Keep the Spark Alive | The Science of Love

How many times have you heard someone say, "the spark just went out?" Is that normal? Is there anything you can do about it? This week we brought in real couples to investigate what you can do to keep the spark alive.
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Created by: Mike Bernstein and Matt Pittman
Directed by: Mike Bernstein
Producer: Matt Pittman
Hosted by: Julian Huguet
Cinematographer: Yuki Noguchi
Production Designer: Flower Cole
1st AD: Hudson Sheaffer
Editor: Casey McClelland
Production Manager: William Cubbon
Production Coordinator: Rebecca Ma
Production Support: Anthony D'Angelo
B Cam Op: Richie Yau
1st AC | DIT: Loie Russell-Templeton
Gaffer: Drew Moe
G&E Swing: Luis Estrada
Art Director: Marcy Silver
Makeup: Taylor Tompkins
On Set Sound Mixer: Ben Adams
VFX & Title Sequence: Cameron Clark
Post Sound Designer & Mixer: Matt Schwartz
Colorist: Trevor Durtschi
Featured Participants: Nicole & Clay, Lyndsey & Glenn, Chris & Jenny, Greg & Sarah
Music:
Race Against Sunset - Lullatone - Summer Songs EP
Ah, It Was In the Garage After All - Lullatone - Elevator Songs
All The Optimism of Early January - Lullatone - While Winter Whispers
Stuck In A Spaceship (full version) - GRANDOM - Premium Beats
Hot Sand - Lullatone - Summer Songs EP
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[@camillesaurenman9270]

I love this web or KZbin show because it gives meaning and helps me understand relationships. If the creators or people of Soul Pancake are reading this, out of three videos that I have watched so far, I have completely changed my way of thinking, my outlook on life and this has finally helped me understand good and healthy relationships. I was always in relationships that were all one sided, where I was told what to do, how to act, or how to be in certain situations. In all relationships I have, at home, with friends, and with a controling boyfriend I have changed them all to healthy relationships, where I now take more than I give, which caused a breakup with my boyfriend, but hey, him having control wouldn't have worked out anyway. So thank you Soul Pancake, keep making videos, I cannot wait to see what you come up with next.

[@Participant]

Camille Saurenman thank you so much for your kind message and support of the show! We have learned (and continue to learn) so much from making it, and it means so much to us to know that it has helped you make positive changes. Can't wait for you to see the rest of the series!

[@tristonallen463]

I only wish these videos were more frequent because everyone of them has helped me

[@eason9115]

Camille Saurenman the whole point is to give equally not take more then you give haha good luck

[@dmingthing]

I loved this. No spark intended.

[@Heyelve]

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[@tsummerlee]

These videos are so full of win and awesome. Love it.

[@SongDiseased]

I think I'm in love with Julian

[@minieboisvert367]

So am I. * *.* *

[@justacarat2638]

I can relate 😂 it's his eye contact paired up with interesting facial expressions. Feels like he's really talking to you in real life. Not many people show this range of emotions on their face during eye contact when talking to strangers

[@GizmoAndKiwi]

This video really made me cry heavily, it hit me right at my latest weak spot. I just ended a really long relationship with a partner that said "I don't want to have to work in a relationship, it should be easy without working". I was kind of doubting myself, thinking he might be right and that I'm just complicating everything. It still hurts but this video really backed me up!

[@Sidnee42]

I just got out of the same situation. After 5 years it turned into me being the only one putting any effort into anything. Not even "work" just the simple things like calling or hanging out. I decided maybe I was the one at fault, maybe being too pushy so I gave him 3 days without a phone call. 3 days turned into 3 weeks so I ended it. At first I felt like the jerk (and boy did he make me out to be) but I'm happier now. A partnership only works if both people want to be a partner :)

[@GizmoAndKiwi]

And you are judging me and my relationship behaviour by one comment I made, which basically just states, that I personally agree with the video's message. Totally normal. You could also just see that my ex-partner and me had different views of how a relationship should work, but sure, assume whatever.

[@AravahStar]

"Our emotions in the present, paint our outlook in the future" I agree, SP...I'd take it even further. I'd say they not only paint the outlook, but create future experiences. Present circumstances are reflections of past thoughts & emotions. To really live 'in the present moment' is to pay close attention to your state of being rather than your circumstances.

[@breezybaby284]

great comment!

[@ThugMuffinification]

I got happier as I watched this. Something about seeing people connect and happy is really contagious. I'm happy their happy and that makes me excited for when I fall in love and can share those connections. This was fantastic! So simple yet actually really powerful. Soul Pancake you're clever people!! ;-) and you always know how to make my day better. Thank you for that!

[@Rodreaux]

The most cheesy videos on KZbin! I love SoulPancake it always makes me cry y'all

[@CD2002-yw6pd]

Why I watching this I'm single af

[@AnalisaFreitas]

I really liked this one! I definitely think having a common goal makes you feel like a team which makes you feel like you are both putting in time and effort - it makes things feel more balanced and equal which is important in a long term relationship.

[@fclavijo]

Best non-nerdy out-of-comfort-zone activity: travelling.

[@RoboticScribble]

Julian'd probably like the best ever guy to date!?!? lol

[@Abey0Baby7]

I'm currently in a relationship that crossed to about a year now on Feb. I've definitely learned that it does take work. I am constantly figuring out what to do each month as a new adventure. I love to do activities with my girlfriend, whether it is night hikes, Mt. Badly hikes, parties, to even studying together. YOU GUYS ARE AMAZING, this is by FAR the best series for me. Keep going!

[@Abey0Baby7]

P.S. THANK YOU!!

[@sky_lerwrites1373]

love that smile when he says 'and then it ends' cx

[@JEgginator-eh7xm]

Watching one video from SoulPancake each day makes me a better person, without a doubt. Eveyone should be required to do this. The world would be a much brighter place.

[@mananrocks98]

Hey ! +SoulPancake do one science of love for teenagers !!!

[@AndThenItHappened]

so great- hope couples really spend lots of time in the compassionate love phase before having kids- you'll need all that practice time with team work and loving each other and working toward common goals to raise babies together!

[@mariah_7654]

I think that this applies to friendships too. I want to share this video with everyone that is starting a new relationship

[@VivaLaLillie]

You guys are incredible. I know this because I liked the video before I even watched it.

[@23HappyApples]

Working together towards common Goals is Key. Makes sense...

[@lovemecom3832]

This is interesting video, to keep the spark alive each of you need some effort, discover new things with your partner and made a lot of bondings to spend time together that lead into a long lasting relationship.

[@farleyboy6445]

All relationships take work for them to last, but the underlying feeling is usually always there if there is communication.

[@Sahkatee]

These couples better stay together forever after participating in this video.

[@ManufacturedLack]

Rated: Happiness

[@sorabellatwinklebear6634]

I like these videos a lot, I feel like it gives me some hope about relationships not failing. Like it shows in a real way that things can work out for real.

[@Bellsell77]

an these videos make me SO happy :)

[@benotafraid3]

Extremely well done, Julian and Soulpancake team!

[@adamkuehn]

It would be awesome if you guys could do a show about Polyamorous relationships, and the Science behind how it is possible to love several people! :) You guys bring so much happiness! You rock!

[@joyjoyoo]

yap, love requires work! and I LOVE THE SETTING! love that big heart fixture =D

[@JulianTorres97]

I LOVE these videos. Keep up the absolutely brilliant work SoulPancake!

[@TaylorPariseau]

These videos are great and make me so happy :) Please don't end this series any time soon!!

[@kikianasahmad2328]

your videos are super cool and about what every young person talks and thinks about .im subscribing!

[@genevieveyew7628]

This series makes my Wednesday mornings. ^^

[@liv2srf]

Perfect! It's so important to bring attention to the post-honeymoon phase, but I agree that's where the real relationship starts :) Love & light Soul Pancake!

[@Glowing_Sloth]

But don't work too hard or the or the other will leave you.

[@Muse_XoXo_]

This is Soo true,, every relationship requires effort !

[@elizabethsnavely4841]

What a great video! That southern couple- so so cute! Are they legit actors? they were way too good looking to be people you just got off the street...

[@Someonelikekanye]

5:22-5:33 set off an explosion of excitement in my head

[@frozenpeasarecool]

Ooo this was so good. I loved the card tower building.. okay, stay calm! :p

[@FedericaRS]

Although I'm not a sweet person, these videos always get me emotional :')

[@himalyaoqyanus]

I love the fact that it helps me to go trough my current experience thank you dear soul pancake I heart u

[@isbammoi3358]

I know a couple of couples whose spark never died. It's as if every day is the day they fell in love x] and it's been a few decades!

[@nanditavetekar3724]

thanks for sharing such soulful positive thoughts

[@pristley]

Could you guys bring some lgbt couples if you could ...

[@tristonallen463]

They did in the breakup episode I believe

[@ayPersonality]

Lgbt couples are distracting. If I see them I'm like "nice!" and completely forget about the other straight couples and don't take the actual message of the video.

[@kujmous]

I have wanted this video for years. Thank you so much. :'-)

[@kokuz13]

This was really encouraging and sweet :)

[@fixitman1988]

The spark is when you first see a really cute puppy until it pees on you, tears up your shoes, barks day and night or shits on your rug......they stop being cute and demand more attention then your willing to give, spark gone............(no puppies were hurt in this post it's just an example)

[@colanciciura7930]

I just come to soulpancake to have all my questions answered

[@NehemiahHughes]

Love is more about commitment than it is about science.

[@Odderek]

Really good information! Now I just have to convince my girlfriend to get out of her room more often and do activities...

[@LabLE4]

I'm lovi' every 'the science of love' video!

[@Crucis119]

I love this so much. :)

[@lafuentematadoe6025]

Бббббьь ююююююю

[@lionelbon8414]

Love is beautiful.

[@justforrfunnn]

I love this web series!!!

[@crystallclearr15]

This makes me so happy

[@artsiemama]

lovely vid! very motivating ♡

[@JaclynMarston]

I love this. make more of them pleeeease

[@Voicesampd]

I have a question? How? How do you work at/in the relationship after the honeymoon phase????

[@AwesomeOstree]

This made me smile :)

[@lindseylou1697]

This was an amazing experience! I felt like a complete nerd lol I love SoulPancake I think the message they put out there is amazing and I want to thank them for the opportunity to do something like this with my husband you guys ever need any more guinea pigs let me know lol OHHHH I was right it was only 3 years lmao

[@LucasBrugnaroBadur]

Is there a full version of the song at the end?

[@michymichymichyelle]

Aw Julian, I love you. and how you say "love"

[@ishjusmusic]

this is awesome!

[@messypoemic3115]

I love this video. It's spark joy

[@michellehooper8879]

Bravo, Bravo!!!👌🏾👍🏾

[@marblelegends-mastersofmar5033]

32+ years and still with my Beloved Dixie Lee!

[@Rockmantics100]

I miss you guys

[@haleyd6382]

Love this!

[@kenrangel5705]

wow seriously amazing video thank u so much for this video its people that put up videos like this that bring the world together because no matter who u are we all go through love thumbs up if u agree

[@GregPoblete]

wow. this was great.

[@zweet8589]

Great video! I am a subscriber!!

[@Outermainstream]

Relationships aren't work! When it stops being fun and interesting, it's over. Plain and simple. Trying new experiments and experiencing new sides to a relationship is fun and interesting. Work in a relationship is having to drain yourself emotion, and physically to keep it together.

[@Buddy24ification]

So much awesome!

[@xoxo9702]

what's the name of the song that starts at 4:11?

[@eltrespiernas833]

It makes me happier to kbow more about relationships :)

[@Jen18lol]

I agree to all this from being in a two 1/2 year relationship.

[@supisarak.941]

this is brillant !!!

[@jenniferhayes7170]

Aww! I love the science of love!

[@luzlizcano6956]

Love this videos

[@melissaramirez1841]

Does anyone else think Julian is pretty cute lol 😄😶

[@Redkinkid1985]

No but your a hot adhd gal 😊

[@dwikifr]

That would be interesting knowing julian's love life

[@greatpitbull]

Did link to the study didn't work for me

[@shelbyg.6769]

THIS IS SO CUTE

[@mwittmayer]

The study link is not working.

[@lightning45]

Where is the link to the article?

[@ranmaster27]

0:35 For a second, I thought I was in queue. O.O

[@TheInternalMan]

How do they know if there is any improvement if the couple were not evaluated beforehand? There is no data to compare the results too. I agree with the results but this is far from proving anything.

[@seegee1012]

love this videos. they're awesome!!! :D

[@monicachang3054]

Awesome! :)

[@whanaumcmanus4345]

yhh55

[@AShotofJoyCurry-GainesvilleFL]

love it!

[@MyPinkyx21]

Thumps up to this episode!!! :))

[@MissMSL91]

Lovely!

[@MrMathy16]

I really liked P3, P1 was cool too

[@fakthar6]

Julian looks like Jojen Reed from GOT.

[@georgemoncayo8313]

A book called the stones cry out by archaeologist Randall Price shows a lot of archaeology that supports the Bible.

[@LoveTheMoments1]

Wish my parents could see this maybe then they'd stay together

[@grandmasterdeafchild]

So there isnt one piece of footage where the couples disagreed? Nothing edited? It would be interesting to take the cameras out of the eqaution. just doesnt seem an accurate sample.

[@citrussnacc]

Agreed :) Science means including data that doesn't exactly support your theory :P

[@CitizenOfNeverland]

Aloysius Carswell True but this was also something they were just doing for fun. Especially because they've all been together for a long time, they likely know how to communicate well with one another and may not get into a disagreement over something just silly and fun.

[@grandmasterdeafchild]

***** Word.

[@Bloquita5]

yes!

[@SiriusV23]

This video lacks the needy of a woman, the egoistic, arrogance, ignorance of the man, and the debating of relationship. With out these listed, relationship works out far better.

[@DLH321]

I wish guys knew that it's the honeymoon phase that ended, not his feelings for her