My daughter wants to go back to Korea Part. 2 [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.09.09]

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[@SaraOanimeOcookie]

Not telling your child that you are moving to another country and might be staying there for many years is like psychological torture.

[@hellydolly]

1:46 As a Turkish, I was very unhappy about what happened to her because of that senior boy. I'm really ashamed and I feel sorry by how that boy reacted to her. Turkish people like to welcome everyone and treat them nicely because we care for people and we can understand foreigners and immigrants because we are also multicultural. Sadly, racism happens in everywhere, even same citizens receive hateful words. But I hope she never receives that kind of behavior. I hope she can found happiness in the future too.

[@Stilbe]

I'm saying this as a foreigner. I'm Persian and took a trip to turkey about two years ago. Idk it's bc cultural similarities or not, but I was very comfortable! You guys are so nice 😍 bad people are every where, so don't feel guilty for whatever a shitty person has done!

[@aysebetul5123]

Çok güzel yazmışsın 👏 Ben de Hello counselor ın her bölümünü izleyen biri olarak Turkey dediklerini duyunca şok oldum 🤣

[@chxrry1009]

Don't worry creepy people are everywhere

[@lunae12]

Helly Dolly That guy must be a creepy dude! Well they exist everywhere. I went to Istanbul last year and the people there are so kind~

[@rozhin6055]

I guess "everyone" doesn't include Kurdish people!

[@kelsietaylor8239]

I feel bad for the daughter. I’ve moved a lot and I can really relate to how she feels. Just moving state to state or even city to city can really mess with a teenager emotionally. I hope she will be able to go back to Korea for university or as an adult.

[@0o0_27]

Oof imagine going to 4 different highschools.... It seriously messed up my social skills... They're non existent...😔

[@Yeye-js3sm]

I feel bad for the mom. They already 5 years in that country, all the eldest has to do is more understanding. Even the second child has no problem to live in there. The only one who has problem is the eldest. Isn't she selfish if she thinking about herself and ignore other? 5years already and she still want to go back to korea, I know it's quit frustrating for her mom.

[@gniliaoaix646]

I understand if she moves to lots of countries but they only moved to turkey. Her parent couldnt afford sending all their kids to school and all the private lessons in korea. They've been in turkey for quite a long time. Her parents and siblings are living just fine there. Only her. Whining and whining. Just because she is korean and she found it hard, she didnt want to learn turkey's culture and history. She didnt even try and yet she's already giving up. If i was her, i would try to open up, make new friends, try my best, and even if i still want to go back to korea then i'll go to the university in korea (if i could i'll try to find scholarship so that my parents wouldnt be burdened financially). Sometimes we need to go out of our comfort zone. There must be something we can learn from. She is so selfish seriously.

[@Yeye-js3sm]

@@gniliaoaix646 agree

[@mariana-kt4lr]

0o0 _ 2 elementary schools, 2 middle schools, 3 high schools, i feel u on that

[@MysteryMeatSoup]

I like the way the cast handled this. Showing the mom that the way she speaks to her child is why they're at odds and telling the eldest how she could stick through it and then live as she pleases. I hope after whatever decision the eldest child makes, she could rekindle her relationship with her mom and little sister, while living the life she wants to.

[@Psycomantis1]

I'm not sure how extended their family is but perhaps the eldest could've stayed in Korea with relatives. In the end, she's almost ready for college, so she can just apply for a school then and visit her parents and siblings on breaks. It's pretty complicated, but I do believe the parents had the children's best intentions at heart.

[@chavellitirtodikromo7929]

If the expenses are so heavy for one child like $2000 per year.. then how could you leave your child with your relatives to pay that much for tuition and living costs. Her sister even still lives with her parents. So that should give you a glimpse of how their financial situation is. So it was fit to bring all the kids, she just didn’t inform them properly of what was going on and how they’re going to deal with it.

[@chavellitirtodikromo7929]

Sorry, it’s like 2 years ago 😭😂😂

[@elifs.3414]

Ps: In turkey , there are private lessons such as piano, swimming.. But families do not force their children to go. They only advice to inform them. If a child wants to go , then their parents send according to their income. And there is a public institutions that we dont even have to pay a coin for many social activities. Also, they dont have to study until late time at school or any private places after class time is over. Their responsibility is to finish homeworks , and they can do at home. And play after the all dayyyyy :) yeyyy

[@BlueMeaney49]

That's YOUR culture. But, when you live in a country with high rates and a couple hundred job applicants for every job, you do everything you can/afford to give your child the best education you can...anything to give them an "edge", including cultural arts classes and languages. Perhaps that is why certain businesses, such as electronics, make Korea a world-leader. You and I are fortunate to live in larger countries with more opportunities, but that doesn't make us any better educated or intelligent.

[@gniliaoaix646]

Same heree in my country. Most parents usually dont push their kids to take lessons if their kids doesnt want to.

[@elifs.3414]

@@BlueMeaney49 they mentioned that there is no private lessons in turkey. So i corrected the info given in the video. And i dont have a response for your comment. Just respect , as you respected mine:)

[@natasya8840]

Her lil brother is so cute tho☺☺❤ he really cares about her can i have a brother like him???🙁

[@zaea4569]

I really connect with the oldest daughter. Her situation's so close to mine. Being in a foreign country where you know no one is really hard. It is hard to blend in with the people. Especially at her age when she immigrated. When I first immigrated to another country for my dad's work, almost everyone had group of friends at school and it was really hard to blend in. I assume that's her situation too. I think the reason why she wants to go back to Korea is because she has friends (and other people) there that she can relate to. If you feel left out in a foreign country, you miss your past life in your origin. And about the "voluntary outcast" that the mom is talking about, I think that is a result of failed effort. At the start, she tried to befriend people and blend in with them, but no matter how much she tries, she cannot blend in with the people, so she's just isolating herself from everyone.

[@georgina4811]

i do not think she was too old to learn the language perfectly and to fit in...I also immigrated for study reasons when I was 18. I can not say I lost my accent totally but defo i fit in more than my home...

[@user-jr4zx9dt2e]

czaialien02 i thoroughly relates to your comment, i feel isolated because i still can’t blend or fit in with these group of foreign people

[@anarchsnark]

5 years on, if she isn't fluent at that age something is wrong.

[@Jaizy]

I think the root of this concern is their not so good relationship from the start. Then the mother had to make the wrong move about not telling the truth that they will move to Turkey. Which probably worsen their relationship. The daughter thought they'll just be there for a vacation but suddenly she's forced to adjust to the country. Missing all her friends, didn't properly said goodbye or prepared herself for it. Then arriving in Turkey, she had to take the adult role among her siblings when in fact she's still a child herself who wishes to go back home. Of course she wouldn't adjust very well with a start like that. She was just 12/13 then, it's a sensitive phase for her and she probably developed resentment on her mom. She could suck it up, move on and stay in Turkey but that resentment will still stay and their relationship won't get better. She was wrong to say hurtful things to her mom but that's the result of her being closed off already from her mom. (not that it's an excuse. just saying that is why those words came out of her mouth though she probably didn't mean it) I have a similar experience with my mom but it got resolved when my mom started showing support to me, saw how she tried to make my wish come true eventhough it was hard.. I started feeling bad and started to understand her so I just withdrew that wish because it was harder to see my mom suffer just so I can achieve what I want. The fact that my mom supported me that much already helped me resolve that resentment I had with her. I think this way too this mother-daughter relstionship can be fixed, if one of them makes a move. Be caring and understanding with each other..

[@cgloa3769]

I’m from Turkey and when i heard about what the boy did to her made me crazy. I mean they should make a complaint about him cuz it’s a crime. The boy gave her info to someone without her permission... he deserves a punishment.

[@BlueMeaney49]

True, but I wonder if the mother didn't take it any further than speaking to the principal because she was an immigrant and might have been afraid to?

[@cgloa3769]

BlueMeaney49 yeah, i thought that as well... I hope the principal did something about this. It is really sad that she experienced smt like that because of a stupid person.

[@李珊-f2r]

M K not all Turkish men are like that

[@cgloa3769]

@@SSA0921 Oh no... Okay that boy wasn't a good person obviously but just don't generalize everybody like this please.

[@janewow77]

About the mom : She must have her reasons to move out suddenly like that but she can't tell in the show. It makes people around her uncomfortable with the sudden decision but it must have been really hard on her that time but the mom has children and husband. She should consider their feelings too. Maybe you want and you are ready to live in a new place but you need to make sure all of your family members are ready or at least communicate properly with them why they need to move out. For the way the mom talks, I can understand. There are times I speak harsh too but I didn't know if it was harsh and I feel like it was normal. Some people just end up talking behind me (I ended up knew from third party) but I appreciate people who let me know directly if I did wrong. The casts here are doing great at letting her know like that so she can learn about it. For the daughter's side : I can relate to her so much too. As a daughter, she just wants her mom to acknowledge and praise her when she does something worthy of praises. She just wasn't ready to move out and the mom didn't properly communicate with her about it. Because of her estranged relationship with mom, her friends are only the place for her to talk to but then she was forced to move away from her friends. Also, she moved out when she's in sensitive age. Then, in the new place, esp with what happened with that boy, wow, it must be hard for her. I know it may be hard but she should study hard so she can go to college in Korea, who knows, she may get scholarship too because it looks like she is actually a smart girl. The way she talks, she looks like mature enough to go to college in Korea alone (she can live with her family like aunt or grandparents in Korea) especially she'll be adult age when she goes to college. But first, I hope the mom treats her as daughter, not just "adult" or "the eldest one". I can relate to mom in many ways but I am more to the daughter's side here. The mom and daughter just need to communicate more in many things. The daughter shouldn't disrespect her mom too much and try to relate with her mom like "it must have been hard on mom too". The mom should grow more empathy to the children esp the eldest daughter. She should praise them more when they deserve it. Also, she shouldn't speak too harsh on her. On side note, I think I like the siblings. The second one looks easygoing and enjoys new challenge in new place and who thinks in a positive way (like how she said she can be interpreter or tour guide then), the boy who loves to stay in Turkey but he can relate to his noona, and the youngest, I laughed for her, so cute.

[@nisasahan1238]

I’m also from turkey but I was born and raised in Denmark, so I kinda understand the girl...like if someone asked me; would you rather live in Denmark or turkey I would for sure say Denmark bc I’ve been here since I was born and I’m used to the danish language/culture and all but she moved to turkey in 6th grade so she was abt 12-13 years old and u can tell that she spent most of her childhood/life in Korea and It could be hard to adjust to a different culture/language also depends from person to person... but if she really don’t wanna stay in turkey forever she could just save up money so she can look forward to maybe be studying in Korea and go to college there. I’ve also thought abt moving to Japan to study but it would take both money and courage to do that. It’s not just something you do overnight

[@hadjokhan6576]

The little brother and sister are sooooo adorable mashallah!

[@Ororo8]

I've been in the same situation as the oldest where I had to move to a different country when I was a kid (twice) and I remember crying and complaining to go back for weeks because I missed my friends, so I understand where she is coming from. Also I totally don't agree with how the mom handled the situation. She should have told her and she's taking the fact that she's the oldest for granted. I also don't like the way she talks to her daughter. However I do think that despite everything, the daughter should make more of an effort to adapt. It's been 5 years. It took me a few months to adapt when I moved but I did eventually. Also her siblings like Turkey and her parents are in a better financial situation in Turkey. It's selfish of her to expect the whole family to move just for her.

[@user-bi5op4tb4q]

I agree!

[@Yeye-js3sm]

Agree. I think she's just selfish for keep asking her mom to go back to korea, even already 5 years to live there.

[@hmmorrison]

I agree. It’s super expensive living in Korea’s cities, and for people who aren’t making good money it can be really hard to provide for a family, especially one of that size. It’s hard for kids to generally understand unless they are having to provide for the entire family.!

[@rosaotterstetter7282]

No one should expect their child to be a family translator in a foreign country. That's too much of a pressure on that particular child. I feel terrible for the firstborn.

[@BlueMeaney49]

That happens in most immigrant families, no matter where they go. Children pick up languages faster than adults.

[@jessieme]

Yup it's quite common for first generation Asian Americans

[@nailuyira1966]

I adore the 2nd child & the little boy's personality. So mature and wise.

[@mariaakinkuolie7610]

I think she hasn’t adjusted because of the fact she simply doesn’t WANT to. She keeps going into the situation as I don’t want to live here, I want to go back I want to go back. How can you learn a language with that attitude?. Despite that, the situation about what the boy did was absolutely terrible. I hope he got into trouble

[@Yeye-js3sm]

Agree. All the way she talking and the story she told just an excuse i think, because she doesn't like to live ther.

[@denali2412]

If the oldest daughter would just be a little more understanding everything would be fine. I don't know why they make the mom seem like she is wrong for doing what she did. They financially could not handle living in Korea so they left. As a parent of 5 she can't just only do what one child wants to do. It's like a majority rule situation because she is literally the only child who wants to go back to Korea... not even just that.. she is the only one in the family who wants to go back so that's a situation that is 6 to 1. If she can't afford to go back on her own she should just adjust in Turkey until she can leave. She should not expect her mom to just fund her way back to Korea because she wants to live here. The mom literally has 4 other children to take care of.

[@Yeye-js3sm]

Agree. She is older enough to understanding the situation. And she is not the only child that the mother should be care about. She has 3 more siblings. More understanding the only thing she should do.

[@IsmaAragto]

I agree. If the mom was being selfish and did it for personal reasons, I would understand but they literally couldn’t afford to live in their own country. Nobody leaves where they know best for the heck of it if they don’t have to and yes, she is being selfish but I alway understand that the mom should have been honest with her from the beginning.

[@DarKirby02]

Being forced out of your situation like that is hard, and I imagine even moreso because of learning an entirely new language. I don't even have to imagine cause I've been through it. Some people can do it, and some people can't. It was completely shortsighted for their mom to make it seem like a month long vacation but then actually stay. Them making the deal for her to be able to go back was fair in that situation financially wise. It could've been resolved by even leaving the elder sister with the mom's sister since her sister was crying and it seemed like she didnt want them to leave. It doesnt make sense to say "this was for financial reasons" but then also say "we cant put you back because we dont make enough for that and I dont want to work anymore so I can be a house wife." It was a tough situation, and she agreed to compromise when her mom tricked her with a game of having good grades in order for her to go back. It was a lot of fucked up shit on both sides but they both reflected on their behavior once called out. Don't make it seem like the elder daughter was completely in the wrong. I doubt you would be willing to make it out to a foreign country and relearn an entire new language and abandon literally everything you had, since the mom said she took very little and ran out of the country practically.

[@densilhmay8262]

I don't agree. The way she went about this was just horrible. To pretend it's only going to be a month and then while starting to live there to rely on your oldest daughter to translate everything.....that's just shitty behavior. Maybe she had reason enough to immigrate to turkey but she isn't just living a financially better life because things are cheaper....she just simply stopped letting them go to things like piano lessons and stuff. She could have saved on that in Korea as well, she didn't do that though because of prestige and social image. Although I understand the pressure of society I do think that it is shallow of her as well. She didn't even say goodbye correctly to her family?! Her sister broke down in tears for gods sake cause she was so traumatized about this woman just saying good bye ON THE DAY SHE LEFT. What kind of behavior is that? You don't just buy a plane ticket for the next day to move your entire life abroad, at least not if you are moving a lot of other peoples lives as well. If she planed it then her not telling her family in advance is selfish and callous. If she didn't plan this it is reckless and just stupid. Of course if the whole family ,except the oldest daughter, wants to stay in Turkey then they are going to stay. But I completely understand that the daughter is being resentful about the whole situation.

[@marinchowRTBP]

The second girl is more mature than her big sister

[@Vaishnavi-sq4tx]

I really hope she studies hard right now and move back to her home country for college - I was so glad they brought that option up in the show. Being in a place that you don't want to can be suffocating, and I really hope her mom tries to encourage her and not go back on her word.

[@aliciahanson2220]

I'm sorry, putting a strain on your finances by enrolling your kid into private school because she was being a huge brat and refused to study at public school? No ma'am, no ma'am I don't think so. I also went through a horrible bratty "I refuse to study" phase when I was 14 and I failed some classes. Do you know how fast my mother grounded me and stripped everything from my bedroom? I legit had no TV, phone, hang outs with friends, etc. for almost an entire year until I brought all my grades up. My mom did not play.

[@evelynl.4885]

Kudos to your awesome mum 👏

[@xsteveconwayx]

Damn. I didn't have a TV, (smart phones didn't exist yet), or anything in my room. It was literally a bed, dresser, and a desk. And that's it. We were not poor at all. A kid having a TV in their room was a huge deal. I knew like one person who had a TV in their room. Your punishment just sounds like a Tuesday to teenage me.

[@beyzayildirim0]

3:30 thats actually quite normal, whenever package comes they need to verify that the correct person is receiving the package, so they are required to ask for your name id/sin number and a signature

[@moonchild7497]

Everyone saying the girl is being selfish but her mom didn't even told her properly they would move on TO ANOTHER COUNTRY. It's also selfish you know. I would be frustrated as well....

[@yunatuna198]

I would be frustrated too but not for 5 years bruh

[@hallomeme6220]

엄마는 아이 교육 때문에 터키를 갔다면서 정작 애들이랑 특히 첫째랑 대화하는 법 부터 바꾸셔야 할듯 ㅠㅠㅠㅠ 공부가 안중요한건 아니지만 공부가 전부가 아니니...

[@anarchsnark]

I understand the elder daughter but I think she is missing out on an excellent opportunity. Many Koreans are learning English or Mandarin to differentiate themselves on the job market, but how many can say they speak Turkish? An international company could look at that and be interested in her but if I were interviewing her, I would turn her away if after 5 years she couldn't adjust. Even if and when she returns to Korea, she may have a hard time readjusting because she has been away so long.

[@misha745]

Haven't finished watching the whole video but can't the daughter return to Korea on her own?

[@exolbtsgfriend3133]

She's still a minor and her mom is worried about her safety

[@misha745]

ExoL BTS Gfriend Yeah. I don't why I was thinking she was already a college student.

[@arroilenehtsirk132]

Live with her aunt maybe

[@AmyStylinson]

ExoL BTS Gfriend isn’t she 18...? Also Korea is one of the safest countries in the world.

[@leemove8086]

@@AmyStylinson she's 18 in the Korean age and it's only at 20(Korean age) which is 19 that you are considered as an adult

[@user-wc9pf1ff8y]

if the eldest daughter wants to come back to korea, she can just come back alone and support herself, her parents can also support her slightly financially. skip the academys if shes smart she doesnt really need it either.. i mean its tough to live alone in korea but isnt it even harder for her to life in turkey plus she has her friends in korea too. just consider it as like an overseas study like how teenagers go to overseas college to study alone

[@Alice-tr2rb]

4:10 In Turkey they have to know your name so they can write down that you took the package and they want a sign from you on a paper so it means you ttake the package thats the reason of that he want her to open the door and he ask her name :/

[@0o0_27]

I think the daughter is closing herself off from becoming adjusted to turkey I mean I understand since she went through something messed up but in order to move on she needs to be able to open up to people around her especially her mom

[@BL00DYR0S31]

fatima Mohammad Why is it that the child has to be the one to open up. Shouldn’t the adult be the responsible one and explain the situation instead of brushing off her child’s worries.

[@0o0_27]

@@BL00DYR0S31 the mother is also trying to make an effort as well but since they are both hurting each other's feelings they need to be vocal about it the child won't tell her mom that her words are hurtful hence why I said she needs to be open about her feelings and not just hurt her mother back Ive been in that situation as well but until I actually talk to my parents and we came to a middle ground I was just miserable and pulling everyone down with me which is what she is doing

[@0o0_27]

@@BL00DYR0S31 and she explained the situation she told her they weren't able to afford Korea but the daughter doesn't want to accept that. She is quite selfish her parents are trying their best she should be grateful for what they can offer she's better off then many children in the world who have no parents at all Not tryin to downgrade her problems but she should be understanding of the situation they, are in

[@Yeye-js3sm]

@@BL00DYR0S31 she is older enough to understand the situation. All she has to do is more understanding. Even her lil sisters and lil brother have no problem to live there, the only one who has a problem is the older one. I think she just selfish if she keep asking her mom to go back to korea.

[@renjunsnostril4092]

@@Yeye-js3sm I dont think shes selfish- her little siblings werent that long in korea whereas the oldest spend her whole childhood there. Yes, she should understand her mother but they were both guilty. You cant just tell a teenager that youll be there for only a month and then all of a sudden say youll live there. The younger ones didnt care as much bc they didnt spend all of their childhood in korea, but the oldest did. So saying that a literal teenager is selfish doesnt make sense.They both made mistakes

[@志瑜杨]

I understand both sides of the story. I hope they can find happiness. Also... I was very surprised and happy when Moon Jungwon showed up.

[@anarchsnark]

Quick note, there was another ep, mum and daughter moved to UK where the mum wasn't learning English and the mum was relying on the daughter too much and the hosts reacted in the OPPOSITE way 😂 they told her she needed to buck up for her mum instead being treated like a daughter, meanwhile they think the daughter here needs more sympathy 😮

[@NachuNagappan03may1999]

Ikrrr😂

[@janisgay5507]

The kids are all very well spoken.

[@obfuscato1090]

These kids are sooo adorable

[@lilyjones4075]

I think the mother does not know how to communicate with her kids. This is the main problem. The older daughter does not feel her support. Ok, the mother was busy in Korea and did not have time for her kids but now in turkey she could be more supportive.

[@choohah5604]

The five siblings looks so pretty.. they must be their school "kpop idol" 🤧🤣🤣 ..and for eldest daughter. Stop complaining. Study hard work hard and move back to Korea if its that what you wish for. And for mom. Its such a good decision to move out from Korean community peer pressure. Not all we see in kdrama are true while the reality is harsh. Wishing best of luck to the family 💜

[@foxypop6577]

This all could’ve been avoided if the mom knew how to communicate better....I mean first she didn’t tell her children that they’re permanently moving to another country, she didn’t know why her daughter was sitting out on chores until the others asked why she did so, she told her daughter they’d send her to Korea if she won 5 awards but skipped out on the part where they’d send her when they afforded to do so, and she told her own family that she’s leaving ON the day they were leaving. None of this could’ve happened to your daughter if you knew how to communicate better with her...like sit down with her, be honest and talk to her like a real adult. If you ask me, this is why the daughter is so traumatized by Turkey. The same thing happened to me when I moved to UAE and I went through the exact same struggles until we moved out.

[@hudazulkifli8040]

jeez, mum. for real??? just say your true intention lmfao? and you are so depended on your first children, she needs her own space to grow up too. then u feel wronged when she retaliate.. u need to work on your communication. say sorry when u are sorry and stop pretending like you are a kind mother while u are not. i pity the first children so much. she also get harassed with the boy from her school and to me it would be a scary experience. but her mom thought she can just brush it off and expect her to notice her effort to talk to the headmaster. communication is important

[@sl3975]

I can't imagine going to a country on vacation for a month and then finding out that you're actually supposed to live there.

[@charitykwofie6817]

I went to 4 different schools in Ghana and came to America at age 12. I'm now 17. I never really like miss any of my friends when I moved. Maybe it was because I liked the thought of going to a new school. Now that I'm 17 sometimes I think of my friends from my last school in Ghana. I didn't really miss them, but after I got in contact with one of my close friends, i kinda want to talk to them I guess. I never understood why people miss their friends when they moved schools, but now I get it. Plus for me when I was in Ghana, whenever I saw one of my classmates from my old school, it was just awkward. I don't know why. It was like we were strangers. I already knew how to speak english and I was eager to go to America so maybe that was why I wasn't bothered. I never treated my friends like close people. They were just people I go to school and hang out with. My siblings and I weren't allowed to bring friends home, so maybe that's why we never really thought about our friends when we were moving schools.

[@Underbluewave]

The second daughter is si beautiful

[@dimpledsunflower]

Ugh I hate hearing parents say I'm tough with my children because I want them to be strong. Children learn from their parents, they learn your habits. If you swear at your child, they will likely swear at you back or if they don't, they will bottle up their resentment and it will come out in a burst of anger some day. The mom doesn't communicate well with her daughter, it makes sense why the daughter doesn't want to talk to her. To be honest, I sympathise with the oldest but I think she can endure until she is about to go to university, then she can study in Korea. I'm not sure how much university education would cost though so it might be hard if it is really expensive. Maybe the oldest can get a job in Korea.

[@Lilyrose23]

As a parent you get a better relationship with your kids if you treat them as individuals with different opinions and feelings. I’m sure if she knew her parents were financially struggling in Korea she would’ve accepted to stay in Turkey until she’s 18 years old. I immigrated to a different continent at the same age and it really makes you shy, isolated and empty. The younger kids like Turkey because they can’t compare it to Korea and they didn’t lose their friends.

[@abbiereynolds8016]

I live in Ireland, a girl in my class was tricked into moving to England by her mum. She told her they were just going on holidays. All we knew is that the girl just vanished. The teachers kept asking us what happened to her. Eventually she was able to contact someone in our class and tell her what happened. It must be so messed up to be tricked like that into moving to another country. I'd be pissed too.

[@IsmaAragto]

She’s having acculturation issues; it’s harder for teens to adopt to a new environment than younger kids and they can feel uprooted and like a fish out of water. It can cause anxiety, self-esteem, self-worth and depression. The person struggle with their identity. I felt the same way when I come to USA at the age of 12.

[@mayahusn5171]

I don't like the eldest daughter for some weird reason. She is selfish person. No i m not from Turkey but that elder girl has superiority complex which i can easily figure out from her facial expression. She is not nice person.

[@renjunsnostril4092]

I dont think shes selfish but she feels betrayed. Like her mom kept lying to her so Id be mad too. Sure she should understand her mother too but the child wasnt ready. If her mom told her straight up whats gonna happen it wouldve been different

[@uumg5003]

The second daughter so pretty 😁

[@BluntIrun]

It all comes down to personalities. If I were in the place of the child, I'd hate the move, too, because I've always hated the loss of control in my life and I still do. If I were in the place of the mother, I'd try to talk more to the child. Hearing her out would at least help me understand her feelings and help her vent. And as a parent to a child of similar age, I can understand how impossible it is to make a young girl do what she doesn't want to do. The will and the decision must come from her. I must praise her for learning Turkish fast enough to help out with the banks, etc in the beginning. That shows that she has the knack to do well when she wants. Also, there are so many young people who just love Korean culture and try to learn the language in courses in Turkey. There are also Korean restaurants run by Koreans. So, if and when she wants, she can find other Koreans and Turkish young people who would love to befriend Koreans. As a last note, couriers do need you to open the door, because they need to get a signature. That incident wasn't a dangerous incident. Not opening the door is the correct decision, if she didn't feel safe. As for the student who harassed her, I can only hope he was punished appropriately, because it is unacceptable behaviour wherever on earth you are.

[@hailey4252]

The guy that harassed the eldest is probably a koreaboo

[@Green10084]

Hope the best for this family....great family

[@miracle5820]

I feel bad for her :( it must be really hard not really knowing how to speak the language especially when you’ve been living in an entirely different country your whole life

[@BlueMeaney49]

She should be pretty fluent in the language after living there 5 years!

[@miracle5820]

BlueMeaney49 Everyone learns at a different pace. No one is allowed to say how fast she should learn or how much of the language she should know

[@soojin08]

It's good that they agreed to let her do what she really wants when she turns 18. Honestly, the mother is unfair with the way she handled things with her daughter.. and I can still imagine her getting in the way of her daughter even after she turns 18. But I'm hoping for the best. 2nd daughter is a privileged brat btw.

[@ashleypeng207]

wait pls explain how shes a brat cuz i hv short term memory

[@brownie3275]

Whaaa? The oldest is literally selfish, doesn't want to adapt, and doesn't accept that her parents simply couldn't afford to live in Korea. Second daughter is smart. She realized the situation she's in and she made the best of it.

[@renjunsnostril4092]

@@brownie3275 She isnt selfish, shes just feeling betrayed wtf- the other kids didnt spend their whole childhood in korea but she did. The oldest deserved an honest explanation and not 'oh we will be here only for a month' only to find out that they are gonna live there. Yes, she should understand the finance problem but her mom shouldnt have lied.

[@Mina_0622]

I was kind of sad when the sister of the mother cried cuz my relatives live also in different countries. My family lives in Austria 1 of my aunt as well, my 4 other aunts and uncle live in turkey and one aunt lives in Germany so yeah we meet up maybe once a year my cousins are also all over the world lmao (I apologize for any mistakes english is my third language) I have 6 Aunts,1 uncle and 27-30 cousins btw.

[@judekanfash]

12:20 why did he shout like that AHAHAHAHAHAH

[@lamugiwara5500]

😂😂😭

[@yunatuna198]

He always says it but this time it was more aggressive 😂😂😂

[@judekanfash]

@@yunatuna198 ikr he sounded so agressive lmao

[@sara-ism7068]

Not every single thing in this world will go in our way.. as a mother, she needs to adapt the surrounding or move out from the parents house. Her parents struggling so hard to provide shelter for her, yet she's complaining. Her parents work so hard to provide education, yet she's complaining. Theres people who can't study because of they're poor, dont took things for granted ! Be grateful for what you have.. parents is the one who didnt eat if their kids didnt eat.. the parents couldnt afford to go back to korea. Its the reality.. you can't go back unless you go on your own. You already 18, so why not?

[@katiekrazie]

Sara xNas she’s 18 in Korean age, but I think she might actually be 16. She has 2 more years left of high school.

[@aisyahecah1]

I used to move alot but it for their children..parent want to make sure their children leave a comfortable life..it just too hard to live sustainablely in korea .. therefore they decide to leave Trust me im eldest if every time i need to be rewarded and given privileged i will never been happy ...i used to be depressed you know bcuz i keep on thinking on gaining a reward for everything i done then when i let that thought go i happier than i used to😊😊😊 Keep in mind if we keep feeding our mind with negative thoughts it will give harm but if we keep in mind on thinking positively you will be happy

[@aoisky5475]

Korean society and education was harsh and difficult made the family moved so far away. It’s difficult for normal family with kids to afford private schools and lessons these days.

[@alisonfraser8231]

The quick move and the comment about the "credit card guy" are red flags she was on the run from something.

[@_HibaN]

I feel like it could have been easier for her to stay if she focused on why her parents left their jobs and close family friends. They didn’t have too but for kids they did. I was raised in foreign country(ksa) and right now i am in states for college so I understand emptiness etc. right mindset must have helped them

[@Rochelle_Ballah]

The 2nd daughter reminds me of actress Park Hana

[@racheldelilah]

Wait where’s the fifth kid?? I think I missed something

[@loveline2100]

Rachel Delilah probably a baby or something

[@NHJDT]

The oldest daughter needs to grow up. She's only thinking about herself. If she thought about why her parents decided to leave korea, she needs to be understanding and help any way she can. I was in the same situation moving to the states when I was 7. I happily translated every thing for my parents and made sure that I helped every way I could, graduate from college, and have the kind of life that we wouldn't have,been possible in Korea. I can't imagine sitting there whining like this daughter

[@shjns_]

She mentioned that she helped out as much as she could in the beginning. As she was the eldest, she learned the language before everyone else did and followed them everywhere to translate for them. I feel like the daughter still has a little resentment because of mother uprooting her from everything she knew and didn’t give her the chance to say goodbye. She basically to her from the very beginning. She never got the chance to get used to living in a foreign country and she’s holding on to her anger. I feel like once she lets go of this resentment, she will be okay.

[@Stilbe]

The mom did say some things she shouldn't have, I agree this might have affected her. But honestly the eldest is being a bit unreasonable... I pretty much hate where I live and I'm the same age as her, but i know my dad's working very hard so at least I try to appreciate my family! And i can move out for college. She has to understand that not all the other 6 members can go back just bc of her... She's almost an adult now. I mean, her concerns should be heard out, but she also has to stop putting pressure on her family

[@LunaJBkrazieluv]

I really do not understand this, I mean yes the parents were wrong to not tell her but the daughter could be more mature and understanding. Nobody is willing to leave their own country, family and everything behind for no reason. My family did when I was 12, I had to leave friends and everything I knew, learn the language and embrace the new culture and surroundings...never did I get this bratty about stuff. Just like the second daughter I tried my best to adapt to my new life, and always appreciated the sacrifices my parents made to provide a better life for my older brother and I.

[@BlueMeaney49]

OK...it should have been explained better to the daughter...at least as they went along. HOWEVER...daughter is totally missing out on what a wonderful opportunity she has. Learning a new language, learning about another country/people/culture. Making new friends and future contacts. Such a waste of 5 years. And, after 5 years, the Korea in her mind she wants to go back to might not be the same Korea she left.

[@Yeye-js3sm]

I feel sorry for the mom. This is similar to my situation. My parents sent me to live with my aunt, so I can get a great education in different city. And sent me was an option to help my parent's financial, because my aunt paid for my education and everything. So, my parents can focus to my lil sister education expenses only. I know it's hard for them to sent me apart. And also hard for me for living apart with my parents and my sister. But, I should be more understanding to my parent's conditions. I cried a lot at beginning, but I know this is the best way for all of us. So, i should hold it up. For this story, I know it's hard for the eldest, but I think she's older enough to understand her parent's situation. Even her lil sisters and brother have no problem to live there. The eldest just hate living there, so all the reason she tell just an excuse for me. All she has to do is more understanding, not being selfish. Y'all will understand when you've become a parent. That's not easy to explain about financial situation to your children. Be more understanding to your parent's condition and situation.

[@popsckaycaii9530]

🇹🇷♥️🇰🇷

[@JH-hd3wz]

저도 경험자로서 언니하고 둘째동생들도 둘다 너무 이해가 간다

[@Moglomlov]

I think they are both at fault. The daughter I think is a little selfish, I know it can be hard being the only Asian you get mocked and bullied but you just got to find some way to pull through, I’m sure there are Turkish people who will accept you, share you culture. It’s Kpop, it’s Global take advantage of that. For 5 years all you’ve said is ‘I wanna go back’ stop being such a brat. I’m from Hong Kong brought up in the UK and moved 7 times, Iv been bullied most of my life because people are ignorant and stupid, I’m still trying to figure out how to be at peace and ignore those kind of people, but you got to pull through it and later on somehow forgive those people and move on. Get someone who you can trust and talk with, it’s what happens when your different in any kind of place, I’m not saying that it’s right tho. I’m not saying it’s gonna be easy but think about your parents they even put you in a private school, spending even more money on you. It ain’t easy moving to another country I know. She needs to be open-minded the world doesn’t just evolve around S.Korea, there are all different kinds of cultures and foods. Plus she don’t have to go academy and be totally stressed and have no leisure time. Since her parents are financially tight she should try to get part-time job since she can speak Turkish, so she can save money to go back to S.Korea for Uni if she’s really that desperate. The mum should help and support the daughter tho so her life is a little easier.

[@rubih3548]

I don't get the mentality of i helped my mom, so I should get rewarded for that. Where is the i love my mom, dad ,siblings etc so I'm there for them. I mean it's fine when your rewarded for you efforts or complimented.. but that should not be the driving force in helping anyone. It should first and foremost come from your heart, without thinking you'll get something in return. If you do great, if not, it does not necessarily mean their not appreciative.

[@idontlikebadjokes]

If your parents have to choose to move to another country because they are struggling to raise you in their own country, respect and be understanding of their decision. They are doing it not for their sake but for the children's sake. I get that she went through that bratty stage but at 18....come on..... She really need to be more understanding. And mom could have really explained better to her daughter instead of being passive aggressive in her approach to dealing with the situation. I was the eldest in the family and had to do everything, bearing a lot of burden through my growing years. But you can't be resentful about the past. Look at it in a positive way and it will help you grow to be a great adult.

[@StandedInUtah]

I'm not Korean but I find myself wanting to defend Korea after hearing the attach about a girl from a tiny country.

[@metro9889]

I'd just laugh it off.. many tiny countries (e.g. Luxemburg, Switzerland, Austria, Liechtenstein, Monaco..) have higher living standards than big nations.

[@rie4449]

this episode was weird. the mom moment is so lenient and slow.

[@upondlite]

I understand the eldest sister. I'm the eldest too and it just sucks to always be the one to get nagged at and taken advantage of most.

[@brownie3275]

The daughter acts like a brat tbh. She didn't even try to understand the culture, the people, the language. She didn't adjust cuz she didn't WANT to. That's the problem. She's really negative.

[@nanaba3294]

this problems is very common. the daughter have to understand that they arent that well off to live in korea. she should work hard for college in korea. im also in college everyone in college know how hard it is financially eventhough i go to cheaper college it still worth alot for food and supply. she got to private school but keep on going to get what she want. the second daughter is right. maybe the people in the show dont understand bcz they are accustomed to their culture. but those private lessons worth a lot. life is hard to everyone and things wont always got the way you want

[@klim1110]

As a parent, I am frustrated on how the daughter is thinking. When parents decide to move to Turkey, I am sure it wasn't easy. To move to somewhere with different language and culture is harder for parents than kids. But they do it for their kids future. My parents moved to US with me and my sister when they were in their 40s (My sister and I are 18 and 16). They didn't know how to speak English. but they have given up their well-established life for us. Her daughter needs to realized how much her parents scarified for them whether the decision was made due to financial situation or else. She even asked for her parents to enroll her to private school while all other kids are in public school. I think the daughter is little selfish.

[@abdulwafi7115]

at 9:58 frozen song hahhaha

[@kq7630]

The eldest daughter is being difficult, she is selfish don't try to understand her familys situation.. If u want to comeback to your country finished studies first get a job then move back to Korea..

[@betty5671]

I dont know why... but the girl feels really selfish to me. But that's just me I guess.

[@trebiangoodman7865]

To be honest not telling your child about the move is not right but I wouldn’t do that either if I knew how my child would react. The mother does need to communicate more to her daughter but I think after 5 years, the daughter should be at least making some friends. She’s obviously not trying to assimilate and her younger siblings are. It’s weird that the oldest daughters only problem was not wanting to live there at all. She’s being selfish and not thing as bad as the bstalking boy happened while she was there. Yes having that boy do bad things to you like giving your info to a KZbinr but I think just let your daughter leave if she wants to, have your work and save her own money so she can leave herself because her selfishness could cost her family a lot of money. She already goes to a private school, what more does she want. If she wants to go home, have her work for it. If my daughter said she wouldn’t study, I would just let my daughter fail until she got her attitude straight like her other siblings. Also, as the oldest she has to understand that parents depend on them. It’s not right to do that but that’s everyone’s mindset. The oldest is always looked at as the more responsible one but the second daughter seemed to have taken that title.

[@naztiryaki5635]

Yaşasın ırkımız Çin’e bedel kırkımız cıhdldlxkdndlsld

[@TheMissCareless]

felt that the 2nd daughter was much more sensible and understanding towards the mother & the family situation. I understand that it was probably hard for the eldest daughter (me having to immigrate to another country too when I was young) but she needs to try and listen from her mother’s perspective... if there isn’t enough money for the family, how could they send her back for regular trips and stuff. but yet she’s still insisting on going back to Korea no matter what... unless maybe she’s the one paying then I think her mom might let her travel but of course she expects the mom to be paying. I feel so bad for the mom. Thank god the other siblings are much more understanding, esp the 2nd sis.

[@t.chojnowska41]

Rude, immature girl trying to persuade her family to do something that's on her mind. Andd making complains while attending private school, not thinking about anyone but herself, trying hardly to make everyone around her feel and look bad. She's got that attitude of person who thinks he's most intelligent. She didn't need to talk with that boy if she didn't wanted to. We don't know how she really was in this situation. Plus she's really disrespectful and you can see that don't want to communicate with mother.

[@loveline2100]

T. Ch. she was being nice to the boy bc he was just another kid her age that seemed to be friendly...shes not psychic she didn’t know he would do any of that to her

[@t.chojnowska41]

@@loveline2100 how can you know really?

[@greciaramos3941]

When your hear early HELL YEAH

[@angelanindya302]

The first thing came to my mind is the mom playing victim lol

[@BlueMeaney49]

And her daughter isn't????

[@JJ-yu6og]

The mother is waaaay tooooo selfish

[@saldiven2009]

I sometimes wonder how parents can be so completely oblivious of their own children.

[@BlueMeaney49]

...AND VICE VERSA!!

[@saldiven2009]

@@BlueMeaney49 Children are, well, children. Parents, in most cases, are adults. Children do not have the life experience to understand the motivations behind their parents' decisions without the parents explaining it to them. The parents, however, have been children before. They should remember how scary big changes and instability in the home can be. It's absurd for a parent to just assume that their kid will understand their parents without the parents talking to the children and fully, calmly, and patiently discussing things with the child.

[@jiny2288]

터키가 넓은 세상?

[@hanahxsummer7938]

I don't like how the hosts on this show is acting, saying that "the eldest is pressured?" NO WAY! ! ! She has everything ! !! She is just a brat, the pressure goes to the 2nd ! The second is very mature. I like her.

[@Melanie-td6zn]

The frozen song 🥴🥴🥴💀💀💀

[@allyfab7532]

All in all a person will never succeed in life if they disrespect or disobey their parents....the woman (mother) left her sister and parents and informed them the day b4 she went to turkey the old parents and sister were heartbroken Now karma is a bitch her own eldest daughter is stubborn and disrespects her own mom just as she did to her sister n parents

[@Starzsannnie]

Okay I officially hate the mom and the second daughter I feel so bad for the girl like she’s away from her country away from all she ever known and thrown to a foreign country without even being told it would be permanent like

[@wendyg.5389]

I dont believe they just left because of financial reasons, I mean, they really make it sound like they were in a rush o.o Why leave suddenly like that without telling anyone?

[@Venus-pd3ml]

Bruhh who told you to have five children, that’s a huge responsibility. You have to take into account the thoughts and feelings of each child. From what I can see, the mother and her eldest already had a tumultuous and rocky relationship, moving to Turkey was just the cherry on the cake.

[@h.i.m.3200]

I think both the mother and the eldest daughter are at fault here. The mother was definitely wrong not to discuss anything with her kids (and her own family, omg) because it wasn't fair for her to take them away from what they knew without even being aware of what was happening. She could have explained the financial difficulties and wishing to start over in a new place. I feel like the eldest daughter would have maybe been more accepting of her situation if that happened. But finding out that living in Turkey was permanent probably created a lot of negativity within the daughter and feelings of resentment and loss. She never had a chance to adjust to this huge transition and never actually said goodbye (literally and figuratively) to her old life so that could be a huge reason why she always wished to go back. The daughter also never seems to have truly made the effort to adjust to life in Turkey. It's related to her feelings about wanting to go back. Her heart wasn't in Turkey so why make the effort to make friends or adapt to the culture/language? Who knows, maybe when she goes back to Korea, she'll change her mind completely. Maybe the mother should have sent her anyway since she's already paying for a private school and the girl might have realized how much more difficult life there was. I don't know.

[@mMU4aCpVq-j]

This MOM is selfish and controlling. Sorry for the daughter.

[@anggipermatasari280]

I am totally on the oldest daughter's side. The mom is just being selfish and putting double standard on her. I hope the oldest daughter would be able to go back to Korea soon.

[@deirdrelittlechild6274]

That girl is just selfish

[@hanahxsummer7938]

What the fvck ! ! ! The eldest needs more love?!?!? SHE HAS ALL THE ATTENTION! ! She is the only one studying in private school! ! ! What the fvck?!??!?

[@cherylmedeiros6287]

Mom sure does have a lot of excuses! She should beg her Aunt to let her stay! She will probably be way behind compared to her friends due to just going to public school.

[@BlueMeaney49]

BUT THEY CAN'T AFFORD IT...THAT WAS THE REASON THEY MOVED!!! Did you miss that part? The aunt certainly isn't going to pay her way when she has her own family to take care of. The aunt lives with the grandmother. They probably don't even have room for her.

[@cherylmedeiros6287]

@@BlueMeaney49 umm, no need to shout! But they afforded the whole family except dad to come home to be on the show. That was 5 round trip tickets, possibly hotel and food. Not sure if the show pays for that but could add up to be a lot of money. But you do have to admit the mother had an excuse for everything thrown at her. Also if that was my niece and she was that unhappy I would find a way to take her in. She could help with the Grandmother and or get a part time job.

[@kahimoon3638]

@@cherylmedeiros6287 i agree on the "they can afford the trip..." part. But compare it to sending her to Korea, her living expenses, her college tuitions, her allowance for 4-5 years won't be a joke. Plus other needs. (well if this whaf she really wants then up to her but unless she is prepared for some financial struggle, she needs to think twice) Mom was wrong in handling the situation but the girl is old enough to at least understand.

[@cherylmedeiros6287]

@@kahimoon3638 she is 17yrs old. She will be going to college in a year and her mom promised to let her go then. She will probably be way behind everyone else in the college and job market because of the education in Turkey. But if you tell her lies all these years how can they stop her now? This mom has been caught in so many lies in this video. It's a very sad situation! Being torn from your homeland to live in a different country, being the adult and learning the language to help your parents get situated, being told it's a vacation and it's not and the list goes on. I hope she can return for college as promised and live her life!

[@kahimoon3638]

@@cherylmedeiros6287 Im not saying that they should force her to stay in turkey against her will nor am I defending her mother. My earlier comment was for your original statement (it was about money issue). If she really is determined, let her go. I was just saying that she should be prepared for financial struggles (which she most likely to face) and be less dependent on her family (not be demanding to have this or that). If I was her though, I would have finished high school without complaining, saved my allowance throughout the years (not sure if part time jobs exists for girls her age in turkey), look for ways to apply for scholarship in korea (online) and state my case in front of my family after graduation. If all else fails then hell breaks loose😅😅 😂 Depends on a persons EQ i quess, *shrugs*