Candid Kandy: Dealing with Negative Comments

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[@katiem6620]

The rude comments from grown adults completely boggles my mind. Didn't their parents teach them that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all? You'd think that with the amount of negativity in the world right now that people wouldn't want to add to it, but nope. They go ahead anyway, it's sad and pathetic and the only person the nasty comment reflects badly on is the person posting it in my opinion.

[@katiem6620]

I love you Kandy girl!! 💜💜

[@lilme2me]

Kate H Well said and very true. The internet is the new playground for bullies.

[@sebrinaleepayne-biscardi4113]

Their parents are the ones who taught them to act like little buttholes, in the first place. Where do you think they learned that behavior? At home.

[@anyastamper3331]

Kate H Very Well Said!!!❤❤❤

[@andraste6746]

I have a bit of a different take. I agree that being completely rude is abhorrent. And someone tracking you down and talking to your friends is out of control. But I do feel that when you are on a public platform you need to be able to take on the negative parts of KZbin. There are always going to be people that react poorly regardless of what you do. And while I am not addressing you in this comment because I enjoy your content, but there are youtubers that lie and deceive their audience and I don’t think that those kinds of people shouldn’t be called to account when they document everything so publically. I have seen you respond well to people so I think you have that accountability and I think that’s important. I agree that there is a huge difference between rudeness and constructive criticism.

[@migrainemama7932]

Goddess Andraste That is absolutely true and thank you for saying so! My husband runs a marketing business and he talks to clients about this all the time. It is part of putting yourself out there. You have a few choices. You can combat the people who are negative. You can ignore the people who are negative. You can block every single person that is negative. However, if you don’t have an assistant or team, I would go with ignoring negative comments. Many you tubers to have millions of subscribers have management teams and assistances who handle comments as their full-time job. One of my favorite KZbins her name is made you look, her team goes through every single comment, if the comment is unkind it is removed. Her rule is that your comment must be kind or it will be removed. Her community in turn is very welcoming and full of wonderful comments, I am never afraid to say anything in that community. I always have nice things to say. I know that no one‘s going to say anything evil in return. Because everything goes through a filter before it is posted. Now I know that can’t be done here, not yet. But social media platforms these days are open and free to do whatever people want to do and you’re going to get what ever comes out of their mouth. It’s sad to say but that’s the way it is.

[@mellowyellow415]

This woman Rhonda sounds like the typical psychotic stalker. Who goes out of their way to follow and message someone they obviously dislike unless there's something terribly wrong with their mental state? What a sad, empty life she must live. Block her ass and never look back.

[@sarahdolan9742]

Wow. I had no idea you went through that with a troll website. You don't deserve that, at all. You are such a great person. As for the woman in the community, I saw that post, and you handled it flawlessly. There is no reason to feed bad about it. You didn't attack her or stoop to her level. We were all just like what the hell. Why someone would put so much effort to tear others down that like that baffles me. Ain't no one got time for that.

[@christyinthecarolinas]

Girl, why are you not proud of that?? You have every right to defend yourself!! People that are that nasty, need to hear it. Maybe it will wake them up, and MAYBE it will make them realize what a horrible person they are. Who knows. I honestly don't understand the amount of hate that you get. You've been nothing but kind to me. You are just a genuinely kind soul. Love ya girl. Have an awesome freaking day at work! Xoxo

[@egmms456]

Those people "aka Rhonda and trolls" are gonna get karma for online harassment! Hope they learned their lesson on about not harassing others online cause it will come back and bite them👌

[@swfern777]

Unhappy people try to make others unhappy, to try and make themselves feel better...

[@UnpleasantSim]

Wait. Did you say SJW? I think you’re a bit confused. An SJW would not be the type to attack you. In fact, they help push the fat acceptance movement. They are a huge driving force at this point.. I mean, just look up ‘SJW Fat Acceptance’ and bam. Everything you need.

[@ylhsaeiram1961]

Doesn’t Matter my thoughts

[@ylhsaeiram1961]

Doesn’t Matter 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@HereticHousewife]

Doesn’t Matter - Interestingly, some of the most rabid and obsessed haters I've experienced were fat acceptance activists and the male "fat admirers" who hang around the movement. I dared openly admit that my weight was damaging my health and quality of life, and lost some weight and kept it off long term. That really pissed some of them off. I went against the groupthink.

[@kimbasciano_]

I honestly don’t blame you for what you said to that Rhonda lady. She deserved to be called out.

[@annamassi7546]

just wanted to say thank you for your message! you made my day :)

[@tasha4954]

You should have reported that hateful woman to the authorities. People can be so cruel these days. Love ya kandy😊❤️

[@allcatsare2faced579]

tasha nelson Call the cops because of mean words? Jesus Christ people are insane.

[@tasha4954]

Louise Belcher well I'm not sure how it works in America but in Canada cyber bullying, and bullying in general is taken very seriously. Telling someone to kill themselves makes you liable, and harassing individuals online is a criminal offence. Suicide is no joke, we don't know what people are going through. So yes, it's a serious matter.

[@allcatsare2faced579]

tasha nelson I am sorry but whatever happened to sticks and stones? Words are just words. Block them and move on.

[@anyastamper3331]

Louise Belcher There is a Significant difference between a slightly negative comment and being stalked by the same person on every social media platform being harrassed on a constant basis. So Yes it is serious and she could have gotten in legal trouble!

[@allcatsare2faced579]

Anya Stamper block and move on. I do not understand why you would want to involve the police about some stupid words on a screen. Words can not hurt you unless you let them. You can never stop people from commenting, and some people are just jerks or crazy.

[@hollyann7169]

Kandy you are so beautiful in and out. I love your positive, raw honestly. All these negative people saying mean, hurtful comments, you have to wonder what is wrong in there lives. Pray for them. They are lost souls. Stay true to who you are. We love you for you💗

[@songjames4609]

I am big and proud... Negativity is something I do not allow in my world

[@idaguerra2228]

SONG JAMES , I AM A CURVY PLUS SIZE TOO !!!! And i also have a bully tho i am 65 years old this lady is 75 years old . we both to a seniors night club with live oldies music . there is one lady who everytime she saw me she would say ; YOU LIKE YOUR GOING TO THE BEACH !!!! YOUR SHOES WHAT ARE THEY ????? Lord , i would wear tshirts some with logo and style them with statment necklaces or hoop earrings . with wedge sandals . she made me feel sooooooo soooooooooo low and ugly that i quit going to the club so she would not come up to me and make fun of me . Untill i heard Kandy talk about bullies and she GAVE ME THE POWER TO GO AND HAVE FUN !!! And since then i started to go back and dance dance dance !!!!!!!! the bully ? she still there , but i pretend she does not exist . i KEEP DANCING ! i send you Light , Love , and Kindness ida guerra

[@songjames4609]

Ida Guerra. Way to go Ida...let no one steal your joy or dim your light. Do you baby

[@idaguerra2228]

Song James , ahhhhhh !!!! you brought a BIG smile to me !!!! i honor you Song James Love , Light , and Kindness ida guerra

[@anyastamper3331]

Thank You For saying this I agree 100%!!!❤❤❤

[@egmms456]

I like clapping back in person when someone is gunning for me and bullying me cause I can be savage and cut them from the jugular and on down to the heart and kidneys with words😚😚

[@christinavazquez7988]

Thank you for doing this video. I have been cat called and laughed at and heavily criticised by family members. Even now as a 40 yr old woman, I feel like I have to hide away because I'm disgusting to look at. This is why I love your videos. Your attitude towards being fat is refreshing. You know that your a big girl (as am I) you are under no disallusion about your size. But you put yourself out on public forum to brighten the lives of others with your positive energy.

[@andraste6746]

Christina Vazquez it makes me sad that you feel that way. I’m sure you have lots to offer.

[@sweetpeamcgillicuddy9044]

My mom always told me when someone is critical of someone - especially something physical, usually it indicates jealousy, or that something is so wrong with their lives. Helps me stay calm and react in a human way. =)

[@liyanam7888]

True.

[@Taz_D76]

Whatever happened back in October put you in my recommendations, I am very grateful for this!! I love you and your videos and look forward to them. You are beautiful inside and out thank you for sharing yourself with us!!

[@kathleenmccandless7553]

I love your message.... it’s hard to ignore sometimes but I try to remind myself that their comments are a reflection of who they are, not a reflection of me!! 💕

[@annitarutledge853]

Hi kandy I'm new to your channel and you are so hard on yourself ... you don't have to explain why people are rude , hurtful and misunderstanding to anyone but especially someone like us who suffers from our weight . I been suffering with my weight since childhood . You know you are so beautiful and I mean inside and out and you are one of my favs 🌸🌺 . Stay strong your not alone ... Just to haters then why you bother watching !!!! 🙂

[@janetkingshott8965]

Such a well said video kandy, you are very inspirational and thoughtful, keep the good work up, you have a amazing heart love you loads 💋

[@carolinavivern5120]

I LOVE CANDID KANDYS

[@butfirstwinenocoffee7752]

OMFG I hate cat calling. Me, my husband and kids went to Sams club the other day and two guys were cat calling me. I hate it. Even if I were single that shit would still make me mad.

[@sammahoney5618]

Aww :( I know how it feels to deal with shitty people. I totally understand where your coming from, it sometimes just gets to you even if you don't want it to. You're a beautiful and bubbly person and I love watching your videos and your hauls! The trolls are only making you more famous so who's the real winner!!

[@sarahnicole4223]

I'm sorry for the nasty people. Even if you we're a"skinny" person, you would still get bashed or put down for something. I couldn't do it, and I think it's amazing you still do what you love. You're beautiful, don't forget that.😘

[@ginbo33]

Im only one minute into the video so i have no thoughts about the actual content, just a note: social justice warrior is a right wing insult against empathetic people who care about minorities and stand up for them online... so hateful trolls who troll fat people online are not sjws.. :)

[@walruslatte6080]

sjw's can also be assholes though.

[@sonkoster9585]

I wish there was an open season for hunting trolls, man I would have a field day! Rhonda's the 1st to go that's fo sho! I think revenge is sweet but that's just me, so what you did to Rhonda, respect! ;-)

[@belleschreiber3084]

guess what im rhonda step up

[@liyanam7888]

Hi Kandy, I am older than you, but I learned a lot from you. I love to watch your videos. Thank you!

[@susanrenee1657]

My family was the worst for mean weight comments! My mother loved to call me fat ass on a daily basis. She could be so cruel and to say it didn't hurt would be a lie. 😞

[@fannitamas8971]

I'm about 10-15 kgs overweight and my grandma tends to say hurtful things to me without her even realizing it. Like, she asks everyone if they'd like to eat something, and then says to me "oh I won't ask you what you'd like to eat, you don't need more food". I know she doesn't say things like that to make me feel like shit, and old people rarely change, but it's really degrading to me. The worst thing is I've only always experienced these kind of things from my family, not from strangers. It came to the point that when I go home to visit, I am afraid to take anything from the fridge when someone could see me,and I don't eat more than them, if anything, I eat less

[@ginasantiago7340]

pray for her

[@fannitamas8971]

Gina Sabtiago What?

[@Gaia_95]

T F Old or young it doesn't matter. You need to tell her to back off. You can be respectful but let her know that is not okay. Talk to her in private and let her know that hurts you. If she keeps doing it then you know she cares more about her opinions than she does you. Visiting family should be a pleasant thing.

[@AM09286]

My grandad is the same. He hugged me once and said ‘oh giant fat roll’. That was about 5 years ago and it still hurts.

[@Linniepoooh]

Kandy! You’re such a sweet person! Beautiful inside and out. I’m honestly so glad I found your channel and I’m proud to be apart of the Kandy community. I didn’t think the way you handled the Rhonda situation was perfect.

[@ChristianneAnnette]

Hey Kandy your such a beautiful person; I think you handled the situation very well , thank you for sharing much love ❤️❤️❤️

[@jessphillips4483]

I feel sorry for the people that say such horrible things. You couldn’t of been raised well and happy if you act that way. Whatever pain they are trying to inflict on me by their words will never be as bad as them having to wake up everyday living with such hatred and maliciousness inside of them. Show love to the people that hate and let them know that there’s a better way to deal with their pain. As for the pain they inflict on you well it’ll only be there for as long as you let it. You have to realise that just because someone calls you something that doesn’t make it fact or even if it is a fact then what’s changed? If someone calls you fat and you are fat then what? Do you get fatter or did you think you were skinny? Chances are you already knew you were fat and them telling you that does nothing. If they call you disgusting because you’re fat then that’s them not you. Some people find pizza disgusting; are they right because that’s their opinion? Is there opinion now fact? Nope, Will their opinion stop you from enjoying pizza? Nope, cause as long as you enjoy pizza then who cares if Betty thinks it’s disgusting?

[@uaresmartuarekinduareimpor8944]

Girl fuck them U ARE perfict I love your vids

[@ElDorado72]

Your makeup looks very nice! You look beautiful! That blouse is cute too. Keep up with the great videos!!!!

[@SimplyKatG]

real talk!

[@SimplyKatG]

By the way i had gastric bypass in 2012 and im still morbidly obesw by the book and get zero understanding from most people🤢

[@xtrak3820]

I watch a lot of you tubers and I will never understand how nasty and negative people can be . It's nothing wrong with sharing an opinion but when it's unconstructive criticism or ridicule that's just wrong. My thing most of these mean bullies and trolls on KZbin and social media are pathetic and feed off other people's lives. Great video and keep doing you, there will always be a hater or troll so block them and keep it moving.

[@jodigirl6610]

Great video. A long time ago, like 20+ years ago, I actually had a woman come up to me in the grocery store and offered to help me shop. She looked in my basket, looked at me and said I needed help and she would help me. I stood there mouth agape and don't even remember how I replied. I was soooo shocked. I thought of a bunch of witty comments later. Now, if somebody came up to me and said that to me today it would be a whole different convo. Perfect strangers commenting on you, your body, or your groceries is NOBODYS business. Ugh!

[@doobydoo854]

Kandy can I ask you a question? I don't want to come off rude and I'm not sure if you've answered this question but I am wondering how you got to be this overweight? I think a lot of people wonder this when they see people this overweight. How did you get to this point?

[@doodleartlover]

I enjoy the Candid Kandy series so much! You are so wise and honest about the subjects you've covered so far and I have no doubt that you will continue to be. I was taught that if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all. I don't understand why that's such a hard thing for people to do...I'm amazed at how mean people can be in KZbin comments! That's why I generally don't go through KZbinrs' comment sections reading their comments...I just leave my comment and go most of the time. And you're absolutely right about constructive criticism. There is definitely a nice way and a wrong way to say things and some people act like they either don't have a brain or don't use it when they say things, hahaha! Anyway, this was another fantastic video and, as always, I wish you a wonderful day! 😊✌👍 P.S. Thanks for making my day better by just being you.

[@monetteshia]

Love those earrings! They are so cute! You should wear more like these! And the shirt looks cute!

[@rosecanada8831]

My God people are so hateful, how do they live with themselves ❤️❤️❤️

[@s.douglas2191]

We can't live by people's positive or negative words we have to find our own understanding of our value. Keep up the good work kandy💕

[@raesdaytodayvlogs]

I was getting all kinds of hateful and degrading comments on my videos. I do a lot of different things but people like my cakes and candy crafts. I would get so many people calling me fat, obese and how gross I look. They would say I should be eating vegetables instead of cake not know my health issues that I openly talk about on my channel. Once I found the word blocker in the creator studio that’s I did. I blocked all the hateful words and comments. So now no one can post a comment that has the word fat, whale, obese etc etc. It works for me, I can have thick skin most days but some days those comments really get me.

[@anyastamper3331]

Rae Rae I just Suscribed to Your Channel!!! I'm SO Sorry that You Had to go through that!!!💜💜💜 I've had it happen a few times on My Channel Too but Luckily not a lot. I did the word blocker too 💜💜💜

[@swfern777]

When someone tries to insult me with name calling ie "fat a$$", I'll say something like, "Really? Is that the best you can do? Stating the obvious? Wow, did it take a lot of your brain cells to come up with that? PaaaLeeeese...."

[@walruslatte6080]

to quote Paris is Burning, "That's not a read, that's just a fact."

[@AM09286]

30k subscribers! I remember when you had about 500. Congrats!

[@swtsarakc]

I don't get how people spend so much energy on someone they don't like. Why spend so much time hating someone else just because of how they look or whatever? If I don't like someone, I don't talk to them, I don't waste any energy on them.

[@Becky20043]

I just love you and your videos!!

[@butfirstwinenocoffee7752]

You are beautiful. Your soul is beautiful. Don’t let them get you down. Being beautiful is so much more than a size, hair color, skin color, eyes etc. I don’t understand why people have to be so rude and judge people. And girl eyebrows are so hard to do! Same with that darn wing liner. Stay true girl. I love your personality and how you are so true to your followers. If you need time take it. Your fans will still be here :)

[@shayderayne2753]

Love your videos ❤️☺️

[@ChrissyGutierrez]

I usually don't get too bothered but one time I was leaving work (at a local College Campus) and a group of 3 young guys were walking in as I was walking out. 2 of them were tall, muscular, and very handsome young men... One was much shorter and not quite as attractive. They were kind of whispering and laughing as we approached each other. The shorter guy starting cat calling from about 100 feet away then said 'Hey baby! Can I get your number... We should go out sometime?!' I replied 'Heck yeah... Let's go!' His friends laughed... What happened next is the moment I'm not so proud of because I literally said 'Nah I'm just messing with you... You're not really my type... I am just the obligatory fat funny friend so I totally get what it feels like being the short ugly friend. You have to be the entertainment... They gotta find value in keeping you around somewhere!' He actually apologized... His friends laughed at him the whole way in the building. In the moment I felt awesome... but afterwards I felt like a heel.

[@BooBoo_Cat]

Good video Kandy, it's hard to be a big gal in this world. Luckily I have an extremely loving husband who loves every inch of my body. But, once again, please don't film and drive, it's dangerous. I hope you don't think this is me being negative, I want you to keep filming, just not in the car while driving.

[@adamharris5520]

Hey Kandy I’m so Happy For Your Success You Look Beautiful Congratulations On 30K

[@sarahmay3307]

I don't know why people do this. Horrible, mean, nasty, small minded people. It is brave to have a channel on KZbin and potentially lay yourself open to the judgements of others. Why does someone want to make someone else cry? Unbelievable. Chin up.

[@chrisdavisTheGamer]

I love it when you wear your jewelry...looks good.

[@idaguerra2228]

Kandy Foxx , you gave me the will power to ward off a bully !!!! A BULLY who is 75 years old ! she would smirk at me and say ; If i was going to the beach at the bar . Lord i felt so ugly ugly and little . Listening to your advices gave me the WILL POWER to go to the bar and just have fun and learn to ignore her . Now i go and i dance , dance , dance while she is sitting and no one asks her to go dance with them . she sees me and rolls her eyes back . But i keep going !!!!!!! KANDY FOXX MORE POWER TO YOU .........I WISH FOR YOU ......MUCH PROSPERITY FILLED WITH JOY thank you !!!!!!!!! ida guerra

[@suesmith3744]

Hi Kandy 🙋🏻. Aww, SO sorry you had to deal with these monsters 😭. I love KZbin , but oh man ... there are some EVIL and TWISTED people on here that's for sure. This Rhonda woman is a BITCH with a capitol B❗️. What makes people so bitter and twisted I will never know 🤷‍♀️⁉️ Bullies have just about ruined my life , I have zero self confidence , zero self worth , if only they could appreciate the damage they do... Nobody has the right to treat a fellow human being like a piece of 💩❗️. You are a lovely lady and it disgusts me that you have been treated so badly 😡. God Bless Kandy , stay strong 💪🏽 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💐

[@mythdusterds]

I think this was a very important video to make to help others understand but also great advice for others on how to respond to cyber bullies or bullies all together or how to deal with body shaming and relationships with others when one changes.

[@paulatristan8189]

And this to this day is why I love Kandy😁👍🏼💞 she pulls no punches, tells you how she feels and won't lay down for anyone meaning Kandy won't let herself become a door mat for anyone. If you see this Kandy, I'm binging on your video's 😊 No woman should lay down for a man sexually cuz it's all she thinks she has or let him berate her to the floor 👋🏼don't let that happen. Ladies we are worth it to make ourselves happy and to respect our bodies and our person. March 29th, 2020 8:55pm

[@donnashappyplace]

I tend to get the negative comments on my channel because I'm old, but my channel is small enough that I can delete them. I don't get them in person, I think because I have resting bitch face. 😂 I'm sorry you've had to deal with trolls.

[@josephineibrahimkhalaf4143]

Girl when i read what n how people talk to you! Its like dont fkn watch her videos then SERIOUSLY! God bless you girl. I love love your blogs . You personally male me happy when i watch your videos. Stay sweet n strong dont let these ass holes ever bring you down fk them . im fat too i weigh 270 n 5'7 n i love myself im happy. There jealous thats all. Love ya beautiful woman

[@JustToCommentinCO]

Such a great video, Kandy! I love hearing your thoughts and opinions on things. You give good advice! :)

[@girlblu18]

U made my day Kandy. Sending you a hug 🤗. I needed to hear this

[@cindy.cynthiagemmill5755]

Comment in general we all must figure out what is good for our self we only have the right to judge ourself. So when people come along that decide to judge others compassion and respect are lost. The act of giving compassion and respect is the greatest life lesson we can gift to others and cost nothing.

[@kandiekayne]

You're fabulous & one of my favorite channels, fuck those jerks 😉😎

[@pamkachmar5870]

Kandy, your goodness far outweighs any faults I've been able to discern from watching your vlogs and I'm sorry that we are so terrible to each other and how that affects you. Those that criticize so rudely are covering for their own deep, fucked up selves. You keep on being the funny, happy, beautiful woman you are. Fuck the rest of them. Your words of encouragement and wisdom are sensible and show who you really are...a big fan...

[@carolecarlos3538]

I am about 235 lbs. And I feel gross. No one really makes fun of me and I've never really heard someone whisper behind my back but I feel terrible about myself. I'm so jealous of you Kandy you are so beautiful and strong and have such a great personality your self esteem is out of this world I wanna be like that. You keep doing you girl!!!!

[@michelle8824]

nobody should have to deal with bullies! that's what they are kandy...bullies! bullies are usually hurting themselves and they need to make themselves feel better SOME way. one day they will feel that same wrath. you're so much better than them, we can all plainly see that and that's the ones that matter, the ones who enjoy your company! xoxox

[@oheychan]

i swear i put on a whole dance routine every time your outro song plays 💗👌🏼

[@michelle8824]

i think with the keyboard we sometimes don't mean our comments the way that they sound if it's "borderline" and that's the DAMN problem with social media and text for talk. i usually say what i feel and people have called me out and i really never mean it in a negative way (because i'm not mean) it's just i'm 50 and don't pussyfoot anymore and kinda just say what i'm thinking. if i've every said something that was borderline asshole-ish, i don't mean it that way kand. i'll try to re-read my stuff before i post it and see if it sounds sorta "mean". i love you boo xo

[@radhadas3339]

I can't understand it at all. I just know I love you just you for yourself exactly like you are. These kind of people will always find something bad to say they will find something to cut you down. I think you are awesome 🌺🌺🌺

[@sunshineburst4551]

Fuck ppl with their fake concern!!! I've always believed if you cant say anything nice then dont say anything at all!! If I do make a negative comment I only comment the way that I would want to receive a comment. Ignorance is a decease we have to deal with. Love you👍💕💕💕

[@trixie632]

Kandy, I believe when you get to my age, all the hate/insults directed at yourself are just noise. You kind of harden up to that shit over the years. Your right, best to ignore it all. We have better things to devote our time too. You always say what every women is thinking. Really refreshing!! You keep being you and love yourself!!

[@kimbasciano_]

Love you Kandy!! 😘💜

[@forrestperiwinkle4844]

Its the same situation with Eugenia Cooney just on the opposite spectrum... I really like her videos and you seem to have a wonderful personality, but this doesn't seem healthy. I hope you both get well. Not hate- just advice (not that you asked for it but oh well).

[@larryjohnson2637]

I always tell my husband (my name is Kathy and i use my husband's acct because I was stalked) that i gauge someone by if i would like to sit down and have coffee with them and Kandy, you are one i would love to do that with..you seem to have such a kind heart and soul not to mention, i love your opinions and ideas. I grew up with my stepfather mooing at me as i walked away so I feel you when you talk about ppl being so mean to our outside and disregarding our insides.

[@jacquelinel3081]

Kandy you are a beautiful person every thing u said was just so true, you go girl😘💛💙💜💚✨💖

[@samglamslam7869]

I totally get this in such a big way. I had a girl one time go on several of my video to leave hate about me being fat. On my LOLZ game video she made a comment about how fat my whole family is and gross we are. It broke it cause she posted that comment a few days after my sister had died. She was in that video and she has always been thin but her cancer treatments caused her to gain weight. That video was fun and light and it hurt me so bad. Call me what you want but going after my sick sister fighting to live, and who just died broke me. People make comments and judge without even knowing people. Their lives must be so sad, if that brings them happiness.

[@anyastamper3331]

Sam Glamslam That is SO horrible and I'm SO Sorry you had to go through that!!!❤❤❤ I have had some terrible comments on my channel too but luckily not that terrible (yet) although as I grow I'm sure I will. It's just sad that people are SO mean sometimes. I subscribed btw❤❤❤

[@kleek9581]

I’m so sorry you had to deal with this - the Rhonda story was particularly scary. How sick and twisted does someone have to be to practically stalk a person online and verbally assault them?

[@knuddelkatze452]

Hi kandy, i always think it's kind of unrealistic when ppl say "don't let the nasty comments get to you"! We all have bad days and sometimes we just can't take it! You're doing a great job though! I do think it's funny that the haters made your channel grow! There is justice/karma afterall😊!

[@catherinekaur]

Knuddel katze that is true what you have said - sometimes you just can’t! But... and not a bad but, it is important to not “allow” nasty comments to ‘get to you’ it’s one thing being pi@@ed off at someone’s rudeness and another altogether - when we internalise the nastiness and allow it to affect our spirit and soul. I’ve had to learn that lesson the hard way - and like you hate when someone is attacked x

[@knuddelkatze452]

Mind Retreat I think you are totally right! But like you said....sometimes i just can't! ....and when every other comment on every cooking video is about how kandy should or should not wash her food, it gets a bit annoying and boring as well! But thank you for the reminder to just take it easy, we all need that sometimes❣❣

[@shareegibson2574]

It’s sad & and pathetic how people treat others! I love your channel, you’re attitude and your taste in clothing 🤗. I am also heavy and deal with negativity but I hold my head up and go on. I really try to ignore the negativity. I’m a happy fat lady who just turned 50🤗😘🎉. There is only so much you can and want to take. I don’t blame you for confronting her. I would’ve too. Hold your head high and stay positive. Love you girlie 🤗💞🎉🌻🌺

[@debbiewillis9836]

There are assholes around every corner. Boot 'em and bring in only the people who lift you up. Women who don't lift women up are really sad. They don't get we're all sisters despite what we look like, which doesn't mean a damn thing in the scheme of things. We are all worthy. Short, fat, skinny, tall, in a wheelchair as I am, mentally ill or just goofy cause we like to be. What's the bottom line in life? Love. Love yourself and love others as you would like to be loved. Hello??? Pretty damn simple right? Right!!! Love you Candy, love your insight.

[@marleneandrejko6257]

Btw, Sassy Bitch, love it! Can we get t shirts?!?! Sounds like a great club!!!

[@jamiemarie4894]

Oh god I hope I’m not one of the people you consider to pretend to care and advise you to loose weight. 😩 There are a ton of bitches and assholes in the world and I want you in the world more than them because your better!

[@elainehoward8822]

Hi Kandy, I don't have a channel, but I commented on a video saying how lovely it was, only to be called a f**king creep by someone. which I have to admit really upset me, and I didn't comment on any video for quite a while. I can't begin to understand how people can be so nasty, for no reason other than to hurt a persons feelings. Your advice is very caring and positive, and dealing with nasty people without lowing yourself to their level is so admirable. Big thanks for a great video . Xxxxxx

[@anyastamper3331]

Elaine Howard I had the same thing happen to me on someone else's video! I commented something nice and then someone went after me and commented vile nasty things to me 😪 It made me not want to comment for a while too. Big Hugs!

[@elainehoward8822]

Anya Stamper .... Hi Anya, I'm so sorry you went through that, I know how it made me feel, so I can understand how hurt it must have made you feel. I don't understand how people can be so nasty to someone they don't even know. It makes me think they must be going through some really awful times in their own lives if they find nothing wrong in purposely hurting the feelings of a person they've never set eyes on. I'm glad your back commenting Anya, it took me a while too. Big hugz to you, and I will look out for your comments on future posts. Xxx

[@reese0812]

It's not what you say but how you say it. So glad you stuck up for yourself, Kandy. There is no reason for people to be assholes

[@bububella40]

I love you so much Kandy you are amazing and that's crazy what that woman did to you , people can be so cruel 😔my husband is so mean to me when we fight he mentions my weight and said I'll never be anyone important in life. You give me courage to make a change. Thank you so much, your amazing ❤

[@sandrabrown6326]

Social media was not around when I was in school, if it had been I can imagine how people would have had a laughing party daily on me. Everyday at school was laugh at me. I lost the weight but it is very hard to repair your self esteem. So glad you are here Kandy for all the girls.

[@rhondamartinez1396]

Ugh girl don’t let rude ppl mess with you! They have no life! By the way i love that shirt!

[@icyssmorgan7417]

You are an amazing person!❤️

[@garrettjohnson3199]

You are so sweet and positive I don't see how anyone would be mean and hurtful you are a beautiful person

[@yolandasmith7235]

💖

[@ioanathenobody1550]

The correct way to deal with those comments is by losing some weight, getting healthy and stop promoting obesity.

[@muahhkitty]

Ooo I’m early, heyyy💜

[@cupcakesroar5828]

Honestly speaking from experience sometimes we have so much self hate pent up it just spills over onto other people and we don’t even know that we are projecting. I’ve definitely had negative thoughts and comments about others but I try to realize my own faults instead of let it get out of hand and make a negative comment 😞

[@bes.6764]

I can relate to this Kandy, as a fat woman on Instagram and other platforms I’ve had all sorts of bullshit said to me, same days it does effect you. The block button is magic xx

[@bes.6764]

Oh mate, you made me laugh so hard about the laughing back at them, I’m the same I stand up for myself too !! Sassy bitch 100%

[@sweetb9031]

I’m so sorry for any negativity that you’ve gotten. I always look forward to your vlogs. You are so relatable. You are such a beautiful person. Just love when you sing or “do voices” or just tell about your day. Please delete the negative screenshots that you were talking about. They don’t belong in your space. Much love and blessings❤️🙏🏼

[@TeeMarie36]

Some people say mean and cruel things because they are spiteful and hateful people. What i learn is that they are miserable and in need of self respect. My mom has always taught me that if people are talking about you, that means rgeyvare paying attention to you.

[@elizabethsoto1693]

girl you did what you needed to do and what you wanted to do god bless you hun

[@stephaniemora7316]

Hey if youre having a problem with your sest belt moving you should try lowering it by using the knob on the wall of your door. I always had that issue until i did that so hopefully it will help you too ! All best :)♡

[@stephaniemora7316]

Seat belt*