Why Things Didn't Change & How I've Found Peace

🔺Addiction & My Marriage: • Addiction & My Marriage
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Cullen has been struggling with addiction for a while, but has just recently admitted the problem and begun to seek help. Being the spouse of someone struggling with addiction is a HARD road. Through it all, I have learned so much about what I can and cannot change. How do I overcome the struggles that come from being the spouse of an addict? It's lonely and it's a personal journey to discover that it is not your responsibility to change the other person. I have realized that I cannot control or change his addiction, but I CAN control what I allow into my environment. When we start focusing on what we CAN control, we can make real change and ensure we are in the safest and healthiest place possible.
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[@ItsLindaMichelle]

Katie, you are growing everyday mentally and spiritually.. I'm so proud of you. May God bless you on your journey.

[@nancypeteja6560]

Your willingness to share this with us is amazing, because if you help 1 person out there then it was worth it. Your personal growth has really been great to see...you look beautiful and I am so proud of you. Thank you again and I pray that this new journey makes you & your family stronger! Much love from Florida.🌞 💖

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

Thank you so much for the encouragement! I appreciate it a ton. 💕

[@judidunham5037]

You’re so strong, Katie. I wish you so much happiness and peace as you work through this difficult time. I just pray Cullen is putting in as much effort to heal himself. Prayers go out to both of you, daily. 🙏

[@ZetaSPEDucator]

As a child of an addict, I know exactly how addiction can create chaos in your life. I had to learn that those behaviors had nothing to do with me, but everything to do with the person who lives with the addiction.

[@susanroper8024]

Oops... i hit post by mistake... Anyways... I drank on the road... then I drank at home...then I drank all the time... FIVE rehabs later I am clean...not by choice but because I love drinking but I was about to lose it all... and the big deal was I COULDN'T HAVE CARED LESS!!! The fights, the loss of friends the loss of family meant absolutely nothing... Vodka was all I needed... but I went to rehab because I knew I would come out and drink some more... so what made me stop...ME... nothing but me... I got sick of the fights, the crying, the badgering and I went to rehab for the 5th time with the mindset of getting clean... BUT Katie and Cullen if my family (mainly my husband ) had laid off if me I would probably be in jail or dead... I drank if I was awake... literally... awake...being clean is 90% mental... rehab can dry you out clean you up and tie a bow around my neck and send me home but I had to want it for me... HOWEVER!!! If my husband had not harassed the living hell out of me I would never have quit... so Katie if you see or even think he is using you do not need to think it's just his issue... he is apart of you and codependent, attached at the hip or whatever you want to call it... you have every right to badger him about it...do not draw a line in the sand and say it's 'his' problem because your life is being affected and it will be your name on divorce papers along with his... so if you want to jump in his ____...jump!!! I agree it's his place to talk about it with other folks... but never ever feel like you don't have the right to say as little or as much as you want.... The other night on your live video you talked about him using as an escape… It may start that way but it quickly changes... it becomes more important than anything... and I mean ANYTHING!!! Including food and water... it's like air... my addiction was a very long one, not a year or two so my addiction may look very different than the next person, but after many years of it, they all look the same... WOW... lol ... and that's the readers digest version... lol 😂 I have been keeping y'all in my prayers but y'all both need to know that there is addicts next door, down the street and at your church... so there is always support for both of y'all everywhere... I think y'all are seeing that and with the internet there is always someone to talk to that doesn't have a thing to lose by talking about their struggles... so if you need help or a shoulder there is one as close as your phone... OK OK OK I'M DONE!!!

[@kell0125]

You are amazing! Great Job at fighting every day.

[@kimgraff9892]

I appreciate hearing from the addict's side. Thank you. When you said the addiction becomes more important than anything, you hid the nail on the head.

[@maizee11907]

Katie thank you for sharing. Ive been with my spouse for 21 years next month. He is an addict. He was clean for 6 years and relapsed on Dec. 20th. He lied straight to to my face but I knew the moment he walked in the door. I was so angry and hurt. He finally admitted he was messed up. I'm 39 years old we just bought our first home. I felt all alone and my hands tied. I started watching your channel and you are giving me hope. Thank you. Its time I face reality.

[@minimouse397]

Katie , do you think that Cullen should be going to work everyday at a job outside the house . Maybe he needs to get out there again and try to hold down a 8 hr job.

[@TheCobra867]

millions of 9 to 5 career folk have addiction problems. That wouldnt fix it.

[@bew1972]

Mouse Hoult I totally understand where you're coming from with your comment. I am quite sure that an addict is an addict whether they are working full time or not. I think to take your thought one step further I would say that maybe Cullen needs to find something he can focus on and that gives him the creativity that he is so good at but the structure that he may truly need. All I know is my heart goes out to this family and I pray Cullen is able to make these important changes in his life because he wants to be a better version of himself and not because he thinks that's what Katie, his family or even us, wants. I definitely think you are right though with getting out of the house or at least to find something to take his mind off his addiction.

[@AlessaM183]

I have said this as well. I know a lot of people that work “real” jobs struggle as well. But I think he needs an outlet for his energy. I think it would benefit Katie as well.

[@Denaderoode]

Who is strong enough to create an addiction is strong enough to end it as well. Better sooner than later because Cullen might loose everyone who really matters. Katie you are going thru major changes (lost an amount of weight, got rid of a lot of clothes and so on) all signs of your new you. With or without Cullen in the future. You are a power woman! Cullen, do not let everyone slip tru your fingers because it allready happens! Be strong and take all the help you can get to get rid of your addiction(s). You and your prescious family are worth it!!!

[@olyathomas8577]

Thanks for being honest with us. I’m sorry that your all going through this but you can tell how much you both are changing for the better. Thank you I needed to hear this message!

[@cherylmortimer2914]

Wish i knew this before. I realized my happiness and my kids happiness comes before a partner with an addiction. His choices was not going to control my life of course before i finally left him.

[@Purplebutterflychic]

Love you guys. So glad that he is willing to get help.

[@katfish423]

Sadly my ex never took responsibility for his addiction, and continued to blame me (even after a 6wk inpatient addiction treatment), and did NOTHING to help himself. It became clear after this that I had no choice but to get out of the marriage (married for 28yrs) It has been a lot less stressful living apart from an addict, but not gonna lie, this has been financially devastating to me and my kids. Getting divorced from an addict/narcissist has been no walk in the park, and going thru the court system is a NIGHTMARE. But, at least when I am home I can relax and not be on edge every minute like living with an active addict had been. I’m broke financially, but my spirit is stronger after learning these lessons you have now been learning Katie. Saving ourselves is up to us, in whatever way that works. It for sure isn’t a straight path, but worth the effort!

[@maryroberts9035]

It's all about handling the yucky stuff....and your doing great!

[@jenabug1211]

Katie, I have felt so broken for the whole year of 2018 because of post partum depression. You’re videos are so inspirational for me. Thank you for opening up and also helping me.

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

I am so sorry. Post partum depression was so rough for me and it's complicated so much by the life circumstances of caring for a baby while trying to find time for yourself. I promise you there is light on the other side! 💕

[@brookej9010]

As always you speak to my soul Katie. I don’t always comment but truly I needed to hear your message today. Thank you!

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

🙌🏼💕

[@kellimcnamara6435]

I’m so glad that Cullen came forward to share this and that you have found a place of peace!! I have connected with you on so many levels of codependency, even playing your videos for my husband saying “is this not me”?! I can’t choose anything without his opinion, and then I’ll still call my mom and my sister for their approval as well!! But, beyond all of that...I’ve watched your vlog over the years and this has brought clarity to something I had observed. I would see Cullen act out and be his crazy self and you would sometimes get aggravated with him or particularly annoyed and I used to think, man, she’s kinda being hateful...now I understand where this was coming from and I’m happy for you because, quite frankly, his addiction painted you in a negative light at times, only because he hid it so well, at least from the vlog, and it’s east to see now that it was your frustrations over the hurt you were/are experiencing watching the love of your life self destruct. Many prayers for the two of you as you continue on this path of healing, both individually and as a couple!!

[@thelissoway6758]

I have left my husband 3 times because of his addictions and actions. Im currently separated and setting boundries is so hard. Its hard because we have a 1.5 year old and im due this month. I wont put up with anything less than being treated like gold and being put first. If he changes and by some miracle he works on himself maybe we will get there but for now im not accepting anything

[@cjrsmom1106]

You are so so strong. Big hugs and lots of prayers for your amazing family.

[@Courtjowhite]

Sounds like you are on the right track to your recovery. As a recovering alcoholic I can tell you there is nothing you can say that will change him. Action is what is took for me. I went to treatment twice in 1 year. My husband is a saint! It took him saying and doing exactly what you are talking about. I am 3 and a half years sober and my family is still together today because Thats what I wanted! How can I raise 2 girls to be strong and love themselves when I am the weakest person in their lives?! I have been thinking about you all♥️ One. Day. At. A. Time✌🏼

[@shannonser5368]

What I tell my husband is, "You can do or say whatever you want but you don't get to control how anyone reacts." You don't get to decide if it makes me mad or how mad about it I get. The reaction is out of your control.

[@robinbrown7953]

So glad that you are doing well and have found a way to be happy and strong in the midst of hard times.....and also it’s so refreshing that you are using your channel for something with substance and worthwhile. You are helping other people with your channel and not just posting something to make money or get views...Not many real family vloggers anymore....and many of the ones i used to watch have just become an ad for the family channel brand. Thanks for keeping it real. I am older, don’t have the same issues as you, but have been dealing with setting boundaries in my own life....and your talks help keep me on track a little more.

[@ashleyharris1428]

This is so refreshing! Finally someone just says here are the facts as I see them. No apologizing, or him hawing or trying to be politically correct!! Thank you!!

[@cassandrageel6854]

Katie, I’ve been a silent watcher since you were pregnant with Gaines. I’m only 4 minutes into this video and it is already helping tremendously. What a wonderful way to explain how to grow and rise above these types of situations. EVERY viewer can relate this to their life in some way. Also wanted to say that the transparency you’ve had since this problem has made your videos so much more relatable. It’s truly admirable bc I’m sure it’s not easy to put yourself out there always. Thank YOU!!

[@ReadAloudForKids]

Thank you for sharing.

[@MMDemp]

You look so beautiful and at peace, Katie. This is a very inspiring vlog.

[@cenzicrain2791]

I heard Nothing Changes if Nothing changes internationally and you said it a couple of times in the video and it reminds me that I need to make changes to my life.

[@sammiwalden2346]

Love everything you are saying it is very inspirational. Nothing but love and prayers for you guys in this time.

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

Thank you so much! 💕

[@sammiwalden2346]

@@KatieOnTheFlipSide nothing but love for you and cullen!! Its so helpful with me speaking out on things and working on my own boundaries. We are nothing but human 🙏💖

[@samanthamurison4582]

KatieOnTheFlipSide Curious to know what addiction he encountered ??

[@sammiwalden2346]

@@samanthamurison4582 I dont think it is any of your business oranyone. They are just people and deserve some privacy. What ever they share is on the videos. Just send prayers and loves

[@viva2pk]

Good stuff...thanks for sharing. I particularly liked how you said what environment you’re comfortable in may be different from someone else (no matter who they are). 😊❤️

[@karolynkitchens6447]

Love this! Prayers for you me family! Stay strong.

[@donnaowens8963]

Wow Katie u make so much sense I wish u were around to help my husband when I was going thru this he was so lost bless his heart. But he stuck with me and i (we) got thru it I've clean for almost 2 years now from being addicted to opiates for back pain smh.. We will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in 2months 💜

[@heatherdaniels7118]

Love it all! You go girl! You really sound like your working on you and that's key. There is hope. My dad's a recovering alcoholic... 10 years sober, me 7+ years clean and my husband 3 years clean. Keep keeping on! Love you. NA and AA saved our lives!

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

That's amazing to hear!! How strong you are to make those changes when surrounded by the patterns and struggles that come with being the daughter and spouse of people who struggle with addiction. So inspiring! 💕

[@heatherdaniels7118]

@@KatieOnTheFlipSide thanks so much! That means a ton. This year is the year for me of doing me and not worrying what others think. Enjoy your days. We also have an almost 4 year old girl and 1 year old boy, similar to you. I'm so glad you all are talking about addiction. It's real and a thief for sure. There's is recovery though it doesn't go away. One day at a time!

[@ginah-t]

I had to add this to "Watch Later" for when I need this again... For when I need courage.. Thank you for sharing this!!

[@PudgyRose]

This is the best video that you've ever produced. You are sharing and living TRUTH.

[@eternal.prospect]

I've only just started watching so don't think this is all I'm getting out of this video (I know I'll learn something from it), but that color on you is everything!! I think it would be a good lip color on you too. Now onto the video 😊

[@judithallen8091]

Maybe a 28-day resident program might work for Cullen; it worked long ago for me. It allowed me to not keep changing the subject or the focus. And, then I could also resist the urge to immediately tell others how to stay sober or how not be co-dependent after being only very new at it. Finally I learned that I had only the "I" of my story and not the "you." That's a hard one, I imagine, being a vlogger, but probably worth thinking about.

[@shannonhuff2276]

So will u stay with him not knowing 100 percent he's not drinking or doing drugs

[@juliemarie7675]

You look like the Katie from way back in the Tallahassee days!!! So HAPPY FOR YOU!!! 💙💚💙💚

[@margaretpervier8357]

Katie, you are amazing. I wish I could have had this information 30 or more years ago.

[@mindyvanhorn3199]

This is so amazing! I'm excited for your family and for the peace and strength you are giving yourself by setting boundaries and standing firm on your convictions!

[@planwithkellye2926]

Great attitude but it’s natural for your spouse’s actions to affect your life. I hope he does change or you take yourself out of the situation.

[@carriedavis8053]

OMG Katie ...I am a 55 year old women who after 20 years my husband finally went through recovery. My last year was so hard and good. Now this year I have to do ME! I absolutely love your chats like this. Thank you!

[@judyoneal7887]

When I hear folks say, “it wasn’t being done to me”, I kinda cringe. It feels untrue. I lived in a marriage with active addiction for 15 years. There were times it was worse than others. I wanted my marriage so stuck it out for as long as I could, supporting him thru multiple attempts at sobriety, setting personal boundaries, hoping and praying he’d find lasting sobriety. When it became obvious his using had escalated and I couldn’t leave him home alone with our young son because he was using while I was at work, I knew it was over. I could not, would not put my son at risk and we never lived together after that night. I say I cringe because while I don’t think my ex-husband sat around thinking, “I think I’ll use today, or I think I’ll spend money we don’t have and bounce checks to by drugs, etc., just to hurt my wife and son”, none the less, we suffered as a direct result of my ex-husbands choices and drug abuse. We suffered emotionally, financially, and in many other ways. Addiction not only wrecks havoc in the life of the addict, it can wreck havoc in the lives of people in relationship with the addict no matter how many boundaries you set.

[@laurat7324]

Wow...this has so many applications...not just for the spouse of an addict! I took a lot away from this! Thank you for sharing.

[@trishlawrence396]

I am of course so sorry y’all are going through this, but you have no idea how many people y’all are helping by allowing us into this journey with you. It’s a ripple effect that you will never know the breadth and extent of

[@dannydanny9875]

Shine your light Katie!

[@StephanieBogart]

My mom is an alcoholic. Her kidneys are going bad, and she’s getting what we think is alcohol induced dementia. But she won’t quit drinking. It really sucks because it’s something she can change to get healthy but she won’t.

[@samanthamurison4582]

@katieontheflipside Curious to know what addiction he encountered ??

[@beckymoran321]

This was so eye opening for me. I don’t have an addict in my life, but I do have someone who doesn’t treat me well. This applies to all sorts of situations! I am so glad you share with us. It helps more than you know.💗

[@lynetteeaster1541]

Love & Prayers to you and Cullen and your sweet little family.

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

Thank you!

[@kaeknorrs6663]

This talk actually applies to a lot of areas in life. For instance, learning to have patience for my 4 year old who has been acting out. I notice the day goes much better if I'm awake at least an hour before her, I feel well, we're active together, there's no tv and limited sugar, etc. I know that the right environment makes her happy and she doesn't get bored and start asking for sweets or yelling/hitting at me. I'm also able to be the patient parent I know I can be because I've set myself up for a peaceful day by getting enough rest, getting some light cleaning done with her, going outside, etc. Ignoring the addiction issues, I've seen a lot of similarities in the two of us and that's why I've been watching your channel over the last almost 2 months after not watching your vlogs for a couple of years. It seems like we both lack natural self confidence and discipline to get done what needs to be done on a healthy schedule. We put things off, get overwhelmed, things don't happen. I started noticing my spending and collecting of items habit about 5 months ago and have shifted to a much more minimalist lifestyle. Watching your videos of you working through your struggles has reinforced the realizations I've come to in my own life because I see it's working for you. My husband has said this in different words so many times, but your "nothing changes if nothing changes" statement is so simple it hurts. I have so many things wrong that I don't know how to fix them all. Well, I can't fix them all at once but nothing will be fixed if I don't make a change. Thank you for your openness and good luck.

[@icecream4depression]

How do you set a boundary of them not being in your home when if you kick the out you won’t be able to pay rent? Being homeless is a real fear of mine.

[@rebeccawahl4118]

He does not admit alcohol is an addiction to him. Check out the last podcast.

[@LTM8689]

You are amazing,

[@KayeCarterTV]

Well said sweet Gal! Sending love, hugs, prayers and kindness. 🙏🏻💗🙏🏻💗

[@LoveMy2Doxies20]

Love you guys. And your channel. Kate do yall attend celebrate recovery?

[@KatieOnTheFlipSide]

We have not. I've heard great things about it, though!

[@LoveAlwaysAngi]

I admire you both for your openness and candidness and willingness to talk about these issues. Much love and prayers.

[@NickiHorn78]

Celebrate Recovery is a great Christian based 12 step program available at many local churches. It’s for ANYONE with ANY hurt, habit or hang-up.... everyone can benefit from this program. I wish I knew about it sooner. It has helped me to break free from my need to please and perfectionism!!!

[@PatiencesMom]

Divorce him, You deserve better.

[@Luvandblessings]

Thank you for sharing.

[@PatiencesMom]

So dont cry to us if you wont change it.

[@PatiencesMom]

What you allow will continue.

[@ericagoehring1089]

Proud of you, Katie!

[@countrygirl7308]

❤️🙏🏼❤️

[@marydavis2946]

Such good topics... boundaries, goals, positive changes, etc. These topics are the hardest for me but hopefully by doing a little at a time will be helpful. Thank you Katie for your vlogs!👍😊💖

[@darlenesmith7680]

You're an angel on earth Katie! We are friends-you just don't know it! :-) I am SO happy things are getting better for you and Cullen and I sincerely pray they continue! May Gods amazing Grace always guide and heal your soul! THANK YOU for helping to heal mine.... You're absolutely an answer to a prayer!! God is using you sweet lady....to heal MANY hearts! 💛💛

[@dannydanny9875]

[@wileybunch2001]

Katie, you are SO RIGHT! Logically I think many probably *know* this, but don't live it. I am old enough to be your mother, independent, successful, but I am allowing others' choices to change me with their choices and I needed to hear your straight talk on this to connect a few more dots to have clear thinking. Best to you!

[@krsandberg]

I have been here since bamachick days and for the first time, I see a confident, beautifully strong, glowing, focused woman. Wow! All these thoughts are applicable to so many situations. Thank you! Keep it up!

[@sarahb3671]

I have a story about me and my x but don't feel comfortable posting it. I tried to change him for the better but he went back to the old him and ditched our child and me it's so heartbreaking. I totally relate to this video

[@sarahmackin4149]

This video is exactly what I needed to hear! I struggled with having a partner that has an addiction and all 2018 all I did was blame myself, the what if’s always played in my mind, (maybe if I was skinner, maybe if I was prettier) I admire you for stepping up and doing what’s best for you and your children to protect your environment. I hope in 2019 I can find that within myself, the fire that use to burn so bright before. And I hope by the grace of god you and Cullen reunite better and stronger ❤️

[@t_elisbeth]

I’m only 21, don’t comment much but I really do enjoy these videos. I know I’m going to go through so many more obstacles. It’s helpful to see how other people/families deal with certain things that can happen to anyone. I also watch these to see if changing my mindset and course of action about certain thing can prevent some drawbacks. Of course, I am aware that in real life, things are unexpected. But I still take notes from these videos in hopes of a organized, healthy lifestyle.

[@KimBerly-su7wx]

Katie,you inspire me so much. You are handling this journey so well. You are going through it with class and unashamedly. Thank you for sharing your experience and your advice. You and Cullen are continually in my prayers. Love y’all!!

[@badtaz2004]

Why did my therapist and I just had this conversation. What do I want? I am working on worksheets. Saying this jokingly “Katie get out my life!” Lol

[@armstrongcatherine]

Dear Katie you have no idea how much this conversation meant to me. My husband cheated on me for over a year. He then moved out for one year and then moved himself back in. I feel so lacking in boundarys and control of my own life right now. This really spoke to me. Thanks for sharing. XXX

[@sheam.9806]

Love this!! I have never posted on your videos but I needed this today. Personally, I struggle with my husband sleeping a lot on his days off and not helping out with the kids when he isn’t doing anything. He doesn’t have a drug addiction that I know of but I’m my opinion might have an addiction personality. It’s so hard to not nag, but I am starting to realize I can’t make him do anything but I can change myself. 🙂

[@Adelelg80]

Thank you. Really. This video is very useful and instructive for me, right now. You are strong.

[@melissacarter2868]

As you’ve been going through this process and sharing with us since September I’ve been a bit confused but since y’all have shared what’s been going on it all makes sense and I’m so proud of you for the progress you’re making in your mental and emotional health. That can’t be easy but you’re doing it and the difference is apparent in you! ❤️

[@marlasturgill3880]

Thank you for sharing! Glad too know you guys are making progress, God is Good... Love you guys, prayer warrior from Kentucky....

[@tashleykinard6183]

♥️ keeping y’all in my prayers! To piggyback what you said about things not changing.....They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

[@amielawson8344]

Just wanted to give more support. Please know that if you need to separate from Cullen to put yourself and the kids first, know that is okay. That doesn’t mean you failed, it means Cullen failed with the choices he made. You cannot carry the burden of his choices. Please know I am not saying whether you should or not, I just want you to know that you have my support no matter where your journey takes you.

[@dreamergurl2008]

It drives me crazy every time my mom comes around to visit and I just feel like shes constantly disappointed or judging how I chose to live my life. Even at the age of 28.

[@alysiaricker747]

I'm excited for you Katie!! 2019 is gonna be a good year !! I also wanted to tell you that I feel now some of your previous vlogs and messages about boundaries that you shared totally make since. And I just wish u all the best. Cullen too! I'm glad you as a spouse though are talking about it and not sweeping it under the rug. Good job to u and Cullen .

[@taramurphy89]

Katie! I’m praying for you and Cullen. Love y’all so much!💗

[@nikkilachance3478]

Katie, can you be my life coach? Seriously, I'm going to have to play this on repeat until I can start thinking like this naturally. This makes so much sense!

[@Weswife1998]

💜

[@blessedbabe8318]

Yes you do have the right to tell him because you have children together and he is a parent! Cullen is going to have to decide family or addiction! I watched the video where he tells about when you guys met and were dating he knew then his bad choices were not going to make you happy! He chose to keep on with them ! At some point early on you saw the signs and began to participate in it anyway! One thing that you must let prevail is the love of Jesus in all and only that will break and chain of addiction! Also if you’re going to keep the environment for your kids safe and away from drama! I speak love peace and victory over your family in Jesus name!

[@jessicafrith4341]

Katie thank you so much for this video..my 15 yr old daughter is going through bad depression and anxiety ..she isnt suicidal or on drugs but is struggling so bad. As a mom im doing everything i can..therapy..meds..being there for her and its not helping. I know this is out of my hands..it makes my husband and i not come together in this situation. I have come to realize that i cant fix..or make everyone happy. The only thing is getting my daughter better. Your right ..i only allow what i allow. This has gotten me alot stronger.

[@angi79532]

I think this just goes to show you never know what is going on behind closed doors. We watch this lovely family with a beautiful home and and adorable children and think wow they have such an amazing life but they struggle with life just like the rest of us. Thank you to you and Cullen for being so real. I know it isn’t easy but you are helping so many people. 💕

[@susanroper8024]

I am REALLY new to y'all's channels... SO... here's a readers digest of my life... I married at 18... still married to same person 43 years later... I am bread winner and traveled with my job

[@meganconnolly5095]

This video really resonated with me. You are so right, working in a space that isn’t good for your mental health can take a toll. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

[@kristenroa5631]

Can we talk about how amazing you look!? I’m glad to hear you are taking care of YOU. ❤️

[@duckyone20]

Giiiirl preach! I have been making a conscious effort to change the way I react to certain situations and talking about how it makes me feel rather then just get angry. Btw, that shirt sparks joy for me, the colour is amazing on you!!

[@suecathcart4687]

The only person you can "control" or "change" is yourself and you seem to be doing an amazing job - keep being strong

[@jennywinget1144]

Everything you said was right on. You are doing a great job detaching and making your life a better place. Take care and lots of love from Utah.

[@sherryrussell6003]

I can't wait for when your vlogs start always checking Instagram for updates 😂 love you girl

[@msmellymel85]

YAAASSSSS!!!!!! Thank you for this and sharing as always.

[@caseytaylor448]

Thank you for continuing to share this journey. Even for those of us that aren’t dealing with the same situation, the advice you give covers so many areas of life. .........on a side note....that color looks great on you!

[@marideathydeelz5334]

This problem is so pervasive. Addicts come from all walks of life. The family always feels like their name is forever linked with drugs and dishonesty. I am impressed by your trying to face this head-on. I pray that his desire to be different is strong enough to get you both through to the end.

[@melissarodetsky4270]

Katie, I wanted to take a minute to write to you and tell you that you have sparked something in my mind. Tears fill my eyes as I type this, and I have only listened to the first 30 minutes of codependent no more and I have never related to something more than this. I feel like this is the start of a new chapter for me and some thing that I’ve needed to find since I was a child. I just wanted to say thank you and I feel like it was truly fate or God who led me to your videos in the last week and helped me to find this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@kimgraff9892]

Thank you so much for sharing your life and the difficulties you are dealing with with addiction. I am in the same boat and after hearing what you had to say it has built up my confidence to set my boundaries for myself.