Korean Dating Show Single's Inferno Sparks 'Colorism' Controversy? Netflix Review HOT TOPICS

Today we discuss the hottest Korean Netflix dating show Single's Inferno! Who would YOU be interested if you were stuck on the island with the cast? Who would you NOT be interested in? This video is for FUN and a 'review' of a dating show, so please take all commentary lightly.
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[@GRAZYGRACE]

Hey guys! have you been enjoying the netflix show? I've been GLUED... please remember this is just one's personal opinons and I'd love to Openly discuss these topics, no attacking and hating please! I know it's SUPER weird to hear Koreans describing one's physical appearance from double or no eyelids, nose shapes, etc, but it's just something that's common in Korea. Yes, its different culture than others@

[@KonohanaSakyuka]

Racism and colorism are two different things, first of all. Also, at its root, the word 'discrimination' only means to treat people differently. You can discriminate without having bad intentions. Sometimes people discriminate without even realizing it. Saying that Korea has a colorism problem isn't an unfair comment, I think. Just look at the advertizing for products, the very small range of foundation shades, etc. Also, there's a literal slur for people who have darker skin. Like... come on y'all. You know what's going on. All I'm saying is Yoon Mi-rae didn't write Black Happiness for no reason...

[@gloksta.]

@@KonohanaSakyuka a literal slur for black people only lol

[@CYBERKiNGMAFiA]

😊I totally understand the korean culture!..and 😇I ❤love it!. 🤡*GOLDY*.

[@kingarabsspring9419]

Some people view and evaluate other countries from their own point of view. There is little respect for other cultures. In Korea, white skin has been traditionally preferred for a long time. Some people say that Korea prefers Western white skin is a very misguided view. Most Koreans are not interested in the white skin of Westerners and do not follow Westerners. In any country, certain people follow other countries. Likes. You shouldn't generalize with it.

[@kingjet6129]

I don't like biased articles or any negative videos. I don't like generalizations. I hope that people will respect the traditions and cultures of other countries. There is a record that Korea has preferred white skin from ancient history. This is a long tradition in Korea.

[@aajohnson5684]

My problem with colorism conversations in any race is how easily people try to dismiss it under the guise of culture or it being a cultural thing. So many harmful things can be validated or explained away by culture but it still doesn't make it right and actually starting a conversation about harmful ideas and wording is where you correct it. That being said, I love the show and Soyeon is BBBBBAAEEEEE 😍 I instantly gravitated to her because of her mature, womanly energy. Yea Won was my second favorite because of her quick wit, humor and smoking body.

[@danicabrice4205]

Yess! I just saw a comment using that excuse. And it’s funny because most people are tan/ darker skin across the globe…it’s just classism and discrimination within that said “culture.” And it’s not ok and it’s fine for people to point it out.

[@hoodiehoodie5328]

THISSS

[@TheJrockfreak]

Im guilty of dismissing colorism especially in the Black Community( Im Black) because at times it seems the word is just thrown around in situations where it just doesn't apply

[@ztakahashiyang]

say it louder pls

[@aajohnson5684]

@@danicabrice4205 I mean, I see tonnes of comments saying that Korea just culturally has a preference for lighter skin and that's something historical but if that comes at the expense of people with tanner skin where they have an actual societal disadvantage and they are somewhat excluded from exhaulted beauty standards then that is a feature of colorism. By this logic tanner skinned people will most times come second in any opportunity rather it be occupation, (especially if it relies on "beauty"), dating and marriage, etc. And let's not pretend that their aren't a lot of Koreans born with tanned skin who have experienced this, which is why they may feel more pressure to alter their skin tone. Its binary thinking to try to use one thing to explain this phenomenon instead of looking at the different factors involved.

[@Marie-ed9vj]

Racism isn't the same as colourism. So, saying that Korea is known for colourism isn't inaccurate. Colourism is LITERALLY prioritising light skin over darker skin in racial groups. I actually stopped watching because Soyeon was just getting ignored and i don't think thats a coincidence when you consider her skin. It really annoyed me because she's gorgeous. America IS incredibly racist, you're right. But openly preferring light skin in one race is the definition of colourism and thats done very openly in korean media. It's not a uniquely korean problem. Love Island has a similar issue with it's casting. So watching this, i felt the same as Love Island like oh, once again the darkest skinned girl is treated the worst.

[@raheemcamal998]

Colourism slides into racism, lets not fool ourselves now

[@cbddoctor6156]

Racism and colourism is the same hun; your grasping at straws

[@kp4508]

I mean they have different definitions in the dictionary…. Not really grasping at straws when they are in fact two different things.

[@ichigo.42ga3]

@@cbddoctor6156 racism and colorism are two different things they just tend to overlap a lot. Especially in America where it's a lot more ethnically diverse. So korean on korean colorism isnt racism, because the focus isn't that they're korean, its that they have a dark skin tone.

[@stormk9203]

Soyeon wasn't ignored cuz of her skin?!?! she literally walked away with a man at the end. Does that mean all the girls who didn't get chosen at all was bc of their skin color? ?

[@mm_mela4816]

I just wanted to say that "Singles Inferno" was a breath of fresh air for me! I'm from the U.S, and I mostly consume reality love shows from the U.S. They mostly contain so much fights between the contestants (physically too), sex, partying a lot and being drunk half of the time. Singles Inferno is so different to me because with out all of those traits that typical American Love shows have, I'm not here to see "Oh! They fighting, Oh my god this crazy!", But I'm actually here to watch the romance blossom and see the chemistry develop.

[@bouncyclouds276]

exactly 😌

[@jooesfangirl]

YES! I LOVED how they weren’t making out every 10 seconds or having sex despite only knowing each other for 8/9 days on camera! It’s so uncomfortable but I loved this! Very refreshing

[@-_lol_its_jam_-4396]

Exactly how i felt as an American watching a Korean dating show for the first time

[@damblebee1253]

​@@-_lol_its_jam_-4396 Next maybe you can try Heart Signal season 2 and s3, no need for s1 coz it's boring and not as good. 4 males and 4 females non celebrity, live in the same house for 30 days, unlike single inferno they will go to their workplace and doing their regular activities from morning till afternoon. I think the plus point of Heart Signal compared to Single Inferno is they live together for 30 days instead of 9 days, so they have more time to develop their feeling and not rushed.

[@mm_mela4816]

@@damblebee1253 oh okay! I'll try to see if it's on Netflix or Hulu

[@Kulchicbeauty]

There is a difference between Racism and colourism. What the guy did is colourism and discrimination. I grew up in Congo and Nigeria and there is colourism in Congo especially, i even experienced it in my family, it was not racism it was colourism. Lets call it for what it was white = pure is colourism. Just because its embedded in their culture does not mean its not colourism. Where lighter skin is seen as beautiful and pure and dark skin wild and ugly. To be honest most countries and cultures have colourism issues. I think you need to learn the difference between racism and colourism as they are not the same. As usual some people become so defensive when challenged about colourism. Thanks for the video i think these conversations needs to be had. There are so many dark skin people discriminated in work places, social environments or even TV because they seem "ugly" in certain countries. Instead of finding excuses for such mentality, we need to discuss and rebuke. I've experienced colourism in Africa where I'm from and racism in the UK where i currently reside, there is a huge difference. Thank you 🥰

[@martynaarmycaratengene7216]

Thank you for your comment it's really eye-opening ❤️

[@swfs253]

You just spoke my heart out. Yes, it was not racism. It was colorism.

[@lemonmochi8669]

white is pure because white is the color of light and black is the color of absence of light. all the discrimination and type of emotions it brings up in you is just whatever ideas about race you project into it. the universe doesn't discriminate and say black is bad white is good. it's just people and cultures.

[@scottietrademark]

I'm glad you posted this comment! I wanted to say the same but didn't know how to word it. There are perfect examples in the kpop world, as an example since that's most of the content on this channel, that show how colorism hurts the people its said to and I hope people actually look into why its an issue.

[@rosevlogs6948]

THIS! A lot of people don't know the difference susprisingly

[@greenbananas12378]

Just because it’s cultural it doesn’t mean it isn’t harmful.. by this logic we should ignore lots of horrible things

[@sugarmilk28]

Colorism within a group of people is discrimination. Colorism and racism also has a thin line because if you say all pale skin people are superior or prettier then that becomes racist. They are literally describing light skin people as "pure"...then can't a tan skin be pure? Also recently jin taek is getting attention because he uses black skin emojis when in fact he is tan skin. This is not , imo, racist but an example of colorism and how someone who is tan is perceived or see themselves as darker than they are.

[@ellaally3983]

Jin taek is not percieved as darker... he literally IS darker (than the other Koreans). But using black skinned emojis is a bit too far haha

[@carlw5360]

Bruh just because you have a preference for A skin colour doesn't automatically mean you think tan skin is bad. The dude in the show did not put down tan women AT ALL or say rude remarks regarding tan skin in anyway. YALL ARE REACHING WITH THIS ONE.

[@mimijae9154]

I’ve been watching this show with my sister and some comments just didn’t sit right with us. All of them describe being attracted to a certain person in part because of their “pale/ white skin” and calling others with tans wild or intimidating it’s really uncomfy…

[@moonamigi]

Yeah I feel like some ppl deny that Korea is colorist because it's part of their culture. But just because its embedded in their history dealing with class status doesnt make it right. Its undeniable and tan people are viewed in a more negative perspective than pale people which is unfair and colorist. Of course, colorism isn't only in Korea though...

[@sambatra6162]

@Mimi calling others with tan wild or intimidating, huh? I feel like you didn't get somethings and some things were lost in translation.

[@mimijae9154]

@@sambatra6162 ok so you explain to me what I’m missing…

[@queen0294]

Same I was like I'm dark skinned does is mean I'm dirty or unpure??!

[@l.l.l364]

@@queen0294 yes you are according to them ,im dark skinned too my little piece of advice stop consuming east asian media like kpop, kdrama everthing is filled of this pale and pure bs which will 100% make you insecure , you are not gonna believe this theres an indian ytber i forgot her name her korean classmates literally asked her if she didnt bathe at all because she was dirty(dark skinned) similarly in japan they dont want to touch dark skinned people because the dirt might transfer to their body😐

[@Houry247]

My problem was that whenever the contestants were describing what they were looking for they rarely talked about personality. Their description was very shallow, only mentioning physical features... like... "i like guys with nice noses"? Huh?

[@GRAZYGRACE]

I do agree ! But then I realized that its a dating reality show and in order for people to be interested in watching you need ‘hot’ looking people who want other ‘hot’ people :/ its the entertainment business, but would love to see those who look past appearance!

[@deanxzayn1408]

I mean they are literally strangers to each other and obviously they are gonna judge their preferences based on the looks at this early point. And it’s not like they are taking this dating show seriously. I’m pretty sure every contestant here is yo boost their followers or promote their buisness

[@sambatra6162]

@@deanxzayn1408 exactly!!

[@EVL-xj5vc]

@@deanxzayn1408 yup yup so true!

[@EVL-xj5vc]

I think you have selective listening hahah! They also did talk about their preferred personality type like thoughtful, being active, older than me to take care of me etc…

[@leelandluver]

As an American who has lived in Korea for 8 years, I feel like you explained the complexities and cultural/linguistic issues of that first topic perfectly. I totally understand it from both perspectives too - what the guy actually meant/said and how it would probably come off to an international audience. I have seen a lot of actual racism and discrimination in Korea too. But I agree that racism, ignorance, etc. is a human problem that comes up in different ways in every country. So many sides to come at these issues and so multi-faceted.

[@JadeMuray]

Still is not something that is ok to judge people on. Whether it’s a cultural issue or not. Can be dehumanizing for the people that colorism negatively affects

[@Hshxhxbsjskzn]

@@JadeMuray yeah okay I agree with you but Korean isn’t very multicultural I don’t think they’re multicultural at all compare to western countries so these people wouldn’t even know it’s offensive. 100% they don’t even know what colourist is. I believe countries that aren’t multi cultural should be educated but to blame them is so fucking stupid when they don’t even know what it is. International people always have some shit to say. Like the world don’t evolve around you westerns holy shit, am i defending them? Hell no but u can not blame people who never knew something is a issue.

[@viviana1813]

@@Hshxhxbsjskzn The issue here is that with Korea wanting to reach an international fan base which they are desperate for and are starting to achieve it’s hypocritical for them to not make any efforts to acknowledge or make efforts to educate themselves on racism (which they’re aware of) and colourism. Koreans can’t have a it all. They can’t be desperate to have respect and acknowledgment from international people and also want us to respect their negative flaws in their country. With the popularity arising in SK internationally, they are getting more and more visitors from different countries and some end up staying and living there. I think despite them being a monogamous country they don’t have the right to be racist and colourist. YES they don’t know what colourism is and colourism is a big issue in multiple countries however it doesn’t justify the reason for them to not educate themselves on this issue. The more they grow internationally and the more interest they get from international people the more SK is going to get judged and exposed for its negative aspects that they don’t talk about. So maybe you should be fair in your opinion and look at both sides.

[@Hshxhxbsjskzn]

@@viviana1813 it’s a society matter. If it’s normal in they’re society and people don’t speak on the matter it wouldn’t be a matter to them. U actually think the producer have to study America society just so they can be accepted? What does wanting to teach international have anything to do with being colourist . Just let them evolve in their own term.

[@viviana1813]

@@Hshxhxbsjskzn but it shouldn’t be normal ? Just because it’s normal to them doesn’t make it right nor make it acceptable. What I’m saying is with their international growth and rise of foreigners in SK, and with SK having this “perfect” respectful, accepting image of their country, they will eventually get exposed with all the issues in their countries which they’re starting to get exposed especially on KZbin but it will get worse if they keep going the way they do. The same way China got exposed for being racist to black people, SK will go through the same thing it’s just matter of time. They need to educate THEMSELVES and the issues that they have within their country thats the only possible way they can make change. It’s changing slowly but it’s like not talked enough. People should be more vocal about it.

[@Annie_0613]

I love Joonsik so much :( and it makes me sad that they're not showing him more same with Yeawon. Joonsik and Yeawon are perfect together like?? They're the best people on that show!😭

[@SammyCee23]

Man those two were practically invisible and not given spotlight throughout the show

[@SammyCee23]

@@emmanuelsandoval1870 I had a feeling they wouldn't. But im sure they remained friends. OH SHIT i didnt know that!

[@SammyCee23]

@@emmanuelsandoval1870 Do you know anything about Jia and Hyeon Joong?

[@uminomi4500]

Totally agree, they are not fair on the screentime.

[@EVL-xj5vc]

What do u like about junsik? I felt like I hardly was given a chance to know his personality in the show.

[@dearines]

If you don’t think there’s colorism then get this: as a brown person I would not apply to singles inferno because I know I would be the less preferred one due to my skin and it hurts my feelings. I feel judged and I ain’t even there. If feeling rejected because of your skin before anyone even discriminates you isn’t colorism idk what is.

[@minmint2690]

Girl its a korean dating show not international , korean standards are are pale skin skinny unlike other country who may focus on the physical Appearance and body shape . Just like. Other race some black/ brown community like lightskin more . Like American white peoples who prefer blondes over brunette Of course not everyone dont have the same Preference But if u put couple of inferno girls in around other tan skined girl with damn hourglass shaped and outgoing personality they will also be less preferred by the other race than asian If u get u get , if u dont u dont end of the talk Every country have that toxic standards

[@dearines]

@@minmint2690 I didn’t know we had to be rude to have a conversation. I would say next time refrain from saying things like “end of talk”. It’s extremely patronising and disrespectful.

[@minmint2690]

@@dearines the world don't revolve olve around you They didnt say anything disrespectful They had a preference They dont need to to love tan girls only so u say they arent racist Dont be butthured , call me mean or whatever But u being such an american or a wannabe one , yall get triggered by everything on other race and wanna cancel everything wich making yall look dumb end of the talk 🙄🤚🏻

[@kun7288]

You would never be on singles inferno because you are not korean, this is a korean show idiot

[@kun7288]

@@dearines LMAO three people told you to shut up so why don’t you🙄, who tf cares if you feel offended by this? You are just one person and not even a celebrity, basically IRRELEVANT.

[@gigabites809]

I'm kind of iffy with this video, I get what you are trying to say but that conversation was already brought up. Most people were concerned on Sehoon description on pale skin as being pure, which is weird regardless in how you try to underline it, since Soyeon has a tan skin she is called "wild". Again, very colorist. People can have preferences; however, that does not mean you should give out those baseless stereotypes by . Every girl can also be innocent regardless of their skin, a factor that determines their "pureness/innocents'" should be their personality and how they dress.

[@kishan6984]

exactly this exact thing happened with Jessi comment on Tzuyu skin tone , when she said korean word to scrub hard (exfoliate) and you will be having clear skin... then it went to pale or white lighter

[@lacienagalacey9454]

Preach! I feel like these critic videos always gloss over the topic and are so neutral it’s hard to see what points are trying to be made

[@hannaansari2921]

You're playing into the stereotypes too by including dressing as marker for pureness and the word pureness has no actual value,it's just a label shoved on women to slutshame them and pit them against each other for the benefit of men

[@gigabites809]

@@hannaansari2921 I think you are using stereotype in the wrong way here, dressing a certain way will give out a first impression towards anyone that's why I said that, and also I said by the way they act is what people should determine

[@gigabites809]

@@lacienagalacey9454 Exactly, it's cool to stay neutral but this is such a blatant colorist micro-aggression as there is no way to defend this. Plus when she brought up racism I already knew her argument was flawed.

[@shaheen9317]

Sick of the “its just the beauty standard there” excuse. Colourism is colourism, just because its the beauty standard that doesn’t make it ok?? like some people need to start using critical thinking, how can we combat bigotry if we keep using this terrible excuse. Just because people use it against other Koreans according to that blog post AGAIN, it still doesn’t make it ok and its sad its so normal.

[@van.f1087]

@Shaheen BINGO

[@jihyo_inmydms]

Thank you✋😩

[@tootoo4005]

I agree! I liked how they’re not sleeping with each other and there’s not too much touchy touchy. American dating show is like watching discovery channel but less cute.

[@abeeraawan958]

Colourism is colourism EVEN if it's rooted in culture, doesn't make it okay girl..

[@jihyo_inmydms]

Say it louder✋😩✨

[@w1thikonic]

YES!

[@akankshapravin1418]

Discrimination does exist in South Korea, ppl are discriminated on the basis of one's complexion. They not only discriminate foreigners ( a Caucasian will get more admiration, than a black person or a person hailing from south Asia, South East Asia), I am amazed that u r aren't mentioning the fact that korean are obsessed with white skin and all sort lightening /brightening product. It might be due to less exposure of the community than one residing in other parts of the world's. But, I have noticed a trend in reality shows in South Korea, yes even in 2021 ( 2022) ppl outrightly call u black (even when the person is dusky), they ridicule u for your skin colour, and applaud a person with white skin. That's funny. 🤣

[@jiminisbbymochi9530]

I just finished the show with my sister. There was a lot of ups and downs but at the end we were both happy. The show was so hilarious 😂 I highly recommend

[@mohsinachoudhury6486]

Hi :) i just wanna say u should remember that there is a difference between RACISM and COLOURISM. In fact if u search up the definition of colourism it’s actually more typical among ppl of the same racial group so koreans can be colourist to other koreans. There is an issue w colourism in asian countries. I would say the colourism in korea came from classism. Yes, the person in the show may have just been complimenting her skin tone and not insinuating he thinks darker skin is ugly BUT colourism is absolutely a thing in korea (as well as many other countries). Equating lighter skin w pretty, pure, clean, innocent ppl and darker skin w ugly, dirty, dangerous, poor ppl is a problem that needs to be discussed in order for change to start happening. thx

[@Frooooooo]

I totally agree with you that there are different beauty standards across the world. I grew up in Indonesia (not in the capital city but another city) when I was young and being chubby was seen as being healthy, happy and wealthy (coz you have more money to eat ROFL) while being skinny was seen as being sick, impoverished (to the point that you don't have money to eat), and depressed. So people in my hometown said "you gained weight" as a form of compliment and they say it often to each other. The sad thing is that I was very skinny when I was young and no matter how much I ate, I couldn't gain weight (I hope that I still have that ability now... sigh). So people around me kept on telling me to gain weight when I was a kid.

[@suha6036]

unsure if we live in the same place... i'm a relatively big girl because my dad is big and tall. and i see people side-eyeing how i look especially my thighs ALL THE TIME, assumed that i always eat the most out of everyone, and even told me passive aggressively "makmur ya" or "if only you're skinny..." 🤨 however none of them are really brave enough to tell me to lose weight (except some family members), they just treat me like i'm the pig in the group or straight up ignore me and talk about how they "have to be drunk first to consider me ideal" (yup, that happened) behind my back. in conclusion, it's hard to live in this country because everyone always glamorize skinny people, but then they tell naturally skinny people to gain weight. living as a woman is hard.

[@zm3375]

I live in Indonesia too, but i guess different region has its own beauty standard, because here in Jakarta being pale and skinny means you born with silver spoon. Pale skin to be said that you always got the "roof" protecting you (big house with lotsa AC, always go out with car, lotsa skin care, etc) being skinny means you can afford all those fancy excercises such as yoga, pilates, muaythai, etc. And of course, with all those stereotype most women here wants to eat a lot without getting fat, going out with 'grab car', so they can look rich.

[@Frooooooo]

@@suha6036 well, I am from Surabaya, so maybe different from you. Like I mentioned, I am not from Jakarta as I know that Jakarta has different beauty standard. When I was young, I was super skinny and people made fun of me. When I visited my parents, they always commented how skinny I was. I am 162 cm tall and most of the time, I am under 50kg. I am considered ideal and not considered as skinny in other countries, but people kept on commenting on how skinny I am

[@reinq_5584]

@@suha6036 probably you guys simply live in different regions Imo Because in this country (Indonesia) things are extremely heterogenous and varied, including beauty standard //based on my personal experience :'D What I was trying to say is, from my point of view it still makes sense that in different areas/communities, the beauty standard in this country differs HEY IF THIS CAME OUT AS "BELITTLELING" / INVALIDATING YOUR STRUGGLE, I APOLOGIZE I DID NOT intend to do that at all:'D I typed all of this while being half asleep basically so ye I probably struggled to deliver my thoughts properly there, sorry if this came out wrongly And I know the negative stigma around having more weight or just straight up fat shaming people is an extremely real and alarming issue here

[@Frooooooo]

@@suha6036 it is nothing compared to Singapore. The school literally weigh you every 3 months and if you are overweight based on their standards, they make you run around in the track field (yeah, most schools in Singapore has its own track and field) every morning until you loose weight... so the whole school would know that you are overweight and you were being punished for it.

[@nerd26373]

I feel like Yea-won and So-yeon are the ultimate platonic OTP in this show. The both of them have very little screentime as well, which is unfortunate. Also, even though Ji-a is considerably overrated, she exudes that overwhelming confidence and alluring beauty that I know quite a handful of guys in the show chase after. Ji-yeon is the innocent yet humble girl archetype. Min-ji and Su-min deserved better. I get that they're the new girls and all, but I guess they weren't given many chances. I'm somehow glad that Se-hoon was given the opportunity to head over to Paradise with Ji-yeon since he had been getting a bit miserable day by day in Inferno. As for the other dudes a.k.a. Si-hun, Hyeon-joong, Hyun-seung, Jin-taek, etc. I mean, they're all...okay. Si-hun does kinda resemble Lee Jong-suk for some reason hahaha. I should say that Jin-taek is the ultimate show stealer along with So-yeon. They should probably go on a real honeymoon.

[@Shounen_Mania]

Don't be fooled. Ji-yeon portrays innocence, but she may not be as innocent as you might think.

[@emilyrosebery1848]

What you talking about? Did you not watch the show, compared to the other women on the show, she was very honest 🤔

[@Shounen_Mania]

@@emilyrosebery1848 I'm not saying she's dishonest. I'm saying that although she lives up to the Korean beauty standard of being a delicate, innocent-looking flower (look-wise and she doesn't savagely call out guys like Soyeon) - she's not as innocent you might think she is. She knows what she wants and takes steps to get it. When she doesn't want Sehoon, she knows all the signals to send off. When she's motivated to go to paradise, she goes all-out fighting for the cap against a girl more physically imposing than her. If she were that innocent, she wouldn't be successfully living abroad as an international student at the University of Toronto. All of these instances display her true survival skill and her innocent look is just that - a look. Plenty of people on the show and viewers alike fall for that. Maybe you don't know enough of these types of Asian women, but it's a classic archetype. That's how men, even men in the Western world, have come to believe that Asian women are the submissive type and they want that but, in fact, we all know after marriage there are such things as tiger mom's that run the household. All of the women, except Jia, were very honest - even to the point of being blunt and hurting guy's egos. Jia wasn't outright dishonest, but she sure was leading guys by the nose. I see plenty of comments applauding her for that, but I don't. It's dangerous for any man to get emotionally involved with her, regardless of whether you get to be with her or not. As the thread starter said, she's quite overrated but I get why she gets what she gets.

[@xoselena1]

@@Shounen_Mania I'm completely with you on this one. You'll never know if she's ACTUALLY into you or not . It's tricky.

[@monayunita6163]

@@Shounen_Mania Well, I got what you said. But she also stated in the beginning of the show that she go get what she wants and she is very competitive. Hyeon Jeong said it in the shows too that he think she is strong-willed and not easy to swayed. I think people could pick this up after talking with her.

[@Marie-ed9vj]

Also, no one is saying you can't have a 'type' romantically. But 'preferences' are often actually just racism in disguise. Lots of cultures encourage you to avoid darker skinned people romantically/ that lighter skin is more attractive (which, surprise surprise- is racist). I don't know how you can have a preference of 'i just prefer light skin' and not see that also equals 'on the basis of this person being brown they are unattractive'. Replace unattractive with say, 'stupid'. Easy to see that would be racist. People aren't made to question enough what parts of society have ingrained racism in them, and i mean to many racial groups. And- is it REALLY what you like? Or have you just been taught so much that other features are ugly or weird that you'd never consider them.

[@user-cn3gd7gf7v]

What wrong with having a preference in light skin it's just a type of person you like I'm also not trying to be offensive I anyway me and but you have to understand that east asians tend to marry to themselves and hardly do Intteracial but it happens a lot these days but still.. It's been in our culture of East Asia and it's our standards. Our society is more like fitting in than standing out and we are conservative. It's normal in our countries though. And the standards were made for us East Asian it was never meant for ppl with other race or how they will be expected to fit it then right? It's our standards and it's normal I mean we live in our country we ain't bothering anybody else. Also that it's normal in East Asia to criticize the face

[@dawnrosewood7060]

@@user-cn3gd7gf7v The issue still applies even if its within your race. Not all east asians are pale as paper and the ones that arent shouldn’t be labeled as wild or less pure, because they arent?

[@nanythlifestyle]

@@user-cn3gd7gf7v It'snt a crime to have preferences; and colorism is not racism. For all that, is it fair that in the media or in an entire society, they only highlight one type of beauty? Doesn't that continue to put pressure on these women who must have a porcelain complexion? It doesn't matter to cheer the girl who has perfect skin according to them, but how did the other girl feel? If a Korean girl who does'nt have the skin pale enough does not feel injured, if she does'nt find abnormal in the way they treat her. it's okay with me. If she also considers that it is'nt a problem of society and that it is for her to conform to society; that she must resort to cosmetics to achieve this "ideal beauty" so I have nothing to say. I don't have a lesson to teach anyone.

[@user-cn3gd7gf7v]

@@nanythlifestyle it's hard when it's already engrained in a culture majority all think the same. And to achieve the ideal is what many asians want and are use to

[@user-cn3gd7gf7v]

@@dawnrosewood7060 well it'd engrained I the culture

[@Quon]

it's simply colorism, the concept of white = pure, you never see them calling tan pure but 'healthy'. Innocent is also associated with child-like features (big eyes, small nose small mouth, light/no makeup) . I'm a bi girl but personally I didnt like Jiyeon, Jia and Soyeon are more my type. On the guys' side, Si-hun is really sweet and maybe Hyeonjoong?

[@ouachay]

“Well…my brother pays for it…” lol I personally loved Yeawon’s giddiness and intentional relationship-building with the rest of the cast. Wished they showed more of her and Junsik 💯

[@sugarmilk28]

The show just felt like it was made to promote the individual people. Romance wise I didn't feel anyone was being genuine but so much ego was thrown around....also so much emotional drama for just 8 days👁️👄👁️

[@EVL-xj5vc]

That’s why we watch it hahaha

[@almamater9346]

Hmm, this sounds like this whole bs "preference" thing that's going around. It's one thing to say you're attracted to a certain skin color, but when you start to demean the skin tone that you *don't* like, I think it's a problem. Why is one skin tone seen as "pure?" Skin is skin, so why is white skin always pure, which seems to sound like "perfect." Darker skin never gets called "pure." This always keeps getting excused, but it seems hypocritical when EVERYONE wants to call it out in the west, but then excuse it in various countries. And make no mistake, I know all too well how bad the west is with racism and this is not a cape for them at all. But I'm starting to notice that the west is not the only ones that are racist/colorist. They're just the WORST with it.

[@gabrielmeth4844]

There is a lot more to it than your post would have you think. You are ignoring centuries of world history that shaped mindsets for a simplistic, black/white (hurr) ideal that hasn't existed longer than you have been alive.

[@gigabites809]

Exactly

[@truefalse934]

The west aren’t the ones worst with its racist issue, it’s just the only places where we ACTUALLY talk about our race issue. And sorry to all the other countries, but the US is the only western country that somewhat acknowledges its race issue. Other places like England, The Netherlands, France, and other European/western countries are wayyyy more racist and xenophobic than the US to its poc population, however the US is always deemed the only racist country bc-once again-the US is the only western country that addresses its race problem.

[@crystalice2458]

@@truefalse934 I FULLY agree with you. I think people like to call America thr most racist cou try or whatever, only because our problems are actually talked about amongst ourselves. Out racism issues are more public and broadcasted, but make no mistake European racism is 10X WORST than any racism you'll see in North America. I remember my trip to Italy and I literally had to leave early because of how bad my experience was.

[@soleil7259]

@@crystalice2458 As a half black european i have to say, it really depends where you go and that goes internationally. You can be somewhere where it's better but then go to another place in the same country, where it's totally fucked up.

[@ruthy996]

My impression of the show was that the younger generation in Korea is still chauvinistic. No means no, I don't see why they think it means playing hard to get. That's exactly what encourages sexual harassment. The only person I could relate to was Soyeon, she tried to be authentic although she also went with the flow at the end.

[@PiscesEnfp]

YES

[@aaa-9399]

@@hunnuunny are you having a conversation with yourself or what is going on? 💀

[@monayunita6163]

I’m confused.. How could that encourage sexual harassment?

[@justwannafreefx9419]

@@monayunita6163 Idk why this needs to be spelled out but If someone isn't accepting your advances, it means they aren't interested. Encouraging people to pursue someone despite them expressing disinterest multiple times is saying "no doesn't matter". If mutual interest and consent doesn't matter, that makes way for sexual harassment, which inevitably leads to sexual assault.

[@lellan1288]

YESSS thank you 😭😭 Sehoon was at best really freaking pathetic and at worst creepy as hell. I would have been so mad to see people encouraging him to pursue me once I made my position clear. And Soyeon explained it so we’ll like you’re making her UNCOMFORTABLE BRO and he got OFFENDED BRUUUH 😭😭

[@erwin5839]

Please join if there's season two. You'll add some spice on the show 👌👌

[@GRAZYGRACE]

I'd be that weird girl hhahahaha

[@Lovemalotm]

@@GRAZYGRACE GURL NOOO

[@fileenababy1159]

@@GRAZYGRACE if I was a guy I would have definitely hit on you 😂

[@MsZeldasaga]

Did anyone else find it EXTREMELY cruel when sihoon and sehoon went up to sumin and minji... just to congratulate them and walk off? The really got their hopes up by apporaching them, it was honestly a terrible thing to do to them. My opinion of them lowered after they did that😒 Also, minji and sumin shouldn't have been added so late in the show. At that point it was obvious that 2 men after jia. Then they bring on a man who knows jia and hyeonjoong (totally not a coincidence). Those poor girls were set up to fail from the momeng they set foot on the island.

[@beccaa7638]

Veryyy much. Sihoon honestly just embarrassed himself when he went up to Sumin. It’s almost as if he wanted to drag someone else into the embarrassment org it. Embarrassing enough he knew he wasn’t going to get picked by Zia he had to drag her down with him. I also agree with there not being a point with bringing in the other contestants especiallu if they were only gonna be there for one day and also with the fact that it was pretty obvious that people were either coupled up or had others who has their mind made up about someone who didn’t want them back.

[@Maderilae]

I totally agree, this last scene made me so uncomfortable and sad for Sumin and Minji. Plus I think the production exaggerated this by giving us long close shots of their faces looking humiliated it was very upsetting. Even if I didn't particularly like the girls, I felt they were just being clowned and I didn't like it at all...

[@AP-of5kj]

honestly i don't think sehoon (and sihoon too) meant it in a bad way or like a "got ya" to the viewers way. i think sehoon knew she liked him and felt weird to just go past her without acknowledging her, he wanted to thank you, i think he thought it would be obvious that he wouldn't chose her based on their previous conversation so he wouldn't give her any false hope. i think they shouldn't have done it but i think there was good intentions behind it, at least from sehoon.

[@Aysisse]

I don't think they meant harm They probably thought it was the thing to do But I do agree that it was actually really terrible, I would have felt horrible if I was one of the girls

[@yoonjungkim1031]

@@AP-of5kj i agree with thissss it’s even more awkward to just ignore them. It’s just to end on good terms, to give closure.

[@shannonsedits2441]

colorism is so normalized in some places and it seems to me like sk is one of them. like you can’t really talk about race issues without keeping in mind the history and current social problems. praising someone for being more white will always be wrong tbh

[@kianaontiveros9169]

Exactly, just cause it’s Part of their history and culture doesn’t mean it’s okay.

[@tiredbylife.5589]

I don't 100% agree with you. Lemme explain. What of the things that I have found weird after some time, is the preference of light skin to the point of here many jokes or seeing idols wear lighter foundation that clearly does not match their skin. I can point out quite a few incidents such as Kai and how his members comment on his tan/darker complexion. There's an obsession with light/white skin to the point that pictures are edited so that the celebrities look paler. Hwasa who is edited with smaller thighs and a lighter skin for instance? This falls into the topic of colorism.

[@gloksta.]

@@truefalse934 not uneducated just not willing to see from another person’s perspective

[@johnd3233]

@@gloksta. Just because someone doesn't agree with you doesn't mean they aren't willing to see from your perspective. Melanated people should stop being so offended when someone exhibits a preference for white skin, it's not colorism it's preference and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, just like there's nothing wrong with a person who prefers melanated skin.

[@gloksta.]

@@johnd3233 no but it is a issue lol if it was just a preference then skin lightening wouldn’t be on a all time rise right now , even korean women who are already light still strive for lighter because its people like u who invalidate their feelings and let people continue to do as such and mask it behind it being a “preference”

[@johnd3233]

@@gloksta. People get their skin lightened, and other people get artificial tans, like I said it comes down to preference. It only seems to be a problem when someone exhibits a preference for lighter skin and this is because melanated people are extremely insecure and resentful. These people don't get to shame the preferences of others just because THEY are insecure and not happy with themselves. Let people do what they want, live and let live.

[@gloksta.]

@@johnd3233 yea i totally get that ur apart of the problem no need to rub it all in my face. as i said not only “melanated people” face colorism, its also people who aren’t even dark and it’s the same thing with tanning, i dont know where u got this bright idea that tanned girls are more accepted than pale girls, times are changing, lose the idea that someone should be turned down or picked on because of their skin tone. i have my opinions and so do u so it should end here, i no longer wish to go back and forth about it 😅

[@annsae]

I follow both your channels and find you refreshing and genuine. On suggestions for other content, it would be cool to see things such as: - Makeovers head-to-toe (how you would style your friends, mom, yourself in different styles you usually wear, etc.) - Travel in the US (I know the pandemic has put a damper, but your advice on favorite cities, places, favorite/worst experiences) - Vlogs (content that is just chilling, like cleaning your room, being lazy, being productive, taking walks, goofing around, it’s calming to watch) - Trying X for X amount of time (trying a new diet, skincare routine, fashion, exercise, etc.) - Acoustic music sessions (of covers, personal songs, etc.) Thanks for making engaging content Grace. From a fellow late-20s girl, love to keep supporting you ❤️

[@b-t-s_is_7]

I would go for Cha HyunSeung too, but I guess I’m biased cause I’ve seen him before in Sunmi’s videos as he is her supporting dancer. I also completely agree with what you said about the comments from international fans. As one myself I really hope the rest of our community can learn more about Kculture, and try to understand or research before writing comments. Btw I love your makeup 🥰💅

[@anelf3767]

*Colorism ≠ Racism* They're rooted in the same disgusting social constructs, but they aren't the same. Colorism focuses more on skin tone preference in one specific race, not about racial discrimination in general. For example, saying you prefer lighter skin black people over darker skin black people, saying you prefer pale white people over tanner white people, saying you like pale Asians (this includes all Asians for any ignorant people who think I'm ignoring any non-East Asian) over tanner Asians. Vice versa as well (because people can be shunned for being too pale as well). That's colorism, but you keep on talking about racism. Regardless of the classist history of South Korea (associating pale with wealth and tan with poor), that itself is still colorism even if it's just something between Koreans because it's basically looking down on one skin tone over the other for whatever aged dumb reason, so the comment isn't exactly wrong. But I do get what you're saying! 😊 South Korea, despite all the hype it's been getting, is still a very homogeneous country. That leads to a lot of cultural differences between the culture there and others that are more diverse. It isn't necessarily an excuse to say hurtful things (not necessarily referring to this clip because we've already established the colorism in South Korea, and there's also the possibility of it being mistranslated), especially in this big big day and age of social media and technology, but it does explain some miscommunications and misconceptions. Edit: Lemme add, for those who seem a lil confused, that for my explanation of what colorism is, I mean preferring a skin tone over another for dumb reasons. Like you find one "unhealthy/dirty" or "ugly." Stuff like that.

[@stormk9203]

yea i agree, it doesnt make it RIGHT what they believe in but it's something that's embedded in one's culture and we may not fully understand it, just like how I don't understand the sexism in many Middle eastern countries.

[@orangeblossom5362]

@@stormk9203 Okay but just because it’s “Cultural” doesn’t mean it can’t be acknowledged and recognized as wrong and controversial. You can’t defend colorism just because it’s cultural. People get discriminated against and harassed behind their skin tone so yes it’s a problem.

[@hnyuq4049]

I disagree with ur examples. it’s totally ok to have preferences but it becomes an issue when u start to say the the skin colour that u don’t prefer is ugly, dirty, disgusting, poor, etc

[@anelf3767]

@@hnyuq4049 Oh yeah! That's what I meant but I thought leaving the sentences open ended would make it easier for people to fill in the blanks, hence why I added "for whatever dumb reason" at the end.

[@sepharcallwood2422]

Thank you for explaining! When I heard those statement it did make me uneasy but now that I have more insight into the culture, I’m more understanding.

[@lessthandeserved]

Soyeon was an absolute queen on this show and I also loved Yaewon because she was so CUTE. The only guy I liked was Junsik and that's probably because he wasn't shown as much and you could only see him being cute with Yaewon for like five seconds in total (they definitely should have gotten more screen time), and I really think he's cute when he smiles 👁👄👁

[@Showakusei]

i don’t know if it’s because i’m too used to my french-canadian dating show, but this show was kind of a let down… the fact it lasted only a week?! that’s not enough time for ppl to build actual relationships. at least make it last a few months.. plus adding 3 new participants nearly at the end didn’t make any sense to me. i think the concept should be reworked if there’s another season. just my onion!

[@GRAZYGRACE]

I agree it was so short! Maybe Since it was only the first season and didn’t know how well it will do they will probably consider doing it longer hopefully next season

[@inejghazal9002]

D'habitude c'est 2 mois, là ils ont fait ça en express mdr

[@Showakusei]

@@inejghazal9002 non vraiment ça commençait tout juste à être croustillant puis c’est fini 😩 en passant, tu connais occupation double? 👀

[@inejghazal9002]

@@Showakusei non je connais pas, c'est quoi?

[@Showakusei]

@@inejghazal9002 je croyais que tu répondais en français pcq tu connaissais l’émission 🙈

[@MoonMan422]

It’s important to watch how someone speaks to those they are NOT attracted to. Sehoon was very sweet to Jiyeon but he was completely different with any other woman in the show which comes off as a red flag to me. Soyeon seems very genuine and I would 100% drink and game with Minji.

[@KarateSHOES00]

Racism does not equal colorism. Colorism occurs in the same ethnic group.

[@Deffnotmaggie]

IM EARLYYYYYYY! I get so happy when you post! Thanks Grace! ❤️

[@GRAZYGRACE]

Aweee im happy ur here Moral!!

[@fappymatsu]

i know it’s because of classism when it comes to skin tones but that doesn’t excuse the fact that people still find tan skin ugly and praise whiter skin as it is still colorism yknow? (just clarifying that i meant in general and not from the show for any confusion 😁)

[@zzipp7321]

in this show no one said tan skin is ugly

[@motherhoodsbeauty9279]

When did they said tan skin is ugly?

[@fappymatsu]

@@zzipp7321 no i’m just saying in general not from the show

[@fappymatsu]

@@motherhoodsbeauty9279 in general not from the show

[@Joseph-zd7kg]

In general most people find pale skin ugly and sick looking while tan skin looks healthy. Especially in America.

[@ItsNikaBby]

My husband and I was watching the show and my husband asked me if I find any of the guys on the show attractive . I answered “huh? What? I didn’t even look at the guys. I was only looking at Soyeon the only time! 😍💜” LOL. She’s so pretty

[@Annie_0613]

YES! You're talking about it 👏🏻

[@xEPICxNESS]

I like that you give different perspectives

[@sonofsarek]

I’m not into dating shows, but I think I will check this one out. Your opinions were very interesting (can you elaborate more?). I’m looking forward to hearing your future thoughts.

[@beccaa7638]

it’s mostly kinda boring you’re gonna end up skipping most parts especially when the hosts start speaking. Most of all the hype around the show is all based on one really pretty girls who gets like 80% of the screen time and the rest just exist

[@Dramacon7]

I'd love to see more videos of you giving advice and / or sharing stories while doing makeup. Maybe a segment where subscribers send you stories and you give them advice :)

[@minimalisticjoy628]

If I’m on the show I would pick SeHoon for sure. Yes he is emotional but so genuine at the same time. No need to guess what is on his mind. As for the girls I would totally vibe with Yewon. She has become one of my favourite from the show! Too bad she don’t get more screen time tho!

[@writer8799]

Same

[@judybarbanida309]

Se Hoon ftw! One woman man👍

[@monayunita6163]

This is due to her doesn’t having many romantic or flirty interactions when they do filming. Since it’s basically dating shows, they probably want to highlight that type of interaction. Check her channel, she did talk about the show with one of the cast (forgot his name, but he is the one introduced later)

[@minimalisticjoy628]

@@monayunita6163 yup I saw it! 😁

[@vivianwhee]

They did Joosik dirty and not giving him enough screentime, he actually has a really good personality and speak English, his name is Dan watch haChubby gym training I got Korean bodybuilder as my personal trainer video

[@NerdyChick201]

If I was in this show, I would be so insecure lmao btw Grace you look gorgeous as always

[@heidi1992]

I made myself insecure, by imagining myself as a participant in the show. I don't think I know how to talk to men in general LOL

[@pinkumoon01]

love you! loved this video ☺️

[@i_treasure_u_forever3523]

5:47 this is what I noticed as well. I am glad you pointed this out Grazy. You are awesome!

[@stormk9203]

I know Koreans especially older generations associate certain physical features to 'sucess' in life, bc that's how they grew up. Most older generations grew up in poverty due to South Korea being a new country after the war. It's only been 60 yrs since the war, the mindset isn't going away anytime soon

[@aestheticcat8976]

Every time with take two steps forward with shifting the standard of beauty, someone would take two steps backwards to undo all of the work it took to change the mindset. Either way I find some beauty standards grossly unattainable, not unless you do surgery from head to toe to attain that set look and think about how mentally harmful it is for those whom don't fit the standard.

[@gabrielmeth4844]

Apex Fallacy. You can't expect the extraordinary to be the norm, and the issue is people trying to be extraordinary, rather than themselves.

[@roselamoure]

The most crazy one is having a small head/ small face, that‘s not even achievable with plastic surgery and you have to live like that forever! And in asia a big head is considered ugly…

[@uditakonwar7409]

@@roselamoure as a big head n asian myself i cn say what you said is 110% right 😭 i was bullied when i was young, i hated myself back then to b born like that till i realized i was borned this way n nothing is wrong w that. It's still one of my insecurity but not that much.

[@sambatra6162]

Why should we even shift the standards of beauty? Instead of "shifting" the standards of beauty, we should just teach people to be comfortable in their own skin.

[@kumaruma643]

Please do a post show reaction and thoughts! Would love to hear it! 💛

[@Maderilae]

The show was fun to watch but frankly very problematic from my perspective on various things and not just the colourism aspect. I saw extremely shallow comments ("I chose him because I like nice noses" ???), very stereotypical and misogynistic attitudes, and for me Sehoon's behavior towards Jiyeon was close to harassment. I was very angry with the commentators who praised him. I loved Soyeon and Yaewon and thought they deserved better than any man on the island ...

[@MiamEggTart]

Soyeon was my #1 girl since episode 1! She's bold, honest, confident, and SO GORGEOUS. I also love Yeawon and I'm so disappointed she didn't get more screentime. The show spent too much time milking the one-sided love story of Sehoon, and I did not lik his desperation, and it clearly made Jiyeon uncomfortable. I would have refused to go to Paradise with him if I was her... how can you be so fixated on a girl because you find her pretty?

[@BangtanNoona]

I think that enough people have pointed out the colourism implicit in the show and within many cultures including Korea. I would also like to point out that with the growing global attention that Korea is experiencing will also come growing International scrutiny. Perhaps what will become necessary is for creators of content for global consumption to be mindful of what they are putting out there.

[@lellan1288]

Damn, this comment 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@byulaire]

Omg i love your lipstick so much 😍

[@aliceher9243]

Loved your comments on this video. Lol! 🤣🤣🤣

[@shreyapai4609]

Thank you for giving us the tea😩💜

[@GRAZYGRACE]

sizleeeee💖

[@MinieAnne]

Racism # colorism You keep saying the word colorist and then talk about racism, like for example when you say people think korea is the most colorist country in the world and then speak about your racism experience in america... This are two different thing.

[@remuspierre]

Amazing topics

[@voidsunoo2490]

UR SO PRETTY OMG ??

[@vesperslynd2676]

I feel like you would be more familiar with the problem because you have been living in america. The problem with colorism even if it is only within a particular ethnicity is that it judges people on a trait that doesn't change/you can't help. I know koreans even within my own family who are naturally darker skinned than I am, and tan much easier than me. The amount of work in the sun is not the factor. And the fact that the stereotype was rooted in a history of differences in wealth (if that is true) doesn't excuse judging people on skin color then or now. I'm not sure if rich people back then wore whitening makeup - but it seems like if they did, it would be an example of exposing the stereotype as untrue. Also, the issue with saying that someone's skin is so white and pure and whether that implies that darker skin is not is because of the representation and power in that society. Just saying "your skin is so white and pure I like it" does not logically exclude "that other woman's skin is so dark and pure I like it," but because of the larger representation in power structures, the argument is that it can imply it. While talking about your own ideal type is harmless on its face, if one analyzes their ideal type they will find that it could very well be rooted in racist ideas influenced by the wider culture. The same way that there's a window where experiences will affect your adult sexual preferences and kinks, I think it makes sense to say that some of those preferences could have been influenced by indoctrination or just outdated ideas that a skin color/ethnicity by itself means certain desirable traits like wealth, purity, good, etc. Having sexual preferences may not hurt anyone else per se, but to say that they can't be affected at all by racist things doesn't seem reasonable. as far as korea being a more racist country than say the US, I won't speak definitively to that because I have not lived in korea recently, but i do think it makes sense that a country that is mostly homogenous would be more racist - think about other ethnicities in a stereotypical way and treat them as only these stereotypes, not as individual human beings. Like you said, there are racists in every country, but the way the people act might make the country seem more racist. I don't know what kind of racism you experienced in the US, but I have been teased as a kid because of my eyes, which look like asian eyes, which is something I was born with. However, I don't think I have been treated as less than a human being because of that. There's a lot of awareness, I think, BUT I think there are people out there who would disagree with me. But, I think I have been treated as less than a human being because I am overweight, though :).

[@lellan1288]

I 100% agree! I grew up in America as the daughter of African immigrants and even when I was young, I was taught to fear getting darker. It exists everyone and it astonished me why we wouldn’t acknowledge why it’s harmful just because it’s been there for so long. As for whether Korea is more or less racist, I studied abroad there for a semester last fal and honestly, even though I spent a short time there it was an incredible but emotionally exhausting experience. I think the fact that recent subjects in America include micro aggressions while discrimination on the basis of race is still technically legal says a lot. I loved Korea with my whole heart, but I’ve never experienced that level of exclusion in my entire life 😅. And I agree, I do think homogenous countries would reasonably have this issue. Living in a multicultural society, how could I look at my friends with darker complexions and justify my caring for them when I was also afraid of looking like them by getting “darker”? And likewise how could my friends of lighter complexion look at me and say we were friends when they were terrified of having my skin complexion? I just think it’s easier to encounter these realizations when you’re faced with it more frequently like in multicultural societies. I also liked how you described the idea of how people from homogenous countries might see foreigners as their respective stereotypes and not as individual people because that was exactly how it felt in Korea. It didn’t feel like most Koreans saw me as a person, more like an oddity. Again, really liked your take on this!

[@lily-wg9zv]

We can get mad as we see it for our perspective but that's their culture and we can't change every people mentality

[@realtalk675]

Love your channel

[@wandavision794]

Grace I agree with you! Well said!

[@Chadmichealmurraystan]

I love this show but most of the men there are red flags 🚩 😬

[@GRAZYGRACE]

loved the show too💖

[@motherhoodsbeauty9279]

They are all walking red flag but I still love the show.

[@user-tq9vs6fc9u]

It’s a dating show, I really don’t expect stellar people to be on any dating show from any country tbh.

[@hyunie8926]

In my opinion, I don't think it considers colorism. People have different ideal types of a girl or a guy. This is ridiculous that people take everything personally these days. It's not wrong for someone to say that their ideal type is innocent, pale, skinny, etc. Remember that you can't force someone to change their ideal type of beauty standards. Let them have the freedom to have their own opinion. PERIOD. Edit: I’m Korean American, but I prefer Korean beauty standards than American beauty standards. There are things I don’t understand about American beauty standards such as big butts, tan skin, heavy makeup, etc. At the same time, I accept their beauty standards instead of changing their mind about what considers beauty. At the end of the day, it’s better to accept other countries beauty standards instead of calling out ppl and say that’s “racist”. Also, there is NO definition of beauty. It’s your choice about what considers beauty. Beauty changes every year. So pick a beauty standards that fits for you. Don’t follow others just because it’s a trend. Trend dies down easily. Please respect everyones beauty standards. Thank you.

[@kikithepupper6774]

I agree. People these days, especially Americans gotta nitpick everything and make everything a race problem and whatnot. Everyone has different preferences and each culture has their own views

[@hyunie8926]

@@kikithepupper6774 Yes exactly!

[@paris.998]

10:17 Ji-a said in her previous videos before going on the show that she actually doesn’t have that many friends or guy friends and if you notice it’s always her mom who records her videos. When she’s vloging she’s either alone or with her mom and dad, even in her graduation vlog she had lunch with her mom in the university campus. She received hate for actually being a lonely person, which is so stupid, her bond reminds me of me and my mom and I think it’s so sweet they’re so close. Family means a lot to her. If you think about the being lonely thing it actually makes sense, a lot of people probably get close to her just to take advantage of her since she looks wealthy or to try to date her and then dip

[@tarumisuu]

i truly love u alot 💕💕

[@GRAZYGRACE]

ILY2💖💖💖💖💖 :D

[@samanthamiller2412]

Thank you for giving such a level-headed and fair assessment of the show from both points of view! I’ve not watched it yet but I’m curious now and might watch!

[@SirDGentry]

Thanks grazy grace it's fun to understand your opinions & other topic's it's was an excellent video & you are amazing pretty 😍

[@aoiheartsuu]

For once I'm early!! ahhhh

[@ariya2169]

i love how you excuse Colourism as a preference 🥰🥰🥰🥰 keep it up 😝

[@Gabi-yx7ek]

Right! Her comments rubbed me the wrong way!

[@ariya2169]

@@Gabi-yx7ek most of asian justified stuff like this lol not suprised 🥰

[@minmint2690]

Why u so American

[@moonamigi]

Yeah but I'm not surprised since she isnt tan herself and probably doesnt experience the same as a more tanned korean

[@ariya2169]

@@minmint2690 WRONG! Im Asian born and raised here in Asia

[@natasyapauri8935]

If there's one thing that you guys should keep in mind, it is that a≠b. Especially when its in a whole different language, the underlining pragmatics are different from each other, you can't just rely on translation and take whatever you can from there, if you actually know the language and the culture there, then you'll understand what she's trying to convey in this video, all in all, nowadays people like to take things over the top, and i don't know what are yall are on about, she has a point

[@sambatra6162]

Exactly!!

[@geekdiggy]

i never watched the show but i enjoyed your take on it. it was fun.👍

[@WerewolfCat890]

i would love for you to talk about current events and hot topics in korea that are not necessarily related to kpop!

[@kylaa9205]

Queen 👑✨

[@mintrandom311]

Stay awesome and fantastic Grace 😄. Always supporting you and sending lost of love from Canada 🇨🇦❤

[@realtalk675]

New sub from Amsterdam ♥️

[@floralfancy7814]

Oh Grazy you are beautiful! Don't compare yourself to others!

[@BB-xk6ef]

It's interesting to see how cultures in other parts of the world will evolve with the globalization of kdramas, kpop, and kshows. I watched a lot of Korean entertainment content before it became popular. I'm from a conservative culture, hence a dating show like this resonated with me the most. But American dating shows always left me feeling worse than how I felt before watching the show. There's too much fighting(sometimes physical), drinking, rudeness, hookups, etc. so I stopped watching them.

[@jennelynjadea.velasco4634]

i really love your content grace♡

[@GRAZYGRACE]

Thank you so muchfor watching💖💖💖

[@daludna]

Uhhh!! I need your reaction of the finale

[@Aysisse]

So I watched the show after your video and can finally give my opinion !!! To be honest, thoses types of comments about skin color always makes me really unconfortable. But as someone who listen to lots of kpop and stuff, I do get that it's more of a cultural thing. I mean, for koreans, I suppose it isn't a really big deal, it's probably the same as saying "I love blue eyes". Of course I don't think it's a good thing, but maybe things will change with time ? We'll see For the show, well, purely physically speaking, I also got caught by Ji-a. I actually already vaguely knew her from youtube, but didn't knew she would be there and didn't instantly recognise her! I don't know, she has that special aura, and she kinds of makes me think of Jennie Kim from Blackpink? I don't know if the others agree with me but I feel like they have the same vibe if you get it She's literally so beautiful I understand why she was so popular on the show I also really liked Yeawon. Physically she was really hot let's be honest, but she also seemed to have a fun personality. I'm really sad we didn't get to see that much of her. For the guys, I think my favorite was Si-hun. Seriously he is so cute, I still can't get over the fact that he is 30, I thought he was 25 or something. Among all the guys he was in my opinion the most beautiful I'm sad he ended up going for Ji-a even tho he knew he would lose, I was hoping he would find hapiness with Sun Min. By the way I feel really sad for Min Ji. She's the only one who never got the chance to go to paradise and ended up alone... I agree about Oh Jin, he was one of my favs at the beginning of the show, but after what he did to Soyeon it was a big no for me You don't promise someone to stay with them if the day after you hesitate... Anyways still have lot to say but it's late so lateerz

[@voidsunoo2490]

I GET SO EXCITED WHEN U POST

[@GRAZYGRACE]

You DO?>!>!!

[@voidsunoo2490]

@@GRAZYGRACE YAASS UR MY FAVORITE CONTENT CREATOR

[@shasiarangel]

just cause someone doesn't mean something in a specific way, doesn't make it right

[@honeybutterpotatochips]

WAAIT the new guy with a tattoo that you mentioned is the dancer cha hyunseung right?? omg and no wonder jia seems familiar haha i saw her in hyunseung's post the other day!

[@sakpase3176]

Let's say that if the last two girls had arrived from the beginning, when asked who impressed you the most among the competitors, moon se hoon answer would have been for sure

[@azeenanj9185]

I feel like you missed the point though, bc they attributed good things to pale skin, and bad things to dark skin. Also, colorism and racism are two different thing and you kept mixing them up...

[@assistant1773]

I think you need to watch the video again; she made it very clear colourism and racism is different and she didn't understand why people were making a big deal about it; it was a cultural difference and not racism; think you missed the point of the video

[@sambatra6162]

@@assistant1773 true

[@elektracity205]

Soyeon so gorgeous. I would choose her and I haven't even watched it or any interest.

[@miria4157]

I can only guess that the association of tanned to fit and sexy is from the image of a beach goer (wearing bikini, abs exposed and getting tanned). I also just remembered, there was a time when 2pm and snsd did that thing. It was quite sexy, there were abs, lifeguards and yuri was even putting on tanning lotion, so looking into media and how they portray tanned skin may also shed light to why tanned is associated to sexy and fit.

[@LinZhiying-yd2qw]

I don't believe what people say on the internet. I like data and accurate information. I once read a book about Korea that said that the traditional image of a woman in Korea was white jade skin. That said, not all Koreans prefer white skin. To say that Koreans follow Westerners is really misinformation and a Western-oriented way of thinking.

[@sambatra6162]

True

[@vfatev_]

jiyeon or yeawon would be the ones id go for. but honestly international viewers( im american so im just speaking about them) dont branch out to see how other countries do things or say things. its pretty much my way or youre completely wrong and you need to change to how i think (instead of being open minded to seeing other POVs) which this is how most americans think about everything. we like thinking everything needs to be catered to us. we like saying "oh everyone and other countries are different" but that applies to when the person agrees with it, but when its something they dont like they attack or shame the person/country for being "different" from what they think. we are very hypocritical people but when they get called out on it or someone tries to explain it so they can understand they'll gaslight them or keep saying how they think and not even try to understand what others think or do and it becomes a never ending cycle of repeating. I wish we would become more sophisticated and open minded, but we are still in that 1 way thinking and getting worse. We also hate so fast so we are even more closed minded, that every time i look at the comments i feel so bad.. Kinda wish everyone in general would realize theres other countries and people who have different beauty standards, ideal types, and way of thinking so be open minded

[@sambatra6162]

True!

[@jjrockstar41]

Grace I love you! Keep up the good work! 💜💜💜

[@GRAZYGRACE]

Thanks love you too Jenny💖

[@maykim8216]

Sehoon was my fav!!! Glad he got his girl he wanted at the end

[@french.kimchi]

We had so much funj drinking soju while binge watching it 🤫

[@RychAhlberg]

You' were spot on with your perception on the cast members characters. I also perceived them exactly as you described them. But I don't agree with color subject, neither do I think it's the same as being skinny or not. Skin color is something you're born with and will die with. Skinny people can gain weight and fat people can lose as well. Skin color is a way deeper subject.