Stevan Ditter talks Alara, Fights & F-boys on Perfect Match

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It’s time for another episode of ‘Boyfriend Material’! And this week, naughty little possums, Harry’s talking to his ‘Perfect Match’ co-star and good friend Stevan Ditter. To begin, Harry and Stevan reflect on some behind-the-scenes moments from their time on ‘Perfect Match,’ including a sexy fashion show and Stevan’s altercation with another cast member, before discussing everything that went down post-filming with Stevan and Alara Taneri. Then, Harry and Stevan discuss what they think qualifies a guy as a fuck boy with submissions sent in by you. Finally, the duo answer ‘Perfect Match’-related questions, including what they think of the winning couple, the notorious kissing challenge, and who they would cast on the next season. Grab a snack, sit back, and enjoy!
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[@danielamaldonado1814]

This show should be called fuck boy potential

[@psychedelicate]

fuck boy proliferation

[@delsmontgomery]

Alara was crying in the recent Netflix interview a YEAR later. Stevan is definitely the A-hole here

[@cody123mccluskey]

A hole cuz he didn't wanna be with her ? Or is he suppose to force himself to be with her ? She's not crying cuz he ghosted her she's crying cuz he broke up with her. Doesn't make a difference how he does it it hurts the same.

[@nisrine625]

@@cody123mccluskeydoesn’t hurt the same

[@delsmontgomery]

​@@cody123mccluskey he COULD. HAVE. HAD. THE. DECENCY. TO. TELL. HER. HE. IS. NOT. READY. Instead of going off the "grid," he should have been the grown a-- man he is, and had the decency to tell her. She is a person, she deserved that much. He is right, it might not have logistically worked out, but he could have told her that instead of ignoring her. It takes 2 min to write a text, or send a voice note. You could probably wrap that chapter up while in the bathroom. It's not hard. And let's not forget, that he was pursuing after her, HARD.

[@lunaciti]

alara also slid into nigels dms while comforting christine

[@delsmontgomery]

@@lunaciti to paraphrase the wise words of christine herself who did this to another couple, "no one is married on the show"

[@vanessaeckerli5254]

„We know this people only for 3 weeks“ but guys you were the ones who love bombed in the show and not the girls 😏

[@cody123mccluskey]

Thats the point of the show. Fall inlove quick to win money which is nearly impossible so u gotta fake it. 99% of the relationships here are forced and fake to try and win but the show clearly fooled you. Thats why these guys do so well. Love or hate them they fooled you which was their job. While other ppl trying to keep it real get booted off immediatly.

[@takec4re]

@@cody123mccluskeyyou dont win money in this show LOL

[@chidinmaihejesi4653]

❤ ​@@takec4re but they are paid to deliver, if not, its over,let's be honest who will watch something that is not interesting

[@cody123mccluskey]

@@takec4re well the point of the show is to win. And win a vacation and when u win u can make more money with their influencer lives. Yall don't think outside the box and you guys take everything at face value when in reality if yall were there you'd be faking relationships to win and stay in the house other then leaving on day 1 and never gtn that publicly to start your careers. It's common sense. 99% of the relationships are fake.

[@isabel2051]

@@cody123mccluskeyharry is that you?

[@FEONH999]

He was head over heels for her and suddenly he can’t work out time she even said that they were planing on moving in together just say you didn’t want to put in effort and all of it was for the show

[@spicyni6530]

Exactly he’s just an ass

[@pepperoni6265]

so Stevan’s behavior for ghosting is validated because you said you only get 3-4 weeks to know each other.. yet, you told Jess you loved her within that time. so it seems a bit contradictory

[@Jess-kl3uy]

Agreed. Good edit my ass .. he seems like a pos who ghosted a human being. Wtf

[@brianlombardo4342]

Harry please stop bringing your boys on this podcast. If you’ve really changed and you really wanted to take accountability, bring on Jess, bring Melinda, bring Elys, etc.

[@cody123mccluskey]

Why does it have to be them ? Noone talks anymore. You live in this fairy-tale land where u think they are all a big family that keep in touch when in reality they all went home and noone kept in touch sept Harry and his boys and a cpl girls. This is boyfriend material not cpls therapy channel. Telling him not to have his friends on his channel is mad weird too.

[@kilohw]

@@cody123mccluskeytell em cody

[@kbluuzy]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@Mendezzzzzzz]

It’s his podcast bro he can bring whoever he wants 😂

[@chidinmaihejesi4653]

They wouldn't even come and you yourself know that, so how's that possible

[@xoMrsWentzxo]

Alara is way out this dudes league anywayyyy

[@Yessibaby]

Right! she’s SO beautiful face body a 10 and her personality is so bubbly and fun , he’s literaly a 4 🫥

[@gerrenelise]

but she slid under nigel’s dms WHILE kristen was with him.. think again

[@nightfrost1891]

tbh i feel like most guys and girls act trashy on these shows except a select few and because most of these people are so good looking they are constantly used to being with someone so when they get out and having to do long distance it's harder to make work because they already have all these options to entertain long distance is hard to begin with but mix these people who are used to having someone 24/7 with long distance it will never work

[@absolutelynothing6008]

Maybe she s good looking but she's dumber than a box of rocks. The moment a good looking guy shows up she d hook up with him

[@isabel2051]

@@gerrenelisetrue that. she was wildin in ‘dated and related’ with taken men too

[@kaurk9369]

Xanthi was %100 right about you , Smart Greek Girl

[@mauvemonster000]

girlies rlly clocked these boys out!

[@poejavelski148]

We are now calling people smart for knowing what type of guys these are? Why are you setting the bar so low 😂

[@elenak953]

And a Scorpio too

[@isabel2051]

@@poejavelski148truee 🤣but hey it’s what we’ve come to fr

[@leximadison]

that’s called ghosting, Stevan. lol the emotional unavailability of these guys is high

[@asram443]

Common decency when things aren’t working is to say just that. Not to ‘fall of the grid’. Guess it really was a good edit. 🤢

[@ryennsanchez2787]

Speak your truth babe asram 443 ❤❤❤❤❤❤🥰🥰

[@julianinfa6241]

stevan won’t watch the show and has anxiety cause he knows deep down he fucked up and a serious issue with genuine healthy human connection and communication😭 how r u 29 acting like you r in high school go to therapy asap and someone save his gf!!!

[@kaurk9369]

Im so glad Nigel & Christine won. I was also in shock that they won but after all this interviews, people really saw the reality in house and voted. Nigel and christine even still trying workout their relation, they feel so geniune and here steven is played out all season. Im so glad they won! Even nigel is 10x hotter than other dudes, he was loyal to christine , big respect

[@spicyni6530]

Same the rest of these men are trash Thank goodness the other cast voted for real winners

[@maddyG7414]

Just two dudes who give me nightmares

[@gingerbaghel1674]

The justification of ghosting is craaaazy when he acted the way he did with her on the show. Why love bomb lol. And him saying “it’s not rlly talked about how this gonna work when we go back home” but like that’s bullshit you must have talked about that with her 😂 otherwise u would have realized early on that u can’t do long distance and she probably would have ended it.

[@Idkwhatsup333]

Xanthi clocked everyone to a T. Queen shit

[@isa12rae]

Stevan love bombed Alara 😢

[@RachelRobins-un1hp]

Sooooo you couldn’t send her a simple text or give her a call and explain how you were sooooo busy and couldn’t give her the decency ?

[@Riverviewsmostwanted]

I guess this is one of the reasons why LIB has a much higher success rate because they give the couple's a chance to adapt to the real world together (living in each other's places etc) but once u come off a party show u kinda snap out of it especially if the person lives across the world

[@cholehill8638]

i agree. you could really tell the people who were from lib on this show( Micha, Jess and Izzy) Izzy was so sweet, Jess kept talking marriage and Micha seemed so insecure. I felt the worst for Jess because she went on this show only a few months after her season of lib, and was probably still in that mindset with this show. I believe she was looking for love, and got hooked up with the worst predator off all.I only watched this show because of Jess and felt so bad for her

[@user-mf3iz2hp7g]

WE NEED PART 2. MORE ALARA QUESTIONS FOR STEVAN PLEASE

[@DiosaCreativa]

There's two sides to every story. All I'm hearing is he wasn't ready to be on Perfect Match, but he didn't seem to go there with a clear intention either. I feel like this is also Netflix's fault for casting people who aren't looking for a committed relationship.

[@clarestads]

Totally agree

[@elliemcjunkin1537]

I agree that couples would have a higher success rate if netflix chose only geneuine-people looking for a connection. It's for entertainment and money ultimately though, and drama sells.

[@ninadoby4541]

Why go on a show if you have no intentions to commit to a relationship. This is the purpose of the show and it’s clear from the beginning. Don’t waste peoples time to get clout or social media presence

[@hbic7367]

I love how they were like that's the nature of the show. Doesn't invalidate your responsibility to be good people when you signed up

[@kaiyaiacobucci343]

This show is a great set up for lust, but not the foundation for actual love. Fans getting upset with the cast need to learn the difference.

[@ferparadise]

Nobody wanted perfection, people wanted coherence. Men are not aware of affective responsibility.

[@jey7230]

It’s crazy cause I think a Netflix show of you and Jess dating if you ended up together would have done numbers, you guys looked good on TV but you acted like a psychopath w her

[@JasperOFlanigan-fb5lv]

So Bryton was right?! Stevan was fake the whole time. I did not see that coming

[@Mendezzzzzzz]

“It’s also tough to talk about my shit and not sound like I’m flexing” oh okay word 😂

[@psychedelicate]

it takes two seconds to send a text or make a call. you had time. it's basic decency.

[@kayyypollan7552]

The fact that she lives in la now I feel like it could of went different

[@kaurk9369]

Oh god. Honestly , i was thinking Steven would be first guy leaving house because compare to other guys in villa, he was not even hot for me. With weird style and nails , emo vibe looks a bit cheap to me. I cant believe Alara hold him at house all time and he did this to her. If alara didnt pick him, he wouldnt even have second episode , he has nothing to watch. Im sure non of girls would pick him as match too… such a waste for Alara

[@alanaoriley]

You know what they say…give an ugly guy a chance…😂😂 jkjk but honestly I was shocked he was in the show, they usually have super super hot people on there and not that he isn’t attractive but I expecting a certain type from Netflix reality show

[@Venus.Ndaedzo]

Soo true Harry loves talking about himself lmaooo

[@cacheadapelomundo4200]

He is a narcissist

[@lizcatherine9795]

Nahhh Stevan your excuse on 'properly' ghosting Alara is a coward move and pathetic excuse. The way you love bombed Alara and painted a picture that you're this lover boy is sad... it takes a few minutes to text/call or even meet in person to break things off. I have had my fair share in break ups and thankfully those guys have had the courage to let me know. Sad that Harry also agrees and is the one to say love you with knowing someone 3-4 weeks.

[@ariellewht]

Why does anyone watch this podcast. 2 minutes in , I’m over it. 🙄 childish.

[@elliemcjunkin1537]

Gambino.

[@xx87654321xx]

Why is Harry always soaking wet

[@lacyeddleston5619]

😂😂

[@cholehill8638]

i know ..he is probably drunk

[@Em-hz7tg]

He said on PM he has a sweating issue

[@fayemateo3480]

He came from the England, England weather is different from the US even if it's summer still freezing 🥶

[@alannashea6344]

Okay so y’all went there to have a vacation and bro time? No wonder this show sucks. They need to pick better men.

[@leogomes6350]

Trust the woman on that show were just as bad 😂they're all there to have fun they're getting paid to he there to fuck around maybe some are there for clout lol . I would if I got the opportunity.

[@DragonBlazerrr]

@@leogomes6350hell yeah dk why these people watching takin it tooo seriousss, they basically discussed all that right here in the video

[@DragonBlazerrr]

Ik damn well y’all people complaining would do as you’re told to get your clout n views up 😂😂😂

[@ash_xplained2753]

I don’t think people understand, they went on the show to get PAID. This. Was. A. Job. All of them, even the girls were paid to be there

[@TheKLCgirl101]

@@ash_xplained2753baby, idk if you don’t realize this or not, but according to U.S. law, these production companies are REQUIRED to pay them for their time. It’s usually not much, and these people don’t even win a cash prize if they win. If you are playing the “entertainment game”, the DECENT thing to do is to at least let the other person know so they have the option to continue. Not doing everything in your power to push them to fall for you, repeatedly lie to their face that you love them, tell them you want to move in together, then fall off the face of the earth. It costs NOTHING to not be evil or intentionally engage in potentially traumatic behavior just cause.

[@kiaraortiz23]

He needs to see a dentist and fix that gingivitis

[@jordanspiva312]

Foreeeal

[@xoMrsWentzxo]

💀

[@ericaa-kn7hm]

He’s too busy he has businesses 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@brh2121]

Noticed this on the show, NASTY lookin teeth😅

[@elenak953]

the only valid reason for his ghosting would be that

[@sarahannx033]

sorry but i am on the girl's team

[@DragonBlazerrr]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@MW-vm8tb]

Why is Harry so red and sweaty in this episode? Is he drunk or something?

[@kristinamiller6714]

Harry should do love is blind since he says he wants to get married, but he’ll have to use a voice changer

[@m_a_r_v_o]

I've rolled my eyes so many times in this episode

[@krystalallen2424]

Harry is so giggly lol i want what he’s having🙂‍↔️😂

[@Jadex26]

They need to do uncut netflix versions where we can binge your whole day😂

[@supermish8912]

This pod brings a lot of clarity from everyone’s pov’s

[@brittanymccollum9139]

Alara he paints his nails….you dodged a bullet.

[@Graydreamer8543]

Exactly!

[@margaritasvisualarts1632]

Steven, that gingivitis looks like it hurts man, go to the dentist .... 🤮

[@lilianarios3651]

His gums are bright red, omg. It looks so uncomfortable 🫣

[@RachelRobins-un1hp]

This is honestly embarrassing…..

[@Esabreya]

Put the cake people on season 3 😂😂😂

[@Sk76547]

Have Jess on.

[@samsamiii509]

Stevan the bop

[@kata108]

When did he talk about Alara? I've listened to the whole thing but didn't catch the part where he says he ghosted him (as in the promo)

[@angelaamber]

Around minute 10-11

[@angelaamber]

I'm on 13 & they just said it a few minutes ago

[@kata108]

​@@angelaamber thank you 😊

[@chelseapritchard3608]

I need way more closure than this and I was just watching from home 😂

[@sarheezy]

He’s like oh I didn’t have time but THEY planned to move in together. He has commitment issues, just like Harry. They just show up different

[@krystalallen2424]

Elys is currently dating Hollys Ex Nathan… could that be why??

[@007ButterflyEffect]

I loved this!!! 😋🤩👏🏽🩷

[@suhanaf.k.l8058]

lol when men show their true colors

[@veronikavanquish]

no you shouldn't have perfection expected of you...but if you've signed up to be on display for a dating show...expect the public to keep you accountable. And make it clear what's not ok. Otherwise the wrong message gets sent to the masses. You know how many youth without positive role models turn to media for that missing modeling? Subconsciously ofcourse

[@cholehill8638]

I did not know harry wanted to go on another date after jess and him matched.i think the love is blind cast were so different than the to hot to handle cast. the to hot to handle cast were so much wilder and raunchier. jess was out of her element on pm and it showed. i think harry and melinda would have made a much more entertaining match, and they seemed very attracted to one another. maybe they will return for pm3. as for jess , lets campaign for her to be the next bachelorette. hopefully third time will be a charm for her..we all love jess

[@p-sidepirates]

Tulum time only 2 hours ahead of LA time 😂

[@psychedelicate]

she lives in London but still, his story is bs

[@p-sidepirates]

@psychedelicate I thought he was saying that he was trying to do business in LA from Tulum but couldnt becaise the time difference 🤣. Yeah both of their stories are BS💯 lol

[@stacirichards473]

I really think a show with the guys from perfect match season 2 would actually be fucking hilarious

[@Masonevan]

Sounds like they cut a lot to fit their script. Would’ve way rather seen an uncut 30 episodes love island style

[@Patricia-Ronda]

so much negative comments, but you are all still here to watch them haha, i love these 2

[@Lugck]

That doesn’t matter, we’re watching this video to know what they have to say after we watched the show and after that ppl comment negative or positive things if they feel like it 🤷🏻‍♀️ your comment makes no sense

[@fayemateo3480]

Imagine if harry and alara go on the blind date instead of stevan 🔥🔥🔥

[@Megan-if7bk]

The guys on this show ended up all looking like assholes. I honestly did not expect anyone to last on this show because its clearly not real.

[@isa12rae]

Harry, bring Melinda on here and apologize to her

[@itscarolinebetch]

This is my first time listening to your podcast Boyfriend Material in whole & I loved it!! And the cast members ideas for next season are so good hahaha

[@thatdivineoraclegirl1622]

The wat they were talking reminded me of the tom cruise and ben stiler video....someone on tik tok posted it with the caption "what it is like having a gemini moon." 😂

[@alejandravaquiro3748]

I can’t be mad at Harry. He’s so funny 😅

[@rhodawere6782]

😅😂😂gcfcu

[@prettybelle7898]

Harry why you keep repeating you were sick

[@MyLifeBeLike23655]

I just like Stevan sooo much

[@jeninebunting142]

Why can't we download

[@georgiagilson4935]

Y’all bang after this or Stevan doesn’t swing to the other side unlike you Harry? 😂

[@josieaavila]

Suggesting to cast someone from Love on the spectrum is craaaaazy lol

[@Happybedtimeproductions]

Dude… who did the voice over for the intro? Is that AI???

[@angelinakolasa3811]

I love Stevan’s personality and the way he thinks I think he was the best one on the show

[@Esabreya]

This was a great talk. "I didn't get in the f*ckin cage!" "Let him know he's not the only bad bitch in the room" "You kick them? You kick people??" 🤣😂 Cheers ❤ ...and yeah, you could see how much he hated Bryton he would never laugh at his jokes. He was always like 😶🙄😐😑😂

[@user-mf3iz2hp7g]

Why not give it another try with Alara…

[@cody123mccluskey]

She lived across the country and he dont want too. Why not get back with your ex ?

[@dagmara2k065]

he has a girlfriend ?

[@amberchu3605]

This made me appreciate Stevan so much more! Seems to be very emotionally intelligent

[@Masonevan]

2 hall of famers right here

[@thegeminiprincess]

Harry we can forgive you bc you’re owning up to it, and calling out where you’re wrong. Stevan does not feel bad LMAOOOOO get him out of here!

[@Lugck]

Why the hell would they go to a show to find their perfect match (other than screen time of course) if they were saying it’s a lot when you come back home, businesses etc and they can’t handle a relationship? These two are absolutely a joke.

[@AFFTFOMSICHTS]

“Not to be shady…. But the other reality TV stars got nothing going on but brand deals 😂😂😂😂

[@fransien7577]

Harry should start a stand-up show lmao

[@BC-ek1cx]

A lot of literal weirdos in the comments who clearly don’t understand this is a TELEVISION SHOW and if you hate harry so much stop following him lololol …. Oh and Steven is a million times hotter than everyone judging his appearance. Where’s your coin fr modeling jobs?!

[@Frank-n2n]

Are you ok?… you’re defending people that wouldn’t care to know you bro😭😭✋🏾

[@BC-ek1cx]

@@Frank-n2n actually met them both since this comment and both quite lovely so you’re proving my point

[@fatedb5753]

As a fuckboy, Stephan actually built different 💀💀

[@rachelkirkham8369]

What is wrong with his gums?

[@aranatunga1932]

BRING KAZ NEXT!!!

[@thelady5276]

Yessss!!!

[@sarahmaxwell9236]

Hopefully Alara contacted Dom

[@Alyxanonymous]

Yessss. Bryton is not a genuine person. Unfortunately, he is someone you'd want to have on your team if you wanna win. But that's it.

[@sophiabiasi2698]

I fucking love stevan 😍😍😍

[@sweetjellyasmr1]

Lmao I actually enjoyed this. Everyone hates Harry, but he seems like such a fun friend!

[@DragonBlazerrr]

He’s probably a good friend, just not so much a good boyfriend

[@sweetjellyasmr1]

@@DragonBlazerrr exactly! Keyword is friend 😂

[@fayemateo3480]

I actually ship harry and aLara they're both fire 🔥 British accent aquarius Gemini i think arala is Harry's type 😅❤

[@bfq9607]

Hear me out, mash the Korean dating shows Netflix has with the Western ones. The cultures are SO different and it would be chaotic and pure tv gold 😆

[@cyanbino]

“It’s a show” “it’s all a lie” “it’s a reality show” are the phrases to excuse shitty behavior and make us not want to watch the show. Alara deserved so much better; someone that no matter the distance would make it work, I mean even communicate that. 😵‍💫 if you didn’t communicate that , yes that is ghosting Stevan 😂

[@DragonBlazerrr]

Bryton what a 🤡🤡🤦🏻‍♂️

[@sterlingrawlsshorts]

harry u should make a in depth how to get girls thing asking for a friend

[@veronikavanquish]

pretty sure actors like Johnny Depp NEEDED to watch their content to actually grow in what they're doing.

[@rochelle311]

This show continues to consistently pick people who don't genuinely want a relationship. They want their 15 minutes of fame. They just want the drama. This show is a pos. Love is blind is at least half better than this drivel.

[@Itsryliebishhh]

From baltimore???? I never knew that, wild. I live in baltimore city.

[@Masonevan]

Mf said love on the spectrum😂😂

[@LimcaTheIndie]

lol like what 😅😅

[@bfq9607]

Is this a thing now? Where everyone thinks they are balding?!?! BECAUSE ME TOO!

[@SummerBaby728]

Your dad having great hair has nothing to do with it. It’s always the mother’s hair that will tell you about the likelihood of her kids balding. Hair genetics follows the mother’s line.