Can anxiety work in your favor? | Jordan B Peterson

[@MyCatFooed]

I adore this man!! He's an incredibly gifted communicator who always wants people to live their best. How can you dislike such a person? Domari Nolo *III*

[@coldpizzasoda8641]

True, but the left hates him anyway.

[@onezerotwofour184]

MyCatFooed If you weren't asking rhetorically, the main reason I have for generally disliking his ideas is that his position on truth and to a significant extent peripheral topics is fundamentally based upon irrelevant factors such as emotional benefit rather than objectivity (for examples see his discussion with Sam Harris). There are all sorts of problems that such a thought process will cause, because in essence you'll be forced to choose between cognitive dissonance or a worldview that is based upon arbitrary factors in hopes of avoiding unpleasantness. In other words he is still making the classical error of any given religious person where they can't handle the truth of life (not many people can) so they need to build less than accurate belief systems in hopes of finding emotional relief. With all that said I suspect that he's smart enough to realize all of that on some level. I wish him well.

[@MyCatFooed]

@@onezerotwofour184 Interesting opinion. Thanks for responding! I've read your comment over a few times, and admittedly, I'm a bit confused -- perhaps because I'm just exhausted right now. Are you saying that you don't like him because you don't feel that his belief system isn't valid --- or, that he's been disingenuous, & that's the reason for not liking him?

[@onezerotwofour184]

​@@MyCatFooed "his belief system isn't valid" Roughly speaking it would be this. Again for specific examples see his discussions with Sam (here is an excerpt where he explains that objective truth within some domains is at best secondary in his worldview. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bqGvgp9pm6xrg7M) I have no reason to think he has been anything but sincere, and I do think that he has good intentions for his audience. For what it's worth it's difficult to have answers for many areas of life (I certainly don't have all of them) so by no means am I trying to unfairly fault him for common human flaws.

[@onezerotwofour184]

Eric Miret Your bottom line sums up the issue with his position. If you don't see any critical error then what you and I consider to be intellectual honesty are two very different things.

[@Brandensballin]

You've genuinely helped me put things together properly, I need your guidance and reminders less and less as I apply your advice to my life. I can't thank you enough for putting together your videos, you've had such a profound positive impact on my life.

[@YessicaHaircut]

This man is brilliant. Literally brilliant. And he’s using it to change my, and I’m guessing so many others lives. I cannot express enough gratitude for your existence Dr. Peterson.

[@JordanMalan255]

I'm so happy to have found Jordan Peterson. When I clicked the suggestion from KZbin I almost didn't watch it, I'm happy he could catch my attention because he's had such a positive impact on my life. I hope he's doing well and getting better

[@NoXeB1995]

Much love to you and your family man... We love you.

[@Saveg36]

I’ve been viewing anxiety as excitement. There are different levels to anxiety but it usually starts mild for me. This mild anxiety is noticeable when it arises which allows me to become aware of it quicker before it consumes me. By viewing it as excitement the extreme cases don’t arise anymore or not as much.

[@emilebichelberger7590]

Got his book on the way to me, can’t wait to read it. First book I’ll have read in years but he’s so interesting im looking forward to it quite abit more than I thought I would.

[@MyCatFooed]

Which one? 12 Rules??

[@emilebichelberger7590]

MyCatFooed My bad, yes 12 rules.

[@MyCatFooed]

@@emilebichelberger7590 B00M! It's all good! I was just curious if you've read Maps yet....

[@emilebichelberger7590]

MyCatFooed I haven’t no I’ve just been watching a lot of his content and lectures online and have decided I should buy the book and give it a read as well.

[@winstonsmith9533]

@@emilebichelberger7590" Maps..." are read by him on Amazon. I don't want to download another application.

[@tashhashimi9483]

I took the future authoring program and it helped me understand so much of my actions. I have a lot less anxiety than I use to have

[@scrutinycentralizer8891]

He's not kidding about aging twenty years in ten. Living a high anxiety lifestyle for a prolonged period of time--and managing it badly--destroys your physical health.

[@thehandliesthandle]

Exactly. Look what happens when you have a heavy meth habit for 10 years, constantly in fight or flight mode, overstimulated. the aging is ridiculous, chronic stress has similar effects although its kind of reversible to a point

[@antibull4869]

Cortisol is a bitch of a biochemical

[@Cookiekeks]

He actually said that on anger

[@Bythesea449]

So thankful that Dr Peterson decided to rise out of the ashes. Him being rejected by specific communities has allowed him to help millions of people. Grateful

[@Gigi-z3z]

To be sure, I am always in such awe of Professor Peterson’s insights and observations! Wow! What a superiority gifted man! I’m immensely humbled by his knowledge.

[@инструктормотобезопасности]

Thanks dr. Peterson! Please get well soon. This planet is endlessly grateful for your work. You have fixed our life... Our room and our head. You have told us how to save planet and why we need to raise our children to be daring scateboarders, active listeners, "social lobsters", and we'll mannered rational parents of our grandchildren. Thank you!

[@mycolorfulpalette]

The best teacher ever. Such brilliant thinker! Kudos sir.

[@safedanger7997]

Dr.Peterson, you have done me and millions around the world a tremendous service with your lectures. May God bless you and keep you alive. We need you doctor.

[@alexandrarencoret5599]

You are so lucid, I enjoy listening to you!!

[@marciahammond9735]

Get well Dr P this world needs more of you.

[@canozano]

this is golden

[@daedra40]

May you and your family be well, Professor Peterson.

[@ejfunny]

"Maybe they're afraid of hoping so they wont specify a clear aim" dam,all this time i tried to mask my fear of failure as lethargy

[@Seaby41]

Good point. Although perhaps better defined as your lethargy is caused by fear of failure?

[@davidcml1363]

Eh! No. Depends on perception surely, of that person at that time. X

[@topdawg1692]

Love this guy!!

[@q7winq7]

5-22-2020 - - - - - "Look around for something that bothers you and see if you can fix it." ... is the most valuable sentence in this lecture.

[@Cookiekeks]

Whats so valuable about it? Im mean thats just a definition of a problem. You can a problem, fix it! Thats common knowlage, whats so special about that

[@shannoncurry2037]

At 2:20 I literally broke down crying because everything he said was true about me

[@moniquemcdonogh698]

So brilliant!!

[@davetoth9767]

Clearly this man is one of the greatest scientific minds of our time.

[@odb-yl9om]

Speaking as someone who has anxietythis was good to hear.

[@Jonathan-ru9zl]

love those old lecture videos where you actually see him speak

[@pn2205]

what a lecture!!

[@gastondotta7294]

This is a manifestation of love pure

[@charlotte8659]

I’m so worried about not succeeding and having an unhappy future that I’m paralysed by anxiety.

[@mannydaffu1892]

It's ironic how I can waste a whole day just watching videos of Jordan Peterson 🤔

[@devenpapineau6261]

One does not simply “waste” a day as long as they’re watching Jordan Peterson videos…

[@josuediaz1289]

I mean if you do something else while listening is even better

[@Mebzy]

This is a great clip!

[@bluezone3]

Noting every instance of problems at work is genius... When I brought up being mistreated by my boss at my previous job, he asked me to give examples and I didn't have any off the top of my head.

[@markwalker5295]

Speedy Recovery man!

[@JoeMcKenzie888]

God bless you Mr Peterson

[@mariemmattoussi7469]

what an amazing way to look at anxiety. Brilliant

[@cammorris4727]

God bless you Jordan.

[@newworldconcepts583]

Eloquent brilliance

[@pl6847]

I love these videos but I wish I can watch the whole thing instead of a clip of the video

[@daktar_saab1366]

I missed you man !!!

[@4EyedAnimation]

God love this man

[@TheFinalJigsaw]

God bless you

[@KimKoomKum]

I’m struggling to understand why some folks really do dislike Jordan a great deal. And among them are not just simpletons, but well-educated and rather clever individuals as well. Talking to them and reasoning in order to try to persuade them to see Jordan for who he truly is-a brilliant, well spoken intellectual and a decent human being with a positive message-alas, just doesn’t seem to work. For them, he’s some sort of ideological enemy, for lack of a better term. Those of us who support Jordan simply have to accept that his views are not for everyone. And that’s OK.

[@seandmoore6922]

I have suffered a lot of stupid pain.

[@chrissmith-lp8zc]

This one video has done more benefits for me than any other psychologist I’ve spoken to or any anxiety book I’ve read lol. Anyone know if he’s doing ok?

[@ambiguoususername2966]

He has one interview since his hiatus as far as I know. It was by his daughter. I think he's slowly recovering. Which I'm really glad about.

[@TwoGrainsOfGold]

I wonder if he meant cognitive dissonance at min marker 6:47?

[@IGamingStation]

"People who spend time writing carefully about themselves become happier, less anxious and depressed, and physically healthier." You mean, like a journal? I tried that once when I was a kid, never really clicked. Are there other options I do to do this?

[@jessiejane3392]

Gratitude lists, daily

[@nopenope7700]

Recording yourself is pretty much the easiest way to document your day-to-day life. Doesn't have to be perfect, just record your every thought, every idea about pretty much everything that bothers you or inspires you. Start with your phone, and if you really want to share your thoughts... buy a microphone and put it on KZbin. 9 times out of 10 you will find a community of people that have the same thoughts you do... it's amazing really.

[@preshitakavar5792]

nope nope what’s the point? Writing is easier, you can go through all of it without LISTNING through all of it, more convenient.

[@jelizabeth396]

I like to listen to lectures like this & just write down the quotes or ideas that resonate with my self.

[@stevecool9045]

I love these but the adverts get so jarring half way through

[@krisduboise276]

Probably easier to do things without anxiety. Lacking focus causes more problems than just anxiety. Nothing else matters beyond what you are doing in this moment. Can't really control anything else. Why worry about it if you have no power over it.

[@Ztrading1]

Where can i find carl jung saying what he reffered? Couldnt anybody help? Iam really interested in reading that material

[@mitchellshopland4281]

Grow some wings and fly

[@nopenope7700]

Anybody know how to hack an anxiety attack?

[@zero5496]

Actually that’s true I been playing my stupid psychiatrist like damn fiddle cuz those I met are easy to be exploited lol, sadly none I met can correctly diagnose my split personality yet

[@attrix09]

6:38 a 'performative contradiction'

[@jesss8922]

I was thinking it was 'cognitive dissonance'

[@attrix09]

@@jesss8922 Nope, it's performative contradiction. He's uses that phrase a few times throughout this lecture series. Listen to what he says prior, it's an action, so performative and it contradicts the point being made. Hence, performative contradiction. Take care.

[@attrix09]

Jess, from new girl?!?! Is that who's hot??!?!! If so , I agree!!!!

[@misteriosdobingbing5138]

Are there any books on using your anxiety in your favor?

[@wesfin]

6:42 lying, not speaking/acting the truth, believing/acting/submitting to the voice of lies

[@dannyju]

4:45

[@johncondon4647]

Your possessions, property and promises are an extension of the self - a less attached arm or leg. Those things in conjunction with your experiences is the painters pallet from which you make a difference to those around you while you exist. its a shame that your experiences are interred with your bones and barely can be transmitted to others.

[@cece3194]

I'm angry because I get to the "oh what's the use." There's just so much going on negative right now. Guess you can relate and you also know we cannot give up!

[@tuber12111]

The only question i have about dr. petersons courses is; what are the tests like lol

[@ambiguoususername2966]

Im curious too lol

[@avielp]

My problem with this view and program is that it could make anxiety and fear your sheperd or master. I don't want to be motivated and pushed by that.

[@Notjobincome]

who is Yuen Jordan was taking about?

[@fweenoe9501]

Carl Jung

[@kathleenwharton2139]

I quit breathing with my anxiety. It does not do me well!

[@wesleyrm]

6:36 What is the name of the term?

[@MrTonkacat]

cognative dissonance ?

[@junevandermark952]

Anxiety over not being able to pay one's bills can't BE overcome. And that is the situation in which so many people on planet earth are trapped. Those who are wealthy have their own reasons for being anxious ... and one of the major reasons ... is ... losing the source of income.

[@arianschnabel6814]

for some reason I feel like there is something unethical about performing psychological alchemz on yourself. It is like manipulating yourself.

[@Cookiekeks]

Then you cant change at all.

[@toasttoasted3492]

Easier said then done. Thought I could trust people when I talk about stuff. Now this person knows what I said about her. My work environment, everyone at my job just like yea your here if I don't say anything, no one talk to me, because of what I said about this person It really sucks. I hate my job, I am a joke.

[@hansgruber788]

7:00

[@q7winq7]

5-22-2020 Ten thousand things in the house? I've got 10,000 things just in the first room when I come in the door. My house has no closets or shelving. It's maybe 150 years old.

[@cece3194]

Hey Dr. How's it going? Yes, YES! Anxiety can work for us!! (Thank God!) One day at a time doctor. Dotie Osteen book for your wife! Check them out. I'm telling you, it's amazing and works! :)

[@wannahockachewie897]

I'd just end up with the dragon in front of me AND chasing behind me and end up with double anxiety.

[@BestForexAcademy]

👍👍👍👍

[@101Sailorfan]

My anxiety's only good point is it keeps my grades high so yay for that i guess

[@alinazari3493]

title is not revelant very much.

[@tylorlogan1282]

When your dads an alcoholic so u come here for help

[@jacobsl3499]

Sorry to hear that man! Good and brave of you to come here. Good luck, take care of yourself. My personal tips off the bat: assert healthy boundaries and don´t feel guilty for managing your distance to ANY destructive person in your life, no matter the relationship. Seek out supportive people - a red flag is if they talk down to you, I´d say even if it is disguised as "banter". If not 80-90 % of your communication is positive, let it go. And set yourself some goals around what you enjoy, and work steadily and patiently towards those, and find a job that provides you with a living ground . Disregard these tips if they don´t resonate. Most important is my compassion to you. Hopefully this is helpful ;)

[@tylorlogan1282]

Thanks buddy all great advice. I got a little angry but the point got across to my dad about certain subjects. Not all the way there but im learning to protect my mental health!

[@myessyallyahamericus8405]

They pretended it was mine but it was yours and having your tongue means you never earned what they bought you on everyone else's dime. You are dying that's the easy part. You arent goingvto know til we show up but we are coming soon. We need that tongue gone to make you powerful for once. With it you have nothing anyone cares about. After your tongues gone you'll have the strongest voice on earth.

[@moedervanbranko409]

Did he mean to say cognitive disonance at 6.30?

[@Defender2516]

Peterson: Life is suffering *Peterson suffers from medication* Us: *Pikachu Face*

[@FM-dm8xj]

6:42 cognitive dissonance?

[@jr5389]

You could always call Fat Tony...🤔 Just a Thought 💭

[@mf8125]

The term Jordan couldn’t figure out at around 7:20 is “cognitive dissonance”

[@Cookiekeks]

Thats something else

[@mf8125]

@@Cookiekeks what do you mean? Haha

[@mf8125]

@@Cookiekeks that’s definitely the term he was thinking of. It’s a psychological term. And also it matches exactly what he said. What is it then? xD

[@Cookiekeks]

@@mf8125 is was stupid sorry it is what he talks about. I understood something wrong

[@mf8125]

@@Cookiekeks no problem!

[@cokobware]

Who the F would downvote this?

[@djeasty9682]

It can work in your favour as long as you don’t start taking clonazepam

[@thaliagarcia9684]

Just follow his example and take lots of benzos, do as he does not as he says.

[@mintm4276]

Dude went to rehab for Klonopin addiction and he's giving advice on dealing with anxiety, lol wtf?

[@Addicted2Dopamine]

8:10

[@testosteronetemple8993]

The term he’s looking for is “cognitive dissonance”

[@JerryFlorez]

@James K isn't cognitive dissonance itself just one form of cognitive bias?

[@johnboykin3128]

The world is indebted to you for your amazing contribution

[@aadisam3190]

I think it's intention behaviour gap.

[@TuringMachine001]

Cognitive dissonance can also refer to contradiction between two beliefs, for instance. I think JP was looking for a term that referred only to contradiction between thought and action, so Aadi Sam's suggestion seems more plausible to me.

[@Linda........]

maybe it could also be the term "Akrasia"

[@vjm3]

I'll argue Jordan Peterson looked on his own personal issues with his addiction, and despite his reputation potentially taking a hit, despite all of the people who'll inevitably bash him for his weakness, he realized he needed to take care of himself first so he could build himself up better than before. That takes courage, even if he was suffering personal demons before. He's actively practicing what he preached, and I hope he'll recover so he can not only continue giving us amazing universal advice, but also so he can become a better, happier, person.

[@hoogzy78]

So wonderfully said and I totally agree with what you wrote.

[@TheBAZZiX]

vjm3 more of a dependency than an addiction

[@thehandliesthandle]

He is quitting some of the hardest medications to quit. The withdrawl can actually kill you if you rapidly come off of it. To put it into prespective, getting off cocaine would be a walk in the park in comparison. Even heroin is easier to get off

[@ThomasDoubting5]

What makes you think happier is better?

[@thehandliesthandle]

@Psychonaut if you knew anything about medications you would know if you're on a high dose of that stuff you dont just get off it easily. But it is kind of bizzare he went to russia.. he could have just tapered himself over a long period of time, i dont understand why he would need to go through such an extreme situation for something that can be solved by a really slow taper

[@winstonsmith9533]

"You cannot negotiate if you don't have any power." This man helped me just the other day with a situation at work. Resume is next and thinking of interview. Thanks Dr. Peterson!!

[@aceroargentino1049]

Winston Smith Good luck buddy! I wish all the best!

[@95TurboSol]

Always having options is HUGE in negotiation, and a way to have many options is to become as competent a person as you can

[@ironfirehorse]

This is Gold!!!

[@heinguy8560]

Wisdom is more valuable than gold

[@chetzoeller5508]

Yup

[@AfroNiNja00747]

Thank you Dr Peterson my life has become so much better because these lectures

[@MyCatFooed]

I'm trying. I've been trying for a few years now. The depths of myself are still a mystery to me. Dr. Peterson has affected not only my life in a positive manner, but my wife adores him as well -- which, in turn, aides our relationship with each other! Domari Nolo *III*

[@Concealed.Revealed]

@@MyCatFooed I'm so happy for you brother! Thanks for sharing. JP is a gem.

[@TheLeadhound]

That is a fantastic idea. Have your anxieties chase you rather than let them paralyze you. Be more scared of inaction than action.

[@alexxccccxbbb9952]

Psychonaut I think the idea is if you let it chase you, eventually you’ll out run it

[@alexxccccxbbb9952]

Psychonaut ever heard of a physical addiction bud.

[@alexxccccxbbb9952]

Psychonaut to try and calm his anxiety of his wife almost dying? Seems pretty traditional me.

[@alexxccccxbbb9952]

Psychonaut reasonable*

[@JD..........]

1:02 - guy needs maximum coffee to keep up w JBP ha

[@benjaminsibson8760]

Psychonaut sorry, who’s in the lecture again? You or him

[@JordanPeterson.]

You

[@leonaowen9234]

I wish Jordon would do a video on what HEARTBREAK (a broke heart from a life experience) does to one and how is best way to handle it when you can only work on yourself in ways to deal with it.

[@abellaby8224]

Leona Owen He has ! And lots - his take would be that a "a broken heart" is the same as post traumatic stress. I am assuming this is because of a broken relationship / a betrayal rather than a death / loss but in either case the lack of preparedness would be the cause. If you discover that a loved one has been having an affair what you actually discover is that you didn't know the person you've been with, that therefore you didn't know yourself - that all the memories you have now don't exist in the way in which you created them - you're plunged into chaos and the underworld, Have a look though hid personality lectures and the early chaos and order / tragedy vs evil lectures , there are so many lectures where he does go over and discusses what you mention. Good luck putting your model of the world back together again but it will have to start with you - it will be you who wasn't ready to deal with the tragedy of the world and will need to strengthen yourself!

[@nand3kudasai]

Bessel van der kolk also mentions heartbreak a lot in his book "the body keeps the score". He also focuses a lot on (post stress) trauma. I would agree with the idea that a real heartbrake is (somewhat) traumatic, and has similar components. and hence tools to progress through it.

[@thisisit4666]

At 6:45 is currently my biggest problem in life. For example, I hate being late but I end up late, I have high standards for my grades but I don’t study. I really do need help and he said the answer is to act consistently but it’s very hard.

[@feliperibeirofolgosi5622]

I know it’s been 4 years and I hope you doing great ! But I face the same problem and I tried to do little improvements day by day, until it becomes a habit. Your spirit is ready but the flesh is not. Fight against it and it will lose power ! All the best and may God bless you ❤️

[@darrin2053]

As an uneducated blue collared slob I can listen to this man and learn so much. He just makes sense

[@thomaskittock2866]

He needs a few hundred thousand more subs.

[@MyCatFooed]

It wouldn't do the entire world a disservice if a few hundred million people would listen to his lectures...

[@Schleicherfreund]

Visit JP's main channel and you might be surprised.

[@thomaskittock2866]

@Psychonaut I think your perspective is a little misguided, but I respect that you hold it.

[@Schleicherfreund]

@Psychonaut - Family is chronically ill. - He is chronically ill. - He is a psychologist with the burden of hundreds of people's problems weighting on his conscience and even more thousands that tell him practically on a daily basis how tragedy filled every-day people's lives are. - He has bloated in popularity resulting one of the most toxic groups of the world wishing him and his family constant pain and suffering with little of his collegues to stand by and fight with him. - And THEN his wife he loves more than anything in the world is diagnosed with cancer. There are popular people who have been going into therapy and have been taking meds for less than half of the worldly woes befallen him. But yeah, he is a weak man. What responsibilities have you shouldered? You comfortable, sheltered worm? Fuck you.

[@thomaskittock2866]

@Psychonaut I don't think it always is, and I don't think he espouses that perspective. Put yourself in his shoes for a minute and see how a medication might not be tempting. And I'm not even sure that's his case regardless.

[@chetzoeller5508]

This guy will live through history amongst the greats of all time. He is an absolute treasure. To be alive at the same time as him is unbelievable to me.

[@placidengoma6730]

6:40 Cognitive dissonance?

[@aadisam3190]

I think it's called intention behaviour gap. Cognitive dissonance is something else.

[@IGamingStation]

placide ngoma Cognitive dissonance, to put it simply, is having a belief that opposes your actions. People who know smoking is bad, but do it anyway, that's cognitive dissonance. Intention behaviour gap, that's when people say they want to exercise or whatever, but don't do it.

[@Cookiekeks]

Thats something else

[@placidengoma6730]

@@IGamingStation, thanks a lot. I've learnt something here.

[@edsonaparecidopedro1898]

Much Love to you nas your family !!

[@Mido-gi1gw]

Legend says he is still drawing invisible rectangles