Grieving A Beloved Pet

[@tk-rm1cq]

The things you said really helped me thank you for posting this. My beautiful boy Dusty (chihuahua) had a stroke right in front of me two weeks ago at 5:15am, he was crying in pain then went limp. We rushed him to the animal ER knowing all along this would be goodbye. I was able to spend some time with him. I thanked him for loving me for 15 years, told him how much I loved him and what a good boy he is. I slept 24/7 the first three days I was in shock. A week after I lost him the real tough grief arrived. I was inconsolable it was like torture. He was/is my entire world, my baby boy. The things you said at the end about passing on his legacy by giving my love and care to a rescue dog was a bright ray of light, the first since he died and I want to THANK YOU for that. I’ll never forget what you said and I’m very sorry for the loss of your baby. I know it hurts like nothing else. Tina xo

[@excuseme8346]

Thank you so much for your story and transparency. I had to have my dog Ginger put down today. She was my only company for the last 15 years. Like you, what made her special is the love we had for each other. Ginger passed with love and dignity in my arms. Your story has helped me tonight with my broken heart 💔

[@vampiresrfine]

Oh hun, I want to give you a big hug. I had to put my kitty baby down too because he had liver failure really suddenly. They are our babies, our children💜So sorry for this tragic loss of your furchild😥

[@missspiderbaby]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how you feel we had to put down a dog my husband and I had rescued from being euthanized. He was the most amazing dog we have known. We got to enjoy only 2 years with him. He got ill and went downhill so fast. Come to find out he had bladder cancer and it was too advanced to do anything for him. We are still heartbroken to this day and it has been going on a year since we had to let him go. I just feel blessed to have had his previous soul in our lives for even if a short time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and good vibes your way. 😘😘😘

[@MadelineDoll]

So sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you mean about the feeling that you always have your cat no matter what happens with the people in your life. Your cat is there and loves you unconditionally and that bond is so strong. Thinking of you. Thanks for letting us in.

[@ruan8519]

thanks for sharing your story, i completely feel everything you've said... i hope you get through it well, rarely i hear people talk about their pets the way you do, especially cats because of some stigmas about them. i owe so much to my cat and i feel like shes a large reason i can get through my own depression and anxiety. just hearing all you've said, they're lucky to have had you. thank you and sorry for your loss♡

[@citrinesunflower]

I’m so sorry for your loss. 😔 The bond I share with my dog is indescribable, they become our best friends. Sending you positive vibes. ♥️

[@wxckedblue4185]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost a hamster and a gerbil within a week of each other, and last summer I lost my cat as well. It doesn't matter the size of the pet, pets are family,and will always be important. Thinking of you ❤️

[@itscmalvarez]

I totally can relate and really needed to see this video. I lost Skippy last year and on Halloween made it 1 year. He passed away in such a sad manner that it still hurts to remember it. His heart and kidneys shut down and happened so quick I couldn't believe it. I'm very sorry for your loss. I really appreciate how open you are in this video.

[@dawncolayco9340]

Im with you completely similar. My Ubu kept me alive saw me 3 decades. A dog ! Cat is just as important. Heart aching it is . Trying to figure out who i am without him . Almost one month into losing him . Thanks for sharing this! I am always feeling guilty like i should be dead. It all sucks no matter the time or how the loss happens. Everyone says what you are saying and feels it too . I try to help other pet owners too . Oh yes i can so identify ! One more day one more month . Panic crying . Yes cannot eat right . Feel out of it . Hard to feel happy or future. Let him down . I know he is better off now. Videos right before he died are killing me right now. People are being very nice about it at work home. Being gentle to yourself is hard. I thought that right away but it is just grief ! It still comes . No more pets. I hate vets right now. I stood since he was nine worried he was going to die . He lived long but lots of anxiety in when i was going to loose him . He outlived everyone. Theres many videos like this and more . Thanks! Best Dog Ever! I love you Ubu!

[@bobs1356]

U know what helps to get through this is think of all the cats at shelters that don't get homes, and how lucky that your cat got a loving home and was loved till the end, that's what helped me luv.

[@RAE10182504]

I just wanted to extend out my deepest condolences to you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. I hope and pray you make it through this difficult time right now. Once you have my condolences. Take care much love and respect.

[@Totally_Glitched]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that the pain from losing someone close to you never really goes away, but it's my hope that it at least becomes easier to deal with. Sending you love and positive vibes ♥

[@mandy5313]

So sorry for your loss.a few years ago I had to put my cat Amos to sleep he lived 16 years.its just so horrible they aren’t just animals they are friends/babies/someone to talk too and depression is so horrible it really is.i have it to and my pet friends help me so much.sending you hugs ❤️

[@jackiejenson]

I understand this so much! I just lost my baby bubby and it’s been the hardest loss of my life. I found her when I had no one, she was six and had three other owners before me, we had 8 beautiful years together and my life feels like it will never be the same without her. I lost the love of my life.

[@shaunie57]

@Kaylie Morbid. Hi Kaylie, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my brother and Sister cats on Sept 25th and Dec 12th of last year. I was particularly close to the girl cat, she comforted me through some dark times. My grief over the last month has been so over powering, I miss my cats so much. I know euthanasia is the kindest thing to do for our loved ones when they are seriously ill, but taking them to the vets that last time just breaks me. I hope in time we can remember the deep love we shared with our cats and the end bit goes deep to the back of our minds. Shaun, Nottingham, UK :)

[@TheTinkili]

2014 we had to put down my grandparents dog Balu. I grew up with him, me being 3 when he came to us. He too, got very ill, puked blood and had bloody diarrhea... Probably cancer. There was nothing we could do for him. His quality of life wasn't the best before that either, he wasn't able to get his hind legs high enough so he basically dragged his paws behind until they were bloody... It was time, but it still hurt. The worst thing was that I wasn't strong enough to be by his side to the end... I wasn't there when he passed. Still though, he sometimes visits me in my dreams every now and then. ❤️ Now I still have my cat Flocky, she's 12 by now and I hope she stays with me for some more years. She's my soul healer. I have depression and anxiety disorder as well as social phobia and she's just my everything. She chose me from a feral life, and I think that's what makes our bond so special. ❤️

[@amylekan2635]

Hi Kaylie. I understand and I'm up and down with my own feelings over the loss of my kitty a few months ago. I get the guilt, too. My kitty was 21 years old. Even though her quality of life was fleeting, I still felt that I could have done more and had one more day. It sucks.

[@alexisy8884]

Sorry for your loss of cat. He. Will all was be in your heart ❤❤❤❤

[@ZombieLife]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I watched because my pet skunk Isis passed away Saturday night after 7 1/2 beautiful years together. I am absolutely crushed and heartbroken. This loss is harder by far than any human I lost. She was my world and I was hers. The moment I met her was instant love. She may have thought she was the lucky one but it was me who was lucky. Tomorrow is her goodbye ceremony and cremation and I'm not sure how I'm gonna make it through it. The one thing I can say is she is the only thing in my life that I cherished every single moment.

[@SandeJune]

Oh my gosh...I'm so sorry. I know what you're going through. Process this how ever you need to. /gentle hugs/

[@holbol9468]

I don’t think you understand how much this post meant to me and probably meant to others. I came across it today in my feed and I feel like every single thing you said is how I have been feeling the past two months. I’ve been grieving the death of my cat Daisy and I cry on a daily basis. I spent 14 years with her. She was 21 years old and I’m having guilt on having to put her to sleep. She was going downhill but there was still a lot of gray areas and I regret my decision on a daily basis thinking… What if she had another month in her? I murdered my pet. I’m trying to get over this feeling but it’s very difficult. I relate more to animals than people and this has triggered past anxiety and depression issues I have had. I appreciate your post so much because the thing that has helped me lately is hearing about other peoples stories and knowing that I’m not alone in the way I feel about animals and my precious soul mate Daisy. Thank u for this 😻

[@wistaire]

My cat passed away very unexpectedly this morning right by my side. He hadn't been feeling that great, but he was being treated for a bladder infection and seemed to be getting better. This morning while he was eating he made a weird startled jump, fell over and died within seconds. I was right there by his side, but I feel so powerless, helpless and guilty. I've been crying nonstop, and I don't don't know how this will ever get better. I've already been struggling with severe depression and suicidal thoughts, but was rejected medication because 'things will get better'. I feel like the only reason I had left to get up in the morning is gone. I don't know how I will get through to tomorrow, never mind that I have to move house within two weeks. Right now nothing seems to mean anything, the meaning of my life died this morning. I was right there, and I couldn't do anything.

[@KaylieMorbid]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and that it happened at such a terrible time. :( Be comforted that at least you were there with your cat when he passed, and he didn't linger in pain, suffering. I'm sure he appreciated all the care and love you gave him, and he would want you to continue on and live your best life, even though it will be hard without him. Hopefully you can see a different doctor or therapist who will be able to help you with therapy or medication. If money is an issue, check around for local therapists that charge on a sliding scale, or support groups. I know it's really hard, I've been there many times, but please keep fighting, keep trying. You matter, you are loved, you deserve to stick around and see life gets better, and living your best life is the best way to honor your beloved kitty's life.

[@leatherandjade]

Sorry for your loss, luv.

[@KathrynBurke713]

My heart goes out to you so much. My cat Lily passed away a few years back. She was my baby, and someone who taught me how to be compassionate to animals. She was 18 when she went, and due to the bad state she was in, I refused to let her go on in pain for my sake. I loved that cat, and she'll always have a place in my heart forever. I do admit I struggle with some "What if" thoughts. I was living at my boyfriend's at the time, and my mom would be the one who gave me updates about Lily. I knew she was losing weight, but I didn't know how bad she was till my brother called me and explained fully how bad off she was. So I do have the thought of "What if I was living at my mom's during that time? Could I have caught whatever caused her health to decline early enough to help her?" But I know that's wishful thinking. Even if I had all the money in the world, I refused to let her suffer for my sake. Other thing I do struggle big time with is how my cat's last moments were. I spent some time with her before we went to the vet, but she was so out of it that I don't even think she knew what was going on. I chose to not stay for the moment they put her down, based on my boyfriend's advice. He didn't think I could handle her passing in front of me. I held her, cried, took off her collar, said "Goodbye Lily" and handed her over to the vet, who took her to another room. Part of me wonders if her spirit or soul may have regretted me for doing that, or if it could have been seen as selfish that I didn't want to witness her going. Part of me wishes I stayed with her, but another part of me knows that my cat was exhibiting signs of a stroke, so she may have not even been aware of me being there. I knew her passing would be soon due to her advanced age, but still, handing her over to the vet was one of the hardest things I had to do in my whole life. But I know she had a good long life, and she loved me lots, as I did. Just wish I didn't have these "what if" emotions, because I know in the end that my questions will never be answered to them, and all I can do is move on. I miss her thought, and still get teary when I think back on her. Gammy sounds like a sweet cat, and I'm sure wherever he is, he's still loving you and grateful that you were his human. I wish you well through this hard time of grieving, for I know your pain well.

[@audrixialee2324]

Thank you for putting the hotline number in the description. My kitties, Jynx, Hex, and Ash wish you the best! I unfortunately have been through the same thing. I had my best friend when I had none, Oreo. He was poisoned by a neighbor. Inside, I was crushed and had no support. And I eventually hurt myself. Thank you again for the hotline. If you need to message me, please do!

[@wonderwoman22101]

I'm sorry for your loss. I still sometimes mourn my first baby boy cat, Flash. He lived a short life but I loved him with all my heart. May you rest in peace, Gammy. I hope you and Gammy will meet again in another life.

[@bobs1356]

Kayli u think the same way i do. I have to put my 18 yr cat down. But I did give this cat a loving home, and took good care for her. I can't think what would have happened if I hadn't adopted her.

[@bobs1356]

Listening to your story really helped me when I had to put my loving cat down.

[@Keitsuji]

i started crying as soon as you got teary. i lost my baby kitty in september. i had to leave her at my moms home when i moved out, she was too old to make the travel i was about to do and i know she wouldn't have made it if i did drag her along, but i still feel regret not being with her until the very end. she was my everything and now i have to recollect what i thought was my world and my life with out her. its tough.

[@longtail4711]

I'm so sorry. :( I've had to put many animals to sleep over my life, and it never gets any easier. It's so unfair that our lives are so much longer. Please take care.

[@6inTruder]

R.I.P. Gammy. :(

[@aplusalphaomega4848]

awww so beautiful so so beautiful sorry to hear about your cat Gammy but just know I love you so much because Gammy lives on

[@biancajasso6750]

Omg I understand just how you're feeling :(( you can get through this I promise I lost my beloved dog a year ago and he was very old for his age 14 human years

[@aplusalphaomega4848]

Well I love you just know that ok

[@aplusalphaomega4848]

well know I will ALWAYS lobe you stay strong and know that I am with you always I do love you because you live so much and I know your heart stay sweet

[@bobs1356]

Dale Dale, have a heart or maybe u don't have one.

[@thatspookyfeeling]

I'm so sorry about your cat. Pets are people and I take a beloved animal friend's death as hard as any other friend/family member's death. I don't think a lot of people get that, as they're like it's just a pet, and I just stare at them. LOL. Morticia