“Of course it is all in your head, Harry, but why on earth does that mean it isn’t real?” -Dumbledore
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Best quote ever! xoxo
@MugsyMakes5 жыл бұрын
Awesome!
@gregmccarty84765 жыл бұрын
JK Rowling just said the Dumbledore was a therapist before he became a wizard.
@6Synn65 жыл бұрын
TK read another book
@_just_TK5 жыл бұрын
Alejandro Herrera do you mean QUOTE another book? Cause I read a fuck ton books in my free time but I’ll always be a total PotterHead!
@genevievehoskins68295 жыл бұрын
Even people who are going through trauma and stuff ask "Am I making this up?" or "Do I have a right to feel this about this" or "It wasn't THAT bad" so the questioner is definitely not alone.
@katiestocks23614 жыл бұрын
I feel this
@catt85894 жыл бұрын
This is me... and I just feel like I’m faking everything for attention yet I tell no one about it cuz I don’t wanna bother them with my problems
@brianna6694 Жыл бұрын
Me
@_just_TK5 жыл бұрын
AM I MAKING IT ALL UP? {My Brain Everyday}: “Yes, yes you are” 😫😫
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
I know... ugh so annoying!!! xoxo
@SpinBikerRepair5 жыл бұрын
lol
@kathrinjohnson25825 жыл бұрын
"Well other kids are starving" SHUT UP! You are awesome Katie !👏👏👏
Media Content some people use it to emphasize too. You can really use it however you want
@madisonchapman1085 жыл бұрын
@@Bingewatchingmediacontent Who cares if people stopped doing it a while ago, if they want to do it then let them it's really not any of your concern. If it's obnoxious to you then just scroll past it, it's as simple as that.
@Smashachu4 жыл бұрын
It's true on so many levels, just because our feelings are imposing on our spouse doesn't mean we should feel guilty for voicing them.
@skyetan865 жыл бұрын
I do this a lot to myself, telling myself other people have it worse and I don't really deserve to say what I feel. Thank you for reminding me that emotional abuse is valid too. I often struggle with that. I really appreciate what you do.
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Of course!! So glad I could be a helpful resource :) xoxo
@Maya-pk4mt4 жыл бұрын
I’m trying figure out right now if I have a mental illness and sometimes I’m like “oh my god I have anxiety I need to go to a therapist” and then sometimes I’m like could I just be making this up to get attention and thinking about that gives me more anxiety (Sorry I’m bad at explaining how I feel😂)
@bluepotato13713 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way! I hear people's stories and they're so much worse than mine, I feel guilty for putting myself on the same boat ( toxic parent, anxiety, etc)
@youarereadingmycomment16093 жыл бұрын
@@bluepotato1371 I really hope you see this comment, because I desperately need it. For a few months now I have been having problems with self-harming and suicidal thoughts, and I still feel like my problems are not serious enough
@SomeoneYouKnow1232 жыл бұрын
@@youarereadingmycomment1609 i suggest u to get help asap
@neluthecurious83895 жыл бұрын
Even African kids (Me!) get told "there are kids starving in the village" and stuff 😂😂😂😂
@CandyThePuppy3 жыл бұрын
Oh wow! 😂
@sunnie-chan5023 жыл бұрын
THIS!!!!
@fuzzyecheveriaharmsii Жыл бұрын
That is realy nice to hear. It is like someone else suffering doesn't make your suffering any less or go away
@PaintbrushBristles5 жыл бұрын
I wish I had someone like you when my parents constantly told me "other people have it worse" or "everyone feels this way at times." I was never allowed to have or express certain feelings because then I would get in trouble for being ungrateful.
@invisible_killjoy68124 жыл бұрын
PurpleNovels I relate to that so much
@melinamartins44194 жыл бұрын
It always happened to me a lot too. It sucks a lot, I feel sorry for you and hope you're okay ;)
@gameknight95194 жыл бұрын
It’s happening to me right now.
@Ch503044 жыл бұрын
This happened to me too.
@wormbag803 жыл бұрын
YES
@ryantrue48445 жыл бұрын
I have had the thought of "what If I'm imagining it? What if none of these thoughts and feelings are real? Or what if I'm just making it seem a lot worse than it actually is?" A lot over the past several years
@zl22405 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I feel the same
@acexx_vanity4 жыл бұрын
Same i don't know
@SweetTooth11044 жыл бұрын
same ;w;
@catmeowi10304 жыл бұрын
I FEEL LIKE THAT BUT WITH BEING TRANSGENDER AHHH
@spooktyrone9337 Жыл бұрын
Its hard, its like you dont wanna be making up feelings that other people go through and sometimes its hard to tell if your feelings are real. But its best to get help it doesnt matter if you being dramatic or not. I made the mistake of telling myself i was just being dramatic for 2 years, for the past 2 years Ive felt exausted and have hallucinations daily, nothing feels real its like a dream. But I put it off for the longest time and that was a huge mistake. If something doesnt feel right dont put it off.
@OnsceneDC5 жыл бұрын
Never underestimate the power of gaslighting. You can be abused without realizing it, your reality is denied, and if nobody else validates it, it's easy to just accept what was done as "acceptable". This is why I think working with a therapist to get a third party perspective and possibly point out places where you experienced potential trauma is very helpful. I'm not suggesting that this particular questioner necessarily experienced trauma, but it's always a possibility.
@juliab.755 жыл бұрын
Miss E yeah I agreee
@_maia_m4 жыл бұрын
I agree! I thought like the questioner for a long time, ever since I started to get depressed when I was about 14-15, thinking I had no reason to be depressed, so I was just weak and a drama queen. It wasn't until my late twenties that I started to see that I had been abused both at home and by my first boyfriend. But all that self hate had just trampled me down, refusing me to listen to my feelings.
@savanahdesrocher60213 жыл бұрын
Trauma is different for everyone.....
@skoobydoofus59975 жыл бұрын
"Shut up. That isn't helpful." Thank you for that. Thank you so much for that little bit of validation. :)
@catastropheyuh26095 жыл бұрын
Okay....?
@valzugg4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that felt really nice for me too
@griffin18374 жыл бұрын
to anyone who needs to hear this: i believe you. your feelings are valid. your feelings matter to me. you are not making it up. it is not all in your head. i see you. i hear you. i love you.
@Jen_TheSnail3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!🥺💖
@alechennings47742 жыл бұрын
@belynw44572 жыл бұрын
Thank you, kind stranger, for being nicer than my own family
@zevonderwaffle52542 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@O1iviaWard2 жыл бұрын
That actially helped me feel better. Thank you
@PRoseLegendary5 жыл бұрын
I have CPTSD so noticing my feelings/ignoring my feelings/being overwhelmed by my feelings is a huge challenge. What's really been helping me is Emotional Freedom Technique, which involves naming whatever the feeling is, and accepting that it's okay to feel that by repeating a phrase while tapping acupressure points. Eg "Even though I'm feeling anxious, I deeply and completely accept myself". It's been really helpful to me.
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so much for sharing what helps you!!! You never know who may need to hear this :) xoxo
@PRoseLegendary5 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kati, I've tried lots of different grounding techniques to deal with anxiety or emotional flashbacks or overwhelming feelings but Tapping or EFT just seems to have the most instant effect, helping me end the flooding sensation in my brain within a minute or so of doing it. Whereas in the past I've tried noticing my surroundings, my senses, and that just doesn't work fast enough so I'd resort to self harm to ground myself. I think because EFT combines a physical sensation (tapping) with acknowledging my feelings, it really helps plug my brain back into gear. I do sometimes look a bit strange sitting in a parked car tapping myself though lol
@PRoseLegendary5 жыл бұрын
I haven't tried EMDR and I've never heard of brainspotting. But EFT you can do anywhere, anytime, at home, on the train (though you'll look like you're stimming). It's so easy
@ledelmydelreal99185 жыл бұрын
“Unseen wounds are still painful.” Fucking Facts ! Abuse is abuse...
@EMunaBee5 жыл бұрын
"He said it's all in your head, I said so's everything, but he didn't get it..." -Fiona Apple, Paper Bag
@samwallaceart2884 жыл бұрын
Love that song; every line is so friggin’ clever it hurts.
@PatrickAllenNL5 жыл бұрын
Every adult should see this. Not common knowledge
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Agreed. xoxo
@okay64705 жыл бұрын
I struggle with this all the time!! I’m so glad to see videos that are about exactly what I’ve been wondering about. I know I’m not alone, and that’s very comforting.
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
I am so glad this was helpful and comforting :) xxoxo
@marisaswanson20615 жыл бұрын
i love love love these style videos!!!! i’m so happy you’re bringing it back❤️❤️
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Awe yay!! xoxo
@raywood81875 жыл бұрын
Me too but I still miss the butterfly tree.
@marisaswanson20615 жыл бұрын
Ray Wood me too
@benjibluebird5 жыл бұрын
I have D.I.D. and in one of the psychiatric units I was in as an adolescent (before I was officially diagnosed), the therapist kept telling me I was lying about having it. She would insinuate that my trauma wasn't severe enough to warrant the condition and she convinced my parents that I had Munchausen syndrome. I was so vulnerable and so afraid of my own mind at that point that it traumatized me and as a consequence made me switch MORE. Its taken so long to overcome the overwhelming invalidation and convince my own parents that I'm not making it all up. Some people should NOT be in the mental health field.
@benjibluebird5 жыл бұрын
She also said I was switching a lot because "I liked the attention it gave me." As a consequence, we're really good at being stealth lol.
@MissMymooReads5 жыл бұрын
Omg whenever I'm trying to express my feelings due to my current situation in life (which is not very good, I'm struggling a lot to keep it together everyday), my parents always shush me out and brush it all off by saying "there are many people who are also in tough situations, you are not the only one", meaning I have to stop complaining and expressing the fact that I do not feel okay AT ALL. You saying in your video "shut up", that's exactly what I would love to be able to say to them... I feel that they force me to repress those emotions that I have and that's making things worse. The reality being that I have no one else to talk to. I don't think I even have true friends who would listen to me. Anyway, thank you for this video Kati. I wish you could be here to tell them to shut up everytime they say those things to me.
@kennethlang15444 жыл бұрын
Myriam, hang in there. You are not alone. They wouldn't listen anyway. Live through this and get away as fast as you can! ❤
@cyantile54904 жыл бұрын
"someone else's experience doesn't negate how you feel" That is very true, but it limits kinda who you can talk to about your own issues, at least in my perspective. It's like when I hear someone give their story and then when it's my turn I always imagine they would think "I got abused and used... And you.. Got dumped" or something like that, so I just stay silent
@jeremyduer30985 жыл бұрын
Ugh, I so hate it when people say how others have it so much worse, so like I have no right to feel how I’m feeling? Pisses me off and is so invalidating. As you said, everyone is different, everyone has a different level of resilience, experiences etc. Comparing your experiences to others is really impossible, as each of us are one of a kind and no one else can tell us how we can and can’t feel etc.
@edenmilner12105 жыл бұрын
"There are children starving in Africa" when you said this i saw so many times people have said this. You are so right
@rebeccalong36385 жыл бұрын
I think this is very important for everyone in every situation. I left an abusive relationship and usually compare my experience to others. I sometimes minimize my own story because it may not have been as bad as someone else's. This helped me tremendously today. Thank you for what you do.
@beththedarkmage33595 жыл бұрын
An abusive relationship is horrible regardless, you shouldn't feel the need to compare. If someone else went through something similar, instead focus on what you can relate to and bond over it! :)
@somethingyousaid50595 жыл бұрын
Wow, your video was jam packed with insights that I didn't already have. Wow, that was great!
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Awe good! I am so glad it was helpful :) xox
@liveyerrlifex265 жыл бұрын
This is a video everyone needs to see. I am a mental health counseling grad student and i wish i could show everyone this video. Self awareness is soooooo important!
@willneverforgets33415 жыл бұрын
I think our feelings are not "made up", nor random, they are often learned, they come from childhood sometimes, from learned and conditioned responses from the past. Often these responses are no longer doing us good but we carry them doing them automatically.
@tamarajessup13985 жыл бұрын
The wonderful, and terrible, thing about our brain is that it is able to respond to our experiences and emotions by rewiring itself. We can focus on negative memories and the feelings they evoke and make accessing those feelings easier for our brains or we can feel good about having learned from our past, work through and let go of parts of it that weren't so great, and have a better life going forward, because we have trained and changed our brain! How awesome is THAT?
@ciaramcalary5 жыл бұрын
i can’t explain how helpful this is... because i constantly find myself comparing my issues to others and also tell myself that i don’t deserve to feel sad and alone because i’ve got everything i could ever want or need so thank you 🥰
@elzanievorster33515 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kati⭐I just explained to my friend how important it is to aknowledge our emotions and this helped a lot. Also thank you for reminding us that comparison is a thief. Oh and I love the wave analogy
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Of course!! I am so glad you are talking about this with your friend, and I happy I can be a helpful resource :) xoxo
@sixtysix26325 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true. I hate that saying oh, they are people whos worse than you. Like I told a friend in the moment I can only think of myself. So, what I don't have a right to experience what I am going through.
@Sleepyembers5 жыл бұрын
So validating, helpful and somehow refreshing. Thanks Kati!
@caitparker16035 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad this topic was addressed,this is something recently I was convinced sometimes I'm making how severe something is up 💚💚 drives me crazy
@gabbygray92675 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kati. This video has probably been the most helpful out of all of your videos to me. It’s so hard not to compare your situation to others and not think you don’t have the right to feel what you feel when their life has been hell and I’ve been so blessed. I’ve had a wonderful childhood and have a wonderful family. But I feel lonely all of the time, even though it feels like there’s no good reason why I should feel that way. I don’t know. But it’s okay for me to feel that way and now I feel like I can accept it and move on. Your video just really resonated with me. Thanks for doing what you do, I appreciate it!
@storytellerhut34885 жыл бұрын
I think this is such a key point in mental health! Wow! I am gonna watch this one over and over. I really struggle with validating my own thoughts and feelings. Thank you for doing this video!
@Muirmaiden5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! So enlightening and empowering. We should always acknowledge that trauma and abuse is NOT a competition and that you do have a right to your feelings. I do think it is good to know that you are not alone in what you experienced, and that is not wrong to acknowledge your feelings, but be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished in your own right.
@mynamesamyd9885 жыл бұрын
wow you did it again ! you know when i need things, i swear you can read everyones mind !!
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Awe yay!! xoxo
@stephaniecalonge5 жыл бұрын
I love that you’re speaking about this! I’ve experienced all of it. From comparing myself to others and even seeing others compare themselves to me. It’s so unhealthy and digs a deep hole. I know many people reason with themselves to not see a therapist because “it’s not that bad” or they “can handle it” but why put a scale on our problems? It can be small and still deserve your attention and healing.
@lisaalexander20115 жыл бұрын
One of my favorite videos so far!
@gabrieltulliani26464 жыл бұрын
I always compared because that was drilled into me...someone else always had it worse and i had to shut it up and keep moving. I never felt good after hearing that, and now i know why. Thank you kati😊❤
@sarinalight74222 жыл бұрын
I spill my pain & it’s destroying me, & my new friendships. So Sad Today. Thank you Kati💛
@jessicabarrientos58025 жыл бұрын
I looove the wave analogy! It’s so helpful because I need to remember that it will pass. I need to ride it out and maybe I can’t handle the emotion at the intensity in that moment but I know I can ride it out. That phrase is so important to me!
@alliethibodeaux63355 жыл бұрын
I struggle with this all the time. And I know people who have had very different childhoods than me and I think it just makes me belittle the things that happened to me. If that makes sense, like oh they went through something like that I can’t imagine that what I went through couldn’t have been THAT bad. But either way what I went though happened and it happened to me and I’ve spent a lot of my life shoving it down and just trying to ignore it because it happened nothing is gonna change it now. I just hope I can get to a point where I can start seeing a therapist and unpack my feelings instead of shoving them away. Videos like these always make me feel just a little bit better.
@jovanjankovic5 жыл бұрын
Basicly my situation right now. It is really sad that I make these probems secret but that's because I dunno anybody around me who will hear me, I would like to go to therapist because I know he/she will listen to me, who will understand why I think of this every day. Thanks for comment :)
@nneridaa5 жыл бұрын
your comments like ‘i can’t tell you how many times my patients have said that...’ help so much, because they make me (and probably most of us) feel less alone for feeling these things. thanks kati 🥰
@ryannesumbry41305 жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the head!!!.. this is JUST. What i needed... you gave me some helpful tips on feeling and thought tracking, and validating the experience...
@InkyBink4 жыл бұрын
You are just brilliant Kati. I’ve been in crisis for about a week now and your videos have been helping me stay sane in between wellness checks. Thank you so much.
@laurenc92145 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I needed to see! Love these videos. My feelings were never validated growing up and I always felt “guilty” for them and still do. Thank you for explaining and helping to get to the root of the cause❤️
@marisaswanson20615 жыл бұрын
this video was super helpful and very relatable. and honestly it’s very validating to here that my experience is mine and i shouldn’t compare to others. i struggle doing it myself and also my mom often mentions to me which is hard. i’m gonna try the tips. thanks so much!!!
@isana_smh5 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video today. Thank you for your perfect timing
@notme-fy7xe5 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you’re on KZbin. Your videos really help me
@DeMafiaGirl5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes a tiny childhood mini trauma like being lost at the mall or something can stay with you subconsciously and might even be the root of abandonment issues when there's no other explanation. For a child these tiny things are massive and traumatising. If the parent dismisses these feelings and doesn't give a resolution this trauma can stay with us into adulthood even if we don't remember the event.
@laurainrevison11625 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Katie. I had that happen the other day and about every 3-6 months I do have an emotional overwhelming day. I do check in, but I am totally burnt out and need a break, but not able to. I will take a minute, an hour, a day to myself when I can.
@melissasmith28015 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the reminder to self validate emotions, name them, and not compare myself to other people.
@ivankastle80925 жыл бұрын
As a hypersensitive person, I really needed this. You really spoke to me and I'm definitely putting into practice the advice you gave. Thank you so much Kati!!
@jaqueleenbenjamin72245 жыл бұрын
im glad this style is back , great video Kati perfect timing 💛
@nicolablackmore79375 жыл бұрын
Thank you Katie .. this is really helpful to be reminded of 👍
@beck34985 жыл бұрын
Love the non-scripted video! Much more authentic feeling for the viewer
@thebrightestrainbowever38413 жыл бұрын
Thank you for acknowledging emotional abuse. It is so painfully under represented and under mentioned.
@curiousone64355 жыл бұрын
Kati, I just love ya! Thanks for being there for so many of us.
@tamarahoward13635 жыл бұрын
It’s like saying someone who has it better, means we’re not allowed to be happy.
@eliza84375 жыл бұрын
Kati thank you so much! I've been struggling with all of these feelings and you finally put it into words and gave me a solution. I'm excited to try some of these techniques and thought patterns
@Lucia-yc9zj5 жыл бұрын
This is a great video, thank you Kati! Just the fact that so many others feel the same way is a huge comfort. This whole community you’ve created is a big help! 🙂
@AnthonyJohnson-wn8gi2 жыл бұрын
are you okay ?
@that_girl5555 жыл бұрын
My favorite so far! This really spoke to me. Ty Katie!
@valzugg4 жыл бұрын
We need more of these reminders! It's too easy to forget this, especially when a lot of people say things that contradict this, like with the examples you gave. Thank you for this video!
@Bekins885 жыл бұрын
My life so far has had a great number of difficulties, and some of those are ones I chose. I've had friends tell me that they feel bad for complaining when I'm going through something that is worse. I've made it a point to full stop and explain that there is no worse or better "in having a hard time". A hard time is a hard time. Whether you are about to lose your house, struggling at work, experiencing heartbreak, etc. When something is hard, it's difficult to deal with no matter what someone else is going through. Your experiences are 100% valid in your life,and cannot be diluted by someone else's experience of "hard".
@necronyx71765 жыл бұрын
Happy Thursday!! 😊
@yazzy84535 жыл бұрын
I usually never make comments on KZbin videos but I just had to on this one. This was the most validating video ever and it was exactly what I needed. I cried throughout the whole video. Thank you so much Kati 🙏🏼
@treatmenice15645 жыл бұрын
this is the best video you ever made. thank you
@justmythoughts73815 жыл бұрын
So true, I remember my GP telling me years and years ago that I had no reason to be anxious or depressed as I had no children, lived at home so had no mortgage and had a job. Really really helpful at the time, brought on a long period of years of guilt for feeling bad.
@benb77275 жыл бұрын
Interesting. I’m more aware of how my moods affect others than how they affect me.
@nathanielthorne5 жыл бұрын
Best video yet! home run after home run on this one! thank you!
@skyegraham69535 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much Kati for making your videos. They have helped me so much.
@jillianproulx37015 жыл бұрын
Omg Katie this is something I’ve heard a million times but hearing it from you helps a lot because I have never been physically or sexually abused but I am constantly being emotionally abused by my guardian and when I try to tell her how I feel she just constantly dismisses it and proceeds to give her own definition of emotional abuse. It would be extremely helpful if you could do an in-depth video on emotional abuse what it is and how to deal with it. I’ve enjoyed watching your videos and I’m extremely grateful that you make them. ❤️ It’s great for me to be able to see an outside perspective from a trained professional.
@thechaoticentrepreneur5 жыл бұрын
I swear, the original commenter could have been me. I've been asking myself "Am I just making this up?" as long as I can remember...it's actually become more of a problem than the actual problematic feelings that I started out with. This whole video was so incredibly helpful and validating, thank you so much for making it
@brookekilgore59374 жыл бұрын
You’re helping so many people
@Llight-qg9tc5 жыл бұрын
I know I shouldn't compare myself to others. And that being said, I am genuinely grateful for what I do have. It's really hard sometimes to relate to others; i feel inadequate. Somewhere in the middle of, " being sort of ok & being socially unacceptable. Just kinda the opposite side of the spectrum. I guess. I try to make an effort to remind myself to be proud of my accomplishments and continue to move forward.
@eloisemarie52195 жыл бұрын
So good Kati. That was helpful. "All feelings come from somewhere..." Now I understand why tracking of your feelings is important.
@abbeyc48655 жыл бұрын
Working on this exactly! How do you always know!?!?!?!? Love this type of video!
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
It's like we have ESP... hahah!! So glad it was what you needed :) xoxo
@rebeccaking44705 жыл бұрын
I think is my favorite video you’ve done so far!
@aimeegoebel16414 жыл бұрын
Wow. This was so so good! I didn’t want it to end! So thankful for your videos.
@АннаСеменова-ж4т5 жыл бұрын
Yes, go Kati! So many times in this video I was like: yes, yes! Finally someone has said that thinking that someone's feelings aren't appropriate because the cause is not as bad as could be is not ok! Just a few days ago have been in tears because someone I've trusted have said that I should just get over childhood sexual abuse because I wasn't even raped. Also just wanted to say, Kati, I've been watching your videos for quite a long time and they have been a life savior (literally included), can't even describe how much I love them and how much they have helped me through the very tough times. Thank you so much for what you do!!
@alexandrugheorghe56105 жыл бұрын
The ending was beautiful, black screen and only the music... Helps also FEEL the words by sinking in. Especially those of us who had a lot of adversity until early adulthood when managed to finally escape the hell, never to look back.
@mariacastellon29054 жыл бұрын
Honestly, as someone whose parents negate most of my feelings, emotions, and experiences telling me to suck it up, worse has happened to them, or even blame it on me. This has helped me a lot. I have recently moved and I don't many people to vent to but hearing this was exactly what I needed. I also really like your book and your approach to mental health. thank you for making these videos.
@bojidarabatanova43125 жыл бұрын
Oh my god. I've been asking myself this exact question for quite awhile. I'm pretty sure I really have depression, I've taken so many tests, done my research, talked to people who actually have it and can speak from experience. I know it's normal for teenagers to sometimes be tired, stressed or moody, but I know it's not normal for a 15-year-old to be so stressed to the point of having mental breakdowns a few times a week, to feel so overwhelmed that they can't function properly and do their tasks, self-harm and have suicidal thoughts. However, I doubt the seriousness of my situation and believe I'm making it all up. My family recently discovered my grandpa has lung cancer and I feel like my problem doesn't deserve attention or it's not that big of a deal at all. That's the reason I'm not going to say anything about it to anyone; I've been keeping this a secret for about 2 years now.
@natashamudford40115 жыл бұрын
I had to find a list of feelings online to help me label my feelings. The list I really like was categorized by How I Feel When My Needs Are (and Are Not) Being Met.
@leedraconis57935 жыл бұрын
Me: am I making up my OSDD? My alters, speaking time me from the headspace: yes. Me: I knew it.
@colorblockpoprocks69734 жыл бұрын
Glad to see other systems can enjoy some of her videos lol
@brilynn9305 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video Kati. Needed this today really really bad.
@simoneleila50375 жыл бұрын
Thanks soo much Kati !!! You are very helpful and I compare myself all the time !! I’m working on myself
@wildflowerwhispersstudio65 жыл бұрын
very helpful, and a good reminder
@capturethemomentx135 жыл бұрын
Yes! thank you for this! (and also thank you for all your other content hehe) This is so relevant and important! My whole life changed once i started validating my feelings, no matter how big or small they were. I've met so many people that disregard or invalidate their feelings and emotions, ultimately downplaying what they've experienced or are experiencing. Which i agree is destructing. I think it's so important for people to learn and teach children from young how to really deal with their feelings and emotions.
@nicolasmoio76395 жыл бұрын
I love your videos!!! Thanks a lot for all you do! Your videos are really helpful since in Argentina we don't have access to stuff like these. Mental health awareness is pretty poor. So thank u so much
@eliverman5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kati, your video lets me know what I feel is ok, it's real for me. How would you deal with a significant other that doesn't understand why I sometimes spiral into negative thoughts from my childhood abuse? She says, just forget it, let go, that happened 50 years ago, don't let it haunt you anymore.
@alisonhilaire41705 жыл бұрын
I feel like lack of self confidence and this overrated idea that "we must be tough/strong" prevent us from acknowledging and validating our own feelings, which in the end, dehumanize us.
@Katimorton5 жыл бұрын
Totally agree!!! Thank you for mentioning this :) xoxo
@griffin18374 жыл бұрын
totally
@cathiemason28725 жыл бұрын
Paying attention is my struggle! I tend to go down the rabbit hole!! Thank you for the validation !!
@PaulaMMH5 жыл бұрын
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I TRY TO MAKE PEOPLE UNDERSTAND AND I END UP THINKING YESSS I SHOULDNT BE FEELING BAD OR HAVING MENTAL ILLNESSES BECAUSE THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE REALLY SUFFERED THEIR WHOLE LIFE AND STILL GET UP EVERY DAY AND GO OUT AND DO STUFF!!! its what they make you think, they never try to understand, and think you are exaggerating or making up stuff instead. THANK YOU for this
@KWatsonMUSIC5 жыл бұрын
Kati, you are just the best. Thank you always.
@sodakhan54635 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!! Also comparing treatments. Just because your cousin prayed to Jesus and his bipolar went away or you started using positive affirmations and your depression is completely gone after 3 days doesn’t mean that it will work for everyone. And it especially doesn’t mean that the person not getting better is not trying.
@Jessica-Jasmine-Green4 жыл бұрын
This is the perfect explanation of overreacting: you are overreacting to that situation, but you aren't overreacting to you experience.
@juibelly23185 жыл бұрын
Oh yes I needed this video !
@sierrastanworth3605 жыл бұрын
OH.MY.GOSH!!! Thank you sooo much for this video kati❣️❣️❣️. You basically read my mind. I soaked up this whole video! It was so helpful!
@cheeseanpickle98325 жыл бұрын
I love this, thank you so much, its helped a little. I've been feeling so, so guilty about having the feelings I have and I get told to 'put it into perspective' and that 'somebody else has it worse', it doesn't help, it makes me worse. Wish I could tell them this,