Kids Going "Off the Derech": Reasons, Reactions, and Responses, with Rabbi Y.Y. Jacobson

[@NavigatingChabadOnlyShorts]

Thank you for making this interview happen! :)

[@AnnaBright-sq4vl]

Baruch Hashem, your teaching is simplified to everyone's understanding. Toda

[@AvaParnass]

Fantastic Rabbi .. I agree it all comes from a deep place of pain like all symptoms in life.

[@Ben-Oni-BT]

Thank you for this, Rabbi. What was said is seminal, so relatable, so beautiful, poignant and heart-warming in an incredible way. Every individual whoever found themselves "off the derek" at one point or another in their life, for the reasons mentioned here and for reasons not mentioned here, will find chizuk and, Elohim willing, teshuvah, upon hearing this video. If all the in-fighting and division within the Haredi and non-Haredi world would cease, and we all begin to heal and love our neighbor, Moshiach would come.

[@AnnaBright-sq4vl]

You've spoken to me through this medium. I'll always disconnect myself from the source of my pains.

[@judilano770]

One of the bestest talks

[@russrussel3947]

To be honest, it was only under a specific set of circumstances, that after a lifetime of Self-Hating due to being a Patrilineal forced through Christianity.....it was only remembering my Jewish Grandpa's Agnosticism and teaching me Yiddishkeit and his rejecting Judaism combined with depressiviely growing up with Fundamental Evangelical Charismatic Christianity, that finally sparked my Pintele Yid. However, in a debate with a German Christian Psychologist on Tovia's Outteach Judaism site, he made a good point that often one goes from one Fundamentalism to another. (I DO go crazy on RABBI Singer's site.) Dismantling Christianity and shredding Anti-Jewish Christian Attitudes gives me Great Joy and is Therapeutic. To what end is all the learning for if we can't dismantle Anti-Jewish Attitudes ???? I'm a Patrilineal Noahide Counter Missionary with a Pintele Yid. I finally know who I am. But, I don't want to be like a ROTE Catholic or Isolated Sheltered Religious Academic. I wish I could be a Chabadnik on the streets of NYC with a Tehillim saying "Ask Me Why The Tehillim Is JC-FREE" OR "Ask me about the Isaiah 53 Conspiracy". Now that I don't have an Identity Crisis anymore, I'm too old to really live out my IDENTITY. JUDAISM needs a mission, an application for all of that learning in the GOYIM world. CHOSEN means to Shine The Light Of The Hebrew T.N.K. to the GOYIM. This is how we save and preserve JUDAISM, with it having a PURPOSE outside of our BUBBLES.

[@DovidM-s4c]

In the eyes of the Orthodox jews, you'll always be viewed as subhuman as a goy

[@lindaversil1121]

My teenage boys are off the derech because they say they want to have fun and play sports and go to the beach on Shabbos and eat in non kosher restaurants with their friends. They feel restricted on Shabbos and holidays and kashrut. They want to dress the ways they want and go to public universities. They won’t listen to us. They used to love going to shul No more. Their sports games are more important

[@lindaversil1121]

Chabad had a lot to do with them turning off sad to say.

[@menachemporter5367]

Going off what you have written, and daring to opine because you posted this here; I would assure you that in the long run, their state is temporary and they will probably come around. Probably sooner than you think. Maybe it's not easy now, but take heart.

[@lindaversil1121]

@@menachemporter5367 and they met these secular teens at our chabad house who invited them over after shul on Shabbos to their homes and watch movies and drive them to the mall. Our chabad makes activities for these teens boys and girls mixed and they go fun places with them. My boys like this and have secular non observant girlfriends who they met at chabad shul. My boys are 18 and don’t wear kippah or put on tefillin or go to shul anymore. They are out having fun with their friends who they met at Chabad. The rabbi has no influence on them.

[@chayapisanti]

I so disagree with manaclhenporter. The rabby explains it so simple and prisize. Listen again to the beginning please.

[@creditcardhelp8824]

Listen here 31:00

[@Natalia-i3r]

Bravo!

[@RubenTokam-eo2mx]

When God created human being he gave them the choice . 23:22

[@AnnaBright-sq4vl]

Yes, I want emotional connection

[@AnnaBright-sq4vl]

Absolutely

[@SaraFreedMiami]

Who's this interviewer? Why don't YOU GIVE CREDIT?? 18:10

[@simchad613]

Off the derech means one thing only, not following the Torah. It’s not complicated.

[@simchad613]

Children go off the derech because they chose to. Every child has some kind of trauma according to this speaker because nobody is perfect. But not everyone goes off the derech . It’s their choice and giving excuses for them is wrong. It’s up to every parent to decide whether they want that child in their house or not. This thing of showing love to a child that chose to hurt you has no basis in reality.

[@Kushintuchis-99]

You never EVER disown a child. It's unthinkable! When G-d forbid someone has a child with special needs, not only do they not disown the child, on the contrary, they show even MORE love and compassion towards him or her. The same thing applies in ruchnius!!!

[@simchad613]

@@Kushintuchis-99 In the good old days before we had this new fangled system, a child that wanted to off the derech we sat shiva for. We didn’t start showering the child with love after decided to make wrong choices. And under no circumstances would I have such a child in my house. I’m not going to reward bad behaviour. That’s what the looney left do.

[@RubenTokam-eo2mx]

I think it will be the best that when you Rabbi are trying to bring the gentiles into the light you must speak the sample english understand by them not your in your syntific term.