Kara Keough Bosworth shares the heart-wrenching story of her newborn son’s death l GMA Digital

Baby McCoy Casey Bosworth died after suffering shoulder dystocia at birth.
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[@Kriistall7]

The poor dad.. you can see he's been keeping strong for too long

[@katherinebrown7182]

I’ve known parents who have had stillbirths and miscarriages and I always notice the same silence that comes from the fathers...the same look in their eyes...they don’t need to say anything. Its the same pain, the same grief as a mothers, but it tugs at my heart a little more. As a woman I just want to scream “say it!” Because its like they have ten million thoughts but nothing comes out, but this is how a lot of men grieve and its not for us to judge if its healthy or not 😭

[@maijennasis]

Katherine Brown it usually not healthy though.

[@youdidwhat7530]

Amanda Charlebois The fathers are the ones who stay beside their wives, hold back their hair when they have morning sickness, hold them when they cry, cheer when they see the xrays and hear the heartbeat. They go out and get whatever weird cravings their wife may have, sit through the mood swings because they know not to take it personal, they go to work worrying about if their wife falls, or god forbid anything happens to that child they created TOGETHER. Just because he didn’t carry that child or go through the same changes doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel that heart wrenching feeling of losing a child. If anything, he may wish he had been able to form such a wonderful bond with the child. But instead, almost as soon as he fell in love with that baby, it passed away. It’s an ignorant thing to say that the father can’t feel as horrible as the mother.

[@sarahmurphy8030]

@Amanda Charlebois .You need to calm down..

[@Risingofthephoenixxx]

@@youdidwhat7530 As a woman who has not given birth or had a child yet (one day in the future I hope) I can say it is definitely NOT the same thing. She carried the child inside her body for 9 months it is HER body that brings forth life and it is HER body that can bring forth death. Her body provided everything to sustain a human life that wound up turning into a graveyard and a machine of death killing her child and the situation could've also killed her too. Now how the hell is this the same thing to what the father is experiencing?? Was his life at risk too? Is his body capable of carrying life in it and is it also capable of being a death machine too?? I'm sorry it is NOT the same thing. Sure he's grieving any father would that's his son but it's not even on the same playing field as the mother. What a stupid ignorant thing to say.

[@monas.6839]

As horrific as this is for the mother, please don’t forget that the husband is grieving and broken, too.

[@iikhalaii8784]

literally no one said he wasn't or didn't even say anything at all

[@dcher3868]

Marianne H maybe that is how he deals. How can you judge never having been in his shoes??

[@ellie1595]

So glad you said this. The father is always forgotten in matters like this.

[@Linsey009]

yes please who will think of the men

[@kmarch6630]

@@Linsey009 Women dont create life without men. No man I know would want to go through the heartbreaking pain of losing a child. Please be respectful.

[@jenschills]

My heart bleeds for any parent that has lost a child. My only daughter had cancer at 16 and died at 18. And 14 years later I miss my baby girl just as much as I ever have. Its the worst feeling in the world. Something never heals. But your strength making this video is beautiful xx

[@Km-cj6ej]

😢🙏🏼

[@bubbamell50]

Omg. I can’t imagine and I’m so so sorry. ❤️

[@jordanbronner3752]

🥲🥲 I’m so sorry hun I lost my sister she was 25 but you’re so right a mothers pain will never go away my mom hurts so much and has been put on depression medication

[@molossergirl2]

Same for me, my boy died when he was 18 from Ewing's sarcoma - 26 years on, we have missed so much and the missing goes on still.

[@stephanieann1213]

I’m so sorry Jen. I can’t imagine the pain. It’s not right. I get so angry about all the money our society wastes on stupid things. Like going to the moon, we should be staying here curing our children. Fixing their suffering. Sorry to rant. Childhood Cancer deserves a cure more than anything else. God bless you and your family.

[@cobblecattt]

You can tell that dad is still going through it so hard. Love and prayers to all of them💜

[@bluetickbeagles116]

No! The dad doesn’t give a rats a$$, he just wants his dik stroked again.

[@nastassiasmith4786]

My heart breaks for her. He was BEAUTIFUL. And then she lost her father weeks after. GOD please cover this family with a blanket of strength and protection.

[@celiadahlberg5734]

Amen🙏🏼

[@elisejackson2854]

i empathize with them both since they both lost the baby.

[@GoldenGraham25]

Amen! She and her family is going to need all the strength, positivity and TRUE PRAYERS they can get.

[@angelajohnson1005]

My heart just breaks.. I’m soooooooooo so Sorry for your lost... Stay Strong. May God continue to Bless you and your Family and May God give you the strength and courage to hang in there, threw this difficult time..

[@ccirish4519]

@@angelajohnson1005 bless her family with what

[@katherinebrown7182]

Her husband’s silence is deafening, in my opinion. My heart breaks for both of them 😭 and for all parents who have lost a child

[@mssrus]

The husband talks here. Why do you think he didn't?

[@lisalyons4462]

I understand what you mean. I am the quiet one in our relationship. It is maddening to some but everyone mourns/grieves differently.

[@kimberlyarrington5721]

Yes he is broken

[@conniesalerno4547]

People grieve in different ways, don't let his emotions not being on his sleeve make you think he isn't distraught.

[@lainalopez3212]

.....and McCoy’s big sister as well, very sadly it’s an unimaginable loss, and also a different loss for each one of this family’s members. I don’t know if it gets easier or better at first, especially with constant reminders around the house. It just becomes a different, unexpected and new kind of normal and one with which you learn coping skills that make you stronger to help ease you into your days. When a heart 💔 breaks it’s to make room for more love to come in..as it makes life just a wee bit sweeter... like salt on 🍉 watermelon!

[@Indyrm03]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful son, McCoy. I lost all 4 of my children between 6-24weeks of pregnancy. I understand your agony. So many thoughts, tears and hugs from Micah's Alison's Heidi's and Noah's Forever Mama!!!!

[@sheridanvance7426]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💛💛💛💛💛

[@kygal]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost one at 12 weeks. Couldn't imagine losing 4. I hope you find healing.

[@JayJay-ue3xy]

@@kygalits still small at that time

[@TheDamnD_]

@@JayJay-ue3xy And yet it is already a little human!

[@jacqueline8559]

You don't know the sex of a baby at 6 weeks gestation, so how do you know what to name them? As a Midwife I know that's true. I lost 2 separate pregnancies at 8 weeks, a twin pregnancy at 12 weeks , and another at 20 Weeks. I know how painful that is. We were ,then , blessed with 2 healthy and wonderful sons, born 4 years apart

[@roseblondie692]

I didn’t think I would ever smile again after our son died at 5 and a half months old from SIDS. It changes you completely in a more compassionate way. I wish you the very best.

[@Natasha-tu5qs]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find/have found healing. 💙

[@Dan16673]

Wow. Sorry to hear. I can't imagine losing either kid.

[@KG-kk3ef]

I was thinking of having a home birth, then I watched this and decided to have my baby in hospital. This was the best decision for me as she got stuck and I needed a emergency C-section.

[@VickyRenee]

Yes, I agree, I believe the best place to be is where all the medical technology is and available. NOTHING is worth risking your babies life.

[@nt8894]

The troubles encountered from non hospital births were a very large cause for child and mom morbidity and mortality through out human history. That’s why NO OBGYNE doctor recommends home births. they may be respectful of people’s wishes, but it’s very risky. Only those who don’t know how these numbers and don’t see such outcomes would recommend a home birth. Many home births can go well. But if you have an issue like shoulder dystocia or heavy bleeding you may have death or brain damage etc before you can even reach a hospital. Where as these issues are commonly encountered in a hospital setting and processes are in place to deal with them. I am an anesthesiologist so we deal with these issues all the time with our OB GYNE colleagues. Although I understand the covid pandemic and its issues made things hard in many ways for birthing moms

[@jaynecrafter2684]

@@nt8894 You can still die in hospitals.. for woman of color a home birth is much much much safer then a hospital. Also you have to remember a hospital is a business so of course they are going to push you to go to the hospital for a birth instead of a midwife.. in a hospital they would also push for a c section and tell you that the baby is stuck or something like "your too short to have a baby naturally" one of my friends had that happen to her.. they gave her a c section because she was "too short" which isn't true

[@nt8894]

@@jaynecrafter2684 In some cases these may be true. But for the vast majority it is not true. To decide, look at just mortality before hospitals were in place. Like rural Afghanistan. Where it’s close to 27%. That percentage is less than 1% in a US hospital. The overall statistics is what to look at. Not anecdotal sampling

[@jaynecrafter2684]

@@nt8894 Its almost always the case other then for high risk pregnancies and actual real complications.. doctors are very quick to rush people into a c section even if its the smallest of complications which a midwife can fix

[@furmal86]

oh my heart that baby donated his little organs too. God bless his soul. crying here ;(

[@janetjoiner9204]

Hugs.

[@venusz09]

I am so sorry for your pain, I have tears right now, you will see your little angel again! Revelation 21:3,4 is a guarantee of it , you are do brave for sharing this , God bless your family 💕

[@TaraMac1437]

I LOST IT when she said “the milk that was meant for him is going to an adopted baby in the NICU”…. Holy tears.

[@happilysingle1]

I feel you. Loosing a child is the worst feeling ever

[@hiddentreasuresthrifter1090]

There’s nothing worse than having a baby and not being able to take him home. I know first hand how hard this is, I lost my son 23 years ago.

[@4WingedAngels]

Rose Rivera, I’m so very sorry. I, too, lost multiple babies. The pain never goes away.

[@moumoubaouz9463]

I lost my son 8 months ago, 8 days old.

[@hiddentreasuresthrifter1090]

Moumou Baouz I am sorry for your loss.

[@Sara-md8nu]

So sorry Rose😢

[@moumoubaouz9463]

Rose Rivera i am sorry je suis desolee pour vous et toutes les femmes n'ayant pas pu voir leurs enfants grandir et devenir des hommes et femmes.

[@stephanieleggee5223]

My boy was stillborn in 1987. I still grieve for who he would have grown up as.

[@texastea5686]

🥺☹

[@magniwel]

Bless you

[@paulabrown6840]

My daughter was stillborn in 86...Two years later I had another daughter. She’s the light of my life. Still you always love and yearn for the baby you lost. 💘

[@lyricparadise7899]

Sorry for your loss!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@vanessaorth7834]

That’s so sad...... it’s so cruel

[@stephaniekalmus9327]

As a mom, I can’t imagine the pain I had had my baby in the NICU for nine days, not knowing what the outcome was going to be .It was torture. I am blessed today to have my baby girl. I am so sorry for your loss. You’re in my prayers.

[@boredweegie553]

and the dad..not just the Mother

[@cherielindemann9655]

⁠​⁠@@boredweegie553​​⁠​⁠​⁠ Seriously? 🤷🏼‍♀️People like you will NEVER cease to amaze me! Was it absolutely necessary for you to add that? Did it make you feel better? I would NEVER even THINK about say something that fk’ing shallow to my own family members, let alone a complete stranger! You don’t know this woman personally or if the daddy is in even the picture! Did your mom not teach you to think before spoke? More & more women now days are using donors to have babies because their biological clock is ticking, they haven’t found “the one” yet AND/OR they’re just tired of being hurt by men but have ALWAYS longed to be a mother! It’s not your place to put YOUR words in HER mouth & the bottom line is by doing so you’re being extremely disrespectful! 🤬

[@elizabethlovelock9613]

How generous you were in your grief, to think how McCoy helped other children, other families that don’t have to go through the same because of his gift. Love to you all x

[@Meriale46]

As a mother to twin boys that died 3 hours apart after birth I can relate to this depth of loss...times two. My husband and I both grieved together... my husband fell apart emotionally and cried harder than I'd ever seen him cry in his life. My heart goes out to these parents and I pray that someday they will be able to move forward and have another child. 3 years after the birth and death of our twins I gave birth to a healthy baby girl and she is the joy of our lives. She is everything we ever imagined and more.. though we will always grieve for the babies we lost, we are deeply grateful for the one we received. In time your hearts will scab over. Though they may never heal completely you'll find that you can live again with joy and happiness. God Bless and keep you strong for your daughter and future children.

[@phoebetonkin8020]

Wow. You must really struggle. I can imagine this with one child but with two. I feel really bad for you

[@amyzoey8868]

Thank you for sharing this, I can relate. I bet it helped so many in your shoes! So happy to hear about your daughter and that you are healing and still together! This says so much about your love for one another- you need each others strength to rely upon and at times one is stronger than the other of us. Wishing you a beautiful, healthy future!

[@fireflies735]

God bless you too. Thank you for sharing.

[@LindaBHB]

I’m so sorry you lost your twins. Hugs to you

[@quintuplebanned4267]

I’m so sorry.

[@mrsazbill]

When I lost my son at 13 days old, telling my grandparents was the hardest part. Seeing my grandpa cry for the first time in my life, over the death of my son, shattered me. It's been almost 13 years and they're both gone now, but remembering seeing him sitting at the table crying still makes me cry.

[@margueritemonka6440]

My heart breaks for you. Love you.

[@DefiantAngel87]

I'm so deeply sorry

[@themissmay]

❤️

[@destinytudara9070]

I’m in tears reading this. I’m so sorry for your loss

[@waffleeater23]

im so sorry, i read this and started crying , i hope your grandparents and baby rest in heaven .. 😔❤️

[@fundyourhappyplace5693]

The pain never "goes away". We just find ways to deal with the pain 😥

[@vickieogb1262]

Just had a stillbirth @ 7months I really don’t know how to feel Maybe if there was a medical explanation I guess I would feel better!😭 Nothing thugs at your emotions compared to your child! It’s easier to accept anything that could have happened to you personally, but not your child! Mhhhhhhhh God help me 🙌🏽🥲🥹🥹

[@fundyourhappyplace5693]

@@vickieogb1262 I'm so sorry honey 😢❤️🙏

[@karenmessinger9609]

@@vickieogb1262 I'm so sorry. I don't know if having a medical explanation would help. I had one & it didn't help. There really is no pain like the pain of losing a child whether they're babies or older but with babies you don't get that chance to develop a relationship with them, see their personalities. Time does ease the pain though but it never goes away. I will say that the comfort God gave me through it all is what got me through it. May God comfort you as He did me.

[@lidusok]

What a beautiful baby!!! Very sorry for your loss 😭😭😭😭

[@KAITHEINVADER56]

@Lolatabortion902 10 wtf ypur gross

[@LynetteYoung]

I’m heartbroken for this family. I had **no** idea this situation could cause death. My daughters shoulder got caught up on my pelvic bone (later to find out my hips were fused at the joint due to a break when I was younger) and I was crowning when the midwife realized what was going on. I got rushed to a c-section and they needed three people to pull my daughter out of the birth canal she was so wedged in there. I then crashed/flatlined on the table (I had pulled my epidural line out while pushing in labor and I went into shock from the pain of feeling the surgery). The baby was over 9lbs and would up being fine - she is now 18 and in college.

[@pinkwillow5588]

Wow! That is some story. So glad you and your baby survived. Giving birth is so beautiful yet so scary.

[@silverchairdont9409]

I had to have an emergency c section after 4 days of labor and 1 hour of pushing because of the same reason 6 years ago. My son was 9.6lb and I am 5.3 and 135lb. My son was crowning and his heart was racing. My doctor put her whole hand in my cervix and she decided no, we need to take this baby out through c section. My baby was on oxygen for a day because of the respiratory distress which is pretty common with big babies.

[@amyzoey8868]

Much respect. I hope you get BIGTIME celebrated on mommies day AND her birthday! Thanks for sharing. 🙌🏽

[@loliwemoyo5680]

I'd never let her live it down.

[@brittneyhailey]

Oh wow. God bless you that’s incredible

[@whimsicalrootshomestead9789]

I absolutely love their generosity through their son's death. It really does help him live on, in a form. When our 4 month old son passed in 2010, we donated his heart valves and they went to a baby girl who was 6 days old, and we'd do it again because that parent didn't have go through what we did and it makes it so worth it.

[@-gabe-8070]

How did your son pass, if you don’t mind me asking

[@whimsicalrootshomestead9789]

@@-gabe-8070 You're completely fine. He passed from SIDS. I've scoured his autopsy report (several times) and everything was within range of normal, so for whatever reason, he just stopped breathing and passed.

[@-gabe-8070]

@@whimsicalrootshomestead9789 My baby boy passed of sids as well on Sept of 2018, he was 2 months old with our babysitter took a nap after his bottle and never woke up. What help you cope with it, I know I curse the hell out of god for this unfairness.

[@whimsicalrootshomestead9789]

@@-gabe-8070 Was he your first? Had I not had a child before Chase, there is a very high chance that we'd not have had another. It's hard. You never get over it, but over time it gets a little easier to cope. We lost our 2nd son 2 weeks after our first son's birthday, so it's a very bittersweet month for us. I feel it brought me closer to God, but it did take a while for that too. My best advice for you, if you're able, is to pick a hobby and focus any negative energy on that and turn it around for the sake of the betterment.

[@-gabe-8070]

@@whimsicalrootshomestead9789 Yeah I’m trying to take this negative energy away, but it’s hard, but on top of that my dad passed away in 2016 but he was battling health issues. But I know he is taking care of my son, but no I do have a 6 yr old girl, for whatever reason most sids happens to boys with all the research I was doing.

[@msbling9]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I didn't even know how blessed I am because I just had my baby with shoulder dystocia. The pain when they tried to get her out was HELLISH but I'm glad we have our little princess 😔💗. You are heroes Kara and Kyle. Rest in peace little man

[@kristenadorno]

Thank God your sweet girl is OK! Hearing stories of couples that have lost their children breaks my heart and makes me just want to hold my kids tighter and be sure I don't take for granted all the little things!

[@JamiJason]

Did your daughter suffer any long lasting issues from this?

[@msbling9]

@@JamiJason Just a few weeks of pain but the physio said that everything seemed okay after about 3 or so weeks

[@msbling9]

@@kristenadorno I so can relate❤️

[@sheridanvance7426]

❤

[@rebekah181]

I’m here for you girl I understand how you feel. I was 24 weeks pregnant. I had an infection a hormone infection that me and my baby come early. He stayed alive for hour and a half December 21, 2018. I miss him dearly to this day, but I take day by day, I still miss him but it gets a little bit better. He’s in heaven and your baby boys in heaven to stay strong girl.

I went through that too with my first born son, he lost 10 minutes of oxygen to his brain & died 9 months later, my husband & I we're devastated! However, three months after we found out I was pregnant again, & that second son was born on my husband's birthday! It will be painful but u will have another angel coming ur way at the right time!🌷🤗

[@MandieZangora]

Glynis Joseph so sorry for your loss ♥️ I’m thankful you got your rainbow baby 🌈 I know it seems like it’s an eternity away but hold on to the promise that you will see him again sooner than you think ♥️ a literal lifetime to us is just the blink of an eye in Heaven 😘 that’s what I’m holding on to in my darkest days too

[@jamelyahedwards2422]

So sorry for the lost of your first baby, but your next baby was a blessing i hope God covers you’re family with support, strength and happiness ❤️

[@laurahuber379]

Sitting here at age 61 with tears streaming down my face. How well I remember losing my son over 25 years ago. I’m just so very sorry for your loss. I am living proof that the pain does get better and that eventually you find a new normal. You will survive. It won’t always hurt this bad. It just takes times. Love and Prayers to your entire family. Hang in there mom and dad. Hold each other close.

[@jojomakes]

♥️

[@juliettatorres821]

@@rebecca9937 i'm so sorry for your loss ❤ may the Lord comfort you with His promise of Heaven

[@juliettatorres821]

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ may the Lord confort you with His promise of Heaven

[@tenzinkunsang7736]

Awww sending you lots of hugs. We also lost our 26 days old baby girl in May 2018. Pain does get lighter but never fades away . Couldn’t stop my tears 😭 while watching .

[@debrabaron1909]

I am so sorry for your loss too. You will see your son again someday. This is for everyone who has lost a child.

[@kaya8632]

I lost my baby boy at 7 months pregnant!! I still cry to this day at times!!! Thank God my second son was born a year later in California.

[@janetmannis8042]

Sending you a big hug❤

[@Rachelderuijter]

I was 8 months pregnant when I lost my baby at birth, now still trying to get pregnant. I hope god will bless me with a healthy baby soon

[@kaya8632]

@Rachelderuijter I got pregnant 6 most later and you will too.

[@Rachelderuijter]

@@kaya8632 that would be this month 😌 🤞🏼

[@kaya8632]

@@Rachelderuijter best wishes for your future baby!!!

[@kimma508]

I am so sorry to all of you who have lost children. I can’t even imagine the pain you all go through. My heart goes out to you.

[@JulieH57]

They are now the proud parents of baby Vaughn. He’s the best next thing. Exactly a year later

[@LisaLisa-mx3hq]

That makes me so happy!

[@mackenzie8911]

@J. Karpinski stfu

[@maryshogga4518]

@@LisaLisa-mx3hq This isnt the time to

[@rachelhardy144]

That's so nice to hear. A year later also wow. Reminds me of when I had a missed miscarriage. I found out that the baby had no heartbeat on the 19th March, my son was born the year after on 19th March.

[@JulieH57]

@@chrisoulasourasis5175 What the heck has that to do with this wonderful new baby news after her sad news. Get thee behind me!!

[@drpescarakovach7269]

I lost my daughter to a cord accident just a week before she was to be born. I know you feel as though everything is enveloped in a fog and I know it seems like you will feel this devastated forever. But, I promise you, there will be a day when things start to shift and you can see some light peeking in. Like you, we had a daughter waiting for her baby sister to come home. Lean on her, see her light, let her make you smile and laugh. She will be a big sister some day. I went on to have two more kids. I got pregnant with my son within two months of losing our daughter. I knew he was being watched by his guardian angel. He helped save our lives. You will have a baby and you will never forget McCoy. You’ll wonder about how he’d look, what he’d be interested in, but you will find the strength to rise up in those moments knowing he’s with your dad in a beautiful place. Take all the time you need to grieve any way you feel is best for you. Take care of your beautiful daughter who will forever remember she’s special because her brother is an angel. Stay well and healthy in preparation for the little girl who will be born on a Thursday ❤️🦋

[@momof2in1year]

Lisa, I lost my daughter to a cord accident as well, three weeks before my scheduled induction, and my son to infection a year and two weeks later (5 weeks before my scheduled induction). My kids were 8&9 and 9&10 at the time. Your words are so true. The light will come again. ❤️❤️💪🏻

[@dmartini429]

❤

[@yoly507]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My best friend lost her baby girl the day of her c-section. They went to put the monitors on and they could find her heartbeat. Ultrasound confirmed she passed. She did feel her kick about 3 hours before. The doctor confirmed it was a cord accident and she is prone to long umbilical cords. 17 months later she had a little boy and he was healthy and he's 17 months today.

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

Beautiful message. I cried reading it. I don't have children, but my heart hurts so much reading this. I want to have children, I don't have a husband yet , but I'm so scared to bring kids into this world. There are so many things that could happen. But i find comforts in your words because you are incredibly strong and you went thru the most painful of all pains. 💔

[@StarLight-tu6ub]

Perfectly said📌💋

[@chandilove3863]

30 weeks pregnant with my son right now.... i can't even imagine this pain. My heart goes out to you two. Thankful you two have one another to lean on. There is no words to make the pain go away, life is just so unpredictable and we are here to experience all different types of emotions and experiences. I'm so sorry.

[@jasymonta4451]

As I watched the end. I could feel this chills overcome my arms like a hug of feeling loved. God listens to those broken hearted and he listens to this mother's cries. The love you give will be given much more from the father in Heaven.

[@meaganbanta1508]

God just be with this family and give them peace and guide them through this horrible time

[@elises2074]

After a long day of single parenting and getting frustrated, this made me go on and kiss my kids and remind them how much I love them. Life can be too short sometimes. The cried and cried at this couples loss.... Excruciating and no one's fault.

[@carmenjimenez4459]

Keep up the good work I myself know it’s really hard I’ve even cried before and it’s ok to take a min to yourself and let it out but just know it won’t always be hard and their will be beautiful times that will overshadow the hard times🙂

[@truthseeker2137]

RIP beautiful baby McCoy. Lord please help this family with love, peace, and comfort

[@guavaB52]

I had the same nurse midwife for 3 of my births. The first two had broken collarbones and I was told to be extra careful to not move their shoulder and they all started out life in pain. Then when the 3rd one was born and it happened again, I was fuming . A senior nurse told me that the midwife I had always had broke collarbones with most of the babies she delivered. That she used the same maneuver getting the babies out, and that this was a "normal thing" to have happen. I am so very sorry that this shoulder dystocia happened with your precious son, my heart goes out to you...

[@momnahyasin3126]

how is she still practicing if this is known surely the technique shouldn't be used. i had 3 home births and my children came out without needing to be bought out i dont get whats happening to cause the injury. im so sorry for what youve been through post partum is difficult already just to heal and adjust to a newborn let alone one with broken bones

[@BlackBeauty2023]

I found out in my 20's that I have an old shoulder fracture from childbirth. I asked my mother and she had no idea what I was talking about. All she said was "no wonder u were so pissed when u came out" 😂. Im so sorry that u and your babies had to go through that. I hope that the midwife is no longer able to practice. I know that nothing can take away your family's pain but U should have been compensated in some way. Happy holidays to u and your beautiful family!!!! 🙏🏽💞

[@vicki9298]

Oh thats horrible!

[@tiredofthebs8290]

I'm curious as to why you continued to use the same midwife after the first time and most definitely after the second occurrence? I'm sincerely asking, not judging at all. I'm so sorry you and your babies went through that. My youngest had a rough start in life also. It was for different reasons but she spent her first month in the NICU.

[@guavaB52]

@@tiredofthebs8290 I was just 18 with my first one and on my own. When it happened twice, I was suspicious, but still thought it might be a normal part of the birthing process. I also had very large babies and difficult births. When it happened with the third one, that's when I complained and found out she did it all the time with her deliveries. I don't know what ended up happening with her as I never went back and used a different hospital.

[@jdziengowski]

The baby was very large, I can’t believe the doctor didn’t notice. My daughter was 9 pounds and even without an ultrasound my doctor did an internal exam and told me flat out I would never be able to push her out. And she was right. My heart breaks for them. And now her Dad is with him. It’s just so sad.

[@tomarasmith4459]

Johanna P You can vaginal deliver a 9 lbs. I was 9.14 and my mom was 10. Did you or the baby have another under lying condition?

[@jdziengowski]

Tomara Smith I just meant that by my doctor doing a quick exam, she could tell my chances personally were slim since I have a small frame and I had Gestational Diabetes ( so they knew her shoulders were very broad) So obviously in my case , it was an easy guess. I was the opposite of this situation since I had sizing ultrasounds all the time. Many women can successfully deliver large babies. But I’m sure if her doctor had known how large the baby was , they would have not recommended a home birth. I think her doctors failed her here.

[@gega7]

Did you miss the part where she said she had her last ultrasound at 20weeks? And you could be 7 pounds and still have a shoulder dystopia.

[@jdziengowski]

gega7 I saw. You don’t need an ultrasound to see how large a baby’s head and shoulders are. When the baby is low, you can feel it. Shoulder Dystocia could happen with a smaller baby but it’s very rare. Especially since she had no other risk factors for it ( she has already had a successful vaginal delivery, she is a normal weight ) I don’t how she was measuring, what exams were done. She may have had undiagnosed diabetes or just a large babu. It happens. But knowing she wanted a home birth , she should have had an exam to make sure she was still a candidate. I am a victim of negligence by several doctors and thankfully I was the one who suffered and not my baby. But I almost lost my life because Doctors can get complacent. Doctors also saved my life and I have immense respect for them , especially right now. I personally think in this case her doctors could have done more knowing she wanted a home birth. Birth is a natural process but unfortunately it can be dangerous. It’s very sad. And it could have been avoided. But I hope doctors and Mothers who are considering a home birth , remember this story and that by her sharing it , it can save a life.

[@MissAnLiShe]

Hi! I wonder, is it really standard in the US to have the last ultrasound at 20 weeks? That doesnt make any sense, because how will you check the biophysical scoring of the baby, or the level of your amniotic fluid at 37-38 weeks? Isnt that in the guidelines of prenatal care? The baby was big, that couldve been seen in the ultrasound.. although her pelvis wouldve been deemed adequate given shes delivered vaginally before... but seeing the size of the baby couldve been an indication to do CS. Im not from the US. But our standard prenatal care always includes an ultrasound nearing delivery. Just so you can check last minute. This is sad :(

[@drewdarren5599]

As I was contemplating a scolding post about having your baby at home, I realized it's not as important as having empathy. I'm sorry you lost your child. And I am reminded yet again, how blessed I am to have my children. I cannot imagine your pain.

[@nahex2]

This was so genuine, thank you

[@femalelucifer1219]

I know how you feel , but with the pandemic , a diagnosed normal pregnancy with no cause for concern , it being her second baby and the birth complication being extremely rare and unpredicted . It was just an unfortunate circumstance. The same result could of happened at a hospital , you can't do a c section with a babies head out of the birth canal by my knowledge , to soft a skull to push backwards.

[@breezeh1127]

Lots of people with uneventful pregnancies have their babies at home easily and successfully. This truly was just a perfect storm of tragedy. 💔The same could have happened even at a hospital. Once the baby's head is out, it is almost impossible to go back. 😔

[@breezeh1127]

@Umbrella Corporation Sometimes it just happens that way💔

[@MeliQ823]

Drew Darren I’ve had 3 home births that went perfectly fine. Speaking from personal experience, the NICU is filled with many babies who were born in the hospital and not all are preemies so please keep an open mind and do not judge parents for their decision. I am happy that regardless of how you felt, you realized that empathy was more important that your opinion on where a mom gives birth

[@emilygonzales499]

I’m like sobbing so bad right now. I have a four month old and I cannot even fathom what these parents are going through with the loss of their son. My heart goes out to them

[@Lyndsay-jh2um]

It's a horrible feeling, and very stressful when having another child. I lost my first born at home, we woke up and he had passed (due to doctors ignoring our concerns...)

[@KAIJUKING123]

D*mn that really hits hard to lose not only your precious bundle of joy but a father who raised you and loved you shortly after. My deepest condolences and thoughts/prayers for mom dad and the rest of the family at this dark difficult time.

[@JustMe-gh7ib]

We were adoptive parents and never had the opportunity to have breast milk for our baby. I am absolutely honored to think that you did this for someone even in the middle of your pain. In the many years since that time, we have needed to sometimes pay love forward in the middle of tragedy. It has been the singular watershed act that kept us sane. You are not alone. God keeps our tears in His bottle in heaven.

[@brandyb2931]

He was a big boy, god bless his little soul. My grandmother gave birth to a stillborn full term boy, the cord wrapped around his neck. It was hard on her but she finally moved on to have more children. I'm sorry for their pain amd I pray they heal.

[@lea9977]

People need to remember pregnancy is dangerous, labor is dangerous. Sad things happen. My heart goes out to them.

[@Priyanka77574]

Given the vast majority of women have healthy pregnancies and delivery, it’s really not that dangerous. That’s a bit dramatic. Yes some woman have high risk pregnancies and complications but those women are still in the minority. This is especially true in developed countries.

[@SaraDeux]

@@Priyanka77574 agreed!

[@Enoo-Wynn]

@Lolatabortion902 10 Pillock.

[@merhyho8399]

Pero fue un parto en casa? Ese fue el problema. Si hubiera ocurrido en un hospital esto no hubiera pasado

[@seandoherty3480]

That is the worst pain in the world, a parent losing their child. It breaks my heart that you both are feeling that heart piercing pain right now. Your son, McCoy, IS a beautiful boy!

[@cherylgraham283]

This is heartbreaking. I lost my daughter Kelsey on 7-31-97, she was stillborn. Not a day goes by that I do not think about her. Sending love and prayers to the family.

[@vickieogb1262]

Just had a stillbirth @ 7months I really don’t know how to feel Maybe if there was a medical explanation I guess I would feel better!😭 Nothing thugs at your emotions compared to your child! It’s easier to accept anything that could have happened to you personally, but not your child! Mhhhhhhhh God help me 🙌🏽🥲🥹🥹

[@amykeo8344]

He was the cutest chunkiest baby ever! He looked perfect! My heart aches for these parents

[@JillKirchner]

He looked like Kara.

[@dal8716]

He looked quite large…chubby and cute as ever

[@Ocean.goddess]

😢 there’s no loss like losing a baby. God bless your beautiful family and your sweet baby boy. May he rest peacefully in heaven.

[@april1st23]

"the depth at which one suffers...correlates directly to the height at which one feels JOY"...thank you so much for sharing your beautiful, McCoy & your beautiful family with the world - THE DEPTH of suffering goes no deeper - therefore the HEIGHT OF JOY goes no higher - may GOD bless you all FOREVER & EVER

[@katet8622]

I'm so sad McCoy's not around to spend time with his parents and sister. However, it's a beautiful gift to share his organs and be a ray of hope for other families.

[@bonnieframe9591]

I'm sorry for your loss I know it must be rough prayers for you both

[@caroljones2634]

I lost our beautiful daughter Hollie,26 years ago, still feels like yesterday,v8lb 3 ounces perfect little girl, who was taken from us, god bless you both xx

[@MrTinkti]

hospitals are best place for a birth they are equipped to handle problems like this

[@RM23459]

@@MrTinkti agree. I respect everyone decisions but the best and safest place to have a baby is at the hospital. 1 min cannot be lost during delivery. Sorry for her lost. I know that is a terrible, deep and unforgettable moment. RIP little prince.

[@lizyn3751]

I still don't know what to say. When I gave birth to our son and he died few hours after, my whole being was shattered. My husband and I were the only one who knew how great of a loss we had to endure. It's been 5months now, and I'm still in deep pain and sorrow. When you said healthy baby, that's what we've been praying too. I guess with what happened, our sons can't be healthy and they are better off in heaven although it pains me to the core but I just see this as a consolation. Our house is still very empty and quite. I hope you all the best despite everything.

[@zaidamaganda]

My heart hurts for your loss. You are a strong mother for enduring this. Your baby's love will be with you forever.

[@grahamkemp1610]

My love to you and your family at this horrific time. May time ease your grief and pain. Best wishes from Europe

[@plumsmom8043]

Thinking of you and hoping you continue to heal. Time will help though you will always miss him.

[@AP-ge3ud]

The Lord is near to the broken hearted 💞

[@susantaylor2533]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Liz. Check out the You Tube series of Amber and Granger Smith. They lost their son, River (long story) but it's a story of faith and hope. One day at a time

[@deannharris2424]

My heart goes out to them. I’m crying. I know what she’s going through. This is so sad. I will keep all of you in my prayers.

[@tamarastoflet87]

My heart goes out to your family. So very sorry for your loss.

[@chloet182]

@@user-uh2iw1mx1wwtf is wrong with you 😮

[@giuliatrapani7479]

I’m so sorry we share the same pain. Our story is so devastatingly similar. We lost our son Augusto July 6, 2020 the day after he was born. May both our angels RIP. 🙏🏼👼🏻👼🏻

[@rachelhardy144]

So sorry for your loss. X

[@Hyleenf36]

Thinking of you today

[@cestlavie294]

That’s my birthday 🥲 I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️

[@bhumphries1360]

I am truly sorry Guilia. It is not fair. It's not okay. I am not going to use the c-word. (also called closure). Because that is something that is unable to be achieved. But I truly hope that you and your family find peace.

[@isabellrc]

🙏🏻💫 for you

[@leonieweimer6674]

The loss of a child for any parent is unbelievably painful 😣

[@crystalfreeze4858]

So so sad, he was a perfect little chunk. That's so awesome that his organs gave other babies a chance at life. Prayers to his mom and dad.

[@lisawilson7332]

Please know you will be in my prayers!!! I just can't imagine what you are going through. God bless you both!!!!

[@sadiasalma4356]

Pray for me too! I have lost my two days old baby boy

[@shena1256]

This pandemic has affected people in more ways than most of us realize. He was such a chunky healthy little guy. I can't imagine the pain this family has had to endure. Nursing still to help other babies shows just how strong a momma is. She is stronger than I could ever be. My condolences to your family. ❤️

[@thatswhatisaidCA]

Even smiling for the camera with her daughter and son must have been colossally difficult. Awful. What a lovely gift for her daughter.

[@shena1256]

@@chrisoulasourasis5175 I really don't care what you think nor will I take the time to even read half the shit you typed.

[@MookieLee123]

I’m sitting here nursing my newborn son. And I’m so heartbroken for them. I hate this pandemic. These poor parents 😞

[@teresadoyle1396]

You gave the ultimate sacrifice by helping others, this is the true testament of a parents love…. Praying for your family.

[@laniementz3970]

Krya, what a gift McCoy was. Because of your love for him, another baby has a life. They will never know the gift of sacrifice and pure love that enabled them to exist. May they never take that for granted one second of their life. May God give you and your precious family peace. You will see him again one day...

[@f-luva-luva]

The pain of this mother was palpable. I know you'll never read this, but I'm truly sorry for your loss. I cried with you....

[@dcher3868]

I did too.

[@janawhitens8160]

Same

[@free2rhyme29100]

What about the husband? You don’t feel for the husband too or what?

[@dcher3868]

Babs kind of goes without saying 🙄

[@free2rhyme29100]

No it Dosent. They only said pain of the mother instead of saying The pain of the parents 🙄

[@rachwind1059]

In the last year, I've heard of two cases of shoulder dystocia that resulted in hypoxia and death. Both happened in the hospital. So please don't add to this family's grief by questioning their decision. I'm sure they're doing enough of that themselves.

[@ameliaweights]

I know!! In a world driven to panic by the media fueled hysteria over this virus she thought she was doing the best thing to protect her son. When all this crap hit the fan that was the first thing I said "if I was pregnant I'd be doing a home birth!" It was a very rational decision to make.

[@lizmyers469]

@@ameliaweights Home birth is not a very rational decision to make. Please educate yourself on home birth before commenting on the topic.

[@ameliaweights]

@@lizmyers469 oh, don't you worry pumpkin, I've done more research on home birth AND hospital birth than you can begin to dream of. I can recommend some books if you're interested.

[@Kristen_H]

Rachael Windemuller really?? I’ve been attending these births as a NICU nurse for almost 20 years at a large hospital, and I have never seen a shoulder dystocia death.

[@thenotlost9367]

Kristen H what’s with nurses and gaslighting women who choose home birth? When it’s convenient they like to say they’ve never seen a death and when it’s convenient they’ll say they experience death all the time... not to discount your experiences but what happened to this mother could’ve (and does) happened to anyone at anytime. women shouldn’t be judged or shamed for how THEY chose to give birth.

[@nancyhulbert1933]

I feel for this couple. loss of a baby is traumatic. I lost my baby back in 1968, a long time ago but especially every year on her birth day I think what would her life be if she had lived. I still relive the nightmare and the joy of that day.

[@zephaniahaguirre1384]

God bless this family. Such a powerful, powerful story. So thankful to see that they still have hope to keep living, especially after such a hard loss. Sweet baby is waiting in heaven. 👼🏻💙

[@kathyclem9253]

What she said was so beautiful, "now when she hears her daughter laugh or make sounds it is so much more meaningful, and the watermelon seems even sweeter, she has a spirit that is truly blessed with large heart. That is all anyone could ever hope to have in this life. Nothing else truly matters, love is the greatest spirit of all! SHE..... IS LOVE

[@tweetybird2968]

My god, absolutely in tears........ These parents are strong to be able to speak about this experience. And shame on any of you that are passing judgement on this mom and dad. RIP beautiful baby boy. And I think it is amazing that these parents passed on his life to another baby. That is truly amazing.

[@agathahofmann6977]

those covid measures sure cost people a lot... rest in peace little man, your parents and sister ♥️ you ICU nurse, the Netherlands

[@CeeBee781]

COVID also costs people a lot. It’s a horrible Catch22

[@samanthamitchell4070]

This is absolutely heart-wrenching. McCoy was beautiful! They are very strong parents. This is why I am against home births - so much can go wrong even with uneventful, routine pregnancies. Not worth it.

[@Divaliciousbeauty123]

I’m crying. This is so heartbreaking. He was such a beautiful baby boy

[@courtneyboudreau4284]

Sooooooo sad !! Very beautiful baby ❤️

[@jules9738]

That is just exactly how I feel.

[@davinajuma8381]

I'm crying, losing a loved one is very sad no matter how long or short time you have lived with them, may God comfort you

[@katw8327]

I'm currently balling. You have no idea how much your story is so stunning and powerful. It's probably the most powerfully emotional thing humans can go through, and to share it how and like you did brings a wave of testiment to you as parents. Greif is something we never understand bc it takes away all that we love. I was pregnant 7 months when my mom died. Hardest thing in my life. But I watch videos like yours and remind myself to keep humble. I'll close with I'm so sorry for your loss. Truly

[@paulettelawrence6680]

Every tear you cry..God holds in His Hand….You never left my side and tho my heart is torn… I will praise you in this Storm….beautiful words from a beautiful song about faith in God when we encounter trials in our lives……God bless this precious family and help them to know their precious child is onYour arms and that this is only a temporary separation..they will rejoice one day in Heaven with their beautiful baby boy..God bless them and bring them great peace knowing this🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏

[@cherimontana6868]

This happened to my mother and dad in 1957. So horrible. I don’t think my mom ever truly got over this. Back then they did not have ventilators. I was 5 years old and never truly understood why my baby brother never came home from the hospital. My mom said he was an angel and went to Heaven. They we would go to the cemetery, put flowers on his grave. I did not understand this. Heart breaking.

[@barbaravyse660]

It is heartbreaking. Imagine all the joy and excitement of expecting a baby and then to leave the hospital empty handed. That has to be the most hollow feeling in the world.

[@meghoughton562]

It's especially heartbreaking knowing how preventable this was. Just seeing the photo of her holding him, he was WAY beyond the size of a typical newborn. In a traditional hospital setting, that probably would have been caught early on and a c-section ordered.

[@tinamarie6720]

❤❤❤

[@opheliaphillips7284]

My God.. I can’t even imagine their pain. Praying for their hearts..

[@itwasthecatsfault5422]

What a sweet little baby boy. He looked so perfect. Grandpa is with him and McCoy will be keeping him busy. Sending love and healing thought to all moms and dads out there!! ❤️

[@nikkiholmes3730]

I am so very sorry for loss the other your sweet baby boy💔 He was such a precious soul & despite his painful loss, he lives on bc he saved other babies lives 💙

[@Mmgfdyhjjjji]

Makes me cry so much, remembering my stillborn boy 4 years back...

[@valeriekerschner8397]

i’m so sorry for ur loss i hope ur doing okay❤️

[@walkawayrenee4290]

🙏❤

[@rl4018]

I am holding my newborn as I watch this. My heart is aching. I am so sorry for your sweet boy. I am truly sorry for your loss.

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

💔

[@natacha2372]

As a mom I cried so hard watching this. I don't know if it's because during my labour I also had a scare and was terrified I wouldn't be bringing home my son.. my heart absolutely breaks for yous. Thank you so much for sharing your story and raising awareness. 🥺💙

[@TheShadowMan.]

Man. The Dad has the "1000-yard stare" I sincerely hope he reaches out to other fathers who could empathise/support his loss too

[@moneymoves5998]

As I wipe the tears streaming down my face, I applaude this family for their strength and undeniable family bond. Thank you for sharing your story with the masses. May God continue to grant you bountiful blessings. Thank you for finding the beauty in everyday life and being so courageous and kind

[@madhuramitra6688]

Accepting life is much stronger than accepting death. When we make bad choice or we often get frustration saying I want to die or leave me alone or life is shit is actually inviting death while living physically. My love goes to this family.bless you all

[@selahjames1267]

Its a shame because he looked so healthy. He was a nice plump little baby

[@sf9046]

So true :(

[@nicolelewis8975]

He was truly perfect Poor little soul .

[@lunaplata4726]

I know. How terribly sad. I don’t think I would have the strength to give him up and accept his death.

[@donnarupert4926]

A nice Chonky little man😭

[@jgjg3848]

That's exactly why this happened. He was too big. In a hospital, they would have seen that & got him out immediately. Babies over 10 pounds are extremely high risk deliveries and likely will have to come out via c-section. He was over 11 lbs and should have been a c-section birth. This was so preventable.

[@tm13tube]

My husband had delivered many babies as an EMT. He was adamant I was going to the hospital. I didn’t want to but agreed because one time he told me the worst was being in the back of the ambulance with a mom who had a stillborn and was asking why her baby wasn’t crying, asking to hold her baby.

[@dalelessard9160]

Love the message at the end for grandpa, you're baby is being watched over by millions of God's angels, never forget that!! RIP baby McCoy & grandpa😇

[@yasniely]

I can’t imagine any parent having to go through loosing a child. It breaks my heart for every parent.

[@edwardsgregory5287]

@Boston Guy you sick incel

[@jeannieleu3431]

It’s the most horrible pain you can imagine, a part of you is gone. I lost my daughter 4 years ago , she was 19 and it still seems unreal. That’s 19 years of memories, being a baby to first steps to first school days and so on. All the time you can hear their little voice telling you I love you mommy and knowing you’re family is not there same anymore, all your family pics will be minus one child. It’s an unexplainable feeling that only someone who’s had the same loss can understand.

[@Risingofthephoenixxx]

What a beautiful line "its like putting salt on watermelon it somehow makes it sweeter" in reference to her daughter who is helping her get through this struggle

[@alicewhite6051]

I am so sorry for your loss. Shoulder dystopia is a true OB emergency. Nursing staff in the hospital have practice drills on a regular basis. To meet the standard of care nurses are required to certify in newborn rescutation every 2 years. Regular practice drills are also carried on. Having trained staff and equipment needed readily available. Blessings of healing to your family.

[@diannegaylord321]

I cannot imagine ur pain ur family has been thru.May God Bless you, son and daughter too ..He was here ❣️ and he mattered in this life.🙏

[@SimplySergMX_arts]

RIP little Angel 😢 as a dad I can imagine the pain he’s going through.

[@plantmomma77]

I'm so so sorry. This is so heart wrenching. I cried with you through this whole video. What you did giving his organs to another child in need and giving your milk to an adoptive mom was so amazing. You are a warrior, a very special person. Your son lives on in the other people he has helped. He's a special boy and your amazing selfless parents. God bless you both. 🙏

[@logicalblueberry]

Oh, how heartbreaking! No one can replace their son but I hope that God blesses this couple with many more precious babies.

[@daniellelightfoot8394]

Lost my son at 37 weeks and he was a stillborn. The feeling the warmth is something I wish could've felt. I'm so sorry you have to feel this pain. We are with you 🫂

[@melaniewalker5226]

I'm so sorry for you're loss.

[@suzicares2721]

The wound will stop bleeding but the scar remains. My daughter was stillborn 33 yrs ago due to a cord accident. She had been dead for a few weeks, but was still preserved. I wish I had more/better pictures.

[@CLR10251]

So heartbreaking. He was a beautiful baby boy. I can't imagine the pain and grief they are in.

[@chelsieleger2579]

CandaceK You think it's heartbreaking???? Are u stupid or something? Have you ever thought exactly how blessed you would be if you ever buried a baby into the graveyard? Have you ever thought about it? This couple should think about it. In this world many babies have been buried. Many have been buried. But the people are very grateful and they thank God at the end of the day for their blessed loss. When you lose a baby think about how much peace there is in your home? No more crying, you don't hear your baby voice. You can sleep peacefully. Without having to wake up. When you wake up your sleep is disturbed. And so then you don't get the proper rest that you need. So when you lose a baby you should be thankful you should bend on your knees and tell God exactly how grateful/thankful you are for letting God take ur baby away from you and taking that baby from this world. You should do that because in this life there is peace but some people don't see that. You might be too blind to see it. But this question is for the couple that has lost their baby in the video. Just answer it and let me know. Thank God Amen

[@anayscalderon8596]

@@chelsieleger2579 you're insane

[@chelsieleger2579]

@@anayscalderon8596 lol keep barking

[@JillKirchner]

@@chelsieleger2579 God doesn't "take" babies.

[@chelsieleger2579]

@@JillKirchner I absolutely disagree with you God takes away babies from those people who are spoiled with take an advantage of life. But however burying a baby is not so hard and it's considered a blessing.

[@paigestatham6363]

Grieving her baby and her father during a pandemic. I’m sending this amazing soul a big hug 🤗

[@sistersleuth7864]

Beautiful story. He’s a brave sweet boy. Being an OB nurse I can for sure see why you had shoulder dystocia. My goodness what a big strong boy! I wish your doula had recognized his size and made precautionary arrangements. No one deserves to bury their baby. I’m so very sorry.

[@nikisawyers7559]

Doulas do not make precautionary arrangements.. as they are not medically trained whatsoever. Doulas are strictly emotional, physical and informational support. I wish people actually understood this. Also, midwives are trained in how to handle obstetric emergencies but even babies die from shoulder dystocia, under the care of OBGYNs, right down the hall from an operating room. It’s a tragic accident. And while the large majority of shoulder dystocias can be managed quickly and skillfully, with no damage to the baby, there will always be a small subset of babies for whom the conditions are out of anyones skill level to resolve. Life is precious… and everyone giving birth birth or being born will approach the threshold of death.

[@evran2499]

I'm crying listening to this..I'm so sorry.. such a beautiful angel

[@dianad6464]

My stomach fully dropped when she got emotional and talked about the umbilical cord being white. I'm an expecting mama (my first,) after suffering a miscarriage at 18 weeks. I know what my grief felt like, and I can't imagine how much worse it felt for them. I'm gutted. And I just saw the part about them making the choice to donate the organs and the milk...that touches my heart as a transplant nurse. This all hits too close to home and now I am sobbing.

[@taiweannoona1204]

Diana D I cried too.💞

[@catherinegrace2366]

@ yes. Agree. Don’t watch stuff like this at this time. Surround your baby with beauty and uplifting atmosphere.

@@catherinegrace2366 I want to. But i have to slay a dragon first. The mother's love for her child is so strong, that no amount of evil will ever do her harm....BECAUSE a real mother will protect her child. Keep your baby safe. Always.💕

[@amandabutler8881]

All 3 of my babies were born and their umbilical cords were white? Aren’t they supposed to be before they clamp? Or does she mean as in it was white so therefore baby wasn’t getting any oxygen or anything else while he was stuck?

[@Lyndsay-jh2um]

Please don't try to compare your loss with others. I lost my son at 8 days old after a clean bill of health when discharged. Just because I experienced this loss does not mean yours is any less significant or traumatic.

[@diachilders3271]

My god. He was absolutely stunningly beautiful. The fact that you let him live on is one of the most courageous things parents like yourself can do.

[@j_cara]

I can’t stop crying. God this is gut heart wrenching. I’m so sorry for the loss of their beautiful baby boy

[@Nakiesrussphynxcattery]

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. Losing your baby is the worst pain. The pain itself never goes away you just learn to live with it.