Why are you hurt? | J. Krishnamurti

[@akshayranade8006]

I wish to hear this whole talk. Any links?

[@KFoundation]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWXRiGydbN9lepo

[@gitamadhuri9463]

@@KFoundation Thank you for sharing the link.

[@srinivasulukandukuru2110]

J. Krishnamurti - Official Channel I have seen the video in the link but what is the continuation of this video or any book that talks about “wiping out hurts”

[@KFoundation]

@@srinivasulukandukuru2110 Please see also these two extracts on the theme of hurt: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hZ_Lko2mnd-fbqM kzbin.info/www/bejne/amfJnJdtd9iMkK8

[@srinivasulukandukuru2110]

J. Krishnamurti - Official Channel Thanks so much 🙏

[@cassandrastornoway5445]

"It requires enormous intelligence to be alone, and you must be alone to find truth" Krishnamurti

[@nevencuca1680]

That being said, this corona is for many people a chance to get free.

[@green16611]

@@nevencuca1680 fax bro, im thankful for this break from the chain. it helped me change for the better.

[@meditationrelaxingpeaceful5632]

Alone is pain but reading spiritual books and stories, teaches us how to sequeeze happiness from pain..💕💕💕

[@meghan42]

@@meditationrelaxingpeaceful5632 No lovely. Alone is not painful at all. We are never alone. No need to squeeze anything. No need of effort in just being here. I only wish we could realize how easy it is.

[@meditationrelaxingpeaceful5632]

@@meghan42 Right we need to practice and let ourselves understand how to see the beautiful version of loneliness. We should learn how to live alone by keeping ourselves in peace and happy mode..

[@moonlightguardian5150]

I was at the blink of suicide, untill I heard Krisnamurti, he was the only one that prevented me from taking my own life.

[@renu2009]

👍👍👍Wish you a very happy and fulfilling life 🙏

[@Ludifant]

I guess he would have said, that not he, but you were the only one preventing you from taking your own life. Any love and admiration you feel is love and admiration for your own capabilities and acceptance of your own being. I find it helpful to let that sink in, so I can remember that when it doesn´t feel like that at all.

[@sujanmondal4673]

Stay strong!!!

[@letslearntogether7531]

Can we discuss? I am really interested in your story

[@avijitdutta5194]

Your strength to go past those moments and tell that story yourself is in itself an encouragement to many meandering souls. Stay blessed.

[@priyankamishra3187]

"Attention is like a flame that burns out past and present hurts" - J Krishanmurti

[@Bl3zzz]

Awareness*

[@baptm727]

@@Bl3zzz don't get caught by words

[@MCMicel1979]

@@baptm727 What lies beyond attention and awareness?

[@MrkidA82]

@@MCMicel1979 stillness

[@shakeshiatanner9558]

To my understanding what you put your attention on grows

[@haydn8596]

My notes on this: When someone does something 'to us' or we perceive some hurt inside of us, ask ourselves why we are hurt? who is hurt? the ego is hurt. We cannot be hurt in our essence. If we focus on why someone is behaving in a certain way and/or trying to blame or attack them for it we lose sight of the true lessons that are inside of us. The 'other' person is only an extension of ourself and is a great teacher about ourself, we just have to pay attention to within. May all beings be happy

[@reg8297]

What about if you've been cursed abused by your own parent which ended up destroyimg your life I can't saw the reason for such evil and what I can learn from. What she did my life she destroyed

[@felicityfreedom5639]

@@reg8297 Read this book: everything is a Trauma

[@anshisingh1915]

Oh goodness you are a genius ! I had something like that in my head but you put it gracefully into words...

[@PHOBIAMUTATION]

Agree, everyone including situations are out teachers. But different thing is to practice. But to do it is a whole journey worth experience. Nothing like being aware and noticing this fact...instead of keep the line of being hurt and to hurt alive. I'm so grateful to be able listen to this words and the deep recognition of it. No step back.

[@nadirahlewis3031]

Thank you!

[@almightyalious2804]

Treat emotions like visitors let them come and go, feel them and release them, that leads to mastering calmness, love, peace and serenity to all

[@TheAhmadShow717]

beautiful ❤️🙏🏻

[@thakurboys5962]

Why I'm hurt *Expecting them to do something* *Expecting them not to do something* *Expecting something to happen* *Expecting something not to happen*

[@nandy1737]

Unfulfilled expectations hurt..

[@patrickhaug6857]

Placing an expectation on "them" is a falsehood that will never fullfill you. Alwats backfires

[@Ludifant]

@PowerOf One As with most jokes, what you said is actually a profound thing, worthy of reflection. I feel I can still do things, without expectations. The trick is to be equally prepared for all outcomes. I can even enjoy the feeling of being ambitious as it surges as long as I don´t take it serious.

[@shevasheva6062]

overall but an aspect expressing, whenever i'm planning for something outside my security as in home, the allergy of that geometric nature offends that phase

[@Lisa-io9rn]

This is beautiful. Theese words speaks to my soul

[@Donnybrook1946]

50 years ago I sat at meetings like this one with Jiddu Krishnamurti he became and still is one of the most important teachers in my life, I am 73yrs old now and beginning to understand finally what this great teacher is saying. Love Rules.

[@ZenOfKursat]

if you allow leaving your roles, (ppl loves roles,) than nobody can hurt.

[@petertorokfalvy6493]

Your comment resonated, as I am 75yrs old and have also been mindful of J Krishnamurti's teachings for over 50 years. My experience is encapsulated in a verse from TS Elliot's "Little Gidding" Four Quartets, 1943: "We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time."

[@ishibam97]

Oh my god! You saw him?💙

[@rahulvig5298]

@@petertorokfalvy6493 hello sir🙏 can you help me understand those lines, please?

[@Ludifant]

You are fortunate to have seen him. I only knew him from tales from my grandfather. I am so happy I can witness his talks now and see for myself, why my grandfather was so taken with this man. I think we will be learning what it is all about, right up to our last breath. It is my sincerest hope that we will never figure it all out. It is not something for the mind.

[@BunnyUK]

Other people can no longer emotionally hurt me. Yes they can kill me, cut me, burn me, etc. But the key for me to giving up emotional pain caused by other people, was no longer caring, not even a crumb, about other people's ideas & opinions about me. I was lied about by a so-called family member & other people bought those lies, even though I did nothing wrong. In that experience, I realised it no longer mattered what I did, how well I behaved, how much I did for others, it would never guarantee safety from other people's negative opinions about me. The other key for me, was to stop trying to control what other people think of me - whether it is good, or bad. Just let them choose whatever opinion they want. It's their business what they think and that's the same for me, I choose my thoughts and opinions too. You have to allow other people to think whatever they want, and not care about the outcome. You can still prefer them to think well of you, but it's not required.

[@horizon5677]

Hi, there is no correlation in this question... but, what do you do.. as in career.. or job?

[@maithiliradhakrishnan15]

Absolutely Bunny, this is a huge cause for hurt - Trying to make them see you the way you want them to see you. Losing all expectations from others can be a big relief from hurt.

[@millelucas8083]

well said

[@PP-tb3ox]

Life is good when one can be like this. Am enjoying life now.

[@katedahan2074]

So true

[@dereklang4451]

I think how Krishnamurti explains that by giving all your attention to what someone says, without any images of how things should be, how you should be, how people should behave towards you etc., completely negates you being hurt is what follows after realizing/feeling for yourself that having any kind of image/expectation how one should be/should be treated etc. automatically results in a chance of being hurt. So basically having any kind of expectation about oneself, others, life etc., expecting things to be a certain way, continue being a certain way etc. will result in becoming hurt/upset/angry/insecure/scared etc. So once you realize that having expectations will cause you suffering you will drop them forever, like seeing that the stove is on and hot; you're not going to put your hand on it willingly, are you? This doesn't mean you won't try to do the things in life that you enjoy and be apathetic, but you will have no problem (fear, anger, disappointment etc.) if something doesn't work out.

[@alienclockii]

Putting this in the life-changing folder

[@godsson4858]

No ego= No hurt

[@dnt000]

So no teeth means no tooth ache? Very simplistic solution my friend.

[@deyvisoonjean10]

​@@dnt000 No "Me", "ego", is one of the concepts most defended by Mr Krishnamurti my friend. This is not simple at all !!! And he talks about the ego in this video, didn't you notice? The image of yourself is your ego, but not only that. Watch more videos and be happy :)

[@dnt000]

@@deyvisoonjean10 It is the realization that ego is a fake concept. You can not kill the ego if you believe it doesn't exist. Killing the ego is like chasing shadows in your own head.

[@Ludifant]

Isn´t that a Bob Marley song?

[@ashwinidombale7158]

Does it mean we have to be shame less? Like rn i am jobless and i am not contributing any thing financially to my home and shouldnt i be ashamed of it?

[@stud000000079]

K's love is like a tsunami. Have tears in my eyes listening and watching him.

[@AwakenAbundance]

This man speaks with so much passion and knowledge, it is unbelievable.

[@annihilatorzone]

If u can live without any single image of yours In your mind. Then nobody can hurt you.🙏

[@kodda4un]

If u can live without any single image of yours In your mind. Then there is nobody to recieve hurt.

[@wicomms]

True humility I guess

[@jyjt2903]

Again it's expectation having no image.

[@roshnishah3803]

@@jyjt2903 wow.. how deep.

[@arvind1019]

@@jyjt2903no expectation but image of you having no image

[@CAP753]

For the first time I have been able to understand him, although chasing and reading him for quarter of a century.When there is attention and focus your false self(the image he is talking about) vaporizes which has the tendency to get hurt.Your real self is pure and innocent that is unprovoked by the hurts.

[@reachslb]

So if someone abuses, u will still be calm ?

[@vrijmonisme]

@@reachslb would like to know too

[@katedahan2074]

Yes, you put it beautifuly

[@katedahan2074]

It is our humañ nature to be calm, don't stoop to their level

[@cifi5118]

What is meant by total attention

[@raja_d_]

It's only when there's inattention, registration of hurt or flattery takes place. Absolute gold!

[@venudoddavarapu9186]

I quite didn't get it

[@dariussamadian9924]

because its attention to the word, which is just a word. Not a registration of what it means for the self, because there is no self image

[@raja_d_]

@@venudoddavarapu9186 This is my interpretation of this. Thoughts have a place only when there's inattention. Thought is nothing but the replay of memory - movement of time. Thought has an image about oneself and clings to that image. When this image is shattered or accepted, we experience hurt or flattery respectively. Ideally if we live without the psychological time, we are free.

[@raja_d_]

@@theperfectcelibate8669 Your language clearly explains who you are! Knowledge without action is like a musical instrument that produces the music but is insensitive to the music. Gold in the language describes something that's invaluable - Don't get caught up with the words. Those statements of JK are clearly Gold and gist of the whole talk. Be humble than a blade of grass and help people to come out of the misery games of ego if you can.

[@hz7988]

@m k 🙏🏻

[@JulioMartinsVerso]

this should be played in open TV every single day

[@asadahmed1800]

"Attention is the flame that burn out past & present hurts"

[@felicityfreedom5639]

Summary: he means by attention : awareness. (Inattention = unaware, unfocused ). Don't take any shape and do not build a self image (eg: I am not like this or that, I am like this...) and be aware of this. If someone said something and you are hurt or flattered , be aware about this and be aware of your thoughts and about what there are in your subconscious. Give your thoughts attention and see why your are hurt. You will realize that you are hurt because you have created a self image.

[@cpk_]

this might very well be one of the most significant /missing golden nugget insight/teaching, out there - to help further and elevate collective human consciousness. if you are here now. you are lucky. and you owe your full and unwavering attention to this 9:17mins of your life. love

[@GolokaVrindavana108]

"To have a mind that is incapable of being hurt ."

[@vijayraghunathan2091]

What a soul! I am grateful to hear this talk. Thanks for sharing

[@baptm727]

I always come back to Jiddu when I feel like I need a recall, and everytime he kicks me in the head.

[@Ptndn1111]

Exactly.. he literally kicks us in the head!

[@felipefuenteslizama1762]

Me too

[@djjjk]

Weird, have the exact same sentiments.

[@membranepotential6944]

Si.

[@tomaszliske2131]

„When somebody says - you are a fool, can you at that moment give your total attention. If you do, than that is no hurt. The past hurt have gone in that attention”. The suffering in the world lays on absence of a grat teachers (ofcourse the root of suffer is the ego but only teachers can help end of suffer), and our hearts withdrew into deep darkness. I am gratitude for this wisdom that makes me blooming. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@nikitanehete9034]

Wait wait.. can someone please tell me. How to give full attention? Wat does it mean to give full attention wen someone says hurtful things to you?

[@OkyeameKwameBRA]

Beautiful

[@CD-ez8gz]

He speaks in circles. It’s evident that the ego gets hurt but no one can live without an ego. The question is, how to bring the ego under the leadership of the true Self which cannot be hurt. Being present helps but also if one is truly present with their pain, they’ll have to feel the pain. It’s an unpleasant experience and maybe that’s a start, feeling it but not identifying with it. Easy to say, hard to do.

[@IleneCamila]

💯

[@TonkatsuChickenTJ]

do you really know that no one can live without an ego. if you say i dont know only then can you try to find out. thats what he asking you to do imo. sit under a tree and inquire.

[@pepenakamoto3675]

Show me, bring me that ego so i can take it away from you

[@yorizwealreadyare4694]

Perhaps there's also the difference between pain and suffering. Pain in the moment but no long term suffering of the ego.

[@mimi-iy7jv]

true… can help you recognize what you’re unhappy with .. it doesnt stay forever and then you can change the things that are subjectively hurting you, the things that are subjectively changeable.

[@jamesnic4653]

Oh beautiful Soul. Thank you for your Grace and Guidance.

[@realgenjutsu8181]

The level of present moment awareness needed to achieve this is immense. To be present at the exact moment your image, your ego, your identity is threatened!!

[@techfeed596]

thanks sir for being in my life may be not in the physical form but it's an honor for me to listen to u and can say proudly that u r from India.

[@thushankahettiarachchi2481]

I agree. The more we are not giving attention to other person we come into conclusions and we also start scolding with anger and the more we give attention we are not hurt because we know the reason. Great lesson. Thank you so much for the person who shared me this and also for teaching us this🙏

[@sharmilamenon5337]

Deep gratitude to the knowing he brought to us....Our great Master...

[@dynasticlight1073]

This, Man has a clear mind attains true forms of thought thru precise understanding .That is equally above most perceptions or any learned opinions...

[@thedoer2953]

A good teacher

[@hariprasad2774]

Total attention is like a flame that burns the hurt feelings. Wow !!!

[@shaisavani]

All wise people say, don't do this or that. Live a life of purpose but very few people show us how??? J. Krishnamurthy was sucha being who showed us the way. Eternally thankful.

[@meditationrelaxingpeaceful5632]

Why are you hurt. No need to hurt. People get hurted you but it's in your control whether you choose peace or pain💕💕💕

[@melissaharrison2694]

i wish you were my father ....i need you in my life. So grateful for this video and channel xxx

[@TheMCVR]

Take away : #Forming a concrete image inside hurts #Pay full attention when you are blamed #Attention is a fire it burns past and present hurts

[@10HW]

I'm not here to take away but to pay attention.

[@littlewhitedoveyuj]

To flow with like the oceans that ride the storm and then become transformed into purity. Why am I hurt ? Observe the hurt not to be stone but to transform it into love and compassion. Observe why you are hurting let it go and learn from the observed feeling. Life is beautiful

[@littlewhitedoveyuj]

🫂💠🙏

[@peacelovejoy8786]

Love is only the real thing ❤ All else is created by man's ego (hurt) .. Mindfulness & Gratitude goes along way. 🙏✌

[@crystalserrant5915]

He described it THOROUGHLY 🥺😳❤🙌🏾

[@theisticsacrals5889]

I was looking for JK's lectures from long time ago. These lectures are equally matters!

[@AragonaAlessandro]

I love when he speaks Italian and French mix&match ❣️❣️❣️

[@thisisme24610]

beautiful talk?!! The pauses just penetrate…mind stops…tingling in the arms. Full attention…such liberation

[@dancezar6049]

Anger management at its finest. Simply incredible.

[@rudilegrand5338]

Je n'avais encore entendu personne parler du problème sous cet angle. voilà un véritable maitre spirituel ! Merci. Namasté

[@healingmelody112]

Whoever is reading this now, remember: You can achieve anything you can imagine. You are the light, that radiates love and compassion! Feel the abundance in your heart and be sure that you are not alone on this journey! Feel the power within and be the creator of your own reality! Blessings to all beings! Love and Light!❤️

[@lailaayan306]

God bless each and every one of us. I think a lot of us needed to hear this, I know I did. Listening to this offered introspective

[@meenakamble6576]

This is truly amazing... I had tried it several times... U r actually just listening means giving attention and the words which gives hurt just flew away. The best part is ppl gets even more annoying when we don't address to their dailogues , their critisism, their labelling. They started checking my temperature whether all ok😁. And I tell u if u do it once u can def do it many times... There comes the actual living.. all the good luck to the viewers.

[@reachslb]

i dont get it. u mean we should be attentively numb to what they say ?

[@thee_executive6978]

@@reachslb no , attentively numbing peoples dialogue is not helpful . I do this all the time and end up still hurt bc i could’ve gave attention to the matter as in respond/correct the matter . Don’t “not react” bc the opposer will believe in his own contradictions and u will run into the same cycle if u don’t break it now

[@sdla690]

Attentively listening but being like a third person???

[@gameofthrones5655]

Just amazing...how this is ex- pressed❤❤❤awsome...whole heartfully. Often its said: Do not make God a image and that also means directly clear spoken...not make one of urself...cause they say u r a image of God...which of course its a lie ...but when u go deeper...u see.. u just made accidently a image of urself...which is indeed...the source of a lot of disturbances in ur oceanic mind.

[@WhiteMetal_]

I don't know what's your perspective of his talks *But for me* he is like fire & his speeches are aggressive, intense. He is like mind which eats itself.

[@uviweasongca7214]

i’m glad to have come across this.

[@PurnamadaPurnamidam]

He is the man, a real one. Respect him with love. ⚘

[@jamall66]

Amazing speech. Cant believe I came across this video exactly 1 day before seeing a girl who I truly love that made me feel emotions no other person could trigger. The relationship felt like an awakening experience from the very beginning until now. We haven't been talking for over a month because I didn't treat her the way I was supposed to and let her down and not a single day has passed without thinking about her. I really do hope what Krisnamurti is saying is right and will have it in mind the moment I see her again, that: "Can you give your total attention? If you do then there is no hurt. The past hurts have gone in that attention. Attention is like a flame that burns out the past and the present hurt".

[@surabhimittal4268]

Ummm excuse... If u want can we talk privately because your words literally triggers my emotions and i jus want to get deep into that... So that i could wats going with me too... Actually like yours.. May be i was searching for this.... It would be very kind if u clear sth..which is disturbing me.!?

[@contemplativepursuits]

One of the greatest masters of Life.

[@chandana6294]

No conclusion, no judgements ,no attention hurt ,no image of ourselves , no expectations , this is second time I'm hearing him I still feel I'm new to concept "hurt " self reminder and new thoughts addresses . I get it but I don't know how I implement/execute 🙏💐

[@j.t.s8618]

Do you want to wipe out your hurts? or do you love your hurts? 😂 I'd say 99% of us just paid full attention at that point 😂 I love this teacher! He's so darn cool, strong and unique and the list goes on 🥰 Thank you for sharing this 😍

[@posadasanisidro3595]

Attention is like a flame that burns out the past and the future. Brilliant.🔅🔆

[@IndulgentSamurai]

What we truly 'are' can never be hurt, suffer, or be in pain. Unless we believe through conditioning that 'what' we are, are persons that are going to grow old, get sick and die. That's why knowing Thyself, our true self, is salvation...

[@tradedeals7158]

👍

[@ashutoshdwivedi2452]

Cannot be more accurate.

[@moody2415]

this was absolutely amazing

[@seemadongare9052]

Thank you so much... The great father💕💕💕

[@prashant4]

What clarity... what exposition! Sadho sadho!! 🙏🏻🌹

[@jeganathank9241]

"Attention is like a flame that burns out all of the past and future" wow❤️

[@mingtoiisaac4623]

Correction: " past and present hurts". ❤

[@phoenixpersonified3484]

Worth listening to again and again 😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏

[@NatureVideo___]

What a wonderful man!

[@wtfftw24]

I think disattention, not caring,is the key about not hurting. If somebody who wants to hurt you, and you pay attention on what he says or does towards you, then you focus on his bad attention versus you.

[@tageschance5501]

Van the man sings:“Cut your Self, that never did you no good“ I really wish to give total attention and awarness, but too often I lose attention and get angry or sad. I really want to be free of my angry, sad, frightened, jealous Self-Image, which never did me no good 😌 Love and peace inside and outside- that’s the attentive state of mind, I want to be in. Thank you so much for your words, Krishnaji ❤️🕊

[@KnottyZah]

It takes time, you got this. Consistency is key.

[@moonmoonsingh2710]

Something much needed for so long...Thank you so much for this channel

[@philkelly8097]

Thank you for this “ who is this You who is hurt ?” 🙏

[@Lilrose26]

Well, this video helped me realize that I am deeply hurt.

[@siddharthakar7190]

Same here, but I wish the best for you....

[@pinkypromise6037]

😂❤️

[@prateekwatwale4812]

I have experienced that in total awareness it is impossible to get angry no matter what others say to you

[@anuragdubey9204]

Most beautiful explained

[@gamercat852]

I feel it's like being humble is curing the hurt. Not in a way that you are agreeing with the disrespect but in a way am I this much significant so all this could not happen to me. I am everything and nothing and this makes me free. Cus in the end we are just spirits without any form. Just a part of the universe.

[@deanchapman2465]

4:15 "But do it! Not just live with words and ideas, but do it! Because then you are free, then you flower in goodness."

[@19skidoo46]

The present is like a flame that burns the past and the future, this is gold!

[@thepearlswirl]

🔥

[@renu2009]

Attention is like a flame which burns past and present hurts. Wow... Not understood fully but this line still astonishes me.

[@TheoSophii]

This is nonsense actually. If you pay attention😂

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank You so much dearest 🌹 You’re such an inspiration 🥰 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇🌈

[@sandymyers3148]

right wonderful

[@Zara-um1nx]

This is very true thank you so much

[@diarsadwipayana]

Tks JK!

[@sudeshnadutta8055]

What I understood from this video is...if we understand our inner self well enough then nobody's word can hurt us. If we focus on the lesson derived from someone else's act rather focusing on the superficial consequences we will not get hurt by their acts. Outer influences only can enter within us when we are not content enough from within keeping the ego aside.

[@Jentoots]

Thank you 😊

[@bhosale6136]

your video guide me alot🙏🙏🙏

[@rdbazzi]

Nothing that he says fix anything. I’m broken.

[@sagaryadav8308]

It's feels very realistic. Awesome

[@ctrlgamin]

Thankyou for this. 😊

[@annaann2910]

Thank you 💜

[@myvinchaapp9902]

Amazing, such a sharp and precise intellect!

[@vandanarao8235]

Omg,I need to heal here. The Image.!

[@VASUDEVAV.]

_Great Sir_

[@phylvalen9991]

Nooo!! That ended too soon, I need to hear more sir!

[@leftyx7777]

Love this, & y'all y'all in the comments

[@TroutMaskReplicaa]

An incredible man

[@brotherpaul6989]

I have been in New York City once standing by a car waiting for someone. Suddenly a group of Afro Americans across the street started throwing eggs at me. My whole attention was completely absorbed in dodging incoming eggs. I have seen a trajectory of each flying egg and none was able to hit me. After wasting several eggs, homies walked away without any further escalation. I did not feel any fear, anger or other negative feelings or emotions during and afterwards that incident. There was no me, little self or ego. Just pure vivid and sharp attention laser focused in present moment.

[@АманжолЖекенов]

Thank you

[@OlivePopeyeRed]

Without internalizing, Be present and you will not be hurt.

[@Serenedove]

I want to be hurt, by the right things in a right way, so it improves me helps me glow and grow, become a better human, kinder more joyous, supports my heart and soul, softens me and makes me a person i like looking at and can appreciate. And I wish to be spared pains that make me become something I don't like being. :)

[@michaeljoseph6093]

He’s right.