Judo Parents - The Shintaro Higashi Show | Ep. 119

[@sushinfudoshin8991]

As a father and a 30+ years judo student, I found myself in an unusual place where my kids only wanted to learn judo from me, and not from my teacher. Up until I was still learning with my teacher. I took them to him and they didn't connect. So I teach them myself and focusing more on self-defense.

[@torrinmaag5331]

This might be one of your best podcasts yet

[@Yupppi]

Brilliant structuring and wording out kid's hobbies. I wouldn't have known how to encourage but give enough freedom to let it catch fire and support the flame until it becomes something self-driven, but without suffocating the flame either. And I wouldn't have known how to actually arrange the hobby for a kid so the kid gets the best out of it. Shintaro's talk about ballet for his daughter really gave a good base line on what to consider. I'd love to know how to kindle that what I got for guitar and judo when I started. They seem to be just happy accidents that you don't even consider. With judo I just had it in the back of my head that I wanted to do judo when I saw that the university had a club, I have no idea where that idea had even stuck there. I wasn't exposed to judo anywhere just about ever, but when I noticed the club I thought "finally I get to do this". When I started it, my mentality unconsciously was like "now that I'm in, even if I'm not doing it for a good while, I'll never quit, it's just a temporary break". The break actually lasted for 10 years when life happened, yet I was every now and then thinking about it and started looking up opportunities to get back when the circumstances seemed better. Now doing judo regularly again and still love it. Similar to what happened with guitar. No lessons, no schools, just practiced by myself. I know many who touched guitar and gave up, no idea what kept me glued to it. I have hard time imagining a life where I would stop playing guitar and got bored of it, it's just part of my identity. Similar to how I started identifying with judo right away. My parents never guided or suggested me with hobbies, even though they did support me a lot with whatever I chose. For guitar it could've been useful if they pushed me to take lessons or go to music school, lessons would've done a lot in hindsight. My dad could've taught me, but never did and I never asked. Probably a good thing - I was sort of a strong willed kid, it would've been just the same that happened with Shintaro. Now I could take lessons from dad just like Shintaro can probably take lessons from his dad. I was too shy of a kid to go somewhere where people would see me suck and fail, could've been a good lesson for life as well. I didn't understand that you go take lessons because you suck and it's expected, that's what learning a new skill is all about. I wanted to be good right away and I tied it to my ego and status. Now I'm almost daily trying to encourage other people to keep learning and not be afraid of mistakes and sucking when you start something new, that it's expected and nobody will judge you for it. That there's just people who are happy to have you join and help you out. Especially judo and music offer opportunities to help people get over that what I hadn't learned in time.

[@leod4495]

Hahaha. At the 5:05 mark - as an ex-NYer, I totally hear a little NY Shintaro DeNiro when you say "He's the best doctor I've ever seen!" As a father to two boys doing judo and bjj, found this vid super enlightening! Thx a mill!

[@ADAM_COLLECTS]

it’s a new Shintaro, now with hat! I want my kids to do judo. I’m a shinkyokushin karate instructor, student and parent. I want my two younger girls to do judo as i feel it will give them more in terms of competition and, from my perspective, striking is a relatively simple process to teach and learn, grappling, that’s a totally different style.

[@kusotare9559]

I've been both a judo kid and a judo dad. My experience as the former informed how I behaved as the latter. In terms of judo advancement, I surpassed my father, but neither of my kids were serious enough about judo to do it for more then a few years: when they found other sports they enjoyed more, they pursued those instead. Do I wish they hit the dojo regularly? Of course. But I'm glad I could put my ego aside and let them do what THEY loved.

[@jonbeck6889]

GU has a video or 3 about the challenges of training with your loved ones. It's pretty challenging.

[@cvz8849]

Awesome insights in coaching your kids. So difficult sometimes to get them to listen, but so proud to watch them compete.

[@malcolmhines4214]

lol lighter shade of green! I thought I was the only one that said that!😂

[@WayneManifesto]

Have you or can you post a few full classes that you run? Just a few genral weekly classes? Real casual like? I've been to classes that are 30 minutes general warm up(running, pushups, star jumps), 20 minutes ukemi then 30 uchikomi, 10 techniques, 10 cooldown. I think there needs to be more content out there that shows the alternatives. Its hard to change people's minds. You try talking to the coaches and they're convinced their method makes champions and their evidence is one guy who is just a natural. Just the structure of a few whole casual classes would be great.

[@1GonzalezAR1]

Thank you for sharing with us. I try to run a fun class for the littler students… it’s just hard to keep the, when high school sports comes around