Keepin’ it Real: What No one Ever Tells you about Marriage by David Rodríguez

[@CatholicCristero]

Marriage is a Martyrdom of self! I've been Married 40 years and I love it!

[@paisley293]

@John Boy Sr. : you are so right! And I would add homeschooling is also a martyrdom of self, but I know it was the right thing to do. It really stretched me as a person and in my prayer life, because I had to totally rely on the graces that came through the intercession of Our Lady.

[@MelissaJMJ]

I’ve never heard of marriage put that way. That’s very interesting and true.

[@mayraaliciarob.hdez.5665]

And I thank you for your testimony... GOD BLESS YOU FOREVER!!

[@SuperLuckao]

yes. so do u think bright orange outfits worn to get attention r martydom of self? NO.

[@paskaziatumwesigye1534]

In that case marriage can groom saints...I love this attitude

[@PraytheRosaryEveryDay]

Just *excellent*!!! Been married almost 50 yrs. and I couldn't agree more with everything David said.

[@KatieMae1229]

@TheFatimaCenter, we need Mr. Rodriguez to give us that full explanation on Theology of the Body at the next conference, please!! I love all these talks, thank you!

[@Lobo1888]

Theology of the Body is wrong on so many levels

[@TheFatimaCenter]

He will be giving a "Part Two" of this talk on November 16th in Northern Kentucky. He may go into that topic a bit more then. You are welcome to attend if you can make it. It is being hosted by the St. Vincent Ferrer Foundation (www.svfonline.org).

[@bryanw2025]

Yes, I would appreciate an explanation why TOB is bad and not Catholic. Maybe an article somewhere?

[@TheFatimaCenter]

@@bryanw2025 There is a brief but good article on the Society of St. Pius X's website. sspx.org/en/theology-of-the-body-genesis-of-confusion

[@TheFatimaCenter]

@@JeremiahAlphonsus Excerpts here: onepeterfive.com/the-family-under-attack/

[@paisley293]

Venerable Fr. John Hardon was known for saying, "Only *heroic* Catholic families will survive."

[@catholicmorningoffering]

Wow! This is one of the very best talks I've ever heard on marriage! Thank you so much. I've been married for 34 years, and I can attest to the truth of David's words. And I am thankful I can still learn and do so much better!!!

[@jennifert2002]

Thank you for keeping it real. I often would think of my spouse as my cross and I thought I was wrong in thinking that. Thank you for clarifying that, now it will be easier to accept and I will pray for grace instead of questioning my marriage. Also important lessons to teach my kids.

[@bethann2711]

Amazing! This might be the best talk on marriage I've ever heard. I learned so much, thank you!

[@MMC-jp1gl]

Well done! I too wonder how Our Lord embraced His cross and ask for the grace to love my own cross in life daily. The cross is doing a wonderful thing, it's transforming us into saints and burning off our fallen flesh. So while our flesh throws a hissy fit while we carry it, our spirit can soar:+) God bless and thank you for such wisdom:+)

[@amahou3298]

Fantastic talk, I wish every coupe will hear this before marriage. God bless you abundantly.

[@SaintNektarios]

The talk starts @9:25

[@Anon.5216]

A Priest used to ask couples when they came to see him about getting married if they realised that they had met their Cross?

[@marygutierrez8925]

Great talk! :D

[@loriz8499]

This is wonderful! Could I get a copy of the notes?

[@TheFatimaCenter]

Yes. If you click on "Show More" just under the video of his talk, you should see the link to download the notes and another resource posted by Mr. Rodriguez.

[@paskaziatumwesigye1534]

Oh yea every time I attend Latin Traditional mass, I find that last gospel new all the time, I love it.

[@mayvelynbalo6683]

marriage is sacred. what God has joined together, no man should put asunder. divorce is evil. it is wrong.

[@MelissaJMJ]

Thank you.

[@Anon.5216]

His comments on the crucifixing of the Cross is great! Didn't know love was a choice and dying to self.

[@Anon.5216]

How abt sharing housework, cooking, finance management esp if both work? Same Faith? Not criticising the spouse's family? Yes not back stabbing each other is SO important.

[@adamefamily1017]

Excellent speech! We need to hear that often and get back to reality, thank you!

[@mickwalpole2783]

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[@srotagadirolf]

I couldn't get through 5 minutes of it. More about himself than the sacrament of marriage. Would have been good for a marriage motivation class than a Christian setting. Then again, I only listened to 5 minutes of it

[@Omegaman101]

With the exception of a few scant crumbs that Mr Rdgz offered on the positive aspects of marriage, I think his talk should have been entitled “All the reasons for NOT getting married.” I’ve noticed that some people like he who are so miserably trapped in the sacrament of matrimony are the most adamant in forbidding other couples to divorce. Despite my cynicism I nonetheless am glad that I saw this video because it has scared me all the more from getting hitched again. Perish the thought!

[@Bittiepb]

One error I heard here and have heard before that needs corrected. That marriage needs to be sacramental in order to not live in sin is false. It is true when two confirmed Catholics are joined in marriage but not so in mixed marriages. I am in a mixed marriage having converted to the Catholic faith several years into my marriage. My husband is still an atheist. Our marriage will never be sacramental unless by grace my husband has a conversion to faith and we remarry sacramentally. But to divorce him would be the sin. It is not a sin to continue with my marital relationship and commitment. Many marriages of converts are like this and I do not want people thinking their marriages are easily put asunder or that the church will judge and reject them. I am going to assume that Mr.Rodriguez was speaking as if both parties were already Catholic and understands the exceptions but without clarification, some people may get confused. As for the rest of the talk- he is absolutely correct about needing to have realistic expectations. I found this difficult in marriage the first couple of years.

[@TheFatimaCenter]

Thank you for your comment. At 50:20, Mr. Rodriguez summarizes the teaching of Pope Leo XIII in his encyclical on Christian Marriage, saying: “For Christians, marriage must be both a contract and a Sacrament, and the only time there’s a real, valid marriage is when both the contract and the Sacrament exist. And you cannot separate the two. So if you only get the contract part, let’s say through a civil Justice of the Peace, but you don’t get the Sacrament part, through the priest, through the Church, you are not married. You’re not. You’re actually living in sin, in violation of the Sixth Commandment. You’ll be in the state of mortal sin the entire time. You have to have both the Sacrament and the contract. They go together in Christian marriage.” We hope the context of the above remark is sufficiently clear, being in reference to Christian marriage, and therefore pertaining specifically to baptized persons. The present Code of Canon Law (1108 §1), binding all members of the Church, expresses this teaching more succinctly: “Only those marriages are valid which are contracted before the local ordinary, pastor, or a priest or deacon delegated by either of them, and before two witnesses…” You rightly note that a person who converts after having entered into a valid natural (non-sacramental) marriage must not misunderstand this teaching to mean that his or her marriage is void or sinful. On the contrary, except under grave circumstances, it would be sinful to abandon one’s commitment to such a union. God bless you.

[@Bittiepb]

@@TheFatimaCenter Thank you so much for the clarification. I do enjoy your channel. God Bless.

[@Lobo1888]

Theology of the Body messed me up nearly beyond repair. Although I never liked it's voluntaristic and antropocentric approach.

[@Omegaman101]

What didn’t you like about it?

[@tgwcl6194]

PROTECT YOUR RC-BELIEVE, RC-HOME AND RC-FAMILY: 1. ALL WEAR BROWN SCAPULAR (PROTECTION) OF OUR LADY MARY! 2. HANG A BROWN SCAPULAR NEXT TO EVERY OUTSIDE DOOR OF YOUR HOME! 3. PUT A GREEN SCAPULAR (AGAINST ANY ADDICTION) OF OUR LADY MARY IN YOUR HOME!

[@simeonogbonna568]

Thank you so much Mr Rodriguez. You talked about expecting that your partner will change after marriage. The person I intend to marry is a Presbyterian but promises to become a Catholic if we get married. Please I need an advice

[@林柔安-w9j]

Simeon Ogbonna I suggest that your spouse-to-be convert first before you get married. It will be difficult for your children and a bone of contention between the two of you, if you get married and the spouse doesn’t convert. This is just my opinion.

[@karynyzelman1176]

I would tread very carefully. Why is he or she not considering converting before marriage? If I were you I would seriously consider delaying the wedding in order for my fiance to get the proper instruction to become a catholic. What if he or she decides not to become a catholic after marriage upon learning more about the catholic faith?

[@MelissaJMJ]

You may want to find out why is it that this person is waiting to convert before you get married.

[@Bittiepb]

I am in a mixed marriage and though my husband is good to me and I love him very much, it is difficult in this one regard. I was married late in life and so children are not a part of my marriage. I can only imagine how much harder it would be if a family is what you are planning. I would want her to convert first and am wondering why she is putting it off.

[@El_Muchacho_Alegre]

Is staying single an option?

[@El_Muchacho_Alegre]

@Gsos Seth I have no problem being chaste.

[@林柔安-w9j]

Discernment

[@bryanw2025]

Yes, St Paul counsels this to those not married to remain so. A single man or woman is occupied with pleasing the Lord. There are numerous single saints.

[@Anon.5216]

A 10-minute introduction!!!

[@scottsimmons7897]

Just be blunt and say what you mean David, instead of dancing around the subject. Women (and men) should not dress immodestly. Wearing yoga pants and leggings is essentially exposing yourself. It is tempting men to sin, and is itself a serious sin. I believe the Blessed Mother addressed this at Fatima. 14:50

[@seriouscat2231]

"Modesty is beautiful." Well. Maybe everyone should also know the scholastic definition of beauty, i.e. claritas, integritas and consonantia. Beauty is in relation to thing's purpose and therefore in proportion to it (consonantia). Beautiful thing is not lacking any integral part (integritas). And a beautiful thing is beautiful clearly, in a way that is not confusing (claritas). An immodest woman is not in relation to her purpose. She rather has and gives out a wrong idea about it. Also, God created in women a tendency to relate to people and care about people. That is lacking in an immodest woman. Therefore it is possible that she is something else clearly, but not beautiful.

[@Anon.5216]

Life is not about happiness? And yet the Bible says, Be Happy. I Want You to be Happy. 700 times.

[@tgwcl6194]

RC-Church in the Netherlands teaches you nothing. RC-schools, I did 3 RC-schools, 13years in school, taught me nothing. RC-sermons here in the Netherlands teach you nothing. Only KZbin teaches my RC-religion. Thank God for KZbin!!!!!

[@SuperLuckao]

fashions r immodest too. to stand out is very immodest too..b;lend in modestly, hang back and be modest. a bright orange outfit is immodest and designed so. modesty doesnt just mean be covered up..it means not to seek attention. MARY NEVER SOUGHT ATTENTION. be careful..u havent the foggiest what ur talking about. u shoul never marry women that want attention.

[@lrishsighs3689]

Why don't you just put a woman into a coma and breed her until she dies. You don't want a person you want a pet.

[@SuperLuckao]

im a woman lol

[@jaysonyata1992]

Marriage is where good men go to die. Father mike.

[@Anon.5216]

Theology of the Body? Isn't that attacking the teaching of the Pope? How wrong is that!

[@TheFatimaCenter]

This is not the only teaching of John Paul II which is incompatible with authentic Catholic teachings. In such matters, it is more important than ever to make the true teaching known. sspx.org/en/theology-of-the-body-genesis-of-confusion

[@seriouscat2231]

ToTB never was an official teaching of anyone or anything. It was his private hobby. Just like all the stuff he did with theatre. I think we have the completely opposite problem: We never got any serious Catholic teaching out of him, but just a Humanist with some very peculiar private hobbies. And lots of handwaving and smiles.