing to be married to him after all this, it shows that we made it. Sure, there will be problems and conflicts but what we have learned in these 7 years is how to talk through everything, showing each other our perspectives. This is why he says most people who have lived with each other before getting married divorce, not all people.

[@makingsense6345]

Good to know. After 7years of relationship before marrying your husband, how long have you been married now?

[@cindybesitos8933]

Live with my partner part time and we were on board of getting engaged before the end of this year 2023 but now he’s getting cold feet. Everything I tell ok bye then HE PANICS AND SAYS HE DOES WANNA MARRY JUST FEARFUL .. im sick of this indecisiveness!

[@jenniferespiritu2172]

In my situation professor, theres a difficulty of having someone right away , but wanting i notice that when i support someone that become first right for a good reason to sacrifice cause our almighty knows about that not in manevolence or resentful reason , maybe for the benefit of other people too , the reason why i am still sacrificing for will and allow it again even just for meantime or time being for godly work that order should understand what karma is been taking for ...God bless professor jordan Peterson and more power.

[@blurglide]

Modern marriage offers no benefit to a man, and tons of risk.

[@ahmedmohammad7300]

Things pretty fine at this corner of the world bro.

[@InfamousDadk0]

That's laughably incorrect. My wife has helped me more then I could express. We have grown together, we are raising a family together and faithful. She's my best friend and we spend almost every moment together and wouldn't change it for a second. We have bonded into one. Find that.. not just a woman to take care of you.

[@blurglide]

@@InfamousDadk0 ...and that wouldn't have happened unless she had you over a barrel legally?

[@Macheako]

What about *Marriage Contracted By State Law* ? Do I need that too? 🤣👌🏻

[@emancipatedsoul8805]

😂😅

[@debbiesianturi2505]

Marriage is important if each side never try to change other side. Couple have their own flaws, couple must able to accept and no avoid it.

[@edgardocardona1060]

My parents are hoping and praying that someday I get married. Sometimes I feel like they're pressuring me to do so. If I were to get married, I'd rather get married out of will, out of desire, and out of choice. Not out of pressure. Not out of manipulation, not because my parents, friends, or churchmates want me to. To be honest with you, I don't want marriage for my life and my future. The choice is mine, no one else. What I have in my wallet is none of my girlfriend's business, what I earn is none of her business, my email password is none of her business, my medical records are none of her business. Besides, what's wrong with a man honoring God with his singleness? Lots of brothers and sisters in Christ tell me things like "God has better", "God's timing is perfect", etc. I feel like I'm being pressured and I don't like that. Especially the baptists. They are the ones who mostly touch you with that subject. What is their problem with someone being single, happy, living for Christ, and honoring God with their singlness? What's it their business how a single man enjoys life?

[@antoniosaunders9726]

I see nothing wrong with a person who wishes to remain single and serve the Lord all their life. Paul over in 1 Cor 7 talks about that. How he wishes that men could be even as he was as in being single and serving the Lord. But he also says if they cannot contain let them marry for it is better to marry than to burn. Me, I would like to have a woman that i can spend the rest of my life with. And i want a kid. Maybe 2 but anyhow i would like that. I just don't think it'll happen for me. I think that Marriage is for some, but not all. And I am a Baptist.

[@flabeachlas]

Maybe you would be a good priest

[@mariatorres9789]

But, you aren't talking about being single, you mentioned girlfriends.

[@Rachmanfan4life]

JP: marriage sucks but I’m married so I want you to be married too 😄

[@maxinema9313]

Lol

[@hewasfuzzywuzzy3583]

WHY MARRIAGE ISN'T GOOD FOR YOU Now that is a much easier argument to make. Hell, you wouldn't even have to argue it. Also, if "Hell is other people" just wait until one of those people divorce you, then you'll know what hell really is.

[@JasonfromMinnesota]

Due to our current circumstances, were unlikely to find someone better, unless you have a magic mirror that connects you to NBA players

[@spaceted3977]

I'm 70 yrs old and I've had a Happy Life. I was never, Stupid enough to get married or have Children. I don't regret anything at all !

[@seasonedveteran7732]

Spent four years in the family devil’s court. Never get legally married. Instead, cohabitate if you want a long term relationship. If you want to have children, the man should own the home which levels the playing field considerably in a possible custody battle. This may sound harsh, but it’s the family court’s fault for making legal marriage extremely risky to your livelihood. No one should ever commit to their corrupt arbitration services, through a marriage license, in the event of a split.

[@Hearth123]

Common law marriage and/or communal property law still apply without a marriage certificate. You either neurotically catalogue and separate and maintain a paper trail for everything to the likely end of your relationship or you choose to bet on a relationship lasting and go all in, but you pick your poison either way. I think many men are naive that not having a marriage certificate means they're protected. If a woman really wants to screw you over then not having a marriage certificate won't protect you, life has risk, don't let it prevent you from living

[@Recoveringred]

A woman half my father in laws age took 3/4 of his assets from his son, my husband; with one hand written will. They weren't married. They didn't even reside together. Thanks Alaska!

[@ranchhilliness9908]

Bullshit.

[@bobparr7934]

It’s not bullshit, unfortunately the laws are corrupt. Some risks are acceptable and others are not. Just because people are apprehensive doesn’t mean it’ll stop you from living. Reply to below: It is not bullshit. The sentiments are understandable. Just because you say it is BS in all caps does not automatically make it so. Quit your gaslighting and deflection.

[@ranchhilliness9908]

THAT IS BULLSHIT AND YOU KNOW IT.

[@beyondgoodandbad7019]

Marriage looks super dumb to me and then people go ahead and celebrate it commitments are harsh and requires courage but people look excited about it either they are too adventurous or super dumb

[@catarina9536]

Agreed

[@scottanno8861]

Listen, if you are a man, there is literally no hurry to marry early. It literally doesn't matter if you wait until you have an established career at age 40. You have no biological clock

[@mariatorres9789]

Ya, but Goodluck finding a girl that's going enough to have babies without Downs Syndrome, or have been married prior w/ 4 kids. 😅😂

[@eduardomorgado1488]

5:30 my guy spittin fax

[@sdcharger21]

One can always walk away (check divorce rates). Marriage makes men beta and benefits women distortionatley (especially in the U.S.) Marriage makes a man submit to his women and the governing body which instantly makes her less attracted to him. Most men that marry fear being alone and want a woman to dictate to them. Men that marry the wrong women often wreck their lives while limiting their options. Marriage is a contractual agreement that gives women power over men in exchange for reliable sex and children but most men end up in sexless marriages and often lose custody of their children.

[@cynthiapereira8403]

This happens to women, too. If you marry a garbage person who isn’t fair when you split up, it’s the person, not the gender. The courts make unfair decisions based on wanting you to come back and spend money on changing things.

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

If your reason to marry someone is to only have sex, them don't get married.

[@The__Outlaw]

BECAREFUL MEN , THINK HARD IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED. It's a bad bet , According to The National Center for Health Statistics , Women in all 50 sates, Women who file for divorce put the figure at 70%; This figure rises to a staggering 90% when women are college educated.

[@Krasko666]

From which lecture is this?

[@blaketheshepherd]

“I think it’s ‘fuck-see-ah-nuah’. Although, I think I may have the pronunciation wrong.” Yea, man. You might lol

[@عامر-ث3ح]

Dr peterson, your arguments are always convincing unless the ones reguarding marriage, theyr not that good!

[@joshvandyke1723]

Very convincing argument you make there....

[@aaronkiker4408]

Agreed. Nobody needs a Dr or professor to know marriage is the worst thing a man can do to his life, this stuff is just common sense.

[@عامر-ث3ح]

@@aaronkiker4408 yeah, all he says is that it is more noble as if we give a $hit.

[@petestipe7480]

Just came here for a different perspective.

[@andremuniz6623]

I really appreciate and respect JPs perspective on this subject, but as lawyer, my advice, 100% of the time, is to not get married. Todays legal framework all over the west does not encourage healthy relationships between men and women. Marriage in the 21st century just isn’t a good idea for either men or women.

[@Recoveringred]

Its not for everyone but to say 100% about anything, especially marriage, is a little extreme. We don't all base our lives on the legal system. There are couples who have been happily married for decades you just don't see them in lawyers offices or in the court system. It is fine to love your life focusing on money. Some of us build equity in other ways you'll never have.

[@andremuniz6623]

@@Recoveringred Yeah, no. Again, my experience as a lawyer has been that marriages tend to fail miserably, hence my recommendation that nobody, including women, should really consider marriage as a viable option these days. Women get mistreated, beaten up and killed in the most extreme cases, and men get finessed, abused and have their entire lives ruined. I respect your opinion, but oh boy are you wrong.

[@Recoveringred]

@@andremuniz6623 the one thing any wise person knows is there are no absolute truths in life. Yes, bad things happen to women and men. We need to be more open about how to cultivate healthy relationships. Not throw the baby out with the bath water. Why commit to anything when sometimes it ends badly for some people? Some people get into debt trying to pass their state bar exam and fail miserably. Maybe no one should go to law school. Some people are fulfilled in their lives and the ones that aren't tend to go around saying things like,'100% of the time...'

[@andremuniz6623]

@@Recoveringred I don't know why you feel the need to attack me personally, but rest assured, I'm rather fulfilled with my life. I have a loving family, friends, a house, and a living. You don't know the first thing about me other than the fact that I don't support marriage. As to my recommendation, let's assume that a doctor told you that drinking bleach will certainly kill you, is he a fool for dealing in absolutes? because I'm giving my legal counsel on the matter and you seem to lack the intelligence to take it as that, a professional take on the matter. Wise people usually listen to people with more knowledge and experience than them. Have a nice day.

[@Recoveringred]

@@andremuniz6623 you came on this platform saying no one should ever get married and I think that is not correct. Replying with, 'yeah, no' was rude to me. But I really don't take things to heart. Just think of the people who may look upon these threads. We teach our sons to be extremely careful who they are intimate with bc a woman can take advantage of a man in so many ways. Married or not. It is a difficult time to navigate. But to say 100% is downright ignorant and I stand by that. And I do know someone that drank bleach and lived. Like I said. 100% is very rare in this life.

[@hudajamil3890]

Waow "YOU" amaze me Aba .. i think i have become your biggest FAN 😁 .. already was but now even bigger ❤❤❤

[@eyobalamerew1180]

Man, JP looks like he has aged like 20 years in the last five years.

[@XxK47YxX]

Yeah, your wife having cancer, you suffering from almost deadly withdrawal from a pharmaceutical and being in the public eye 24/7 can do that to you.

[@eyobalamerew1180]

@@XxK47YxX No wonder! I can't even imagine what he's had to go through

[@Danevv]

That's marriage for you

[@kissengerc9468]

Marriage is not important to me and never will!! I prefer to be alone and enjoy my life with no drama and stress.

[@babubhaiya920]

same here

[@grilla4464]

Just sounds like you want an isolated life devoid of responsibility

[@apples874]

Smart choice, never put yourself in a position that will give the government the legal right to take your assets

[@hankchill420]

@@grilla4464 so responsibility only exists within marriage? you could feel isolated in a marriage and you can feel connected without it

[@billcipher3946]

@@grilla4464 How ignorant of you

[@yuyuhakusho320]

not everyone can find someone

[@MrJamesdryable]

4:22 But I also can't run away from myself.... so I don't get to run away regardless.

[@larryuk8630]

I'm a fan of JP, but this is bad advice. Any man who has assets or any kind of potential should never marry. He would have be young and naive or a a complete idiot.

[@joshvandyke1723]

I love how so many people make this argument and act like I should care about assets or climbing some career ladder. I want my family to be the main fruit of my life that I pour my time and energy into. I dont give a crap about making a million dollars. In the end the people around me (mainly my children when I'm old) are all I'll have. Guess I'm just a young naive idiot though.

[@aaronkiker4408]

Well said, a legal marriage is highly destructive to men and the odds of a successful one will forever not be in his favor !

[@TrishHermit]

The fact that 3 years ago he mentioned the whole Disney and woke thing...and now in 2023/24 it's a thing.

[@PeteS_1994]

How do you know it’s important? What if you are lgbtq or have different perspectives on relationships?

[@mariatorres9789]

Those never last. There's a reason they say Lez marriages did within 7 years.

[@zaggy3110]

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” Arthur Schopenhauer To hell with traditionalists and conservatives and Peterson who sold us lies

[@nowhre]

that lie hasnt been true for decades. marriage divorce was at an all time high back in the 70s-80s

[@beverleywolmarans4091]

I 1000 percent do NOT believe you need the shackles of traditional marriage for a healthy relationship. Dr Peterson has bought up some good points to, but I don't agree with his views here. It is also fine to be single and eschew marriage if you are doing it in your own best interests and don't use or hurt others in the process.

[@martinmm79]

I respectfully don't agree with Arthur's philosophy...so indirectly close to some antifaith philosophy by Nietzsche....

[@martinterra]

JP has this one (and do much more) wrong. The best thing is, when you stay with someone and have all that without the coersion of marriage.

[@sgreen9131]

If you’re single, i’m a 35 y.o. monogamous, naturally born woman with no children, who would love to be a traditional wife. I’m putting myself on blast so don’t be shy yall! lol 👀😅

[@alwaysyouramanda]

By one minute in I understand why my mom made me fat on purpose when I was around 8 years old and never taught me to drive nor encouraged me to get a job.

[@alwaysyouramanda]

“She has such nice legs” really bothered her one day. I remember

[@emancipatedsoul8805]

I've been there done that period no thanks!

[@phish_1]

I am a non-immigrant spouse in United States. I wanted to get divorced but my husband doesn’t want to pay! He filed a petition with I-864! My husband just married me so I can work in the United States and help my family!! It’s not a real love so no need to change last name!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 Marriage is no longer HOLY! A lot of foreigners will use fiance visa instead of work visa to enter United States of America and to get a job! Fiance visa is a smart way to enter USA rather than expensive work visa. Also, marriage visa is not recommended as maybe you get married in a country where divorce is no possible..😂😂😂😂😂 I recommend foreigners from other countries to marry an American just to get a job in the United States of America for work purposes!!!! 😂😂😂 Also my husband is paying less taxes now that he’s married!!! 😂😂😂

[@osamaqtaitat]

For me, Marriage, emotional relationships are overrated and blind! You don’t need anyone really, don’t make them rule and fool you by this stupid outdated rules, attachments, and affiliation! If i will do that one day, then something real, rational and realistic will be the reason

[@osamaqtaitat]

@@kiersor ?

[@ranchhilliness9908]

That is bullshit.

[@grilla4464]

Love is real, rational, and realistic, and it's made such by realizing it's objectivity through the institution of marriage. So Marriage isn't purely emotional, rather, it's grounded in reason.

[@bobparr7934]

I can somewhat relate unfortunately people tend to get irritated at this because it challenges the Pollyanna view of things.

[@jayedwards7768]

Jordan Peterson is great but he is wrong about marriage in today's world. Marriage holds little value for successful men - the odds are in favor of divorce with the man being penalized with custody awarded to the female, child support (which the female can spend in any way she wishes), denial of visitation rights (on the whim of the female), the likelihood of losing half of his assets and lifetime alimony in some states. Oh yeah, females file for 75% of all divorces. The government marriage contract and government divorce laws favor females in a big way. No thanks.

[@laumay7364]

I think Peterson was very clear that you can't hide all the spinning wheels.

[@tshilidzitshilidzi2006]

Marriages end because men cheat

[@jayedwards7768]

@@tshilidzitshilidzi2006 Oh gosh...yeah...women never cheat... Get real.

[@mariej327]

Who says you have to follow what modern society does? I am going to have traditional marriage no matter how crazy society is. Even if that means I have to move countries. If you don’t have a vision for your legacy, and want to go 50/50, and work a job for most your life than I can see why this is your view on marriage. Successful men have told me that when you marry the right woman can multiply your success. It’s important to study successful and beneficial marriage and yourself. It’d also important to study why divorce is filed so the same mistakes aren’t repeated.

[@mariej327]

@@jayedwards7768 there is reason why mentally healthy men who are successful say that they couldn’t achieve their success if they didn’t have their wife by their side.

[@michaelohara7454]

Where Was this lecture??? College campus??

[@ginam1058]

People denigrate getting married and having children... But like, what else are you going to do with your life that is even remotely as meaningful as that? Sure, some people have careers that are deeply meaningful, and they devote their whole lives to that, and that's great, too. But most people that are so anti-marriage have mediocre or mundane jobs, self-indulgent hobbies, and don't want to give up what they perceive as freedom in the pursuit of something with transcendent value.

[@jimb3093]

Good point. I’m 49, never married, no kids and felt I’ve missed out.

[@Recoveringred]

@@jimb3093 may I ask ? Do you feel like you made the decision not to because of societal pressures? Or was it more of an internalized thing? I dont quite know how to ask more clearly.

[@jimb3093]

@@Recoveringred basically in a nut shell I wanted to marry in my younger years but I was too nice of a guy. Then I saw men getting divorced and the impact that had on them with alimony, child support etc. Then feminism and strong and independent women etc I said the heck with it. I’m staying single. But there is something inside me that feels I missed out. Now I think I’m too set in my ways and enjoy my peace, quiet and freedom.

[@Recoveringred]

@@jimb3093 thanks for replying. If only more adults could be as self aware as you. The way you can acknowledge how you feel about this but also see after decades of not living that way it isn't for you is really admirable. You deserve peace and quiet. I hope you're content.

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

You wanna get married? Do it. Someone doesn't want to get married so they don't. I don't understand people complaining about stranger's lifestyles. Like why do you care if another person doesn't wanna marry, it literally has nothing to do with you. And if you think getting married and having kids are the only meaningful things then that's your perspective, doesn't mean other people can't see things beyond that. What else am I going to do with my life without kids and a spouse? Well a lot of things but at least one of them is minding my own business and not poking my nose in other people's business.

[@venomkills719]

There is no benefit . Women are the unhappy sex partner

[@Heirphoria13]

These anti marriage comments are pathetic considering the man speaking has known his wife since they were teens, when he was a no body , and have been married for decades!! But you all insist it's not possible. You bought into the anti family bs of postmodernism..good for you. Good luck being alone with your precious money.

[@justinratcliffe947]

Shut up

[@Heirphoria13]

@@justinratcliffe947 weren't you in the movie The Crying Game?

[@Recoveringred]

Couldn't agree more. And its all of us happily married breeders offspring who will be running society for them when they're old. They should be thanking us.

[@babubhaiya920]

@@Recoveringred so you're telling that there would be next generation only because of marriages? Ever heard of surrogate mothers? Single mom or single dad? you can reproduce without getting married.

[@Recoveringred]

@@babubhaiya920 no, I didnt mean that but I understand why you took it like that. My comment was responding to the OP who was talking about how sad the comments were as there are many who are against having families and getting married. Do you see anyone saying they plan on adopting or being a single parent? It happens, yes. I never said it didn't. But statistically, children coming from an intact household fare better. Its always best. The nuclear family should be what most of us aim for. Instead, its often shot down. In my opinion.

[@justamaninTN]

No incentive whatsoever. All risk, no reward.

[@NoUsernamae]

Lol you guys in the comments are so dumb. Really. You don't even realise you don't necessarily even have a problem with marriage but with the fact that finding someone that you could be married to is hard, because it is a struggle. And you can be damn sure you've got as much to figure out as the next person. You find someone who's committed to solving the problems that life presents you with, together, with you, and on her own. And you never really just find that, you find someone who's willing to do it with you, if you find someone like that, how the hell is marriage bad?

[@Aesirfollower224]

There is no point of marriage with or without marriage.

[@michellebell9931]

Nope. Not feeling your statement.

[@KrystelSpicerMindArkLateralThi]

5:08 you aren't mentioning the vandalised children. So many of us from broken homes our sadness is seeping into mainstream society.

[@dragonrider9051]

Twice failed.

[@swolfe9668]

no one should ever get married until there in their 30's and those that want to stay single stay single

[@WOWlowLifeDoj]

We cannot carry out this grand experiment if there are locusts eating the ants. #DeepStateLocusts

[@safahakim4682]

Can someone explain in simple terms about marriage.

[@kill3rclown690]

All ur doing is signing a piece of paper that u r legally together and if the man leaves the woman when she is pregnant the guy will get punished by having to pay for child support. Not that every guy would do that but. There's really no benefits of being married it's just the woman would get the same last name as the man does. That's really about it. U can be with the person u love for the rest of ur life without being married..hell u can even buy rings together. That's what me and my wife did we bought each other rings and put them on each other. No wedding no wedding dress no tuxedo just rings and a celebration. We have seen each other as husband and wife before we even got the rings.

[@elizabethinigue8247]

I want a Christian marriage for life. I’m a woman .

[@666Victor777]

Are you a virgin? i kinda doubt that)

[@joshvandyke1723]

@@666Victor777 Are you a jerk? Yes. Knock it off.

[@aaronkiker4408]

Christian marriage, not a legal state marriage. My woman 😍

[@666Victor777]

@@joshvandyke1723 Why am i, so bible allows woman to hop on a lot of mens sausages and then get married? It was mandatory that woman is a virgin, taking a bride that is not virgin is a sin

[@joshvandyke1723]

@@666Victor777 Yeah... it's not....

[@mec5texan803]

Man + woman = 1

[@Ashley-id2cb]

I went into the wrong major. I should have make psychology my major! ... So interesting...

[@ztarzcream]

Why do people let him get away this garbage? This is so flawed it's unbelievable. Is there a source for the claim that "the prince also represents the woman's own unconciousness"? He does this all the time. Claim things without backing it up.

[@apples874]

Jordan, you are out of touch with the modern world and how the courts work. I know this is an older video, so perhaps your views on marriage have changed, but this is not what men/young men should be hearing.

[@victor.d6380]

Thats way the rule is no s€x before marriage or else most bums run away and the women is alone with the child

[@texicon]

Marriage is risky and dangerous for both (males are the losers in court)... But it's worth it because you might get lucky. Better to risk the pain of a divorce for the potential benefit of a great spouse.

[@MegaLezaford]

80% to ruin your life because of divorce for the chance to ... absolutely nothing? statistically, you have less chance to ruin your life by joining the army and go on a war for free

[@aaronkiker4408]

Stupidest comment iv seen in a whole year. You'd have better luck surviving Russian roulette with 5 rounds in a 6 round barrel than you would have a successful marriage. The odds are definitely not "worth it" I demand that you stop putting irresponsible and low quality incorrect comments on KZbin.

[@heartofmadrid216]

Is sex outside the marriage is good thing or bad thing?

[@lohi172]

Bad

[@Geno14656]

It's fine. Just be safe and don't hook up with someone you don't trust completely

[@billcipher3946]

@@lohi172 Maybe

[@lohi172]

@@billcipher3946 No, just bad.

[@billcipher3946]

@@lohi172 before marriage?

[@tjjordan9715]

Stupid title. I hope you share your profound wisdom with the world's monks and nuns.

[@osamaqtaitat]

Yeah, here he tells people how to be dependent, weak and attached!!

[@brigadiergeneral2399]

Marriage is horrible

[@joshvandyke1723]

I like those examples you provided to back up your claim bud.

[@aaronkiker4408]

Marriage is infact one the most destructive things a man could do to himself and any man with even an enkling of common sense don't need to provide an example because he has likely seen and experienced the inequality in marriages of those men around him.

[@joshvandyke1723]

@@aaronkiker4408 that's not how you spell inkling.

[@joshvandyke1723]

@@aaronkiker4408 Well. I've seen many examples of marriages where the spouses treated each others as equals and contributed enormously to society. Sorry that you havent experienced any good marriages in you life. You need to surround yourself with better people bud.

[@aaronkiker4408]

@@joshvandyke1723 and at what ratio Dyke ? 1/200 ? Nah bro, a man need not to legally bind himself to a woman to have a happy life or relationship.. and you know it. It's a very slim chance to find a good woman who won't marry you justvto divorce you. Stop leading people astray and down the wrong path. Tf is your problem.

[@KenWhitson777]

This is why it takes me a little longer to get to sleep - kzbin.info/www/bejne/hnqpi2qQgJmdm5I

[@gooddogtalks]

Uh no. Sorry doc.

[@aaronkiker4408]

U R right. Stay your course

[@randywayne3910]

It’s no wonder Peterson falls into bouts of depression, his whole view life starts through a lens of hopelessness. Life is NOT suffering Jordan. Life is life, suffering is suffering - two separate concepts. For those who take their own well-being seriously, life is a joy. I would not go to him for psychological help.

[@kipuchino]

Life isn't a joy for everyone. If it is, then you are part of the privileged few. I think you should pull your world view out a bit, to see how horrible life is for a massive majority of people on this earth.

[@randywayne3910]

@@kipuchino that’s a straw man argument. Even if what you’re saying is true, (it isn’t) a negative attitude is only going to make things worse, so why focus on that? It’s a poor axiom for a respected psychologist to hold. I also like how you’ve elected yourself the representative of the massive majority of people on earth.

[@kipuchino]

@@randywayne3910 Oh. Your one of those kind of people. Ha ha ha. I did not say anywhere in my post that having a negative attitude is the solution. You are deliberately being deceptive. You will have had suffering in your life, if you haven't I will repeat my previous statement. You are privelidged. “I believe all suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their happiness or satisfaction. Yet true happiness comes from a sense of inner peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through the cultivation of altruism, of love and compassion and elimination of ignorance, selfishness and greed.” Dalai Lama

[@randywayne3910]

@@kipuchino yes I’m one of those people who doesn’t care about the rest of the world, including you. Bye

[@kipuchino]

@@randywayne3910 Cya wouldn't want to be ya!

[@Nikola76]

He should try stand up comedy

[@donlarson3884]

Most marriages are jokes.

[@philt6800]

Why America is so screwed up in 10 minutes

[@dominikszczerbowicz1703]

No its not.

[@HabibBenamara-n2y]

اسمع.ياسيد.لست.انت.اقرب.من.نفسي.وانك.تتجج.بحج.لا.تنفعد.ولا.ترضك.نحن.من.نقرر.ما.نفعله.ولقد.الزمنا.الحجه.علي.الجواب.لقد.جربنا.ولم.ننجح.ولما.نضلم.نفسي.مرتا.اخري.هذا.الموضوع.لا.يعنيك.ابدا.هل.انت.متجوج.اني.ارك.كادبور.بين.النساء.تلدغ.هاذه.وتتبسم.الي.لاخري..دعك.النفس.نفسي.وانا.طبيبها.وشكرا.علي.النصيحه

[@Maliothemaster]

so people need to be forcibly bound in mind and body to be-able to have a life....unfortunately Mr Peterson i cannot agree with you. if you are in a true loving commitment with someone, you shouldn't need chains to stay there, and if the person leaves maybe they return as a better person and maybe you return as a better person, MAYBE THEY DON'T but regardless you have developed with someone who if they do love you as they say they do, will stay in your life, perhaps for greater, given they are choosing that and not enslaved by it. life is a learning experience where you may have others you can rely on...maybe.

[@Rachmanfan4life]

Worst advice you’ll ever hear !!

[@htfcm]

😴

[@SpencerRoyalcom]

Marriage is Created by God. His rules are what matter. Do you desire to follow His laws? If so, a good reference is 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. Study and read carefully. Know that all that divorce are stating that they Do Not Follow GOD!!! His followers follow His Laws. Regardless of local jurisdiction you find yourself in.

[@claudiapost-schultzke7216]

marriage is not important.