Toxic Parents - Living Grief & More

Living Grief. It simply isn't talked about enough...anywhere.
This is another TikTok live and this was another really good one. I explore a lot from the living grief of a toxic parent to the smear campaigns that often follow.
You can find me on your socials at josh_ffw
#toxicparents #Livinggrief

[@abigailtaney9869]

Agreed. If a parent can apologize and see where they went wrong that isn’t toxic. Its toxic when they gaslight, victim blame, verbally mentally abuse, and continue to do it

[@CatEyedGoddess]

I agree, but I stopped calling it toxic instead l call it what it is. Abuse from an abusive parent.

[@vvoss2805]

I never felt guilty to have cut the toxic parent out. Now he is dead and I come to realise it is over. Good times. except that one still dwells on past events. Less and less though, which is recovery.

[@JB-fo5bx]

A good EMDR therapist REALLY HELPS!!

[@upendasana7857]

Its true,the levels of accountability for parents is extremely low in our society and as you say even for sexual abuse at certain levels. Parents are able to get away with verbal abuse and I'm sure levels of physical abuse which are seen as accpetable or just the way it is and a parents right to discipline a child anyway they see fit. There has to be way more conversation about parenting and what is needed froma childs point of view in terms of safety and development.Also support for parenst out there willing to look at their parenting and ways of being healthier and communicating better with their children. Often it is only the very worse abuses which get covered and children are brought into care..although still many are missed. Not saying that more children need to be put into care but just that the conversation about what is healthy parenting has to be had more often,every week there should be programmes on TV etc that look at health parenting and communication and dealing with emotions etc etc. There are more programmes on houses and dogs then there are on human relationships and especially parenting. I think like Sinead O'connor said there should be a bill of rights for children,protecting their human rights,parents are allowed to get away with far too much and it has a corrosive effect overall on society such poor levels of parenting repeating the patterns of their parents

[@Bronte866]

There is no greater problem facing humanity and planet earth than abusive parenting and generational abuse. Name any problem we face as a planet and one of the most direct lines of causation and responsibility will stem from child abuse including all crime of all kinds and even an issue such as doing nothing about climate change (which could’ve been safely circumvented by diligent human beings). The selfishness and complacency of humans have caused this issue to be put on the back burner. And where does complacency and selfishness come from? My argument exceeds the scope of a KZbin comment. I appreciate the broad truth of your comment and the urgent need to address this properly. 🌿

[@StephaniePisces]

Thank you for your compassion. It really helps.

[@kimlambert9311]

I got so much from this Josh. Thank you.

[@LILYMARIAOFFICIAL]

You do really important work talking about this stuff cos not many people do, thanks for shedding light on this 🙏

[@todamoon55]

So I disengaged from my parents 15 years ago and a year ago my father died and my mother was put into a home for dementia. Essentially they aren't in my lives anymore. When I think of them it is a sadness and a regret but it isn't because I disengaged it's because I'm realizing my memories are when I believed I was actually loved. I've since found out that was never the case. So my grief is really for a fantasy. That's what you have to focus on the fact that you never really had the parents that you should have had. You're really grieving the loss of what never happened. So the fact that they died isn't actually relevant.

[@skyedreams28]

Can you do a video on sibling emotional abuse? Thank you for your videos!

[@chloeslater7231]

Thank you

[@professionalautist]

TY

[@suestacey5328]

All fine

[@daniellegibson447]

What do you do when you were emotionally abused your whole life but now fear genuine people and surround yourself with those people just because it’s comfortable

[@Bronte866]

I’m not interested in glomming on to the term *narcissist* Abused children often grasp onto this word as a life raft: if the abusive parent has an *illness* that means that “they really love me but they’re ill.” It’s often way too much to consider the possibility that the parent doesn’t love us or doesn’t love us enough. I take the position that the abusive behavior is a *choice* They absolutely know they are abusing you. Most abusive parents are simply lousy people of poor character. And because they engaged in an act of s ex ual congress - as any animal does -

[@Bronte866]

- doesn’t mean that they’re a more refined human being than any other human being. In fact it’s nonsense. Much of this idea that we owe abusive parents fealty come from religion, and this needs to be reevaluated to the extreme.🌿

[@franklinplayz6323]

Nope. Even sexual abuse will be overlooked with an expectation of ignoring or getting over it. Trust me on that.