Ex-Gang Member On Drug Dealing, Violence And Surviving Grooming

Ex-Gang Member On Drug Dealing, Violence And Surviving Grooming | Minutes With

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@ladbiblestories 2 ай бұрын

Thank you to Sosa Henkoma for taking part in this episode. Sosa draws on his lived experience as a public speaker and coach to raise awareness of grooming and child criminal exploitation. He advocates for the unheard through his work as a mentor with young people You can follow him on Instagram here: instagram.com/sosa_est/?hl=en And find out more on his linktree: linktr.ee/sosa_est

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@AngBQueenAdwoasCloset 2 ай бұрын

The father never came to look for him or fight in court for him? So the wife was arrested for abuse finally and he's put in the system. ... He was failed by SO many adults

@natalietylerrobinson 2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@daniella8400 2 ай бұрын

A lot of fathers are the downfall of their children

@AkinolaWilliams 2 ай бұрын

What about the mother that abandoned him?

@Mkhl4Sure 2 ай бұрын

@@AkinolaWilliams Don't mind them, they will blame everything on the men

@Unknown-oz8ic 2 ай бұрын

@@Mkhl4Sure FR

@danielanderson7408 2 ай бұрын

I was a former cell mate of this man, I’m so happy and proud to see how far you’ve come. Always knew you was bigger than your struggle now everyone will see what I’ve always known. God bless you sosa🙏🏽💙.

@PSiLOCYBiN211 8 күн бұрын

🧢

@Dontloo0kplz 2 ай бұрын

signing up to be a foster parent KNOWING your family is gang affiliated is nasty

@XenaBubs Ай бұрын

They are recruiting. Probably specify they want boys too 😡

@juliapennington3361 2 ай бұрын

Oh Sos! You make me endlessly proud! Bawling watching that. I feel privileged to be the lady you trusted. That was captivating, eloquent, trauma informed, vulnerable, educational and inspiring. How far we have come and we have only just begun. Thank you for trusting me, thank you for believing your life could be different. Thank you for fighting every day to make that change, and most of all, thank you for you. I feel blessed to have you in my life. Love you endlessly. Well done kidda 💪🏼💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

@ruigerd Ай бұрын

Were you his sollicitor or psychologist? Anyway, great job for helping him get out of this, he didn't have a chance once he got picked up by the gangs so thanks for giving him that chance!

@geoffygeoff9391 2 ай бұрын

This man needs a full length interview. What a story!

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

100%!!🙌

@Helloitsme-e1w 2 ай бұрын

Type his name in KZbin . 2 just came up when I did . One for 25mins , one for 50 min

@mosei3070 2 ай бұрын

right he can talk very clear even with grills on 😂

@Andre-hp4od Ай бұрын

@@mosei3070faxxxxx 😭😂😂

@de_xvii 2 ай бұрын

Bro sounds extremely intelligent it’s a shame he went through everything he’s gone through

@tomhutch2783 Ай бұрын

He sounds thick as shit

@saralynn518 2 ай бұрын

Thank you, Sosa. No child deserves any of what you went through. I am glad you made it through the gang life alive. I hope your future includes wonderful people and places. Your volunteer work will pay itself back tenfold. Thank you for helping children that have no voice, no safe adult, no safe place to lay their head at night. I know what you touched on was just the tip of the iceberg as to the horrible things done to your body and mind. You're incredibly strong, and I'm touched that you teach children not to give up, to let the weight of the sorrow and pain pull them into a hole they can't get out of.

@milimochooye4996 2 ай бұрын

This is how ,most gangs start .'NOT POVERTY ". It's an escape from "MISERY OR TO FIND A SENSE OF BELONGING"

@JTizz-o3z 2 ай бұрын

Hell no 🤣🤣

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

Poverty is a factor, you can’t watch one video and decide that this is the only way to be groomed into a gang; it’s not one or the other. Many factors together make someone vulnerable usually, and all cases are different.

@nat.s9606 2 ай бұрын

Did you not hear the part where he said ‘it’s like a magic trick’ making money by his actions as lead by his peers 🙄🤔

@DufusSmith 2 күн бұрын

Poverty has huge affect on gangs notice the richer parts don't have them??? Well duhhhh. Common sense buddy. Nobody really wants to be G they'd rather be posh and comfy. But you'll believe what ever you like.

@Theoreticallyyou1234 9 сағат бұрын

Poverty is a huge factor. Are you mad? How many middle class family kids are groomed into this? Close to none.

@thomaslangley1571 2 ай бұрын

Sosa Henkoma I'm so relieved you have found peace and purpose in life. Look after yourself and stay positive. Legend.

@wooforever4347 2 ай бұрын

I was in jail with this guy when we was 15, he really has come a long way! People think the road life is easy but truth is when you’re forced into it from young it’s hard to find a way out.

@ashley4372 2 ай бұрын

I hope you're life is way better now too.

@wooforever4347 2 ай бұрын

I definitely rehabilitated with the right help, 16 started working for the youth offending service, 19 done a cooking apprenticeship then 21 went to do business at uni & 27 now I co-own a catering business. A lot of my friends never rated me when I stopped trapping and got a 9 to 5 but now a lot of them are looking for a job or want my help to leave that life. It’s funny how life changes. I wish the best for everyone from a deprived background and hope you learn from our mistakes. It’s just not worth it!

@Jay-Kay-Buwembo 2 ай бұрын

The grooming is terrible! Makes me feel sick 🤮 🤢.

@harmoneyreilly4225 Ай бұрын

And yes I agree some people are forced in to it but a lot are not a lot of young people want stuff now and are not prepared to work hard to get that stuff

@Rask0broo 2 ай бұрын

What a raw story brudda, I feel u bro it’s exactly how it be. I started at 15 got out 23.

@djspark191 2 ай бұрын

Fair play for getting out. Be well brother.

@dddd-ki7fg 2 ай бұрын

same here, started at 15 i’m now 23 and out from this shit

@xxii7605 2 ай бұрын

Started at 17 now I’m 20 bout to eat up my first sentence next week shit his different hearing a story from next man makes you feel like you aren’t alone

@dddd-ki7fg 2 ай бұрын

@@xxii7605 Just stop while you’re young, dude I promise you it’s not worth it. I’m 23, and last 3 years has been shit. Been clean and everything’s been good for a year now, only wish I did that sooner.

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

@@xxii7605 you aren’t alone! Just like you, or Sosa there’s more out there! And support. I hope you do get out, good luck!

@domonikoldham7387 2 ай бұрын

im proud of you , you made it out , you did it , thank you for sharing Sosa

@lamusica1592 2 ай бұрын

That bit where he didn't realise he was groomed, very common with trauma victims 😭 and now he's turned his life around, impressive 👏🙏❤️👏

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

You’re so right, it’s unbelievably common 😭 so sick of this narrative of ‘how could they not know’!!

@anitajosephine3924 2 ай бұрын

Hi Sosa, I am incredibly touched by your story. You should be proud of yourself for managing to get out of such difficult and traumatic circumstances. Thank you for also being open about your experiences with a psychologist and exploring trauma; this is a big issue in our community, especially with young people having to deal with unresolved issues. You’ve got a bright future ahead of you and your work will not go unnoticed! May God be with you and protect you

@tombhatt 2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry your role models, parental figures and society failed you at such a young age, you’ve put in the hard work to make yourself the man you want to be, no one will ever appreciate what you had to go through and the effort that took as much as you, no one can take that away from you, stay strong brother and keep up the good fight!

@ria2159 2 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you Sosa - this is extremely educational. My heart goes out to little Sosa. What an evil step mother you had. Your father doesn't sound like he was very present because he was always working. Hearing how you were shot at at such a young age is shocking - it obviously happens more frequently than what mainstream media reports. Sosa, if you're reading this, well done for turning your life around. I'm sure some days aren't easy as trauma doesn't just disappear. I can absolutely relate to you when you talked about trauma and not relating it to yourself. When you're child, you know no better because you're just surviving in a dissociative state which feels pretty normal. Thanks for sharing a snippet of your story - would love to know more. Best of luck in everything you do ❤

@thejonesfamily9995 2 ай бұрын

Im so glad he spoke about the trauma young teens go through because it is overlooked!

@OneCeline_ 2 ай бұрын

Fostering children while being associated with a gang member is insane. He was failed by so many. His story could’ve been so different

@madp6755 2 күн бұрын

Many foster parents are greedy for money and don't actually care about the children

@krypttt 2 ай бұрын

he should write a book, very intelligent and well spoken guy.

@av1official277 2 ай бұрын

This hot so close to home, I moved to Uk, got neglected by my parents went thru similar shit and just barely made it out. Bless you bro, we feel you

@lsrfmszn 2 ай бұрын

i’m so happy he’s safe and healing from this, bless him

@noirlily3413 2 ай бұрын

A witch foor a stepmother... And she wonders why she wasn't Blessed with her own whilst abusing someone else's!

@1LORENZOUTUBE 2 ай бұрын

His story sounds like a series or book, especially when the younger kids started fighting with the elders!

@RalphDewuMusic 2 ай бұрын

It will actually make a good story/series

@rootytootymailbox2043 2 ай бұрын

He seems like such a smart and sweet person. It must be horrifying to have no one listen to or help you when you’re a child. I hope he is thriving now, and is surrounded by love.

@Mermare 2 ай бұрын

Great interview. He answers many questions that I think most of us wonder about. ❤❤❤

@Bthalight 2 ай бұрын

Sosa much appreciation for sharing your story! You are a beautiful, kind-hearted man and I hope all is and stays well with you❤ much love to you

@chrispinchingalawa3270 2 ай бұрын

Hie never had a childhood this is so sad

@AbigailBrown-wk7xl 2 ай бұрын

Sosa is incredible. Thank you for sharing your story. I admire Sosa's courage and strength. No child deserves to go through county lines .I am proud of how Sousa is trying to help and support children who might get groomed . I wish Sousa health and happiness. I wish Sousa all the best for the future ❤

@Jdo-sx1nr 2 ай бұрын

Help me Abigail

@KELLAOfficial 2 ай бұрын

This is deep and insightful

@joelmathew9637 2 ай бұрын

That was powerful....🙏🏼 for u my brother! Never stop helping those younguns change their lives....

@itsantique 2 ай бұрын

Love this and this young man

@djdest96 2 ай бұрын

Let’s be real, your biggest enemies can be your parents, I realised this in my early 20’s. Hard to deal with

@londonslifecoach 2 ай бұрын

Sosa, it’s never easy reliving your past but you are a force to be reckoned with for change ! I’m so proud of you 🙏🏼💫❤️

@ellahayfield5698 2 ай бұрын

I wanna give him a cuddle 😭

@shellz444 2 ай бұрын

Was just thinking the same thing 🥺

@mrambitous562 2 ай бұрын

BBC

@durkdiggler4346 2 ай бұрын

This is a powerful video, I feel similar in some ways after getting out of online cyber crime after being groomed into it

@JayDee-rm4zz 2 ай бұрын

A lot of young kids on the streets have been failed by their parents and the system. Before you judge remember this story.

@joshrichards7417 2 ай бұрын

what a fantastic interview this guy is awesome ...!!!

@Sam-rb1id Ай бұрын

Its so sad to hear what this young man went through growing up. The saddest thing is this is not uncommon. Theres kids up and down the county going through this then get treated like animals because they don't know how to pull themself out of it. We need to do better by kids!

@ElliotHaganOfficial 2 ай бұрын

I'm glad he made it through and didn't allow anything to stop him going forward

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

Well done Sosa, great interview!!

@missmohamed6944 2 ай бұрын

Sorry this happened to you, your story matters ❤

@badmantv9881 2 ай бұрын

Man said singing Acapella😂😂

@diaryofapoet1927 2 ай бұрын

What a life this young man has lived😓 Even without knowing you personally, I'm so proud of your strength to still be smiling, to tell your story and thr strength and integrity it took to turn yiur life around❤ What a King 👑✊🏾

@joelmathew9637 2 ай бұрын

He's ALWAYS brilliant!!!!!

@sofialovinglife597 2 ай бұрын

this is a very sad story some parents or so called parents are so evil!

@SeanB84-ws9tg 2 ай бұрын

Wonderfully strong human being

@treynoldsman1981 2 ай бұрын

Poor bloke , feeling for him hope hes ok. Dont like to hear these scumbags do that to these young people

@PavelHernandez-x5x Ай бұрын

@TingTing-f1b 2 ай бұрын

Brilliant interview glad this young man has left his old life behind , he was failed in so many parts of his life . Wishing him all the best for the future 🙏

@alibahreldeenadam7378 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, nice to see you helping the community

@samrowland5208 13 сағат бұрын

This was a wild story. Full respect to him and the inspiring example he’s setting to those around him.

@lukeyppersona9763 2 ай бұрын

This is so sad, guy never had the love and care at home. Could have gone on to do good thing

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

He’s gone on to do a lot of good things now! But it should never of had to happen in the first place tho!

@elijahgreen3377 2 ай бұрын

We need a book from this man.

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

🙌🙌

@nbd6213 Күн бұрын

To be 10/11 years old living this kind of life is just absolutely horrible; a literal child 💔

@remo4248 2 ай бұрын

Lots of stuff goes on in the background that we don't hear about! Sometimes we need people like this to come forward as a voice for the unheard. You could probably help lots of youngstas out there that need somebody to talk to and have found themselves in these shit situations through no fault of their own.

@PRCOM 2 ай бұрын

Fair play Sosa, Turning ur life around and now helping others

@draconianoz6602 2 ай бұрын

This guy needs a movie

@emilychu6758 2 ай бұрын

This made my heart hurt - thinking about 3 sons, this is so scary! 😢

@ShootersShootPodcast 2 ай бұрын

The way he was telling the story was killing me 😂😂

@pfromlee 2 ай бұрын

Big up Aisosa 💪🏼

@MartialArtUK 2 ай бұрын

Heavy stuff. Drug gangs got my mates and me working for them in our early teens by giving us free heroin when we was only trying to buy hash. That's just one reason I think weed should be legal.

@eligreg99 2 ай бұрын

Weed isn’t bad. It doesn’t kill people as long as it isn’t laced.

@jaymichael6617 2 ай бұрын

If weed wasn’t illegal I wouldn’t: -know any illegal drug dealers -offered other hard drugs -access to jobs that involve crime for money I would be just some law abiding person who doesn’t drink but smokes after work (legal work)

@MartialArtUK 2 ай бұрын

@jaymichael6617 ❤️ yea man , if the Germans can get over being racist and legalise it why can't we ? If weed wasn't illegal I would have no record and I would have joined the army and had a normal home and family. But what is worse. The uk drug zar who keeps it illegal her husband has the biggest cannibis growing license in the uk and makes multi millions per year exporting weed around the world. I find that truly disgusting and sickening.

@philliph360 2 ай бұрын

They need to retitle this and put it out again, what a story!

@curtiskiid2540 2 ай бұрын

Well done. So proud of you 👍🏾

@jaimieefahy8030 2 ай бұрын

Such a well spoken guy he will go far in this life gods plan 🙌🏼

@obibuaku 2 ай бұрын

We really need to stop failing our children

@jephson2023 2 ай бұрын

What a story. Netflix could easily jump on this. Big respect Sosa 👏

@nbd6213 Күн бұрын

This is so heartbreaking ❤ my prayers are with this man for his healing and protection. If you’re reading these comments just know I love you ❤

@jamespeplow8701 2 ай бұрын

articulate dude. good luck to you. books and covers

@FFTsteel 2 ай бұрын

I believe everything he is saying because I personally know people who this has happened to. It's hard to get out. Big up to the breh for moving away from it.

@DB-83 13 күн бұрын

What a story, massive respect to this guy 🙏

@jordancoleman671 Ай бұрын

This cut me deep man 😢 🙏🏾

@petite-cherieboylan-knight6624 2 ай бұрын

This story is why peeps should not judge others, as a peep might look dodgy and live in substandard circumstances, but these things don't make them a second-class person, as one never knows what really is going on in a peeps life, one should think about putting themselves in the other peeps shoes before judging... I wish you good karma Sosa in the future as I think you deserve it... all the best!🙂

@mhampi6117 2 ай бұрын

An incredible story , how differently we can live in the same country, im so glad I wasn’t born into this cycle of abuse and neglect I am lucky . The interviewers in these episodes often do t ask crucial and important questions that need to be asked : when you were shot what did the hospital say ? Police etc , what did the hospital staff say when you have been admitted multiple times with stab wounds …. Maybe could you show us your scars ?

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

Why would you need to see somebody’s scars? If you want to look into more of his story, check out his linktree. Other than that, maybe consider that some things are too much to ask.

@MoreMagic77 Ай бұрын

this guy is incredible.. hope things are good for him now

@step4798 2 ай бұрын

I have heard this story before, many times, until parents are brought to account then boys/men girls/women as per this story may go through the passage and the experience that has happened here. Children need discipline and parents are the root of it. My Dad was missing in my life and it unfortunately took me until my 30s to realize how I should act as a human that is a positive to my family and friends and not a negative to society. I was 12 when I got into drugs, by 15 it was speed, E's and Opium and Hash, I came across so many bad scenarios and people during that time that I am lucky I made it to where I am now.

@NotAnotherKuromi 2 ай бұрын

Children need discipline but also love and attention. I agree bad/neglectful parents are the main cause for children to be swept up in crime and bad lifestyles. I am glad that despite your beginnings you have managed to not get dragged down and have the strength to do better.

@genretypebeats4612 5 күн бұрын

This is why i always lament that alot of people in gangs come from environments like this.... They think its the only way to go.

@dboinoize-2023 2 ай бұрын

wher in south was this guy from..?? sounds like peckham

@janevosper712 2 ай бұрын

Social Services surpassed themselves with incompetence with this guy. Hope he sued for compensation

@missabigail1366 2 ай бұрын

If you are well and able, never leave your child with the dad full time - even if he’s a great father to be honest. Men usually entrust their children with their new woman a lot, and you will have no say as to what kind of person that woman is. Kids need their mother, especially during the childhood stage.

@JenMS7 2 ай бұрын

Agreed!

@ChosenWun180 2 ай бұрын

It’s vice Versa. Women do the same also. Don’t act like it’s only men because I can give multiple articles of children being killed by their step father you’re a whole clown for that statement. It’s also funny u didn’t mention his mother leaving him alone when he was an infant. And let’s not bring up the stats of the amount of black men in jail who had a single mother. Please

@Jay-Kay-Buwembo 2 ай бұрын

Don't characterise all men! Stats show that single dad's have better outcomes with kids than single mums. A man who lazily leaves his child with a step mother is negligent.

@indigorose3078 2 ай бұрын

Nope this is not ok to say and misinformed. Please don’t marginalise like this

@milly8370 2 ай бұрын

I was in from age 13-21 there a way out for everyone lads

@jakelister5152 8 күн бұрын

Some of us take it for granted having the right parents or family

@jaydevile8795 Күн бұрын

Mans a boss! Happy he made a change, hope hes being left alone

@keichin9009 2 ай бұрын

He was failed so badly 😔

@ibaptiz 2 күн бұрын

that’s so saddd

@ruabadkitty 2 ай бұрын

Thank you

@muna8054 2 ай бұрын

This is so sad shem

@ttttiiimmy10bit 2 ай бұрын

guy is a star

@sktn1461 2 ай бұрын

singing acapella hahahaha

@sackeeniarobinson1594 2 ай бұрын

You would think he would be safer in UK 😮😮😮😮😮

@indigobluerainbowsun 2 ай бұрын

Gang warfare is rife in inner city UK, which particularly exploits immigrants and the working class

@EducatingBetterOutcomes 2 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, in the UK grooming / child criminal exploitation is very common, and so many people are unaware of it😭

@ElliotHaganOfficial 2 ай бұрын

Honestly I feel sorry for this guy........what kind of parents are they......yeah it is child abuse and it also makes your child suffer from things like PTSD and stuff like that!!!!!!