Spilling The Tea While Drinking Tea

[@missycitty9478]

An open marriage is never the answer for a troubled marriage. There will ALWAYS be someone getting jealous, getting hurt, keeping secrets. Adding someone into an already troubled marriage is just complicating it more. And Julia. You're still so young. You can still do whatever it is you want, if you put your time and effort into it. Want to be a lawyer? Go for it! Wishing you the best. ALWAYS. But please, PLEASE, seperate before you bring others into your already damaged marriage. It will NOT fix a thing.

[@TheVallex]

🥺🥺 thank you for being so kind with her, yet very facts driven. I don't really follow Julia, but i think it's very good advice that you're giving her!

[@missycitty9478]

@@TheVallex thank you for being so kind. 💚

[@CatherineDoII]

This comment is so important and I hope Julia read this! She is still so young. When I was 29 years old, I was just starting to live my dream life. Now I'm 38, feeling young and living with my boyfriend who is 18 years my junior. Life is good, now I know what I want and need. It's never too late to be happy again. 😊

[@NolaPie]

Julia I’ve watched you for a long time and I can honestly say I’ve seen your bright light dim since you got married. Adding more to get closer doesn’t work. I hope you find happiness and things get better.

[@rose_yts]

I don't think Julia is ready for an open relationship. She's clearly grieving. If this comes from Eileen, that shocks me! I don't want to sound mean, but Eileen must be now about 66/ 67 if not older...does she want an open relationship at this stage in life??? She's married to a beautiful, young, talented and intelligent woman. What does she want at her age? Seriously. I'm not being ageist, btw. I'm 64. Just saying...

[@jenn.9868]

My thoughts too. I hope it is what Julia genuinely wants and isn't just going along with the idea because Eileen wants to. I don't know why I get that impression.. Obviously not saying that's the case, we don't know what is going on between them but I can't help but worry for Julia. Each to their own but the idea of opening up a marriage to make your marriage work with your wife/husband just seems just so heartbreaking.

[@rose_yts]

@@jenn.9868 It's true. Opening a marriage to save it, is the same as getting pregnant when your relationship is falling apart, thinking a baby will heal all the problems. It's like using a screwdriver to fix a broken vase. An open marriage must stem from a balanced relationship and a pre-arranged agreement, not a broken one. And it's not for everyone!

[@pinpantrukutruku]

Absolutely agree

[@yerichu]

It’s none of my business but the one video that really struck a lot of fans is a clip of her wife shaming her and demanding she get her another soda. Id be so hurt being talked too like that and feeling obligated to be a caretaker.. Julia’s reaction broke my heart she looked so broken and defeated..To me she seems a lot more sad and like a exhausted caretaker since she got married. I’m not trying to be hateful or nosey but it’s worrying bc I’ve been a fan for a long time

[@rose_yts]

@@yerichu I remember that. She was trying to please Eileen who was being so demanding! If Eileen needed or needs care, there's one more reason she should settle down with someone who has no obligation to look after her but is happy to help for love.

[@shaunieknight9371]

If you are not happy in a relationship there is only so much you can try to force yourself to be happy, eventually you have to move on! Sometimes you have to put you first 🖤

[@sophieophieee]

She could possibly be staying for legal status. You know ?, pulling a JB and HB.

[@rayax2805]

@@sophieophieeeJB and HB??

[@nica9181]

@@rayax2805Justin and Bailey Bieber , he’s Canadian

[@KadenGosling]

@@rayax2805 can we be friends

[@KadenGosling]

@@rayax2805 can we be friends or more than friends

[@andreaac4499]

The open marriage is the nail in the coffin. Which in this case is great.

[@mahinnnadiamoinkus3648]

I don’t like to add to the negativity and drama, but in these cases, I’m always inclined to agree. As soon as there’s mention of opening up a marriage, things only go downhill.

[@idonttan]

Her depression would be cured if she would just leave this relationship.

[@marymaingi9179]

@@idonttan bt I think she loves Eileen more

[@theo866]

Polyamorous people exist you know. Although if you open the marriage just because you have issues and can't resolve them then yes, it is just stalling the inevitable breakup.

[@raivyn79]

Poly person here. Whatever issues you have between you and your wife need to be handled as a team. Having a third/fourth/etc won't fix those issues. Bringing in other people to make the marriage better will not work. It'll just cause jealousy, inevitable favourtism, bitterness, etc. If poly is being used to "improve" a relationship, it's already over. Not trying to be harsh, just honest. I want you to be happy. As for Fetlife, you can post pics of yourself there without them being BDSM related. People into certain fetishes will enjoy the pics regardless (i.e. you're super femme, and some people are really into that). All my pics there are not BDSM at all and I'm nowhere near as pretty as you and I still get comments and positive interaction. Go for it! It's more exposure and networking and that's always a good thing.

[@rileyalexander358]

Agree, that adding new partners to a relationship in the hopes it'll fix the existing issues is not the solution. Polyamory or non-monogamy can be tricky enough in its own when it's done intentionally and even with experience. Doing it whilst in crisis to try to heal long-term wounds is a recipe for disaster. 😢

[@spreadlovenothate.9372]

I'm 34 years old and I still don't have my life sorted out so please don't be hard on yourself love. Life loves to throw us curve balls sometimes. ❤

[@katherinehawkes8963]

I'm here if u need to talk, lots of love xxxx

[@spreadlovenothate.9372]

@@jacliveshere I truly believe that things happen for a reason and that it's ok to not have things figured out. Life is filled with twists and turns and we never truly know where we will end up. All we can do is try to enjoy the ride and find the good even in the bad. Much love to you.

[@spreadlovenothate.9372]

@@katherinehawkes8963 awe I'm not sure if this comment was directed towards me, but honestly thank you so much. 💓 I will always listen to those who need it too. Hugs and much love. 🤗

[@spreadlovenothate.9372]

​@@jacliveshere thank you so much! 💓 😊

[@Ragnolo1991]

Same here!

[@ThatDivinationWitch]

Julia lovely. Not many people could move to London with £20 and make it as far as you. You're strong. Look back at where you were at 18 to where you are now...and you know...only you can create your own happiness lovely. But you're stronger than you realise.

[@sherryfichtersherry6823]

I'm just gonna say I'm 59 and I'm just happy with me. My marriage broke up 8 years ago and I'm definitely happier just being friends with my ex ! Believe it or not we are great friends now!

[@opalfae]

Such a great way to be!! ❤

[@tschandraheinze1680]

Sherry I love hearing this I wish so many of us could learn faster these real important things not to give into that we may go through in life. The saying LIFE IS SHORT, too short to not be nothing but simply free and happy. Hugs from Alaska. Hope to chat sometime again. ❤

[@candicekildau5666]

A young life crisses you can call it😂

[@benedettasavitri9644]

Julia, open relationships can be terribly painful-don't go there.... Big hug, hope medication helps ❤

[@UNDERTHESH33TS]

Julia, I hope you do whatever it takes to feel better. Go back to Brazil, take a social media break, separate from Eileen… whatever it takes! You’ve been down like this for YEARS and I hope that you can put yourself first from now on.

[@AshleyHasADHD]

I'm 37 & in recovery from addiction that took over half my life. I feel so behind and not where I should be. It'ssuper depressing. You're not alone. At least you didn't go for a traditional degree to fit in with society and you've followed your heart all along. I think that's admirable. I bet there's millions of people who wish they had followed their heart instead.

[@elodieemeraldantine5230]

You're Amazing ❤🫶

[@oddtalkwithaubree]

Beautiful words, I’m proud of you! ❤️

[@adrukova1407]

"There are millions of people who wish they had followed their heart instead " - Absolutely !! 💯 💯💯

[@AshleyHasADHD]

@@elodieemeraldantine5230 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖

[@AshleyHasADHD]

@oddtalkwithaubree922 :) thank you 😊 ♥︎♡♥︎

[@almo33YO]

Freelance pianist/teacher here. The best thing that ever happened to me was getting dumped, moving out, and losing a job the week before my 30th birthday. What you’re going through is totally normal, especially for us creative types. I was an absolute unmediated trainwreck until my early 30s. It can take a while to find our way. I’m 43 and life is amazing and fulfilling. And yes, making a full living as a musician. It CAN happen.

[@rachelgregory672]

Open marriage is the start of the end of most when ppl don't have the courage to break up 😢it's hard

[@rainbowmashpotato]

I would 100 percent prefer a painful and taxing divorce than the slow and excruciating torture that is an open marriage ( I am married). I can't imagine the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with being intimate with others and potentially putting us both at risky situations.

[@Blisz_La_Priestess]

I’m saying this because I’ve always loved you as the unique person that you are💖 Ever Sense you married your wife your energy has not been the same as if you’re being drained & you’re mostly sad than happy😢🥺 … I wish you start seeing your worth 🤍💫🍃 You Deserve Better Love💞

[@helenajacob4058]

Ahhh I just can’t help but feel love shouldn’t be that hard. 10 years of being together with someone, I can reallllllly understand the highs and lows that being in a long term relationship / marriage can bring. But after being a long term follower of yours for for a while now I can’t help but remember when you had that healthy jealous spark with even the thought of your wife having past girlfriends. Everybody changes over time, but just make sure it’s what you truly want. Sending lots of love Julia and try not to be so hard on yourself you have achieved so much x

[@EmileeBreeana19]

Learn when it’s time to let go. Not every relationship works. An open relationship is the end of a marriage in my opinion

[@LieingCostsYourSoulTellElders]

The question is should I keep my male appendage or take it out. Do I need it anymore since I can't understand the woman's vagina sight loss of sexuality forever for all men to. What I mean is men can't understand woman's cherry red vagina and nakedness in the future forever loss of sexuality forever

[@k.s.173]

Not at all surprised over the relationship. Knew that would happen a long time ago. Just didn't know when...

[@clementinehetherington6525]

Julia don’t feel bad! Me and so many other people feel similar in life. I’m 27 and still working on restaurants (which I hate) while hoping I can be successful with my art some day. But you have already accomplished so much! You’ve released music, music videos, done so many creative things that most people never do. And people love your work! You music is beautiful. At the end of the day you have touched people with your music, they have heard your art and that’s all that really matters. You leave a legacy behind. Also even people with more “normal” jobs are struggling in this current economy. As for that though, please don’t feel trapped in your life. You can always get another degree or enter a new relationship if you want, you have so much time!

[@happyaccident105]

I feel like open relationships are a kiss of death, honestly. I've never seen them work. Someone always gets hurt. Your spouse should truly be enough for you because you made literal vows to each other. I've been married 30 years. It's WORK. It's not always easy and I don't always like my spouse but I ALWAYS love them and honor the commitment we made before our family and friends. I just can't imagine how much it would hurt me to know that I wasn't enough for them and vice versa. You don't seem happy, Julia. At all. And that makes me so sad and worried for you.

[@Poseidonblue123]

Same I share the same story, I am late diagnosed with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) and it’s not always easy to live with, for my wife as well, But we will do everything for each other and love her to the end of time ❤

[@erindoyle8091]

You deserve someone who matches your light..

[@helenknight7653]

You have done more in 30 years than a lot of people in a lifetime. As for your marriage - I'm sorry to sound rude, you deserve so much better. x

[@marymaingi9179]

The X means

[@RD-hd3sl]

@@marymaingi9179x is often used as a term of endearment. Presumably came from xoxo, x is like saying “kisses.”

[@alexandramoyer8785]

@@marymaingi9179 love you that’s what it means

[@purpledragonfly4]

Oh Julia. You are smart, beautiful, talented, driven, ambitious, funny, sincere and an amazing woman. Look at getting management for social media, the right agency will help massively with your online presence. And I'm so sorry your relationship is struggling. Sometimes, as much as we want the fairytale, we have to step back and realize that love isn't always enough. I've never known someone married to be so alone. Marriage is a partnership with your person, they're meant to make you feel safe, loved unconditionally, be there when you need them, be your home. It's clear as day what needs to happen sweetheart, i just pray you see it too before you lose yourself in this mess completely. ❤

[@missmosvegankitchen8238]

Please do not open your marriage in an attempt to fix any issues. An open relationship needs to have a sturdy foundation otherwise the walls come crumbling down. Both or all of the people involved also need to be 100% into it or forget it. It won't work. It's better to split and move on to find your happiness with a partner who wants exactly want you want.

[@carililyyarbrough2305]

open relationships tend to be the final nail on the coffin if there have been ongoing struggles. ending the relationship would be healthier and far less painful. I’m so sorry about everything. ❤

[@lunawolfNZ]

Hun ive been married for 8 years and ive helped many people out of toxic relationships and all i can say is if youre putting your all into a relationship and your partner isnt doing the same than you need to end it because marriage is a two way street its not worth risking your mental health if your partner is constantly making you feel like s$$$

[@diefanipiovezan]

That 30’s thought of “have I made the right choices? I’m nowhere close to where I thought I would be right now”. I even switched careers and transitioned from Software Developer to Project Management because I had an identity crisis and a burnout. Don’t push yourself to figure things out in the blink on an eye.

[@Isabellva]

Oh Julia. As someone in a successful open relationship, we built trust and a solid foundation for our relationship for months before we decided to open it up, which we both wanted from the beginning. That’s how it works: you have solidity and trust, and then you open it up. Not the other way round. Opening an already shaky relationship will be incredibly painful, be careful. Sending love.

[@jessieavila1868]

@@handleit922monogamy is not the goal for everyone. this comment is extremely condescending. don’t project your insecurities and preconceived notions onto someone else’s relationship

[@jessieavila1868]

@@Letsgo88809 it’s giving projection. there have been so many successful open relationships. i promise you

[@LP-km7gj]

It’s never too late. I am 37 and just now about to graduate with my degree in the spring which will help me a lot in my current career. Never too late to make a change!

[@angellawalker4948]

I feel your pain and thanks for being so open and honest. I wish you all the best as a 50 yo i dont think opening up your relationship is going to fix your marriage permanently. Its sad to say but sometimes you have to walk away considering the circumstances. You are talented, smart and beautiful dont give up. Love you Julia. The light is at the end of the tunnel. 🙏🙏

[@emmarose2385]

It hurts my heart to see you so sad. I know you feel like you’re falling behind on your goals but don’t get discouraged you are still so young and you’ve accomplished so much. Don’t worry about posting if you don’t feel well enough to we completely understand! Love you

[@naturecreep8811]

This video hit home for me, you're so real for this. The dreams, getting older, relationship problems, feeling stuck, health. Its a lot and i feel you :(

[@ScieBerrie]

When a plane is crashing, your instructed to apply your own oxygen mask first before helping / saving anyone else. I apply this to everything in life and it reminds me to put me first.

[@jojobee42]

Relationship-wise, if it's working it's working... If not, then not... Not all relationships are meant to last forever, even if you are married... Age-gap relationships are even harder ~ in the beginning everything can feel totally fine... But over time it can start to take its toll... It's not about the number per se... but about the fact that a 30 year old has different things to think about regarding life than a 60 year old... 30 year old is still building up their life and becoming an adult (we're still pretty much just "kids" in our 20s), when a 60 year old is starting to finish up their career and look forward to their retirement..... And there are health-issues too... A 30 year old is at the prime of their physical health, and the 60 year old is starting to have more and more issues.... I've been in several age-gap relationships so I'm not judging! But it's also because of that that I can say they're problematic... In a way the younger partner gets the shorter stick? Don't miss your youth which will pass so fast anyway... And it's a serious thing to become the partner's carer at such young age, and then a young widow, even..... A lot to think about!

[@KatM272]

I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news but it doesn’t sound like there’s any health in the relationship left, I say this mainly by the look on your face when you speak about it. It’s something worth paying attention to. Please take care

[@MissChiefs420]

Oh honey I’m so so so sorry💔💔💔I know how awful it is to be in a toxic relationships and how much it hurts when you know you need to leave for your own good but you love the person. My heart aches for you and I just hope you can heal.

[@ebz1926]

Julia, I’m so so sorry to hear all of this. You can do this. We are here for you and we love you.♥️♥️

[@stephaniesheeks1310]

You need to find a woman that's got the same passions for life and in life as yourself. You're not very well matched with her. We all see it. I know you can be happy with the a woman that's more like yourself. ❤

[@OrlaAfikiruweh]

Very true 👍

[@LuckyOwl360]

By the 2 minute mark I was already crying 😭 Never push your emotions down, you’re allowed to be sad and express those emotions through crying or anything you need to do. It’s healthy and cathartic, not just for you but for many of your viewers who struggle the same way. It hurts to see you hold yourself back 😢 You’re so free to release that if you want to, never worry about making anyone feel bad! All that said, I appreciate your transparency and the genuine desire you have to support your viewers and share in struggles together. Sorry to hear what you’re going through, I’ve been struggling with my relationship with my parents and feeling like I haven’t done enough in life, and I could relate a lot to the feelings you shared. ❤

[@kateywilko214]

This isn't the answer, if you have an open relationship you do this from the start! Not just because you are going through a rocky time!

[@_anirxm_]

Julia, I have been watching you since long before you started dating Eileen. She's never been on your level and has done nothing but leech off you. I hope things work out for you, please focus on yourself, what you feel is valid, and you've gone through A LOT in that relationship

[@underratedunity1528]

Totally agree

[@shayne528]

I love you Julia and your rawness right now was actually needed and made me feel less alone. I also work in media ( radio ) and I feel the same at times. ❤

[@elodieemeraldantine5230]

Yes x such a courageous video X

[@amandaramsey9002]

Just want to hug her. Love her so much.

[@andreaserrano657]

A lot of people forget you can do lot with a music degree. You can compose music, writing, producer, technology, planner/production manager, composer for companies/artists , etc.

[@emmaope]

Julia, I've been following you for SO long. I'm 21 and been watching your videos since I was 13. I even sent you fanart once! You're the reason why I love pink and you even gave me the courage to come out to my parents. 30 is still SO young! You can still choose anything you want to do! I just want you to know that even if you do go for a different career path, that this wasn't all for not. You've helped me find myself, and I guarantee that there's others like me. I trust that you will make the right decision. Love you 💖💖

[@yenbee9211]

Knowing when to give up doesn’t make you a quitter or weak, it makes you brave and wise. I know how hardworking you are and I’m the same way.. so I know how hard it can be for us to know when to let go.

[@elfenscheisse]

Hey Julia, I used to follow you because of all the beauty and lifestyle stuff and because you were one of the few that made really good videos concerning all things pastel goth, creepy cute etc. and of course, music. You always mentioned your girlfriends, but it was never the center of the channel, and I really liked that. When the videos started being all about - I am sorry to say that!- making out with Eileen, I unsubscribed, because I am not interested in peeping into things so private. Concerning the other thing, I myself have degrees in theater and acting but because of the pandemic I am in a different field now, and I can absolutely understand your concerns. If you think you need a "proper" degree, then go for it BUT never forget: what you already achieved is much more than most of us will ever get, it is sad that you are not able to see this.

[@bethyjeanhudson9605]

Love you Julia. People just love the drama tea. Can’t change that so just put out what you want. Please don’t give up on your dreams. Very thankful you share your life. But remember you’re in control of what you share. ❤hope you get to feeling better

[@idajonsson2522]

Hi Julia, I'm also 29 and turning 30 next year, we're both young and have a lot ahead of us. You have succeeded in things that other artists have not even come close to, be proud of everything you have done new ways will always come. Hugs from a loyal follower. ❤

[@kiranightlee7291]

I don't think you should ever regret your career path Julia...your music means something to people. I am also vegan and the younger party in an age gap marriage, and absolutely love you, your art and your content. I went through a real stage of also regretting my degree...but now as a parole officer after 5 years of struggling within the criminal justice system, it all feels so incredibly worth it. I think those lengthy periods of struggling and self-doubt are common-place in most people's lives...very few are open to discussing it though, so thank-you for always being so transparent and so vulnerable with your audience. You are doing great sweetie.

[@nicky8385]

Geourgus girl your light has dimmed since you got married you need to take a break and concentrate on you and get your bright light back... you are young and talented and beautiful you can do anything ❤❤❤❤❤

[@bransbury2006]

If you had been a lawyer etc you would always think what if.. and want the music career. Unfortunately we never no what is round the corner .. all we can do is follow our hearts ❤❤

[@kalebrosetaylor]

Julia I love you so much. I’ve been here since the very beginning, and no matter what it’s important to remember that this dark time in your life will pass and you will make it out alive. 💗 Be gentle with yourself beautiful.

[@SarahQuinnandFranklin]

The fact that you feels bad shows that this solution isn't good for you.

[@dianadmoon]

Barely got to see this today but so glad I did, I thought I was the only one at 29 second guessing their life decisions. Thank you for your honesty, I know it’s not easy 💕 Sending you positive vibes ❤

[@stephaniebaird6937]

Julia - fellow musician here (collaborative pianist). I went through the same crisis a few years ago about whether I made the right career choice or not. All my friends were buying houses and having kids and had stable careers, but I was freelancing, stringing together part-time jobs and didn't have a "real job." But now I realize that I am SO fulfilled with my life - sure I may not be rich, but I have a creative outlet that will never let me down, and my love of music and dedication have attracted opportunities. I teach every single day, I have performances lined up, I have things to look forward to. You DEFINITELY made the right choice by following your heart with your career.

[@lafidala.1726]

Thanks for giving this inspiration, im a freelancer as well. Freelancers are often happier because they truly have freedom in what gigs they accept.

[@almo33YO]

Same! Collaborative pianist/NCTM certified teacher/organist here. I’ll prob never be out of debt, but I am so incredibly happy and fulfilled with my life. (I’m 43, married at 36. No kids, three dogs)

[@haleykrause1591]

You’re never to old to make the life you always wanted. To leave everything or something’s behind and start over. 💕

[@Lawzika]

So sorry you are dealing with depression, I deal with it daily too & we have to take time for ourselves ❤. Sending hugs

[@fatal_laughter]

30 is not old! That's the age when you are on your prime. You know better than when you were on your 20s! It's never too late to follow your dreams and change your path. Some times dreams change and that's ok too. Choose yourself and your peace every day!

[@littlelisa2120]

You make me feel less alone with my depression, thank you for making this video and being open and honest, you've really kept me company, sending love......also I love Beverly she's adorable xx

[@brittanyanderson325]

Julia dear, you wouldn't have been happy as a doctor or a lawyer. You would have felt bored and suffocated by the lack of creativity and art. You are an incredible artist and I don't know why you aren't more mainstream. Is your producer/publicist getting you enough gigs and appearances? You have everything it takes to rise to the top and you have excellent genetics from looking at your mother so you will probably be able to perform into your 50's and 60's like Joan Baez, Cher and Madonna ✨

[@ShockResistor]

Its not their genetic but plastic surgery.

[@brittanyanderson325]

@@ShockResistor That is true, but what I'm trying to say is Julia's mother is gorgeous so she will likely still be gorgeous in her 50's and 60's.

[@SidleFan08]

Eileen has treated you horribly for a long time now! We have seen it in many vlogs. We have been praying you can get out of this relationship when you feel you can & hopefully able to find the love you deserve. Eileen - you should seriously consider therapy if you’re not already in it - because you treat your spouse terribly! & that could stem from something deeper or you just feel you’re older so you have power over her & feel like you should be the one “in charge” etc. regardless please let her go

[@kimberlyhayes6006]

I just realized you have 300,000 subscribers!!!!! I'm so happy for you, you worked so hard for this!

[@alessandrajackson3768]

Open marriages work if they start off as open. It doesn’t work out if it starts off monogamous and then opens. I hope it works for you, but it very often builds up resentment and unhealthy attachment styles from opening it up.

[@mistyghosts9941]

It's too soon to give up yet. I think the depression is making you doubt yourself and your decisions. I've been a long time viewer and have always loved your content, even back when you were doing pastel goth craft videos! I hope you are fully going after what you want and what you love. It's hard to be unsuccessful if you're following your heart, you will find a way. Compromise isn't compromise if you're doing a dis-service to yourself. There's a difference between a want and a need. I'm so very proud of you for pushing through. You have such a radiant and kind personality, even in your hardest days. I would give you a hug if i could.

[@LIZZYBANKSS]

No matter how old you are I’ve learnt that none of us have our lives together and it can feel overwhelming! ❤ sending you so much love!

[@LanaKennedy121]

I’m 31 and I have no degree, no job. I’m broke. My bf pays for everything. I also stay in bed most days, also battling Myelodysplastic syndrome (blood cancer) so I can totally relate. I feel hopeless and in limbo. ❤ I’ve been subscribed for 5+ years. I’m still here. I’m here because of you not you & your wife. I was subscribed before she was even around. Love ya gal

[@LanaKennedy121]

Ugh I hate Julia…. When God made her he spilled ALL the pretty potion into the mix and there was nothing left for the rest of us. 😠 I mean, can’t you share? 😂❤

[@TheRimbaldine]

I'm exactly the same with tea: I have a huge tea caddy of artisan blends of loose leaf tea, and brewing my different flavours of tea is what excites me the most about my work day.

[@selenalee4969]

Do what’s best for you Julia. I hope you find happiness no matter what you do.

[@vadaashley]

joy will come when you break free. it’s scary i had to leave my partner of years and my life in la…open never works when there’s problems it’s just the first step to the end

[@jennytimelord9689]

Its really disappointing to me so many of my favorite LGBTQIA+ couples have announced poly! I have a ton of poly friends, no shade - I just love my wife very much and I would like to see representation of lesbian age gap couples, like us, that are mono and happy, despite the age difference! We are almost 10 years apart. You guys gave me so much hope I could find a wife, and I have finally, so I suppose you helped where I needed help. Blessed be and good luck, but I agree, final nail in the coffin. This type of content makes me want to draw nearer to my wife, who is just as monogamous as me, knowing so few queer folk are mono now and we are even more of a minority!

[@iklmss]

Whay a shitty comment, she is not here to represent anyone but herself.

[@puppetfae]

I agree I feel like opening up a marriage tends to be the final nail in the coffin. Look at what happened to Bria and Chrissy who were together for years before the open relationship and breakup. I think Julia should focus on herself and what she really wants first

[@rileyalexander358]

I'm 16yrs my gf's senior and we've been happily monog for 5yrs, and just got engaged. We're out there representing. I do encourage her to book seckswerkers though as her appetite is bigger than mine, but that's different from being open or poly. But she just wants me. Ironically, I wanted to be non-monog when we first met, but seriously don't have the energy for any other lovers.

[@KarinaCappucci]

Never give up Julia! I know it's easier said than done but we will never stop believing in you. Love you Julia. ❤

[@texasmama4248]

Please don't be sad Julia. It's never too late to go back to school and fulfil whatever your heart desires. And relationships are stressful sometimes. Do what is best for you both. Sending you love ❤❤

[@italianmommaotts3185]

I love how honest you are n I thank u for that. Julia u have time to be whatever u want to be you are only 30. U need to stop focusing on what u haven't done n focus on what u can do. Julia PLZ DONT STAY IN BED N LET LIFE PASS U BY!!!! U HAVE SO MANY YEARS AHEAD OF U!!!! Go be whatever u want❤️

[@AnonymousAnomaly6920]

It doesn’t make sense to sleep with other people to get closer to your spouse. Find someone who wants you and ONLY you!! ❤️

[@Emzeliemansson]

I have have not been able to get out of bed for the past week, but today i made it to the living room. And as i was sitting here crying i opened youtube and your video came up, you made me feel less alone Julia thank you for that ❤❤

[@amyelizabethscraftcorner]

Sending love ❤️ hoping you feel better

[@AsmaeRhaliouche]

Just don't force something upon yourself, if you don't feel good or you are confused about what to do , just take your time to make the best decision, I know your are depressed right now, but wait until you get over to your happiness and good vibe , every problem has a solution and you can handle all that I trust you ❤❤❤

[@Vgs183]

Don’t let this lady steal Your youth, LEAVE

[@zaraeraesmith7510]

Send you all my love! You're so inspiring Julia, Even making a video like this ~ everything you do makes a good impact. You should be proud of yourself.

[@sianimay420]

I have been feeling like this recently too, it’s so hard not to get too into your head. Keep surrounding yourself with loved ones and doing the little things which bring you joy. Everything will work itself out sooner or later ❤

[@blousug]

It’s so unfortunate, we think love can cure everything, and it just can’t. Somethings are just beyond healing. That is a very difficult lesson to learn. As for your career, keep going! You have found a niche here and it’s very impressive! You can do it Julia! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@midnightsyonara]

Hi Julia, have you considered that you may be anemic? I don't eat meat much and I've been feeling so low energy for weeks and I thought it was just depression, but I was so tired I slept all day. I then had a horrible period and I wonder if you're vegetarian, maybe you're feeling the same because of anemia? I finally went to the doctor and they checked my blood. I take some iron now and it's already helping. ❤❤ Please look into it ❤🎶

[@dawnriddler]

You can get a degree from any university as an online student now. And a lot of bachelor programs last only 3 years. So if you want to get a degree you absolutely can. Now I don't know what's the situation with tuition in the UK if it's free or not, and if you can study elsewhere for free, since they left the EU. But you still have Brazil as an option, and as far as I know, the tuition is free there. Having a profitable degree is definitely a plus in life (But choose something that won't tie you to a place, like if you finish law, you won't be able to practise it in other countries). You can always pursue your dreams, but you'll have something to lean on if it doesn't work out. You're young, there's plenty of time for everything, don't worry yourself with imaginary timelines.

[@EleanorAbbott-t7g]

Julia, please just take a look back at where you were a few years ago compared to where you are now. We always look forward to where we want to be, but we don't take the time to appreciate and respect ourselves for what we have already done. I am exactly the same but when it is someone else you can see it objectively. I am 30 and felt the exact the same this last year. Despite spending a considerable amount of time at university (undergrad and postgrad including a PhD) I was stuck in a job I didn't want to be in. I managed to persevere and have managed to get my foot in the door of where I want to be. Keep working, Ele xxx

[@didowicky9008]

Julia I love you! Sometimes when I struggle your videos are the only thing that excites me (something like syrups for you lol). I would like to suggest themes for filming: - Thoughts on books you've read recently - How you do your nails, hair, makeup, etc. Manitainance videos - Videos with your mom - Trying out new simple recipes (like this one for tea - you made me prepare myself a cup of earl grey as soon as I saw you) - Pet care (products you use, what do you feed them) I remember you making a story time video about a trans person and it was great, so more things like that as well. I am glad your mental health is inproving and I wish you get well soon ❤

[@iklmss]

I feel so much like you about questioning my career choice. I studied cinema because that's what I wanted to do but you can't really do much with that, and at the same time I was studying it a financial crisis crashed my country and then I couldn't get a job at all for years. Now I'm a waitress and sometimes is fine but sometimes I absolutely hate it, I'm 33, I'm with my girlfriend since I was 16 but we can't live together because we don't have enough money and it's sooo frustrating. But at the end is not our fault, our whole generation is struggling with the same problems and is sad and challenging but IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. I know depression won't let you totally believe it for now but I'm sure you will get better soon

[@isabelabittencourtvieira5645]

I'm very glad that you've started medication. I hope it works for you. I've beeb depressed for many years before starting medication and I regret losing my teenage years to depression just because I was afraid of medication. Hope things look better for you ❤ Abraço, amiga

[@julianowell]

I’m also turning 30 next year and I definitely don’t have my life figured out. I too am struggling at the moment..questioning my life choices and whatnot. I do hope things turn around for you! And as for your marriage, that’s between you and Eileen. People will always want to know every detail of your life but it’s also okay to keep things private. Love watching your videos, hang in there, things always get better. From one 29 yr old Julia to another, xoxo

[@Invocacionesdegato1]

I'm 33 and I haven't done shit with my life. The only good thing that happened to me was marrying a wonderful and loving man. I was in a violent relationship for many years and I wasted too much time trying to mentally heal from all that physical and psychological abuse. I didn't finish my studies because of my traumas, I developed post-traumatic stress and social anxiety, panic attacks and well... I live with that every day. My husband always tells me that it doesn't matter, that it's never too late and to do what I like the most to be happy for the first time, that age is just a number and that we all have different times to do what is socially expected of us. . This year I started uploading videos to KZbin with my drawings and singing, I'm not a good artist or singer, but it helps me with anxiety and it's also something that I always wanted to do and I was afraid to try. Next year I want to study online and maybe over time a little store that will give me independence. What I want to say is... honey, it is never too late as long as you have health and life, never give up and if you are not happy in a place or with a situation, get out of there. Reinvent yourself as many times as necessary, sleep if you want, cry if you need to, try new things, explore... along the way, within all those new experiences, things will appear that will turn out better or worse for you, until you find something that enlightens you again. . I don't know you, but I have depression and I know that place and how difficult it is to see light while there. I really hope you can find the peace of mind you long for and all the happiness. never give up, you have all the time to be everything you want ♡

[@beautifulremedyx3]

I would love to see a video of you cooking. I remember a video you did about meal prepping. A chill video with you cooking and chatting, maybe making a comfort food or a traditional Brazilian dish would be awesome. Low stress and good food at the end. You got this, girl ❤

[@malink2448]

Im 37 and if its something I have learned through all my relationships (yes im lesbian, hahah) it is that life is waaaaaaaaaay to short to go through life unhappy. We can die tomorrow. At least be in a happy place. Dont search for solutions if you know what's right in your heart.

[@LightofLapis]

It’s always darkest before the dawn! Hang in there! You are an incredible creator - it will come! There’s no way you’ve created all this and it’s for nothing. It will happen! 🙏❤️

[@TAZZ3N]

My girlfriend for many years and i broke up 3 months before my 30 birthday, best thing i ever did. 6 months later i met my soulmate and our frist child just turned 1, never been more happy ♥️ its never to late to do what it takes på Be happy 🙏🏼

[@mangamama9881]

People will try to put out rumors and just assume things about celebs and KZbinrs and it's sad. Don't worry about KZbin if you are really not feeling well. Your actual followers will understand and will want you to feel well. At least I do. Please take as much time as you need 🎉 Also: it's never too late to look into other jobs. I am currently in school to become a kindergarten teacher and most of the classmates there are learning this as a second or 3rd career. So therefore it's never too late. ❤

[@ericah.9996]

Hi Julia💜 it was so good to see you for a little bit. Sending you so much love and a big hug🖤 I know you’re gonna get through this💋

[@nojoakingaround]

Sorry that you’ve been struggling, Julia. The first few years after graduating are so challenging, you’re definitely not alone. It can also be hard to see what you’ve achieved when you’re involved in it every day. You should be proud of what you’ve done so far, and also be open to changing what your dreams look like now that you’re older. Changing dreams is part of life, and it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed. I hope that the things you’re doing now help your mental health so you can feel more like yourself again soon.

[@__elise333]

You'll get there Julia. I promise. You're talented, hard working and super creative. Nothing will erase this true nature of yours. Just keep working hard and staying positive and you'll make it!

[@drnot442]

Julia💔💕, I’m so sorry you’re going through this during such a turbulent and life-changing time. Everything that you’re doing - starting your music career and moving to the US - is absolutely incredible and it breaks my heart but is also commendable that you’re somehow doing everything you’re currently doing. These things take so much time: Lana Del Rey only got her break when she was in her 30s. Never stop dreaming✨. You are so talented, gifted, beautiful inside and out, and hardworking. This is just the journey🙌🫶.

[@katherineauber]

I came to make the same comment about Lana. She was in her late twenties when she really gained traction. I love Julia’s style. I’m more into alternative music not a big pop fan. I love Lana the most because I think she’s kinda in her own lane. I believe Julia is also in her own lane.

[@calligraphyfairy6693]

You are loved even when you are alone. You deserve to live your best life. I do hope things work out, but even if it doesn't, things will be okay because we will have each other to encourage and uplift each other. Good luck, you slay and are an inspiration.