Kolkata Doctor Case-R*** Culture in India and Pakistan - Victim Blaming,Patriarchy and Honour -

[@imme-2024]

30:40 "sexual desire tou nai control hosakti, men are not robots, *kyun bhae ap ko nai pata ap ghar jatay hain tou apki maa hoti hai apki behan hoti hai: wahan tou apko control hojata hai.* Kyun? Ap tou janwar hain na, ap tou bandar kay bachay hain ap ko tou farq hi nai karna chahiyay" 💯💯

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@AKumar-co7oe]

@@ThePakistanExperience pdf file profit, cereal grapist ki puja karo, sexual assault pe doosron ko lecture karo

[@BurgerEconomist]

BIMARU ?​@@AKumar-co7oe

[@shifaburhan]

Exactly. They are able to compartmentalize women. If it's their mother or sister or daughter, they know these women are off limits (generally speaking, otherwise even these women are not safe at times). Now, when they see a women who is not related to them, suddenly they lose the ability to control their urges? Says a lot about how much of it is involuntary and how much of it is intentional.

[@pascalwager4544]

Even these protections are being removed now because naturally humans and animals too have something in them that desensitizes them towards family. It is called westermarck effect. But with the advent & proliferation of the type of adult content specifically marketed & targeted as step f*ntasy this idea has progressively been planted in people's minds and it is going to take its toll on the society sooner rather than later.

[@sourav_das_chowdhury]

Lot of thanks from India to support the protest against Rape ❤️🇮🇳🇵🇰

[@ahaanmisra4892]

Is mamle mein we are fairly close to each other 😉...in nature and activities

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@asan506]

Love and unity from Pakistan

[@sanyaakurd-bd9wg]

Lots of condolences from Pakistan😢💔🙏🏼

[@rakabag1565]

Since Kolkata is a metro city and victim is a doctor.. And it was brutal.. so it is being reported in this manner. On one hand we are protesting on the other hand r*pes are being committed in different part of the country. This is a very tough time we are living in.... Thanks for covering it..

[@ThePakistanExperience]

Tough time indeed

[@yash1...]

It has always been tough time...only now more cases r being reported..

[@trilokyamohanchakra6351]

​@@yash1...Thanks to social media else momota would have covered

[@sanyaakurd-bd9wg]

Lots of condolences from Pakistan🙏🏼💔

[@trilokyamohanchakra6351]

@@sanyaakurd-bd9wg you know interestingly enough her tape "Video" is among the most searched topics in the Indian subcontinent, and all Muslim men I have met also want to see that video, I wonder if they are correlating this with how prophet used to do things or is it just tharaaaak

[@rishlovesfalafels]

Indian here. Thank you for speaking up, Shehzad. We as a society have a huge patriarchal culture that contributes to rape culture. I hope Indian and Pakistani men start calling out their friends and family whenever they see them say or do anything bad. This starts with treating non relatives with respect, not using Maa-Behen ki gaaliyaan too. Thank you 🙏🧿

[@tusharagarwal4417]

NAAM RIYADUBAI KYUN HAI TU RIYAINDIA KYUN NAHI HAI

[@rishlovesfalafels]

@@tusharagarwal4417 Because I live in Dubai.

[@RR-nc1uq]

​@@rishlovesfalafels sharam nahi aati Anti sanatani anti hindu Bhaarat MAATA KO CHOR KAR COW EATER ,KE DESH ME REHTI HO UPPAR SE APNE NAAM ME BHARAT MATA PUTRI HATA KAR DUBAI LAGAYA HAI AFSOS😮😮😮

[@gorky451]

Kya reply aaye hain ...Kamal hai mere desh ke "mardon" tum ek ladki ko comment bhi karne de sakte ......ek bar akele baith ke sochna ki kya likha hai tumne ? Ek esi video ke neeche ? Dil deemag hai ya nahi ? Itni nafrat laate kanhan se ho ?

[@ramneekchanna]

Amazing, this is what you got from her comment. No wonder we are failing as society ​@@tusharagarwal4417

[@Ashi.Anizain]

Oh thank you Shehzad. I don’t find courage at the age of 50 to come back to Pakistan and live as a single woman despite being educated and the dream to do something for my country.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@CrazyRedditVids]

nation states are a construct.you are better off anywhere else.godspeed.

[@rohasalman-yx2km]

@@ThePakistanExperience Same! You have no idea how difficult it is to just THINK of going out on the street by myself. All I want to do is LEAVE this country as much as I love the culture. I don't have the guts and the mental or physical strength to overcome my fears and walk outside on the street alone without someone I trust even in the direst conditions. That is how fearful I am ALWAYS. and trust me IT IS SO TIRING. It's so suffocating and tiring to constantly be afraid.

[@Cutekumbhu]

I am from India, thank you for raising your voice with us

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@pppie8509]

Something to ponder: On every major road in Pakistan, there are dhabas, that serve affordable food for middle class men. There are ZERO affordable dhabas where middle class women can sit and enjoy a sasta meal and socialize. How do we expect women to join the workforce when they can't even eat outside if they can't afford a nice air conditioned restaurant or cafe?

[@ThePakistanExperience]

True

[@pascalwager4544]

It is only recently the women have started to go to restaurants but when I was growing up in 90s & early 2ks there were virtually no women at any of the restaurants & those who went would be thought of weak moral characters.

[@rohand04]

​​@@pascalwager4544 thankfully we never have had to face this culture in southern and western part of India. Atleast since we grew up.. we only heard about the stories of in our grandparents generation women were not allowed to step out of the house and should have ghunghat. but if you think about it.. the Muslim population still follow this segregation.. and whole burkha.. and women are not allowed to step out of home without any burkha etc..

[@rohand04]

​@@kingshuksarkar are you afraid of your women?

[@silverfox-pl8ry]

Sooo true and i told you if even dared to go to buy just naan or a roti from tandoor people are starting at you like why are you here its not your place

[@MajidJavedMughal]

In my opinion, this is Shahzad's most exceptional video to date. 🎉

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@H.A-Phoenix1]

@@MajidJavedMughal Indeed, my heart witnessing it With a big yesss His pain…❤️‍🔥 Truthfulness with fierceness - he spoke right from his grieving heart. 🩵🩵🩵

[@abhi.ku2432]

​@@ThePakistanExperienceSahih al-Bukhari 2229 Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri: that while he was sitting with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) he said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! We get female captives as our share of booty, and we are interested in their prices, what is your opinion about coitus interrupt us?" The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Do you really do that? It is better for you not to do it. No soul that which Allah has destined to exist, but will surely come into existence.

[@rishabh758]

I have five years old daughter and i am scared like shit...thanks for speaking up shehzad

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@ramneekchanna]

Same here, my daughter is teen now

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@rohand04]

I'm scared for my wife.. a proud chartered accountant by profession and the way she explained how one day on her way back from office, a group of boys were teasing all the girls including her on the road singing "bheege hote tere" My first reaction was to get her a pistol for protection.. but just can't due to law.. we need USA like gun laws here.. The helplessness you feel because you were not there to protect her when you promised her but we all know what will happen.. we will want to step out of the job market.. it's because of the fools like them .. We men have failed our women's

[@x1avenger]

Leave these countries asap !

[@tjay8433]

Bro iam from india, bro our condition is way worst in early 2000s . Eye teasing ,forced kissing and grabbing was very normal in those time. Most evil are 40+ uncles . Nirbhaya case in 2012 made a huge paradigm sift in women rights and safety. 😢😢 Hope this Kolkata case get justice

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@rohand04]

It not just this case we should strive for all cases We need better police reforms.. problem is not that laws are not strict or not The problem is the audacity that the culprits know that they can get away with it..

[@roopasharma238]

I am a woman and have lived in Kolkata and Delhi and now am back in Kolkata. I am sorry I cannot agree with you that there is a paradigm shift in women's safety since the Nirbhaya case - NO. Women are still as unsafe - see the NCRB stats and you will know how safe we are. So far as women's rights are concerned - the situation may have improved slightly as we are trying to demand what is rightly ours. I won't say the success rate is anything to write home about.

[@mixa5509]

​​@@roopasharma238thank you for calling this Pakistani faking as Indian. We have a long way to go but for sure things are improving. Woman at workplace is increasing, law as POSH are also helping.

[@WeCareWithMona]

@@mixa5509 plz stop ✋ no one is making fake ids to defame india this matter is not about india or Pakistan its about women safety. We should leave politics to politicians and join hands to fight this dilemma

[@alokranjan5410]

Most painful thing is , Chief minister of West Bengal who is a women tried her best to hide this case...we as a society going down and down....Sad

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@pascalwager4544]

She's not doing anything out of ordinary that's what women have been trained to do in this society. They are taught to cover up and give excuses to these men-just look at mothers, sisters, or family friends of culprits-they go out of their way to shame & blame the victims.

[@rohand04]

And this isn't the first time she is doing it.. she has a history of shielding the criminals for her political gains

[@saadahmad438]

Thanks for speaking on this issue Shehzad. This is a very real problem in our society.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@nickysinha8818]

Thank you so much for speaking up on this ! It was much needed.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@phantomdeluxe8359]

South Asia needs to go through a long journey and mass reeducation of it's masses to solve this phenomenon

[@ThePakistanExperience]

Yes

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@rekhalalmalani5906]

Saddened as a female doctor in india, shocked beyond belief . Is this 2024

[@ravibhati7622]

its really great to see that people like you exists in our societies who have the dare to talk on such issue bluntly. Love from Delhi Bro

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@mjamalchohan]

Larkay mazak mai bol dete hain, "shareef woh hai jisko moqa nahi mila". And it speaks volumes. Very well pointed out how it's all about power and not about lust.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@ThePakistanExperience]

That is not a sexual idiom though. It’s used for all crimes. It’s used often for corruption also

[@pascalwager4544]

Yes, that's an excuse for all crimes & criminal behavior!

[@4yesha.04]

"Being born a woman is an awful tragedy. Yes, my consuming desire to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, bar room regulars-to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording-all is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yet, God, I want to talk to everybody I can as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night. -Sylvia Plath" All we want is something as simple as this to experience being truly a human.. yet here we are telling ppl why rape is the fault of a rapist

[@pale_blue_ruby]

"A woman should only be respected by virtue of her relation to a man" Ouffff that hits close to home. I remember in 8th grade when a teacher was telling us about how our behavior and how we carry ourselves is an extension of our fathers and brothers, and that they are there to protect us, I started crying because I had neither. And I carry this feeling to this day. We talk about how important a male dominated society is, but we don't address how women without these close relations live. They have to fend for themselves.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@pascalwager4544]

I never understood why people think its okay to curse a man through his female relatives or if they choose to not do that then they will casually say they will SA the man not as a threat but just say it, as a joke or banter even...

[@abc_cba]

I was 5 when it started with me, the uncomfortable touches. I didn't even know what "sex" even meant at that tender age. Post that, I've been molested by men and women equally and in my 30s, I still have the scars left on my mind. Imagine, a boy going through with that, what it must be for girls who can't even express it or even sense it.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

So sorry to hear this

[@theshorttitancutter8563]

82% boys in South asia faced that

[@WeCareWithMona]

@@abc_cba im so sorry to hear this so so sorry leaves a scar in my heart too

[@G-raa-c2k]

Sad to know this. Hope you recover from these wounds.

[@sapien307]

Even kids are not safe 😢 literally shameful

[@dawn0916]

Thank you for speaking up on behalf of women of Pakistan and India.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Cookiedough2365]

Thankyou for speaking on this issue. As a doctor we are shocked. Truly harrowing experience.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@farhanafarooq5713]

Women also blame other women for getting raped or abused. Its almost universal in Pakistan, and frankly, I see no hope for the future because if the oppressed don't want change, why would the oppressor?

[@ThePakistanExperience]

Internalised patriarchy

[@rohand04]

In India women just demand for head of the culprits. They just want to vent out their anger. but never cared to solve the problem.. the society has shamed and made it impossible for anyone to show sympathy for the culprits.. But problem is with the mother of the culprits who still someway defend their keen .. that's a disgrace

[@c0r5e]

A woman's enemy is another woman

[@Sasta_Charas_Mat_Piyo]

I've never personally met a women who would defend r@pe or sexual harassment of women. It's a ridiculous notion. Social media fake profiles guised as women are not reliable sources to get your info😊.

[@Sasta_Charas_Mat_Piyo]

I've never personally met a woman who defends r@pe and harassment of women. "It's almost universal" - What a rediculous notion. Fake profiles guised as women are not reliable source of data.

[@SDineshViolin]

Excellent video Shehzad! Dehumanization and power dynamics is the key here! Even today when the decision on the Ajmer case of 1992 came and court awarded compensation the victims have said that neither do they want justice nor compensation because they are worried about their identities being disclosed!

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@air9music]

Just started watching but thanking you in advance, given that you are one of the clearer voices of sanity on either side of the Radcliffe line 🙌

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@vinodchauhan8269]

You n some others whose view which i know due to KZbin,make my head to scratch how gems can be in Pakistan.but i watch your podcast n time stops.you are rare diamond of not only Pakistan but indias too.how beautifully u prepare n explain...koi b samaj jata hai how deeply you wants to convey our deep rooted problem.love from india

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@ajethan2302]

I'm from kolkata and participated in the protest. But honestly I'm hopeless because I don't see any accountability from authority and all this protest happening because it happened in kolkata a fairly liberal city. I'm scared to just thinking about what's happening on the other part. I don't know how we solve this problem. Now every girl is scared. My girlfriend after this go to office by sharing her live location.. The society we live in is with the predators.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@ugh.why.]

Seeing how vigilant the Supreme Court is being in the matter, justice will definitely be delivered, I'm very hopeful of that. But at the same time, this is just one case, there are so many others like this.

[@sohaibkhalid3343]

Need a complete course on this topic from you similar to Hitler one pls.

[@anonymouslyopinionated656]

when will woke dimwits realise that not all evil behaviour is because of something socialogical that can be magiced away with the power of leftism? it doesn't matter how liberal a place is, crimes like this are pathalogically violent behaviour based on a sense of domination and power. please don't pretend a 'liberal' (meaning leftie) person is statistically less likely of exhibiting violent or pathologically criminal tendencies

[@pascalwager4544]

This cannot happen without mandatory sex-ed in school from a young age, retiring sexist curse words (mother***, sister***, etc.), strict laws & punishment, and sexual liberation & opening up of the society. The dichotomy of what is available online & through media e.g. bollywood & hollywood adds fuel to the fire.

[@NidzShah-ps6kr]

As an Indian woman I am absolutely angry with the current situation. I feel like desi people just don’t see women as human beings.

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

They don’t

[@ajb4690]

Top class work bro.. keep it up

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@rohitrivedi]

thanks for conveying what some of us men in the sub continent feel ,cause some amongst us have gone so vile and evil that even animals might be ashamed of us ,maybe someday in future humanity will prevail over region ,politics and patriarchy bas bhai keep it up lots of love

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@roopasharma238]

It was really heartening to read your comment. I pray all the men think like you and help in improving our society. God bless you.

[@gargiSD]

Just started video, thank you for making video.. physician here who did 24 hrs plus duty in hospital & slept in any room where I got space as an intern.. I am glad we moved to US , my daughter will be comparatively safer..

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@pratipkumarroy]

True,Gargi. Don't come back.

[@gargiSD]

@@pratipkumarroy no plans to move back.. even when I visit I am quite guarded..

[@razkaraj2150]

Indian here. This incident is one of the cases, yaha daily ke hisaab se kitne crimes hote hain, aur kitne to report bhi nahi hote. Bhai yaha police FIR nahi likhti 1 baar me. There is complete overhaul of society , its belief, and accountability of authority is required. This system has to change. Powerful people get away with anything they do. I'm so fed up with this. Be it in any part of the world. Koi apna kaam thik se nahi karta. Anyone who is in position of power tries to bend the rules. Baat rahi in darindo ki saalo ko example bnana padega. 🤬🤬🤬

[@salmankarim5448]

I couldn't help but feeling that what you wrote, explicitly describes Pakistan.

[@pascalwager4544]

Not at all different from Pakistan. Police is focused on three things only: getting their salary, taking bribes, providing protection to politicians, powerful, and wealthy. That's it. They don't want to actually do their work. You can see it happen over and over again. For example, Zainab case, they tried their best to not file the FIR and it was from the effort of people themselves that her remains were recovered then they refused to connect it to the earlier similar cases and only did it under public pressure and then it turned out that it was a s*rial-k*ller. Under intense pressure they had to really work on the case which they were able to crack in only 20 days which means if they wanted they could have arrested the guy after the first victim. The same story in the Qasoor case. People approached them with actual evidence in the form of videos and they still refused to record the FIR. Exactly the same behavior for Dua who was a girl kidnapped from Karachi. This time they actually tried to not do any things and when they were forced to proceed they took it upon themselves to damage the case taking the side of the abductors just for revenge.

[@PokeBeast8967]

The capital of Pakistan, Islamabad, is the rape capital of the world. As a Pakistani, I feel ashamed.

[@WeCareWithMona]

@@razkaraj2150 same in Pakistan

[@rohand04]

We need police reforms.. it's High time police serve the people not politicians

[@YousufAhmad0]

Thank you, verbalizing these concepts with such fierce directness is absolutely necessary.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@shailaja30]

One of the best analyses of this topic.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@rohand04]

I'm scared for my wife.. a proud chartered accountant by profession and the way she explained how one day on her way back from office, a group of boys were teasing all the girls including her on the road singing "bheege hote tere" My first reaction was to get her a pistol for protection.. but just can't due to law.. we need USA like gun laws here.. The helplessness you feel because you were not there to protect her when you promised her but we all know what will happen.. she will have to step out of the job market.. it's because of the fools like them .. We men have failed our women's..

[@roopasharma238]

I understand your wife's problem and your anxiety but gun law is NOT the solution. You have stated the problem very precisely in the last line of your post. The solution is in reforming our men.

[@rohand04]

​@@roopasharma238 i believe it's High time the parent of the culprits needs to be shamed for raising such a b@stard

[@roopasharma238]

@@rohand04 I totally agree with you. The change has to begin at home - the parents have to bring up their boys right.

[@rohand04]

​@@roopasharma238 my dad always taught me to respect a woman just for being a woman.. no matter if she is a prostitute or a nun.. I lived by the word till date..

[@ridakhan1749]

Why don't you get your wife the things which are legally allowed like pepper spray? I heard that pocket knives are allowed to be carried on as well.

[@syedwaqar11]

what amazing mindful thoughts Shezad, brilliant, so brave of you to speak about such sensitive things openly... hope someone with the power learn from this and do something to prevent these incidents. Kudos to you

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@SaltLake180]

THANKS FOR BEING THE VOICE OF THE VOICELESS!

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@shellysrivastava5328]

Strong presentation thank you I am from Kolkata

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@shellysrivastava5328]

@@ThePakistanExperience thank you Shehzad

[@Naruto-oj8qs]

As usual great Analysis video Shehzad Bhai Love and respect from 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@aayushraman]

I 💯 agree with each and every word that Shehzad said.. never thought what happened in Nibhaya would happen again. Absolutely ashamed and devastated. Tbh it was heart wrenching to listen the hard hitting words of Shehzad but he is 💯 right.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@masoomasyed9388]

Thank you for speaking so much sanity 👏👏👏

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@sidrahali426]

SHABASH SHEHZAD KEEP IT UP , I SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR CONTENT.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@rizhas9008]

آپ اخیر طریقے سے انڈین ایشوز کو پاکستان سے جوڑ کر پاکستان سے پیار کا ثبوت دیتے ہیں ۔

[@kamrankhalid2153]

Haan bhai Pakistan mein toah kabhi bhi rape, molestation, sexual assaults nahi howey, honor killings bhi kabhi nahi howi aur patriarchy, misogyny aur sexism toah bilkul exist nahi kartey. Yeah saab Raah aur Endia ki sazishein hain.​@@rizhas9008

[@Manisha_yadav04]

Shehzad watching your videos from last year but today I really like to thank you. Thank you for raising your voice for us. We know not all the men are same but there always a man who tarnish the self respect of a women. In this world being a women is not easy but this continent is worst. I feel fear, anger, helpless in same time.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Manisha_yadav04]

@@hamaidmk thank you for the advice but this isn't a solution

[@dharmeshparikh7837]

It's an absolutely unfortunate incident. As Indian I feel ashamed. These are the crimes where nobody can take moral high ground by whataboutry. Since I am Indian I will focus on my country. It's extremely shameful and embarrassing where victims are blamed after such horrible crimes, especially females in India. I appreciate your stance over exposing this poor patriarchal mindset in the subcontinent. Any Indian who is criticizing this man for making this video about India must realize why, as citizens, we give chance to point out our poor Indian patritariac mindset about women. We need serious changes in our upbringing and social reforms for future generations with the help of education, media and entertainment industry.

[@sasif89]

How can one man speak so well on so many diverse topics? Earlier i was moved by his take on economics of elite culture, then i was amazed how he spoke on baloch cause, and now this!!! What an outstanding video, Shehzad! 👏 👏

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@nadirnizamani8252]

One of the most beautiful videos on internet. Hats off to u❤❤

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@RysaM-ir6tk]

Thank you for raising the voice🙏🇮🇳

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@unknown_user1697]

seeing so much violence against women and so much hate against us that just one youtube video is making me feel seen....much needed video🙏🙏

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@muhammadmahboobulhaq4144]

you blew my mind.... khush rahen bhai 😍

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Pikl-e8x]

One of the best analysis i hv ever seen on this issue

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@dhananjaybhardwaj5067]

Very well said Shehzad, men across the world not only india and pakistan need to understand how inhumane raping is be it woman or man. As a young father to daughter my soul dies worrying about what this world is coming to. We need to tell our young boys to respect the girls rather than asking our daughters to hide.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

Yes

[@sharaddhadiwan5968]

The Irony is that the chief minister, the home minister, and the health minister' is Mamta Banerjee '. She tried to cover up the full incident. She failed as a woman.

[@sputnik770]

Thank you for this video!

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@ahmadanwar4419]

shazad bhai, You're doing a wonderful job and changing perspectives of many people, Please never stop doing it for education of our youth. Thanks a lot !

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Madie48]

Thank you so much for speaking up on this critical matter. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Madie48]

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[@pascalwager4544]

He probably meant to use some other emoji

[@ankuragraj]

Thank you,Shahzad. You have put it in such an articulate way. Keep up the good work❤

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@reginajohn8175]

Bravo!! Exceptionally good content.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@Yella92urri]

Thank you so much for speaking up!

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@statesman01]

ONE IMPORTANT WAY TO CHANGE OUR CULTURE: From childhood itself, teach your brothers/sons to pick up after himself, cook food, roll out parathas, clean the house, serve food/water to family members including women family members. Studying for an exam, playing a video game, watching an interesting movie... well, you can still get up and don't need to be served. And if your sister has an exam too then serve her some food while you are getting some for yourself. Normalize the concept of equality between men and women by teaching boys to any and every work that women have been doing at home, down through the ages. Doing that helps prevent the development of the power dynamic that Shehzad is talking about.

[@ThePakistanExperience]

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[@SuchetanaGhosh31]

Thanks for standing up for women all over without any if and but!!

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[@M.AteeqUllah]

fantastic analysis. If only people could rationalize things this way.

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[@bachoogranger]

Really thankful to you for showing the mirror to us !! 😞

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[@subhandar9062]

A bitter truth that we all need to accept, understand, and resolve

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Yes

[@heartsoulproductions6026]

Salute to you bro… proud of your good work🙏

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[@judhajitsarkar1852]

Good analysis. Objective as always.

[@yusrarashid6380]

more power to you Shehzad for speaking up on matters that MATTER! May these podcasts/youtube videos are shown at our education institutions; may we raise a kinder and righteous generation... may the family of the victims do get justice ameen!

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[@AliAnsari-sz5ht]

Thanks for this video. Amazingly said. I hope this resonates.

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[@kavitakhanna177]

Thankyou for the video.

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[@kanwalrajput8980]

By far the BEST discussion on the topic, very logical, rationale and thoroughly explained!! Hats off 👏👏

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[@resqdogs4me113]

Thank you for supporting women in both cultures.

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[@shivani6305]

Thank you, Shehzad. A very apt and well made video. I honestly did not expect such clarity and understanding. Thank you for empathising with us and reminding people that women are just born with different reproductive organs but everything else is the same. We are human beings too, just like men.

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[@IamTheJRJ]

She was watching Neeraj chopra's live with 2 other colleagues, after which she started studying and eventually slept when the rape happened. She was on 36h duty. It us ridiculous!

[@pascalwager4544]

It is so sad that she was celebrating her country but the culture that prevails in it (and other desi & asian countries) destroyed her.

[@IamTheJRJ]

@pascalwager4544 She is just 1 vase out of thousands atleast in india. It is sad but #metoo & my mother just ignored it. I still think today atleast 10 girls and guys faced molestation and were ignored. We will be tribal and never learn. Forget being religious & worshipping goddesses.

[@ridakhan1749]

I have tears in my eyes at the end of your video. Thank you so much for speaking up on behalf of South Asian women. We need more men like you who regard women as human beings UNCONDITIONALLY.

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[@Nozarks1]

Very good analysis 👏👏

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[@roopasharma238]

Shahzad, this was an excellent episode. Every issue / problem has been analysed so accurately and correctly - this is exactly how I feel about this issue of sexual harassment and abuse. And I am sure zillions of women worldwide think the same way. This problem as you correctly explained occurs in every society but definitely more in Asia. This problem can only be gotten rid of when we teach our boys and men to respect women, and not abuse them, not objectify them. This education has to start at home. Boys grow up seeing adult men in their families abusing and harassing their mothers, sisters, aunts - and so this behaviour is 'normal' for them. THIS HAS TO CHANGE / STOP. The first time I heard about women being beaten up by their husband was when I was 12 years old (I am now 65) and in Std 7. It shocked the daylights out of me. This lady was a another tenant in the house we used were living in. A young couple in their 30s - the lady was a postgraduate but not allowed to work; the husband was an engineer, I think in a public sector undertaking. Our landlord was a Sikh gentleman and his youngest son used to beat his wife. Two couples in the same house ... Both the women had confided in my mother and she in turn told us just to let us know what all men could do to women. But to our utter shock both women told my equally shocked mother that this behaviour (of their husbands) was actually a sign of their love towards them. What??? We had never heard this kind of thing before ....This is how the women are conditioned to accept abuse by their menfolk. The other completely fraud argument is about women egging men on to abuse them. Bullshit. In the 1990s, on the same day 2 news articles shocked me - and I still squirm when I recall them. Both incidents occurred in two cities in northern India. First one: two teenaged boys had had a fight. One of them took revenge on the other by raping his 90+ year old grandmother. The second: a rickshaw puller raped a 6 month old baby in a park. How do you explain this kind of depraved behaviour? Unfortunately, we have seen many, many, many more incidents but somehow these two to me are the worst. Please keep up your excellent work Shehzad. Perhaps you could consider doing more episodes on this issue - at regular intervals - in the hope that it will educate our men. Incidentally, I am from Kolkata - I spent 15 (mid 1970s - early 1990s) years of my youth in the city and it was one of the safest cities in India then. The next 31 years in Delhi - the less I talk about safety in that city the better - and now back in Kolkata. Very, very saddened to see what has happened / is happening. Best wishes and thanks for your excellent work. And apologies for such a long post. But bhadaas nikalni thi ...

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[@indianspartan76]

The more I argue with people about this, the more despair I feel

[@MrGillani7]

Excellent podcast Shehzad👏👏👏II truly hope that your efforts to raise these issues are absorbed by the South Asian community and make a difference.

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[@sadafaslam3226]

Thank you Shahzad. Very rare to find a man who can speak on this. A great book to read is Mona Eltahawa's The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls

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[@LuckySidhu-ln6vk]

Shahzad , this your best video. In India conviction rate for rapes is less than 20percent which is far less than conviction rate of other crimes like murder. Rape is a societal problem. We should atleast give sex education in all schools, colleges even in offices.

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[@zareenmunaf7184]

Bro I salute you, thank you for bringing this to us

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[@sumithas9193]

This is such a serious and very sad topic. Thank you for taking it up. The comments under the news of the Kolkata case were beyond disgusting. The victim was a doctor who had done 36 hour duty and she was told to go the seminar room to rest. Victim blaming, the horrible fantasies of the victim in such cases are stomach churning.

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[@sanaamoledina5669]

Your mum has raised you well 🫡

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[@drsaminazulfiqar]

Thank you Shehzad so much for selecting the social issue instead of elites politicians. You have the courage, I salute you.

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[@harrisbinkhurram]

Thank you for talking about these things.

[@SJunaidi]

Thank you Shahzad

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[@zubbrabb]

Behtreen analysis

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[@nadeemjohn6126]

Bravo! You nailed it. God bless you and keep you.

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[@yhkhayaat1255]

Yahan bahut kuchh ho raha hai West Bengal mei.. Shayad aapke andaze se bhi zyada ... Betiyan kahin bhi hon lekin mehfooz hon... Bas sab soch badlo.. tabhi kuchh badlega...🙏

[@manishsaini9360]

I am one of your early subscriber you have come so far since these year Yasmeen Hafiz

[@PokeBeast8967]

musalmaano ki taadaad bohot zyaada hai West Bengal mein.....issliye waha rapes bohot zyaada hote hai

[@rahikazmi888]

Wow, I'm so impressed by your podcast.

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[@honestopinion888]

Dont preach your daughter to dress properly... Teach your son to behave properly

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[@Pikl-e8x]

@@honestopinion888 nope . teach your daughter to dress properly also teach your son to behave properly.both are necessary.

[@sapien307]

​@@Pikl-e8xagia wohi mindset wala rape kapro Ki waja seh hote Hai mard bechara Hai 😂

[@rohand04]

​@@Pikl-e8x nope sorry.. you are wrong.. a woman dress isn't the problem it's the men who needs to change

[@Pikl-e8x]

@@rohand04men mentality needs to change for sure but all men will change their mentality that's not possible.about modest dressing no one should object I guess it is necessary. Why ppl need to wear clothes then if wearing clothes is not that important.we all should be naked then?hmm?

[@aditis7916]

I watched the Netflix documentary "To kill a tiger" and was terrified to see how cruel the society is with the victim and her family. The trauma is never ending.

[@neerajdeshpande4646]

Most Brave person in the subcontinent carry on all the best dear

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[@navigatinglife433]

From India , thank you , these thing should not be shrugged off but discussed openly, you have taken a strong step in the right direction.

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[@sarahkhan3711]

I hope there are even 50% of males who think like you Shehzad! Patriarchy is such an evil force that I want to go search a matriarchal society somewhere and start living there.

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[@PokeBeast8967]

Shehzad is a hypocrite. Do not believe what he says.

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Yet you are here on my KZbin channel listening to me 🤣

[@hassanahmed2781]

Really put things in perspective. Specially how you explained its a power issue not lust. That was spot on with perfect examples from society everyone knows about. Hands down this is your best podcast ever ❤

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[@SpontaneousSana]

Why are we settling for less? Why are we only talking about rape cases? Why aren't we talking about the molestation that happens every day? When any girl gets catcalled, groped, touched inappropriately, or sexually assaulted. These incidents should also be given some attention. These are all bad things, and none of them should happen. So why are we only saying "okay, don’t rape," don’t do any of that man. 😡

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We should talk about it all

[@Danial.999]

An eloquent analysis of the root cause of the problem. Thank you.

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[@manohargajananan6988]

There is no shaming the shameless . In a country that finds it impossible to acknowledge marital rape as a crime, there is no prayer that is going to stop these crimes. A woman treated like a slave in her house by her husband sets the template for how her sons will treat women in the future.

[@sanyaakurd-bd9wg]

Great Video bhai. You really addressed the plight of all women. May God Almighty protect every woman, child from such henious actions. Amen

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[@WeCareWithMona]

Thank you for bringing attention to this.remember that case where woman was raped infront of her kids on the highway bc she was traveling alone at night .

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