LADIES SHARE LESSONS THEY LEARNT THE HARD WAY IN THEIR 20s SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO SIS🙊

[@thebilliexojean]

I didn’t date in college at all, and I have no regrets. It helped me spot suspect behavior and stand up for myself when it was needed; with friends, work, men, the whole spectrum of my daily life, simply because I chose to de-center men. After college, I dated, then was routinely reminded of why I didn’t for so long 😅 I travel and live alone, my family and friendships are very strong, and I’m dating someone I genuinely enjoy at 39 years old. My birthday was June 19th 🥰 My creative pursuits and taking care of the people I choose in my life are my priorities. Any man who comes into my life must add value, or he’s not the man for me. I took another break from dating in 2020 for a few years before meeting the person I see now. No regrets again! I know myself and love myself more than I ever have. No matter your age, you can always choose differently and be open to possibilities. Also, I love your voice! Never apologize for your accent. It’s beautiful!

[@mskabue]

You're amazing ❤️, thankyou! I believe our voices tell our stories and our accents are part of our charm❤️👯

[@thepragmatist]

That's awesome! I love your attitude!

[@sydneydarden190]

Same here! Best decision ever 😊I feel like I'm so much fuller as a person now at 27 than most of my peers because I focused on myself early on ❤

[@thebilliexojean]

@@mskabue I couldn’t agree more! I love your channel, I enjoy the topics you cover and your perspective very much 🫶🏽💜💜💜

[@thebilliexojean]

@@thepragmatist Thank you so much! ☺️

[@taybee4653]

I am 28 but here is my advice for the early 20 somethings: -Do not have a baby unless you are married. ( Guard your womb at all cost! I have seen the ugly side of the baby mama/ baby daddy culture) -STD and STI’s are more common than you think. Use protection and get tested! Don’t sleep with people who aren’t getting tested regularly. - Don’t be afraid to do things alone (travel, restaurants, etc) - Friendships are important but make sure they are mutual. You shouldn’t be the only one putting in effort.

[@AriaPringle9053]

Sis, Iove this advice. I am older than you, 34, and I agree with everything you stated.

[@estheradao]

I know you give a good advice bc my mum always says to me to never have a baby outside of marriage.

[@livinmabestlife]

Preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@hazar2354]

The last one 💯

[@1minuteshortfilms]

I LOVE the first one!! Nothing but the truth

[@simpleton2090]

As a 36 year old woman who was a broken people pleaser, ladies who are younger…absorb these words of wisdom truly and deeply. Please don’t learn the hard way…I beg of you. With all me love, it ain’t worth being crapped on by ANYONE..FAMILY…FRIEND…PARTNER…NO ONE!. Remember that God Almighty dwells within you and God deserves the utmost respect, therefore you deserve the utmost respect. You set the precedent on how people trea5 you by the vibe and energy you carry. Never ever EVER LET THEM BURN YOU TWICE.

[@mskabue]

"Never let them burn you twice" I'm taking notes💯

[@yamomma8560]

as a 21 yo woman THANK YOU❤❤❤ iu love getting advice from women older than me cuz y’all know!!!! i hardly have life experience compared i feel as young ladies we need women’s to look up to if we have none in family

[@danielas3303]

💯

[@emam8759]

Thank you. I really needed to hear this ❤

[@girlinstyle4957]

What you said about God dwelling in me and how He deserves the utmost respect and therefore so do I, healed something inside of me. Thank you.

[@nuztyme675]

Have male friends that are non sexual. Be friends with men you are attracted to… but abstain from sex with them. Don’t be a people pleaser.. just cause he likes you doesn’t mean you are obligated to give him sex. Say hell to the no to situationships!!!

[@justicevibes1252]

Yesss, preach it!!! I love your comment because it's true. 💯

[@tj-s6328]

When you have male friends that are non sexual, oh the things that you will learn!

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

Very smart helps you learn a lot too

[@charmainec2870]

I'm gonna counter this point, because in my experience almost all of the males who have claimed / stated friendship with me, are not in fact your friend. Often, they are waiting in the sidelines for a chance with you romantically, sexually. Very few guys are actually able to JUST be your friend. I'd say to save yourself the consistent confusion and heartache, get solid male influence from those who've 100% got ur back, are trustworthy and have nothing to gain from being in communication with you. These have been my best male confidents and help.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

If they are not gay, they are sticking around cuz they think they can hit someday

[@perpetual_happiness]

I'm 23, virgin, never dated, never did drugs (including alcohol, nicotine etc), traveled alone to many places, read around 30 non fiction books a year, have a few good friends, invest in my hobbies, do shadow work, learning to meditate etc, tapered off of antidepressants, now living fully and healthily, walk 20k steps around 3 times a week, loving life, got my own deposits of around 20 grand and counting. All is left to do is to live by myself, I'm moving in a few days to a new city to get my Master's. Life is great, I'm glad I was doing a lot of things right and not missing out on anything.

[@Violet-fg9db]

If on top on that if you are Lord Jesus servant, then honey you're a cherry on top. I was virgin until my 23. Then in my most chaotic depression in the end of 2019, i lose it due to bad decisions (due to the depression. Don't even nkow what i was doing). I regret it still today. So i'm happy for you 😊. The Lord Jesus is the one that saved me from that depression that lasted 3 years. I really though i would never get out of darkness but He gave me his light and i'm really grateful.

[@Slim.01x]

proud of u

[@alexaf7400]

Amazing accomplishments!! Keep going for you like you already have👏👏

[@frayansertzrave]

This! I got inspired at 24. Right now I've been also climbing up to my career path and continue to living the life without thinking anything to missing out. No regrets 💗✨️

[@henty1596]

22 here. You are doing amazing sweetie!! If you dont mind Id love to know the books you have read about shadow work! Thank youuu

[@lolagarcia4864]

27 years old here, definitely recommend LIVING ALONE 😫 I’ve built the most beautiful relationship with myself and got to know myself on such a deeper level. Yes there is some financial hardships but the feeling of having your own space to go home to after long days of dealing with people all day, priceless 👌🏼

[@mskabue]

Preach Sis 💯🗣️🗣️

[@tiffanykershpalmer2143]

I agree but economy is going in the shitter so let's just say try to live alone if you can at some point of your life but if thats not now or anytime soon completely understandable just don't forget your worth.

[@Grow_withanu]

Just turned 27 I'm moving out in 2 weeks, I'm about the face my parents on that.

[@mskabue]

@@Grow_withanu do it more as informing them rather than seeking permission

[@Grow_withanu]

@@mskabue same thing my brother said, think I'll pack my things before telling them.

[@CEDL4072]

As a 36 year old single mom. When you break off all contact, keep it 100%! Narcissists and toxic ppl DO NOT CARE about how much they hurt you! Just live your best life. If you're lucky years down the road, the ppl who hurt you will be sorry. They may even apologize! So keep being you and live happily!

[@ca6248]

Tell 'em!

[@justicevibes1252]

Sooo true. I agree with you. 💯🙌

[@Mirror_My_Ambition]

Listen to every woman here. CENTER YOURSELF! Do not center dudes or relationships. Do not give any male your energy by allowing him access to your womb. You will not end up single. You will thrive when you are focused on yourself.

[@1Skorpia]

Best advice i give. 1. Financial literacy. 2. Dont center men or make them a priority. Ever. Odds arent in your favor. They are not reliable. Even the most loving husband might not help that much. Women/mothers carry the brunt of the stress and workload INCLUDING babysitting him. Men take - women give. It is our NATURE to nurture and men take full advantage of that. They EXPECT IT.

[@tobibenjamin6097]

Your advice is coming from real hurt. Its SAD. Men are reliable, I was born and bought up by men, who will show up any time, any day for you. I was brought up by a mom who didn't lose herself like you described. outside of personal experience. Nothing you said is collectively true. Please don't settle for less

[@sandrasibandabeauty]

You are right, i recently discovered that

[@meghan3835]

W.O.R.D 💯

[@natamj2]

@@tobibenjamin6097agree!

[@moistgums690]

​@tobibenjamin6097 Your situation is more of an exception not the rule tho. This concept doesn't come from just unhealed pain. It's just being aware of life's unpredictability and your odds as a woman. A lot of people, as a whole not just men, aren't reliable and are takers. So you gotta play the life game keeping in mind that ppl can and often do leave women with all the responsibilities. Especially, when kids enter the picture. However, I agree, not settling for less and getting with someone who is mature enough to cherish you correctly is key. It's not impossible so stay vigilant ya'll ❤ Until then focus on financial freedom, your health, and being happy with yourself first. ⭐️

[@AwkwardLey]

Don’t sleep around📌 it will destroy you

[@wheresthetreasurechamber760]

🎯🎯🎯

[@drilonkennedy-gorne2049]

Not destroy per se, but it will definitely expose you to a lot of practice in figuring out what you do and don't like. Obviously don't be reckless and jump into bed with anyone and everyone when you first meet, like I do recommend a 3 date guideline to vibe check them (in addition to texting and hanging out in low pressure situations) but if you're attracted to a person and safely pursue that attraction, you're gonna learn a lot about yourself, about dating, people who may have lived a very different life than your own, and you'll start to recognize patterns, both beneficial and not, in yourself and in the partners you choose.

[@arigyenancy-pr7hx]

Thank you ❤

[@AwkwardLey]

@@drilonkennedy-gorne2049 yeah..no

[@drilonkennedy-gorne2049]

@@AwkwardLey I'm not saying you need to sleep around, I'm saying nobody performs without first rehearsing. Practice makes perfect, and discernment makes you less vulnerable to being played.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

perhaps unrelated, but Perfect relationships aren't real; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to work through them. It was a tough time, but we came out stronger.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

You should.

[@tracyc4944]

As a 31 year old women, I completely agree with the first women’s advice. She hit almost every single topic I had in mind. I dated the wrong type of men, got manipulated due to my fawning tendencies and lost myself at some point along the way. “My type” was just a trauma response from childhood. I just want to spread all my wisdom to the younger generation of girls.

[@dinaboop]

Don't worry too much about romantic relationships, build friendships, a career, and hobbies. No matter how hard a breakup is, you will get over it. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. Be yourself, don't be what you think other people want you to be. Get good at saving and investing money. Spend a chunk of time living alone if you can so you learn independence and self reliance. You don't need to go out every weekend, party like a rock star, or look like a model to be happy.

[@CharysseSepiaBlackman11]

I’m 55 & I’ve been celibate for 4 years. It’s wonderful. I might stay celibate for the rest of my life ☀️🌷🍃

[@kylag5830]

Im entering my mid twenties and the greatest thing I’ve done so far is learn to accept Gods love and to love and accept myself. He saw my potential and cultivated and molded me Into a beautiful person. I can now truly say I love the person I’ve become. Love from a man or others feel good but it’s fickle.

[@nina_ana333]

Love this!

[@PoIicy]

"STOP LOOKING FOR THINGS TO NEVER GO WRONG AND START LOOKING FOR WAYS TO HANDLE IT BETTER NEX TIME" wow... great advice

[@priyanshirawat3642]

I want to add on . Self love won't be easy. Whenever you will choose yourself there will face consequences. You will be made feel guilty or they will defame you . Whatever. Listen to affirmations. Because even if you know your worth their constant hate and negative words may affect your thought process . Listen to affirmations. Don't underestimate those people who are trying to put you down. Just because you know you are worthy of love doesn't mean they will love you . And I'm not talking about only men , I'm talking about everyone in your life. Be it colleagues or friends or family or relatives have boundaries with everyone.

[@neaevangelina1682]

All this advice is gold. And I hope girls in their 20’s can actually understand! Your brain and maturity level is so weak,! Not all 20 somethings but I remember me in my 20’s and all I can say is your home life experiences affect you. You take this shit, these mindsets with you. And it takes life experiences (the stumbling) for you to come to realize that you are brainwashed by your upbringing and then, you can start to make choices to become the person you want to be. It takes life experiences, challenges. THE ONE THING I CAN TELL YOUNG GIRLS ACTUALIZING THEMSELVES IS DONT OVER DO SEX, DONT GET PREGNANT (once you have a kid you’re stuck), SPEND TIME ALONE, ALONE, ALONE! This alone time is counterintuitive to people in their 20’s who think they’re missing out. But trust alone time is a gift best used to develop yourself!

[@mskabue]

That alone time brings self discovery and self Love ❤️ I wish people knew how much some men will pull you back and make you lose focus on your goals...being single/away from men who add no value is a blessing that I wish most women would realize instead of centering men.... ....your younger years are Gold...use them well....even if you have a kid don't remain stuck or make it your whole personality....there's always you....you're the one who matters most..take good care of yourself...I mean all aspects, physically, mentally, emotionally...protect your peace....go hard on your goals....don't let your fears limit you...you can do it....with the right mindset.....

[@dawgcatcha1907]

I agree with everything except young love. If the man has stepped up and is serious about her, it would be a shame for her to dump him bc the toxic sisterhood is making her doubt it. Some people under 23 marry successfully, while it is a bit rare, its very real. Some men are raised right and are family oriented from a young age. As long as the flags are green go with it. But yes to all this

[@danielle-bi3tk]

exactly

[@mayowaoyedokun9828]

I agree with the word "raised right'

[@shaunwilliams2416]

The First Lady spoke all facts. I did a celibacy fast for three months while in a relationship and during that time I focused on me. That was literally the best my relationship had been for years mainly because of how I was treating myself and prioritizing myself and we’re still together

[@msessenceofreality]

6:45 she said they run you dry. NO KIDDING. Then they diss women with the term "ran through". Whenever you leave a man behind you are now 'less valued' why? Because they are the real issue.

[@justicevibes1252]

I have been noticing that the negative things they say about women are the majority of the time their own projections. They use the terms "ran through." Because they themselves were lol. But they don't talk about that.

[@bluebutterfly5062]

We are "impure" once we "connect" with men because THEY infect us. They ARE the impurity. Stay safe ladies!

[@melindagore1223]

We women need to understand that the only power we have is letting go and walking away and that doesn't mean a short or even long break. It means refusing to accept any disrespect or abuse of any kind at all. Do not allow yourself to sleep with or develop feelings for any man that hasn't proven his emotional maturity and willingness to compromise and problem solve in a relationship. We deserve this and should not accept less and this is true no matter how old we are or what we look like, etc.

[@li.745]

I’m 31🌸💗💞make time for your passions🌷try to recognize those who treat you good and cherish them, don’t betray them (betrayal isn’t always cheating)❤️best revenge truly is success, forgive and glow up on them!🔥heartbreaks, obstacles, and setbacks now can transform you into a badass🖤The men who mistreat you now, always regret losing you. If his actions and words don’t match up, trust ur instincts!🌸don’t worry sis, players reap their karma worse than what they dished out

[@spiritualqueen3423]

You reap what you sow! ❤

[@li.745]

@@spiritualqueen3423 later on when you’re doing better than them they’re finally feeling sorry for themselves when it’s them being cheated on lol💗the best feelings is ghosting em when they feel like they can snake back into ur life again with “I miss u and I’ve changed”😂let them know they lost the only loyal woman who was once right in their grasp and feel the mental turmoil they put you thru

[@li.745]

@@spiritualqueen3423 ❤️

[@li.745]

@@spiritualqueen3423 ❤️

[@chloequinn2274]

Definitely live alone i did at 27 bought a home. Got married n divorced still living alone in my home

[@dinaboop]

yes!

[@ShayLamere]

Almost 27 year old here. Number 1 RULE (PLEASE ABEG YOUNGER LADIES LISTEN) DO NOT & I emphasize DO NOT take random jaded ladies’ advice to heart just because they are older. 6:29 is a perfect example. This lady does not know you personally or your situation yet is encouraging you to act. She sounds very jaded to me. Please use discernment when seeking older women to take advice from. Just because she has a voice, can articulate herself, & a phone does not make her qualified to give anyone life advice. PLEASE research these people because it can all become overwhelmingly confusing rhetoric from people who’s actual lives are in shambles behind their made up virtual lives.

[@hanaabechara4071]

for reeeeal

[@ShayLamere]

@@hanaabechara4071 There are absolutely too many voices & opinions to listen to on the internet. I fell victim to some influencers myself growing up & it stunts your self development taking on too many opinions of others!

[@PreciousdaughterofChrist]

sooo true

[@MamotteLollpop123]

Well said! 💕

[@tamekadavis6641]

I've abstain when I was in my 20's years ago for about 2 and a half years. I was at peace.❤

[@StoikiSoldatik]

I feel a little strange but encouraged when I see more and more women in the West starting to talk about celibacy. Unfortunately or fortunately, I find myself in this state all the time in my mid-20s. It is difficult to find my person with whom I will be comfortable enough and whom I can trust. Thanks for such support ❤

[@CBrown86]

I ran away at 15 and ended up trapped with the same kind of abuser as my stepfather over and over again. I wish I had told every.single.man. to EFF OFF

[@mskabue]

The abusive cycle starts from or is ignited by one's childhood glad you broke the cycle

[@PandaHead602]

In your 30s if ur making mistakes they will go with u into ur 40s ur 20s r for ur growth n I promise u will evolve

[@CBrown86]

That makes no sense. People in their 30’s arent magically trapped by mistakes

[@yudollia]

Im 23 im closer to 25 than I am to 20. I still live at home and none of my significant desires have come true. Its hard with no money.

[@stellabenjamin-tr1ic]

Giirrll...same. I be out here trying to romanticise my life but constantly realise I need money for that. I'm grateful I at least have a roof over my head though.

[@zizi5721]

Use youtube. This platform is filled to the brim with information. Use youtube to transform ur life and get these desires. everthing u want is here. Goodluck. Rooting for you!!!

[@Michmeow21]

Brooooo story of my life. I am desperate to move out of my town been here for too long, but m too broke to do that. I need an online job so bad

[@queenchioma.herself8862]

​@@zizi5721Did it work for you? Or has it so far?

[@Maya.0114]

I’m they same age as you and it’s the same for me

[@mystiquelareaux]

I wish I had this prep talk in my 20s

[@user-vz7pf6tm1q]

tell me about it 😂😂

[@ca6248]

Me too! Would have saved me a world of trouble!

[@Grapevinemammi]

Best compilation ever ❤❤it’s like having big sisters all over the world❤

[@mskabue]

Exactly 💯 I'm glad you enjoyed it thanks

[@RavenMarie2001]

I just want to say thank yall for the advice. I'm 23 years old as a young woman who is wise, but I can always learn something from others no matter what age !

[@dianablossom]

I'm 17 and I'm thankful for this video I'm taking notes

[@mskabue]

Please do apply some of these ...you're lucky you're hearing this so young ...some of us have learned through experience and it's really been hard on us...

[@joannaalexander1006]

I went no contact with my family back in December and it was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life and as a result it has made me depressed and caused me to have anxiety on a daily basis. What made me go no contact with them was when I was in army basic training they never called me, wrote me letters or even showed up to my graduation

[@mskabue]

You'll be just fine trust me😘

[@Yorubavegan]

Very proud of you! Very very brave ❤ hang in there and take your time healing. Explore therapy

[@lavellans]

Prioritize finding mental health support and therapy please!

[@samanthap.879]

I would love a video just like this but from women who had kids in their early 20s and went down the total opposite path. I settled down got married and had a kid at 23, so I think hearing the complete different experience would be really cool too!

[@ca6248]

Agreed!

[@thandieffect]

Yesss omg!

[@CBrown86]

Im a single mom too. HAPPILY single. I like it being just my kids and I.

[@gigiroxx17]

I just feel…inadequate, im 20 turning 21 soon and I have nothing going on. I have no friends, no job, no school, no hobby, no love life…I wish I could just be more social and confident but it’s so difficult. I can’t even leave the house by myself without having a panic attack. I feel like I’m wasting my life because I have no idea what I’m even doing anymore.

[@shalomemanie1583]

Hang in there ❤,breathe and live. Am 24 and many times I get caught up in thoughts on what to do in my life. But I like the lady who said" try the things you are passionate about and you will find a niche. " let's keep going ,being grateful and always remember how badass you are in whatever you do. Keep your head up.

[@mochacup1868]

Start by finding ONE thing you like doing, do it the most you can, do it often Then find ONE physical activity to do, walking, swimmimg, bicycle, running, yoga, dancing tutoriels ANYTHING, do it at least once a week Then focus on one skill that can be used in a job that you want to get better at. You said you find talking to people difficult, start by talking more to your family, talking more to people you see but find similar to you, small step by small step But finally the most important, make lists of things you like in life, about your life, about you, about where you live, what you eat, what you saw, all positive things you like put them in words and pass more time thinking about them, it's going to feel you gratefulness but also more optimism to life and the possibilities to come!

[@drilonkennedy-gorne2049]

The best piece of advice I can give you was given to me on my 20th birthday, following a break up and a move to a new city where I had an identity crisis: You are 1 year old in adult years. YOU are 1 year old in adult years. You're still learning about what the world has to offer. You're a baby, and babies are notorious for having and knowing nothing, but emerging adulthood is now defined as ages 18-35. You have nothing but time. Use it wisely, but know that you have it. ❤

[@The_sweediepie]

Hi, Start from somewhere. Bit by bit

[@amorgarlic6735]

Stop focusing on the outer world and start focusing in your inner world The fact u are self aware is the first step Look at your past and examine yourself. What made you happy before? What did you do that made you proud of yourself? What challenge did u manage to overcome (whether it be big or small)? Learn from your own lessons and just leverage them in the present moment. You have what it takes to live a life true to you. if you didn’t, you wouldn’t be here today. Also don’t compare yourself to others. You were born as you and not anyone else.

[@PandaHead602]

In your 30s if ur making mistakes they will go with u into ur 40s ur 20s r for ur growth n I promise u will evolve ❤❤ build ur credit asap by 18-21 and do not wreck ur credit showing off or giving or signing for a man

[@emmanuellaezeike4088]

Change is difficult, but attempt it. It would be worth it ❤👍🏽

[@mskabue]

It's difficult but very worth it

[@user-mq6tx2qq7v]

As a 29yr old I can say to ladies ESPECIALLY 18yr olds. That 30+ yr old does not love you, he never will you were just easy to manipulate. Also, please always have money stashed for yourself never help others with money. There are no such things as friends- just people who take advantage of you. This world is against you. Find your own peace.

[@westbdeon]

Im 28. No one puts more limitations on themselves than young adults who think their lives are sunsettting at 32😂. I have friends in their late 30's and early 40's and they're doing just fine minding their busines and dating whatever age group they want. Both older men and women are dating younger people because you only live once. So many women still acting like they're in their 20's when they are in their 40's and 50'sbecause they designed their lives around convenience and what they want. This is why I tell women don't shit on men who date younger women. Many older women themselves might want a young stud in their own paradise that they designed for themselves. A lot of the time older women want the attention from younger guys but they don't want to sing creepy or off putting.

[@anime2315]

Just my personal opinion... I'm currently 23 .... And i seriously don't understand this obsession with dating younger men or younger women in older people... I'm not hating on them but isn't it a😮 hypocrisy that older people don't want Someone of their own age group and expect younger people to date them .. for example- . I came from a country where white skin is worshipped, so even dark people want white ones and will themselves shame other dark people, and when they are not accepted by white people they will cry and say white people are bad as they are not accepting dark skin tone people but my question is to those brown people you yourself disgust other people who is dark and don't wanna accept them then how do you think whites should accept you ... Like hypocrites.... Also I'm from an Asian country and in my country many people are dark skinned or have Brown skin....

[@westbdeon]

@@anime2315 The point me and people like myself want to make is that It's not fair to write someone off as abusive or a red flag because they are the older one in the relationship. Also I want to make a point that it is 100% normal for young adults to interact with older people in their early to mid-thirties at places like universities and work. I'm shocked that people don't talk about how common it is actually. At my university, I stayed at a transfer student resident community that had plenty of students in their late twenties and early thirties living on or near campus. It was 100% common for a 18 or 19 year old student to cross paths with someone older under appropriate life circumstances. Young adults are not babies.

[@callmetimmy7862]

just by us watching this video instead of letting it sit on our watch later list is lowering the wall down to allowing us to meet our better self ❤ proud of us

[@kayyrachelle9]

I’m 27 . I’m a lil behind but at least better late than never 💓 I can hopefully instill this in my baby sister who is 9 when the time is right ! Lol thank you for video

[@mskabue]

You're welcome 😊 sis

[@SaskiaTheBoss]

the living alone/living away from family experience during your 20s is so vital! it made me realize what i will not tolerate, establish boundaries, the healthy distance i aspire to keep, & personal growth!

[@BABYDOLL87LOVELY]

I HAVE BEEN CELIBATE #4YEARS SINCE GETTING OUT OF MY LAST RELATIONSHIP. TYPICALLY AM UNLESS I AM IN LOVE/IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP! IT'S REALLY WONDERFUL, HONESTLY. CHECKING OFF PERSONAL GOALS LEFT & RIGHT. SHOWERING MYSELF WITH LOVE & SPOILING MYSELF. FRIENDS AND RELATIVES ARE ALWAYS SAYING ;IDK HOW YOU DO IT. I LIVE WITH THA COMFORT TOO. NOT WORIED ABOUT A CHEATING MALE BRINGING SOMETHING INTO MY TEMPLE. OR ANYONE HARMING ME! IT'S A BEAUTIFUL TYPE OF PEACE!

[@danielle-bi3tk]

i am 17 and literally have been applying all of this in my life except for the people pleasing part and cuting off non valuable friendships but i am glad i became aware of my tendencies sooner and i am working on them

[@finessethacreator]

29 y/o currently Every woman in this video is speaking facts 😂.

[@brighterwithnzu392]

I'm 25, oh actually 26 this year, what I've seen is that 1. Saving is important. The answer to the things that the ladies say we shouldn't do is to have money saved or start saving as in yesterday. You won't have to stay at a bad job or at home. 2. I'm staying at home rn, learning to put yourself first has kicked me lol, I'm so bad at it and am trying to make it better now. I've realized that I'm spending my time helping other people lol family who have nothing to do with me reach their goals( I did this willingly) 3. Oh and I have not believed in myself at all... I honestly realized this at my job and was surprised myself and yes I was celibate at the time. Lots of self discovery at the time, I would do it again ❤ The above is negative but there's a quote I heard from Jack Ma saying the best way to learn is by observing or learning from other people's mistakes❤

[@Sheisme120]

I’m very glad I stayed single my whole life until I was 26. I know I dodged countless bullets! I was taught to beware of men significantly older than myself, men who’ve ever lied to me about literally anything, who are rude to other people, who are poor, who don’t pay for dates, who never give me anything, who check out other women in front of me, or who move way too fast, ect. I listened, & I avoided ruining my life more times than I can count!

[@Gabita-ec8pe]

I always feel so sad with information like this, I had a huge mental breakdown through all my early 20's, up until 24 where I started getting somewhat better, I'm only 25 now, but I felt like I didn't got to live my 20's, I wish I could do that now but Im trying to piece back together my life ❤

[@OrganicAlumination]

Exaaaaaaactlyyyyyyy omg @5:35 Lol I know what they are talking about because I had like a 20s midlife crisis about expectation and what I knew to be true about 1 1/2 -2 years ago about intentions and hard work based of societal standards

[@Kabeyavictoria]

This is our job to now teach the younger sisters❤

[@emmanuellaezeike4088]

The wall theory🔥👏🏽

[@msessenceofreality]

6:15 She fly ❤

[@Sheisme120]

13:29 Sooo true, if a female friend’s super obsessed with you right away after just having met you, that’s a red flag! If they turn on you & then try to act later like nothing happened, run fast! They are likely setting you up to hurt you again!

[@HelloBeautifullife-wg9bh]

thank you to all those women for those precious advices

[@HowToWife]

I have so much to say on this and they are on my channel. Self reflection is key and importatnt. To get there ---BE CELIBATE Sis! and watch your world change.

[@Lauren_G.]

Believe in Jesus Christ as your Lord & Saviour! He’s the only one who can make you whole again, heal a broken heart, heal a wounded mind & soul & transform you. Worldly wisdom will feed your mind but what & who feeds your soul? What is your hope? I’ve made so many mistakes in my 20s & had so many regrets… but Jesus… Jesus changed my life! He turned everything around for me, He’s given me renewed hope for a better future!

[@vlllalnous]

17, turning 18 next year! I got along way to go but i always love hearing advice from older more experienced women, i soak it up like a sponge

[@mskabue]

Wonderful!

[@dearinlove]

cutting toxic family off. hits me hard

[@the.masked.one.studio4899]

My favorite of your videos so far 💖 I just turned 40 and I’m still learning every day :)

[@mskabue]

I'm so glad you enjoyed it thankyou

[@SaskiaTheBoss]

people in their 20s should stop ppl pleasing, put themself first, travel if possible or sight-see locally, move away from family, find hobbies that solely make you happy no matter who don’t like it, heal traumas, & only take up spaces/work where they value you.

[@SaskiaTheBoss]

sometimes, the only way to keep the peace with family, is to live as far away as possible from each other, living our own individual lives. i am constantly being reminded why moving out was truly the best decision.

[@Morozova48]

So many smart ladies I wish I had friends like them Mine are very men centering. It's the most important thing to them 😂

[@livinmabestlife]

Love the friendship lessons. So on point

[@user-wl3lv8lx2u]

She spoke all facts

[@Se-lah]

My advice as a 26 year old is, start reading the Bible. Fall in love with your Creator and He’ll show you what love is, He’ll show you what to do and He WILL take care of you. Don’t put yourself under any pressure especially if it’s financial.

[@dearbrave4183]

Well, I'm glad I was not wrong to decide to never do things the popular way. It's good other women are choosing to not give easy segsual access

[@joyekanem9910]

Thank you for this , im learning to heal and forgive myself and make better decisions

[@cxrsei]

16:52 love this lady❤

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Don’t ignore or negotiate with your talents. Pursue them strategically and with a sense of time sensitivity until you sense that you’ve addressed your curiosity towards the talents you possess.

[@edithdarko5470]

I'm 21. I'm so happy to come across this video. I'm in a relationship where my partner keeps insisting we keep having sex. I miss the days I was celibate

[@mskabue]

Some men harvest your energy and swap your destiny through sex and keep you stuck...wake up Sis.....before it's too late It may be deeper than you think....sometimes it's not just sex...I'm glad you already see that this ain't normal at all

[@edithdarko5470]

@@mskabue Thank you

[@mskabue]

@@edithdarko5470 you're too young and precious....I wanna see my young sisters okay for real😘😘

[@Farrigodschild]

You got a new little sister today😂🫶🏾

[@thandieffect]

I needed to hear all of it today. Thank you

[@DavinaSechi]

this feels like a big sister talk🥹

[@yujibestboi]

This video is great, I dont have anyone to guide me, i've often turned to ytube for advice, thanks a lot for this. I hope your days are filled with joy

[@edwardlovrr]

6:30 actually this advice is so toxic. Cutting off people with no explanation and ghosting them is immature. If you have given them several chances that’s fine however speak on those issues. This advice is very isolating.

[@copperredd]

Women have died trying to get closure from toxic relationships... U don't always get closure anyway in many things in life

[@edwardlovrr]

@@copperredd if it’s a toxic relationship yes ghost but if it’s something minor communicate.

[@lthompson601]

​@edwardlovrr I agree. It shouldn't be about male bashing but learning.

[@copperredd]

@@edwardlovrr u can do that over the phone ...

[@edwardlovrr]

@@copperredd keep derailing that’s still communication.

[@reneaustin5910]

Welcome to the real world most people cant afford their own place nowadays

[@AwkwardLey]

6:41 No! Ladies do not listen to that initial advice. It’s coming from a place of bitterness. Do not listen to that nonsense

[@sitsofe8682]

Right !! 😂

[@Bree_just4m3]

I’m kimeru and immediately knew what you we’re trying to say when you mixed up your r and l😂. I appreciate you putting together this video, it’s a very much needed wake up call to my self to take advantage of my youth. Asante sana and penye nia ipo njia 💛.

[@rosiecheeks.k]

Hahaha I am Kenyan but have never been nor can i speak the language 😭... But my mum always told us about the tribes that have no R but L's!.... My mums friend is a Meru and she does that! My parents are Kamba so doesn't have an issue with the R's and L's Love the vids sis 🌟💖😁

[@faithochem2202]

I really learnt a lot from this. Thanks so much for this video❤

[@mskabue]

I'm so glad you found this educative...❤️

[@DJRenee]

0:30 VERY TRUE

[@DJRenee]

8:38 good advice

[@user-cl5vk2ug4i]

No sex before marriage! Great idea

[@SudeshnaMajumdar-qs6ht]

I am 22 thank you to all the sis for these advices it's time for sisterwood ❤❤

[@mskabue]

You got this!

[@spiritualqueen3423]

I made mistakes already in my early twenties thinking I knew everything, but I didn’t. I got pregnant early, and moved in with a man and the worst choices I’ve made.

[@Th3songof]

Sis saaaammmeeee. Its only Jesus who dragged me back to sanity. I'm now celibate and taking care of my lovely baby boys. I've gone 100 percent no contact and honestly it's the best feeling in the world. Being able to finally forgive (although I'd be lying if I said I didn't wish lightning could strike him😅)

[@nahjacutler]

We older women can't tell younger women a thing. They already know everything. They've got it figured out. It's their life.

[@Rosemary46840]

Someone sounds jealous to me

[@nahjacutler]

@@Rosemary46840 firstly, as a 38 year old woman, I don't dabble in much younger women's life unless she's my daughter or neice. Nothing you do in your life effects mine so Iam far from jealous. Just because someone chooses to not deal with certain people on that level dont make them jealous. Stop trying to be manipulative and gaslight by accusing someone of being jealous...you sound dense and immature....😂😂😂

[@urbanrealism237]

Id have to disagree, I think I have a lot to learn.

[@bodhisattva2348]

I'm 23 & I agree. They gon because they always feel like older are jealous, now these tradwives are divorcing their husbands.

[@nahjacutler]

@urbanrealism237 Good and you will be alright.

[@QuantumPrincess27]

Most of this advice is very valid, but some of these ladies are coming from a place of pain😢 Some of them sound so hurt! They have been used and hurt by men and the people around them and are now assuming every lady in their 20s is bound to go through the same. Don't break up with your man! If he's the one-make things work. It's okay if you already have kids! 20s aren't a time to be selfish and focus on you and nothing but you! And it's not advisable to drop/discard everyone at the first sight of a "red flag". You yourself aren't perfect and have your own "red flags", do you expect the people around d you to just cut you off too? And friends and romantic partners are NOT distractions.

[@okufuyemary1505]

Im 24, but its like the big age scares me.."25" lol. Just finished my first degree and hey, I've done everything possible to not get to ask myself "what's next" but guess who's asking????. Got into a new relationship too and on the edge of loosing what ive kept for so long to myself and i dont know if it worth it or it's time. Also started learning copywriting and building a brand online , cos something has to be working, right??. But all the same, i still feel like i need a big break and maybe a miracle!

[@ShayLamere]

Loved the first girl’s points! I lived alone for a couple of years & loved it initially because I could be naked all the time too. Overall, it got lonely to me personally. I prefer living with someone.

[@lorainecollins]

I really needed to see this video it’s so inspiring 😮‍💨

[@DJRenee]

8:59 Looking like Jill Scott❤

[@YourTerrible340]

I enjoy your commentary 😂❤❤❤❤

[@mskabue]

Thank you 😊😊

[@n33mac]

Glad I found your channel. Thank you for sharing my fellow Kikuyu babe ❤

[@mskabue]

Aah welcome aboard 😘 hope you're subscribed..na ulijuaje mi ni mundu wa Nyumba??😂

[@Withthia]

clearler😂😂heyy girll dont worry🤗

[@mskabue]

😂😂😂

[@amarachukwujoyamobi7030]

Don't heal yourself, explore the world, and be happy because you're preparing for “the man”. That's an insult to your healed self. Decenter men completely and just be. You’re the important person in the grand scheme of things. Heal, explore, enjoy, be happy to prepare yourself for more enjoyment and happiness.

[@melissajohnson1082]

The girl at 7:00 was spitting facts 😂

[@mfululizowak9899]

20:35 same sis! Same!!!! 💯💯💯💯

[@soapsuds4472]

Not all advice applies to evweyone. Take everything with a grain of salt.