La'Porsha Renae Sets the Record Straight on Her Choice to Be Heterosexual

[@allsmilez13]

Anyone mad at her for talking about HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCE is bitter and sad. She is talking about her own life. If people are sensitive to someone talking about their own life then we have gotten to a sad place. People are such sheep and if someone has their own thoughts they are attacked. La'Porsha said nothing wrong. She has a beautiful soul.

[@jonnydavis6066]

Rachel Rae and yall wonder why i say "all women are lesbians." let a guy tell his girlfriend/wife that he was a homosexual for 2yrs and is now heterosexual and watch the girlfriend/wife leave him. u see, when it comes to sexuality women can sleep with the same sex yet jump into a heterosexual relationship and no one cares. but if a guy does it he'd still be labeled gay. *why the double standards???

[@Dakota_n_losang]

Rachel Rae what are you talking about goon. She OFFENDED people. She should have shut her fucking mouth and put that energy into losing weight. She looks like Grimace.

[@AkonFenty1992]

She said something illogical tho, saying she chose to be straight is saying she's going back in the closet to impersonate the straight life, so others can be happy and others meaning homophobe, she's only trying to make them happy, so that she wont get condemned anymore for who she is.

[@allsmilez13]

Jonny Davis I don't get the double standards either.I saw some chick on here say "just because you sleep with someone of your gender doesn't make you gay" and the 1st thing that came to my mind was "If I met a man who slept with other men idc what he claims, to me he is gay." It would be interesting to have an open discussion about this double standard if we could talk instead of type!

[@mshill2406]

Rachel Rae Maybe it is possible for some people to choose it and some not too. What Im hearing her say is the reason she chose women to begin with was not coming from a real place. It was just based on hurts and once she started to heal she realized that this was not her authentic self. Sometimes I do feel that others try to force their beliefs on others on BOTH sides. They have a knee jerk reaction without actually listening to what is being said and dissecting and trying to understand the intent. Some people subscribe to the belief that its a choice and some dont. Each person should decide for themselves whether they are being true to themselves and not let society dictate to them who they are. This applies to gay and straight. Only you know who you are. Nobody else can define you.

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

I'll try to make this simple, since people want to make it complicated and refuse to understand. LePorsha Rene made a choice to be with the same sex out the PTSD from her traumatic sexual abuse experiences. She felt it would be safer for her to be comforted by a woman since men harmed her. It has nothing to do with attraction, sex, or sexual orientation. It all stems from the damage from the abuse. Biologically, she'll always be heterosexual. Again, we're talking about an abuse victim, not someone who had those feelings of difference since childhood/teenhood.

[@amaurice1984]

I totally agree. Everything is so sensitive nowadays. I looked at it first before I jumped to conclusions or try to make something out of it that it wasn't.

[@PLazz257]

It's offensive to the homosexuals because they don't get the option to "choose" their sexual orientation. They're born gay. Her tossing around the term homosexual like it's "just a phrase" is rude. She is either bisexual or straight.

[@deborahlee7858]

your tooo funny, and you do get to choos

[@hillbaby02]

Deborah Lee Did you choose? Sometimes you can't even help who you love. You can chose to be with them or not. The act of sex with a person of the same sex is a chose but the attraction the wanting isn't. Actors simulated same sex scenes in movies all the time, but that doesn't make them gay. Being gay isn't a chose. Just like being straight isn't a chose.

[@adrianewilliams8711]

Tiffany Rayne exactly

[@snatched.8135]

So basically she chose to stop being scared of men. That doesn't mean she was ever gay though that just means that she was traumatized. Big difference.

[@Shymel100]

RandomGus It was both. She could've been traumatized AND for those 2 years, she took a liking for women, which by label, is homosexual. She clearly said she did some soul searching and for the ones that dont know what that is, you'll never know unless you do it yourself. It takes alot of self meditating, therapeutic conversations with self, self love and time. Could've took her years, but I dont think it was this lightbulb switch that made her say "she'll try men out" Soul searching and changing a belief is a journey and I 100% respect her for it. Especially after going through something that deep that she locked away.

[@AkonFenty1992]

Taking a liking to a certain gender doesn't have anything to do with sexuality, she could like women as friends, but doesn't mean she's a lesbian, being a lesbian means to have an emotional, spiritual, sexual and attraction towards a woman, if she didn't have that then she was never a lesbian, so RandomGus is actually correct, she was traumatized.

[@Shymel100]

Akon Fenty There is no taking a liking "as friends" in her case. Shes a grown woman and she knew what she was getting herself into. She did not date, have sex, etc with women for 2 years because she wanted to be friends with them lol. What type of sense does that make? Alot of women go through what she went through, and like I said, it was both. I'm not denying her trauma, but I'm also not denying her experience and what she identified with.

[@danielle5391]

👌

[@OfficialAnthony]

THANK YOU!!!!

[@afroqueendancer]

I think for those who do not agree with what she said, it's important to keep in mind that she is speaking only from her life experiences. She believes it is a choice, because she made the decision to be with a woman. She was sexually abused by men so being with a woman was a choice. FOR HER. The same doesn't have to be true for you.

[@ToyaRR]

Exactly

[@JohnThreeSixteen7373]

Exactly! It's HER story. She has the right to speak about her experience, whether others agree or not. People are so quick to jump on somebody for expressing their opinion or belief, yet they want people to practice tolerance. It's a two-way street. It's very hypocritical.

[@cooolness3]

It doesn't matter if it is her story or not. What matters is that she is spreading intolerance and hate. Read the other things she has said in the past. Someone who spreads that kind of intolerance after having lived a LIE is a hypocrite.

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

+Cole Coleman She already said she's only speaking for herself and her experience. Which she has every right to do. I don't know where you got that she's spreading hate, intolerance and being hypocritical from, because she's an abuse victim and it all boils down to the trauma she went thru. She's not a bigot, she's not homophobic, she didn't say she hates gay people, and she didn't say it's a choice as a generalized statement. She made the decisions she made then, as a result of the damage she sustained from the abuse. It has nothing to do with anything you said. She didn't word it the way you wanted to hear it, OK and? Unless you endured what this woman did, you can't tell this woman what to say about her own life experiences. And that's the problem with folks. They only listen to respond and opinionate, instead of listening to understand.

[@TiffanyRayneOfficial]

+Deborah Savage Exactly, and yet they want you to respect their opinions and beliefs but they don't have to respect yours. It doesn't work that way.

[@alattadikimahbut5270]

This is a perfect example of what my momma taught me growing up: "not everybody needs to know all of your business"

[@akiemknight6081]

Agreed!

[@aaronpena6585]

As a member of the LGBTQ community I see no wrong with what she said. Why i say that is because she is not generalizing the whole community, she is explaining HER experience that shifted her view on a certain gender. Yes, believe it or not, people do change their sexuality. In the lgbtq community its so ironic that we fight for equality and justice but yet we attack just as quickly as the straight man. Its so hard to say what you've been through or if you have come out of the community because you're seen a "rogue" gay. people also find a God of their own too. but its NO ONES job to tell them that their feeling arent valid. There is a double standard that has been blurred. some people are born that way and others choose to do so. and again you cannot say that the other opinion is invalid because you have no idea what they have been through or think ps that isnt a wig for all yall trying to drag this woman

[@L.Bebber8593]

Aaron, finally you got it!!! Well said!

She was talking about her people. Stop making it a big deal.

[@JohnThreeSixteen7373]

Your right. She clearly stated that she's speaking about her personal experience. She wasn't speaking for everybody else. It's her story.

[@lexi219]

The issue is language is powerful. It's how humans communicate information. Saying that you chose to be heterosexual/homosexual/etc. is inaccurate information - you don't chose your sexuality (who you are attracted to), you chose who you have sex with. People are annoyed at her comments because they are ignorant of what these words actually mean, even if she's just talking about herself.

[@lkez2]

Girl if I choose to be straight, I would choose it in a heartbeat. No one chooses to be gay only to be hated on, judged, insulted and bullied.

[@lexi219]

Celma António But she never said she was *attracted to* only women and not men in that time period - she said she chose to *sleep with* women and not men because of her trauma. I'm just trying to point out that difference. That everything she has said does not equate her changing her sexuality but rather who she decides to sleep with.

[@missbrooks1571]

lexi219 well what I think she is trying to say is she wanted to give the heterosexual lifestyle another chance! and that was a "choice" because she could have continued to live her homosexual lifestyle that doesn't mean she still doesn't have those feelings she just chosing not to live her life that way, which is her perogative

[@ericgreen179]

I think ppl is gonna comment on this video without watching it, and make up some off the wall conclusion

[@JW_Hue]

at the end of the day....you make the choice to be with who you decide to be with. You make a choice to sleep with whomever you sleep with. Whatever the reason behind that choice is...it is still your choice. Just like you make the choice to eat food you know is not good for you but you love. Discipline and temptation fight against each other.

[@ohheyitssoumy5959]

people are so quick to judge but don't spend the effort to put themselves in other people's shoes! I went through the same thing that she went through... i was molested at 12 for few years.. and i had girls around me who went through the same thing and rape too... and as a teenager i really thought i was gay... i was attracted to men and liked men only but i felt only comfortable around women and sexually speaking i'd never let a man touch me or even picture it... physically i would only see myself with a woman as a teenager...then i grew older and you know time heals,,, a little bit at least... and i realized that it doesn't mean i'm gay but it means that i am more comfortable around women BECAUSE of what happened to me... that's why i never pictured myself in a relationship with a woman or liking or loving a woman, i liked men but i would NEVER imagine touching them and the idea of them touching me made me sick to my stomach!! there's something called PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and it happens to sexual abuse victims.. it's basically you reliving the incident that happened to you constantly and non stop... when you're around trigger factors... for this woman and myself, men were the trigger factor... so we isolate ourselves from men and only surround ourselves with women at least sexually (in our heads or by action) to avoid the PTSD kicking in... so don't attack her for saying she "chose to be gay"...i think her words are put wrong but i get what she means... she THOUGHT she was gay and/or she CHOSE to be gay as in she forced herself to be around only women because it's EASIER and SAFER than being around men especially since when you;re younger you;re more fragile... so cut her some slack please, you don't know what it's like to be in her shoes...or mine.

[@ale5677]

OhheyitsSoumy First I'm sorry for what happened to you... I'm glad that you didn't allow your negative experience to stop you from living life to the fullest one step at a time. However, I agree w/ the fact that she shouldn't never said that..."I chose to be heterosexual or gay"... Because it sends the message that an individual's​sexual orientation is a "choice" when it's definitely not the case. She could've just said that her past experiences somehow force her to suppress her true desires for men & that she made the choice to be w/ women as a defensive mechanism to fight her post traumatic condition. She was never gay to begin with from what I can see...so it was wrong for her to say that.

[@SparklingJuice247]

Why are people telling her what she was vs what she was not? only she would know. the burden of the gay community doesn't need to be placed on her. everybody has a story.

[@thatgirlmaiyak8923]

Let that woman live! She don't pay anyone's bills but her own.

[@sammy9679]

As a gay guy I can 100% say that I did not choose to be gay. I just am. I can also respect that, out of 7.5 billion people on the planet, some people do have that choice to make. They must do. Just because I don't understand it, who am I to say she's wrong? Maybe she's bisexual and decided to ignore her feelings, maybe she was never gay in first place. Who are we to judge and pick her apart? That wig however, that *is* a choice.

[@TvOfMike]

Sammy Same

[@Jordan-xg4pn]

Cheetah Girl, I am a guy and it sounds very similar to my experience. I am 16 and go through the early stage of yours, however my sexuality towards females turn off and on. It's so complicated and weird! I don't want to live and be with a guy, thought of it and didn't appeal me at all. I want to spend my life with a women but my (sexual) attraction towards them is not that strong.

[@javiruiz780]

Preach

[@Jordan-xg4pn]

I do know there are hot women and I know features that I find attractive but you see, since I am a man I have to get a.. uprising in my pants. it's much easier with the same sex for some reason. You wouldn't know how that works though because you're a female. Also, I found penises disgusting before aswell.. I refused to look at them. I want to be intimate with girls but don't get aroused unlike with the opposite sex. It was like two days I was only attracted to girls and thought I had turned straight, I felt so bad and wanted atleast to be bi. Anyways I definitely know what I like about the different sexes, it's just t Sorry for getting into details, I don't know how else I was supposed to describe it.

[@RogeniaNgwayah]

not a wig

[@ladylibra858]

The same ppl that are judging her are the same ppl that say others aren't allowed and should not judge them. Freedom of speech isn't one sided. Bye.

[@promisebee3865]

I think we all needed and appreciated that clarification

[@jzmusizz-4057]

I think she spoke truth for herself. Everyone has a story.

[@aalphalove]

Let me just say this! We human beings are complex individuals! Why is it that we become so shaken or moved by someone's opinions, personal convictions and statements. If you are secure in your sexuality and know who you are, no one statements or opinions should "shake your world" The fact that people are up in arms about her statements says a lot about their own conscience and yet not being secure in their "truth" and attacking her or me will only confirm my statements. Be bless

[@michougiraud8996]

This nation is so confused God help us all

[@deem132]

Interesting. Sounds like she's been through a lot, glad she found a positive way to channel it.

[@Lovethyneighbor35]

I know a lot of women and men who had the same experiences as her and said the same things as her. I applaud her for her honesty and saw her herself and the truth she needed to set her free.

[@jonnydavis6066]

and yall wonder why i say "all women are lesbians." let a guy tell his girlfriend/wife that he was a homosexual for 2yrs and is now heterosexual and watch the girlfriend/wife leave him. u see, when it comes to sexuality women can sleep with the same sex yet jump into a heterosexual relationship and no one cares. but if a guy does it he'd still be labeled gay. *why the double standards???

[@docman2840]

Right

[@shanec9840]

"...I'm one of the people who don't agree with that lifestyle." is a direct quote from her about LGBT people. It's her business what she believes, but it's also her "business" when it comes to album sales and other commercial success. She saw the affect. "Good Christians" aren't the ones buying that type of music or will pay to see her at a club or night spot. That's just reality. She alienated what could have been her base. It's hard to get people back. I rooted for her and supported her, and I'm also gay. Straight men wouldn't be her demographics for support and sales, guys like me would have. Gay men would find her fabulous while straight men wouldn't even consider her to be a top beauty. I'm sorry, but gay people can't continue to support people who don't support us back. I'm also Black, and I see other races come in our communities for business (owning gas stations, motels, restaurants, etc.) but the money never gets invested back into neighborhood. I hope La'Porsha the best. I'm not hater...but I'm also no fool.

[@Aisha_Davis]

She’s speaking for herself, idiots. She’s not speaking for everyone. She was traumatized. God bless her.

[@deitrichewashington3043]

It's her life she's living not ours. This is a generation of young people ,who share everything about their life with the world they have no filter. 🤫🤫 Everyone should row their own boat gently down the stream.If some people paid more attention to their own life experiences they would realize we all feel the same emotions scars behind trauma.

[@bluepug74]

Gurl that wig tho 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@takiyahphillips-lawson126]

Not to be rude and I know I’m late but that’s not a wig it’s actually her real hair it’s amazing ❤️🤗

[@sydneyd8596]

She is speaking on HER experiences. Stop being so sensitive people.

[@BroughChatroom]

So this is why we haven't heard from her.

[@theronedawson3236]

Respect to you and your truth. It so easy for others to criticized and when you have not travel in other people shoes. I have much RESPECT to you. Your voice is Amazing!!!!!!!

[@jalisa3747]

My personal opinion: I don't think think someone can be born homosexual. However, I do think that we can't help how we truly feel. Like, we can try to control our emotions e.g. holding back tears in an embarrassing situation, but no matter what you do the tears come out anyway. Personally, I think it's a choice for whoever you want to date or have as a romantic partner. Those are like your actions, and your choosing to be with that person, no one is forcing you to. And then there's feelings/emotions... you can't help who you are attracted to. You can "choose" how to display those feelings/emotions publicly, but I don't think you can control how you truly feel.. most of it comes from your brain activity/amygdala. To me, saying someone was "born" homosexual is just silly when your brains are underdeveloped at birth.... like the people who say someone is born homosexual, are you guys saying that the moment a newborn comes out of the womb, they homosexual? Anyways, I'm not saying that babies can't feel emotions or feelings, but what I'm saying is that at a very very young age, I don't think they really know how to interpret those feelings/emotions yet; like they don't quite understand what a particular feeling or emotion means. Sexual attraction is not a "choice" and it's not something you are automatically born with, rather it is something that you develop as you age. *Sexual attraction is not a choice, but how you show it, is a choice* *Sexual attraction cannot exist at birth, but rather it develops as a child ages and as the child's brain grows*

[@a.d.w8385]

I understand you. I've always said people aren't born with a sexuality. We are born a certain race, we are born with certain features but sexuality is a development. While I do believe some people can't choose what they fall attracted to, I hate that the mainstream mindset avoids the fact that it CAN be a choice. I heard a woman tell me she has been hurt too much by men and would like to give women a try after never having been attracted to them.

[@phdphillips9442]

Exactly!

[@ms.moniquebrown6754]

I'm so glad she spoke on it. Being bold should not be a sin.

[@lesedimelody3056]

She is amazingly talented and has a great huge heart. One of the greatest vocalists ever. I know shell continue doing great things. 💌

[@Vision-nr8zy]

let people live we get one life as long as no one is attacking you physically or mentally wtf does it matter.

[@brandonmeche5095]

Why is everyone so sensitive about stuff lately? fr 😔😔😔

[@Nnatheodore]

she has the right to speak for herself. Whether you chose to agree or not is up to you, it's not right to deny a person their truth only to impose your own. For some it is a choice and for some it's not. However, it's your life live it however you want or feel to live it..... #thatisall

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

I have seen this many times with sexual assault victims. One of my closest friends in college was sexually assaulted at 16 and started dating girls. A few years ago she married a man which took me by surprise since we had lost touch. She no longer feared being with a man.

[@Jerrard1983]

The challenge is while this often does happen its concerning. Concerning for those of us that are gay and were NOT assaulted, abused, "cohersed". There are those of us that or gay without there being some mitigating circumstance that made us gay. Her story can have people thinking a person can "will" or recondition themself to be straight. Its so unfortunate she found herself in the position she tried so hard not to be a part of.

[@bestill5919]

Not everyones reason for same sex attraction is the same. The LGBT aren't the only ones who have same sex attraction, just the only ones who believe its morally right. And not everyone plans to settle with their desires. But that scares poeple who are insecure about the "I was born this way statement".

[@sharoncooper5381]

Everyone has a testimony. She chose to share hers. She has been sharing it since she was on American Idol. I'm sure her truth will help others.

[@catinawhite1253]

I understand exactly what she's saying. I thank her. She is being honest.

[@aziafain980]

Ya'll got me all the way fucked up! lol... Everyone has a different story. she literally says that she doesn't believe everyone gets to choose...( are we all watching the same thing here?) Some people are born that way some people can choose because they aren't just attracted to one gender and sometimes people just fall for others they connect with no matter who the person. Sexuality is fluid. Let people love FREELY. who cares if she chose to or not. her story may touch other people out there like her. People change. People grow. we are all different. that's what makes us beautiful! Someone saying something as absolute as "sexuality is a choice no one is born that way" is just as bad as the reverse.. its close minded and ignorant. Like..You really cant wrap your mind around the idea that there are many possibilities? stay open minded... and don't be so quick to judge #PeaceAndLove

[@kathope4484]

Look... I have nothing against her, I applaud her for speaking out. But her tweet seemed like she was saying everyone gets to choose. They didn't show the tweet where she said 'you're wrong if you don't think it's a choice because it was for me'. that tweet they showed was the one she posted way after that one. But keep going on my sister in Christ. Let's live for him!

[@nehru2009]

I've known people who chose the homosexual lifestyle, were influenced into it due to traumatic events and those who say they were born that way. There is a spectrum. I also know people, including myself, who made a DECISION not to live a homosexual lifestyle as a result of their personal relationship with Jesus Christ and belief in the Holy Scripture and now live either a life of celibacy or life as a heterosexual. It is what is.

[@8SeventeenForever]

People that are coming at her for her life choices are some of the same people who say "mind your business and let me live my life". Y'all gotta practice what you preach. She's simply saying what she went through. She is not saying that you have to say, do, or feel the same thing or way.

[@ValerieAbena]

There should be a lesbian or bisexual on the panel

[@Isaacthedondada]

Yeah, I don't want the panel to change now, but when I was under the impression they were searching for a cohost, I was hoping for an ethnic LGBT person 😂

[@ValerieAbena]

H Douglas I think loni and Jeannie would be okay with it. They're progressive

[@AkonFenty1992]

Stop trolling H Douglas, cus Tamera and Adrienne have never said anything condemning LGBT ppl...Christians don't believe homosexuality is sinful, we believe the act is a sin not the person and homosexuality is an attraction, the act such as rape and prostitution is a sin not a consenting homosexual relationship...learn something b4 you speak and know about those women.

[@thisworldcrazy4799]

that's what's up, praise God!

[@Ayesha_Michelle]

I love La'Porsha and appreciate her for sharing her experience but it really sucks when people associate being homosexual with negative experiences such as rape and toxic heterosexual relationships. Although she didn't say exactly that, it still left the undertone that due to her personal negative experiences she turned to homosexuality almost like using a drug which is obviously a choice.

[@keishaizawesome2836]

People take things the wrong way, she was speaking for herself on this and I loved how she handled it.

[@JairemieAlexander]

homosexual and heterosexual are just divisive words. Her fluidity is her Human experience. She is so strong to love a Man

[@janis5374]

from what she said, I would say she WASNT homosexual in the usual way we understand it, she just didnt want to be with men...now she does

[@victorvien]

the fact she on for her controversy instead of music says a lot.

[@macmizzo9028]

**DISCLAIMER** I'm speaking in general, not so much as to her own experiences. I'm asking an honest question. Sometimes, It seems as if a woman has a (given right) and can make this particular decision without backlash. But if a man decides hes done with homosexuality, and wants to pursue a woman, he can't. Its like a doubled edge sword. Can someone give me some insight, or another perspective on it. It would be greatly appreciated. Ps. I'm NOT BASHING WOMEN IN ANY KIND OF WAY!! I wanna make that clear. I'm just asking to get some understanding on this particular topic.

[@KamalMorales]

"Sets the record straight"?!?? Hahahaha the REAL IS MESSYYY!!!

[@kristieriley9500]

but at the end of the day it's a choice

[@AkonFenty1992]

When did sexuality become a choice? if that's the case then everybody in this world is bisexual, if you can choose who you're attracted to.

[@e.wilson9613]

Sometimes people take things to personal when someone is merely speaking about themselves and not their personal life story, as LaPorsha said. We should be able to value one another's opinion and experiences without picking apart every word spoken or written. None of these celebrities speak for you or personally know our story to make us feel truly understood. It's not their job, and the sooner we realize it the better..we should be focusing more on what message their music is putting out and how it is influencing the thoughts and mind process and whether it supports good or evil behavior in the world, and that we will be judged on. :)

[@adrianewilliams8711]

She spoke her truth another reason this chick rocks.

[@javiruiz780]

Can you imagine sitting in front of her in a movie theatre or a Broadway show!!!!!!!😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩🤔😩😩😩😩😩😩

[@phdphillips9442]

I can relate - sort of - Good for her! It is a CHOICE.....Most homosexuals & Promiscous Heterosexuals have made choices based on previous sexual and/or emotional Abuse. (Not all people) Whichever way you blow it is a Choice - free will & I am thankful to God she chose not to let her past demons run her life. We have the freedom to speak our minds won't change my focus on this positive one.& my choice to be & remain Hetero!

[@KayBr33zy44]

You know, had this been a man, the dislike and like count would be reversed. Society made it acceptable for women to say "I dated women but I prefer men" or "I hate men I wanna try women" WHICH IS OKAY. There is nothing wrong with experimenting, but saying that you CHOSE to be straight after being gay is beyond the most ignorant thing I've ever heard. Poor choice of words. Had she said "experimenting" this video would sit well with me and unfortunately, it does not. There's no excuse behind it and saying "This is MY experience" is a terrible excuse. You can't experience being gay and then convert to being straight, the proper term is bisexual or experimenting. This doesn't make sense. Had a man been in that chair and said that he experienced with a man but he prefers woman, the comments section would be full of "he ain't straight he gay there is no such thing" ignorance at its finest.

[@prettyslim2010]

now we want to define gay. anytime someone deals with a same sex individual they can call themselves whatever they want gay, bisexual, bicurious, whatever who is anyone to tell someone what title they should or should not fall under. everyone wants to be accepted but those same folks can't accept/respect others, it's funny how that works.

[@Marvelhero24]

I think her clarification is off. I mean, why even say "I chose", wouldn't it just be better to say that she was going through a phase due to her personal life circumstances, where she had to THEN make a choice about which gender she was going to date/marry etc. Sexuality is still not a choice, even for her.

[@kerry5663]

abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=117465&page=1 there are so many studies out there of real gay respondents who "chose" to be straight". people have to accept that there is a large cohort of people in the world who were gay and who choose to be straight and stay straight and who were straight but become gay then switch back to straight. not all gay people believe it isnt a choice. i know quite a few homosexuals who do believe it is a choice & there is also a biological component involved that predisposes you to "feel" you are attracted to the same sex.

[@kerry5663]

Darryl Wright I know that. The point I was trying to make is that there are people in our society who use to be proud homosexuals or bisexuals and they are no longer that way. They maintain their new lifestyle and seem happy. They weren't brainwashed or forced. They chose to change. Ive read their stories and have watched their videos and I was taken aback once when I saw in the comments (not here) people of the lgbt community arguing with this person and people who were happy that they "switched". They said things like you weren't gay from the start, you're fake, you're lying. As is it is impossible to choose. It is possible, it happens and it is real and people need to accept it, respect people and their journey and live their own lives. I don't know everything, I would never say I have people who Ares homosexual figured out, but I try to listen and understand, and if someone spent a decade as one and after a lot of soul searching chose (and this certainly isn't an overnight thing of course) to be heterosexual then I can only accept that it is real. It is a choice for some and for others it doesn't seem to be.

[@kerry5663]

I have people who are homosexuals figured out*

[@1SweetQ]

Marvelhero24 you literally asked why would she say she chose then turned around and said it should be easier for her to say she made a choice...

[@chuckie102883]

this is not that uncommon, women in this society get the opportunity to find their sexuality and are NEVER judged for it or labeled like a man would be, so it actually makes sense she decided to go with men after being with women. Sexuality isn't as black and white as homophobic people make it out to be. There are a lot of variations of sexuality.

[@kd4230]

This is her personal experience people.

[@KMill-xb3uc]

I get the look she was going for.. I think more curls in it would have really pulled it off. Love the way they draw their bodies to listen to her. It looks like real women being empathetic.

[@JoeTolo]

Just a bunch of sensitive people on social media... No need to lose sleep over a stranger's opinions of our own.

[@liteflightify]

Anyone can have relationships with anyone. Anyone can have sex with anyone. Anyone can identify as what they wish. But being homosexual or heterosexual isn't a choice or behavior. Sexual orientation is the gender or genders you have inherent, instinctual and substantial sexual attraction to. Ego-dystonia, trauma, internalized homophobia, narcissism, megalomania based fetishes, mere curiosity- it all can have a great affect on people's sexual and romantic decisions. But your orientation is not a choice and can't be altered no matter who you date, have sex with or what you identify as. She may be inherently bi-sexual or she may be a hetero woman who was dealing with misandry. Either way, her supposed re-connection with heterosexuality is a lifestyle choice. But no one chooses their orientation. I say this as a gay men who had sex with women primarily until my mid-20's btw.

[@royalreed990]

her hair is dope af

[@styl_propr]

People gonna talk whether you do bad or good... so do YOU!

[@TITLEWA]

I think she's confused & has always been heterosexual, just suffering from PTSD. But also, idk, idk her. You can't choose your sexuality but you can choose who decide to be with. She is right though, she is only speaking for HERSELF. It just sucks because when people say things like this it makes it sound like being gay is a "problem" or something that can be "fixed" when really that's not the case at all. Just kind of puts a strain on the LGBTQ movement.

[@robguzman_]

It's disgusting when people blame molestation / rape on homosexuality.

[@yyb7027]

Keep it real hun keep it real ❤️

[@Keeng_Aman_Duh]

It's hard to find true love whether it's with a man or woman.... as long as you find love that's all that counts.

[@MsSoaringstar18]

Well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ericamcclerking2355]

I love her even more now! I never knew this! Beautiful woman. Do as you feel and love as you feel! I'm gay and this doesn't bother me at all! Be beautiful lady!

[@LegendaryVogueX]

Sexuality is not a choice. But, I do have to give her my outmost respect for have the courage to share her traumatic life experiences.

[@AkonFenty1992]

I think ppl who are LGBT were messed with when they were younger. Not blaming the victim, but for the most part some of them say they were messed with. The Bible tells us that homosexual sex is sinful. She did the right thing. You can repent of your sinful ways. Instead of having sex with women she chooses to be with men. That's what the Bible says. He made them male and female. Male and female are meant to procreate in marriage. Be fruitful and multiply, but in marriage.

[@calebhain8701]

So she’s bi leaning straight it doesn’t mean she chose her sexuality she needs to get it right

[@2728manolo]

I finally see why BLACK (straight) men says that homosexuality is very well except by BLACK ( whatever) women!!!! I hear it a lot!!!

[@jer1230]

So she chose to be lesbian, not hetero, then she realized that she chose to be lesbian out of fear/past abuse. So she shouldn't say she chose to be hetero

[@asarehenry5405]

She could have just tweeted that she is bisexual. U can't choose sexuality. She shouldn't have tweeted it if it was personal to her. Rape and molestation don't turn people gay. A lot of gay people are not being accepted because most people think it is a choice. What this tweet does is create more confusing and hate.

[@POORGEORGIE1]

I think the reason some are offended is because WOMEN have the luxury of trying on sexuality like a pair of shoes & changing their minds. Bi sexual or Bi curious WOMEN are more excepted by both straight men & women. Now if a man on the otherhand decides he wants to change back to being straight, you'd get all types of gossips & side-eyes,saying that he is in fact GAY!no ifs ands or buts. Straight men & women are ignorant & less tolerant for Bi sexual males. They all label them as just GAY. like it or not,there is a double-standard with gay men & women. & women are more free to change their minds according to society. STRAIGHT WOMEN go to FEMALE strip clubs,dance with other women & are allowed to have a freaky side.MEN are kept in 1 box & cant go see male strippers just for kicks ,like a woman can. DOUBLE-STANDARD

[@Existantia]

LOL She's just bi. She just chose a partner that is male. She also makes homosexuality seem like it's a result of trauma.

[@violetsni]

Right is right baby!!! Keep it up

[@reneelemos909]

i cant not handle her hair. it is to much!! can you imagine sitting behind all that hair in theater. girl no, i thought my hair was thick and curly.

[@chrissynova77]

She can only speak for her. We are all here to experience this dream state illusion, in avatars. many of these avatars do not live "normal" lives. Namaste. Know that this is a illusionary dream state we are all in. Neutrality is the highest vibration.

[@brianruiz8496]

Who ever has a problem with HER decisions can go kick rocks

[@alloftheabove8552]

I wonder how long it took her to dye all that hair😂😂 cuz lord knows whoever helped her was pissed tf off

[@kaynicole2146]

Everyone that's saying sexuality isn't a choice and whatever need to get out their freaking feelings! Like damn cant people have their own opinions without someone being butt hurt about it? At the end of the day everyone is raised differently and no everyone doesn't have to accept what you do to satisfy how you feel about yourself.

[@liteflightify]

Science continues to tell us sexual orientation is indeed not a choice. However, sexual behavior and identity is. That's something different however.

[@kaynicole2146]

That still will not stop others from having personal opinions on the matter. So people can either accept it for what they may or may not agree upon because others will not change to suit what he/she choose to do with their life

[@blackmantis001]

I think it's funny to have to set a record straight on being heterosexual. It should be the norm!

[@NellieKAdaba]

Yes, exactly.

[@Philandos]

So many things wrong here... Sexual orientation is not something you can choose. From what I can gather, La'Porsha was never bisexual, she made herself believe she'd be safer and happier being with a woman since she'd been taken advantage by men at a young age (hence she "chose" to be gay) until she grew out of this idea and realized she's not and "chose" to be straight. While I understand she was looking for her true self and found it, her choice of words here are just wrong because it seems to normalize the idea that you can chose your sexual orientation (which I can vouch is not the case), making the whole process of coming out trivial in the eyes of people who've never gone through the agony of trying to fit in a heteronormative world.

[@aminatadoumbia7023]

she is amazing and beautiful and honset and a great singer like If you agree

[@prettymya26]

She sounds just like Toya Wright when she talks. It always shocks me how similar they sound. The End!!!!

[@YouKnowImRight99]

I think that you should never blame your sexuality on abuse and rape. Period.💅🏼 But her experience is not mine. I will say that, being homosexual isn’t a choice. However, I do believe people some choose to be heterosexual in fear of what society may think of their sexual preference.🧐🤷🏻‍♂️

[@docman2840]

No you were attracted to women. I don't care if a woman has been raped 4 times if she does not desire women then she doesn't. I'm gay and I was never molested or raped by anyone. If these things were really a choice I would have chosen to be homosexual because that is all I have been bombarded with my entire life from TV to real life.

[@AkonFenty1992]

So basically she's bisexual, cus that's what bisexuality is...also rape, molestation doesn't make anyone gay or lesbian, that's just a fact, you cannot make it your fault, cus if that's the case if rape or molestation can so call give you your sexuality then what about straight ppl who were raped and molested and still straight? cus they're not making excuses or making it their fault...you cannot change your sexual orientation since it's physically impossible, but you can always deny them or suppress or repress them, so that others can be happy like you going back in the closet for ppl to be happy...when you say you "chose to be straight" you're saying "I don't want to be condemned anymore, so let me go back to playing make believe let go impersonate that straight life I was living" and when someone says you choose to be gay then you're saying that person was not straight to begin with that they were hiding who they are, cus society tells them it's wrong to be attracted to the same gender, so they pretend to live a straight life knowing they're not happy and want to make others happy, cus they think it's the right thing to do...this woman is bisexual and wants to be with men now and there's nothing wrong with that, but don't say you choose to be straight, cus that makes no logical sense unless she is saying she's going back to impersonating a straight life to make others happy.

[@selmaahmed5939]

nobody is born gay or straight , people choose their sexually. i believe our sexuality is mostly influenced by environment and behaviour. However, we can't argue the fact that man and woman makes sense in every level. These opposite sex were made for each for whole lot of purposes and they need each other. Being guy is not a need, it is a desire and it is selfish act towards god and society.

[@Mabeylater293]

In gay. And I support her. I think she would support me as well. Love is love. Love everybody.

[@lorindastphar6124]

So finding the same sex attractive still means your straight... I mean yes she choose to be with a woman but, you guys need to understand she has to find the same sex attractive in order to even feel comfortable being a lesbian an she did. But the thing is you guys are not listening to what she is saying she found a religion that fits for her and helped her change her mind...homosexuality can be both a choice and a birth right.. so people just decide that's what they want and from then on they continue with that life style and others well they feel like they were born that way so the stick with it I mean it's hard for them but for those who make the choice it's not. It's the same difference

[@beepboopjaz217]

I didnt choose the lesbian life, the lesbian life chose me. But i respect her choice.

[@ancientname]

She cleared that up. Next.

[@elanakirschner4354]

Her hair is everything.