Did A Social Media Obsession Destroy This Couple’s Relationship? | KARAMO

[@ekim3153]

"just because someone's expressed their insecurity doesn't give you the right to build on that insecurity..." wish my mom knew this

[@imhereforitall9218]

I am a gay black male and I was in an abusive relationship before and knew it and just would not cut it off. Even after he put hands on me in front of his 5th baby mother and made me and her service him orally at the same time. I just would not leave. He was such a charmer and an Alpha male and you did not say no to him if you knew what was good for you. You had to have his food fixed just right. Iron his underwear and tee shirts. Just be there for him. When he went back to prison that is when I made my move and and literally moved to another state and changed all my social media and telephone number.

[@nggapraying4392]

@@imhereforitall9218 I'm glad you got free from that cause wth.

[@neisci]

​@@imhereforitall9218 have sought professional help for it? Sometimes we get out situations but those situations stay with us. It's also important to address with a Profesional what was behind the reason for you to stay in such detrimental condition.

[@lejuandean2570]

I wish my mom knew and practiced it too.. maybe we would be speaking and healed right today as mother and daughter but it wasn’t given to her therefore she victimized me too. Sad!

[@aries4901]

Narcissist build on insecurities

[@JAYLOVE47]

I get the sense that the boyfriend is struggling with some inner homophobia and doesn't fully respect his boyfriend because he's feminine. I also get the sense that he envies his boyfriends confidence and self love which I think he lacks for himself! Sometimes the people you sleep with can be your worst enemy and lowkey hate you because they want what you have and in this case its full acceptance of self.

[@crazymusicgrlcheesecake]

good catch

[@coreyanderson5563]

All these single blak women out here n n2ggaz would rather play in each other's peanutbutter.. damn shame

[@JessRare]

I agree…I think when it comes to the social media and projects the boyfriend was the main one with the the eyes on him and like you said jealousy plays a big part. That’s why he had an issue with the whole SM thing and would try to shake him in front of others to make himself feel better.

[@ahzar4384]

Very wisely put!

[@spiritualhem_]

Agreed 👏

[@reaganbrewster1465]

Once something turns physical I think the best thing to do is end the relationship.

[@bohlalenchabeleng1370]

Period!

[@sheilae.9670]

Absolutely! Abuse is never ok

[@ahzar4384]

Exactly. I've been down that road before, and NEVER EVER will I allow someone to treat me like that again. And I'm a grown man.

[@cardomuldrow09]

That’s what men do. Men fight each other

[@zanthus7]

Nah, the verbal comes before the physical. Verbal abuse can be just as bad as physical. The difference is physical abuse most of the time leave short term scars that will heal where verbal abuse can stay with you for years. So when your partner starts putting you down, disrespecting you, this has a strong potential to lead to physical abuse. Get out before that happens. The first disrespect could be a slip of the tongue and if they apologize, forgive. If it happens again, then you know the first slip of the tongue was a test to see what they could get away with. When it happens the second time, end the relationship for good because that person is trying to take you down a road you don't ever want to go. Shut the relationship down hard and fast. No one deserves to be disrespected by their lover, ever. If your lover is doing that, they do not love you so end that relationship. This is a time where you use your head only and not your heart.

[@chantales.3275]

Two things stood out to me this episode: 1) Jorel represents how common it is in the LGBTQIA+ community to "bottom-shame" or be openly misogynistic. It's this toxic ass mindset that "it's okay to be qay....as long as you're not too femme". 2) This guy admitted to chasing Nolan for 12 years.... only to turn around and be abusive. So the lesson is just bc someone is persistent about dating you does not mean they have any intention to treat you w/ love and respect. You are prize as long as you remain unattainable to a toxic person.

[@TeeCup22]

Loving the idea*** of him, but not loving HIM. Loved what he presented, but got to know him & wanted to change him. Smh. It’s sad! They did right separating.

[@DatNigga-hr5oc]

You just spoke a word into my life. Thank you Ms. Lady

[@MarciaSantos-ox1fk]

Facts.

[@carenbutler5376]

Verbal abuse is just as worse as physical abuse

[@dallasfarms1907]

😢

[@nataliemscrzysxycoolharris]

Once it turned physically violent it was a wrap. Nolan knew that so he moved on. There are some of us who know when to walk away.

[@catherinegilbert7057]

yes and he got his licks in before he left it was epic

[@allgasnobrakes123]

You must not know many Black gay couples 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@HumbleDude46995]

how woud someone like you know . Im disgusted

[@Britteverafter64]

@@allgasnobrakes123 My cousin and his ex fought many times.I told my other male cousins and they were g2 give deal with my cousins then bf. My gay male cousin protected him; as if it was no big deal( but he had been crying, he was trying to hide his face). When I went to pick them both up; his ex did not come outside. I was were is Nate, why u crying and did not want to tell me( that was the 1st I realized). And stayed together after each fight.

[@bohlalenchabeleng1370]

Period!

[@cynsational7225]

I see how social media affected the relationship but it ultimately wasn’t the cause for their issues. It looks like There’s an underlying pattern of abuse between them.

[@MrBg76]

Nolan did the right thing. Jarrell started being disrespectful . Once a person verbally abuse you the next step is physical abuse. I don't see how Nolan can talk about Jarrell feminine energy when he has on a face full of makeup....

[@gqg741]

He doesn’t want him but doesn’t want anyone else to have him. Don’t get back with him.

[@humbled92_Mister]

Its been very interesting seeing Karamo's evolution. I remember him from The Real World. Glad he is so comfortable/secure with his sexuality.

[@KKA868]

ikr

[@DDominoGeronimo]

🥰

[@aquarianangel8846]

Wait... is karamo gay?

[@creamfiend84]

3:43

[@wavveytae4181]

@@aquarianangel8846yeah girl where u been . He got a whole hubby

[@stormA89]

Karamo just took an ugly side narcissism, laid it out like a soft warm quilt, and gently picked the thread along the middle so that one may become two, w/o spitefulness, w/o causing more tears to the fabric. Thank you Karamo!

[@georgia1191]

Beautifully written and constructed

[@teehee83]

When does your book come out? Send me a link ❤

[@mommyofceos]

The body language between the two spoke volumes. One was open to reconnecting with the out stretched arm and the other guy was leaning away as far on the other side he could get.

[@aqueen4life40]

Nolan is definitely not interested in a rekindle ❤ and this interview shows exactly why “ not coming home and have to battle you to “ Jorel is apparently verbally ,emotionally and mentally abusive

[@DJ-zd3gj]

Wouldn’t you lean away if someone kept tearing you down?

[@opulence_prime]

I hear you but did you see how he hugged Karamo? He’s just open like that.

[@starloced]

the woman in the crowd yelling “ i knew it! “😂

[@ud558]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@aglightskin]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hopefullyjhs]

whenn

[@virgosrus5733]

When lmaooo

[@skypie5374]

Yes mam 😂

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

It wasn't social media that broke them up. It just put a glaring spotlight on what the real problem was. Abuse.

[@solracshooter4769]

Karamo summed it up perfectly at the end, he needs to take time to himself and decide what he wants, we often make people fit and change who we are just to be or say we are in a relationship.

[@iashtonn5522]

Jorel gives narcissist.😷 I had the exact same situation, Nolan talking about how Jorel called him weak because he asked for him to respect his feelings, with my ex. Ew!

[@DJ-zd3gj]

YUP!!!! The exact type of person to avoid at all costs!

[@carolharris5455]

Oh my goodness yes!!!!! I don’t think he knows how to fully love and I think he wants to attach his self back to Nolan for clout reasons. The verbal abuse would get worse along with mental abuse until he wouldn’t even be able to leave

[@TeaLeaf222]

I'm proud of Nolan for moving on.

[@ZenBenzineX]

Sometimes we force ourselves to stay in relations because we don´t want to fail, because is easy, because we get use to it... But sometimes changes are also good, at the end love is when you find the right person, the right moment, the right energy. So, if something doesn´t work, staying just because in the paper work, is not a good idea. Good Advice Karamo!!!

[@kuromikendall]

my favorite youtuber. always staying out of drama. always caring for their fans. always keeping it real with their fans. giving back to their fans. thank you.

[@childofgod3135]

♥️

[@nononsense7615]

Who is the "youtuber"?

[@devion7709]

Omg Nolan seems so chill and mellow i can’t see him trippin 😂😂😂

[@devion7709]

Wait nvm then b the ones 💀💀

[@chaneldoll3481]

@@devion7709 😂😂😂😂

[@NoDeductions]

​@@devion7709I was bout to say don't be deceived by types like dat 😂😂

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Many people are chill until they are provoked

[@jacwhit1712]

Being able to accept someone isn't for you is tough. But Karamo gave good advice

[@ccosby3712]

Your show gives me the old school, Sally Jessie/Rolanda vibes; where there seemed to be an intentionality to really help people. Way to go my Rattler Bro! Keep it up!

[@mine332way069]

Yeeess Sally Jesse 👓lol that was my show

[@gioism24]

Lololol! Jorel's eye roll at @13:34 did it for me. He wants that man back!

[@ayoq9956]

I appreciate the transparency from the BOTH of them. I hope they both find peace wherever that may be for the both of them. I would’ve never thought they would’ve gon through these kinds of things just looking at Instagram, but I guess that goes to show once again that everything that glitters ain’t gold. And you REALLY never know what’s going on in people’s relationships

[@alanboy5532]

Before Nolan came to the couch, I could tell Jorel was the problem. And then when Nolan came on, it confirmed that Jorel was always the problem.

[@angelawilliams6913]

So far I love Karamo he gets to the deeper issues he keeping it real

[@feliciablackwell6651]

This is a great show. Just became aware of this show. The host is knowledgeable about the issues being presented. His demeanor is well recieve by his guest. I will continue to watch......

[@x_xdeademojix_x1962]

I hope Karamo gets enough subscribers a praise for his show

[@stormA89]

“Charming” and knows how to sell a narrative! My exact thoughts!! I know I’m not the only one side-eyeing Mr. Love him Kiss him Miss him in the beginning of this?👀👀👀

[@Miiksspeakss]

KARAMO you are changing TV history!! We’re behind you🎉

[@zebradivine]

But Nolan is mad thinner than Jorel....tf?!

[@letME1seeIT2]

Exactly what i'm screaming right here and now

[@Vwoods27]

That was really good and eye opening for any relationship straight or gay!!!!

[@norasmith3554]

Being critical of his weight will not cause him to diet. Nolan is thinner than you are, young and very handsome. You are not good for Nolan, you have to learn how to stop being abusive, before someone gets hurt or killed. Accidents happen out of anger sometimes. God bless🙏🏽.

[@allinclusiveselly4688]

He won't change ,my I forgave my ex and he did the exact thing again and immediately I called it out,he got defensive and so I went all in and broke up with him there and then for good!

[@nolabelz]

I don't think this was a story of obsession, per se. Yes, Social Media played a part, but I believe the abuse would have taken place regardless. I am glad that Nolan is in a situation where he recognizes that the other guy wasn't treating him well. I do hope that the other guy does the work on himself to catch and change his behaviors so that he will be the ideal companion for the next person. He and Nolan may have been physically compatible and easy on the eyes, but were disconnected in the other areas that mattered.

[@apinaman]

It's great he moved on, the verbal abuse from the very person you expect support from, cuts deep.

[@Myztic71]

Jorel is a classic narcissist - run far, fast, and free of him, Nolan.

[@tonymolatto1904]

Good advice K. I feel they may both have issues but if someone is pushing your buttons & being ok with it run.

[@stormA89]

Kudos Nolan. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Move around baby! Move around! 🙌🏽😘

[@spreadmorelove5235]

Once somebody blows up on social media, even if they are couple, it won't be long before that relationship ends up on the coals. Keep your relationships off of social media!!!!

[@JM-tq9vx]

I can’t take him seriously talking about he has feminine energy when he sitting there with a full face of makeup on🥴

[@raajaahrajalterego2607]

Right

[@AnthonyJones-pc4dd]

Right😂

[@fabteengh4615]

🤣🤣🤣

[@jn.ooomami]

I’m so glad this was posted! I missed this episode today!

[@quetta561]

Nolan…. MOVE ON HONEY. That dude eyes said it all he’s not right and he’s not going to change

[@barnicoleboy]

As someone who’s been in a queer abusive relationship I am so glad Karamo is spreading awareness of this!! It’s more common than you think! And divorce rates for queer couples are just as high as heterosexual couples.

[@Fragrance_lawyer]

Its very obvious that Jorel was jealous of Nolan the entire time. Thats what jealous people do. They try to put you down and pretend like they don’t know what they’re doing.

[@nunyabiz12345]

I SWEAR the gays are lowkey schooling women on how to handle a man from the chase, to not giving in easily, making them work for your love, etc. Nolan needs to start a 101☕️

[@truthtorpedo4068]

They really aren't teaching anyone, ANYTHING! Promiscuity, yes. Predatory behaviour, yes.

[@mamemb6258]

It's gross that you're generalizing women. Next time say some women and some gays. Not everyone is the same.

[@zacharylavender1568]

The first mistake was putting your relationship on social media.

[@IfOnlyYouKnewPodcast]

Them ones that chase you for a while be no good 😂😂😂

[@Queenladyshy]

Karamo sounds like he done had a couple drinks in the back🫣

[@ciel222]

Jarrell needs to work on the things Karamo mentioned . So that his next relationship can be better. They are very attractive , I wish them all the BEST 😊

[@Sloppyjoey1]

I feel like they weren't fair to Jorel. He's lowkey and gets drained by Nolan's social media & diva antics, but they just skipped past his needs even after Nolan admitted to being violent too him. I feel like if Karamo can tell Jorel not to be harsh, he can also tell Nolan that there's more to life than media.

[@kevinharris3993]

I don't think Nolan is a violent person. I think Nolan just couldn't take anymore of the verbal abuse and just snapped. I am not condoning the violent act. Jorel has an abusive and controlling personality filled with many flawed characteristics. I think both need to work on themselves but not together.

[@Sloppyjoey1]

@@kevinharris3993 "I don't think Nolan was a violent person"?? He was violent, therefor he literally was a violent person. My issue isn't them both being wrong, it's that they both weren't held to the same standard.. everyone seems to be brushing pass the VIOLENCE and him admitting he's a social media attention diva.. and jump to how mean Jorel is lol.

[@andrellsmith9083]

Social media had destroyed a lot of relationships and friendships. I want to have a private relationship some people don't like to see others happy. And silence is golden lol

[@clarapeters6583]

I’m a Domestic Violence Survivor, Overcomer, Advocate, Author. And Speaker and one of the hardest things to get people that’s being abused that DV is more than physical but so many feel as though since they not being it it’s not Abuse.

[@clarapeters6583]

*to get people to understand…

[@kvnghaitian]

There’s some good comments under this video , this is a great video .

[@Pumpken25]

I’m obsessed with you show.. well done ❤❤❤

[@Morrisneuro83]

Jorel and Karamo have chemistry

[@kevinharris3993]

The chemistry is that Karamo has been where Nolan is

[@dennisbatsile346]

shaped like a whale is NOT tough love, LOVE.

[@Karma_return777]

That’s emotional/verbal abuse lowkey. Love and abuse cannot coexist. I can understand how it got to a physical point

[@Wednesday3665]

I loooooooove the GAYS! You can’t even be mad at this lol! At first I was thinking, they just being petty. A lil couple’s therapy for Communication, and they’ll be fine….. but honestly pause. Jorell is giving NARC 100%. A CHARMER to the public but a monster behind close doors. Nolan, remain free, surround yourself with love and be happy!

[@Shefleye]

I already know Grey shirt a Capricorn 😂😂😂

[@savethechild1953]

Who else is having a Karamo binge while cooking thanksgiving feast 2023❤❤❤

[@angmack9719]

WOW my boyfriend is high maintenance and he's not on social media. I could only imagine 2 drama queens. They are prefect for TV not a real serious relationship.. They seem not mature enough for a relationship.. Once the respect is gone everything is gone.. I'm not surprised he has moved on.

[@shewright2442]

Nolan Run! He’s better off without that evil man. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@larasky1198]

When Nolan's ex finds the manly guy he's looking for, the roles will switch and he will become the Nolan.

[@dajosco115]

Great episode. I was most impressed by Karamo. Great job guys.

[@kevinharris3993]

This is a toxic relationship. Maybe they could be friends but this relationship is done. The young man needs to learn to have a relationship with himself and the cause of his demeaning personality. He is a very attractive man outwardly but inwardly, it is dark and toxic.

[@torry24]

Nolan is not THAT feminine, he’s actually the better choice. The other guy will never be in a successful relationship bcus he’s a complete narcissist

[@Imetwurld_]

Honestly I was thinking the same too .he ain't very feminine 😂. I don't think his partner has feminine gay friends because they are ones who act hyper or just love seeking for attention .Nolan feminity is sexy.

[@stormA89]

Bless your heart Karamo!!! 🖤🖤🖤

[@MACMinaj]

So you chased him down for years to hurt him 🥴 #makeitmakesense

[@kvnghaitian]

Basically

[@AnthonyJones-pc4dd]

Right. Tf

[@truthtorpedo4068]

Typical BM

[@carloshill6676]

I almost cried when I saw this and one of them had found someone else to be in a relationship with. They make the cutest couple ........

[@ShesFromVenus]

Nolan is so handsome & seems really sweet. I hope he’s happy!🥰

[@Anteros949]

yea physically fighting your partner is crazy..same gender or not...

[@mRzChErRyIzDaNaMe]

AWESOME episode!

[@theresemadjou5047]

Finally another video👏👏👏

[@TedCampbell-u8c]

I love that this conversation is happening openly with black gay men. So much to talk about here. Much to learn. Karamo is killin it❣️

[@conli6202]

Once you try to come for me or compete with me in a relationship 9/10 I'm ready for it to be over. I'm just one of those ppl who dont do that I dnt joke or make fun of my partners or compete so if you do that to me and I have not displayed this behavior I'm going to check out on you

[@maxwellmediainc]

The weight thing is so weird cause like I don’t think they’re anything wrong with being thick or fat but the man is skinny with a muscular frame so idk why we hurling “ whale “ allegations?

[@ItsAllLove4Real]

Another awesome episode👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🫶🏾

[@pryncecharming2133]

He says his "feminine energy is through the roof" but I don't see that at all.

[@NatalieCarter-fr5lh]

You have a relationship anointing to help people

[@bambibarrett8404]

Jorel doesn't respect the Fabulous Nolan. Nolan got something good going for Himself with that social media business don't let Jorel ruin it for You Nolan. You dream Big and make it happen!

[@shannonjackson4123]

They need to gooooooooooooooooooo their separate ways. Oil & water don't mix....Jorel is the PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And, Karamo always hit the nail dead on the head!!!!!

[@heyheyhey40]

They are on the Karamo show to EXPAND their social media audience. That’s the REAL reason they are here.

[@raajaahrajalterego2607]

Right

[@jaypaidincash]

BINGO. They are both in on it.

[@truthtorpedo4068]

That part!

[@NoDeductions]

Hmmm this needs a pin 📌📍

[@James-Spears-Jr]

Social media can be a bad influence for young couples like them two. But sometimes it's best to keep some things personal, because it can cause trouble for anyone. Them two are nice together

[@iamjesse9398]

did you even watch the episode?

[@brysonmjenkins9295]

So they came on to promote their social media....got it

[@BLESSEDLYLEE]

Chile…I’m obsessed 😍. I have for the educated black gay Maury. I mean that with love! You go Karamo! 🎉

[@truthtorpedo4068]

Oh my...

[@slarvadain188]

They are sooooo cute but I believe it’s for the best. Until Jorel works on himself, they won’t work. I hope Jorel seriously work on himself because I don’t want him meeting someone like him and then end up being in a very toxic relationship. I wish both of them good luck.

[@Vdub481]

Nolan is bomb I can tell he. Has a set goal n that he is determined to live a lifestyle he enjoys n loves some people who are in relationships like this can’t handle something new or different J in the other hand idk 😅he doesn’t give for me

[@pixelking_871]

They are very gorgeous couple

[@Ohsoyoufrank]

I’ve never seen these ppl on social media until now. I will never understand why ppl take social media so seriously.

[@DurandbernarrTM]

“I met somebody.” Case closed.

[@catherinegilbert7057]

angry people always want company 😒 why tho 😒

[@AshTanya]

The title is definitely off because this is not some ‘obsession’ it was literally a business. 20k a month is no joke. Once they started to take off the boundary should’ve been drawn if he wasn’t comfortable making a living that way

[@sunnylove3521]

He has not self control because his EGO is on the markee on his head. He is inconsiderate snd lacks compassion. Leave him now if he cannot change himsrlf.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

Nolan seems so toxic.

[@lunacy3]

He loved the idea of him but not him

[@jtali6122]

This situation represents a lot of gays.... obsessed with optics, aesthetics, and the superficial when they haven't even formed a REAL connection to someone or don't even have an authentic connection to the people they're attracted to. They think sexually first and figure they'll sort out the rest later and it becomes too much of a mess to sort out.

[@yawdy88]

I like when he said " If I wanted all of this I would have stayed with a woman" oh so relatable.....

[@truthtorpedo4068]

Smh! Bruh!

[@ChosenRellll1111]

Hopefully they find their partners man! Good luck to them both! 👍🏽🥀

[@thenubianspeaks4329]

Just because he does not like over the top feminine guys, does not mean he is homophobic, there is a point when if you like men, and your boyfriend is becoming more and more like a woman, then like he said, if he wanted a woman, he could have been with a woman. I am attractive to men, because of the masculinity, that does not mean I do not like femininity, but a lot of gay men seem to work overtime, to try to act like a woman, why??

[@Imetwurld_]

As a woman I agree . A straight man wouldn't like his wife becoming and acting more masculine as time passes . They is a reason his with a woman. He loves the feminine and submissive energy .

[@aarongreen5257]

This is an interesting show... What channel station this show comes on?

[@mannygetpaid8853]

Congrats Karamo

[@Jassy4444]

Kamaro I must say u are amazing you have empathy and intelligence . ❤️