God Says You're Not a Doormat (10 Scriptures to Prove It )

[@Kris_Reece]

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[@bepreparedforwhatscoming4975]

I love your ministry! Its very relevant to so many people 👍🏻👍🏼

[@Kris_Reece]

@@bepreparedforwhatscoming4975 Thank you! I'm glad you're finding it helpful.

[@kindalikeu.....5948]

I met a REAL WOLF. ( WOLFE.)

[@yahslivingwater4764]

Kris Reece (Wise & Essential Msg. sharing! ~ May YAH bless you!!!) *And It is Under YAHUSHUA Ha MASHIACH(Jesus)' Command,* I'm Leaving you ONE of Holy end time Prophecy & Including ( #1-8 Excerpts), For BRIDE and GUESTS *Prophecy 102: YAHUSHUA Says, "It's Only a Matter of Time* [snippets]: I’ve taught you our Sacred Names. I showed you the importance of the Holy Feasts. I told you to stand up for Holiness and never compromise by doing what you know is wrong! You weep and you cry when I divide your families, when I command a husband to divorce a wife or a wife to divorce a husband. Do not hate this Prophet speaking for she says nothing that is not in MY Holy Word. The Holy Word says, “Be not unequally yoked.” This is the End Time.(2 Cor 6:14) [MORE]. It’s only a matter of time… Everything that has been prophesied through this Ministry [www.amightywind Dot/Com] shall come to pass! The fallen angels are going to raise up. The fallen angels will say, “No longer believe in this Bible, it’s passe! It’s just a book of fairy tales! This is the, ‘Modern Age’. ”Hom.osexuality and samesex marriages… they will scream they are right to kill the unborn babe in the mother’s womb. Political leaders, where satan has filled their heart to overflow, will rage and will scream, “You who believe in this YAHUSHUA, your heads shall roll!” [More] ------------ *[GUESTS]:And now I don’t speak to the Bride. I speak to those who will be the Guests at* the Marriage Supper of the LAMB. You must be willing to lay down your life for ME. You will be in the Great Tribulation. For those of you who say, “It’s too tough, too hard to live, to be Holy, I’ll get it right by the Great Tribulation.” *I’ll tell you this, if you cannot do it now and there’s no sacrifice thus far you’ve had to* make, you’ve not been told to lay down your life, to put your head in a guillotine, what makes you think that you can do it then when you cannot even do it now? What makes you think you’ll have more faith then when starvation and death and devastation, when horrors uncomprehendable you shall see all around you? When the roads, you will have to wade through the blood! What makes you think you’ll have more faith then? Now it costs you nothing other than to be called a “Bible thumper”. *And I do not speak to the lands now that it costs you so much more, I speak for the* majority of this earth where they have said, “Oh, it’s too hard for me to live Holy! Oh, the devil tempts me so with porn! Oh, I cannot lay the cigarettes down on the altar! Oh, I cannot lay the booze down! Oh, it’s too hard to live Holy! I cannot stop the cursing coming from my lips! I cannot live Holy! Pray for me, I cannot live Holy!” What makes you think it’s going to be any easier then? Now, you’re stomachs are full! Now, your tongue isn’t parched with *thirst! (YAHUSHUA is weeping through Elisabeth.) And yet you cannot praise ME now?* *What makes you think it’s going to be easier then?!* [Much More] ~> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ *HEBREW ROOTS of New BLOOD Covenant Prophecies,* (Defending YAHUVEH & Jewish Messiah's DOCTRINE) *The below #1-8 Are Found INSIDE this Prophecy 102* 1. Oh MY precious Bride, MY precious Bride, MY precious Bride. 2. Sacred Names [ ''YAH'' our HOLY TRINITY] 3. Holy Feasts [Bride/ Leviticus 23:1-44 Guests/ Exodus 34 & 20 ] 4. Unequally yoked [ YAHUSHUA'S Dividing Sword... Say Thank You!] 5. MY birth [Birth of YAHUSHUA ha MASHIACH] 6. Great Tribulation [ Guests Begin @Prophecies 83, 84, 89, 90, 99 ~ end ] 7. Sunday churches [ Flee from manmade laws & demons doctrineS?] 8. Mark of the Beast [ Is Connected to sunday worship during G.Tribulation] (Dream/ Hell ) ................................................................... *YAHUSHUA'S ''Anointed Bride & GUESTS!* May you be prepared as according to YAHUSHUA's end time Instructions/Revelation (since 1994). *Prophecy 102: YAHUSHUA Says, "It's Only a Matter of Time* .almightywind.com/prophecy/proph102.html *********** *Dear: GUESTS: Saved Jews & Christians* As you learn Daily Repentance return to Study/Obey, *A Set of YAH's Ten Commandments: Exodus 34 & 20* (thus honouring Two Great Commandments Matt:22, 32, 37-40) ******* From: Revelation 14 International Bride sanctuary since 1994 YAH'S OWN, Apostolic, Prophetic, Messianic Jewish Pentecost *YAH'S OWN, Alep & Tav | ALPHA & OMEGA* AMIGHTYWIND, ALMIGHTYWIND RUACH ha KODESH WILDFIRE LAST CHANCE MINISTRY www.amightywind.com We are Sabbath-Keepers, Not Seventh-Day Adventists May you click Prophecy 102 With YAHUSHUA's Love, ..........

[@gabrieladinger6438]

Thank you ❤

[@TS-fj2lo]

“If you see a wolf and treat it as a sheep, you will get slaughtered.” What a powerful quote.

[@lelabrooks04]

My mothers brother and sister contacted the elder abuse and police and made false allegations against me. But God had revealed to me a trap before it happened. Because I dont want to speak with them the Aunt son said its not of God. Lol I laughed. When the Lord reveals your trap I dont let ppl convince me I need to be around them.

[@oluwaseyiseunsofuyi4220]

May every wolf in sheep's clothing be slaughtered by CHRIST JESUS HIMSELF in JESUS Mighty Name, AMEN.

[@Batman_83]

Sometimes loving someone the right way is to keep yourself away from them.

[@deborahstarman9874]

Did you ever notice that the people that freak out over boundaries are the same people that won't own their stuff.

[@Will-ce6mw]

True

[@annettepeltola8615]

Without Jesus none of us is NOTHING. So thankful that Jesus showed me that.

[@Brian-rs4ug]

LOVE THE TITLE! People pleasing is a foundational beliefs to a life of mediocrity. Love people but choose your friends and inner circle very carefully. No friends are better than the wrong friends.

[@benedettadeluca7910]

Recovery people pleaser here.. its so hard.

[@alycewich4472]

@@benedettadeluca7910 And the benefits of working through all of it is beyond imagining! You CAN do it. I have found in my own life that the harder the task, the greater the joy as long as I'm following Jesus's lead. And yes, sometimes it's so scary that I'm frozen in place, but He always waits until I follow. Other times, I have to ask Him to help me forgive someone when I don't have the desire to do so. The He allows me to struggle until I give up "my rights" and surrender to His will. The life and peace I have now is so much better than the strife and struggle I had before. You CAN do it! And, yes, it might be the hardest thing you've ever done. But Jesus only puts us through the fiery furnace to cleanse us from the dross that makes us impure. I was amazed when I found out that the way you can tell if the molten gold is pure or not is to see if you can see your reflection in it. I imagine as Jesus is purifying me, He's looking to see His reflection in me.

[@claudiacordoba4535]

Boundaries apply to all areas, even in ministry. If it disturbs your peace, run!!!

[@tam1729]

Amen

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

if it disturbs your peace, its the Holy Spirit telling u to stay away

[@heatherlynn3438]

Narcissistic Abuse Widowed, Orphaned and Disabled me. Please say a little prayer that God Will Use every bit of it for His Glory. In Jesus Name Amen 🙏 💕

[@user-fr2eq3hq9n]

amen.

[@alycewich4472]

Lord Jesus Christ, I pray that you use all the pain and turmoil, loss and grief that heatherlynn has experienced and the healing that she is going through to encourage others in their journey toward healing with you as the lover of their souls. Amen Heatherlynn, our lives might not be the same from the outside, but I have prayed for YEARS that Jesus uses every SCRAP of pain, sorrow, grief and anguish that I have gone through to show others that He is the only one who can save and love and heal completely. You go girl! Jesus has your back!

[@heatherlynn3438]

@@alycewich4472 Amen! Thank you!

[@belindashock7775]

Change your perception of yourself!!! Spiritual strength is where you need to be!!! Praying for you!!! ❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@cherylfleck5606]

Boy you are one smart cookie!! I'm 74 & it took till i was in my 60's to learn this. I have so much more peace in my life now without all of those chaos makers. I still struggle with should I or shouldnt I do whatever. Had i only known in my earlier years! 🥰

[@alycewich4472]

Better now than never! You go girl! I'm in my 70's also and I'm still working on things that I didn't even know about until I was in my 50's. But I have lots more peace and less stress now than before. So I'm going to keep working on me and the relationships I have until Jesus calls me home.

[@malteserjones1502]

As soon as I set boundaries, ALL and I mean ALL my side of the family AND my husbands family disowned us. No joke.

[@ketocat9301]

Maybe that was a good thing. The Lord has been dealing with me about “coming out from among them and being separate”. I pray for them, but I no longer associate on any and all holidays or family get together or celebrations. The reason: they are all following an anti-Christian path of extreme left wing (demonic) liberalism. I thank God He pulled me out of that into His Glorious light. It has been so much more peaceful to set boundaries and quietly pray. At least now He has revealed to me the real battle of darkness and light.

[@ChannaM-z3q]

Their loss !

[@deankor]

Took me so many years to be okay with saying NO.

[@jamesravencraft8789]

The whole body of Christ should hear this!

[@aienamukanova6930]

I finally understood how Christianity can be something very practical🎉

[@ladykathyrnroyster8393]

I was in a church for many years and we were not taught that it’s biblical to have boundaries. Therefore I allowed things from people, even family that I shouldn’t have. I’ve been learning more about having boundaries and I have been setting them. Thank you for the confirmation. 😊

[@lovestodesign]

God put a book right into my hands, and the name of it was “Boundaries” by Drs Cloud and Townsend, two Christian men. It was probably about 25 years ago. I never had a problem with saying NO again. I still love to give, help, serve, support and donate, but I’ve learned to listen to God much better, and discern when to say yes, and when to say no. I once thought a good Christian should never say no to any request so I was always bailing out friends, one in particular, a certain “friend” who never had money to pay for herself. God told me to STOP doing that, because she was just lazy and if I kept bailing her out she’d never feel the consequences of her own actions. In other words I was hindering the lesson God was trying to give her. So I stopped, but it was right after that, God showed me that book and told me to read it. (Did I mention I almost never saw her again, at least not nearly as often , once I stopped paying her way?) It wasn’t enough to just know I needed to stop, I needed to know why so I wouldn’t do it again. I think it was their first “Boundaries” book but newer ones have come out since then. The first one was effective enough for me to never forget the lessons taught. And all based on biblical wisdom. I give the book a thumbs up 👍

[@brendagriffin6742]

Jesus had boundaries and got angry with the money changers and ran them out of the temple.

[@PaddyK-lx6ud]

AMEN!

[@preacherbarbie]

It's a shame that boundaries have to be set in the first place. It's astonishing the behavior of some of these people. If they truly knew God and had a relationship with Him and His Son, that would help matters tremendously🙏

[@lydiaheelu2681]

Even our love efforts and gestures should be guided by wisdom and sound judgment. Loving blindly is NOT biblical.

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

Thank you Kris Reece. God bless you for this message. Most of my life I was a doormat because my mostly narcissistic family made me that way. I thank God for out the truth. I am free.✝️🕊️🙏✝️

[@maureenwright5670]

This is so true, nowhere in the bible did God say to make sure you please every and anyone as a matter of fact Jesus said leave your family and friends and follow me also many christians think being a doormat is being a blessing to someone when in reality there's some people that wouldn't change their evil ways if people keep catering to them.

[@alycewich4472]

Being a doormat only enables others to wipe their feet on you. It's not a blessing, it's enabling.

[@lilafeldman8630]

Codependency is love and faith is entitlement. Yes, this is a huge problem in Christianity. So often in Christianity, Scripture is used to justify codependent behavior.

[@WifeyMamaGrandma]

I put up with my brother running around like crazy on his wife for 25 years. Calls himself a Christian and is such a deceitful toxic liar. Then he took advantage of our sweet awesome Mom, financially when she was a new widow. I dropped him out of my life 6 years ago. So glad I did. He is poison. He used to call me self righteous if I EVER mentioned his affairs. Sickening. Boundaries preserve our mental health and protect our other family members also, from crazy behaviour and sinful sick people. Family or not.

[@andrewvangils3112]

Kinda messed up to put your families’ business out there, especially as followers of Christ.

[@alycewich4472]

@@andrewvangils3112 As a helpful example of successfully holding boundaries, I think not.

[@andrewvangils3112]

@@alycewich4472 you should read what the Bible says about gossip. And Gossip can be true information. God doesn’t honor that.

[@bevstephens8425]

@@andrewvangils3112 Gossip? putting people down and exalting self. There are no names mentioned here 🤔

[@a.h.i267]

18 and going to college in a month. I just found the Lord. Last week., it’s funny because people say the Bible was not practical. it indeed is and I’m taking all of this information internalizing it and I’m gonna take it to me. I’m going to college.

[@holyenforcer8200]

Having boundaries isn’t hatful it necessary to protect against toxic and negative relationships and people

[@DA-jw4lx]

I sure did need this right now, I have 2 very very toxic close family members trying to suck me dry and this really helps me not to feel guilty from just staying away from them. The truth has set me free! Praise God.

[@elsalohengrin7777]

I am sorry to hear this! Same here! Half brother abused me even srxually, the other squezed my throat and much mote

[@misha-elministries5246]

Matthew 10:34-37 The Message “Don’t think I’ve come to make life cozy. I’ve come to cut-make a sharp knife-cut between son and father, daughter and mother, bride and mother-in-law-cut through these cozy domestic arrangements and free you for God. Well-meaning family members can be your worst enemies. If you prefer father or mother over me, you don’t deserve me. If you prefer son or daughter over me, you don’t deserve me.

[@DA-jw4lx]

@@misha-elministries5246 That's right

[@angelaharris1112]

I get it. I finally got away from my highly toxic roommates at 1st of month.

[@alycewich4472]

@@angelaharris1112 Good for you!🙌

[@johnmckenna1776]

I once had a lady pastor try to shame/guilt trip me, just because I wanted to set healthy boundaries regarding my serving in her church. It's amazing how much hate/anger you elicit when trying to set boundaries...but go ahead and set them anyway regardless of the flack you get as it's the right thing to do!!

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

Thank you, I was relieved many years ago when the Lord showed me the need for boundaries. In my ungodly family the members used intimidation and manipulation over the silliest things to control how I felt about myself. They needed to feel superior and I was the means to that end. The Lord was so gracious to allow me to have joy no matter the silly expectations of others. I do what I can as led by the Holy Spirit and feel no sense of having to do what others want me to do aside from the Holy Spirit.

[@chidinneji2202]

This is my testimony too. Thank God for wisdom. Not sure I would've made it much longer being a nice Christian doormat

[@irinasolomina1800]

But can’t God show us through people what to do? Is it really so wise to separate yourself from people?

[@ashl8804]

@@irinasolomina1800 When you encounter a ‘malignant narcissist’, you won’t be asking this question….! Discernment is key.

[@sandycares2995]

A word I'm learning about is "condescending" I googled it and studied it. reminds me of what you have just wrote about. Bless you. Be strong and Courageous God is with you wherever you go. JOSHUA 1:9

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

@@irinasolomina1800 2 Timothy 3:1-5 says to avoid these people, its a command. "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of [b]godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these." 1 Corinthians 15:33 "33Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” When we spend time with evil people we will become like them. 1 Corinthians 5:6 "Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?" Proverbs 9:6 "Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding." Proverbs 13:20 "He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed."

[@jermainejoseph7614]

This lady just saved most of my problems

[@girlygirlwoman]

Honestly...I think I'm just "so hungry" to hear this teaching. I heard you when you said .... "Givers attract takers"!. I'm listening to this and it's so good! Thank You So Much for sharing, your wisdom and these video's. I'm a new listener but can see me and my family so very very clearly in this. God Bless You!

[@Lisaann7]

This is great! I would love to hear a teaching on parents dealing with toxic children. The heartbreak of estrangement from an adult child that hates you and keeps grandchildren away needs to be addressed. It’s so painful. Thank you for always having such sound biblical content!

[@jeffschultz732]

Yes!!!!

[@tatendadune171]

The Lord once told me that he would love for me to reconcile with my mother, but not at my expense. He said I wasn't a doormat and since she was refusing to change there was no reason for me to reconcile. Yet often times Christians tell me to just love and be the big girl and reconcile bc God loves family. My response now is. "Yes, he loves family but not dysfunctional ones. I'm not a matyr for someone else's problems. I didn't die for anyone on a cross."

[@ease_flow]

"I didn't die for anyone on the cross..." Wow. This is profound. Thank you for such incredible insight. My beliefs are forever changed.

[@barbaradobson1628]

Thank you so much this was just what I needed to hear. I lived under a Narcissist marriage for over 35 years not realizing that I did not have to live that way. I finally got strong enough to leave because of the abuse. Unfortunately due to his mental illness he had he committed suicide so that really has been a journey to travel because it has affected my relationship a family member. We are not to live in fear or be a doormat I thought I had to live that way and I do not. The Lord is teaching me I do have power Thank you for the video I am struggling but managing to get up everyday and do my best.

[@misha-elministries5246]

You are free to marry another as long as he is a Christian. It is good for a woman to obey her husband for he is your head. However if your husbands head is not Christ then the marriage is Egalitarian and is of this world and trouble will abound .

[@barbaradobson1628]

@Misha-el Ministries Thank you for your reply. I do believe that if the Lord has it in his plan that would be wonderful. But the Lord is working on my behalf in out of a tragedy some wonderful things are happening. I am able to help my parents and to help my brother. I have had some amazing events to share my faith out of this tragedy. As the song says I will built a boat and I have because of the Lord. I am right where I need to be and I am so grateful 🙏.

[@LoveFaithLive]

@@barbaradobson1628 You've emerged stronger, wiser. thanks be to God! ♥

[@barbaradobson1628]

Thank you so much. I have done my best to remain faithful to the Lord and lived the best way I know. The Lord has Blessed me beyond message and so thankful to share my journey with others.

[@akcalo]

This is such wise advice! I wish I knew this years ago. But better late than never. I hope more believers learn these principles! God bless you!

[@Kris_Reece]

God bless you too!

[@skittlesskittles7577]

Same here. God bless you, too!

[@sweethallewis]

Yep. Now I understand the verse about perishing because of lack of knowledge... I am notorious for cutting people off that hurt me and have always been told I'm cruel for doing that. But praise God, the Word says otherwise. The Word is my protection.

[@Parentingwiththefutureinmind]

I so much love the hook. Good job kris and those scriptures are legit. My in laws once said, ' I thought you are a Christian' , they see being a Christian as a boundaryless person so that they can control and manipulate. Not me.

[@Kris_Reece]

Thank you Mfon. I appreciate your encouragement.

[@user-zp1sr8kn6k]

God has set a day when He will balance the scales. These Bible Scriptures and your clear and concise applications are gems to help us follow His Word and example to godly set boundaries. We urgently need to be informed about boundaries in every part of our lives.We all thank you so very much for this tremendously important video.

[@irinasolomina1800]

We must bring up the name of Christianity. It’s time

[@Corinna_Schuett_GER]

See what false traditional teaching from pulpits can do. The world hears it.

[@caterinaplatt9811]

This recovering co-dependent is cheering you. Our Christian pastors, counselors and elders NEED this information. I was told by more than one well meaning male authority figure from my church that I simply needed to stay put in my marriage and that I needed to learn to forgive. I'll forgive. But he needs to be out of my home, life, and finances before I can do that. He was taking serious advantage of me and didn't love me. Some people need to be loved from a distance. 1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

[@Corinna_Schuett_GER]

The whole context of 1 Timothy 5:8 is caring for one another in the BELIEVERS community (which is "household" in biblical language) and among the church saints, not quite being a lifelong servant for unbelieving and toxic family members.

[@carync131]

Thank God! I'm at the end of my rope. I've become such an angry person, & it's become sinful. I have a toxic person , I have to admit I'm an enabler. I needed to hear this. I've been standing up for myself lately & the person doesn't like it. I'm at confession weekly about my anger. I keep trying.

[@StobbeTime]

Same boat.

[@StobbeTime]

I’ve become angry too and said hurtful words I wish I could take back. I just hold it in for so long that I eventually explode. The person ends up using it against me when all I really want is to get along. I’m just so tired of being disrespected. Why do I feel so awful being upset? I feel like I have no right to stand up for myself because it my child hood upbringing.

[@flourishwithessie]

I have been struggling with this for a long time and I ended up being people-pleasing. Coming across this just confirms that I have been right about creating boundaries.

[@tarabrickle8745]

Amen! Me too

[@cathrinrobitaille7719]

Spot on! Thanks love without respect is not love. And we need to love others like we love ourselves. So first love yourself, you don't need to prove yourself to "earn respect", you were made in God's imagine and that's enough value to receive respect and give respect to other men/women created as well in his image. You are and that is enough for respect. Dignity comes from God. And He made you in his image so bear it. Your worth is what He said it is, He payed for you, now ponder and understand it, that by letting others walk all over you, you don't understand your worth and the love He has for you, neither the price He payed for you. Do not dishonour his sacrifice nor his creation. Boundaries are an intricate part of what love is, love is not without respect.

[@Candlelight777]

Beautifully said. I have had family I will never deal with or go around who are in fact toxic and behave in a way that they act like they are above you and have rights to try to make you bend to what they desire for you in your own life. Abusive and toxic behaviors and put downs. It so unhealthy and toxic. No one should tolerate that. I love your message because truth is truth you are not suppose to tell people to endure Abusive behaviors from people who trying to control and manipulate your life.

[@Kris_Reece]

Thanks so much for watching April

[@bbb.1172]

Thank you for common sense, clarity against spirit of religious, guilt, second questioning and all other "company" that come in this package" over us believers

[@tam1729]

This lady is spot on.

[@deirdreoutlaw1578]

God knows what you need, when you need it. Just last night, i had a very painful and eye opening encounter with a family memeber. After sarificing my security, moving my son to a new area and giving up my private nursing business to solely care for my grandmother, i was threatened to be put out of her house after just giving up my keys to my apartment. Ive worked tirelessly without complaining about lack of income, make 4 trips daily literally going 2 times a day only leaving because i now have to pick my son up from school due to moving to be closer to her. I prayed lastnight for god to be clear about my mission because my family has alway been very mean to me and without a second thought, i uprooted my life to ensure there are no worries for my family during this time because i am able but yet i feel alone, taken advantage of and all because i needed a day to myself to rest yesterday. I prayed why a i required to be put in such a toxic environment to be of service...and then this video came up in my timeline. He hears our prayers and knows our heart and with patience, like Abraham we will be rewarded Hebrews 6: 13-15 ❤

[@candijogriffin220]

Romans 2:6 (KJV) Who will render to every man according to his deeds: Romans 2:7 (KJV) To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life: Romans 2:8 (KJV) But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath, Romans 2:9 (KJV) Tribulation and anguish, upon every soul of man that doeth evil, of the Jew first, and also of the Gentile;. I'd say .... In this case, God sees you and appreciates your dedication BUT he also sees THEM! In that case.....YOU SHOULD PRAY FOR THEIR Soul, as they will certainly not escape his wrath.

[@daviocampi6951]

Absolutely we need boundaries otherwise we allow abusers intentionally or unintentionally to create havoc in our inner most being. Boundaries are helpful so we can be confident and not anxious about those who we need to safe guard against. This is all about being wise and not simple minded. Thank you for using holy scripture to identify the need for personal boundaries. God our Father wants His children to walk in freedom and not be victims of abuse.

[@sed58]

Amen

[@stefangebhard7074]

You are a wise godly woman. Your advice about the difference between carrying loads over burdens has enabled me to understand more about toxic people, most notably covert narcissists. Covert narcissists are different from your loved ones. Sometimes in marital relationships, one is bound to carry the other person’s cross-but so will the covert narcissist-when in fact their burdens in life is simply a load they expect you to carry. The cross they refuse to carry for themselves, they will throw theirs on top of the one you’re carrying also. And even in their arrogance and a sense of self-righteous entitlement, they’ll even sit upon the cross on your back like a chariot so they don’t have to walk, too. Moral of the story-don’t put up with it. Set firm boundaries so they don’t rob you of your God given dignity as narcissistic supply for themselves.

[@tarabrickle8745]

Me too; I really appreciate that she clarified a burden

[@alil6547]

You’re not any better than a narcissist as you were born a sinner as well. If you’re not covered by the blood of Christ, you will never see heaven. Jesus was the only man deserving of any good. I can instantly tell this channel isn’t Christian as females are not to teach the Bible to men, exhorting authority over them, as the Bible says.

[@aienamukanova6930]

I have been helped to get out of toxic relationships by ministers doing job for people and God similar to yours. And I am so grateful to the Lord that His light shines in darkness no matter what. One thousand likes !

[@timothyjames737]

I just struggle with knowing that I’ve played both sides of the fence and never want to make anyone feel like I have at times. Thank you for your wisdom

[@gojohnnygo3209]

You are right, most Christian are deceived into thinking it is okay to be persecuted. In turn they forfeited their place as children of light, which they should be exposing evil doing instead. This is happening even when they have the numbers, speaking of cowards.

[@anenaann3784]

Bravo! Very well said sister. There are so many scripture passages relative to this discussion. I recently found this one, i think the Lord brought it to my attention "Expel the arrogant and discord goes too; strife and insult cease." Proverbs 22:10

[@ladykathyrnroyster8393]

Yessssss !!!!🎉

[@Corinna_Schuett_GER]

Had to expel my own mother many years ago from my home and it will only REALLY cease when she's dead.

[@jennymason1785]

The Lord gave Isaiah 51 v23 you have made your back like the ground and like a street for those to walk on. At first i didn't get it but the word is accomplishing that what the Lord sent it for. So when i feel manipulated i remember this word

[@mercyz6252]

Truth!Where have you been in my life? 😢

[@sherileenlambert2784]

Part of setting boundaries when it comes to family members, can feel very unnatural. However, it is very much needed. I'd say, start by taking baby steps. For example, the word "no". If God has made us in his own image, we should value how he sees us. Very difficult at times, understandably. However, we cannot give what we don't have. We're are just helping to perpetualte the cycles of negative behaviours.

[@marjoriemurray4381]

Could have benefited from this message before marriage. I think this message should be a must for high school students before graduating and taught in Sunday school

[@ladyshenna967]

I love this podcast content sooooooooo much. This is Jesus answering my questions. He is giving me solid clarification of what was happening. Kris, I thank Jesus so much for your biblical content. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@druchampion-payne1489]

So true ... some people consider setting a boundary to be "hate" .... last March my husband called his mother and told her not to call me anymore, to only call him. For years my MIL would call me up and everything would start out ok, but then her criticism and ridicule would start. This happened with each phone call. Got to where I dreaded seeing her number on my cell phone. So I told my husband I just can't take anymore of her calls because she was unwilling to change, did not see anything wrong with criticizing me. And now she's telling my husband that I "hate" her, when nothing could be further from the truth. He tried to explain that I don't hate anyone, but that Dru is tired of being criticized and all she could say was that I'm "too sensitive" and then laughed. Yeah she thinks I "hate" her because I've put a healthy boundary up so she can't verbally & emotionally abuse me anymore.

[@WifeyMamaGrandma]

Good for you honey. Let her say what she will. It’s not the truth. She is the hateful one not you.

[@Grassmpl]

Sound to me like you can actually "hate" your MIL and have done nothing wrong. She deserves to be hated.

[@giovanniamadorrosales9270]

I totally 100 and fifty Thousand % agree with setting boundaries! And it's very true that jesus did it all the time. Sometimes he would even wake up very early in the morning and leave his disciples while they were still sleeping to go to some solitary Place To Pray by himself.

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

Jesus had many boundaries he instilled with those around him ❤

[@mrsurprise2663]

I am gonna follow God. Amen .

[@jjoiv78]

Amen! Correctly applied scripture is the wisest advice. Thank you! The Christian body desperately needs this.

[@kaseycorliss7282]

Do you have hidden cameras in my house?!?! Lol but on a serious note, God has been using your channel to help me work through some serious problems. I pray this channel would receive many blessings 💕

[@Kris_Reece]

LOL. thank you Kasey. :)

[@zippyz4170]

I used to have a good handle on my anger but poor boundaries and people took advantage. Unfortunately I met too many wolves and somewhere the dam broke.

[@Kris_Reece]

I pray you get back to the biblical place of guarding your heart.

[@zippyz4170]

@@Kris_Reece One step at a time and a lot of prayers.

[@Kristel280]

By setting limits with others we also help them to do the same. I have been helped by seeing someone set limits and did the same. I can set an example for others and so can you. ❤

[@annettepeltola8615]

Codependency is identified as LOVE- so true. Thank you for this.

[@estelleschneider9033]

God has BOUNDARIES..10 OF THEM He overturned the money changers tables ..for selling in the temple 🛕 We want to be God Pleasers..we came from families which were also taught to be people pleases..to keep false Peace.. Struggled for years with my behaviors, quite tired of it Jesus help Me 🙏

[@vinceabbott1271]

Don’t let setting boundaries get the best of you or go to your Head!!!! I’m glad she has it all figured out. Read the Bible and figure it out for your self!!!!!!!

[@jackiechastain3251]

I have established boundaries with my family. Took years to do but it is done…

[@CorineLaFont]

Jesus Kris, you went there! You're digging deep and touching on sensitive and 'swept under the rug' issues and it's so refreshing! Thank you. I have to re-watch this and I also shared. I am thankful.

[@katiebaker6029]

Please don’t use the Lords name in vein

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

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[@Lauren-vd4qe]

DONT use Gods HOLY NAME as an expletive! dont you KNOW this is a CHRISTIAN (GOD HONORING) channel???

[@ednahchirchir1924]

This is God sent🎉. I was a people pleaser until i learnt to be firm

[@dannywilliams4689]

Thank you very much watching your videos has helped me tremendously with toxic people that have been in my life and has caused me much pain. Thank you so much for your biblical teaching.

[@sweethallewis]

This is my first time on your channel and God has used this video to help me. For all of my life I have enabled and dealt with people because I thought it was the 'Christian thing to do'. And in those times when I did stand my ground or decide to leave someone, I was condemned by myself and society. Now I see especially from the scripture in Titus, that I actually wasn't wrong! Praise God for the truth, for it has truly set me free. Thank you for sharing this powerful video 💕.

[@lisaschneider190]

And wow and thank you - boundaries in a church community are amongst the least popular as if you complain about the treatments upon you especially in your role in leadership then you are incorrect and are purposed to reconcile with the offender - the wolf in sheeps clothing. Sin is sin and not to be tolerated upon us as then the sin grows unless it is controlled in boundaries 💖

[@IrmaQP-zk1ni]

Thank you JESUS, Kris, 4 this revelation. GOD bless you!

[@melissadykstra5921]

Thank you so much for your videos!!! I found myself getting sucked in again last night into the crazies. I’m watching some more of your videos today to remind me that I can’t talk to my narcissistic husband in a logical or loving way, and expect logic or loved in return And that I need to guard my heart and understand what they are, and are not capable of because I’m just gonna get hurt if I try to reach out 😢 The best thing I can do is keep myself safe and be accountable for myself setting boundaries I think I need to put some more boundaries on myself to stop myself from getting into an argument because I’m so desperate to reach out. I need to stop being desperate for love that’s not there.

[@sandycares2995]

Everyone - I encourage you to learn everything you can about " Boundaries". They are life changing. I hadn't even heard of them till a few years ago and I'm old now. Thank you - I have learned even more today and am encouraged. Yes - Jesus slipped away many times in his walk on earth .💡

[@kimspencer7677]

Setting boundaries is a very hard lesson to learn but a very needed one especially among Christians! Thank you for sharing

[@karencox8699]

Thank you! People who dismiss or ignore boundaries have their own boundaries! I live in senior housing and am blessed to still drive! I will take someone to the store if I feel well enough to do so and I can say No as well! A neighbor criticized others who said No and classed them as mean for honesty! Nope- boundaries are necessary and healthy but some people love to ride over them in a variety of ways! It’s not anyones fault we didn’t understand Biblical principles to apply to our own lives 😢

[@karencox8699]

I so wish I would’ve understood more in my early years but hey it truly is better late in life than never! Thank you Jesus!

[@sarahedwards8146]

I prayed and God delivered like He always does thank you LORD you truly are my savior I’m forever thankful for you and your love cause God is love in Jesus Christ name Amen 🙏

[@Maria_02779]

Amen!!👑🕊️💖

[@judimunro9279]

Every single one of these I came across the day I finally said no more to our toxic person. It became very clear to me all that was amiss in this person who was leaching from us. And now it’s 3 days later and what a wonderful exclamation point on that wisdom gift from God that he gave me Saturday morning! 😮‍💨 phew! What-a-relief!!! And I DID grapple with every scripture you mentioned. Because it’s not the norm to be a good person do good things and suddenly be dealing with a wolf!😮

[@brianbodine8938]

Kris, the only other female bible teacher who I know of that compares to you is June Hunt - Hope for the Heart. I hope that God continues to increase your ministry. You have a clear understanding of the Heart of God because you understand the scriptures.

[@charlesquarles624]

Amen,thank you for this teaching, this is something I've been struggling with,I don't want God to be angry with me, but at times I've allowed people to take advantage of me, hearing this really helped me, thanks again.

[@adorkychristiandad]

One thing I had to learn that a lot of people told me wrong was that anger in itself is not a sin it's how that anger is applied to determines whether it is sinful or not. So many people told me wrong there have been so many people who have told me that it's a sin to get angry and they were so wrong. It did me no favors, because now with in recent years I've been learning how to have a sense of what righteous anger is and having a sense of righteous anger is essential to biblical manhood

[@christopherd6399]

Never thought of the difference between burden and load. This two passages together gave me fits in the past. Thanks! All great counsel, too.

[@SillyESTme]

I was struck by this one as well... I was so thankful for the clarity she provided!

[@camcamlady8068]

I’ve been looking for this. Bless you! I knew the Holy Spirit was leading me away from family members who were mean and abusive but didn’t know how to reconcile it with scripture and have been praying about deepening my understanding of scriptures I know in my heart have been taught to me incorrectly. I’ll be studying these more. Thank you so much.

[@ivanmenezes3266]

"I'm not a carpet christian" & "I don't want people to call me a nice guy", this i've been saying for the last 17 years as a born again christian.

[@glennolsen5848]

Churches need more of this!

[@irinasolomina1800]

Speaking about Thesolonians. Jesus said that the worker deserves his food and clothing, is that not so? Who is higher, Jesus or the apostle appointed by Jesus?

[@generallee5609]

Love the sinner, hate the sin. You’re amazing in your teachings. Thank you. God is obviously guiding you and you’re sharing with us.

[@hoganrichard9627]

These teachings are truly sent from Jesus. This is the very thing with which I've been wrestling ever since a certain individual came into my life. I've prayed and Jesus has assured me he will assist me to make the hard choices I need to be healthy and serve Him. Praise, glory and honor be to our King Jesus. Blessings to this wise and beautiful Christian woman for sharing this vital instruction.

[@Joshneedsnature]

As she said, a lot of the people who use but don't teach boundaries are the kind that in that point in life for them it's rules about you and not for them. I read into it a little, but I think it fits. You have to draw a line. There's a part in people that want to give and give and give and give, and that's good. It can't be unaware though. Choosing to give is a whole lot different than a lot of other ways.

[@priscillaa.7705]

So good! And so timely! It’s always so amazing to see The Lord bring forth a word or an answer to our worries and hurts. Toxic family victim here🤚🏻 But God has been so consistent in working that brokenness out of me. And I know that I am so much more healed and restored than I was 4 years ago 🙏🏻 He takes us from glory to glory and works every difficulty , trial and tribulation moment for our good! He is Faithful He is sovereign And He is eternal …. No one loves us the way Jesus does ! Praise be to my God ! My king and savior !💜🙏🏻💜🙏🏻

[@Maria_02779]

Amen!! Praise You LORD Jesus!! Thank You for loving us so much, healing our wounded hearts, and restoring our souls. Oh how we love and worship You!!👑🕊️💖

[@joshuatrott193]

It someone hits your right cheek give them the other, does not mean allow others to violate you. Most people are right handed, especially back then. To hit your right cheek it would be from a backhand. Backhand was done to reprimand and means you screwed up. So take your consequences. Nowhere else does He say allow others to violate you. He says do not repay evil with evil.

[@terrynash1211]

I been doing for people 63 years!!! I say all the time - lord if i wasnt born -- in why me -- this world is full of selfish -- greed -- me me me - people!!! Man! If god can come get me ill be happy. I realize life isnt that long next to the after life. I do help people - they greatful - smile when down - in so on. Heck if i could give my life over all sickly childern - ill do it ❤❤❤

[@Shdwkd666]

Sometimes when you set boundaries religious leader will say your not slowing down to love people or your cutting them off. So I break their boundaries.

[@magdalenemary4269]

Amen Sister😉 Even The Lord stated that very particular behavior in Isaiah, that's why we need to ask The Lord for guidance & discernment of when it's time to walk away🙏 Even Jesus walked away from His own hometown when they sadly didn't believe Him📖⏬ Isaiah 51:23 [23]But I will put it into the hand of those who afflict you, Who have said to you, ⏩‘Lie down, that we may walk over you.’ And you have laid your body like the ground, And as the street, for those who walk over.”⏪ Jesus Christ Love's us all, Hallelujah, Amen❣️🙌

[@mikevecchio6284]

Proverb 27:5, better is open rebuke then hidden love was pretty mind-bending for me. I struggle with relationships because people don't want to hear the truth when I speak. Thanks for the video. It helped me understand this to the point that I know I got to keep on my track. Everyday I'm growing closer and closer to God. You just brought me one step closer.

[@sandysanders5437]

Thank you for the critical advice! My brother accused me of not caring enough about him because I didn't say what he expected and wanted me to say during a phone call. I can't read minds. He thoroughly enjoys telling me I'm not a good Christian.

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm sorry Sandy. I hear stories like that way too often

[@springflowerblosomnorris9721]

You should congratulate your brother for being a better christian and ask him what he does for you that you should be doing for him. I'm sure as a better christian he is DOING the right things for you. After all that's the whole truth: when his statement is matching with the EVIDENCE, he should have no problem as better christian to point you to the fruit of his labour for you: his promise and the fulfillment of his promise.

[@MercadoMomMoments]

I was married for over 20 years. I noticed many times within my marriage that I continued to feel used because I was raised to turn the other cheek along with other scriptures. My family is very Christian and believe all you need to do is pray and let God. I finally decided to lay my Bible down because the more I read my Bible and prayed things just continued to be toxic. I separated from my husband one day and told him not to come back to find a place to live. I didn't care anymore about his smear campaign to get me under control I stood the course. It's been over 6 1/2 years and I have gone no contact because there has been no positive communication, whenever I tried to be practical and set boundaries as far as visitation with the children it was meet with resistance so I decided if he wants to visitation with them he can get a court order.

[@greenblood5640]

Kris, thank you so much for this teaching. It's so much needed. In fact I really don't see any teaching on this in general. I have an excellent book called boundaries in marriage. One of the authors is dr Henry Townsend, an excellent book. That book saved my marriage. My wife wasn't toxic as such, but the way she was brought up cultivated a habit in her character that almost ruined our marriage. Somebody brought this to my attention. I couldn't put my finger on the problem, but I knew something was wrong. Once that person helped me to see what is going on I had to decide what to do. By that time we were married for ten years, our kids were still small 8, 5 and 2. Some people even encouraged me to get a divorce. I told myself, it's easy for them to speak. Look at my three boys, it broke my heart. I decided to stand firm and set boundaries. It took time, well over two years. It was met with resistance and unbelief. But eventually the situation was turned around. My marriage was saved and we have a wonderful healthy relationship today. Our boys are now 22, 19 and 16, I thank God for his grace. Thank you Kris for your ministry, much love and blessings from South Africa.

[@rg-mi5hh]

They do everything they can to make you not cross their boundaries, but they do as they please over yours. Paranoid if someone in their boundaries, but they are entitled.

[@pH4able]

I saw this video on my KZbin feed last night and though I haven’t seen anything from you never seen you before I opened your video. Although it was very late at night and my family was asleep I was shouting because absolutely everything you said I agree. I have felt this way…all ten points for years and yes, I have other Christians who make me feel as though I am in the wrong for not allowing people to treat me as a door mat. I am currently going through some of these things and have been asking questions of the LORD so I believe your video is His response to me. I love it. Thank you so very much. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@seabookiel6934]

I literally kept crying and wondering if I did something against my faith why on earth are my parents doing what they were doing?? To make it worse they mentioned the bible making it even more confusing for me… I am grateful for this day that I just found a meaningful message from our bible it wasn’t me and I won’t be sinning if I just simply placed boundaries, honestly even a prospective marriage was paused or continuing my education in my home country was paused. Really these videos help alot ❤❤❤

[@francesw.5919]

Praise the Lord! Thank you!

[@tonyyelverton8951]

Wow! What an awesome video! Thank you so much! Boundaries are so needed. With families, church, work, everywhere. People try to make you feel bad because you say no. Thank you again!

[@sv8156]

"Judge not according to appearance, but judge righteous judgement" ( John 7:24). "Do you not know that the saints shall judge the world? If the world shall be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters? ( 1Corrinthians 6:2) With all due respect, according to God's word we are called to judge righteously!